r/AmITheA**Hole - WAS I WRONG FOR HUMILIATING MY DAUGHTER?

[@Sanjigirl0]

The one about cbd: if the dude knew where he could get his own why TF didn't he?! That's her medicine and the guy just wanted to use it for his own selfishness he should have just gotten his own!

[@beckygould7509]

If it’s over £200 a bottle (a very small bottle) and it works that well it is obviously high quality, very highly concentrated. I could maybe understand the first time because he had a migraine and she might not have been there to ask. But he didn’t know how much to take, he took 4-5 drops when the base dose is one. Even if he didn’t know the price it doesn’t excuse him! First he should have told her what he did, and ask if he could use it if he really needs to! Not only did he use too much and didn’t consult her ! He took 4-5 drops a day every day until it was almost gone. When she was having an unusually bad and went to get her medicine expecting an almost full bottle and instead an almost empty one! He used almost the whole bottle himself and gets mad because she wants him to pay her back for 1/2? She needs it for chronic pain, and except for the first time he took it to chill! He risked her not having her medicine when she needs it and he can’t understand why she’s pissed ! Dude seriously needs to grow up, and she shouldn’t go back to him until when or if he does !!

[@beckygould7509]

Osito Kintsugi also it’s the principle of the thing. I was taught that you don’t take other peoples things without asking. He used up something she needed without asking, then he got mad when he was asked to pay HALF THE PRICE of replacing it! He should have to buy her a new one ! He’s the AH here !!

[@beckygould7509]

Osito Kintsugi I have fibromyalgia and an over 50. I sympathize with you, I understand pain ! I also used to get migraines and sinus headaches all the time! I do sometimes still get them but not like before!

[@brieallen603]

Yeah this read to me the same as my girlfriend has really bad ADHD and needs Adderall to be able to function in her daily life, but I wanna party so let's pop a couple of pills!

[@erinmiller1433]

“I didn’t feel like I was humiliating her” If someone tells you that you made them feel a certain way, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.

[@liwiathan]

But that's not what a humiliating is

[@Theredtail95]

“I never hurt you” said the axe to the lumber pile that was once a tree.

[@Fakenghey]

I don't get why that guy who let their coworker go to their dying grandfather instead of being at their wife's birth got so slammed as YTA?? I agree he was being selfless. and what if he wrote the story the other way around: "AITA for leaving to be with my wife instead of letting a mate see their dying grandfather?" might get slammed as YTA for that too. kinda sounds like damned if you do damned if you don't no matter what he done lol.

[@beckygould7509]

Plus, why does it always have to be scrabble. Nothing wrong with it but some people find it boring and they play the same game every week. Maybe she would more receptive if they played other games !

[@beckygould7509]

Whoops was responding to another post( about the family game night) didn’t mean to put it here, sorry ! Also I agree if you wanted a husband that would be available for all important life events you marry a fire fighter! What if neither colleague could go and they both had to work ? I’m old enough to remember when husbands weren’t allowed in the delivery room. It was hospital staff only, or in a home birth doctor/midwife . The only man in the room was the doctor! Yes it’s natural to be afraid and need moral support, but I would be humiliated to have my man in the room. He would be watching me sweating, straining screaming, bleeding etc I wouldn’t want him to see me that way !

[@Scarlett.Granger]

Sorry but "My wife had a stillbirth last time, is in one of the most challenging and dangerous situations of her life. AITA for leaving to be with her instead of (coworker)" No. That's completely different. Pregnancies are challenging and dangerous, and having had past miscarriages and even stillbirth isn't only mentally challenging, it also exponentially increases risk in every new pregnancy. Yes it's shit that the coworker can't see his grandfather. The biggest AH is the boss/whoever forbade that both leave. But OPs wife could well have died together with that child. That is a super challenging and dangerous situation. And it sucks for the co-worker, and of course would never say that in other context, but the coworker had a whole life to spend with his grandfather. Also the weight that OP OFFERED to the co-worker that he would stay. Thats absolutely abandoning his wife. He could also have come back to both wife and child dead. Or just the child dead - again. Or the child dead and the wife killed herself in the hospital cause she couldn't take it. Not really a rare thing to happen, especially with her history, postpartum is horrible. Or the wife died and the child lays in the hospital for hours with nobody there. Maybe even needing medical attention (also not uncommon for children where there were issues in past pregnancies) but nobody is there that can make medical choices for the child. Definitely not the situation to abandon the wife.

[@Theredtail95]

That was a Lose Lose situation. Like in Oregon trail, and bandits are demanding your food, water, or horses.

[@lauriemeyer7030]

Absolutely. The captain was the AH. He only let one person leave. NAH. It was a split. He didn't choose the mate. I am glad he apologized to her. Talk about a rock and a hard place.

[@franl155]

OP; I forced my daughter to play Scrabble when she clearly didn't want to, and humiliated her in front of her boyfriend as well. Also OP: Why isn't my daughter enjoying the family Scrabble game that she didn't want to play in the first place?

[@crunchberrychaos1545]

Words played: C.U.N.T, D.I.E., K.I.L.L., H.A.T.E. all while staring each family member down as the final letter is placed

[@kazakhstanisastate4614]

Because scrabble is a bad game

[@Theredtail95]

So many parents come on here, “my teen is moody and not wanting to spend time with me. I tried every punishment I can think of, and they STILL have a bad attitude. What am I to do?!”

[@madgevanness4011]

Why don’t you invite boyfriend to join?

[@gilles111]

About the story of the taken away clothes, I hope OP keeps those friends close. They don't judge over her appearance but want to be friends because of her attitude and personality. Those are friends to keep very close!

[@fcold9402]

Welcome to being a father of a 17 year old. They are supposed to gradually break the bonds when growing up. Don't be suprised if she gets a job (hopefully already has one) and might even move out when she turns 18.

[@flamelily2086]

I am impressed that OP has refused to take her clothes back. As a parent I would never have taken my daughters clothes as a punishment. I hate it when people put chocolate in the fridge. 0P better buy his wife another box of dark chocolate. I can see why OP took the chocolate his wife told them the chocolate was in the fridge and she has never eaten dark chocolate.

[@rollothecat2010]

Wive has double standards, one for her, another for her husband. She is petty. If she wanted one, she should have reserved one for herself. Husbands are not mind readers!

[@liwiathan]

You have to put the chocolate in the fridge or won the bugs get out of into it melts

[@frst78]

"Mandatory family game night" lmao no. Anything deemed mandatory for fun for a SEVENTEEN year old by her parents is not going to be fun. I'm 48 yrs old and know this.

[@apopuffkin1717]

I just imagine the torture I would have put everyone else through on a mandatory game night, it would have been way more annoying than using short words in scrabble - because my goal would become making the "enforcer" of mandatory game night never want another one.

[@miminana-hd6nf]

I know, right? Even in his update he didn't get it. "fleeting high school romance". How does he know it is fleeting? Most likely is, but that is not his decision to make. Forcing relationships with her siblings, great way for her to resent her siblings and go low contact when she moves out for college. OP is a control freak and I am sure there are a lot of other issues in that family.

[@SuperCleopatrajones]

I used to do this, but everybody would sigh. I started asking randomly for a hand of cards or one round of a board game of THEIR choice a few times a week. When it became a choice, it became FUN rather than a chore. Sometimes changing the parameters will achieve the goal.❤

[@fcold9402]

Lady cooking for husband says "when i was a child i would never expect my parents to cook on my schedule". Here is a newsflash: YOUR SPOUSE IS NOT YOUR CHILD. You agreed to cook for him, stop holding him hostage and cook for him or let him cook for himself. There is no reason he should be forced to chat with you before eating, like it's a freaking toll he has to pay or something. If you cook BEFORE he gets home, you can chat all night. If he then complains about the food being cold if he comes home late, then you can give up the Ahole mantel you are so attached to and pass it to him (assuming he didn't call first). And yes this applies if it's the guy or girl that agreed to cook dinner. (Again, unless the other person starts complaining then all bets are off. That's the proper use of beggars can't be choosers).

[@redtankgirl5]

Absolutely spot on. My first thought was the fact that she was home all day and couldn’t have dinners cooked before he got home so they could sit and enjoy the time together over a meal. I worked construction for years and I was super hungry by the end of the day. By the time he talks with her and then waits for her to cook its close to 8 pm before he gets to eat. I’d be so hangry by then.

[@franl155]

Wedding jumpsuit: "There was an easy solution that she ignored" - ie: "Do what I tell you". "She refused to see my side of things" - how much effort did he make to see hers?

[@rollothecat2010]

The wedding OP is a big ahole.

[@suzynash3487]

@@rollothecat2010 The jumpsuit is gorgeous, just needs a bit of jewellery and its as good or better than some of the dresses I have seen at weddings. I wear trousers most of the time I only have two skirts which I only wear when the weather is very hot. My sister is the same. We have both gone to weddings and parties in trousers. Nobody bats and eye.

[@ogknightbro94]

i hate the feminist movement or what crap but the thing is, is that the jumpsuit isn’t that bad as OP puts it i think OP is over reacting

[@carolroberts4614]

Suzy Nash I wore hotpants to my sister's wedding in 1971! It's my favourite photo now.

[@damien678]

@@carolroberts4614 Yeah, literally 50 years ago this was stylish. This isn't any kind of feminist statement, and I *fail* to see what would be bad about that, too.

[@alexis-louisemcloughlin7779]

I love how she named the piggies them after character from the witcher! It make me feel a lot better about naming my bunnies after book characters

[@eeeeeels]

That jumpsuit actually looks pretty fire 🔥

[@LexTime89]

For real. OP must not understand modern fashion, because jumpsuits like that are very in. I’d be surprised if she was the only woman wearing something of the sort, depending on how many people were at the wedding.

[@carolroberts4614]

I thought it was nice! I have picture of me at my sister's wedding in 1972, I'm wearing hotpants, which were all the rage then! One of my favourite pics!

[@tegantalks9612]

OP is an idiot, a nice jumpsuit can be just as fancy and a dress. It’s all about the accessories and how you do your hair and makeup. Also I’ve seen many celebrities wear jumpsuits to red carpet events. Lastly, jumpsuit is way easier to dance in than a dress and I love me some wedding dances!

[@WhatALifeSoFar]

I really needed the Security camera guy one! With my ex I always had to walk on eggshells. So now I have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend. At first I kept my mouth shut about anything that annoyed me (had to in relationship with my ex for safety reasons). In the past 8 months I have been blowing up over stupid stuff. He just takes it. His ex was abusive as well. He has the patience of a saint. But that post just helped me realize that I am the AHole of this relationship. Now I can work on this and to be better!

[@beckygould7509]

Good for you ! You recognized your problem and are working to fix it! Good luck to you both !

[@kaykay8855]

The adoption story: op is TA, but I don’t blame her because she suddenly has a new sister and is now expected to share everything and do everything with a new sibling. I’m not saying what she says was right Bu I don’t honestly blame her for lashing out, to her is a stranger.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

Her parents are morons. That story sounded like every Reddit story where X gets married to step-Y, and then forces kid to “bond” with the new step-siblings. Way to get your kid to absolutely hate their new sibling(s). And suddenly she even has to share her room? And friends. And activities.

[@SuperBatSpider]

If I was OP in the son’s computer story I would tell her “Only if my son can take his iPad whenever he wants without permission. It’s only fair he get the same treatment” in the most sarcastic voice I can muster

[@trillionbones89]

That would really backfire tho. No ipad can compete with a gaming laptop

[@SuperBatSpider]

@@trillionbones89 True. But it’s not about equality. It’s about explaining how dumb her logic is. She’ll be screaming her head off that it’s stealing once HER kid has to lose something.

[@defuncttoad9552]

If Billy is old enough to get married Billy is old enough to do whatever he likes and call you whatever so long as you're okay with it

[@katsmenagerie106]

The jumpsuit one drives me nuts. I'm a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding and that's what I'm wearing. The officiant at my cousin's wedding wore one. They are viewed as just as fancy/classy as a dress and perfectly acceptable for formal events. (I'm not even going to touch on the sexism of a woman wearing PaNtS!?! that belongs back in 1901.)

[@liwiathan]

I don't like jumpsuits because you have to get naked to use the bathroom

[@AliceAndWonderland2]

Kat's You claim you don't want to get into it but you sure have no problem bring it up so I'm going to ask for u too explain how this is sexim, when this could just be easily called proper etiquette. The best advice people should have given him wouldve been to go to bride and groom and made sure that the outfit was okay for their wedding.

[@that.ll_do_pig]

​@@AliceAndWonderland2"proper etiquette" says she has to wear a dress just because she's female? You don't see that, and his "she will be the only woman not wearing a dress" is sexist? If you don't already see it, I'm not sure how anybody is supposed to explain it. 🤔

[@lauraanderson8785]

​​@@AliceAndWonderland2 Proper wedding attire etiquette is not to wear white (in order not to steal attention from the bride) and not to wear black (because that's worn for funerals), in addition to wearing formal and neat attire. There is no etiquette that women MUST wear dresses. It's perfectly acceptable for women to wear pants to a wedding too. You really don't see the sexism in forcing a woman to wear a dress, when she's already got another formal outfit that she's decided on? He doesn't get to dictate what she wears.

[@AmvruleS]

55:20 honestly this just sounds to me like a horrible situation to be in all around with no right answer. I understand why people are saying he should have put his wife first, but I just don’t understand why so many people are calling him a horrible person.

[@SnowyWolborg]

The internet is a place where people can be as self-righteous as they want, that's why. Like you said, the whole situation sucks. But it's not like he abandoned his girl in the middle of the road while she's in labor. His friend's father *did* die, and the OP wanted them to have time to say goodbye.

[@AmvruleS]

MasterEpsilon yeah, I mean don’t get me wrong I totally understand the wife’s point of view, her husband let her down during probably one of the scariest moments of her life, at the same time, imagine being told that one of your loved ones was dying, and then being told that you couldn’t even go and say goodbye to them because you needed to work instead. Like I said it just seems like a horrible situation, and I have no idea what I would do if I was in his shoes.

[@humboldt218]

I wouldn't have been mad at my husband if he had been put in that situation. I think that the wife was kinda the ah.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

@@humboldt218 Same. It was such a sucky situation. But giving someone the ability to say goodbye to a dying parent isn’t an AH move; I can understand why the wife is upset, but in her shoes, I’d like to think I would come around and understand the difficult situation he was in.

[@NiMissNi]

Yea. I personally would've been mad if my husband came to see me instead of letting his work friend go. Yea, it would've sucked but knowing i didn't let someone share their last moments with a loved one would make me feel really bad. And he was on duty and they had to save lives. All in all, i don't envy his position.

[@calamityjean1525]

Regarding the Scrabble game: Not all high school relationships are "fleeting". There's lots of people who have been married for many years to their high school sweetheart.

[@buddyzmama1]

Exactly! My grandparents. Gran graduated in June and was married at 17 that October. They were a month shy of 59 years married when she passed.

[@BigFishSmolPond]

Very late to the party but this is exactly thoughts! Me and my partner have been together since high school. Me (Enby 22) and him (M21) have been together since 16 and 15. Our parents also saw it as fleeting but support us now.

[@thedeltaquad]

On the secret room one my wife said if I'd had one for all this time (5 years) in our hour she'd have been like "Ha cool".

[@damien678]

I trust my partner more than anyone else, and I wish that sort of thing wouldn't shake me as much as I know it would. Good on her for being so chill though, genuinely

[@carolroberts4614]

I would love a secret room! I'd only be a bit miffed at not knowing before but I'd certainly use it( after checking it can be opened properly from inside!)

[@buddyzmama1]

The wife not working and not wanting to cook dinner before getting in her "socializing"? Definitely TA. If one spouse isn't working and the other is, the one staying home should cook food for the other. End of. Growing up, my mom worked in an office all day. My stepdad worked nights. Sooooo...... Mom came home to dinner every night. If she was running late.....Hello Mr Microwave, can you reheat this plate for the lady of the house? [ding!] Here ya go mam, hot food bon appetit! This one isn't a spouse thing, more sibling roommates but...My sister is an essential worker. I'm a school bus driver. I'm not working. She is. Her hours are wonky, she's taking everything she can get. She can grab the food, pop it in the microwave, and enjoy, while our puppers gives her the begging eyes. You no worky, you make worky person life easier. Fair. Freaking. Tradeoff. OP, YTA.

[@nyxx5357]

Right? You'd think this woman had never even heard of a microwave. Even without one, a conventional or toaster oven would do the trick. Also, I don't understand why she can't talk while cooking. Just raise your voice over the water running/pan sizzling/etc. OR, an even simpler solution, just talk AFTER dinner. Seriously, you think it's fine to make your husband physically uncomfortable for over an hour, waiting to fulfill a basic human need, because "It huwts my feewings when he doesn't tawk to me fiwst. 😥" Grow up.

[@VirtuesOfSin]

55:20 - I am going to disagree and state a possible unpopular opinion. A lot of these I was listening to and didn't bother wanting to type anything out, but this one seriously pissed me off. NTA - or at the very least ESH. To be fair, the biggest fucked up asshole was the boss for saying that only one person could have the day off when two of them had family emergencies. Anyone who posted here saying "YTA" obviously never lost their fucking grandparents. Do you know how fucked up it is, to lose your family and never get to say goodbye? DO YOU KNOW HOW FUCKED UP THAT MAKES YOU! *DO YOU KNOW HOW SUICIDAL I FELT WHEN SOMEONE IN MY FAMILY DIED AND I DIDN'T GET TO SAY GOODBYE BECAUSE OF CIRCUMSTANCES OF OTHER PEOPLE THAT PREVENTED ME FROM SEEING HER ON HER DEATH BED?!* There isn't enough capitalization, bold text, or punctuation to express my feelings on this topic... Someone in my family died, and I wasn't able to say goodbye to them because assholes in my life decided I wasn't important enough to have final hours with a dying family member. It makes me absolutely sick to think humans don't have the compaction to understand that Death is final and you can't say goodbye after someone has left. I still have suicidal thoughts and depression caused by episodes from this. Thoughts like "I couldn't say goodbye", "I couldn't be there to make her comfortable when she left." "I'll never get to see them again." And then this story comes up... This fucking story... The dude legit gives up the birth of his child (whom is alive and well, and who will be alive for the next 70+ years) so that someone could say goodbye to their grandparents and have closure in their life.... THAT PERSON'S FAMILY WAS DYING, AND THAT WAS THE LAST FUCKING TIME THEY WOULD GET THE CHANCE TO SEE THEM FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIFE - *AND THE OP IS LABALED WITH "YTA" FOR GIVING CLOSURE TO SOMEONE IN THEIR TIME OF DESPERATION!? SOMETHING THAT I NEVER GOT THE CHANCE TO DO BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE YOU LABELING MAN THE ASSHOLE FOR GIVING THAT PERSON A CHANCE TO SAY THEIR LAST GOODBYES?!* Fuck you all, I hope you all drown in radiation poisoning.

[@fcold9402]

While i don't hope anyone dies, i was quite shocked by peoples reactions. I think the guy absolutely did the right thing letting his friend attend to the dieing relative. Also, I too was thinking the boss was a Ahole at first but then i considered the job and how someone else could die if the dept was understaffed. There are some jobs where often the job can come first. Fire, rescue, police, military etc.. You know jobs of the people out in hurricanes or running into collapsing buildings to rescuing other people. If wife can't deal with that, she should have married someone in a different career.

[@VirtuesOfSin]

@@fcold9402 I apologize... I may have gotten a little over head due to personal experiences.

[@dancer2179]

I think it would have been different if he had left immediately to join his wife when I got the call. Then when the other firefighter got the call about her grandfather the I'm sure someone else would have been called in to fill her place or they would have already called in someone to replace the father of the pregnant woman. I was married to a firefighter and pretty sure that's what would have happened. I think the problem came when they both needed to leave at the same time just as they got called out.

[@SvarogAristaeusAllen]

You are clearly an angry child who needs therapy. Hopefully in seven years you'll look back at this post and then delete it because you are embarrassed at how much of a clown you are. You are so deeply drowning in the sauce of your own self-centered misery and trauma that you can't see the perspective of the mother at all. She lost three, count them, three children. You want to talk about lost family members? She lost THREE babies. Do you know what 37 weeks means? A child is usually born at 38 weeks. She had a stillbirth at 37. She pushed out a fully formed, fully grown, dead baby on the day she should have brought new life into the world. But you want to talk about your trauma? The trauma of losing a relative, when she lost her child, a child she carried for nine months? And you think she's the asshole for wanting him to be there with her, afraid she's going to lose this child? The only one who deserves to drown in radiation poisoning is you.

[@starlaaster523]

You are leaving out the part where the wife had a still birth so was desperately afraid of this child dying. This wasn't a normal birth. Also you are clearly not understanding that Op is can be the AH to his wife while being one to his co worker. You seem to think that you get to decide whose pain is more important. Life doesn't work that way. You are valuing your pain as more important because you haven't been the other person's situation. You are bias. The wife was reliving the worst moment of her life in that delivery room and desperately afraid her child was going to die. She had nobody but her husband to rely on and help her thru it. He first blew her off by not leaving right away then decided looking good to his coworker was more important than being there for his wife. She has every right to feel betrayed, let down, and like she can't trust him in an emergency. He got to play hero she had to go thru hell alone. He is the AH to his wife so she gets to treat him like an AH.

[@PunakiviAddikti]

"There's some more dark chocolate in the fridge, I specifically put it in there and there is no other dark chocolate. I'm also letting you know because I hate dark chocolate and want to never eat it, as evident with our years of being together." *a while later* "WhY DiD YOu EAt mY daRK ChoCOlatE? Even though I specifically said it's in there in case you want to eat it you should have telepathically known that I DO actually want to eat it even though I hate dark chocolate! You should have known even though I never said I want some!" Some little lady needs to learn that people are not telepathic, and if you suddenly want to eat something you absolutely HATE, you need to SAY SO. Especially after you GIVE THEM PERMISSION TO EAT IT. Not the other way around. NTA.

[@rollothecat2010]

Absolutely agree with you. You said it better than I did

[@PunakiviAddikti]

@@rollothecat2010 Yeah, I just don't understand the logic here. This would be like me, who doesn't like mold cheese (yeah its a thing) putting some in the fridge for my mom and saying "Hey I got some mold cheese I put it in the fridge, I know you like it". Now she knows that I do NOT like that cheese and would never actually eat it. I can eat it and it has a distinct flavor but it's just not that great for me. And then after she eats it I go "WHy diD yOu eAT mY MolD CheEse?! I wAntEd sOme eVEn ThO I don'T liKE That cHeeSE anD I diDn't tELL yOU bEcAUsE yoU sHoUld HaVE knOWn I wanTEd SoME!!" Even to myself this makes no goddamn sense. And I came up with this scenario.

[@D-me-dream-smp]

I can kinda understand why he did what he did BUT it was a gift to her and very expensive so maybe she thought she might feel differently. A polite mature person would probably ask before eating the last one. I hide my special (more expensive) snacks because my hubby will polish something off in one sitting while I will have it over 1-2 weeks and I got sick of nothing being there when I wanted something. Yes I buy plenty of snacks for the family and yes he’s aware I do it and won’t eat them.

[@PunakiviAddikti]

@@D-me-dream-smp Yeah, but the problem here is that she should have said she wanted some. But she didn't. That's unfair to him because he cannot read minds.

[@carolroberts4614]

If you don't like dark chocolate,the costliness won't help. I don't like dark chocolate but my partner does, and the more expensive it is,the worse it tastes to me! She should have told him that she might try some,maybe she just wanted to pick a fight that day!

[@fcold9402]

Clothes girl, absolutely not the Ahole. She did a lot of growing up fast. Very good.

[@xxxtantenciannaonfroydo1440]

She is the Ahole

[@ashimagoel7105]

@@xxxtantenciannaonfroydo1440 how??

[@virtualatheist]

Chocolate bloke. NTA she left the chocolates in the fridge untouched and due to the their history, there was an implied expectation that she would allow him to eat it. He isn't a mind reader.

[@2212blackstar]

Right? Not to mention she would even switch theirs in the event they were given to them and even rib him (is that how you type it? Weird?) for eating dark chocolate, ‘good natured’ or not if someone did that I’d take it as a sign that says that, they don’t like dark chocolate so I’d assume letting know that they were in the refrigerator was her way of telling him they’re all yours. Getting upset that you didn’t get the last piece for yourself to try and see if you’d like it? Is garbage, you had a whole week granted giving you plenty opportunities to see if you changed your opinion.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

It’s just “implied “ that it was HER gift. Expensive fancy chocolate that she was excited about. Why would she be excited to not eat it? That sounds suspiciously like OPs gaslighting

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Sister with adopted sis needs PRIVATE therapy. Maybe family later but she needs support. She doesn’t feel supported by her parents.

[@eph2vv89only1way]

Any time you use something of someone else’s without permission and it isn’t an emergency is disrespectful, regardless of the price

[@ZombieSazza]

So… Billy got abandoned by his parents, they didn’t love him and hardcore neglected him, and now his biological mother is upset, years later, after abandoning him and making him the scapegoat child and letting him know that she loved his siblings more, NOW she’s upset?!? Well tough! She abandoned her son for whatever BS reasons, made it very clear she didn’t love him, that she didn’t care about him, that she thought of him as a nuisance, didn’t tell people about him and constantly lied saying she had 2 children as if he didn’t exist at all, played favourites with her children so Billy knew she didn’t favour him, didn’t want a relationship with him until years later, didn’t care about him one bit, and NOW she has the audacity to be upset?!? She wasn’t his mother, she doesn’t deserve to be called his mother, Billy sees OP as his mother because OP actually saw him as a person and loved him. Her actions have consequences, and these are the consequences, she has to deal with that and can cry about it. I just hope Billy doesn’t invite her to the wedding, she doesn’t deserve to be there and I’ve no doubt she’d cause a scene.

[@WillTw12]

For the daughter-scrabble story, YTA. Not for wanting family time but rather forcing her to partake in something she doesn’t want to do.

[@Lyoko2516]

I'm not sure about y'all, but I don't think that a friend should miss out on her DYING RELATIVE, even if my wife was giving birth (Female here). Heck, I'd cover my coworker's shift if it means that she'd get to see him/her one last time (even to closing time). Yes, new life is amazing and babies are cute (like my sister when she was born in 2001 after the events), but come on.

[@doodlefawn4742]

Well it's a two-sided situation. One is the fact the wife was absolutely right for being angry and the husband was a dick because his wife already had a miscarriage. She's probably terrified and didn't have anyone but strangers with her. On the flip side, a coworkers family was dying. Nice of him to take her to see their family, dickish of him to totally forego his wife's probably traumatic birth full of triggers from her miscarriage.

[@Ki11erKitty]

Thank you! I HAVE HAD a dead pregnancy. And would be PROUD that my husband thought of someone with a DYING family member! What in the hell is wrong with these people?

[@Lyoko2516]

Ki11erKitty wish I knew

[@kyoxtohru112]

@@doodlefawn4742 I want to correct one thing you said: "...Nice of him to take her to see their family...." Yeah that didn't happen at all. Their higher up or boss told them for the next job one person is needed so it was up to OP and the coworker to pick who was going and OP offered himself. That's why I am not one to throw out the whole card because it was lose-lose in this situation and someone would be negatively affected

[@iwannabeyahtzee8056]

Imagine you were that mate who was working with him. Imagine your grandfather was dying and only one of you could leave. Imagine if your supposed friend then turned to you and said "Sorry man. I guess your gonna have to miss out on saying goodbye to your grandfather cause my wife is having a baby! Sucks to be you!" I understand that the wife was probably scared out of her mind and I'm not saying that she didn't have the right to be pissed but if your gonna have an excuse for not being there for your wife at such a time, you really can't get a nobler one than this!

[@ItsYaBoiV]

The chocolate thing reminds me of my ma. She always says she hates a certain food, somehow gets it (or I make it, such as Alfredo, she always says she hates white pasta sauce) but if I don't leave a serving of it for her to rot, she gets mad. I don't like wasting food!

[@MockKitty]

The one about the breast cancer survivor confuses me. Why is it such a big deal? It’s literally a lump of fatty tissue that was removed in a medically necessary procedure. I understand that it must be shocking, but I don’t think it’s a huge deal. It’s been a long-distance relationship, of course they’re not going to have shared every little detail about themselves! And the fact that he says he feels cheated because she looked fine in her pictures just shows that he cared more for how she looks than about HER. I think she dodged a bullet. He sounds like a selfish, judgmental person who cares more for a persons image that who they really are.

[@Tokuijin]

Adding onto that, if she told him sooner, he'd have still reacted that way

[@Sanjigirl0]

Yeah if it bothered him they should have talked about it, not him break up with her. How can you justify not being attracted to someone over a boob? If it's such a big deal to him he should get plastic surgery so he can have some to match his attitude. (I'd like to note I was trying to be funny by calling him a boob I tried haha)

[@0INFERNO1]

I look at it this way, even though I wouldn't have been bothered by the fact she lost a breast. What I would have issue with is the fact that for three years she never mentioned it. You'd think after a year it might be an idea to mention that because of cancer she lost a breast. The fact that she kept it from me would bother me. A relationship is about trust and if she didn't trust me enough to confide in me about it, I would leave as well. Apparently there is no trust, so I can't be there.

[@KETimiko]

@@0INFERNO1 I understand how you feel and I'm a firm believer that all feelings are valid. However, feelings are not a good basis for decision making. I'd like to invite you to consider why you would feel a partner not disclosing specific aspects of their medical history that doesn't impact your health is a betrayal of trust. Further I'd like you to consider if you actually have a criteria by which such disclosures or non-disclosures could be considered or not a breach of trust. Is it a breach of trust if she doesn't disclose she had an appendectomy? What about diabetes? What about a family history of Huntington's? Do you actually have a criteria by which you can judge how much of their medical history should a partner reveal to you, to establish trust? If you don't have clear answers to these questions, I'd invite you to think about them. Our gut feelings are just that, feelings and are often not a good basis for forming opinions.

[@fcold9402]

While I think he showed his own Aholeness in his reaction she really should have told him. Would be a good way for her to separate the chaff from the wheat. I was thinking if one of the times he said "you are beatutiful" she could have said, what if i had breast cancer or an artificial leg? To gage his response. Seems like she wasted 3 years she didn't have to waste.

[@gdog2001able]

The Dark Chocolate one i think OP isnt really the asshole, she had a fulle week. In my house if its in the fridge for more than 2 days, its free for all

[@ItsYaBoiV]

I have that same rule, because I hate wasting food. Anything meant to last longer goes on the freezer. xD

[@fcold9402]

I was originally going to go with my standard "leave people alone and don't touch their stuff" but after hearing the story it sound like she invited him to eat them by telling him they were in the fridge without further instruction. He could win the situation and to go buy her a box of expenssive chocolates (maybe all milk chocolate with one piece of dark chocolate to something 🤪). Assuming she has a sense of humor

[@Sodabubbless]

That one jerk man has to realise that cbd oil meant for pain is very different from cbd oil for dry skin. The cheaper bottles of cbd oil are meant for skincare and the expensive bottle is meant for pain, that’s why it’s so expensive

[@redtankgirl5]

Exactly this and I would venture to say he knew that when taking it for his migraine. I suffer from migraines and not much takes care of that pain beyond certain medication. When he said it worked immediately he knew it was a strong medication and not a joke. He’s such an ah bc he knows the value but doesn’t want to pay for it.

[@SandraNelson063]

CBD is prescribed when nothing else works properly. CBD heals the brain, calms nausea, eases anxiety and depression, encourages a healthy appetite, supports the immune system. And is damned astonishing for pain. So the guy in the story is an utter a**hole for blasting through what was probably his girlfriend 's month supply. If I were her, I would change the locks on the doors and never let him back. He has proven himself to be stunningly self absorbed and completely dishonorable. What is she supposed to do to control her pain now? I am someone who suffers from chronic pain, and would love to use CBD. Unfortunately I can't afford it.

[@labella9291]

More than a month. She was only taking a drop when she needed it, and he was talking a couple drops every day. That was probably a SIX MONTH supply. And then he keeps shitting on her use of it for her PAIN MANAGEMENT, but had no problem taking it to chill. He is a fucker, and I want to slap him and I'm not a violent person

[@telinhajp]

I was triggered by this a** as well, s since I have fibromyalgia. Argh! His entitlement and disconsideration with her pain are infuriating!

[@TheMegalusDoomslayer]

It's no different than popping someone's vicodin like it's going out of style.

[@RedK5]

Sandra Nelson he wouldn’t have been if he had used it only once for that headache then looked into how to get his own

[@RedK5]

Estela Akemi Oyadomari that’s good for Fibromyalgia? My mom needs that

[@WhatALifeSoFar]

As a mother, I am saying that Missing Birth Guy IS NOT THE AHOLE! The wife is emotional and in the future may use that as a crutch everytime she wants something from him.

[@annabelfazukimi7902]

Oh my gosh thank you, the entire time listening to that one I was like, "I mean yeah he missed the birth but like...they're both alive and OP will get to see them and they'll get to see OP, his partner lost a loved one and they'll never get to see them again."

[@LexTime89]

I would have voted NAH. It was a shitty situation, and no matter what someone would have been the loser.

[@beckygould7509]

If she wanted a husband who could be at every important event , she shouldn’t have married a firefighter

[@jamilsmommy]

Except that she had a previous stillbirth. Which could have happened again.

[@GaymerGirl-]

@@jamilsmommy that doesnt change anything though?

[@DiscoTimelordASD]

Scrabble story: I just hope OP understands that if her daughter stops playing board games that she doesn't love her family any less. She's preparing to become an adult and needs her mum's support more than ever during this crucial stage in her life. Just to know that her Mum will always be there to catch her when she falls and guide her through life as she tries again. Always in the background and ready to listen without judgement. That's what my Dad did for me and it worked. I wish OP the best❤

[@bob8mybobbob]

When I was in grade school I was co-flower girl with my future cousin at my aunt's wedding. I had a pink dress that I really wanted to wear, but my mom was worried because my cousin was wearing a red dress and she didn't want it to clash. My aunt told me to wear whatever dress I wanted. As far as I know (I was a little kid at the time) there was no drama on the day of the wedding from our dresses not coordinating. Admittedly, my aunt is a super chill person, (the person marrying them started off by quoting Princess Bride "Mawwiage!"), but I also think people would be more inclined to enjoy their own weddings if they let the little things go.

[@nyxx5357]

RIGHT??? I know I'm late, but I totally agree with you. People who stress over every little thing usually end up miserable. Stuff like accidents and mess ups are almost guaranteed to happen, whether you're ready to accept them or not. So accept it, deal with the situation if needed, and move on. Enjoy the day, enjoy the event, enjoy life.

[@minelliabrissiaud2321]

For the firefighter story of Newborn vs. Colleague's grandfather; I don't think he was an a-hole at all. Yes on one hand giving birth is an extremely stressful situation that requires all the help and emotional support necessary, but on the other hand this was the colleague's last chance to say goodbye. I've always lived far away from my indirect relatives. My parents moved often and I had to travel with them. When my grandparents, my great grandmother and one of my aunts all died 1 by 1 over the years I was never present. I was never able to give my goodbyes nor did my parents ever let me visit them when their health started to deteriorate and this has always hunted me. A birth is sacred yes, but so is a death or passing. Not being selfish and allowing someone to give their goodbyes is just as important and no less noble than being present to witness a birth. My fiancee has a similar story with her grandmother which I won't disclose but it's to say she'd agree with me on this. The wife has the right to be offended, but staying mad at him over this is toxic and unjustified.

[@ItsYaBoiV]

I agree with this completely, he's not the a-hole at all, and honestly it made me kind of angry how many people took out their own feelings on him like he wronged them, too. For the record, I'm a gal, and I understand how scary birth and miscarriages can be. But I lost my father last year. I was lucky enough to spend his last few years with him and be with him at his passing, and I would not have missed that chance for anything in the world. I would also never deprive someone of that same chance if I could help. It's like none of the people who read the story could see past themselves and think about the man's coworker and her loss.

[@fcold9402]

Yeah i was really surprised and got a little annoyed by how everyone was attacking him. I was wondering if they would also think this Firefighter should immediately stop fighting a fire to get to his wife's side? It seems way more important to let someone see their relative in the last embers of their life than to welcome a new child into the world. I get the wife had issues and was scared, but the guy who was going to die was probably scared too. To die alone is considered a terrible thing by many people and religions. We don't know how aware that guy was but he deserved his family around him and i am glad this firefighter made that possible. If the wife is unable to get over this then the marriage had other issues and perhaps she needs to be married to an accountant or someone else with a nice safe 9-5 office job.

[@beckygould7509]

Also at some jobs if you have to work you have to work! I can remember when men weren’t allowed in the delivery room except medical staff. He’s a firefighter, he can’t always leave when he wants to, peoples lives depend on it !

[@diss8702]

the same people who are calling him an asshole would also call him an asshole if he had left instead of his coworker

[@toastice2465]

yes i agree, i was surprised so many people called him the a hole

[@fcold9402]

My god what is up with all the people trying to tell other people how to dress? If you didn't like how the girl dressed why did you become her boyfriend?

[@trillionbones89]

Worse is that it looks very much appropriate.

[@astropretzel]

Dude who stole his gf’s CBD oil is 100% the asshole! If my loved one stole my anxiety meds I would be PISSED and would have a lot more issues to deal with than reimbursing the payment. I would probably lose my trust in them.

[@robertx8020]

About the OP with the adopted sibling I don't understand some people I don't know how old OP is but since he/she has to share a room with the sister and the fact that he/she wanted to play a 'let's see how long we can stay up ' game I guess he isn't that old! Still people seem to expect 'adult behaviour' from OP. There are 3 (actually more but let's keep it simple) scenario's 1.OP and his sister are about the same age : should OP be forced to share every moment of his/her life with his sister? he/she has no privacy in his room and now he can have no privacy OUTSIDE his/her room? 2. OP is much older ...in which case it will be even more unfair for OP to always be forced to hang out with his/her (little ) sister (if OP is male then this will also be 'a thing' ) And yes, it feels like he/she HAS TO hang out with her or the "I will tell mum and dad ' would make no sense at all! 3.Op is much younger ... Btw I find it 'funny' that when it's parents vs children (age doesn't seem to matter ) the it's always like "you can't expect x from a child" (which I agree with up untill a certain point) But now this OP is expected to act like a rational adult? BTW2 Yes it must be difficult for the sister to make friends but I get the feeling that she is looking for the easy option. Don't look for friends yourself but just claim OP and his/hert friends So, I feel like OP is judged to harse!

[@kristy6703]

As someone who was forced to play happy family with step family I get how the OP feels. They are most likely younger than 18. They are being forced to deal with a situation without any say in the matter or consideration for thier feelings, wants, or needs. No privacy. No they didnt handle it the best way possible but kids shouldnt be expected to handle things maturely when they feel they have no control over their life. When they are miserable and see no way out. Kids are not robots or mini adults. They learn to handle things maturely through discussion etc by thier parents teaching them. OPs parents obviously have not been discussing things with her or she wouldnt be in the situation she is with an unwanted sibling and no relief/privacy. Of course OP feels resentful and acted out.

[@ogknightbro94]

@@kristy6703 makes sense you need boundaries and being forced in and stuff will never work but OP should have never said that and then lie to their parents about it

[@kristy6703]

@@ogknightbro94 kids do stupid things. especially when they are hurt, upset, and stressed. OP gets a pass for this one imo.

[@CarbuncleYT]

@@kristy6703 no she doesn’t? She said most cruel thing you could say to someone else in that in that situation. You don’t get a pass because of that, you’re an asshole for thinking that’s okay.

[@kristy6703]

@@CarbuncleYT lol show me just one kid who is absolutely perfect in the face of immense hurt, resentment, annoyance etc and I might consider your point of view. Until I have been shown proof that teens are capable of being perfect no matter the crap thrown at them, I will continue to forgive those who cant keep it together when they are overwhelmed with negativity and have few resources for help, self care, and healhty coping mechanisms.

[@susanlosey9511]

They didn’t want him and treated him bad. You and your husband took him in and straightened him up! NYA!

[@stevehollahan3533]

Scrabble YTA. What teen wants to play family game night w/ parents on a weekend night? I'm 70, and won't do it.

[@maher.1510]

Hi grandpa

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

OP who missed the birth of his child is the A-hole. He was nice to his friend, but his wife is justified in her anger. If she leaves him she will be justified. Labor alone would be terrifying and unforgivable.

[@JanieBgrand]

“Anita for reporting someone to their boss for sharing in an NA mtg?” Absolutely! How terrible of someone to overhear their coworker, and then even CONSIDERING they’d report them. For what??? How outrageous of her!

[@jdd9993]

Why can't you both talk over dinner or after dinner? Can't dinner be reheated?

[@grabmynuts]

Apparently she's as dumb as a goddamn doorknob or incredibly fucking manipulative and lowkey abusive. She doesnt care about connecting or holding up on her promise. She enjoys holding her husband captive through food. It's a power trip. With the lack of power we have during quarantine she's finding any way to reclaim it. Even if it means possibly harming her partner. "We dont talk over dinner!" "I cant reheat food because I dont know when he'll be home!" (A fucking lie because she stated herself that he comes home at 6 frequently enough than any other time).

[@fcold9402]

Exactly she is holding him hostage for food. She SHOULD cook before he gets home and then they would have all night to chat. If he gets home late without calling and complains about the cold food then he is the ass but until then she is just being an ass and her responses to the post show me she is not just an ass about this one thing.

[@damien678]

or even talking while cooking, I love it when my partner gets home and we talk while I'm starting or finishing up dinner

[@trillionbones89]

Yes it can if you are smart enough to use a stove or better yet a microwave. Stews can zimmer on for hours. But she wants to keep yapping instead of talking after/during dinner. She is doing nothing but wasting his time. He has to talk half an hour hungrily and has to wait another half hour. Do they even have children or why is she pretending to be too busy for cooking a meal?

[@BambiLena666]

The adoption story is just so so weird. I dont understand who are these parents and how was this girl adopted and how old is the OP? Yes he shouldnt have told her that, but at the same time, the parents didnt seem to talk to him or prepare him for a sibling at all? And then just bring a stranger to live in his room, and he has to bring her and include her in all of his activities and his friends? Thats a recipe for disaster. I hope the parents get some counseling to help this situation. Again, what he said was horrible, but what the parents did to both these kids is awful too. The choice to have them share the room is also kinda baffling. He thought he wasnt good enough for them by himself for fucks sake and thats why they adopted the girl. Thats fucking heartbreaking. I really hope they talk things out and the kids will ok.

[@BambiLena666]

@Geronimo! Honestly the OP might be the sweetest kid in the world and still react the same to the situation where the parents barely prepared him for adopting another child, on top of that suddenly making him share his room and everything he owns with a stranger, and if he is in his teens (some comments refer to him as a teen), suddenly sharing your room with a strange girl isnt going to be easy. Not to mention if shes a lot younger than him, this is usually when sparks fly even between siblings that grew up together during the older ones teen years. The more I think about it the more annoyed I am at the parents, they basically adopted a kid and made their other child responsible for it. Sharing your room with a stranger of the opposite sex? Why are you not happy about this? Bringing a strange kid into the house without properly telling him why they are doing it etc? Why arent you happy? Sharing your friends with a stranger and your activities with her? Sharing all your things with her? Cmon even siblings growing up together need things that are their own. No privacy? Like you said its asking for trouble. Adopting a kid is an amazing thing, but they really messed it up with how they went out this.

[@KETimiko]

Yupp. It's pretty baffling to me how anyone reached the conclusion OP is an asshole. Now, if OP was an adult, OP would definitely be an asshole but OP isn't an adult. OP is a child. OP is a very confused child who is clearly feeling extremely neglected. Based on the fact that this adoption seems to have materialized out of thin air and OP was never told about the circumstances surrounding this adoption, would lead most reasonable people to conclude OP's parents probably knew this girls parents and something extremely unsavory happened. I understand the parents rational of not posing the adoption as a question if this was in fact the case and not disclosing something horrible like a murder-suicide, however the fact that they seemingly didn't try to explain the situation to OP what so ever is mind boggling. The ability of people to assume they know how to parent because they already have a child in their custody, despite the fact that they never picked up a single developmental psychology book in their life, never ceases to amaze me.

[@beckygould7509]

Yes , and after about age 10 or so a kid shouldn’t be expected to share a room with a sibling of the opposite sex , that’s creepy!

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

The CBD oil made me eye-wateringly angry. I have a spinal injury which causes me constant pain, & if my husband took my nitrous, or my Endone, just to get high, + then not only failed to notify me but also refused to reimburse me for what he used, it would not be an overstatement to say that our marriage would then be on _very_ shaky ground.

[@brutallyhonest1962]

The firefighter who let his mate go spend the time with the dying grandfather is not the asshole. That was 1000% the right thing to do!

[@CarbuncleYT]

So you’d let your wife who already had a child die during child birth go through it again on her own? Why is it people that are not calling him an asshole are just ignoring this?

[@starjumper]

@@CarbuncleYT we’re not ignoring that. It’s a horrible thing the wife had to go through alone but that was the last time the coworker would be able to see their grandfather again. If anything I feel as though people saying YTA are completely ignoring the fact that the coworker’s grandfather was about to die.

[@trillionbones89]

And his wife is the only one who suffered. Just imagine the grandfather recovered and she lost the child. That is what could've happened. He abandoned his own family. *That's* what his wife learned. Sometimes you are not in a position to sacrifice something. And don't come at me on how noble his sacrifice was: he didn't mention being there for her *once*. He was sacrificing his first time with his child, ignoring on what he was actually sacrificing his wife.

[@brutallyhonest1962]

@@trillionbones89 why are you creating an unlikely scenario? The likelihood of the grandfather recovering is almost 0 given age. Presumably the grandfather was in hospice. If the pregnancy wasn’t high risk OP should assume the likelihood of losing the grandfather was significantly higher than losing the mother or baby. Grandparents are family! He didn’t abandon his family.

[@SvarogAristaeusAllen]

@@brutallyhonest1962 The grandfather wasn't his, it was one of his coworkers.

[@jraxreviewsxcosplayxmore6934]

1: op and his girlfriend are so stinking cute! What a wholesome couple. NTA

[@emmahenrysoprano1253]

Singer question: Absolutely NTA. This friend wants to feed their ego, rather than give you a heartfelt gift. You have every right to call the shots on your big day, everything from the flowers to the music. I also gifted a performance for my friend's wedding this year, but this was not without careful planning and full consent from the bride. Part of being a professional is knowing when to step back and when it is appropriate to give your service.

[@Ejiro__Kirishima]

His mom saying “it’s not his fault he’s snoring” Ummm, yes it is? Who else’s fault would it possibly be? Tf?

[@lstatic4562]

Scrabble is a game, this guy is treating it like playing Scrabble is a chore that needs to be done

[@itjustmemanning8441]

The daughter was acting like any 17 year old girl. Just be there when she needs you.

[@jdd9993]

The name of the deceased child does matter less because he's not alive to have to use it & suffer the consequences. This has nothing to do with OP's miscarriage. OP needs to stop projecting, but her family needs to avoid the subject while OP is grieving.

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

If my husband brings home something it's established he doesn't like + I do, e.g. marzipan & then tells me, "Mystery, there's marizpan in the fridge!" then I have no reason to believe I shouldn't eat all of it. Dark Chocolate OP is NTA, his wife bears all the fault here for not communicating her sudden change of mind.

[@VictoriaMorganawesometori]

That partner making baked goods and their girlfriend sounds absolutely wonderful.

[@thomasdove9456]

For the last one, NTA. The Dad was just letting the kid know what might happen and since he is going to collage soon, they are probably not "to young" to hear it.

[@velentr]

"I'd like to take _how to alienate my grown daughter_ for 200, please."

[@ashleyn.9166]

The CBD story. This is her medication! He stole her medication! How is this petty?! I would dump his ass so fast.

[@Tyler171819]

The chocolate one made me think of the scene from Puppycat and Bee. “You took too long, now your candy is gone. That’s what happens 😠” lol

[@karinaashmon]

If it's not yours and you dont pay for it. Dont take it not yours.

[@brett8259]

About the stillbirth, I understand it was a sensitive topic for OP, but it wasn't HER pregnancy. If the sister believes that to be true of her own life then it's fine. Often times, we think about things very differently when it's about us versus when it's about others. Think sort of like how we often think our mistakes are the end of the world, but realize others' aren't so bad. It also seems like your sister just has a different way of coping. Her words weren't a reflection on you and you can't dictate how someone else views their life. Especially something like the death of a child. I think it'd be best if OP sat down and had a reasonable conversation, explaining that when her sister said that that it made her feel like she meant it for her too. But ultimately, the sister can say and believe whatever she wants.

[@leannek7031]

The menu post is just giggle inducing- Why did she not ask for herself? If she can’t speak the language- what is the likelihood she could read it? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@julias2855]

Dinner: Why not cook first. Then sit down and talk. Hubby is on road for work. So coming home he's starving. I try to have food ready& talking at the table. He cooks if he gets home first. His food is better but I get home earlier.

[@MaggieTheCat01]

Didn’t realise I wasn’t subbed! What an oversight. Now subbed. Edit: That Scrabble mum is on her way to becoming a JNMIL. Her daughter is exhibiting normal adolescent behaviour. She should leave her be.

[@beckygould7509]

Plus why does it have to be scrabble? There’s nothing wrong with it but some people especially kids find it boring, and the play it every week ! Try playing something else ! And like you said , the teen years are when kids start to find their wings and start pulling away from their parents! This is probably her first serious boyfriend, this is normal behavior!

[@cheskydivision]

My boys have always referred to their uncle as Daddy Dan. Their fathers chose to not be involved and children are smart enough to see who is there for them.

[@partysuvius]

Firefighter OP would have been called the a-hole no matter what, because his coworker was losing a dear loved one. If he had forced a grieving woman to be alone and working while she lost her grandfather would have been a dick move just so he could introduce a new child into the world. He felt confidence that his newborn would be a live birth, and healthy. He did not have confidence that his coworker’s grandfather would possibly have not died alone.

[@jakealter5504]

I’d say no ass holes for that story and it wasn’t a grandfather might not make it, it was pretty certain that he was going to die

[@TennantJunkie1993]

Story #1: This story was covered on Monday, my grade still stands, 0/5 Assholes. Maybe let them try something you make in the future, but not now with THAT attitude. Again at the scrapbook, I AWWWWW gush.

[@JanieBgrand]

The wedding guest jumpsuit is a bit casual for a formal wedding. It looks like it would fit for a backyard one, but for a formal event? Nahhhh.

[@rannvamacdonaldarnskov4794]

Oh god, the cancer survivor one... I'd say it's on OP's boyfriend that he didn't anticipate that "being a cancer survivor" can indicate such a thing as having a breast removed, having surgery scars or wearing a wig etc. It's on them both if they didn't discuss those kind of details between each other. But there are so many people, adults included, that put on blinds over their eyes to anything that isn't perfect because they don't want to deal, and then it crumbles when it's unavoidable. I'd say more information needed to make a judgement between ESH and NTA. Because that was a three year relationship where there must have been opportunities to discuss such a thing as "is there anything that might not make us sexually compatible?" But I can't fault OP for not going full disclosure on that one breast is removed.

[@piiinkDeluxe]

Adopted sister story: ESH except sister. OP was clearly a jerk to adopted sister, obviously! But wth is going on with the parents!? The family seems to have a serious lack of communication! They think about adopting and n3ver once speak to their son about it or explain? They seemed to never have taken the time to get his feelings across. Also, the son should still have the option to have 1 on 1 time with parents/friends and also sister. That is necessary for biological siblings as well. And here especially.

[@raz7573]

Parents cut student off story. So the parents pulled the rug out from under their daughter while she’s in college, causing her to lose their flat and phone. Then they have the audacity to be angry that she didn’t reach out to wish her mother a happy birthday? “Ummm sorry but I no longer have a phone and I’ve been too busy scrambling to find a place to LIVE so I couldn’t take the time out to consider your fee fees. So lose my number… oh wait. You already did. So have a nice life”.

[@trillionbones89]

These kinds of idiots exist. You find them at family values meetings.

[@TheMegalusDoomslayer]

That church thread devolved into something akin to arguing over theology. I think that Reddit thread was a perfect practice run for how the group chat was going to play out. The thread accidentally served it's purpose by arguing about what the thread's purpose was.

[@swaggchu789]

1:23:36 I'm in tears. I'm so thankful there are people out there with her and her husband's hearts. Billy wasn't even her brother's child but when your heart is kind, you're able to see any child in need as your own ❤

[@tashasimmons747]

Geralt, Roach and YENNIFER, thank you very much😂😂😂

[@rheatrythall5179]

For the adopted sister one While yes Op is the asshole is no one gonna mention the fact the adopted sister did threaten to tell there parents when the OP said no, cause they doesn't wanna be forced to do things together all the time While the outcome still does make OP not the a-hole it does give you a bit of perspective on why they finally snapped. If my sibling did that to me I'd have snapped too.

[@doodlefawn4742]

1:37:25 From the problems that OP had been explaining, to me it almost sounds more like he's trying to help his GF find clothes from stores that actually do fit her, rather than awkwardly big ones. Since all the clothes she gets are usually too big; and his brother's GF is a similar size, honestly it is the smallest bit sweet. She probably has complained about how she can't find clothes to fit her, and therefore he was on the lookout to find somewhere that might have something in her size. It feels more nuanced than the OP has written it, but maybe it isn't and I'm just looking too hard at a situation.

[@iAstra]

While that does seem to be his intention, it's never good to compare your girlfriend to others.

[@Amber-uh5rz]

The chocolate one i say NTA. She had a history of swapping what he got with her dark chocolate cuz she didn’t want it. As well as a history of overall not liking it. she told him there were chocolates in the fridge he didn’t eat them all straight away, and at any point she could have grabbed one well yes, it is good habit to ask before taking the last one, i don’t see how he is at fault for her last minute change of heart. i hate dark chocolate, and my bf hates chocolate in general. Whenever he gets chocolate he gives it to me. Today he bought me fudge which was really sweet. I offered him a piece and he refused. Imagine if he got a piece of fudge and said hey yeah there’s some fudge in the fridge for u and after about a week i ate the last slice and he got mad. all my life i’ve known him to hate chocolate and it would make sense to assume he wouldn’t want. Just like with OP and his wife

[@Vipre-]

45:29 I bought my gaming laptop a few years back, emphasis on "my". It cost what for me was a small fortune, literally more than what I paid for my current car, and took every cent of over 200 hours worth of my wages to save up for. I don't care if the kid is Jesus himself reborn, no one but me is allowed to use it end of discussion. Good on Mom in that one. 1:48:25 Most people are going to say NTA but I'm going to say ESH. It was incredibly inconsiderate of the SIL to say that in front of her but the family is actually right in their view that she hasn't moved past her son's death and she has no business dictating to others how they should be feeling or coping in that same situation. She probably should seek professional help if she isn't already. 1:56:00 seemed like a slam dunk but it's an exceptionally misleading title. His being mentally disabled has nothing to do with anything. He's a racist AH and he shouldn't be allowed to use his disability as a shield. 2:03:40 Yes he would totally be a major AH if he did that.

[@Citizenesse8]

CBD oil thief is TA beyond any shadow of a doubt. He shouldn't have assumed and if you thought it was a scam you definitely should have stopped using it. It's ridiculous when he says that his migraine went away and he was more relaxed than any other time than he's ever been. He should have said I'm sorry and replaced it. There is most definitely a difference in quality in the amount of THC that is taken out between a $240 bottle and a $10 bottle.

[@jscanlan22]

Someone who will not let go of an issue will plague you as long as you are with them. Run Demands of "they" should do something because it offends a visitor is more than a little entitled. If you go to another country, it is their country -- their rules.

[@fcold9402]

Yeah, hard to believe people are actually supporting the "ugly american" stereotype by insisting Karen gets her feminist way in another freaking country. Note i am a woman and pay for my own damn food, but its their freaking country.

[@jasonmims5057]

What kind of psycho gives someone a box of only dark chocolates and not assorted milk, white and dark.

[@larrylightner5638]

You are not the a-hole for not making your son share his P. C. He bought it with his own money

[@ronnidowner4469]

Gabapentin is a very strong drug and I'm honestly glad shes off it and CBD oil is amazing. His actions are honestly absolutely horrible and if I was her, I would break up with him for that. From someone who is in constant pain I understand her situation. You kinda get used to dealing with the pain but still have bad days and that's when you need support and pain killers the most. Also it is quite reasonable for CBD oil to be expensive because the oil is extracted from the seeds, which are very small.

[@lauraanderson8785]

It's a good thing she got off the gabapentin and codeine, they're both addictive and combining them can kill you if you take too much. Also on a bad pain day, if she had taken a higher dose of both and then gotten drunk, the chances of death would've been even higher. Taking three different substances that suppress your breathing has killed some people I know :(

[@eri-chan1943]

I never read reddit stories anymore because if I do that means I'll see some he reads here and then I'll get bored Wait this is a reupload isn't it? I'm not sticking around for the same stories Wait nvm it's a mash up of every story Wait nvm I'm going I have seen all the uploads

[@jdd9993]

Dinner story: OP has all day to prepare dinner. OP's husband works all day in construction, so of course he's starving by the time he gets home. Why can't she just talk to him during & after dinner, like most people do? OP could heat up the food by microwave.

[@despinasgarden.4100]

The first story was the sweetest thing i've ever heard....

[@skyelindsey687]

The stillbirth name one. YTA. She didn’t say her child didn’t matter, she said the name they gave her didn’t matter because it wouldn’t come back later to bite them or their child in the ass due to the child not being alive. This is a name they wanted to name a child for awhile now but chose not to because they all lived and it’s not really a good name for someone outside a fantasy world. The OP needs massive amounts of therapy and to just stop trying for children and use as much birth control available to her because she’s clearly not mentally well enough to even think about having a child. ETA: in the end, yes, a still born child does matter less because they’re in whatever deities hands you believe in and they’re now in charge of keeping that soul safe while the parents still on earth need to focus on caring for their living children and kept spend 12+ months grieving a soul they technically never knew.

[@stephjovi]

I like that op changed the names to take possession. Not one of the parents who give away a pet bc the kid lost interest

[@ZombieSazza]

OP, I had an abusive mother who enabled my brothers physical abuse, both were homophobic, and I left just before 19 with a charity that helped young people from troubled backgrounds. They understood I’d been abused all my life, psychologically abused and gaslit to hell, and physically abused to the point of hospitalisation several times, on top of being ableist and homophobic towards me. I left but had low contact throughout my young adult hold until my mid 20’s when it got too much for me, I’d been diagnosed with cPTSD and PTSD from their constant abuse growing up, permanent nerve damage where I’m mostly bedridden and in pain every second of every day, and mostly attracted to females, and they used all of these to harass, threaten, bully and abuse me over. I was over it, I cut all contact. The only time they tried contacting me after that? To send homophobic and ableist abuse, some lovely homophobic slurs thrown my way, and told I was being “sensitive” over “different opinions” (homophobia is a literal hate crime in Scotland, but aight), but I still felt bad for cutting all contact. That’s normal, you may have guilt for a while but don’t give into that guilt, your brain makes you feel guilty as if you’ve failed in some way, as if it’s your fault, that you need to give in, because for me that’s how I’d been raised, I’d been gaslit to hell and back that for such a long time, I believed I deserved the abuse I received growing up, so it took a long time for me to work through that mentality with my therapist, to accept that none of it was my fault, and to not feel guilty for cutting contact. Some parents don’t deserve children, but all children deserve good parents, some of us are just really unlucky because we don’t get the parents we deserved but we make an active effort to never behave like our parents, we break that cycle of abuse. So don’t feel guilty for cutting all contact, you deserve so much better in life, you deserve love and respect no matter who you are, whether you’re a homosexual/bisexual or not, your parents showed their hand when they believed you to be a lesbian, so don’t feel guilty. Your parents will have to live with their judgment, guilt and bigotry for the rest of their lives and that’s on them!

[@BlunderDownUnder]

Love you work - just some feedback, find it a bit frustrating on the stories that have no comments as to the AH status from the thread and or your own thoughts... As that's kind of the payoff for this subreddit. It's only a small percentage of the stories, so not a big deal.

[@tamitami7396]

Mandatory family game night = forced play. YAY!

[@jdd9993]

OP's daughter is almost 18 and starting to live her own life; family game night is not her priority. Let her do her own thing.

[@doloresreynolds8145]

The New England Landlord: Dear Sir, you need to establish a ‘rental management’ company to handle your rental business for you, so that you are not directly involved. I think this has become important, since you point out that 1) the rental market is tight, and 2) you currently own at least 60% of available rental housing in this town. By refusing to rent to friends/family, you are likely to cause a pretty big hardship for some of them in finding housing. If you remove the rental business from your personal hands, the tenants will never mix business with your personal relationships.

[@mapleleaftruck5402]

Wow, just wow. I sooo disagree with a lot of these posters/Markee on a lot of these posts. One bride "It's your wedding if you don't want a friend singing then that is your choice." To Another bride, its basically who cares that it's your wedding, that poor child should be allowed to wear a dress you don't aprove/like. Which makes you an Ahole. Wow, I mean really. If she doesn't want anyone else wearing white, even a child. That's her choice/preferrence and her Wedding! But she's the Ahole because it hurts the childs feelings... really? OMG I am so done with all of these videos!

[@jorgepeppertrees6612]

13:45 malicious compliance. Oh my heart 💗

[@Michael_Brock]

Admittedly cbd op was an ahole. But H & B are massively overcharging. Can be variants on grade of oil upto ten times the price I quoted. Cosmetic vs pharma or non allogeneic. But strangely enough that product was actually being sold by that sale outlet. (sole outlet).

[@Ladywizard]

Thought the mention of H&B was him claiming he could buy a bottle of liquor from them for the same effect

[@MsGbergh]

My parents would have disowned me if I got caught smoking weed, so I think OP got off lightly.

[@carolethorn3211]

OP fireman IS NOT THE A**HOLE! He made an enormous SACRIFICE for someone else. I would have been so proud of him. Do you think he DIDNT WANT to see his first child born? Puhleeze! (I swear i dont recall giving birth as being particularly scary. Overly dramatic women falling all over each other in order to preach to this man who fights fire for a living and makes sacrifices off the clock as well.)