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[@viktorcordyceps1978]

Wow so many of these people know nothing about early pregnancy risks or what attempting to drive during an ice storm would be like. My entire city was just closed down and most people lost power for days. Driving anywhere would have been an extreme risk.

[@feraltaco4783]

People need to remember that during the first trimester a woman's body is growing a tiny human being cell by cell. Pregnancy is NOT like dealing with your period. Just because you can't see the baby bump doesn't mean that it's no big deal. Being pregnant is a "normal" bodily function. Well so is needing to pee but would you make someone just wait to go to the bathroom?

[@Movs.]

Exactly, you can die from not peeing when you should be, you can die from drinking too much water. Like what a stupid narrative that guy was trying to come up with

[@Optronix117]

I'd be looking for a different job with that kind of boss. And I'm a male..

[@louisatrow4933]

Teachers be like: uhhh uhhhh

[@mikimishisa]

Yup it's actually really easy to miscarry in the first trimester.

[@cutelilkitten96]

Pregnancy stuck in snow story: Coming from someone who lives in Wisconsin its 100% understandable to have to miss one day of work due to snow/ice covered roads, pregnant or not! Everyone saying she's TA or is one of those "oh pregnancy is so rough the wind blew ouch" people really makes me mad. Never been pregnant but I've called into work due to snow. It's happens. "Oh how are you going to get to the hospital to have your baby if you can't drive I the snow" yes because she is likely to have her baby in the winter while being pregnant in the winter... NOT! She will likely give birth in the warmer months. Seriously calling in due to snow has nothing to do with her pregnancy and yall make it sound like she told her boss the baby was the reason she couldn't come in. It happens. If there's an emergency in the winter well then call an ambulance. That's literally their job. SMH people, for real?!

[@rebecca4480]

I never seen snow and I'm not that stupid to drive on ice

[@omegasobsessions]

Small yta for living in such a climate without a vehicle (and tires) safe for the conditions though.

[@duanesamuelson2256]

@@omegasobsessions tires and winter prep don't change things for an ice storm or early snow with a sharp temperature drop. Snow is far different than ice. I've seen emergency vehicles slide off the road (which definitely have the proper tires studs/cables) on glare (clear) ice.

[@MNcit]

Thank you! I came to say this. I live in MN, and have seen lots of people call in because of this sort weather. It is dangerous to everyone, and being pregnant has nothing to do with it!

[@feraltaco4783]

Unpopular opinion. As someone who was helping care for Nana when she had dementia. It's exhausting. You're watching a loved one suffer is brutal and is made SO MUCH worse when you're that mentally and physically burned out. OP's reaction is so understandable. Do I think that he handled it well? No. Do I understand why? Hell yes. Would I have handled it differently? I did. OP needs to find some help (he may not know what's available) but he's going to be useless to everyone who needs him if he burns himself out. I feel for him. The decision he made probably tore at him emotionally.

[@fobija1378]

That popular opinion in my opinion is just bunch of people not realizing how bad it can get while taking care of someone else. He could have try find nurse but no nurse is willing to work with hard patients. And I'm against the thing about "Kids can care of difficult patients" because kids shouldn't be doing it that.

[@feraltaco4783]

@@fobija1378 exactly!

[@lexicon1913]

I agree that the wife needed to be in a facility. Yet OP is the biggest AH as well. He could have worked this out with SW and Palliative Care well before he ran away. We're talking about him being a statistic and THAT is what needs to change. Men more often abandon their sick/dying partners. They get to experience the inequities that often happen in relationships and can't handle it.

[@fobija1378]

@@lexicon1913 You need put money in their pockets or be very poor like lower then dirt poor. As long you got some money to pass by, they will not help. Basically their help is to put you on long list that doesn't really moves. And that's one reason why that abandon issues is because government then are forced to do their job.

[@lexicon1913]

@@fobija1378 that is context specific. I'm speaking from experience as someone who works in hospitals. I work in Palliative Care. The resources aren't perfect, but from OP's limited description, he did not access what he was entitled to. Based on what he wrote, he is TAH.

[@feraltaco4783]

I'm so glad that OP's SO updated. I just want to give him a big hug!

[@Catherine-my1uc]

For the OP burned out on caring for his terminally ill wife: don't know what country you live in. If in the US, hospice care for your wife either at home or in a facility is an option. I wish someone had raised that possibility with you. It's a tough situation all the way round and you and your family need/deserve as much support as possible.

[@toxictoxophilite]

That story about the husband who didn't want to take his wife with colon cancer home, it reminded me of my grandmother's time on hospice before she died. She was a deplorable, nasty, disgusting, and angry woman, and she drained the life out of my grandfather who took care of her hand and foot while she berated him for doing nothing for her and would threaten to call the police for "Abusing" her (He never did.) until he, a war veteran, would break down crying. She was a narcissist and emotionally abusive her entire life. I side with this husband, because i know what it's like having a horrible family member who honestly can't die fast enough. She died in 2019 and I still have nightmares where she actually survived and ruins everything she gets a hold of. All the YTA takes have never been in an abusive situation where the abuser is the one who's dying and a person can't physically keep surviving in a situation that requires them to care for someone who's cruel to them, which is where the husband sounds like he's at. It's the kind of situation who can drive someone to suicide just to escape it. I don't blame him in the slightest for washing his hands of that so that he can breathe.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

Yeah….. I think the commenters completely slid over the fact that the wife was verbally and emotionally abusive, to the point that she was complaining about people they hadn’t seen in years.

[@mikimishisa]

You do realize she wasn't like that before cancer. Having an illness and being that close to death can change your personality sometimes. So yeah it sucks and it's terrible but the kids literally wanted to help take care of her so he didn't have to do everything alone.

[@jraxreviewsxcosplayxmore6934]

Awww, I mean I knew op would die...but I didn’t expect to hear that in the same vid, Rest In Peace op.

[@chrissy6693]

I know. I had to clutch my chest. 😢

[@tracybarber-kier1669]

Step brother handling out invitations at the funeral is just as tacky and low class as announcing an engagement at someone's wedding. It makes him, his mom, and her whole side of the family look trashy! So very sorry for your loss OP! 🥺 ❤

[@mamadiana1]

to the dad with dying wife, you are not wrong. we had to do something similar to get my stepson into a residential program for adults. there was no other way. we never cut ties continue to support him parent him this was the only way to get him the services he sorely needed. I dont think these others understand how the system works or in cases like this stop working.

[@gregtheegg3576]

Regarding the proper harvesting story...most cultivars in gardens barely resemble their natural wild type cousin. We have bred these things to a razor's edge to maximize a combination of qualities that suit our purposes. This has nothing to do with survival of the fittest in nature, and is a form of coevolution, like flowers and hummingbird beaks. Potatoes were never as large as they are now in the wild, we bred them to be so. Now like a domesticated house cat they require our care to survive. I wonder what a potato farm, abandoned before harvest, would look like in another hundred uears though. Would the survivors ultimately end up being the small ones, or would there be survivors given the number of things that might violate them? Bugs, animals, diseases, draught, it might not be pretty.

[@Raigius]

In regards to the plants not surviving in nature if they die from improper harvesting. Most of our food crops have been selectively bred for so many generations that they have little to no resemblance to their original wild counterparts. We cultivate our crops to maximize their productivity / usefulness to us. Not to maximize their survival capabilities outside of a careful regulated human cultivated environment.

[@Movs.]

Exactly thank you.

[@dawnsharp8524]

When there is ice on the ground, nobody should go out without pregnant or not unless you are a medical or road worker. I live in an area that gets icy and we don't expect folks to drive on ice no matter the vehicle...except for medical workers and road workers. We want co-workers back after road treatments are complete.

[@toyairy7612]

the brother handing out wedding invites at a funeral? OP's wife's family needed to see OP react that way. It was horribly insensitive to them and they are so deep in grief then that...slap in their faces. Not only does he owe OP an apology Her poor family deserves one as well. Get it right. Oh yeah go talk to him about how he plans on apologizing to the parents siblings and loved one's of his wife. OP go get him as soon as your strong enough and mad enough. Thats one of the stages of grief and now you have something to do about your anger when it blows up.

[@brutallyhonest1962]

Hey Markee, for the story with the snow here is some insight. Where I live we get some snow in the winter months but 10 months out of the year it’s not at all snowy. The people with the ice storm may live in an area similar to mine and so telling them to move/ switch jobs would be unreasonable. :)

[@rebecca4480]

I agree.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

I agree! I think it's unreasonable to expect her to risk her pregnancy and health for a minimum wage service job in the first place. If she was a doctor or a paramedic or a firefighter or something it would be a different story but she isnt. Yeah her coworkers were counting on her but they can't reasonably expect her to risk her pregnancy like this. I'm sure it sucks for them but that's just life sometimes. Also they should get tire chains jic tho

[@scarlettg.5772]

Agree! I don’t drive on ice. I won’t be moving just because there is ice and snow in winter. I just made sure to get a job that doesn’t expect me to risk my life in very bad icey weather.

[@A.n0neeM0usee]

My uncle was dying of lung cancer, multipack a day smoker for years. My aunt was his care taker and my generally sweet, middle-age uncle treated her like a slave: yelling, cursing, etc. OP, dying in pain from cancer does this to a person. They loose their ability to be friggin nice.

[@ladytenor9876]

The brother who was giving wedding invitations to people mourning the death of OP's wife: God forgive me; but I imagined the OP attending the brother's wedding with a casket in tow.

[@kessiawright1710]

Allowing a pregnant woman time off for Dr's appointments? What a generous ignoramus. That kind of morning sickness can kill a pregnant woman.

[@ladylokiwifeodindottir7095]

The prego product story OP the FIRST trimester is the MOST DANGEROUS trimester of a pregnancy I REALLY hope someone points that out

[@stormexaustralia77]

"Your straight now" 😂😂😂😂 OMFG I lost it.

[@RyuKaze]

LOL I swear Markee really is setting himself apart with these intros 😆

[@dragonladyfink4685]

Agreed but Kanye is weirding me out....seriously. 🤣

[@RyuKaze]

Talking to yourself is a symptom of insanity, even more so writing to yourself.

[@jimmiedmc1]

Originally I made up my mind about op1, but after learning her marriage was arranged I realise not all cultures are the same, if it was a western relationship as the husband I would feel like I'm a second place prize, but seeing as it's an arranged marriage to begin with I'd say it's her right as a dying wish

[@zazi5094]

Same! I, when I read the title, was wtf? But then I heard the story.

[@gregoryk.9815]

I kinda disagree she knew that her marriage was arranged so basically she was unfaithful and cheated.

[@jimmiedmc1]

@@gregoryk.9815 if you listened to the whole story she didnt cheat and her husband supported her in the end.... she was forced to marry him and had no choice in the matter if it was a western marriage for love it would be a different story but if you want to judge another culture on your own values keep that narrow mindedness to yourself

[@zazi5094]

@@jimmiedmc1 Yeah I don't think either of them really had a choice.

[@ShadowknightEX]

I don’t disagree, but I could see it being hurtful regardless. Not part of that kind of culture, but I could see one feeling like she never gave it a chance. Just for the Record, does the husband have any say in getting married or is everything basically decided by the parents?

[@OssamabinKenny]

24:09 it's really ironic when people write: I know caregiver burn out is a real thing, BUT... but nothing, the moment you say "but" is when you have just confessed "I don't know a thing about caregiver burn out". It leads to suicide. so quick that you won't even know what hit you. When the guy is dumping his wife on the system, it means the system didn't help him out enough. I know first hand about caregiver burn out. In his case, a social worker needs to reach out, and give him all the options that he has. depending on where he is, and what cost coverage resources there are, he might have done the absolute right thing. Here in Canada, when it comes to palliative patients and their primary caregivers, there are enough resources that almost no one needs to do what this guy did but guess what? Primary caregivers still burn out and commit suicide. so NO. op is not the asshole.

[@AndreNDP]

And I'm in Canada. And have done it. When I was 19. I did it out of love and duty for my grandfather, but I couldn't even make it three months. I was pathetic. And I'm still dealing with the emotional problems stemming from that, and that was nine years ago. I haven't been alright in all that time.

[@OssamabinKenny]

@@AndreNDP PSWs are among the most under appreciated people here. But to those who have been caregivers to palliative patience, PSWs are literal angels.

[@gremlininblue2601]

I've been watching my grandma fade away deeper and deeper into her depression every day for the past decade. It's like losing her everyday, and even tho im so so happy on her very rare better days, it just makes all the rest hurt so much more

[@AndreNDP]

@@gremlininblue2601 I'm really sorry to hear that. I sincerely hope you and your grandma both have a great day.

[@OssamabinKenny]

@@gremlininblue2601 Depression, specially now, with the virus creating so much isolation, fear and anxiety, and being the cause for so many services to have been either cut or ending up with lesser potency; is the most dangerous killer among the population. According to the EMT up in Peel region, the weekly rate of suicide has gone up 900%. At times like this, don’t hesitate to reach for any help you can, for either yourself or friends and family.

[@elspethgraham9531]

RE: Dying wife. I understand OP as I have been in the same situation. My sister was having mental health issues and had tried to commit suicide by slashing her wrists. After the hospital bandaged her up, they wanted to send her home with me. I had to work and couldn't watch over my sister during the day, lest she try to kill herself again. I told them that I would not take her home. The hospital did actually had an empty bed on the inpatient psych ward and admitted her. It was such a relief. She spent 3 months there before coming home again. She was in much better shape and I didn't have to worry about her anymore. I'm sorry that OP is getting ganged up on by so many people. If nothing else, OP and family need to have some respite care, and social workers need to arrange that kind of thing.

[@wplains]

I totally agree. The poor man sounds like he is carrying everything on his shoulders by himself and everyone still dumps on him? If the roles were reversed they would be saying the wife had every right to put him in a home.

[@wargamesmaster]

Reddit sucks hard... I said it before and I'll say it again, this website is incredibly biased against men in situations like this

[@ladytenor9876]

The first story was moving and beautiful I offer condolences to her spouse, family, and friends

[@darkmask5933]

For just a second there with the khaki pants and the blue on his chair, my brain thought Markee was wearing blue shorts riding low and mooning us >.>

[@yourlocalnoob4938]

Tbh I kinda don't get people calling op misogynistic for what he said to his mum? I mean, whether it was over the line or not, he didn't attack her 'barren wasteland' of a womb because she's a woman and therefore he perceived her value through her fertility as such, he attacked it because SHE brought up how he was her only child as a guilt trip. Whether it was rude/too far or not, it wasn't misogyny when SHE was the one who started on the topic of children and grandchildren here.

[@ladytenor9876]

Thank you, Markee for your positive effects your channel has on visitors, subscribers and anyone who finds these stories and the wise advice and thoughtful analysis. 🏳️‍🌈🇦🇺

[@DemonicGoddess]

Talk about attacking OP for living probably the only place they can afford? We dont know state or country and you attack locationing? Good job you probably stressed her out and now she is pressuring to move. To edit : Yes i know she is only 8 weeks pregnant but still. All she did was call out after spinning out. She isnt karening at the city or anything. And to the story with the GF hoodies all he had to do to probably silence his sister was say ( and i dont condone this ) "then you should mind your place in the kitchen and for birthing children." im sure she would get the point.

[@StaraptorEagle]

Ice is not nice! Did you hear about the car pileups in Texas? Yeah, it happened in my state, Oklahoma, too. PEOPLE DIED. No jokes here. Ice absolutely scares me. She’s not the asshole.

[@gaywerewolf1294]

Story 1: honestly? OP being TA entirely depends on how their SO felt about it. BUT OP is TA for lying to their SO just so they could see their crush. if i were the husband, that would be a slap to the face.

[@LoucheWoman]

When wildlife eat plants, they poop out the seeds in nature, and the manure helps the seed grow into a ne plant. THE CIIIRCLE OF LIIIIFE USES POOOOOOOO

[@kessiawright1710]

I don't agree with the OP leaving his wife at the hospital, but I understand why he did it. There is a reason why many caregivers die before their loved one...they burn out and get seriously sick. Until you have looked after someone like that with no time for self, you won't. My mother had heart attacks and at least one stroke (among other health issues) looking after my late father. There comes a point when you don't have the physical strength to keep doing it. Add a loved one who cannot help being angry and all you have is stress 24/7. You end up mourning before they die. You give until you are a shell of your formal self. I ended up moving in with my parents and helped out. My dad was scary sometimes because his anger would come out of no where and my mom was afraid he would hurt her until his personality changed again. OP hasn't had the support he needs. He needs to go to a support group to deal with what his family is experiencing and respite workers so he can get a break. It isn't cheap. It is not a cut and dried thing. When a room became available at the nursing home he had been waiting for, he was in a frame of mind to decide to move. In some ways it was a relief, but he had been such a vibrant part of the family, that life has never been the same. He passed a year and a half ago and we still mourn him. Op's choice comes from a place of desperation that many people cannot understand. He needs support, not ridicule. Not support for leaving her there, but for going through caregiving alone too long. Better support systems keeps patients in need of hospice care home longer. His wife needs a social worker who can give them support options and have his wife help with the decisions.

[@fobija1378]

At least now they be forced to give social worker. Usually if you have aggressive patient then you need HUGE money for nurse come to help and much more money if you want to put to care hospital.

[@Movs.]

Do not voluntarily pledge to stay in sickness and health then. Your dad becoming violent with your mom and her getting burnout while caring for him is not comparable.

[@cutelilkitten96]

As someone with very mild stomach ulcers... that story made me cry, it sucks to have and im grateful mine isn't that bad. I hope she's feeling better 💕

[@maryharvey6909]

The one thing that would scare Shannon and her husband would be if they can’t find the baby. You have cameras, but as a newborn, I would have the baby in a rolling bassinet near you in the house. I feel like he would especially go for it if it’s a boy

[@laurensmith20]

My mom was so sick during her whole pregnancy with me that she had to quit her job and was completely bed ridden and had to go to the hospital a lot from dehydration due to puking so much. So that pregnancy story makes me so mad because there was a chance that me and her could've died from that. That woman and her baby could seriously die from that as well so that dude is a horrible person to me.

[@Littlereddevil94]

Wow everyone is very harsh on OP. I've had to call in because of the weather and where I live. Also I was fired for getting into a car accident and came in 30mins late because I was stuck in a ditch for an hour. Honestly people saying op was sh becauseshe didnt feel comfortable risking life and livelihood for a job that wouldn't hesitate to replace them. People need to understand that

[@cchastant8251]

39:43 So OP and hubby have looked into having a baby because it hasn't "just happened" for them for a long enough span that they started to wonder. Likely took some adjusting, then they threw out whatever protection they had left, because... hey, we just aren't fertile. Then... pregnant! Middle of winter, bad weather happens, and this just happens to be when those few cells have begun to multiply into a small cluster. An ice storm rolls in, and it is dangerous enough that driving in to work is hazardous. 8 weeks isn't far along in a pregnancy. Many pregnancies self-end before the third month, 4 more weeks away. If they lose this pregnancy, chances aren't good that they will have another. I completely get her coworkers being frustrated that they will have to work harder because she can't make it into work. Well, this HAPPENS in bad weather, pregnant or not. Happened to me this winter, and I'm past menopause. No babies ever for me, other than four-footed ones. Snarking to her about it on her FB wasn't cool. Private roads are a B when the snow falls more than a couple of inches. Three snow-heavy winters back, I lived down a LONG private road, and it was a beast that winter, coming and going to work. Got SO lucky to make a connection with a guy willing to plough it on my "Friday," because I got stuck in the snow MOST of the way down that private road on the way home. The guy made it late the next day, and work tried to call me in. I had to tell them my car got stuck, and I can't promise to make it in, they should try someone else. More or less told my boss I was glad that, if I had to get stuck in the snow, at least it happened on my Friday, so I wasn't missing work I was scheduled to do. Private roads that the city doesn't manage in winter storms suck. Most of us don't have snow plough setups. Or a truck we can have a plough setup added to. Or even 4-wheel drives. Why are so many people down on OP for not risking life and limb to go to work? =Adults= die under these conditions, when they push to drive under such conditions. In most areas, snow and ice happen. Many of those places they only happen for a very few weeks at most. This means most people don't go for trucks and SUVs that are built to handle snow/ice better, they go for something either pretty, cheap, or something with good gas mileage. When it's only a short span of each year that suffers from these extreme conditions... I'd rather suck it up and miss those days of work if I can't safely make it in. Not worth my life.

[@wplains]

No one ounce of sympathy for the husband who says he cannot carry the burden of caring for his sick wife, his children and the house as well as work all day by himself. Did everyone miss the part where he said she is angry and screams at him all day? Just wondering if all these people calling him an AH would feel the same if it was him sick and the wife putting him in a nursing home? Reddit’s bias towards men is off the charts. And I say that as a woman. Oh and you guys think you have it bad in the workplace now? Wait until the Chinese take over the world: Chinese workers have two days off A MONTH!

[@davidaras1086]

In the story about the woman dying, people aren’t realizing, you don’t just walk up to a nursing home and say take my spouse . There are waiting lists, sometimes months long and just because you need doesn’t change that. Usually someone has to die to make room, and remember the list? There are people ahead of you on it .

[@marahbaker8615]

not mention it's very expensive. His children also have no business being their mother's care giver bc all it will do is open them to her anger and make them watch their mother waste away. My SIL took care of both her father and grandmother in their last few months and she has said it was insanely demanding, painful and emotionally draining.

[@maryharvey6909]

Funeral, this is why the ambulance is at the funeral parlor. People actually die over stuff like this. Their blood pressure shoots up so high and have a sudden cardiac arrest from being so angry and upset. It could be over somebody trying to get the jewelry off of the body upfront or anything that would make you mad if you were the main next of kin

[@stacys8729]

Tip - if whatever you don't want a SSA online account, or have a problem getting one - you can do an e-services block that won't allow anyone to make an online account.

[@maryharvey6909]

The wife took the $50 and blamed it on you.

[@princesssunshine874]

I live in one of these areas. Unfortunately, It is because it's the most affordable part of town. I also live in a city where it rarely snows, but it is always icy when it does. So my city does not make a major effort to clear it. I can't imagine someone saying "yeah, you're an AH for not having a fortune to move to a place where there is less ice and better services.

[@ladytenor9876]

Anorexia nervosa: believing you are "fat" and starve your self and enduce vomiting. Thanks for the update. My guess was wrong by a lot. This time, I was the A Hole . 🇦🇺

[@tiffanym1108]

Ice storms are no joke! I was riding a bus and it missed a turn while going downhill. He literally pumped his brakes and barely made the turn the next corner... She is NOT TA

[@arnoldnellis6120]

Re: the Pregnancy story-"Am I The Ahole?" YES! A Huge One!!!

[@jamielegacy2366]

kicking a sick woman out is not too far but calling her parents and letting them know whats going on so they can help is? huge yta wow she deserves better

[@amerhamad-zp6ge]

So she is telling him before she dies she wants to spend time with her first choice.

[@ladytenor9876]

Fortunately, our ice storms did not not have a major impact on our household. One housemate teaches her classroom via Zoom. Our Landlady is also works from home. I am happily retired.🌧❄❄❄❄❄

[@sylbarose2488]

My god the last story dug up some past trauma. I hope he never can get near his daughter again.

[@SiFireHasSpeed]

As a person that is 6'2" and 120ish lbs the story at 1:56:53 really got to me. I get constant backhanded comments from my coworkers and classmates at school and I make it look like it doesn't affect me but it really does just hurt in a different way than say a "regular insult". I try and brush it off and even when I say "Can you not please?" they just say "I'm not calling you fat what's the problem?". Backhanded and demeaning comments are just that. No matter what. The people in that story are egregious and deplorable. Especially from the boss lady

[@dark_a_shark]

Ok, I know it's like super late but for the woman stuck in the snow story: she is completely NTA for not risking her life for a job. As someone who lives in an area where it gets icy every year no matter what it's unreasonable to say to move or find a new job. People spin out when driving 10 down an icy road and it's super dangerous. Snow tires are not as effective on ice as they are on snow, you can still spin out even with them. I've had many accounts on almost spinning out when I would drive down the road to my job which is 3 minutes away. It's fine that she called in to protect herself and there are many ways to get rid of ice. Salt, plowing, hot water+salt, many ways but for a private drive those tend to be long so it's more reasonable to get it plowed. Don't try to make it seem like it's an easy solution as it's not, ice sucks on roads and then you also have to account for black ice, slush, and snow fall. It's crazy

[@kixi8033]

It's amazing how much hate pregnant women get just for caring about their unborn babies. If she wasn't pregnant, I'm pretty sure a lot of the commenters who were criticizing her would have been on her side. It's also amazing how ignorant people are and how they like to pretend that a pregnancy isn't a big deal until the 2nd and 3rd trimesters. Tch. I really hope OP reported both of her coworkers to HR so that they can be dealt with accordingly.

[@maryharvey6909]

Sisters: she wanted to steal stuff in your house. If you were totally shocked that she wanted to spend the night THAT night and she didn’t will give you time to hide all of your checks and credit cards and a place to lock up your purse, then that’s what she was after. Then she would probably say well I’m gonna ask mom and dad if I can stay there. ( and wipe them out )

[@krystalfloods6197]

The comments about the pregnant woman that isn’t doing her job surprised me. She’s literally only 10 weeks, if she cannot do her job and do it well then she should not be working. It’s not fair to the company to be paying her a wage if she’s not doing her job, and it is not fair for all the other employees to have to pick up her slack. I’ve had two kids and I would never use my pregnancy or even my children as an excuse to not do my job.

[@oliviaksiag6163]

That sounds adorable, the girlfriend probably had a lot of fun giving her boyfriend a makeover.

[@ladytenor9876]

I salute the Scots Rainbow warriors🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

[@wickedgreen1784]

@Markee Just Google some photos comparing modern, cultivated, crops & plants to their wild ancestors, and you'll pretty much have your answer ;)

[@jusaminit]

FISHNETS!!! Must use FISHNETS with a pink tutu! Ribbons and ALL 🤣😝😜😃😁😁😁

[@elspethgraham9531]

RE: the pregnant woman and the icy roads. Markee, I don't know how far ahead you make each video before posting, but HAVE YOU PAID ANY ATTENTION TO THE NEWS ABOUT THE ICE AND SNOWSTORM IN TEXAS???? There are people still without food or water because of this storm? Snow tires or chains? These are things foreign to Texans. I have a friend in San Antonio. The other day, the temperature outside was 9F. (-13C) A few days later, the temp rose to 63F (17C). She was lucky because they have a generator and could a few appliances. They have a regular sedan car. They don't need an SUV for snowstorms. I'm Canadian, from Alberta. I have lived with the ice and snow and cold all of my life., about 6 months of the year. I have an accident free record after nearly 50 years of driving. I am not stupid enough to go out when the roads are like this. Give this woman and her husband a break. I think you owe them an apology.

[@maryharvey6909]

Girlfriend at 23yr/ you need to call her parents. You are NOT overstepping. The juice thing is important to tell the doctor. You would need to go with her to hospital or send her family.

[@artgaignard8817]

Imagine after your wife dies you find out an ex was her last thoughts....

[@WhitneyDahlin]

1:37:00 about the brother handing his wedding invitations at his sister in laws funeral. I was disgusted when his family claimed the widow was ruining the the families reputation by kicking out the brother when the brother was the one who ruined their reputation by acting like an a$$ during the funeral and handing out wedding invitations!!! I can't stand it when people claim you're ruining the family's reputation when they are the ones who have ruined it by their behavior. You haven't ruined it by putting your foot down and refusing to tolerate the behavior. This whole story makes me so angry. It's a manipulation technique.

[@maryharvey6909]

Daughter of cyber stocker, you need to get a good IT person to do all of the things he or she thinks will keep your dad out. Like firewalls or whatever they call them now. If you have a credit card sometimes they offer identity protection. You might find a company that keeps an eye on your title of your house. Lock down everything like that. Ask your mom about what he did with her accounts. Maybe change phones and numbers.

[@maryharvey6909]

I got really sick in 2019 and I have a disease where I could live on medicines or die suddenly. My husband kept his job, plus cares for me. He comes home makes a big lunch which is our dinner, gets all my medicines at the store, and does anything I need. I would not say thanks for everything, but I want to see my old boyfriend.

[@davidaras1086]

In the green house story , knowing how squash spreads, I’d like to see how?? It’s grown in a green house.

[@BlondeEyes7]

You don’t drive on ice. Period. It’s incredibly dangerous even with specialized vehicles. I live in Portland, and we have an ice storm probably every other year, and we only get a dusting of snow most years, but every five years or so, we get 6+ inches. All of these things can shut down schools and mess up traffic, and people from colder states like Minnesota and Wisconsin will tease us about the snow response, but they NEVER tease us about the ice. They won’t drive on it either. The Portland metro is covered in hills, and many of us can’t leave our driveways in ice, or we would slide into the center of a main road if we tried to leave our streets. You definitely don’t bully a coworker because their street was too dangerous and yours was navigable.

[@libbykeppel1090]

so infuriating that anyone would even consider the woman the ahole for not driving on ice. I also live in a town that is the last priority, I understand not being plowed till last minute. the reason we're not buying a car that's suitable or moving somewhere different is because who the f has money for that? plus, storms where the roads get GENUINELY so bad you can't drive to work, are only a few times a winter. it happens. why on earth is everyone ripping into her for saying it's because she's pregnant?? she wouldn't have done it either way because?????? she just has other priorities right now and this baby is probably the most precious thing in the world to her. reddit usually is SO "don't put yourself in danger for minimum wage" but the second she says it's about her baby, not herself, everyone's like? nahh ur terrible. if she hadn't mentioned the pregnancy, the vote would have been different. people are just salty that she's already so protective over this baby that is probably one of the best things that has ever and will ever happen to her. she's allowed to he obsessive, overprotective. if she miscarries, the chance of this happening again is basically 0

[@thesparklingunicorn8543]

Black ice can kill people to I live in Australia a friend of my sister s had a car accident in frost witch ened up as Black ice on the road and she skidded ened up in an empty water fountain and lived to tell the tail but she could have died so the pregnant woman had the sense to call in

[@formershadow]

Sheesh the first story made me tear up……RIP OP

[@kristinwiebold2433]

Glad the parents finally put their foot down at how SIL' s behavior was abhorrent and put in boundaries. I think both the brother and SIL are in the wrong. Yes if seeing OP dressing up feminine upsets her, she has the right to either still come or not come. but her mean comments and stuff is wrong and the brother not saying or doing anything makes him YTA, and him using his son as a weapon against his parents makes them a even bigger YTA. I get they have the right to have their boundaries but they don't get to shove them on to others.

[@NanaVicki1]

Markee...some of your remarks make me crack up. Spot on.....

[@maryharvey6909]

Sister online, maybe you can go to a lawyer and get something drawn up that says she is the one doing the online stuff and you are not involved and then have it signed by her and you and a notary and or a lawyer. You only need to whip it out when you’re getting job applications in but I wouldn’t tell anyone else that you have that paper, unless you really like a guy that you know would be mad about that

[@plattepuss66]

In the state of Michigan, if you live in the lower peninsula, the mitten part, it is illegal to you tire chains.

[@rebecca4480]

WARNING please don't drive on ice. I never seen snow and I know not to do that. Thats a obvious NTA. Well should be but some people are fools.

[@brandyglenn5999]

1st trimester can be horrendous. That man is disgusting. I really hope she reported him to HR. Also, in the US, yes, you are protected.

[@thomasturner1943]

Markee and the people replying to op with the pregnant lady and iced up driveway are seriously underplaying the dangers of driving on ice.if this is black ice or the regular kind it can be seriously dangerous.i live in Michigan in the hood they never plow the side streets.if I feel it's to much ice out I have no issues calling in.you do everything right driving on ice and end up in a accident. No job is worth putting yourself in hospital for , if nothing worst happens.

[@heatherlee9880]

How the hell does this person sleep at night? Be nice to this girl. Pregnant can be deadly or awful all around. You do not know. Stand up and help

[@geraldsandoval1113]

story 1: Oh to the HELL NO!

[@maryharvey6909]

Vegetable lady: op is NTA, it’s better this way. Nipped in the bud. If you let her, she would have cleaned you out. Remember the little red hen? Look her up.

[@sophdog2564]

How much do I have to pay on patreon to make your write my name on the whiteboard?

[@Myfavoriteloves]

I'm glad I don't read these I'd be balling through the first one, which I am now

[@phantom1044]

On a road trip perfect time for your stories

[@AshenTechDotCom]

he should have quit his job to take care of her, when they lose everything, "well, i had to take care of mom, and the insurance wont help" (i have seen this happen, it was sad but... having lived it and seen it happen a few times...) i cant agree with the the "YTA" people, i watched my mother do this for her mother and the tool it took... looking back... i have good memories of her mother, but also, remember how nasty she became, how the ONLY sibling or family members willing to help would burn out after 2-3 visits leaving it to her, the system eventually provided some support but... not much, they all pushed it off on her, she quit working and just took care of this woman who was rarely lucid, nasty, rude and violent when awake, she wont admit it but, its been many decades and she still has mental scars from it... its not nice, its not pretty... but the kids CANNOT DO THIS, and often insurance companies WILL NOT give you in home aid/support, and getting govt aid... again he could quit his job and live on what the govt will pay him to be her 24/7 caregiver, it wont pay the bills in most cases but, he wont be abandoning her. and, in our case, she would not even consider a nursing home, the rare true lucid times... she would just start yelling if even in home care aids were mentioned... i watched this with 2 friends when their mothers went threw this (dads both dad long time by this point), and it really just drains you, one nearly killed herself taking stuff to stay awake so every time mom yelled, they could get there and address it so nobody could complain of call her a bad daughter anymore... as the people above and below moms appt kept doing any time she screamed or yelled even when in home support was taking care of her and my friend was still trying to work and take care of mom... she quit working and dedicated her life to her mom like everybody said... she had a heartattack and minor stroke... and still had people calling her a bad daughter for not taking care of mom when she herself was in the hosp, her family, friends, the people in moms building where she moved because, she didnt have time to ever go to her own place so why pay for it? so she moved into moms and just, never left, not for 9mo... didnt even have time to talk on the phone, mom would ALWAYS start yelling... and NOBODY would help... in home support would quit withing 2-4 days because of how mom acted, and then weeks before the could find somebody else... and she couldnt leave or even actually sleep even with them there because if mom wanted her/started yelling for her, the only way to make it stop was to go and let mom berate her till she felt satisfied... that gal... is till.. to be kind... broken from it... she rarely smiles, just sits and broods on how it was all her fault mom didnt have a happier longer life, because that is what everybody drilled into her... if she had just done better... even with therapy and her friends and, "new-family" (shes totally divorced herself from the people she grew up with and around due to how they treated her...one aunt tried to get her fired from her min-wage job, the only job she could get after years of no employment despite her degrees and past work experience... even her old employer just blinked and said with that kinda gap, they had no proof she hadnt been in jail/prison/on drugs/etc... or that she could or would be reliable as an employee... she just eventually ate it and got a min wage job... and... only got one in her field when her boyfriend(now husband) started applying for her, talking to potential employers and letting them know the deal for her... getting her interviews... she was happy but also... just cant manage a genuine smile anymore... makes me sad... she was genuinely somebody whos happy smile could brighten a day.... now... she tries and it makes you sad.. but hey, at least she stuck it out... didnt let the pressure or even her own health get in the way of doing the right thing... so what if joy has forever left her life, thats the price you sometimes pay for doing the right thing.

[@wplains]

That’s not the “right thing”, that’s downright slavery.

[@jameswatson9338]

First, pregnancy is not a "normal bodily function." Breathing or excreting waste are "normal bodily functions," not producing human beings. Pregnancy comes with huge risk, extreme pain, remarkable changes in the body, etc. It's a pretty...extreme bodily function, one which can get screwed up pretty easily. She's suffering in ways OP probably can't comprehend, yet the argument is that women are supposed to go through all of that while behaving and functioning normally...and that's what we call equality? First-wave feminists fought for voting rights, property ownership, the right to take part in society through education and work, to not be labeled "hysterical" when in pain, etc. To suggest they fought so that their bosses could exploit them at work while horribly ill is just nefariously manipulating the whole concept of feminism against women. Absolutely repulsive. The entire work culture expressed in this story is disgusting. Unless this is a worker-owned co-op from which they're all going to share in the incredible profits, no one needs to be sacrificing their life for some corporation just to support themselves.

[@ogknightbro94]

4:48 they commented could of posted something way better by quoting thanks lol it fit so well

[@zanman8808]

I don’t understand all these stories were someone calls and cancels an interview or something for someone why wouldn’t they double check with the actual person?

[@theholyhorehay]

With the twin thing,I kind of get it. My husbands last name is very uncommon (like really only his family in Europe and immediate family have it). My brother in law lives with his gf in another area of our country and they posted a video of them going to a local landmark that had a lot of historical significance to the people from that area and did some disrespectful stuff (and went in place they were not allowed to be as well) and it blew up and they got in a lot of trouble for it (lost jobs and on the news and stuff). I work for a small company and my manager is from that area and her cultural heritage is tied to that area. She heard about it before I even did and asked me if this was my brother in law. She knew he lived there and recognized the last name. If she wasn’t so cool about it and didn’t know me so well, this could have been very bad for me. Obviously a little different from looking like someone, but it could have reflected so badly on me and I’ll probably never be able to visit that landmark because of my last name.

[@gremlininblue2601]

1:16:34 wild plants are sturdier and stronger than domesticated plants

[@user-wb6fm4hu2h]

GOOD WORK!

[@Silverhineko]

Meh, I don't think the gay guy was being misogynistic. The only reason he said anything about her womb was because she was all !!! But I won't get grand kids! Which is super selfish af. He could still adopt, or have a woman carry. No one is a baby factory and no one should be expected to have kids for their extended family/spouse etc. He only went there because she did. I imagine Op was bit emotional over being rejected by his mother over his sexuality and realizing his mother didn't really care about anything other than grandkids, not him as an individual. Some people can choose to kill with kindness approach, forgive, be super caring no matter what, but there's no real end benefit. People should be treated how they treat others. If you are an ah to others, people should be an ah to you. Why should ah be expected to be treated well regardless of their own behavior?! That's how you get entitled Karens. Justified ah. I'm 100% okay with people returning justified heat. Btw, female here. So, not misogynistic just because I disagree with others opinions.

[@addicted2mako]

...Jesus tap-dancing Christ, where in the step-brother’s puny little brain did he get the idea that handing out wedding invitations AT A FUNERAL was not only practical but in good taste? And at a funeral for OP’s wide, no less? Just because no one said anything doesn’t mean it wasn’t tacky AF, and his mom’s and her side of the family are trashy for condoning it. NTA!

[@TheCspencer6687]

Agreed. And the rest of her team needs to f off and pick up her slack, she's legit sick and it's not her fault, therefore they need to fill in where she's failing. She didn't ask for a hard pregnancy, so everyone else needs to pitch in and deal with it for her cyz it wouldn't be fair for her to deal with her own misfortune herself. Lifes not fair and I feel for the multiple other people who are not getting special treatment and are forced to do more, while someone else collects a paycheck for doing less. I feel for the pregnant woman but how exactly is that 9 others people's responsibility to clean up after her?

[@oldwoman2647]

Sorry markee but you’re wrong about the first story. Until you live this, you’re not in position to judge

[@heatherlee9880]

Omg!!! The comment that someone said all those horrible things. Go ahead and try it.

[@pagee7452]

Nothing wrong with being homophobic first of all that's their choice and the right second let everybody needs to accept the LGBT lifestyle and yeah you do you want to condemn her for it it's all right so let me

[@kotey1958]

First trimester is the worse

[@AshenTechDotCom]

if you choose to get pregnant and cant function at work, you should be given paid pregnancy leave, its wrong to expect pregnant women to work if they dont feel like it/up to it, show them proper respect.

[@flashingunicorncupcakekiss1436]

I hate cancer. 😭😭😭