My Friend Is Accusing My Husband Of Cheating After He Complimented Her Dress r/Relationships

[@buildtherobots]

I sincerely hope that this whole situation doesn't dissuade OPs husband from complimenting people in the future

[@Happyfoam-lw3yt]

Tbh, it definitely will.

[@hello93617]

It probably will, as this situation does for most men. The difference is that most of them learn it much earlier.

[@MarionHogan-m5i]

My late Dad was very good at giving compliments and was also a loyal husband.

[@firerosenight6937]

"If you don't heal your wounds, you'll bleed on those who didn't cut you." Thats what happened to exfriend. She hasn't healed and is hurting others.

[@juliearmfield2634]

That's exactly right

[@themayhemofmadness7038]

I had a friend that did a similar thing to our friend group after her childhood best friend did something very bad and betrayed her. She started looking and waiting for everyone else to betray her as well and in a subconscious fashion, started reacting to that paranoia. She ended up imploding several friendships because of it, including ours.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@themayhemofmadness7038 I knew a chick like this as well and she was at the beginning stages of literally trashing all of her friendships, male and female, with friends she has had since we all were in kindergarten. I set her up with the most headstrong "Alpha Male" take no prisoners, my way or the highway dude I knew. They have been very happily married for 7 years now and the two of them are the most lovey-dovey always touching each other couple that I know LOLOLOL. These two people actually "FIXED" each other. I set them up to show each of them how worse the dating scene actually is but then, they fell in love with each other and morphed into what the other (and themselves) needed. I'm still not sure what the hell happened, but it works for them so, hey, power to them.

[@ladyinpink403]

​@Thomas Joseph now that's a love story

[@crisrodriguez5693]

I thought she was, like... trying to prove to herself that she could uncover an affair, or prevent it from happening. Since she must have feel so blindsided by her long term relationship, she'd probably want to believe it can't happen to her again, because she will see the signs, no matter how small. Did not expect the mental illness part.

[@whims6278]

The friend makes me so mad. I had a good friend who'd once been like "my bf said you're cute don't cheat with him" to which I was kind of offended at the time but I took it as a passing joke/insecurity. Later when I realized she was the kind of person who could only put others down I backed away and lo and behold she tried to add my partner on EVERY social media fb/snapchat/insta and it clicked that she'd been projecting the whole time. I wouldn't have cheated, but SHE would have so she was projecting her motives and morals on to me. Reminded me of this story.

[@themayhemofmadness7038]

I remember, when I first saw this and it’s initial few updates, thinking that this friend was now trying to seduce OP’s husband specifically for the purpose of “proving” OP wrong and being able to say “See? He did cheat! I told you so!” Not because she was in love with OP’s husband, but because she wanted company in her misery. Turns out I wasn’t that far off.

[@dm9078]

End this friendship. OP doesn’t need this toxicity in her life. And what are they going to do when she post online about hubs hitting on her?

[@AngelaMerici12]

I don't know why she even gets in contact with her again.

[@pippo17173]

This women basically is trying to force this so they can go threw misery together.

[@prettygurlrockx]

But she did end the relationship, that’s why the woman had to resort to using an unnumbered to contact them. At this point she needs a restraining order against Kay

[@RockinTheBassGuitar]

That is a very sad story. Untreated mental health issues can be brutal. It's sad that it ruined the friendship but there are some boundaries you can't come back from crossing.

[@CrimsonAngelWinges]

Hate to say it but better the friendship then the marriage.

[@RequiemPoete]

Better the friendship than Kate not getting help. It sucks, but everyone has to do what's best for their own well-being. Fortunately, it seems everyone here are fundamentally good people.

[@kaitohkid7229]

For me it's a convenient excuse... sorry, she tried to be a homewrecker.... and failed horrible.

[@dorotheawalker7985]

It really sounds like the friend is really into OP husband and wants him for herself.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

That’s what I thought too! Like she was fishing to start an affair-maybe either because she’s into him or to prove herself right to OP.

[@christiecakes014]

I don't think so. To me it read like she wanted OP to think the husband cheated because she A) wants OP to be in the same situation as her so that she doesn't feel alone in this experience, and B) wants to prove that all men are cheaters and can't be trusted rather than thinking that something was wrong with her and that's why her BF cheated on her.

[@veezopolis]

​@@christiecakes014that falls apart the moment that she started sending him provocative photos unprompted. That's just clear proof that she is wanting to start an affair

[@christiecakes014]

@@veezopolis It really doesn't read that way to me, otherwise wouldn't she have included her face and used her real phone # to contact him? She only started doing it after that first text exchange with OP where OP defends her husband saying that he would never cheat. It seems more like she was planting evidence that OP's husband was cheating as a sort of "haha got you, I proved you wrong!" type thing. Obviously this is all speculation. Who knows what her actual motives were.

[@myounakami]

@@christiecakes014 I honestly think this was what was happening; K took OP defending her husband as a challenge to prove he was a cheater just so she could take the 'evidence' to OP and rub it in her face like, "Hah, look at this, I told you he would cheat on you!" As for the pictures, she probably thought she could tempt him into being unfaithful by exposing him to pictures meant to be arousing when sending friend requests and money didn't get results.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Thank god OP and hubby are not going to resume a friendship with this woman even when she is doing better. Sometimes our actions when we’re unwell are going to permanently and irreparably damage our relationships with others, as seen in this story. It’s unfortunate that she was not doing well but the harm she created was not acceptable and fair grounds for no contact.

[@beebs4283]

I’ve had a friend go through a psychotic episode and destroy their friendships before. It’s extremely sad when this happens, and you feel awful that they’ve ruined things for themselves for reasons they can’t fully control, but if you’ve been targeted sometimes it’s best to cut off the relationship. I wish the friend the best in healing and finding a way to manage these symptoms.

[@damien678]

I'm honestly glad my episodes just lead to me isolating myself nowadays and ghosting because it's a lot easier to deal with the aftermath, but... Oof it's still rough. I at least don't blow shit up anymore though 😅

[@messinalyle4030]

"You need to heal a wound, or else you'll end up bleeding on people who had nothing to do with it." I like that metaphor.

[@nineblackgoats]

"This man is sweet, polite and considerate. Leave him immediately." - First OP's friend in a nutshell.

[@phionella7]

You know, the friend ssid shes saw herself acting despicable and couldnt stop, but doesnt specifically remember targeting them. It sounds like the friend was still skirting around accountability while apologizing.

[@MarkNarrations]

I ate a waffle today, that is all.

[@SidereusOfTheFallen]

I had waffles and eggnog ice cream for breakfast 😁

[@MarkNarrations]

@@SidereusOfTheFallen What the?! Eggnog ice cream? Why have I never heard of this, brb googling!

[@NightflowerGames]

I had two waffles with a small bit of Nutella

[@MarkNarrations]

*inserts meme of guy slightly pulling down sunglasses* By the waffle, it's real! I need to find me some of this asap

[@SidereusOfTheFallen]

@@MarkNarrations (Not US or UK here) Ice cream was not in english so that might be a partial translation! Basically non-alcoholic eggnog flavour. Hope you find some!

[@Russman67]

Story 1: Kay's ex broke her and she's spinning to the point she needed a psych hold. Dating was the last thing she needed to get back into. OP is right to set up that boundary for her and her husband. If I was him I'd never trust interacting with Kay again.

[@platinum_noelle]

That's such a nice compliment, too. Out of all the types of compliments, it's the most genuine and platonic (when the target isn't a romantic partner).

[@laurag502]

it’s the kind of comment you could give your grandma, there was nothing weird about it 🥲 she’s such a freak

[@madambutterfly1997]

Complimenting isnt a red flag in itself

[@buckeyenative1365]

Makes me wonder if the friend's ex actually cheated or just complimented another woman, and the friend lost her mind over it.

[@Zanzetihunter]

Absolutely not. Especially how it was worded. "That dress looks elegant on you, the color is unique." That sounds like something any friend would say to another.

[@KingRandom721]

today's woman is soo mind fucked they don't know the difference between compliments and flirting

[@reasonpeason847]

I’m glad about that update with the friend, the conversation and the follow up with husband. It sounds like friend is doing exactly what someone should in taking responsibility for her actions while under the influence of her mental illness. A lot of people will use it to hand wave everything they did as “not counting” and never apologize for it. They’ll never acknowledge that while they didn’t mean it, other people in their lives were very much hurt, scared, and confused by what they did. She did what one should after coming out of it. She met with OP, explained what things were like from her pov, apologized and asked if there was a possibility of still being friends. And she wasn’t just saying the right things or what she “should.”. It sounds like she meant it and respected OP saying “no, we really can’t” and explaining what happened from her pov as someone wronged and someone whose loved one was directly targeted. OP forgave her, recognizing and legitimizing that friend was doing the right thing to apologize and take responsibility for the consequences of her actions but that she also has to accept what those consequences are. As someone who had a toxic friendship where someone was basically overdosing her meds and said some of the nastiest shit about me right where it hurt and then came to me later saying “oh I was essentially overdosing my meds and it fucked me up” and never acknowledged what she said or did or apologized, just expecting me to ignore it and stop being hurt she had the things she said to me in her to begin with, just husband saying “she hasn’t bothered us since” is really encouraging that friend meant it all and is respecting the wishes of the people she hurt even if she wasn’t in her right mind. It’s just refreshing to see that.

[@ZoeAlleyne]

Yeah, it is hard but learning to apologise is a VITAL skill. I sometimes have to apologise for things I don't remember and that can be tough, because I have to believe someone else and apologise for something that is just NOT in my brain and still mean it. And I do. I'm mentally ill, but I know a lot of neurological people who never seem interested in learning that skill.

[@kaitohkid7229]

Why did OP not know that she had an episode bevor? If you are really close you tell your friends that you have an illness that needs to be looked upon regularly.

[@laura-tk5cp]

OP's relationship sounds so sweet, everything could have gone VERY wrong and I'm happy that everyone involved is healing

[@whims6278]

Oof there's nothing quite as infuriating as an insecure friend telling you what to do in your relationship 😮‍💨 I'm with OP on this one.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: My guess is, with the friends saying K is acting out of character, that she’s trying to friend OP’s husband, flirt with him, then send OP proof saying “see I tried to warn you.”

[@low-keydrama1260]

Kay wants OP to go through what she did. It feels like a misery loves company sort of thing. And it’s driving Kay crazy that the husband isn’t doing and most likely won’t do what he is being accused of. Kay has been hurt and now lowkey wants to bring others to her place. And when OP’s husband isn’t living up to her narrative, Kay decided to push until the husband goes along with her narrative. Be it he actually does do something or he doesn’t and it just looks like he did. She needs help.

[@AllistorMichelle]

story 1: that complement wasn't even 'cheating' behavior. if he said "sexy" or "hot" i'd be concerned but it was the word 'elegant' which is such a beautiful word to use. i wish more people used it

[@WhitneyDahlin]

I don't blame men for being too afraid to compliment women. Because if he hadn't said anything she would have targeted someone else. It doesn't matter if she's mentally ill or not that accusation could have ruined his life and OPs life if OP had trusted her best friend over her husband. It's honestly a scary world out there. One innocent comment could be enough to destroy you mentally

[@TypicalTroglodyte]

Right that’s what I was thinking. Elegant is like the best compliment he could have gave her. There’s nothing underlining in it.

[@pippo17173]

@Whitney Dahlin ya this post shows how that can lead to someone framing you for crap you didn't do.

[@damien678]

​@@WhitneyDahlin I'm FtM and honestly getting in all the compliments I can give to others before I start passing as male 😂😢 I still wanna try to continue once I do but I know it'll be a tighter rope to walk, and I'm already the anxious sort

[@carlrood4457]

If she's that angry to be lashing out and jumping to cheating over a compliment, she's not ready to be dating. She'll be judging every action and word of the poor guy. He'll probably find her exhausting and not develop a relationship, possibly even ghost her. That would just reenforce her "All men cheat/suck/etc." attitude.

[@carlrood4457]

Wow, this escalated fast. I wonder if being exposed to a nice guy in a happy relationship is what triggered her.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 1: If the friend wasn't like this before it definitely seems like she's having some kind of psychotic break for reality

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

Once again a lovely day, clear skies...good coffee...and Mark's velvet voice. Morning everyone!

[@MarkNarrations]

Morning Lorraine, hope all is well!!!

[@megnotmegan1966]

Me too! It’s my morning routine 🥰👍❤️

[@TheTrueKarin]

Awww, that text is so nice. I love it❤ :)

[@Swnsasy]

Good morning my dear❤I hope your day goes well for you..

[@damien678]

"But we will not be friends in the future. We had our season." Ah..that's honestly a nicer way to look at friendships that have ended ...as seasons.

[@jeancarbonneau6966]

This story took turn after turn of different situations. When I was hearing this, I thought that OPs friend was unhappy with what happened in her relationship and decided to cause trouble with OPs relationship. Friend requests on Facebook, money sent on an app and sending sexually enticing pictures. She was doing everything she could to prove that OPs husband was a cheater like her ex-boyfriend. Then there's the update with the mental health issue with OPs friend. That changed the whole view of what was happening. Then the apology from the friend and OP telling her, indirectly, that she ruined their friendship. Then the story ends with OP and her husband being hit in their car by someone else. That person decided to attack OP and her husband had to fight him off of her. The guy should be charged for the assault on OP plus going through a red light and be at fault for hitting them with his vehicle. The insurance company for both parties will cover any repairs on OPs car or get them a new one. I hope that this case gets updated for us to know the results from that crash. Yes, OP lost a friend and almost got beaten up to death but I hope that her and her husband will heal and become better and stronger people in the future. I am wishing them luck with their life because what happened in these posts was all done in a short time. Hopefully there won't be another post so soon where there's something else that was bad that happens to them. There's a saying that bad things or unlucky things happen in 3s and this is just 2 things so far.

[@sammieg8641]

We live in a crazy world where we can give a compliment without being called sexiest, creep. Accused of harassment or cheating… ridiculous

[@gelasiakidd8076]

I had a very similar friendship where someone crossed a line hardcore during a mental health crisis, and I knew that even though I wished them well going forward that I couldn't keep them in my life because despite the fact we cared about each other, he was always going to have moments where he was dangerous during a mental health crisis. I broke it off because I can't set myself on fire to keep him warm, but I do feel sad for him. He told me everyone abandons him, and had always begged me not to. I had told him that I wouldn't leave unless I felt I was truly in danger. I suffered through hundreds of smaller hurts, because of that. But eventually he crossed a line that put me in a horrible mental place where I felt like I might do myself harm. And that was the moment I had to leave. I wish him the best but I can't be his support anymore.

[@jackchop1576]

YAAAS! Lock away mentally ill men but mentally ill women get a free pass!!

[@ArcaneNim]

​@@jackchop1576 Who said that? The woman in the story was on a psych hold and wasn't given a pass.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

​@@jackchop1576 I don't know which part of this story made you so comfortable to come share your mysoginistic nice guy incel behavior. This person literally never said anything about men vs women. Go to therapy.

[@gelasiakidd8076]

@@jackchop1576 you are strange and toxic. He was AFAB, if that matters. He was also just a platonic friend. If it matters my sister would be in jail right now if she were not legally incompetent to stand trial. For mental health reasons. None of what you said is productive or helpful and I suggest the psych2go channel to address your toxic behaviors.

[@gelasiakidd8076]

@@ArcaneNim thank you

[@sandeesandwich2180]

Wow. That really went sideways. And then upside down. And then into another dimension of space and time. My first thought was that Kay not only thought that innocuous compliment was a sign of cheating, but that she thought he would do this in front of his wife and while they were on a double date. Even a hardcore cheater wouldn't pick that venue. I guess that was the first inkling of a mental breakdown. Hope Kay finds some healing, and that OP and her hubby recover and find peace.

[@CatLoverX74]

I remember this story but not all the updates! So glad you posted em Mark 😊 That was a scary situation they was in especially the husband. She was obviously trying to set the husband up to look like he was cheating 😢 Glad it didn’t go horribly wrong like it could have.

[@LongNight_Moonlight]

So glad you picked this story up Mark; I listened to the original post + first update on another channel and knew it was going to escalate!

[@AndyyWithAY]

This left me absolutely deceased so wanted to share. My mom shared a 1 star review with me. The person left a 1 star review because they had to pay a very small amount for an item because they "had the wrong skin color". The owner replied we don't do racism in the store as it's a Christ based business 🤣🤣🤣 I hope y'all laughed. I know I did.

[@Swnsasy]

Heck yea!! Hallelujah store! 😂😂

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I don't see the issue. Maybe because I am an Atheist and don't pay attention to people's religion much anymore. Were they Democrats??? Because they are the most racist people on the planet. All places these days charge extra for additional sauces so I doubt it is a skin color thing.

[@Tottosmile]

Amen!!

[@WobblesandBean]

I'm not sure what exactly happened. Was this person expecting to get it for free, or something? Plus, christians and christian backed businesses don't exactly have a track record of being kind to....um... "highly melanistic peoples". (Thanks youtube censorship)

[@alicewilloughby4318]

"This left me absolutely deceased... " So, you're dead?

[@AhamkaraMommy]

I think this story is a very good reminder that not all evil actions are caused by evil people.

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

It sounds like the friend was cheated on, and now sees everything as a sign of cheating.

[@veezopolis]

It actually sounds like she was the cheater and lied about it all

[@philwill0123]

​@@veezopolisnot really at all. Some people see being in a relationship as a status. She has lost her status , and she lost her shit.

[@iamalbertwesker2]

I'm glad there's a new and hopefully final update to this story, I was so worried for them when I first heard it.

[@FlamesAndShadows]

Reminds me of that woman who kept telling OP's wife that everything is 'a sign' driving her to suicide, or husband's divorcing friend who found out children weren't his, stayed at their house and also poisoned relationship (or served as an excuse).

[@thesoulofdark]

Hey mark thanks for the upload needed some spicy reddit stories to brighten my day

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey Elizabeth, well I'm wishing you a wonderful day ahead matey!

[@CodenameTurtle]

That husband sounds absolutely wholesome and so does his wife. I'm sad they had to go through something like that.

[@cyberhard]

The definition of that escalated quickly.

[@GBunnyG]

This is why so many spouses don't like their partners having single friends. Infuriating. The aunt is the real MVP here.

[@tashawilliams87]

Peanut butter and apple slices today! Thanks for your content dude! Your channel means alot to people!💚

[@MarkNarrations]

Thank you for being a part of it Tasha!

[@elizabethescalante8114]

Hey, Mark! Enjoy an omelette with some slices of bacon!

[@AndyyWithAY]

I mean if you don't even want to be in the same room with her, all you can do is tell your friends. They should know in case they are the next victim of her succubus ways. Not an excuse but sounds like she had a psychotic break. If her behavior truly was out of character. But absolutely choose your husband. Don't reunite with her anytime soon.

[@maggpiprime954]

"Succubus ways?" I think you did a sexism there, pal.

[@projectmicky1226]

I’m so happy that some people can’t fathom having a friend like this. Because those of us who have had off the rocker friends, we hope you never have to deal with them. Yes, there is an appeal to having wild friends or not all there friends, you quickly find yourself wishing you weren’t friends when you’re stuck somewhere and have been up all night with them because they refused to leave the party and you have four hours to get to work in your home town and you’re an hour away.

[@RadioOppy1]

Man. I read this story before back when it was just 1 update. Can’t believe it went this far.

[@coreymartin6486]

"Misery loves company" comes to mind....even if from different mindsets. Yeah, the friendship is done. After the friendship, no more direct contact.

[@unknown-ql1fk]

I feel like "healing" and "mental health" have become codes to cover for terrible people.....afterall, how can you be mad, she was sick.

[@Tony2-Dirty]

Idk why, but I imagine husband complimenting the friend in the most RuPaul voice ever.😂

[@simana9891]

Hey Mark! Just wanted to say how much I love listening to your videos! I’ve recently started a new job and moved to a new area, and hearing your voice every day has really helped me to cope with the stress and homesickness that I’ve been feeling! Hope you’re also doing well yourself! ❤

[@carolcarol9982]

It sounds like OP's friend thinks she has the option to move on...with OP's husband. That or she's determined to prove herself right and is trying to set up OP's husband as a cheater.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

I would personally recommend that the husband get some counseling too. He sounds like he now has trust issues and will think twice about doing what was a normal thing before…complimenting others!!

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

I remember only hearing the beginning of this a couple of days ago. Cannot remember which channel, but wow! That's NUTS!

[@milescoburn1845]

Story # 1 - Textbook example of people reading into actions / situations what they want to see. So sensitized to something they see it everywhere. Sometimes as cigar is just a cigar. Story # 1 (Update) - How did she send money to the husband? How does she have his bank account info? Granted, I don't know how Venmo works (if that's what she used), but how could she send the money to him where he wouldn't have to approve of the transfer?

[@jennywhite2462]

Technically he complemented her dress. It's not like he was like wow you're hot. He told her dress was elegant. Some people just need massive amounts of therapy.

[@sanchisan6997]

I got criticized and accused of flirting at work when I was knowingly pregnant and in a committed relationship simply because I told a customer that they looked good (when they were obviously dressed up because it was the holiday season in America). So annoying. 🙄

[@absolutehumane6623]

When she sent the Facebook message automatically thought she was setting op husband up.

[@kaitohkid7229]

I didn't know that giving compliments is something really special 😅... that needs to be mentioned.

[@badkitty4922]

I played this this morning but can't remember it. Good news is REPLAY! Lol! 🤣🤦‍♀️🙄 Much Love to you ALL!😘💖🐾🐾🫂

[@vip_meeks]

ah what a great way to spend the morning of my day off! cheers mark!

[@MarkNarrations]

Cheers Vip, enjoy your day off and do something you enjoy!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Have a good day off

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Doesn't everyone want compliments? We need to normalise complimenting other people for being their beautiful self without sexualising it. Giving a compliment doesn't mean they want to sleep with you.

[@ladynoir8243]

That "friend" is like the nice guy who thinks a compliment is an invite to do whatever

[@s.d.berard7518]

Did some dishes and couldn’t help but shake my head! That’s something I’ve heard of and has a name for……. What her ex friend did is nits and I’m glad she is getting help! OP and her husband are amazing in talks this out! 💚😺

[@AwesomeBlossom14]

Just did a double what a great way to end my shift ❤ love ya mark you’ve been part of my daily routine for almost 2 or 3 years now

[@SamanthaTotimeh]

Hey Mark! How are you and Poppy?? It's chucking it down in South London atm.

[@MarkNarrations]

Oh just had a shower a moment ago here too! Poppy is all good, just chilling next to me :)

[@Mrs_Sugar_Min]

Want rain where I live on the prairies of Canada.😊🇨🇦

[@SamanthaTotimeh]

​@@Mrs_Sugar_Min you actually want rain?! Mate you can have it lol. Canada sounds so beautiful

[@SamanthaTotimeh]

​@@MarkNarrations aww Poppy seems like such a sweetheart. Please give her some kisses for me!

[@Mrs_Sugar_Min]

@SamanthaTotimeh thank you, the lakes, rivers and forests are very beautiful. 🇨🇦😊 Yes we need rain, it's really dry.

[@iwantsifegold]

That dress looks elegant on you as a freaking pick up line now

[@karenlloyd945]

Sounds like OPs relationship is very strong & I hope they continue to do so in the future

[@christiecakes014]

It really sounds like the friend has BPD; a lot of the signs are there. I have a friend with BPD who has been in a string of bad relationships and I sometimes get the feeling that, should I ever meet someone, she might do something to try and sabotage it or feel betrayed that I was in a good relationship and she wasn't.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

BPD doesn't suddenly present in the middle of adulthood, and definitely isn't accompanied by a psychotic break. Not everything is BPD.

[@christiecakes014]

@@SilverstreamPJ28 ​the aunt said that she had this kind of behavior when she was younger. BPD typically presents itself around late teens/early adulthood. We have no idea how old she is as OP doesn't provide that info. Going into episodes of self-destructive and reckless behavior is a common symptom which she was exhibiting. She just went through a giant emotional upheaval which easily could've pulled her into a self-destructive spiral. Losing touch with reality (which she claims happened to her) is also a symptom. I never said it had to be BPD, but it certainly sounds like it from my own experiences with it.

[@fluidwolf]

This is a story that I heard before but still it is so sad to hear the story and near the start the OP talks about her husband and his family being people who give compliments like it is something weird and needing to be explained. We are in such a place in the evolution of our species that complimenting each other is seen as an out there thing that always has some ulterior motive.

[@ukchanak]

This reminds me of when my friend and roommate had a bad manic episode. A normally sweet and relaxed young man, freaked out and started chasing me through the house. Fortunately i ran into the bathroom and locked the door as he pounded on it, and i called the police. He was put in a psych hold and my boyfriend and i moved out immediately. We never really spoke much after that. But i hope he's doing better

[@daralic2255]

I’m soo scared of becoming like OP’s friend. Especially hard when you know it’s all projection but the nagging voice in your head is ‘what if this was a subtle sign or a trick to lower my guard.’ Some probably won’t get over those thoughts. It’s all about managing and accepting that you can’t truly control a person’s action only how you respond to them.

[@Uneclipsed]

Story 1: friend is absolutely fishing for OP’s husband. She’s trying to start shit in OP’s marriage to make herself feel better and validate her own opinions and problems. This is harassment.

[@LilFeralGangrel]

i've been on Kay's side of things (going crazy and ruining relationships irreparably) and i can tell you it's painful but you can heal from it. it sucks for all parties involved but sometimes relationships just run their course. i hope everyone heals from this but it has to be apart and that's that. i hope Kay doesn't let the guilt eat her and forgives herself because that's what she needs most. Same goes with OP and her husband.

[@salt7625]

Op is lucky to have such a kind, amazing husband, and idk how to say this in any other way honestly, he is the knight in shining armor every young girl dreams of 100% it's awful of your friend to do all this, hopefully this doesn't stop him from being that knight in the future, they both may need to seek therapy

[@starbird3939]

The friend is severely damaged and wants to make sure her other friends share her mindset

[@mca7982]

#1 OP's friend is projecting.

[@laurag502]

my bf had a female friend who was someone i worked with before, he shoots music videos and needed a girl for a video, me being kind of shy i suggested he ask her bc she had done modeling and would probably be more comfortable with it. when he reached out she told a person we knew mutually that he was trying to cheat on me with her. the mutual didn’t believe it based on what she said but wanted to tell me what she was saying. i read the convo she sent and it was unreal; she was just going off about how she knew he was with me to make her jealous and that him asking her to be in a video was proof. it was literally my idea for him to ask her!! i texted her and told her she was very mistaken about the circumstances and that it was me who suggested her and she accused me of covering up for him and that i was just lying to avoid embarrassment. needless to say neither of us talk to her anymore and she still tells people my bf was trying to cheat on me lol.

[@anthonygilmour6236]

Considering how unstable and how much the friend projects I wonder if she cheated and projected that onto her expartner at this point? 🤔

[@nayahri]

All of that drama over a goddamn compliment. This is why I mind my business and don't talk to people.😊

[@Tammohawk1]

1. Oh my, he was "looking" at her dress. What the heck? I'm laughing at this woman's idiocy. Friend is acting extremely strange is you ask me. I'm glad friend's aunt got involved and is looking to help friend. She sounds as if she really needs it. I'm also glad that she got the help and is leaving OP and her husband alone. I really love these long stories.

[@hbomb0417]

I’ve heard this story before and I reread now knowing the whole story although I feel like there’s one piece of the puzzle that we’re missing here,of course we will probably never know now since OP washed her hands of this friendship, but I’m just curious because especially with the way the friend acted. was this only relationship that the friend was in because six years is a long time for a relationship or is it possible that this friend had previous relationships because given her erratic behavior and how she basically spiraled off the deep end not just because of her insecurities false accusations, behavior, etc. is it possible she could’ve been in a toxic, if not abusive relationship prior to the recent relationship she just got over? Edit to add that we know that the friend has history of mental health can we really be for certain that the boyfriend actually cheated on the friend or did she start to give signs given her behavior that she was not meant to be there, and the boyfriend didn’t think he could handle that And that was the reason they and she just uses cheating as an excuse for coping mechanism to get sympathy question because now that we know that she has a history of mental health that does Bring in more questions than answers. I am not excusing the friends behavior her behavior and actions is simply uncalled for and it’s good that she’s getting the help she needs, but she really has to work on herself. If She wants to have any relationship or future with someone because if she were to spiral again they could, and worse them what just happened with her former friend. Edit two another thing I also notice especially in the later updates by OP. When she the ex friends other friends were concerned about her down spiraling they contacted the ex friend his aunt and not her parents so I’m assuming that the parents are not in the picture. Here are a couple theories one. Both parents are dead two one. Parent is alive. The others dead three both parents are alive and they disowned the ex friend. Four The parents of the divorce because one spouse cheated on the other. And OP either lived with the mom or the dad. My theory is that the ex friend lived in an environment, where either she was neglected or abused by either or one of the parents, the parents divorced due to one of them, having an affair and the friend being a full witnessed to everything, the divorce probably took a toll on the parent. She ended up in custody with to where that aunt ended up getting full custody of ex friend . I also think her mental health issues could be due to some past trauma in regards to cheating it could’ve been with a boyfriend or been due to one of her parents cheating and the toll of it just over, took both her and the parent who got cheated on.

[@Daydream_N]

Seems like the friend is trying to pursue OPs husband to prove he'd cheat 🙄🙄🙄

[@maggpiprime954]

OP and her husband have really been stellar through all this. And to add that weirdo who grabbed her hair after crashing them, jeeeeeez! I hope they get invited on a family/friend vacation all-paid, coz they need it!

[@ThatsViews]

As the "friend" is going through a mental health episode which involved wrongly accusing FB's husband of inappropriately staring at her during dinner, then sending him multiple Facebook Friend requests, then sending him money then sending him utterly inappropriate images of herself, I'm going to ask this question: When did her mental health episode begin? Before or after she split up with her boyfriend? If the latter, did he really cheat on her? Did she cheat on him?

[@paulastiles5507]

"It was like someone else was doing it." Yeah, that's so reassuring--not. Glad OP drew a line and ended the friendship.

[@telinhajp]

Good morning, Mark and Poppy! Wishing you a wonderful Wednesday! ❤️🤗

[@gcarr1089]

Husband was right to keep as far away as possible from friend. Things could easily have gone nasty enough, that he could have ended up in jail, even though he hadn't done anything.

[@TheBluemoon1949]

What an awesome husband and wife team, best wishes to you.❤️🇨🇦

[@veronica5lmaa]

The friend is crazy and obsessive. I don't think she will stop until they got an RO

[@AryonaSamoto]

I really appreciate the daily consistency Mark🙏❤

[@LostForrest]

i'm thinking (guessing) the cheating hurt her so bad she had distrust against men in general, the fact the husband made a compliment didn't register with her as it should. instead she focused on the husband being a would be cheater , trying to convince OP that he is. since OP dismissed it she tried to "trap" him with the FB request, the money and the photos cause if he did respond or accept it it would mean that she was right about him. she kinda went of the deep end and with what we know from the aunt (the episodes) she became more unstable. it's good OP ended the friendship. this woman definetly needs help.

[@boneymeroney2674]

Holy crap. I heard the story before...before all the crazy updates.

[@threeducks157]

I don't usually compliment much, but I can appreciate a good dress or a top and bottom combo or even cute/ nice-looking shoes and will let the wearer know, if appropriate.

[@Swnsasy]

Wow.. That dress looks great! Omgosh he wants to sleep with me OP, RUN....!!! HE. WANTS. MEEEEEE 😂 She doesn't realize how arrogant she's coming off even if she was cheated on, that's just unhinged.. Update: Oh hell nah! She's went way over the line! Go to husband and tell him to calm down, everyone knows it's not him.. That heifer is going overboard and I'm over here about to knuckle up! 🤣

[@Grace_x68]

Does someone else also get the feeling OP is going to update that Kay's friend is in jail for t-boning them

[@Raggmopp-xl7yf]

Friend is in no way ready to date again. I know a lot of people jump back into the dating pool after a serious breakup thinking they can just move on. That's not how most humans work - and I'd worry about the ones who do. People need to process and heal from a hurt like that. It's normal and can't be rushed. The one thing I'd be worried about with "this" friend is she seems to be intent on tearing her friend's relationship apart b/c misery loves company?!!

[@albertgongora6944]

I'm just going to say this as a opinion about the first story before the update but I honestly feel that the person that the friend originally was with probably left her because of the way she acts and the personality she has because look at it this way you look how she is behaving over a simple compliment in trying to literally convinced the original poster that her husband is going to cheat on her just because he compliments other females what you think the same way of he was complimenting another man that he's possibly hiding that he's in the closet now too I'm just saying because it sounds like she drove the person she was with the break up with him and his possible that he never cheated on her or anything like that and I'm not saying it's impossible that you know it didn't happen but you never know

[@pragatisingh8467]

He didn't leave her... he cheated on her. There's never a reason to cheat.

[@earlthepearl4883]

I think she's trying to her husband to make a move so she can say, "I told you so".

[@erabearm2565]

Op is awesome.the amount of trust and support she gives to her husband is getting harder and harder to find in a woman these days.

[@ronniec427]

Bunch of these comments were written before the story was finished and it shows 🙄 It pets my peeves when people don’t update their comments after listening to the update.🤷🏻‍♀️

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

If she has “no trust for any man” why go out with not one but two?