r/AITA I Deleted A Friends Wedding Photos In Front Of Them After What They Did

[@hothotheat3000]

Deleting right in front of them is a truly savage move, especially considering how psycho people get about their wedding photos. They might be gearing up for a lawsuit, which is why they’ve been silent on social. A lawyer would advise them not to post anything disparaging online.

[@toysruskid5074]

Hope if he does, OP trashes him in court and gets compensation for heat exhaustion and 2 bottles of water.

[@yvonneburns2786]

Ah but no contract was signed so good luck to them on that one though.

[@lalvarez5151]

They can't sue him because they didn't pay.

[@thecoolgrandma7208]

OP Doesn't need to say anything. Just ask where their contract is. If groom states it was a handshake deal. OP just reminds him, that from told him if he leave to get food and water he will not be paid. THAT was a hand shake deal too that OP accepted. Done deal.

[@flamelily2086]

Story 1 NTA I can't believe anyone could be so inconsiderate as to expect OP to work for over 8 hours without a break or food or something to drink. The groom was an AH.

[@robertx8020]

This! And now he's an AH w/o any wedding photos ;) But I do agree with some redditers that OP should get the truth out on SM before this AH starts telling lies about OP!

[@patrikbengtsson3883]

With friends like that, who needs enemies.

[@Keira_Akoma]

It's common curtesy as well to offer food for your photographer especially if it's longer than a 3hrs shoot!

[@patrikbengtsson3883]

@@Keira_Akoma Nice argument

[@Sparkl73]

I’m desperate to find out how the newlyweds respond once they’re back from their honeymoon! I guess they had an extra $250 to spend while they were away, but no wedding photos 🤷‍♀️😂 too bad the groom couldn’t grab his friend a bottle of water!

[@kemonono]

ikr? that is genuinely disgusting

[@lancerevell5979]

Groom was a total AH. I once did a free photo gig for a work friend. Her little niece's birthday, at Chuck E. Cheese. Full pizza party. I was included, enjoyed a pizza slice and a coke. I took the photos - old school 35mm film camera. Got them developed and gave them and the negatives to her. Near twenty years ago, we are still friends.

[@Sparkl73]

@@lancerevell5979 and that is how friendships should work :) nice!

[@Lady.B0420]

I wonder if the wife even new while they were on their honeymoon

[@tegantalks9612]

Photographer needs to get out ahead of this and post his side of the story before they do. Fuck the groom, when a friend does you a favour that huge you treat them like fucking gold! There is a reason anyone attached to weddings charges extra for their services.

[@Lillypop93]

Story number two, this is not even an exaggeration this was my immediate response to hearing that this dog calmly and happily walked past the kid and father and the father kicked the dog.... I'm going to prison. I am fighting that father in front of his kid I understand if the dog was being aggressive to him but just walking past him I am absolutely fighting that man in front of his child. Not gonna argue leash laws cause they're common sense ESH

[@paden1865able]

Someone needs to call John Wick and take footage of the beat down.

[@aaronm4858]

@@paden1865able it gonna be curb stomp city baby

[@MaryTheresa1986]

I agree. My cat is an indoor kitty, but if anyone dared to hurt her, they would die. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

[@emberowl3718]

I don't condone animal cruelty, not in the least, but I do keep wondering if the kid was crying because she's allergic to dogs and in pain. I have a family member who is fatally allergic to dogs and a self-righteous dog owner who thinks the law doesn't apply to them can seriously ruin his day. (I happen to speak German and checked - dogs need to be leashed in Berlin except in designated dog parks or if you have the mentioned Hundeführerschein.) Said family member doesn't even need to touch the dog, it's enough for him to be in the general vicinity of a dog to break out and get breathing difficulties. Also notice how OP doesn't say what the other dog (the one who got kicked) was doing. Maybe the dude was just an asshole. Or maybe he was a Papa Bear who'd seen one too many law-breaking dog owner caring more about their dog's leashlessness than his daughter's wellbeing and snapped. That wouldn't make the dog-kicking okay, because it's not the dog's fault, but kicking away a threat away from your daughter would at least be understandable, especially if said threat is entirely preventable by people not being dicks. I get it, I'd be furious as well if someone kicked my cat, but I also don't force my cat's presence on potentially allergic people. And threatening violence on behalf of an obvious asshole because the other party _appears_ to be a bigger asshole is... not a good look, guys. Again, not excusing the animal cruelty. Just offering the perspective of someone who has loved ones who literally _die_ in the presence of a dog. TLDR: Guy might have been trying to protect an allergic daughter from a threat to her health and overreacted, which would be bad, but not worthy of an epic beatdown.

[@yourbootyholeisyourbeautyhole]

no you wouldn't lmao

[@liacaburian2092]

Story 3, nta. My 5th grade teacher who is father and grandfather also did this for us. While he didnt have a basket, the classroom was large that it had small bathroom and had a variety of pads for us up on the shelf that was easily accessible. I dont even remember my female teachers doing this for us. We need more teachers like op.

[@ladyv5655]

This! Menstruation is natural and healthy. It isn't gross and is only dirty if appropriate hygiene products aren't available. It is high time we started teaching girls and boys this.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Wish this was a thing when I was at school. Saves going to the office when caught out that's for sure..

[@lily-zg6io]

This! as long as pads and tampons aren't available for free in ALL bathrooms in schools (because not all menstruators use the women's bathrooms), a teacher having period products readily available in their classroom will benefit students, especially those that can't afford them

[@songohan3321]

I only advice is keep an eye on that other teacher. My assholian Karen senses are tingling and it is only a matter of time before she tries something big.

[@amandab8433]

A male science teacher in my high school (in the 80's) had a basket of tampons/pads that he made available to anyone that needed them. We all thought he was amazing, especially since the pad dispenser (cost 25 cents) in the bathrooms were always broken.

[@ryansheffield5930]

Man I worked in a catering hall for four years and I can say with absolute confidence. In four damn years I have never seen anyone treat any vendor like this, much less the photographer. Hell there were pretty often special tables set aside for all the vendors during the event!

[@BruinPhD2009]

Exactly. I've played in wedding bands and we were always fed some kind of meal. The table may have been in the back or a separate staging room, but we were always well taken care of. OP's 'friend' is an ass.

[@ladyv5655]

Seems that the people who are doing these valuable services for the wedding should be treated like VIPs. Same should apply to just about everybody in the service industry.

[@carolroberts4614]

And this is a friend! With friends like him, you certainly don't need enemies!

[@tgbedini]

@@BruinPhD2009 Yep, as I replied to another comment, when I played weddings, we were treated well, but when I played friends weddings, I was treated better.

[@mpmansell]

Story 4: NTA. Given how easily Regina lies, and her parents support her, I'd not trust Brandon cheated, or if he did, would wonder just how badly he'd been treated before he ended up seeking solace. ETA. A better way to handle it might have been for OP to ask Brandon to tell his daughter the gift was from him, but not let on that she knew until given it on her birthday. That, if she needs clarification after her birthday, to talk to both him and OP who knew the gift was from him. No need to let on that OP for-warned Brandon :)

[@RandomTrinidadian]

Story 1: The groom told OP to either "be a photographer" or leave without pay. What he think was gonna happen? NTA, the groom aint no friend. OP should cut out that noise and ask his so called "friend" if those photos were so important, the why not just pay for a actual photographer instead of taking advantage of their now non exisysnt friendship. As for people asking about photos, just tell them the groom never paid for one.

[@tippytoe1250]

I fed my wedding photographer. I also make sure my cleaning crew has cold water when they are cleaning my house. I always provide water. Even to the spectrum guy.

[@songohan3321]

People need to stop playing these stupid games.

[@oishisengupta109]

@@tippytoe1250 Exactly. That's a common thing to do where I live. We always feed photographers and catering staffs and others who are working the whole day.

[@NaliTikva]

I'm pretty sure water is a human right? Like you have to provided it to your employees, like with some exceptions when it's maybe a medical research where something about not drinking is researched under closely monitored conditions or something. Like there is this picture of "Vecna" from Stranger Things drinking something on set, like in full makeup and costume. He probably makes like $250 every minute on set and he still get's to drink.

[@sagejungwirth4155]

I'm a part time dog walker. Theres nothing that scares me more than overly friendly dogs and their owners who assume that because their doggo is so good and well behaved and friendly, that my clients dog will magically know this and not get scared, defensive, protective, and even aggressive. Leash. Your. Dogs. Please.

[@gunnargislason5221]

THANK YOU. I absolutely HATE having random dogs I've never met before running up to me and my dog and the owner just shouts "don't worry, he's friendly" instead of recalling their dog immediately. My dog has been attacked countless times by strange dogs so she's afraid of other dogs and always tries to hide behind me with her tail tucked between her legs. I don't want to put her through that.

[@owl7072]

Story 3: I had a teacher in 7th grade, (she was a woman so not exactly the same but still important) she was very nice to me and there was a point where I uhh... had a bit of an _incident_ and upon realizing what happened I refused to get up from my seat until everyone was gone even after the lunch bell rang, and when everyone was gone I got up from my seat and very awkwardly explained what happened to her. She didn't even bat an eye and comforted me, telling me it's okay while giving me cleaning supplies for my seat and asked if I had any pads or if I needed one since she had some in her desk for this exact reason. We really need more teachers who are understanding that it's not something we can control and that accidents happen. I was *mortified* but she helped me feel better and bless Op for trying to show that same level of care.

[@leviathan8215]

As a wedding photographer, it’s standard to feed your photographers. Even my nightmare clients have been better than this. The less people wanna pay, the more they want!

[@tgbedini]

I'm a musician, and have done more than a couple weddings. In almost every case, we got the same meal as the guests, generally a table of our own, and a warm welcome. On the handful of occasions when it was a friend who hired us, we were generally treated better, not worse, than by strangers. But I guess I have decent friends, unlike those people.

[@thomasquinn8886]

OP wasn’t accusing Regina of theft, he downright exposed her theft and good on him! I’m from an abusive home where my mom tried to tear down my dad at every turn. It backfired majorly and it would have been better to try and be a good person.

[@thecoolgrandma7208]

NTA, OP told Regina he would call Regina on her crap if she tried that. Good for him. Remind Regina and her parents Regina lied and created the drama. Becky asked about her Dad's gift, OP stopped Regina from lying a second time. As they say 1 lie leads to another.

[@axepagode33626]

Lazy Son Story: OP: New rules Son: "I'm an adult! Stop treating me like a child! OP: You need to learn to clean up after yourself, help around the house and not be a mooch. Son: MOM! Make daddy stop! OP: I rest my case.

[@greendaywonka4872]

Ahahahahaha.

[@hunnykun101]

I blame the mom honestly

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

Ya Mom needs to stop babying him. Gaming , computer, in the house should be time dependent to evenings. He can get out of the house to use WFI .Maybe he needs some resume’ writing help.

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

If he dose not eat with the family yes he needs to wash or load his stuff. Same with laundry he needs to do his own. These are life lessons and he needs these skills.

[@natnuss98]

I once was a babysitter for a wedding together with by friend. There were 8 children max. We only ever had to care for 5 of them at a time. We had a place at a table, ate when and what all people ate, took pictures in the picture booth together and got paid 100€ for an amazing evening. That bride and groom made my whole month with that job. Me and my friends never had a better job as university students.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 4: NTA Regina has every right to be mad at Brandon. What she doesn't have thenright to do is lie to her daughter, steal dad's gift, and attempt to poison her daughter's relationship with her dad. Regina sounds toxic as hell. You are almost never the liar for telling the truth when someone lies.

[@greenteawithhoneyandcream7173]

Actually my school try to have available tampons in the girls bathrooms but it got too expensive so they dropped it after like a week. It was a really sad because it took the student council literally years to get this through and established just for it to fall apart so quickly. So thanks teach!

[@lrock48]

I bet there are people just take them and stash them at home so they don't have to buy them anymore, instead of using them for emergencies. The school probably should've went with a vending machine styled dispenser. Back in my high school days, our female restrooms have vending dispensers for hygiene products (think they are like $.25), tampons, pads, and disposable panties. Not fancy brands, just something generic to get you through an emergency.

[@blandoatmeal1273]

It insane that that one teacher could pay for a constant supply for all his classes out of his own pocket, but your school can't afford it that just messed up.

[@carolroberts4614]

When I was in school in the late sixties, there were sanitary item vending machines.

[@Neighbor-assistantYN]

Our school had pads and regular tampons in the nurses office and was so much better for the ones who were low income. Having it available was comforting to them. Until the nurse retired, she had To-Go mini kits for the girls weekend for them.

[@greenteawithhoneyandcream7173]

@@blandoatmeal1273 well we are talking about one class room vs 500 students. My graduating class had like 200 of us and the entire population of students was around 1000

[@ScooterBond1970]

Chris: "I'm not a child!" Also Chris: "MOOOOMMMMM!!!!"

[@greendaywonka4872]

Ahahahahah

[@MarionHogan-m5i]

He is not a child but I don’t need to get a job or act like an adult

[@owl7072]

Story 2: ESH but the man more so. "This may come as a shock, but not everyone loves dogs" You can despise dogs with every fiber of your being for all I care, but you NEVER kick them. Especially if they weren't even doing anything to you and were simply just *existing*. Disliking an animal does not justify mistreating them in any way, shape or form, it's called be a god damn adult and WALK AWAY.

[@squirrel670]

I think thats why they are mad at the op because you open your dog up to those things by not leashing them. Like if you let your cat roam free when it doesn't need to be, people could run over or poison/torture your cat and all kinds of things. No one should but its a risk you could have done your best to prevent it.

[@Ambidexter143]

@@GemWist Kicking a dog that's done nothing to the dad or daughter is vicious. It's illegal (maybe not in Berlin which seems to have weird laws about dogs).

[@t.matthies3049]

​@@Ambidexter143 Agreed. As much as I do think it's best to keep dogs on leashes outside of one's own property, I don't think it's right to blame people not putting their pets on a leash for the abuse their pets receive when not on a leash. It feels like victim blaming.

[@squirrel670]

@@GemWist but he kicked the smaller dog walking by after, not the big dog that passed them in the moment. If he was afraid why give the dog a reason to attack him? Like poking the bear. Shooting it maybe but direct physical contact eh I don't buy it. Theres the saying of "kick the dog" for a reason. People who do just cause feel they can.

[@backpug1228]

@@Ambidexter143 oh, it is illegal to just kick a dog. Animal protection laws are in place here in germany.

[@oliviaksiag6163]

I disagree with the YTA verdict on that one, I would say it's ESH. The person no leashing their dog is an idiot, once one of my neighbors had their dog off-leash so he came up to my fuzzy demon and got attacked (Luckily he was almost twice her size so he didn't get hurt). But if someone kicked my dog, it would be a one way ticket to a curb stomp.

[@imperialspacemarine1539]

I think you are generalizing to mutch here. You say dog is dog therefore leash but that doesnt sit right. Properly trained and well behaved dogs can be let of the leash yes and ops dog was both. Therefore he is NTA in my opinion. The father took a fly and made a titanic out of it(cause an elephant is too small for such an overreaction) + Dogs are often very protective the dead flipping his shit onto op wasnt just an overreaction but dangerous too. As was kicking the other dog. If it was a friend of ops dog, ops dog could have seen the other dog as pack member and instinctively attacked the dad endangering him and his kid even more.

[@squirrel670]

@@imperialspacemarine1539 its not about how trained the dog is its about other people being unpredictable and lying.

[@cedric7751]

Friendly or not, if an unleashed dog approach me, it gets a bullet straight in his skull. I almost lost an eye to a “friendly dog who wouldn’t hurt a fly” when I was 6, I’m definitely not taking the risk a second time.

[@imperialspacemarine1539]

@@squirrel670 if you have no prove the dog was leashed at that point even having a leash doesnt protect you from lying. And the Unpredictable is the unpredictable. Im sure as hell that the dog kicker a-hole would have lost his shit either way.

[@imperialspacemarine1539]

@@cedric7751 first of all please leave the gore out. Dont say you would end a dog, there are kids that could stumble on here that might not take well to guy talking about ending dogs. Just say dogs not on the leash are not flying with you or similar. Second: there are way more efficient ways to rid an attacking dog then just killing it. A loud bang is enogh most of the time and considering their height and the fact that you you have a single eye you shouldnt use guns on them. You might just shoot yourself in the foot or you shoot the ground risking a ricochet that might end up killing or hurting bystanders. And lastly: playing macho doesnt make you cool. If a dog runs at you with the intent to kill you wont have the time to draw, aim(with one eye) and kill. You would run like everyone else because nobody can be so stupid to fight a rabit animal. And if the dog has no intentions to kill or harm: congrats you just killed an innocent dog and are charged with animal cruelty.

[@singer2be256]

I live similarly to Chris and I can't imagine not doing my share. First thing I do every morning is empty and fill the dishwasher then sweep the floor.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 1: OP should check with the other vendors I wonder how many of them "Are not Professional XYZ's". She needs to get her side out on each of those posts asking about the photos and tell them full out what the bride and groom did. OP did risk her health their is a pandemic still raging, and she was in close quarters with a large group of people. On top of being forced to work in 110 heat shes lucky she didn't collapse formal clothes don't breath well.

[@gaxalee7392]

They’re lucky Op didn’t faint from the lack of food, rest, and little water. Considering the circumstances, Op might have had grounds to sue if they did faint. I get that you need to leash dogs in public, but why did that man kick a dog when it’s not even being aggressive? He attacked a dog because he, himself, is too aggressive to be unleashed. Treating period related stuff like a taboo that men are too immature or perverse to “interact” with is why many men are either pathetically grossed out by it or insanely unintelligent about women’s bodies and the related hygiene products. That teacher is a good man. Thank Op for choosing the child(Becky) over the immature brat of an “adult”(Regina). Neither Becky nor Brandon deserve to have their relationship destroyed just because Regina doesn’t like him. Op just wants his son to either step up and be an adult in the house or stop causing extra expenses in an apparently one income household.

[@GoldanSaint]

Story 4: Hell no NTA. My dad always does similar shit to regina in this story, and my stepmum would always call him out on it publicly when he did. They aren't together anymore and Im no contact with dad now and still visit stepmum & stepsisters. Becky knows you really have her best interests at heart by not lying about her father and Brandon will be glad to know you had his back rather then be in on the lie to his daughter about the gift and trying to use daughter as a pawn against him.

[@apileofratz4131]

Story 1: I had a similar experience to this, back when I was 16 me, my brother (14m) and mother were helping out one of her friends (40ish m) cater a wedding, we were promised a meal for all of us and about 16 dollars per hour each What ended up happening is we worked the whole time (about 10 hours) with no breaks, got yelled at when we didnt work fast enough, berated for cleaning a spill, no promised food, and he tried to cut our pay cause mom had to run out and buy supplies, We later learned he regularly had workers walk out on him cause he treats them like shit Haven't spoke to him since, fuck you mike

[@blackrosebud2331]

Story 2: You see as a dog owner I don’t let her off leash except in a off leash park Story 3: holy cow that op is the sweetest teacher! Honestly I would’ve loved to have a teacher like you, I actually did something like that for my friends, I always had a basket in my locker

[@clairebear-96]

what a great teacher on story 3, NTA!! every bathroom should have free sanitary products imo, especially in school bathrooms - they can get expensive and not every family can afford them

[@kemonono]

fr, I feel bad my guy had to ask purely because a lot of men are 'taught' that periods are none of their business and basically a taboo, which is frustrating.

[@lily-zg6io]

Story 2: ESH cus OBVIOUSLY the dude massively overreacted, but if you live in a large city/populated area, your dog should be on a leash. Firstly for the dog's safety, with cars and bikes, secondly for other's wellbeing since you're still in a public space, thirdly for legal reasons like in this story where applicable. I used to live in the countryside and even there dogs were on leashes unless they were in a field, because there were horseriders, bikers, and cars nearby enough that they are a hazard.

[@darkshadow5581]

Story 5 NTA. I Wouldn't normally like the wifi rule, but if he can't even do his own dishes, and complains about the food, then he deserves getting treated as a kid.

[@lorefox3884]

The only thing I can see is that it might turn into a double-edged sword of making it harder to apply for jobs or possibly do tele-interviews going forward. It can be done but dad needs to have some exceptions for checking emails and etc if he really wants them to get a job.

[@donniejefferson9554]

@@lorefox3884 If the guy can't apply for a few jobs and interviews within 6 hours then he really isn't trying. I do think the rule could be a little ridiculous but if anything I think it's rather tame if he's doing nothing but sit around

[@Person-sq3xz]

The dad probably doesn't want his kid watching Netflix all day, or online gaming all day. I'd probably do the same thing if I had a 23 year old child.

[@dandotvid]

@@lorefox3884 guaranteed if it can be proven the son was using the time for job searches and such, the dad would have no issues with it. The wifi rule is clearly for leisure stuff.

[@absolutelyridiculous6743]

No. Leash your dog in public. You cannot control other people's reactions to your furry friends, so you need to protect him/her. You know they are well-behaved but strangers do not. It's rather entitled to assume everyone will accept and enjoy your pet the way you do. You're putting your beloved animal in situations that could be very dangerous for it.

[@susanyoung5447]

Boys should know about menstruation. The earlier the better imo. That way when they start having long term relationships they won't freak out when it happens. OP you are the best kind of teacher. I hope my niece is like this. She's a new teacher, 3 years at this point. Her students like her a lot according to end of year evaluations. Good luck, OP.

[@cjb2749]

Story 4: that is one of the most ill conceived strategies I've ever heard. How exactly will Becky not find out? She sees her dad, he asks if she liked the bracelet, she comes home pissed at her mom. It was never going to work out. OP is definitely NTA, but he didn't actually need to get involved, Becky would have found out pretty quickly either way. Regina sounds like a terrible mother.

[@bellesmith8925]

Ugh. It is so annoying when people don’t leash their dog. Whenever I walk my dog and see a leash-less dog and I’ll grab my dog. Then they say “Oh don’t worry, my dog is friendly.” And I have to yell “Mine is not! Please stop your dog from approaching mine!” Then they get all huffy. Leashing your dog isn’t a punishment, it protects them.

[@15oClock]

1. Reminds me of stories from r/ChoosingBeggars. Treat cheap or free help well; they have little reason to stay. 2. Always leash your dogs! I know that dad's an animal abuser, but that doesn't change the point. 3. Susan's being a Susan here. All OP is doing is looking after his female students, nothing more. 4. Becky deserved to know Brandon was trying to be a good father. Regina's taking her dislike of him too far. 5. Chris needs to do some work, but OP needs to rethink some of these rules. Babies and bathwater.

[@Demonic_Culture_Nut]

OP 5 sounds a lot like a Boomer. I bet he þinks his son needs to get out, resume in hand, walk right into a place of business, and ask for an application. Þen badabing badaboom, son has a job as if þe world hasn't changed a lot in þe past 10 years, even more since *he* got a job. Hell, þe world's changed a lot in þe last 2 years.

[@ArmyOfFreaks]

Dogs should be leashed... The one time my older sister said she didn't need a leash cause she was getting a ride to a place and back... Well guess what.. She didn't get a ride back and while walking our dog home unleashed he saw a squirrel and bolted after it...right into the road... He got hit by a car really bad and barely survived. We were extremely lucky he survived. She never took our dog out without the leash again. Dogs should be leashed❤

[@melissahaire7058]

I was walking my daughter's Maltese, leashed, however, there was no sidewalk so we always had her to our inside away from the road and this moron who was tired from working the night shift, speeding, posted limit is 25 because there is no sidewalk and it's right along the lake, he came over the little hill, over the line and when I moved to get out of the way he hit our dog, almost ripped my arm off because of how fast he was going, but he killed my daughter's little baby!! Thank goodness there was a bike cop right there dealing with another person and caught the whole thing on his bodycam, and I got to use it in civil court. He was very lucky he wasn't arrested!! Got the cost of our dog, and my medical expenses covered, plus some pain and suffering for witnessing the whole situation, which could have been avoided if he wasn't speeding and was paying attention!! Also helped that he was a complete Dick and wanted to argue with the judge! So judge hammered him and berated him! It broke my daughter's heart and she's really never been the same since! Always worrying about our current dogs and refuses to walk them, will not let her cats outside at all, even on a leash! I agree that all dogs should be leashed but that doesn't guarantee that something tragic doesn't happen!!

[@dandotvid]

@@melissahaire7058 People speed on the road I live on ALL the time (they use it as a cut-through to bypass an intersection with a light about a quarter mile down the road). Speed limit is 25 with a clear sign that says "no thru traffic". I barely walk my dog down the road because of it. Shame I can't walk him around my own house because of idiots. I'm sorry that happened to you.

[@dustyrose192]

It depends on where you are in the uk. If youre in a park, my dog trainer said its ok. If you're nearing a dog with a yellow leash (meaning its anxious or agressive) you leash your dog and walk them away. Dogs that should be leashed if theyre not good at recall.

[@squirrel670]

@@melissahaire7058 same thing happened to my friends mom and one of their dogs, it was in the neighborhood with no other witnesses so no justice for them unfortunately

[@melissahaire7058]

@@squirrel670 I'm so sorry they had to go through that! It is unfortunate that no one saw what happened and that people are really horrible and can't take responsibility for their actions, especially when they hurt or kill an innocent animal!!

[@shizanketsuga8696]

27:02 - This comment is spot on. People who buy into the "You follow my rules as long as you put your feet under my table." line are borderline braindead. Either the rules are good, in which case one can and should make the argument _why_ they are good, or they are _not_ good, in which case it is morally wrong to enforce them by lording house ownership over someone's head. And as the commenter pointed out some of the rules basically only served to infantilise and annoy the son with no thought given to practicability or usefulness. OP _could_ have put his ideas to the test by running them past his wife and adjust them accordingly, but _for some reason_ I didn't get the impression that they are the kind of couple who gives a shit what their significant other thinks and for what reasons. Lovely household, all in all.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA Did people forget that a friend isn't "someone I can take advantage of and treat ike shit"

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#3 NTA good for you you are showing it is normal and nothing to be ashamed of.

[@Russman67]

Story 4: Regina very likely hates her ex-husband but going out of her way to alienate their daughter against him is beyond the pale. Good job maintaining that shiny spine OP. Not the asshole.

[@sharonbroadbent8138]

Period poverty is a real thing. Anyone that's helping to combat this, is doing good in my books

[@carolroberts4614]

The food bank box in our local Sainsbury's has a box for personal supplies too!

[@catherineholt1149]

. When I was working I got into the habit of making sure to have a small med kit with sanitary products, over the counter meds etc for the students. It hard when you cant even afford basic pain relief and other necessities

[@katta309]

I think that sanitary products should be free or cheap as the human body can’t help it self for needing to remove the bad things from it self

[@carolroberts4614]

In the UK at one time, they were taxed at the higher rate, because they were classed as unnecessary or luxury items.

[@NaliTikva]

@@carolroberts4614 wtf

[@TsukiKageTora]

How dare someone get a huge discount on a hired photographer, and treat them like shit. I would have continued the job and then sued them for something in labor laws that prevents employers to make someone overwork without a break. Every 4 hours worked in America, you get a 15 minute break. Also would sue them for any health issues I had as a employee hired by them Their $250 will look closer to 4 or 5 digits

[@aztec0112]

If the photog didn't have a contract, it likely wouldn't go anywhere. Photog agreed to $250. Photog did the right thing in just deleting the photos.

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@aztec0112 if they had it in writing, they were hired to work. They get to have breaks every 4 hours of work by law as anyone hired would do. This will go somewhere. Cause if it isn’t and people who have jobs without contracts, will never get what they are owed if they are forced to work long hours without breaks. But then again I’m not a lawyer, I might have to ask one someday, maybe like the KZbinr lawyer that looks at shows with legal scenes and sees how realistic they are, according to American law

[@beckyhartley9502]

Story 3: *OH SHUT UP SUSAN*

[@katfig8926]

What kind of person is OP if he married a 🗑 like Regina? How do you go to bed every night with an awful person next to you unless you are one as well? He needs to leave her ASAP.

[@Krisna_K]

I got married 2 almost 3 years ago! Nobody had to tell me the photographer, servers, band and other helpers had to be fed, I just knew! Telling a vendor they can’t eat or drink anything is ludicrous! I would’ve deleted the pictures too! I would definitely set the story straight right away if I were OP! And cut contact immediately!

[@magrad2010]

Story 3, you are a wonderful teacher!! My male teachers treated a young woman's cycle like it was taboo. We had precious little support.

[@bettybell63]

I found some people think all dogs are friendly. I've had protective dogs and have had to tell people no you can't pet my dog. Had to pay medical bills for a dog bite because my kids brought in a neighbor who thought her waving at my dog through the fence meant my dog liked her. I always held my dog by collar or put it back yard while people in my house. Even muzzled my dog during vet visits.

[@Acidfunkish]

Well-trained protective dogs don't randomly attack people. What YOU have is a poorly socialised dog who you use as an alarm service.

[@byakurenbreak]

I know it’s not really my place to say, but if your dog is just randomly attacking people, it sounds like your dog needs training. You’re correct in saying not all dogs are angels, but they shouldn’t be demons either.

[@justheretowatch1733]

My dog was a protection dog (RIP). He attacked on command. Or if I was in danger. Not under any other situation. What you have is an untrained aggressive dog. Train or surrender your animal. Do better or your animal is going to be put down.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - OP is NTA and those idiots are lucky she didn't just faint away. Always make sure those doing things for you - especially in the summer - have enough food and water to stay upright. Do not blame OP at all for saying screw it. So sorry she wasted a whole day for these terrible people!

[@gloriasowle8083]

It's a generational thing. Susan was raised in a time when sometimes even their own mother's would not discuss the natural things of life. So it may seem hard for her to see it out in the open.

[@carolynsteele9929]

A teacher taking on the work and expense of supplying pads and tampons for your female students is AMAZING!! What a wonderful, caring teacher!

[@justozzy5559]

Story 3: NTA. I had a basket like that at my house until my cat started stealing my tampons 🤣🤣

[@imajinallthepurple]

Story 2: Totally YTA! You do not let your dog run loose, especially in the city. You might know your dog but other people don't and I have seen both kids and adults who were terrified when coming across an off leash dog, no matter the size or breed; the same with other dogs and even local wildlife. You're also endangering your dog's safety with regard to vehicles, nervous/aggressive dogs and their owners. HOWEVER you do not hurt animals - unless it's in self defense - so the father was also a major A!

[@dianemartel5205]

Story five: the parent is not being unreasonable. My son just finished his university degree recently moved back in with us while he is looking for work we pay for his food but he cooks sizzle he cleans up after himself he does his own laundry and he does all kinds of chores around the house. Plus he does not cause us overages in our Internet usage because that’s all he does is sit around and watch KZbin and play games. That young man needs to stand on his own 2 feet.

[@danip9927]

My mom was bitten by a "sweet" german shepherd who was her best friends', the dog had no aggression towards others or her but one day he just bit her out of the blue. She still likes dogs, but is weary around big dogs, especially g sheps now. It does not matter what history your dog has, nothing is impossible.

[@emm_uhh]

Last story ESH. It took me 3 months to officially get a job after graduating uni and this was when the economy was good in my country. Moving back in with my parents I told my mom I was burned out and was only gonna focus on applying to jobs and not go back into retail. Still helped out with household chores and cooking, but that's stuff I was doing since I was 11.

[@dustyrose192]

Boys arent usually taught to help with household chores as a kid. I agree he should help out but some of those rules were downright stupid

[@fcold9402]

4. Absolutely NTA. You were the best person for providing the truthful information. It is all the wifes fault for being the thief she is. Always advocate for the truth and against an evil lie like this one.

[@BIGEAGLEDUDE]

With the first story you're not in the wrong here however you should have just saved the pictures and make them pay with interest for them treating you badly on a day that was supposed to be for them.

[@kemonono]

wym? I didn't see anyhing about pictures ect Edit: just realised you probably meant story 1 not story 5

[@christinedaae1986]

The dog story is an ESH for me simply because that dad sucks-not for being upset because I’m sure others would be upset, but for the way he exploded-and kicked the smaller dog. He seems like a terrible person and is setting a horrid example for his kid. OP sucks for obvious reasons.

[@doggolovescheese1310]

Story 1: I bet his wife was pissed at her husband for bluffing their friend like that xD Good for the dog groomer. ^^

[@yellit1975]

1. NTA. OP needs to delete these ‘friends’ 2. ESH. Dogs should be on leads except in designated areas. Father shouldn’t have kicked the dog. 3. NTA obviously. 4. NTA. OP needs to dump Regina, she and in-laws sound horrible. 5. ESH. Son knows he can get mummy to protect her golden child. OP’s rules C&D are insulting.

[@StandedInUtah]

There are places dogs can be leash-free but walking down the street is not one of those places. It's so dangerous for the dog. My dogs are allowed off leash in the back acres of our home, at the dog park and for Echo when no one is around at the beach- Cato stays on his leash all the time at the beach.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: NTA and this should be in EVERY classroom or at least readily available.. Some boomer thinks periods are inappropriate...and just because he's a man? What an idiot. Destigmafication of a normal bodily function is essential to stopping the shame women are instilled with over something they have no control over. Maybe if more men had more knowledge and empathy about periods, they'd treat women better. Op seriously needs to reconsider this marriage.

[@KateKanenator]

Story 5: I agree w/ESH comments. OP should do what my mom did instead of rule #3: have Chris apply for jobs & record his progress in a spreadsheet (hours, # of applications, notes, etc). Each week, check the spreadsheet to make sure he's keeping up with it. (She had me do it to help me with rent $ right after college, not cause I lived with her, but it worked!)

[@amandab8433]

I was in high school in the 80's. My male science teacher made pads and tampons available for anyone that needed them, even students not in his class. We all thought he was amazing, especially since the pad/tampon dispenser in the bathrooms (cost 25 cents) were always broken.

[@AJUniverse]

Story 2: ESH only because of the dad's reaction. Leash your flippin' dog. It doesn't matter how good it usually is, the safest option for everyone, literally, is to leash it.

[@jesswagner7391]

Watching while opening some baby gifts sent to my house. My in-laws are so sweet 😊

[@dagnytheartist]

Story 4: You are so NTA!!! The world needs more stepdads like you! So many terrible stepdads would have sided with their wives just because, but you did the right thing and called your wife out for the crime. Your stepdaughter will remember that for years and she'll resent her mom for stealing and lying about a present but she'll remember you and her dad as good parents that she respects. Story 5: ESH, only because OP is being harsh on a guy that lost his apartment during the pandemic AND that stupid rule about "wifi for only 6 hours a day." What is that about? Trying to control his "screen time" as an adult is ridiculous; he should be able to plan his time on his own! That being said, he should have already been doing his own laundry and dishes, so it sounds like this kid is one of those spoiled -men- adults who had Mommy doing everything for him even in his late teens and now can't do basic housecare. Absolutely make him do laundry and dishes, and he shouldn't be complaining about your food if he's eating dinner you paid for (this son sounds like a 6 year old what the heck) but don't restrict wifi or Netflix (I mean unless you're paying for his account and it's not like a family account on the tv). Basically treat him like an adult.

[@justmestillme2579]

I firmly believe dogs should always be on a leash outside their own home or yard. It's not just for the protection of others but for their own protection as well. Your dog might not make a habit of chasing after other animals or running into traffic, but it only takes one time. And I've had to keep my own dog from running off before I could grab her a couple of times because some asshat didn't have his dog on a leash and it came charging after her.

[@aztec0112]

Good for the dog groomer! Wedding photography is a grueling job in the best of circumstances. I did it for a while, but it was a thankless, expensive AND profitless job. Most photography contracts strictly state the wedding party needs to provide breaks, food and water for the photographer. Excellent move by the photographer! 👍👍

[@Zeracheil]

Story 1: NTA I only had a photographer at my wedding and when we all went to the restaurant for the dinner I straight up told my photographer to sit down and order what he liked. Man drove over an hour and was with me literally all day I did not deny him food or drink at all.

[@WhtAbtBob10]

Story 2: YTA. It doesn't matter how well your dog is trained you should least them when you have them out. The guy is definitely an a****** for kicking the dog but it wouldn't have happened if the dog was on a leash in the first place.

[@LilChuunosuke]

*Story 1:* NTA and I'd love to know what the bride and groom were thinking, if they were at all?? It was 110 degrees, no AC and they didn't offer food, water, breaks, or even a place to sit for their photographer. One of two things was going to happen when the groom offered that ultimatum: 1. OP leaves the venue, accepting that they would not receive pay. 2. OP stays at the venue, but ends up suffering from heat stroke and, if they're smart, suing the newlyweds for endangering their health after being sent to the hospital. I'm glad OP got out before they put their health in critical danger.

[@Joe___R]

The last story, OP is NTA, & to everyone who has a problem with rule C the rules seems to be only in place until he starts financially contributing. Until he starts acting like an adult he should be treated just like the other children in the house which includes only 6 hours of wi-fi a day.

[@imperialspacemarine1539]

for the story with the "Hundeführerschein": German politics dont make sense. both sides were right. ops dog doesnt need to be leashed and every dog obtained(?) after 16 needs to be if you dont have that license. the "correction" comment said it "only available for dogs gotten after july 2016" therfore this rule doesnt go for OPs dog who is older than that. Rules in germany always create seems for some reason. there is always an "it can be applied" and an "it cannot be applied" allthough the only difference between two situations is time. Germany is completely nonsensical sometimes. And yes what I am saying is : this is german efficiency. it does not exist(at least in politics) its always a battle between dumb and dumber with rare outliers of somewhat sensible and a once in 20 years occasion of "finally a good thing! Good job!"

[@nyxcuseme]

Yes, Germany is wonderful with stuff like that. I once had a veterinary person visit because my personal nightmare neighbours said my dog "never got walked", and the official government person visiting told me after questioning that I can NOT NOT unleash my dog, a dog has to be free, and it is animal cruelty to always have them on the leash. Our rules here literally state that dogs are to be leashed, no exceptions that I know of. You can get fined, or, funnily enough, get a official veterinary person send to check if you look after your pets. So THE GOVERMENT DUDE told me to go against a firm rule, even though I have a traumatized hunting dog. Absolutely nuts.

[@imperialspacemarine1539]

@@nyxcuseme this is germarica

[@julias2855]

Period issue: Love it! As a lady I would appreciate it. Teens are not great about carrying them. Also it’s expensive & they can run out due to cost. Such a blessing 🥰

[@threeducks157]

Complete agree, there is leash laws for a reason doesn't matter how friendly the dogs are its for both the dogs and others safety. In my case i cant let my 165 lb monster run loose. Also if your restrooms in schools dont have dispensers for hygiene products you can submit a petition for it, ask you guidance counselor for more info.

[@kixi8033]

1. NTA. I probably would have done the same. 2. ESH. Leash your dog or don't have one. I don't care how nice you think it is, everyones dog is nice until it suddenly isn't. The parent was a jerk for kicking the dog for no reason. 3. NTA. What the op is doing is very helpful. 4. NTA. The op also needs to divorce this chick. 5. ESH. Sounds like Chris gets his attitude from the op seeing as how the op just does whatever he wants without discussing things first.

[@lg2m480]

One thing I don't understand... These days we had a mother that asked her daughter to cover her tattoo at home and everybody blew up on her for being controlling because she's an adult with a clear head who had a graduate degree, yet, when OP here shows a clearly over controlling list to his son who also has a graduate degree but is a crybaby this time around, we see a lot more NTA and now "my house, my rules" is totally valid. At minimum it should be ESH because, but I'm not commenting on the post or on the merit of either story cause it would mud the argument. However, on the answers, the hypocrisy of the commenters from reddit sometimes pisses me off more than the stories.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 5: ESH there is no denying thatChris has been acting lazy and doesn't do anything. He shouldn't be having them wait on him hand and foot. However OP is acting like this has been like this for years. It's been 4 MONTHS. Maybe the kid is taking a much needed break after 16 years work at school. He should be contributing something to the house, but there may be a good reason why he didn't know thay(see "Finally" below) How is he supposed to get a job without wifi? All jobs require internet applications. We are also in the worst job market of our lifetime. Not only that but OP did this unilaterally without input from his wife. Theybare supposed to be partners. Finally, what I think really makes him the asshole is this. It's been 4 months. OP mentions talking to his wife about his concerns. Has he ever talked to his son before dropping all this on him? If not, and that's what it sounds like, he did NOTHING to try and fix the situation before jumping straight to "my house, my rules." Yes, he's 23 and a college graduate, but many people go from living like a kid and go straight college. They come back home on breaks and keep the same lifestyle. He may not have understood that expectations were different because that's all he's ever done at home. Add mom doing all that stuff for howitzer, and he may have been under the impression that it was OK. Without OP making any expectations known, how was he supposed to know OP didn't like the situation or needed to change especially with mom doing everything? OP went from zero to "I'm tresting you like a child" without ANY discussion and did so without his wife's input or agreement. That makes him an asshole too. Edit: THANK YOU! That last comment was spot on. They articulated it way better than I could have.

[@laurenmentink7401]

Story 1 = At my wedding we had food for everyone, we also had boutonnieres and corsages for the bridal party and caterers (no professional photographers). At my wedding all of the people there were special, not just bride and groom. Bride and Groom (me and hubby) were the centerpiece of the day. It was beautiful.

[@djspbb]

The rules for home sound to me like his son came back home did nothing to contribute to the house. It also like he complained about the free food he ate if it wasn't what he liked. If he was going to act like a child, then treating him like one might be appropriate.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#1 So NTA, love it. Who needs "friends" like them.

[@ravenfox926]

Story 1: NTA. The OP reacted a lot nicer then I wouldve/Had been. I'm nobody's doormat.

[@tianarose3085]

that last story, i think that the son may be struggling with his mental health and he should be sitting down and asking him if he’s okay. then you implement rules like, being responsible for laundry (i’ve been doing my own since i was 12), washing dishes (maybe implement a timetable where EVERYONE washes dishes on a certain day or something) and yes obviously getting a job. but it’s important to note that right now it is incredibly hard to get a job. especially when taking into account his degree, what he got it in would lower his chances of finding something straight away and a lot of people are out of work because of covid and are struggling to find employment. limiting his wifi time to six hours is weird, even for the daughter depending on what age she is obviously. you’re essentially isolating your children from everyone outside the family unit which is pretty detrimental to their mental health. idk, that whole thing was just really weird

[@JayeEllis]

Story 1: NTA - Brass balls most people wish they had! You drew the line at your health and called their bluff. Groom has no one to blame but himself. They seriously didn't expect you to eat, drink, or take a break? I'm pretty sure that violates labor laws, even for a freelancer. Friendship over!

[@eevee9272]

For the second story where they were like "everyone who owns dogs says that there dogs are nice." My late doggo was really grumpy and didn't like strangers at all. He was super protective for being such a small thing and I would always warn anyone when they wanted to try to pet him when I went walking with him.

[@81babyruthluv]

That teacher says it's weird cause she is weird. I would have told her to mind her own business. The VA hospital I work for stocks free tampons and pads in their bathrooms, and those janitors are mostly male (those jobs are saved exclusively for veterans, so the majority are male). Is it weird that they stock that stuff in the bathrooms? No. Would this even be a question if men had periods too? I don't think so.

[@ericmishima]

Story 3: That male teachers kindness, understanding, and humility made me cry. Susan, what is wrong with you?

[@nature_fiend777]

story 3 absolutely nta. you are an amazing and caring teacher. your students are lucky to have you :)

[@ruffr4bb1t]

Story 2: my neighbors don’t leash their dogs and my mailbox is right in front of their house. The other day I went to pick it up and the neighbors dog (big German shepherd) barked & jumped on my car, scratching it really bad. Then his other little mix pup ran in front of my car as I was about to drive off. I can’t stand people who don’t leash their animals especially if they cannot be controlled in the slightest.

[@sharosudo]

Story 2: my dog is aggressive at other dogs but great with people. Keep your dog leashed, I don't want to be responsible for your dog being attacked because they weren't leashed.

[@Tammohawk1]

1. NTA People can have a heat stroke in that heat w/o anything to drink. They didn't give OP anything to eat, drink or sit for a short break. "Be a photographer or go home." People need a break, in the heat they need to stay hydrated. Crappy people get crappy service. 2. YTA There is a leash law for a reason. "My dog is friendly." How many times have we heard that one and then the dog attacks? Too many. 3. NTA When my sons were teenagers and had tons of friends coming over, including female friends, I kept period products in their bathroom for their friends. I had a hysterectomy when I was 30, so I didn't keep those things for me. It would have been awesome if teachers had of done this for their students. I don't get women who think this is all taboo and shouldn't talk about this. CA teachers don't make tons of money though. 4. NTA Regina lied and got called out on it. I can get her being upset because he cheated on her, but what she is doing is called alienation of parental affection and she can lose custody of her daughter. Who caused the drama to begin with? Regina. I'd be leaving after this nonsense. 5. NTA "I'm an adult!" Then Chris needs to start acting like one if he wants to be treated as one.

[@jameslyons6655]

Story one. You can tell everything you need to know about people by how they treat “the help”. Expecting an amateur photographer working by themselves to work 8+ hrs without a break, without food, without water, without a place to sit. Those people are trash. They probably wouldn’t have paid anyway “your photos could be your gift to us”.

[@kacielawrence]

Story 2: OP is NTA. The guy who kicked the tiny and elderly should be charged with animal abuse and put on a list to prevent him from having animals and being around them. I don't care if OP's dog startled that guy's kid or not, that doesn't give ANYONE a reason to kick an animal. Also, the small elderly dog did nothing to them. This guy NEEDS to not only be on an animal abuser list, but also be in jail for violence against an elderly animal that couldn't defend itself.

[@queen_of_flatulence]

Just in time! I just finished my GED test, now I'm waiting for the Email to tell me if I passed or not. (I hope I did)😬 Edit:I PASSED MY TEST!!!!!!!!!!

[@MarkNarrations]

Good luck Queen, wishing you the best!

[@jesswagner7391]

Awesome! Great job! If no one else says it, I'm proud of you 😊

[@SlinkyDragon]

Wishing you good luck, with fingers crossed! 🤞 Edit: Congrats!

[@vivianwalters1329]

Good on you! I hope you passed!!

[@louellacharlton4425]

good luck kiddo. hope you pass

[@TsukiKageTora]

27:49 I’m sorry but what is this sentence? So you’re telling us that it would be harder on everyone else that they all do their own laundry but someone doing everyone’s laundry isn’t? Gross. I’d never touch my brother’s laundry. I have done my laundry since I was in high school. My mom does hers and my brother does his. We schedule days on when we do laundry that goes with everyone’s schedule. It’s not that hard for a 4 person household to make a schedule of the son to do his own damn laundry in 7 days. Harder on everyone? And they have the audacity to say OP doesn’t know laundry? 🙄

[@WitchKat]

The wifi makes a lot more sense if you realize they probably have a limited data plan instead of an unlimited plan. My mother did the same thing to my wifi bill (and she did it watching Netflix videos too, i ended up getting *so many* fee emails while i was stuck at work and couldn't shut it off) and now instead of $70 its now at $110 just so i can avoid data fees that are $30 a pop.

[@C.CurrySims]

I only have 1 problem with story 5. What is Chris's degree in? If he can work from home, 6hr. of internet isn't going to cut it. If he can't work from home, the degree may be hurting his chances with getting a job because he's overqualified.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Everyone at my house does their own laundry. I don't want my laundry mixed with other people's laundry. It in no way makes things harder on anyone

[@jakeand9020]

Yeah, this one threw me a little. True on the dishes, switching just for one extra set of dishware is definitely a nuisance, but, hopefully, nobody is doing just one set of clothes. The only thing I can think of is the comment meant rinsing and putting them in the dishwasher rather than just leaving them in the sink (or, I wouldn't put past this character, on the table) for mommy to take care of.

[@tophesshtzgiggles609]

Story5: My take on why he made his rules(re wifi) is that son is probably gaming all day. And yes, 6 hours of job hunting a day is more than enough time.

[@askippzer9732]

As someone who is terrified of dogs I very much agree that dogs unleashed wouldn't be an ideal world for me. Even if your dog is friendly no one else is going to know. Besides there will always be 'those' people who can't control their dogs or not really care. I've experienced the worst of them, which is why I'm now terrified of dogs.

[@PawleyGirl]

My little sister is terrified of dogs. Age, size, doesn't matter, she's extremely scared of them. She doesn't know why she's so afraid, she just is. She would freak out if a dog runs up to her. People just need to be respectful of others when it comes to animals.