Friend's Alcoholic Sister Is Upset I Want Compensation From Her r/Relationships

[@MelonMoth-hz6yw]

"She isn't heartless enough to subject other women to him" really stuck out to me because... she was heartless enough to subject her own kids to it 5 times.

[@tayflowers13]

Op is too young, or just doesn't want to admit that to themselve, because if they do then they would have to face what it means.

[@ChrisAndCats]

I've just put exactly the same thing!

[@GaskyChan]

“ She wouldn’t be so cruel subject other women to him” yet she subject her own children to that monster.

[@kaykay8855]

Hopefully when they are at the aunt’s shelter, maybe the threat of CPS, will stop the mom from going back.

[@wackyiv219]

As someone with a mother like that there's a 90% chance she's either gonna go back or find another abusive person to be with

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

​@@kaykay8855 Don't be too sure.

[@kaykay8855]

@@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement at the very least, op and the aunt should be able to at least keep the younger siblings with them. Even if mom runs back, she shouldn’t bring the younger siblings with her because aunt and op does have a lot of evidence against the abusive AH and the mom.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

@@kaykay8855 That would be, most likely, the best case scenario.

[@driversuz44]

Story 1: If she's refusing to be accountable, she's not a "recovering" alcoholic. Shes a thief with a serious addiction.

[@lynnw7155]

She's not 'struggling' at all. She fell off the wagon at the first chance. Sister needs to repay OP. Accountability is important.

[@JasperCatProductions]

Ahhhh drunks, never being accountable for their actions. My father was an alcoholic I have zero tolerance for for it. They destroy lives. They owe you the money. They would never be in my house or life again.

[@mztweety1374]

I totally dig it. Tragically with my mother drank self to death When I was two my brother said the best thing she left us was the fuck alone. My dad will talk to you about anything and everything …except Vietnam and my birth mom …bless his broken heart he had to fight a war and then come home to fight another war for custody of his kids. I think our best revenge was to raise our kids better than she never tried to raise us. I’m still mad.

[@naoko7184]

My sibling was a hard core alcoholic starting in middle school. We have a good relationship now (they’ve been sober for nearly a decade), but I’ll never forget how much they stole from me starting in early childhood. It went on all the way through college. After that I simply had no contact until they proved they were actually going to stay sober. I have absolutely no tolerance for alcohol and drug addicts. They are 100% responsible for their own actions.

[@VidGirl88]

Exactly this. I limit the alcohol in my house and have my wines stashed downstairs as living with alcoholics as a kid taught me not to trust alcoholics around anything because they don't know the meaning of accountability.

[@HodajuciParadoks]

If her sister is this sick, that she steals and drink whole bottle of expensive not her alcohol. She needs to heal, not travel and stay in homes and hotels with alcohol. Bringing addict in your home, is asshole move. They have to pay and leave.

[@atex6175]

I can almost guarantee you that the sister spotted the liquor cabinet/bar whatever op keeps her booze in and this was planned by the addict.

[@ashassassin]

An alcoholic whomis currently drinking whole bottles isnt in recovery. Ops friend is either delusional or being severely lied to by sister. But if she IS in recovery then she knows a big part of that is making amends so she should understand that she has to pay for her actions and choices.

[@GoldenXBoots]

Omg, she definitely needs to pay for it. She helped herself, stole it, did not ask anything. She went looking for it, else she would not have found it behind your spices. The real AH is her friend. Why did friend not tell OP to do away with the alcohol/lock it away? Nice adding all this drama without a warning. Honestly, we had the same happen during a house party. A "friend" helped himself to a brandy worth €150 that my father in law bought himself for when he is visiting with us. Said "friend" is no longer allowed anywhere near our liquor cabinet (which is locked now)

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

Why is "friend" even still allowed in your house if he's a "friend" and not a friend?

[@GoldenXBoots]

@@troubleinthevalley5884 Yeah, we really should reconsider that 🤔

[@heathermiller5765]

​@@troubleinthevalley5884 my thought exactly

[@theseeker9442]

Story 2: what a failure of a mother, i feel so sorry for OP and i hope they are able to get passed the abuse in a healthy way. I cant imagine how the mother can live with herself after subjecting her own children to that sort of horrific physical and mental abuse

[@Ll_ring00]

Her self esteem is so low that she'll sacrifice her own children for a man. She's a horrible mother that should've had her kids taken away from her.

[@meirin5316]

such a horrible mum.. i cant believe ppl like this

[@pippo17173]

​@@meirin5316mom is the literally definition of I can't do better. When you think your undesirable, you take what you can get. This had gone pass Sherlock syndrome, it's just desperation.

[@kirashepard5942]

Story 3: op should have uninvited her father, it's obviously that their relationship isn't going to improve anymore, that man is spineless and pathetic 😢

[@thomasjoseph5876]

EVERYONE is to blame in this story. The father for the way he acted/lives. The OP for simply not putting her foot down from the start, and the mother for pushing the OP to invite her toxic father and keep their relationship alive. I have a real problem with the OP's mother here, though. She KNEW how bad the OP's father is/was but yet, pushed and pushed for her not to uninvite him and to keep their relationship going. It's almost like the mother wanted the father to make her the victim of some sorted drama. If I were OP, I would get some counseling on how to stand up for myself, cut the father and her supposed stepmother off completely, and probably go low contact with the mother and make sure to tell the mother that she needs to keep her mouth shut and stay out of any relationship she may or may not have with her father.

[@marleneperry6972]

Apparently he doesn't seem to see it that way, his kids opinions are not above his plastic wifey.

[@ChrisAndCats]

The mother isnt "heartless enough to subject ither people to that", yet she was fine with subjecting her own kids - who shes supposed to love more than these random other people - to that.

[@anthonygilmour6236]

Honestly on reflection he's definitely 100% POS but the mother is also definitely 99+% POS.

[@bricksloth6920]

A "moment of weakness"?? I've never managed to down a whole bottle of gin in a moment. How about the time it took to dig through the cabinets to fnd it? And idgaf how inconvenient or trip ruining it is paying me back, you're paying me back. Period.

[@lisawhereisthecultjam]

I highly doubt the rest of the gin was spilled. She probably put the rest in a water bottle so she can stealth drink for the rest of the trip. That’s a shitty thing I would have done while I was in “recovery.” It’s hard to come to grips with what an asshole you are while struggling with addiction. But, you have to if you want to have a chance to have a non nightmarish life.

[@tfrtrouble]

It's absolutely horrifying that apparently everyone supported OP2 in their original post and didn't point out (until one commenter when it was all over) that severely provoking a violent man that your family is in the process of moving in with is a staggeringly stupid thing to do! The OP or their mother could have been killed. OP seemed quite young so they can be forgiven for being such an absolute moron, but shame on the adults on reddit who encouraged them.

[@johnsmith9784]

I know I’m generalizing but Reddit seems to be honestly filled with idiots with no real life experience. Everything is cured the moment someone gets therapy, everyone needs help even when they’re just a freaking asshole, and most of the time the advice they give is counter productive. As entertaining as it is I always kind of feel bad for the people who post looking for advice.

[@marylincherie1806]

they only mentioned the moving in part in the update. I also assumed OP was an adult from the original post. How should Reddit have known?

[@toxicginger9936]

Teenagers are staggeringly stupid. It's s blanket trait.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

What makes you think that Redditors, or anyone for that matter, are "adults?"

[@brianaschmidt910]

Redditors are one of three people. 1. A stupid kid with no real experience of their own. 45% 2. An entitled religious nut. 35% 3. A regular person. 20%

[@holyek7892]

The second story is so sad. They tried to do the right thing and use public shame only to learn no one cared enough to help (except for the distant aunt).

[@pippo17173]

I don't know why no one pick up on the history. When a person can be this awful, it should tell you that the abusers family knows and don't care.

[@ariste01]

We caught my SIL on camera stealing my pain medication. The first thing we did was make multiple copies. We gave one of them to a friend of mine who was married to a cop.

[@MiraTheWarlock]

You can call me heartless all you want, but OP wouldn't be the villain if they just took their siblings and ran. How are anyone expected to entrust the safety of abuse survivors with someone that can't even be bothered to protect their own children?

[@thomasjoseph5876]

OR....... Do what my brave nieces and nephews did when their mother (one of my sisters) refused to blame their stepfather for his abusive ways and for not protecting them from his wrath. They called Uncle Tommy to "Fix" the problem. So I went over to their house and did just that. The stepfather ended up leaving with very little of his things and nobody knows where or why. My sister is heartbroken as she has no idea why he simply "disappeared". Oh well, she will get over it. All that matters is my nieces and nephews are safe. My sister and them have permanently moved to my parent's house where the kids will be able to thrive and hopefully, my sister can regain her sanity.

[@MountainPearls]

⁠@@thomasjoseph5876 I taught school, I have no doubt what your saying could be true. In fact, the abu$e is true in pretty much every town. I do, however, question the veracity of someone who writes what it likely “Coulda - Shoulda -Woulda FanFiction” and makes such a confession in the comments section of AITA stories on KZbin. That being said, if this is true… you aren’t that anonymous on the internet! Jesus! Your name is Thomas Joseph…(and I’m guessing there is a decent chance your birthday is May 8, 1976) it wouldn’t be hard to track you down if YT reported you to the FBI. They have before. Don’t drink and put comments on KZbin. 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@MountainPearlsSo what exactly would you report me for doing??? I'm curious because I didn't admit to breaking any laws. You don't even know if I broke any laws. You have just your imagination based on a vague comment I made which ironically, KZbin removed. As far as finding me, I will give you $100k if you can find me.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@MountainPearlsLOL love how you changed your name. Afraid I was going to find YOU??? Sorry, but I don't really care enough to bother finding a troll like you. How's that report to the FBI going??? LOL

[@CaitlinKelly-mo1ld]

​@thomasjoseph5876 I can see the comment and I wouldn't report shit. Legal and right don't *always* connect...

[@DHB373]

“I have an addiction to punching people in the face!” Russel Crowe has entered the chat😂

[@drhacknslashzombietimelord6768]

Story 1: If I was op, the wouldn't be leaving my sight until I got paid back. If they tried to leave without paying me back, they would be needing medical assistance.

[@thegayestgoth]

I'll never understand the mindset of people who steal shit and are GENUINELY surprised /upset when they're expected to (or ordered to) replace what they stole/destroyed.

[@Yeahno-ey3rb]

Story 1: So many things wrong with this. Why didn't the friend clear it with OP first before inviting her sister along? Why wasn't the addiction mentioned so that precautions could be taken to make sure all stumbling blocks can be removed as much as possible? The sister is a horrible sister to let the addict struggle alone. Yup, OP should get her money back. And now thinking about it, is the sister really an addict or is that just an excuse for bad behavior Story 2: Never marry your mistress/ AP.

[@Ashakat42]

Accountability is a huge part of recovery. She needs to pay OP. Call the cops.

[@noname-ip9xe]

Even if it was just a few glasses she’d owe her, it being empty only makes it worse, struggling or not she chose to drink, she chose to steal, she had to search around to steal it.

[@laurag502]

you have to hold alcoholics accountable. not making her pay would be a disservice to her and her sobriety.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

I was expecting that nothing would have come from OP exposing their father, often times people don’t get to those levels of a abusive without having others enabling them or simply not caring about it. I also a doubt that they are done with him. Seeing as how this was the fifth time this happened and it’s safe to assume that mom will let him back in one day despite everything.

[@mrs.h2725]

It's beyond infuriating how many crap parents force their kids to live with abusers. I've been in abusive relationships. I've survived attacks. I understand how hard it is to leave. But subjecting your children to it is unforgivable, and the kids should be taken away from her. Foster system is awful but at least they'd have a chance of escaping abuse and lifelong PTSD from it.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@725Yup. They should have told the "right people" about the problem. My nieces and nephews told me about their abusive stepfather that their mother, my sister, wouldn't protect them from so Uncle Tommy came over and dealt with the problem. Stepfather left for places unknown very quickly without telling anyone or even taking most of his things. He will never be back. Problem solved, the kids are safe and while my sister is bummed he just up and left without telling her anything, she will get over it.

[@heatherdickau5335]

Last story - The issue with weddings is that people create a fantasy in their head about this day. The reality is that people don't live up to the fantasy. The father she wants vs. the father she has is not the same person. She didn't go into detail about his behavior as father before Eva. She may have this fantasy they he will magically become the dream father for the day. Unfortunately, the person he is can't/won't do that. He is just a crappy person all around.

[@Iflie]

What kind of fun trip was the sister expecting after her older sister gave in to the alcohol again? An alcoholic doesn't just have a drink and then goes on a few weeks happy sober vacation. Unless she chains her to herself she's going to be drunk instead.

[@UchuKejiMovan]

Second story OP's MOTHER is as big a POS aa the stepfather. I'm not trying to hear all the abusive relationship bullshit she was actively and knowingly exposing her children to that man.

[@trillionbones89]

There is a point where abusive childhood changes from being a valid explanation to a cheap cop out. The mother is past beyond any measure of excusability

[@anthonygilmour6236]

​@@trillionbones89yep I wonder if the mother has EVER been an actual adult and acted with accountability for her actions. I also wonder since OP said stepfather if ANY of OPs siblings have the same father?

[@livewellwitheds6885]

former addict [5 years clean now] the sister absolutely needs to be accountable for her actions. similar to behavior of mental illness, struggling does not excuse shitty and/or illegal behavior like this. recovery without accountability is... nothing.

[@league-of-shadows]

Story 3: It's so funny Eva is SO concerned with OPs mom when you can tell OPs mom doesn't think of her at all.

[@MrsWheezer]

Last story: Happy people do not waste their time trying to make others unhappy. I suspect OP’s mom had a great relationship with her dad and is heartbroken her daughter doesn’t have the same. However, the reality is OP’s dad is incapable of having a good relationship with anyone. Mom needs to let go of that dream.

[@pippo17173]

Her mom must be the definition of a door mat then. Women he cheated on you and you want your daughter to still keep the relationship? Screw that.

[@GoldenXBoots]

Story 3. Wow, just wow. Dad and Eva deserve each other 💃💅 Dad and Eva just uninvited themselves both with Eva's behaviour. Weddings should be with people you love. So glad your wedding was all you wanted with lovely people 💛

[@Ll_ring00]

He's jealous of her new relationship, he wanted to see her miserable and alone. He's angry that his thoughts aren't true.

[@A.n0neeM0usee]

"Black's Books," one of the funniest series ever. So underrated, like "The IT Crowd." When TV was at its finest.❤

[@faeriefire78]

The desperate way OP's dad in the last story keeps trying to insist his younger, hotter side-piece-turned-wife is just _soooo_ amazing speaks volumes. I guess now that he has to deal with her crazy outside of the sack he's got buyer's remorse and he's frantic to convince himself and others that he didn't nuke his life. Sucks to suck!🤷‍♀

[@macylouwho1187]

We were warned prior to a recovering alcoholic coming to stay at our home which has a full pub room in it for my husband and his friends. Because we were warned prior to arrival, we-with the help of our kids-boxed up EVERY last bottle of alcohol in the bar and removed it to a safe location out of the house for the duration of the stay. This is what reasonable guests would do-let you know before they get there that alcohol on site would be a problem. For us, it wouldn’t have been about the loss of the expensive bottles of booze so much as not wanting to accidentally help a recovering addict fall off the wagon. But man that would suck losing a special bottle given by a special person in your life that was also costly to replace. Not cool. Those were terrible house guests and they were completely irresponsible and that theft was a loss to the OP. Sad.

[@jasmineflower1988]

The quote by Bernard Black of Black Books! Damn that got me! Please people if you don't know it's a British TV series called Black Books and you need to watch it!

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Even if OP’s dad is in an abusive relationship I find it difficult to muster any sympathy for him. Both he and Eva are toxic and they feed off one another and I think he wants to be “abused” just so he can cause strife while using his wife being “controlling” as a shield.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 1 - The friend is a genuinely bad sister if she knows her sister is in recovery and just leaves her unattended in someone else’s home when she doesn’t know if it’s a dry house or not. Honestly OP is better off not being friends with this girl because this was entirely preventable, and her sister clearly needs help more than vacation if being in a different place is triggering enough for her to break sobriety. Hopefully she gets the help she needs, but OP deserved to be compensated for the liquor she drained.

[@roverdover4449]

Married couples are a unit when it comes to wedding invites. To invite one person without their partner is basically the same as not inviting either.

[@Samantha-qj9wq]

First story - the friend should've told you that her sister was coming with her to stay with you, let alone the fact that she's in recovery and that new places stress her out! That's unbelievably high levels of genuine stupidity and neglect! But no one else is as responsible for this as the sister herself. I'm a recovering addict, and I would never put myself in the position where I knew I was masking everything and falling apart on the inside and then get left alone where alcohol is easily accessible. That's all on her for deciding to not only drink, but drink THAT MUCH. She's gotta learn that there are negative consequences that you can't run from to certain actions.

[@lcoq19]

I'm only surprised that the alcoholic didn't refill the gin bottle with water and put it back where she found it. Although she was probably too drunk to think that far ahead.

[@littlegreycat]

I was so relieved when the kid said that Aunty helps DV survivors

[@Fangybite]

We got out of a DV situation in 2019. My mom met him while I was in college (she would pick me up from my evening classes). Surprise surprise, he ended up being a heroin-addicted narcissist (like, a $2k per month addiction, which is insane to me considering how cheap it's supposed to be?). Prior to us discovering his addiction, he would drive me to and from my boyfriend's uni apartment WHILE HIGH. I remember texting my mom once that he was driving really weirdly. He did all the typical abuse bullshit... Gaslighting, financial abuse, breaking things, screaming matches... He threatened to kill my elderly cat. He strangled my mom with the van seatbelt until she lost consciousness. In the summer of 2019 he had his biggest blowout. Used our kitchen trash can to slam the stove (breaking both), screamed, threatened. It was all over the TV not working. I had my brother on the phone at the time while mom and I huddled in a corner. He asked if I wanted him to call the police. The PD called me shortly after to ask questions while the raging still went on in the background. They sent out two officers and mom managed to get me out the front door and she came after. The cops showed up and went inside to talk to him. They didn't do anything other than tell us to figure out where to go ourselves. Thanks. A few weeks later, while he was away on a weekend, mom and I moved me and my birds out to a neighborhood friend's house (my cat went to stay with my brother). In December, mom got out and stayed with my brother for a little while (she couldn't really live there since he is on govt assisted housing). All three of us filed for restraining orders. My brother's and mine were dropped pretty much instantly, but mom's went forward to the court stage. This man continued to make threats. He even showed up at my brother's apartment to scream at my mom. We had never told him where my brother lived. Later on we found a tracking device underneath our car. In the middle of court proceedings, nobody had heard from him in a while so his daughter halfway across the country called in a wellness check and he was found in the townhouse having OD'd (we suspect intentionally, but on paper it was ruled accidental). Good riddance and burn in hell, motherfucker.

[@Zurround]

Story 1: I have heard horror stories of the kinds of trouble alcoholics can get into while drunk. Drunk driving car crashes resulting in deaths or injuries and megathousands of dollars in damage, Pregnancies or STD from regretted intimacy while drunk, violent drunks getting badly hurt (or hurting someone else badly and going to prison for it) in fights. It is NIGHTMARISH the bad things that can happen to a drunk person not making wise decisions. On that scale a few hundred dollars as much as it would $uck to have to pay (I am not rich it would hurt me I admit) in the big scheme of things SHE GOT OFF EASY.

[@VFKAdventureRabbit]

Story1 be like "I stole your drink but I can't compensate you bc it'd ruin my vacation" like bro you just drank your trip, fun's over now.

[@Zurround]

As bad as this is that she is trying to get out of paying EVEN IF (hypothetically) the alcoholic was rich and took full responsibility and I come home to a drunk person who is supposed to be in recovery and even if she says to me "Hey man, sorry for drinking your bottle of expensive gin. Here is 300 dollars compensation. Feel free to use the money to buy a new one if you want" or something along those lines it STILL would not solve the problem of a supposedly recovering alcoholic getting drunk IN MY HOUSE which would be terrible EVEN IF THEY SNUCK IN THEIR OWN DRINKS. So EVEN IF she took full and immediate responsibility this would have been an absolutely terrible situation. The refusal to do so just makes it EVEN WORSE.

[@mindyschocolate]

That’s $300. NTA. Her alcoholic issues are for her to deal with. Her sister can split half if nothing else. Most people have booze in their homes. Why wasn’t this brought up earlier.

[@theoriginalburgandy550]

I’m 1000000% stealing “Mt F off”, it is GOLD!

[@emo7636]

The sister is not 'in recovery', she is in relapse and has no business being on a fun trip.

[@luvondarox]

S1 Sis needs to be held accountable for her actions. If "Friend" has a problem with it, then they can pitch in. They're both jerks for trying to avoid consequences.

[@n.o.7681]

First story was so sad. It takes on average 7-10 attempts to leave DV relationships

[@Jasonfallen71]

Inviting cheating dad: that OP is one of the most oblivious, vacant and clueless people I’ve ever heard of - or she’s a messed up monster. There are no other choices because there are no other explanations. What a bizarre way to abuse your own abused mother whom you supposedly love. My conscience is crying for the mom who does not deserve this. The gracious mom who is letting OP realize herself that she must go NC with dad. Mom is too good to force OP to do the right thing. It’s all so mean and nasty.

[@Russman67]

Hold up. So the recovering alcoholic had to search for this bottle of gin that she downed. It's one thing if it was in plain sight, which still doesn't excuse it. She's not an accountable person in recovery.

[@Sandokitsune]

I ❤ our Aussie hubby Markee! Please keep posting your videos. You’re the only one I know who gives the satisfying updates to all the juicy Reddit stories

[@podunk_woman]

Uni friend needs to hold her sister accountable if she doesn't want to be an enabler. Cleaning up an alcoholic's mess isn't doing them any favors.

[@driversuz44]

LOL, my cheating exBIL is now miserably married to his AP, who treats him like the cheater he is. I'm very happy for him.

[@NickanM]

_"Recovering"_ Alcoholic.....

[@PastorRapture]

Story 2: the stepdad should be brought up on criminal charges and subject to capital punishment.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

All Stories: As water is to fish, and air to birds, so, too, is contempt to the contemptible.

[@sorinsilverheart3200]

Story 2: she'll find a way to go back to him and frankly, i say let her. She wont learn.

[@Sodabubbless]

Story 2: My brother physically abused me for years, he’s better now. But I still resent him & my parents even though my parents weren’t really at fault for not believning me. My brother had undiagnosed adhd which can cause violent behaviour, he takes meds now and he’s not violent verbally or physically. I know this yet I still can never forget what he did. Same with my parents, my dad still doesn’t believe me, my mum divorced him when she found out and seprated me and my brother. My brother quit hockey and had to cut contact to heal with my no therapy abusive hockey loving dad so I was left with him. My mum did almost everything right yet at times I still resent her for not believing and noticing me sooner and for leaving me with my dad. I can’t even imagine what op is going through, having a parent so clearly ignore their safety

[@tinycrimester]

being an alcoholic doesn't make you an automatic klepto.

[@chasefrost1401]

She's not a recovering alcoholic, she's just an alcoholic if she's not willing to take responsibility. And I definitely agree that her sister is a shitty sister if all she's doing is enabling. Because that's exactly what she's doing. She wouldn't be if they cancelled their trip, and paid OP back. It's called being a respectable person. And they are proving to be not very respectable.

[@wolfwise1135]

One of the things that made my cousin’s wedding awesome was how great my aunt looked she looked stunning and then her ex showed up in a polo, if anything under dressed for a wedding. I called my aunts dress her revenge dress. Lol.

[@jemase7931]

Yes. Uninvite your dad. All he wants to do is play mind eff'ing games.

[@laurenjones9924]

So an alcoholic binges on your liquor cabinet and you’re expected to just be ok with it?

[@kirashepard5942]

Story 1: can't he call the police? This is a horrible attitude!! I can't believe the "friend" didn't offer to compensate or said sorry, disgusting.ñ, not to mention the bad manners of looking through someone else's kitchen/house without that person knowing or giving permission. Did she stole something? at this rate it could be possible 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Pigs don't care about doing their job.

[@RaspberryHugs]

call me toxic but knowing she's closely monitoring I would wait long enough to "forget" and then write something like "so how was the date with Sandra? you're right when you said the banshee was too stupid too realise you have a second phone lol"

[@macylouwho1187]

Second story-I could have written that myself, it’s that close to my own story. Except I think that I was born a b-tchy battle ax of a girl from the word go, so I fought back with everything that I have in me. I didn’t much care about what happened to me I guess. “When you have nothing to lose”, I guess 😂. He hit her in a bar and she called me from the bathroom crying and I drove down at 16 years old and snuck her out. I drove back to the bar and punched him as hard as I could in the face in front of everyone and screamed “stop hitting my mom!” (My only bio parent). When he came back and shoved me around, I called the police on him in my room while she cried and begged me not to get him in trouble. I rolled my eyes and did it anyway. She lied for him to get him out of trouble and that’s when I skipped out on her. She had every avenue to leave him (being one of those hot stupid chicks who dates terrible men) so someone would have taken her in a minute. Plus her family would have helped. I finished school couch surfing with friends and she only left him when he punched all of her front teeth out of her head and almost choked her to death. She had those hemorrhages in her eyes like women have when found dead of strangulation-that’s how close she came to dying. THEN she left. She and I were never the same and we have a very contentious distant relationship. She never did anything better for herself and now lives in one of my rental houses. I married my high school sweetheart and we moved in together after graduation. We worked like dogs to better our lives and we’re great now. Meanwhile my mom lives rent free in my rental and we barely speak. I feel as though I’ve paid her back for raising me (poorly) and I won’t have any regrets or guilt over anything when she dies. I did my part. As for him he was eventually arrested for yet another felony and then sent back to prison. I’m a petty b-tch with an attitude towards anyone who does me serious wrong-so I wrote him hate mail in prison. Just in case he thought that people had forgotten him and how “great” he was 😂. I haven’t seen him in years. I was never worried because we’re American so we have a house full of weaponry 😂. We’re in cowboy country and we don’t mess around.

[@debbiehenderson7830]

The last op needs to cut all ties with her sperm donor because that’s all he is now. He clearly doesn’t want a relationship with her. Yes, he is in an abusive relationship himself but that doesn’t make it right that he allows his daughter to be treated that way by his wife. Disgusting behaviour

[@suitov]

That last story is familiar in vibes, if not details. I'm gonna call it: that cheater and his new wife are both narcissists. It's rare for a narc4narc relationship to work, but if it does, it will be with one of the narcissists being the dominant one. It's the new wife in this case. It's the new wife in my father's case too. SUCH familiar dynamics there.

[@SXLLYSTRXNG]

I have no idea what happened 2 the previous Markee but this padded room Markee is awesome🥰🥰

[@east-endjustice7883]

The drunk searched through op's stuff too! Thats how it found the expensive alcohol, its not its fault... blame it on the ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, alcohol! Hahahahaha trip needs to be over regardless and i dont care about your vacation! This reminds me of when this dude stole an expensive bottle of tequila from a friend's house and was immediately noticed as it was in a case that was locked but the lock was basically for show and was able to be opened by just forcibly pulling on the door, and thus is was noticeable that it was broken. Then the bottle was in his waistline and when confronted he made this awkward step and it fell down his pant leg and broke and glass was in his ankle and actually cut him and he was freaking out and wanted in the house to treat the wounds etc. Of course he was not allowed back in lol.

[@groofromtheup5719]

she searched before she was drunk

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

_"It's so hard not to blame her for my issues cause by my father. "if she had just stayed away I wouldn't be xyz!" which might hold true for some things, but it's not fair to put that on her_ Uh, actually, yes, it is fair to put it on her. A parent's duty is to protect their children. So, one, don't have children with abusers and, two, if your partner becomes abusive, you get you and your kids out of that situation and _don't go back._

[@sterngerlach9184]

Story 1: Just suppose DrunkGirl(TM) took one swallow of the gin, and scared herself so much she poured the rest down the sink. Would EnablerGirl(TM) secretly congratulate her on her bravery? Secretly, of course, so they can wallow in her virtue for the rest of the trip.

[@stephjovi]

oh can`t pay what she owes without ruining her trip? Than end your trip what she needs is not a trip she needs to get back into recovery.

[@maurer3d]

Story 1: NTA, you don't bring an recovering alcoholic (who is having trouble staying sober) into a house with alcohol without warning the host. And you definitely don't leave them alone, in a house with alcohol, this is 100% on your friend and her sister..

[@KadeStringer2.0]

Op’s friend sucks for not standing up to her sister.

[@jessicaDd9692]

As a recovering alcoholic I’d pay for the damn alcohol and even if I couldn’t afford it then I would ask if we could set up a payment plan.. how disrespectful considering you were already allowing them to stay in your home and save money on hotels for vacation.. insane trashy people

[@tracygardner6318]

She deafly needs to pay you back, in small amounts she drink one of your most expensive alcohols without even asking. Your friend should be upset with her sister for what she did, and should be telling her to pay you back.

[@ComaLies225]

The first story reminds me of a guy I know who has a severe alcohol problem. It’s so severe that he drank a bottle he found….and it turns out the body was filled with urine. I wish I was joking

[@hagnat]

last story... OP said things went South, but it seems things went the best way possible! Dad managed to exclude himself from OP's life and wedding, and the cerimony happened without any drama. Great news!

[@kristinecollier9155]

I love ANY story you tell, Markee!

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Good evening Markee 👍 Have a awesome night 🤗 Good Morning/night everyone 👋🤗

[@Wildpeonies23]

Story 2. Been in that situation for over a decade to my mom second husband and as I young girl with a little sister I tried but I ended up realizing my mom was our adult and the protection for her little girls was nonexistent. Luckily her husband has been in prison since then. I not looking for any apologies from her now ex-husband because the abuse was already done but my mom thinks we should just forgive and forget. Like as if that is an experience in life we had to go through.

[@anthonygilmour6236]

Because if you do then she can claim to everyone including herself that "See everyone I told you all I wasn't a completely neglectful moron"

[@rmhartman]

don't do the crime if you can't pay the fine

[@user-wj5cx2zp7v]

This story is why I refuse to date in a nutshell - I swore to myself that I'd choose 25 to life the next time somebody tried to control me.

[@fritzophreenia]

Story 3 OP. Invites all different kinds of problems in her life and then wonders why she is having a difficult life.

[@raquelk.2169]

I've never been so early for an update! Good morning, Markee 😊

[@annem7806]

If the drunk wont pay up, call their parents. Lush is not your problem. Friend set you up in theft. Raise hell.

[@annem7806]

Domestic Vio is a mental health issue. Send it to CPS. Save the younger kids. Find some where else to live. He is dangerous.

[@annem7806]

Domestic Vio is a mental health issue. Send it to CPS. Save the younger kids. Find some where else to live. He is dangerous. Get restraining order w attorney s help. Mom needs intensive help, stay close to Aunt.

[@annem7806]

Dad is a narcissist. Get counseling on how to get over this. Pin codes on all wedding plans. Do have FIL as back up to walk you down the aisle. LET HIM LIE & stfu about it.

[@annem7806]

Upgrade Mom to first class. You share too much info.😮 We told you so. He is cruel & YOU are an enabler. Open your eyes.

[@mbyerly9680]

I don't care what you read. I enjoy your voice and personality. The material not being something everyone is reading is a plus.

[@Chanel31113]

Loving these videos lately!

[@lina9535]

Totally not me accidentally hitting the speed button while trying to balance my phone, making a section of reading the comments sound utterly hilarious 😂

[@carolsimpson4422]

Since op has only met step mother once, how does she know father is telling the truth about her? Maybe he is just blaming his wife for his own decisions to ignore his kids

[@heatherdickau5335]

Face it, Markie we love all your stories.

[@arleneclark6369]

Story 1, if the friend had told OP that the sister is a recovering alcoholic they could have hidden or locked up the booze, that would have been better for the sister's recovery and OP would still have his expensive gin. I know it can be a private issue but the friend isn't helping the sister by leaving her in a house with booze knowing what could happen.

[@Bozpot]

"Ber-NARD Black"!? 😱🤣

[@jqdsilva]

That last story was EXHASPERATING to hear. Op and her mom are doormats and I'm sorry but she decided to grow a spine too little too late at her father. I'm really not happy with the update either.

[@dm9078]

OP must really hate her mother! Is this a AITA? Because she certainly is!

[@PSA-f8j]

Sis should at least offer to pay for half the cost of the bottle, and pay the rest later and then get her sister who obviously is in crisis into rehabilitation. Sis has screwed up as sister and sponsor and need hand off to someone or someones who know what they are doing.

[@burntblonde2925]

When the Mother invites a crappy drink, violent person in her children’s lives, she’s responsible for their actions also

[@ellyneil8219]

Good morning/evening. I know what I'm listening to on my walk to work! 🙂