TOXIC SIL Moved Into Our House TRASHED The Place Now REFUSES To Leave r/Relationships

[@A.n0neeM0usee]

After all of the toxic family stories, the story about OP's girlfriend bringing in her family to celebrate with OP's brother for his 🎂 🥳 🎉 🎈 🎁 🎊...how uplifting. One of those heart of gold 💛 ✨️ stories. She is amazing.

[@terramarini6880]

This one has me in all my feels...🥰 Especially that last commenter, no posh kids for us, we're inviting real people from now on!

[@J_e_s_s]

I think I fell in love with his girlfriend too. Dang, she seems wonderful and it's clear that it runs in the family.

[@jqdsilva]

That last story gave me feels. And the comments. Hugs to everyone.

[@absolutelyridiculous6743]

I love wholesome people. Homemade, humble, lovely, giving, accepting, people 😀

[@fufufuaru]

Story 2, that was such a sweet story and update, super happy for them

[@madgevanness4011]

And he ordered his servants to bring in any one they found for the banquet.

[@emm_uhh]

I went to private school on scholarship so I had some rich classmates. I never missed a birthday party, except when I got sick the night before my best friends. My favorite part was picking a present the kid would like (I still love gift giving). So sad to hear so many stories about no kid showing up.

[@astronautviolet153]

Story 1 I really do hope the baby daddy gets full custody of his boys, because they're not gonna have a decent life with the mom right now. Opie and her husband and new child need their space.

[@blackrex828]

Why so he can complain about working 12 hrs, come home to a mess, and no healthy food to eat. To me it sounds like dude wasn't helping his wife/baby mama out and just gave her 100% of housewife and mom duties.

[@astronautviolet153]

She literally was not taking care of the children, making them sick, not cleaning the house. Can up for themselves

[@anya0410]

@@blackrex828 Yeah but he is the only one working. If both of them were working, then they should share household chores, but if one is working, the other should should most of the chores

[@SnowyWolborg]

@@blackrex828 It's the least she can do when she literally doesn't know how to do anything else. She can't drive, she can't cook, she doesn't know how to clean up after herself, she's never had a job. In other words, this woman is completely worthless Nothing but dead weight.

[@terramarini6880]

@@blackrex828 That's the literal job description of a stay at home mom, what in the world are you on? My husband worked and I stayed home with the kids, He never had to scrub a toilet or do laundry after I quit my job to have kids. What else am I gonna do with all that time, lunch with the ladies? Hell nah.

[@gcarr1089]

Last story - glad op saved her child's party and found him a while bunch of new friends,. Glad they turned it into a regular event, bet the rich kids who never got a chance to go would have preferred their party.

[@DJCherryTempo]

It's always refreshing to see a story that ISNT drama filled like the little brother one. That one hit me right in the feels, critical hit, it was super effective.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

I know me too! What a sweet person! They sound so cute together! I hope we get an update after they get married! I'm really invested in this lmao

[@mbyerly9680]

Why do men keep having children with women incapable of taking care of the babies or having an adult relationship with him? The ex is as much at fault as OP's lazy ass SIL. Why does a man choose a horrible family member over his own family? OP was way too patient. I hope OP wises up and leaves her useless husband, too. Oh, and call CPS on the SIL if she stays. Those kids deserve better.

[@brandi5126]

S1: Not surprised. But give her a date to leave by. Make living with you hell. And if she doesn't leave have your bags ready so that you can have peace of mind from these enablers.

[@vicky5001]

That Halloween story actually made me cry. Good people.

[@cynthiaj7948]

The way my brother did it was genius. He had me take her to the jeweler he had to design her ring. I took her to the store to look like I am looking for a ring for me . We just sat at down lo I ked at ring. He guy was slick . He asked us what would our idea engagement ring would look like. He really got her ring exactly how she wanted . The look on her face was priceless.

[@MySjenna]

Story 1: It's sad no one thought to call CPS and save the kids from their neglectful, abusive, toxic mother. OP complains about the mess and screaming children making her life hell. I wonder if she ever gave a thought to what kind of hell those kids were living as well.

[@arvinharveybennie2367]

Many years ago, I saw something similar where a little boy in Chucky Cheese had a birthday do and none of his friends turned up. His mom was in a corner in tears, the shift manager who just got in, gauged the sadness and was on her phone non stop and soon TONS of kids came in and filled the section reserved by the boys mother for the little boy birthday party. That little boy had the greatest smile. Props to Portland, Oregon Chucky Cheese for hiring such a kind hearted lady.

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 The classic “you don’t have a x problem, you have a boyfriend/husband problem.” Get a lawyer and start the eviction progress. Seriously, all the woman had to do was clean and cook. Spaghetti, Stir Fry, Shepard’s Pie, Rotisserie chicken and with heated up frozen veggies… It is not that hard to make a simple bowl for dinner. It is also not hard to wash dishes-soak in warm water, get a sponge and soap, and then wipe it until all the food stuff is gone.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

I wonder how long before the baby daddy boots her out again. 😬

[@LunaP1]

The twat is a lazy leech and husband is in the FOG about his sister's behavior.

[@Iflie]

Aw it's so heartwarming that all the other kids showed up and made the little guy feel special, in the Halloween party story too. i heard about these parties from reddit that they invite the whole class and it seems to be a low priority for the kids and parents to come, maybe because that would mean there are so many of them. When I was a kid we'd only be allowed to ask around 8 kids and you'd make special invites and it made the kids feel special, they always really wanted to come.

[@GlucoseGuy]

That last comment about the halloween party really got to me. I don't know what makes a fancy halloween party, but that party sounded awesome.

[@untiedshoelaces2588]

Story 2: We need more stories like these!

[@ingloriousbetch4302]

I had 3 kids by 21 (bc pills failed, latex allergy and wasn't "allowed" a tubal due to age, number of kids, and no husband/partner to "approve" it 🙄). I had my own place, but on the rare occasion I had to stay at a DV shelter or with a friend, I made sure my presence was near nonexistent. I cleaned their house, had my kids at a park or going for walks, etc. I was terrified of being a 'burden. I do not understand the laziness these ppl have to leave their messes and kids for others to deal with. My son, DIL and sagoinisi live with us temporarily and she's VERY pregnant with #2 (oops baby). She cleans the kitchen and living room, sometimes bathroom and it's greatly appreciated. I don't require of others what I require from myself, though. She really just has to focus on growing the squish and caring for sagoinisi because everyone works. That SIL would've been out so fast.

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

Story one: DAAAAAMN! OP tore her husband and her SIL a new one!!! D8 Story two: So fricking wholesome! :')

[@Tokuijin]

From the way Op in the 1st story described her SIL, I could have sworn we shared the same SIL.

[@bernadettehawes]

Good ending to story 1. Glad that the couple stayed together and supported one another in the situation. The last two stories were a joy to listen to.

[@Athlynne]

Awww, your fiance is already being such a good SIL to your brother. Congrats, OP, I wish you and this awesome girl a long, happy marriage and as many healthy children as you both want.

[@Boe-Temeraire]

You know most Reddit stories will have you thinking that humanity - all of it - is the absolute worst, but then you get stories like that last one that make you think “man, humanity might be a shit show, but it’s not all that bad”.

[@ashh4929]

Story 2: Them some wholesome onions right there! 🥲🥰

[@typosinthebrain5363]

why does the SIL's baby daddy not take the kids if the SIL is so incompetent... He should also take care of HIS KIDS..

[@ebagentj]

S2: Such a sweet, wholesome story. I hope OP and his future wife have many happy years together, and his little brother makes some friends in addition to his future SIL's family. I also loved the story in the comments about having the idea to invite the children of all the domestic workers when the "posh" kids all flaked, and how it turned into a huge highlight for all of these children. I hope that person's son remains friends with these kids to this day and is able to see past class differences as a result.

[@belantww]

The last comment on the last story was lovely. Good mom for making that happen.

[@joycetaepke2533]

Oh that last story gave me the warm fuzzies!!♥️

[@unicornglitterfart5201]

These stories never seem real. And then I remember my own hell that is very similar to this story. Years ago when my husband and I were first married and active duty military, we both got orders to deploy. Since we had no children yet, we didn't go thru the process of not being deployed at the same time so that one of us was always home. We had a dog and our house was a rental with option to buy when we came back home. We'd have enough to pay cash for the house and it was our dream home. My dad had our pup and all was well until MIL approached us about a month into our deployments with an idea for SIL (his sister) to stay in the house because she was down on her luck. She'd pay utilities and our pup could come back home instead of being with my dad 3 hours away, and someone would be there to care for the place. Perfect, right? Husband and I came off deployment within 3 days of each other and he waited in the town I was flying back into, then we came home together. We didn't want to spend a penny extra on anything because we were about to hand over + $150k in a few days for the house, so we drove the 22 hours home straight thru instead of flying. We were exhausted and just wanted to relax with our dog and spend the evening in the hot tub. As soon as we stepped out of the car in our garage, we smelled the strongest, foulest odor. It was coming from the house. My stomach dropped because I knew what I'd find when we went inside, but oh me, oh my it was SO much worse. My SIL got heavy into drugs while we were gone and literally turned our home into a drug flop house. At least a dozen junkies were passed out all over the floor. We literally stepped over a dead body in the living room, she died from an overdose. My SIL was in our bedroom, which had been locked and off limits while she was staying there, nodding off with a tourniquet still on her arm. The house was literally destroyed. Instead of buying the home, the owner was so pissed when she came by for a random inspection a day before we came home that she yanked the option to buy from us, demanded we break the lease and pay to restore the house, and in return she will not sue us for damages. She put her blood, sweat, and tears into this home with renovations and everything, just before we rented it. The only reason she rented the home was she was getting married and her fiance's home was big enough for their blended families. She alone had teenage triplets. Her house wasn't large enough for his 4 children that he had sole custody of. My MIL had seen what she was doing to the house and kept quiet about it and let her continue on. The damage to the house was right around $150k, just about every penny we had. So we were literally broke with no place to go. My FIL and MIL also refused to take us in. I still cry sometimes when I think about it although that was close to 20 years ago. The owner did give us a good recommendation because she realized it wasn't our fault and she gave the ok to let SIL stay there, but she was devastated because she did all the renovations to her home by herself. It was a source of pride for her and once she calmed down she told us we could pay her back in installments, but we chose to make her whole because it was the right thing to do. She still wouldn't sell to us because we'd have given her the original purchase price and fix it ourselves over time, but she refused. That house was her baby. It took her 5 years to renovate it singlehandedly after her husband died and was left as a single mother. They had planned the reno work and were going to do it together, and then he was killed in a car accident. Soon after she completed the house she met her fiance. Completing the house was very meaningful to her on account of her husband and his death. Ok, so this long novel was written just to say that yes, people like this really do exist. The owner of the house was very picky on who she rented or sold to because she wanted to feel as if they would love and care for it as she did. Seeing it destroyed was so devastating for her.

[@sgtwhisker26]

Most of the time ultimatums are not beneficial for relationships but there are always exceptions to the rule and the first story is a perfect example of it desperate times call for desperate measures.

[@ljh5141]

Last story, YAY! Awesome group of people! Surrounded by love, who could ask for more.💕💕

[@halla3184]

Yeeessssss thank you for adding in that wholesome story! What a breath of fresh air!

[@Nonymous4]

Husband in story 1 is a horrible husband. Hopefully OP leaves and finds someone worthy of her

[@karendaniel620]

I needed that second story this morning. Been kinda rough.

[@WobblesandBean]

I'm so glad you ended the video with such a wholesome story. That's the sweetest thing I ever heard 💜

[@sheilabracey4679]

I know - a wonderful and beautiful relationship story online. Will my heart ever recover.

[@Athlynne]

I love OPs who stand up for themselves!

[@undeadladybug7723]

I was one of those kids whose parties always fell apart because nobody came (summer birthdays freaking suck when you're in school), wish I'd had awesome people like the second and third OPs in my life back then.

[@CandaceDreamer]

That was so wholesome! What a good note to leave the video on. Thanks markee!

[@AngharadMac]

I have so missed the old intros! Also missing your takes on the stories. Hugs, markee!

[@TheLugiaSong]

I love ending on wholesome stories. The Halloween party made me tear up, I thought it was going to end bad but I'm so glad it didn't.

[@franl155]

It's so nice to have some good-news stories! sadly they're the exception rather than the rule.

[@WobblesandBean]

Right? I wish it wasn't so rare.

[@Logitah]

The last stories made me feel all warm and fuzzy! Party-related memories can be formative for kids. (I know mine were) These amazing parties are going to stay with these kids forever!

[@mikeremski2102]

Would have had more impact if OP handed SIL eviction notice, turned to husband, handed divorce papers saying "30 days from now these take effect"

[@ComaLies225]

Story 1: NTA. I had a similar situation but this was with an older relative who I later found out had an addiction. It was supposed to be for a few months but lasted over 2 years. It got so incredibly toxic that I just kicked her out regardless of her tenant rights. I was able to move out as well so she doesn’t know where I’m currently staying plus no one is willing to take her in or help her. Sometimes you gotta be an ah for your benefit and mental peace

[@TheLilyMustang]

The last story has me crying from the original story to the replies about other kids parties. My son is 5 now and every party my husband & I freak out that no one will come(his family is very bad at RSVP & he just started school) or we won’t be able to get his bio dad/step mom & sibling on the video call(in another state). It scares me now and his birthday is months away

[@beastshawnee]

The SIL was allowed to not learn adulting. Which includes cooking cleaning driving childcare. When offered free cooking lessons AFTER having 2 children-she refuses. At least she took the kids with her when she left. I was afraid you’d get stuck with the toddlers as well. I taught my kid how to happily do chores with no stress even when she was very young! I showed her how she could run her own laundry at age 5 so if she wanted something clean-she could have it right away. She pretty much always did her own after that. Zero griping.. When my daughter came home one day in 3rd grade she told me “MOM! Mom, did you know a Bunch of kids my age don’t know how to do ANYTHING?! Like you know I don’t Loooove doing chores, but honestly I feel sorry for them! They don’t even know how to cook anything, or vacuum or run the dishwasher or do laundry!!! Like A nyyhhthing!” They had been talking about all that. LOL. And sadly that continues in some families. I had a college roommate rich enough to have an indoor pool at their house who I had to teach to make macaroni and cheese! Her dad paid for her tuition but wanted her to learn to support herself so she had to work thru college. My parents were never supportive-used me as a child slave and were done paying for anything by when I left at 17. This is why I NEVER LOADED chores on my kid but made sure she knew how to reasonably be responsible for herself at all ages. She is grown now.

[@honeypiemason]

story two reminds me of a tiktok of a girl who’s mom passed away of brain cancer and because a single mom of her sister a month later was her sisters birthday and no one rsvpd so she was crying and making a balloon arch and talking about how she’s scraping kids together and begging other ppl to come to kids party’s it made me cry and i always keep that with me

[@therealsmilebit]

The man with the gf that helped his brother. Here is a suggestion... instead of a birthday party. What we did was give 3 selections to the bday boy and let him pick 1 of those things and we did as a family. The bday boy had the option to bring a friend. Less money spent (most of the time), fun activity, family bonding time. Also no hurt feelings if no one came to party. I loved those times with the boys.

[@lilfairykiki122]

First story: husband is not only stressing out his wife, but his unborn child too. I’d have been long gone.

[@dragondonut582]

As a person who didn't have anyone show up to a birthday party from the ages 13 to 20 (just turned 21 last month) the 4th story hit kinda hard.

[@dragondonut582]

My 21st birthday wasn't to much but it made me extremely happy just to hang out and go shopping with my girlfriends and partner.

[@LordMondegrene]

housepartyended , kindness is her superpower.

[@susankaempfer8427]

17:52 How the heck is every kid in the class so mean? Good grief 🤯

[@andreastroud5561]

Remember in the bible the story of the rich man, all the rich people had a excuse not to come, he asked the servants to invite every body on the streets ,they came gratefully!!!! Personally I stopped having birthday party's after my 18th as no body ever came, blamed my self for years, then just decided their loss!! I'm 60 now ,still no party's!

[@debbielmitchell4880]

Me, too. Same reason except I was 23. 🙂

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 2 oh yeah she definitely comes from good stock. 💞🤓👍

[@reallyisay]

"Nothing that he can do because that's his sister"...is he serious

[@jscanlan22]

1st story - CPS need to look to the kids she has.

[@damien678]

I can't drive and have never had a job, however, I have a chronic illness, AND I can and do cook and clean for my partner. I also want to get some part-time work before even considering myself in a place to take care of pets, let alone kids. WTF is SIL doing???

[@Kimmie_78]

22 with 3 kids?

[@teslagirl1]

I wish I were the OP's sister...she needed someone to back her up and she was NOT getting any support from her in laws. I have a lot of animosity stored up from my late sister's travails with her own toxic SIL...so I'd have enjoyed adjusting OP's SIL's attitude. But looks like OP didn't need our help.

[@kalinaphillips9779]

Story about messy SIL. OP, as the house belongs to you as well (I assume you put some money towards its built) you can give an ultimatum to your husband- you or your SIL - with additional ultimatum of wanting half of the value of the house. You both will have to sell it, or he will have to buy you out. Add to it he will have to pay child support and spousal support as I assume you won't be able to work and the money you will get from him for the house will be spend on the house/apartment for you and your baby. In summary your husband will have to fork out on 1. child support 2. spousal support 3. new place for you and your baby (and if he doesn't sell the house) 4. upkeep of the present house (mortgage, bills) 5. founding/looking after his sister's and her children lifestyle. I hope he has at least 7-figure income or win lottery.

[@phoenixsky6124]

The dad was so worried about his kid’s health that he kicked them out with the neglectful mom………

[@massomouse1556]

Or, and here me out because I know how childishly vindictive and vindictively childish this sounds, OP(1st story), could get SIL’s BD’s address, and say something along the lines of, ‘me and our kids are staying with someone who had the balls to kick her out until you grow a pair and do the same’. Note, I’m listening to the update as I type this.

[@zalbercook]

Opie in the first story is being an absolute bench you're telling me yet however months pregnant you were that you could get up go to work come home clean the dishes and do all that stuff and and God help her if she doesn't have a hot meal ready for her baby daddy

[@MsMookalate]

You must’ve thought of a different story because the sister does none of that. Even when I was in the sister’s predicament I knew too at least clean up after my kids and self in other’s home especially if they are housing and feeding me for free and that’s literally all I have to do. The sister isn’t even working (unlike her I was). Also, unlike her I was told stay as long as needed but I gave myself overnight the weekend / a couple days the max was 2 weeks until I can get my affairs in order to go into a family shelter and get on my feet. It took me awhile but I did it. I followed the shelter’s rules within reason. Worked and put in application for apartments or places that’s rented. While still making sure I pop a TV dinner in the oven or Mac n cheese and chicken nuggets to feed both me and mines. Remember I was a young parent (older teen parent/just became legal to even drink) but I knew the basic responsibilities for being a parent. And I still deal with my mental health.

[@julias2855]

Husband proposed w cheap Walmart $10 ring. I love it. Lol. Then we picked a ring together. Love both.

[@Dohyden2]

"You should file for divorce" Jees that's harsh, this guy loves his sister doesn't he? I understand the wife likes her home but these measures are pretty drastic.

[@Ericasentertainments]

Story number one, depending on where you live at if they are receiving mail there they can put up a fight to where you have to legally evict them! I would know my brother called the cops on me in my own home because I asked him to move out within 30 days. The cops came in and lectured me about how I needed to go through the court system to legally evict him since he had been in my home more than 30 days and was receiving mail there 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@oshbaaya]

My mom was an abusive neat freak .. cleaning is incredibly difficult for me but I still make the effort for my husband and kids

[@emilybeck9756]

Oh god this sounds just like a situation I was in during Covid

[@mimi.dixon.b]

Imagine being entitled enough to have multiple children and literally no life skills….

[@telinhajp]

Hi Markee! Thankfully, I have your video now. The news of the murder of former prime minister Abe was shocking to the whole country. I needed something to distract myself. Thanks! ❤️ おやすみ！😴

[@Markee]

I saw that today :( so tragic and absolutely messed up to see. Sending well wishes your way, hoping you get through this!

[@DesertRainReads]

Indeed, as divisive a politician he was, he did many good things for Japan too. He didn't deserve to go out this way. 安らかに休む安倍さん。

[@linnyroro3177]

The commenter(not sure if you're male or female, sorry) that mentioned his brother having a "odd toxic" relationship with his sister and allowing her to live in his apartment even though she is mean and violent to his wife who is from a foreign country, oh and that the sister has a drug addiction, sounds to me like he has Amber Heard's long lost identical twin sister living with him and his poor wife. I hope your SIL grows a shiny spine and walks away from that crap, sometimes I think being homeless is better than living with certain family members, and 100% mean that.

[@kurotsuki7427]

Not me about to cry at work cause of the birthday party post

[@Munthegun]

Man last story has a grown ass man well’n up and smiling like a dummy listening to it

[@zalbercook]

First of all pandemic or no pandemic you have to give 30 days legal notice it's the law one month notice that's a legal requirement so she's not being kind and courteous to her husband's sister

[@ChrisMaxfieldActs]

OP clearly stated that where they live does not have those same laws.

[@aleksandarbradaric4925]

Nice to see such a beautiful for a change...Too much feels XD

[@sherriclarke6855]

❤️❤️❤️❤️ great stories

[@maryforstall7211]

Ask her shoe size- they generally are the same

[@zalbercook]

Op it's not your home it's you and your husband's home

[@MsMookalate]

Yes and he needs to be reminded of it because his pregnant wife and future child don’t need that type of headache around them Day in and day out

[@papasalvo]

Story 1: so u called the ex bf asked what happened he told you and your response was to do nothing with this info? ESH you knew she's a bad mother terrible home maker and allowed her in the home without setting clear expectations that if she isn't going to do it on her own you will make her be a mother and an adult and if she doesn't like it she can leave Now ur suffering the kids are suffering the husband's suffering and the one person responsible just does nothing

[@tooblessed8815]

Story 1: LMBO!!! She is a nasty mess of a baby momma but I let her move in with us. She didn't go into that blindly, she knew what her SIL was and who she was. She still allowed her to move in with them and that is on her.

[@MsMookalate]

No she found out after the move. That’s when she suggests teaching her

[@Bekzee]

6 minutes! Earliest I've been hehe.

[@nopeninja8883]

Whooten:)

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

Its that whooten whooten

[@gabrielaranna5809]

First!

[@TheLilyMustang]

The last story has me crying from the original story to the replies about other kids parties. My son is 5 now and every party my husband & I freak out that no one will come(his family is very bad at RSVP & he just started school) or we won’t be able to get his bio dad/step mom & sibling on the video call(in another state). It scares me now and his birthday is months away