My Entitled Step-Mom Got Herself BANNED From My Wedding And Dad Is Backing Her r/Relationships

[@MarkNarrations]

Hello you lovely so and so's. Hope you have a wonderful day ahead of you :)

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

Hello you are a lovely sweet guy, also you nice keep going. Much much love Mark. 2:15

[@MarkNarrations]

@@Park-Kim_VMin That's incredibly kind of you Vim, thank you so much for the support and love

[@FriedaMMartin]

Good morning!

[@AhamkaraMommy]

Absolutely not.. before you have YOUR wonderful day, can't have you give us content AND not having an especially great time. I spend hours nowadays listening to your videos going back years, thanks for staying cheerful mate!

[@JohnSmith-xq1pz]

**Starts humming the Jaws Theme...**

[@sandeesandwich2180]

Here's a little detail that didn't get commented on: Not only did she hit a little boy hard enough to draw blood, she did it because he told her he was going to be a ring bearer at the wedding! There's no excuse for hitting a child ever, but she also flew off the handle over a wedding detail! And a wedding detail that should not have been even slightly distressing. Just imagine Luke sharing something he was excited about, only to have stepmonster react with anger and violence. Even an adult would not have seen that coming, but for a 4 year old, it must have been frightening.

[@jennydrake491]

Yes, and unfortunately he is likely to suffer effects from this trauma for the rest of his life.

[@bunnyslippers191]

@@jennydrake491 😢😢😢

[@Ax-xo4ux]

@@jennydrake491hopefully early therapy will help lessen the effects

[@Rough_Estimates]

She sounds straight out of the Boondocks

[@fangirl3086]

​@@Rough_Estimates"Did I just hear you having dreams and shit?" *Beats child with belt*

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

"She only hit him once!" Yeah, one time is one too many. Holy heck, that dad is delusional.

[@beatleblev]

OP: "You're right Dad. How many bloody noses or lips does my son have to endure before we take it seriously? Two? Three? Ten? If so, Is it cool if I hit SM, only once? Since, as you implied, violence is okay, if you only do it once." How about a swift knee to the ole' twig and berries, but only once? Then again, maybe there are no berries to knee.

[@vanillablossom]

The dad is clearly thinking with his other head. No sane adult would condone beating a literal child, especially when said kid did nothing wrong. But even if it did there are other disciplinary methods... The guy either got castrated by her long time ago or never actually had balls in the first place.

[@yourmom2189]

@@beatleblev naw, the berries are in SM’s purse! 🤣😂

[@QueenEevee1994]

@@yourmom2189 😂

[@akkiko]

"So I should be able to hit her hard enough to draw blood and that would be fine, right?"

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

How an adult can justify a 4-year-old being hit so hard by an adult that it splits their lip is beyond me. Dad is a weak man who only thinks between his legs, so long as his affair partner turned wife is around, everyone else can perish. May a baseball bat go flying the next time they go to a game or walk past a baseball field, and may smack them both in the face.

[@VNCstudios]

The only thing stopping him from saying "Luke isn't family" is the fact he knows he will be told neither is the step monster.

[@pippo17173]

@LeaveMeAlone op should also cut dad our entirely because he has no problem supporting a mom like this and let's add the fact he cheated on his gf for her who also has a history of cheating. Well deserved for each other's misery.

[@dinkyd1533]

I think the father is actually scared of his wife. It says a lot about his character or lack of it, that he cheated on his girlfriend with this awful woman. They deserve each other.

[@jasonrustmann7535]

You're only wrong about one thing there, the dad is indeed weak. But he ain't no man. My pops would have laid out anyone hurting his family, regardless of who it is, i say this knowing without a doubt my mom would never have done such a thing, so he'd never have to do anything against her to begin with. OP needs to fully cut out both of those pos excuses for parents. And all of his bs comments about "but but, muh family"? And what about him NOT DEFENDING HIS FAMILY!? f--king hell man, I've never wanted to strike a pair of adults so badly.

[@ilbercgross4736]

As a child of physical abuse, I have the answer. Anger and control issues. My mother had both and I had the bruises to prove it. My biomom would fight to the death if someone hit me. She had zero problem though with her hitting me. She would brag about it. No one would help though. They all knew and they did nothing to help. Sure I lashed out when my father died. He was they one that had an easy time keeping us kids in check. A look or a word. We never feared him and he never hit us. But when I was in pain from losing him and I was acting out, she got angry and hit us. To protect my siblings, I took all the blame so they would not get hit. She was mad that I could not be controlled at times.

[@SapphireExile]

OP, let the preschool know about the evil stepmother. There's a chance she might come to pick your kids up from school out of some petty revenge. I know the restraining order is in effect, but it doesn't hurt to have all your bases covered.

[@karenrickert9430]

You take a certified copy of the order and photos of them to the daycare so if either of them show up they know to contact the police and not allow them to even see them.

[@midnightserenity9797]

I had to do this with my niece's school about her own mother. My niece and nephews got put in my care after being removed from my sister by dhs, and it was heartbreaking to have to hand over documentation and telling them my sister could not contact, show up, receive information about, or remove my niece from school. Had to tell them if my sister tried any of that, then they were to immediately call the cops and call me directly after. Now the older two (niece and oldest nephew) are with their father and the youngest is still with me. My sister keeps trying to convince us to let her move in with us, and that is a hard no because I'm fostering her child and legally can't. Even if I could, I wouldn't let her move in with me. I did it once and had to end up kicking her out

[@Ax-xo4ux]

@@midnightserenity9797if you don’t mind me asking- what did your sister do to get her kids taken?

[@KE-hr4sb]

This is definitely a scorched earth situation. “She only hit him once”?! Yeah, and that’s one time too many! I used to be physically abused by a family member as a child. My kids have never been left alone with that person, and I have gone NC. Other family members were still in contact though, and believed the sob story that they’d changed/it would never happen again/I made them do it…until that person hit another family member’s child, decades after they’d done it to me. They never learned to “control their temper,” they never “got better.” Leopards don’t change their spots, they just get better at hiding.

[@noxlupa2996]

They really said you made them do it??? That’s just awful, I’m so sorry you had to go through that.

[@amandasunshine2]

​@@noxlupa2996 that's what they always say. "Look what you made me do" "it's for your own good".

[@pickle_pup8187]

Just once? Seriously OP and Jane have more restraint than I think I could have had. This story really just left me shaking my head.

[@KE-hr4sb]

@@noxlupa2996 Yep. “If I hadn’t said what I said and pushed their buttons, none of this would have happened.” Coincidentally the same excuse they tried decades later when they hit the other child, too. Only this time I was big enough to say, “NO! *You* are the grownup, *they* are the child and it’s up to you to ACT like a grownup and control both yourself and your temper!” Thank you. It was awful. I made it out mostly ok, but some scars are invisible and I remain terrified as a parent now that what if I turn into that family member? But it’s also a good reminder that I choose to be different.

[@yaqbulyakkerbat4190]

Dad is trash and stepmom is a monster. Ridiculous the family can still defend them. OP is doing the right thing distancing himself, but needs to go NC with his garbo relatives and especially his dad

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

I Agree

[@Azulakayes]

That dad is absolute trash. How do you just let someone hit a child then you support her? Anyone supporting the step-monster is trash too.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

He did just that. And he was right to go no contact with Wicked Stepmother and Spineless Dad.

[@pippo17173]

I would of drop dad entirely after knowing that he was with her while cheating on the gf everyone loved.

[@QueenEevee1994]

Agreed. How DARE they defend a child abuser! 😡🤬😡

[@carlrood4457]

Note stepmother's attitude. She said "He's not family" to Luke being a ringbearer. Even if OP didn't already consider him family, which is enough, he's THE BRIDE'S BROTHER!! He's blood family to her, so the statement is crazy in and of itself. Should the bride's family play no part in the wedding?

[@MiraTheWarlock]

And yet she thinks SHE is family Because legal documents and putting out for a man clearly trumps legal documents having people pick you as their kid

[@JoJoGranum]

She doesn’t consider the bride “family “. What is she? She def not acting like family

[@shebakoby]

Narcissistic abusers like Stepmonster rarely function on logic, at all. They only process the world through their own selfish, hypocritical feelings.

[@vanillablossom]

With her attitude the stepmonster is just asking to be told Luke is ten times more family to OP than her and that she's not a real mother (nothing against sane stepmothers ofc, there's cute word for them they deserve - bonus mom). That dumb bitter woman wishes to be called mother of the groom! The audacity!!! 😑

[@Fire-Manz]

"She only hit him once" And jujitsu is the art of folding clothes while people are in them. SM is lucky she didn't find out.

[@KCohere33]

I don’t know what kind of psychopath hates a 4 year old like that just because he wasn’t blood related. Neither is she. Her narcissism and jealousy is off the charts

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Yea, I didn't get that blood related family stuff. She isn't family either according to her reasoning.

[@bunnyslippers191]

@@Nathan_Bookwurm But Luke *is* blood family to OP's fiancee *and* to OP's and Fiancee's son. That makes him blood by any stretch of the imagination. Blood relatives of blood relatives *are* blood. My mother once said that she only had one relative with brown eyes, my cousin, Joe. I pointed out to her that, since Joe is her blood relative, that makes Joe's mother a blood relative. Well, made. "The cousins" are all in at least their 60's now and all Mom's generation have passed.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Well, she's wrong. Luke IS part of the family, Jane's family and OP's family. ❤

[@SakuraMoonflower]

The kid is more blood related than the step bi*CH: the kid is the bride's brother!!!!

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 nta I heard this one before. I can't believe she didn't get arrested after assaulting A child. I would have post the video and showed everyone who she is behind close doors.

[@lilolmecj]

Shouldn’t be too shocking, child abuse is the most common crime certainly in the US, and I assume as common or more so in the rest of the world. And one slap across the face is absolutely nothing in comparison to what happens regularly in every community.

[@noonespecial7730]

My aunt literally keyed my cousin's back because she "lied to her" and she only got 3 days in jail, when my uncle tried to report her to CPS for it and all the other things she did and continued to do that she didn't get arrested for they basically told him to "get a life." It's sad, but it's more common than you'd think. (Also I know this is a year old so sorry about that.)

[@KittyWillCutYou]

Screw that monstrous woman. She split a child's lip open. The fact that no one put their hands on her in return is mind-boggling to me.

[@lolallday08]

MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY. The violence that would've ensued.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

It's scary because of the number of people in that family who are "Justifying" the Stepmother's actions. If I were the OP I would probably be in Prison right now. I have zero tolerance for people that abuse children, the vulnerable, and the elderly. Being 6'7" 265 lbs of very ripped muscles, I have found my best weapon against "bad people" is my ability to intimidate and physically harm them. I wouldn't care if she is a woman or not, I would have beaten her within an inch of her life and trashed-talked her the entire time. My goal wouldn't have been to just physically injure her but to mentally injure her as well during it. Does that make me a bad person??? LOL Hell ya it does, but I can live with that especially if it wrecks her life to the point she is never able to harm another child. I would want her to wake up in the middle of the night years later because she had a Nightmare about me doing something horrible to her LOLOLOLOL.

[@hdeodh]

It's this new age peace loving crap and trying to be the bigger person.... It just empowers the abuser because the feel they got away with it.. In my family, the stepmom would have left in an ambulance that very night and the dad would have gotten a beating as well....

[@SakuraMoonflower]

They were trying not to freak out the kids, but honestly I'd have a difficult time holding back in that situation myself.

[@QueenEevee1994]

@@lolallday08 if I was OPs wife, the SM would have needed plastic surgery after I got ahold of her

[@AhamkaraMommy]

I would promptly and with EXTREME prejudice remove ANYONE who even remotely sided with the child abuser on this one, NC on anyone who even uttered as much as a "But-" when the subject was brought up. Last I checked child abuse was still ranked up there with some of the singlemost vile crimes in society and is to be treated as such. Police, NC, restraining order. Period.

[@Russman67]

Story 1: The stepmom put hands on Luke, a four year old. I would ban everyone who leaned her way. Dad deserves no contact. She sounds like a nightmare anyway, trying to be the matriarch of the family (Chill out lady). Declaring Luke not family and hitting him. Nah. She'd be dead to me.

[@BruinPhD2009]

In my fantasy world, she'd probably be dead BECAUSE of me. But then I wake up and realize this woman isn't worth a time out, much less a prison sentence.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Same here. I might not be the best when it comes to dealing with conflict, but the moment someone hits a child, I would call time of death on the relationship. I don't care HOW CLOSE we are. The moment you hit a child, you're dead to me, especially if it's my child. I just can't forgive child abuse. Ever.

[@wmdkitty]

Right? You don't put hands on kids. EVER.

[@whitewitch32]

If she hit my child she will be dead.

[@miminana-hd6nf]

I had read this story before but now with the update, just incredible. Even after the court hearing, and the RO, OP's dad still can't admit what a monster his wife is and he is willing to throw away his own kids, and grandkids, for that awful excuse flesh.

[@Davimez]

He'll be back, especially when he. Needs something

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Not to mention that he had an affair with this monster prior to marrying her. I'm honestly surprised that OP doesn't hate his dad at this point.

[@MdMzzz]

Hmmm, "she only hit him once". That sounds REALLY suspicious. Did anyone ask how many times she hit him ? It sounds a lot like she might have hit him more than once, and OP caught just this once. OP should ask Luke about how many times the monster actually hit him. .

[@Ax-xo4ux]

It’s possible but I’m wondering if she’s hit him before

[@OminousSoul]

You know, I kinda wish OP recorded that last conversation with his dad, so that way Step Brother could hear from someone else that his mother DID attack a child

[@seankeller1560]

Wouldn't matter it's not that step bro doesn't believe it he doesn't want to believe it.

[@AndyyWithAY]

How are you going to "baby trap" someone with a baby that's not theirs...or yours?? 🤷🏾‍♀️ Make it makes sense! 🤡 How are you going to tell someone they can't babysit? If you don't want to babysit, fine, but the nerve to tell someone else they can't. SM is on some other 💩

[@thomasjoseph5876]

That made me chuckle. That's like babysitting someone's kid and someone else saying they are trying to baby trap you. With some of these people, you have to wonder how they have managed to live this long with the way their brains work.

[@shebakoby]

SHe likely told him no babysitting OR ELSE - No Passionate Hugging Tonight. Stepmonster is likely a full-blown malignant Cluster of Bees, heavy on the narcissism traits. Logic does not operate in such a brain. Cognitive Dissonance is the order of the day. Case in point: She always had to make everything about *her* when she hijacked all party planning.

[@owl7072]

"Maybe she's acting out because she doesn't feel welcomed" So hitting a child, and a crying one at that which she ALSO caused by screaming at him for no reason, is gonna make them want to welcome her? Hitting a 4 year old child so hard their damn lip split is gonna make things better and make them more willing to accept her and allow her to attend the wedding? Where that same child will also be?

[@libertyblake873]

"She only hit him once." The monster hit him in the face! Basically a head shot. A hit so hard she split the child's lip and drew blood. An inch or two higher and she could have broken his nose, taken out an eye, or caused a brain injury. There is no excuse for what she did.

[@sagesaria]

"I only hit you once" is one of the most basic forms of gaslighting abusers use. Including my own abuser who, spoiler alert, at the time he said that, I could recall at LEAST three different incidents. Yes, people can change, but someone willing to hit a literal child is not going to change THAT rapidly, and you don't have to endanger your child in the process of their change.

[@missesLMA]

Unfortunately I can relate, my stepmum was abusive and manipulative and my dad is sticking by her. I went NC with him and it’s been almost a year. As a parent myself I can’t ever imagine putting a spouse over my flesh and blood, but he’s made his choice.

[@cupofcozy708]

To be honest I wonder if the dad is being abused by stepmother in some way. Still disgusting how many family members are against OP even with evidence

[@VesnaVK]

He is. He is ensnared by a narcissist.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

He's a grown man, he can leave

[@VesnaVK]

@@SilverstreamPJ28 it is difficult for abuse victims to leave. Grown or not. Not an excuse. An explanation.

[@goldchild100]

he also cheated to get with her on a girlfriend he had at the time.

[@whitneybennett4857]

Not saying your theory about OP's father being abused isn't also a major possibility, but it's also incredible the bs people will put up with/enable in order to get laid. Because I can't imagine any other positive contribution this woman could possibly be making to her husband's life.

[@Peeges_]

Story 1 NTA. I’d have had to get hubby to bail me out, because the moment I knew she assaulted my child I’d have gone feral. I’d never speak to my dad again if he tried to defend her. They’re both weak and disgusting (dad and step mom)

[@HobieInTheBox]

"But faaaamily" Since when does family hurt other family and hit child relatives?? 💀

[@edalynclawthorne5877]

Yeah, this one was ghoulish. Sad OP had to deal with this and a kinda shitty family, but at least this came out early and they’re free of such a psycho woman. Seriously, a single time babysitting and she went psycho on a toddler. Ffs, that dad has genuinely trash taste in women.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I think the stepmother, even though not liked by many, has quite a bit of power over many in that family. How weak-minded are they??? Even the OP is STILL hinting he would reconcile with the father and the stepmother in the future after everything that has occurred. If I were the OP, I would be in Prison for beating that woman to within an inch of her life and reconciliation would NEVER be an option, EVER. I would just consider my father had died and any contact with him ever would not be an option no matter what.

[@Ax-xo4ux]

@@thomasjoseph5876they’d never find the body with me.

[@devegas4910]

“She only hit him once” She wasn’t even supposed to be around him in the first place because when op let his dad watch the child, he explicitly said that SM wasn’t to be with him.

[@jessereyna6662]

“But she only hit him once”. My response to that would have been. Let me ask you dad, if I had come in that day and instead of just yelling at you and her, I had chosen to backhand stepmonster. Would you be ok with me saying, I only hit her once? I know OPs dad would not feel the same way.

[@ZoeAlleyne]

Story 1: I'm not even finished, but with the downplaying i would be like "ok, well if you think we are making a big deal we will report it to the police and then let THEM decide after they have interviewed him and taken photos of his wound ". Edit: OK then i would tell family "if you don't believe it you are welcome to view the police report, who don't hand out these charges willy nilly, or the video of her hitting a baby and making them bleed. If that doesn't motivate you then I'm fine with you not coming because i don't want to have people who are fine with child abuse at my wedding or in my life".

[@karendaniel620]

Story 1: Typical. Man cheats; family blames AP. Dad cheated on his GF, but family adores him. Dad enables, but family adores him. Now, they expect OP to roll over.

[@TheFlowerchild712]

I think I know the reason why OP's paternal side doesn't like step monster. They probably still view her as the tramp that caused a good man to leave a good woman. Then she tried to usurp the matriarch role and that made them dislike her more. Dad is obviously trash who chose to marry trash but that's neither here nor there. And Das will be lucky if his evil wife puts him in a home when he's too old for her to take0 care of, as I doubt she'll be the type to take care of an old ailing husband given the tiny snippet we've got of her.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Yep. And when he's all alone, with no kids and grandkids to visit him, he'll only have himself and his terrible choices to blame.

[@paden1865able]

If you don't want someone involved with you or your wedding, you make it clear to them and cut them off if they keep pushing it. Also, if they hurt your child, you press charges against them and make sure they do time for it. She's a sick puppy.

[@MoriacMumma7]

I really hope OP remembered to remind Dad that Stepmonster won't accept 4yo because "he's not family" when in fact 4yo is more family than she is!

[@maddyspinks]

I can totally believe dads like OP’S dad exist because mine is one of them! After 20 years of marriage he is finally discovering step mum, but that’s only because she is the one who left him lol. I’m sure if I tried to speak to him about all the awful things she did to me now (and I’m 27 now with a kid of my own mind you) I’m sure he would still either defend, explain away, tell me I’m lying and it never happened, or tell me she didn’t do anything wrong by what she did. This is because both of them are diagnosed narcissists (the reason why I knew they would eventually get divorced, it was just a matter of time before something came up that the didn’t agree about and since neither of them can compromise, well…….) he has a total inability to admit when he is wrong.

[@shebakoby]

It's really sad but it sounds like OP's dad is on top of being an enabling narcissist that sold his soul to a "Demon in the Sack", was being isolated by his wife from his family, little by little. So in some small way, he's a victim of abuse as well, but he's incapable of processing this.

[@juliamiller2299]

Wow! What a story. OP was right to go scorched earth on MIL. After giving his father one last chance on the phone, it's game over for him too. It's too bad his father ended up estranged too, but it seems he was blinded by MIL' and will never change.

[@bunnyslippers191]

Op needs to keep his phone number in case Step Monster tries to talk to him. If she dials his number his phone will keep a record that she violated the RO and she'll wind up with more charges against her. The idea of her getting in more legal trouble makes me feel strangely happy. I hope she does try to contact OP and/or Jane.

[@redonyx5428]

Dad gives me the impression of those type of men who settle for the first woman that gives them positive attention because they're afraid of being alone. And he kept making excuses for her, even when she was highly out of pocket because of this. she's a controlling, overbearing jealous woman who popped a toddler in the mouth because she was mad she wasnt getting her way. he better hope he doesn't get sick before her because she will park his ass in a nursing home while pretending to be the caring wife for attention.

[@bunnyslippers191]

He cheated on the girlfriend he had at the time they met and ruined that relationship just to be with this woman. The man had a girlfriend already that all the family loved, but he cheated on that girlfriend with this monster. The entire extended family dislikes her and several of them can't stand her, but in the father's eyes she can do no wrong.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

​@@bunnyslippers191 That was the moment where I lost any remaining pity I might've had for OP's dad. OP himself was wise to go no contact with Wicked Stepmother and Spineless Cheater Dad. It's a very good thing that OP didn't grow up to be like his dad or should I say sperm donor.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Yep. I can see that happening too. I could also see a possible self-fulfilling prophecy, his precious wife leaving him when he gets sick. Either way, he's only got himself to blame when he's all alone, old and frail and his children and grandchildren are nowhere to be found.

[@browniewin4121]

Good for OP for not knuckling under to evil step-mom's intrusiveness and dad's pressure. It is terrible that OP's father would condone this abuse by his wife. I am so glad charges were pressed and I hope she has to spend time in jail. After update: Good for banning the abusers and enablers. I think OP is a lot better natured than I would be to even consider forgiving any of these people at any point. I'm glad Luke is doing better. After next update: Glad the court case is done, and glad there is a protection order. This father is demented and disgusting. OMG, he is absolutely despicable to think the way he does and continue to be an apologist for his vile wife.

[@animatorstanley]

If I saw anyone assault a child even if the kid was a complete stranger we'd be fighting. Even if I got my ass beat, it would be to protect a child. If that person was my spouse, smackdown, cops called and divorce time.

[@unholysporkable]

A lot of older people believe that "spare the rod and spoil the child", or believe in physical punishment. Sad but true. They literally can't comprehend that it isn't a good idea and is actually causing trauma. That is likely the basis of the "she just hit him once" comment. And why the older family members still support her for doing it.

[@alexanderhenby1362]

Can we talk about the irony of this woman calling this 4 year old child (who is fiance's brother, mind you) "not family" when she is OPs STEPmother. STEP.

[@themichaelhaginsshows]

How many people here actually gasped when the father said, "She only hit him ONCE!" I could not be as calm as OP in this whole situation. I grew up when spanking was OK and it sucked then. I can't even fathom the generation that thought hitting children in the face was OK to do.

[@janejones7638]

I wasn't expecting the story to get that serious by the title. I wonder if the step-brother was abused. Usually a person in her 50s (?) doesn't just start abusing children, that might explain his strange responsible. He may be processing what happened to him.

[@CatgirltheCrazy]

The fact that step bro is having trouble believing his mom would hit a child makes me think she probably never *physically* abused him, at least. If she had, I think step bro would instead defend her with whatever kind of "you deserved it" rationalizations she'd used on him growing up. Emotional abuse, though, I could totally believe, given how controlling she is.

[@linkinlady06]

I'm proud of OP for moving on and cutting contact with both the stepmom and his father. Not only was she a horrible person but the father was just as toxic for standing by and letting her hurt that child. But honestly the real MVP in all of this for me is OP's wife for showing so much restraint after finding out stepmom hit Luke because if it was me everybody in that household would have to hold me back from knocking her head off her shoulders!!! I have a two-year-old son and if he gets touched I'm laying all the hands period!

[@eleanoraddy4683]

I also would like to see the statistics on people trying to change others wedding plans.....

[@Aelitagurl]

"But she only hit him once!" Why, sir, do you think hitting a child, AT ALL, is ok???🤨🤔

[@shanewoody4232]

The strike will heal but the words won't. Telling Luke he isn't family which is basically saying nobody loves him will stick.

[@DigitalCowboy000]

Given the evidence that the OP has against the stepmother. Why isn't she in jail?

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I don't know. But I wouldn't rage just yet. I have a feeling that this is not the end of this. Wicked Stepmother is likely going to try something again and I highly doubt she'd be getting a slap on the wrist the second time.

[@VidGirl88]

That stepmother is lucky OP and his wife are more adult than the grandparents or there would be a few branches missing from that family tree. Abusing a literal child.

[@therealmaizing5328]

In the last update, when the OP's dad said the step-monster "only hit (Luke) once" it reminded me of a story my mom used to tell us about when she and my dad got married. My mom told my dad that if he ever hit her, even once, that she would leave him. He wouldn't get a second chance. Once is too many times, I'm glad the OP knows that.

[@heathermiller5765]

Yes, same! And same goes for cheating as well

[@memyselfandi7782]

I'm glad for the update. I hope the stepbrother was there for the hearing or at least has a better grasp of what on earth is going on

[@MalkavianGhoul]

That woman really took her wicked step mother role seriosuly

[@wmdkitty]

"She only hit him once!" Once is more than enough, and I will always choose the child over the one harming them. Stepmum and Sackless can fork right off and step on all of the LEGO.

[@evelynberrios8164]

Not only would I’ve gone no contact, ever, but I’ve would have pressed charges for assault with the police!! This is not acceptable. Perhaps with pressing charges it would have opened his eyes how horrible his wife is. NTA

[@jancatperson8329]

“She only hit him once” proves she’ll do it again. Once is all it should take. I recall this exchange from another story a while ago: (Parent): what will it take for us to have a relationship again? (Adult child): stepparent dies, or you get a divorce. And that should be the best-case scenario here as well, with that contingent on dad showing genuine remorse along with some good old-fashioned grovelling. Damn, what some are willing to tolerate from a partner just to get laid.

[@Handalorian]

Upvote then watch. This is the Way of the Wafflorian.

[@MarkNarrations]

Wafflorian, i love that! This is the way!

[@paden1865able]

I follow the Way of the Wafflorian.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Ye

[@lynngrant533]

It seems to me like stepmother is absolutely controlling and has whipped dad into submission. After listening to dad‘s last conversation with OP, I am thinking he’s either too tired to fight as she is just that much of a bully and he’s given up. I’m glad that stepmother has a record now and I wish dad would realize how much better his life could be if he’d just get rid of her.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Yeah. But like OP said, he made his priorities clear and his children and grandchildren are not among them.

[@jessicathompson236]

Sounds like it might be stockholm syndrome 🤔

[@earcher]

Oh.. my God. If someone split the lip of my child, let alone my four year old, I would be going to jail that day. Some things are just worth it.

[@JasperCatProductions]

Story one if my fiancé didn’t go complete no contact with parents I’d dump him. Your dad allowed this abuse! Disgusting.

[@brandyb2931]

I think OP's dad does see what his wife did was wrong, but she obviously has his balls in her purse, so what he repeating to OP sounds more like points that his stepmother has made. She wants her husband to fix this because without being her husband's kids "mother" she feels she has no skin in the game of this family. She has obviously tried to out do OP and his sister mother and with them not having anything to do with her she is losing her mind.

[@agentzapdos4960]

She has a vagina that he only has access to if he submits to her every whim. Most men would accept a lifetime of abuse if it means they get sex once in a while.

[@kacielawrence]

Time to get a restraining order against his dad too.

[@NovaTheAngel]

"But she only hit him once!" Break his nose by punching him in the face. "I only hit you once so thats ok, right?" Man I wish it had turned out like that.

[@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh]

I’m glad we got the final update with the court hearing and completely going no contact after getting the restraining order 😊

[@haannishh]

I thought the same Mark! The step brother deining so hard that his mom would ever hurt a kid really made me think it could be a trauma response,cause if he recognises that his mother hurt Luke he might have to deal with if his mother hurt him as a kid

[@kateemma22]

This is a watershed moment: you choose the ACTUALLY NOT FAMILY because marrying in doesn't make you family whereas the literal baby is the bride's brother? Goodbye, don't call me, you won't be missed from my life and I will never speak your name again.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I hate when men say a woman ended up pregnant. Like o...kay. That just happened? You didn't play any role or know how it happened? 🤔🤷🏾‍♀️

[@paden1865able]

They're the kind of people who think that a woman can get pregnant by sharing a sandwich with a man...

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Yea. "their birth control failed", cuz condoms don't exist for a reason. 🤦

[@thehoogard]

Absolutely nothing implies he doesn't understand what happened, nor that he doesn't take any responsibility for it. It's all just in your head. Choose something else to be upset about.

[@wmdkitty]

Gosh, if only there were some way for men to contain their ejaculate... /s

[@emnorfolk5559]

Goddamnit! She did to a BABY (and got away with it) what you would be arrested for and in PRISON (not jail) for doing to an ADULT!!! She needs locking up and keeping away from ANY future "step" grandchildren!!!

[@poohbear4515]

This all happened because no one wanted to stand up and tell both assholes how horrible they are. Man(doesn’t even fit to be called a dad), and step-bitch, had been enabled for so long all because to keep the fucking peace. It doesn’t keep peace, it only fuels the fire for them to attack. I’m glad OP and his wife got them both banned, and listed as a child abuser. That’ll be interesting to read on a job application. But I blame everyone in the family that never got up and said something about how overly controlling she is, and how utterly despicable he is all because they didn’t want to hurt daddy’s and step-mommy’s feelings.

[@momo382844]

OP’s much more soft than I am. Stepmother would have left the house in an ambulance. Dad, too. And to hell with your family! 🤬 Edit: So Dad cheated on his ex with Stepmom? This statement tells me all that I need to know. They are both pos! And rest of the family sucks for enabling these these! Good for OP for cleaning up house!

[@bunnyslippers191]

Both OP and Jane stopped themselves because they didn't want Luke to see that violence. Imagine how much worse that would have been for him if they had beaten the crap out of those two right in front of him after he had gotten hit that hard. He would have internalized it as everything being his fault because he made the step monster angry. A child of 4 doesn't process events the way older kids and adults do.

[@momo382844]

@@bunnyslippers191 I suppose you’re right. Stepbitch would’ve cried victim and file for charges first instead of the other way around. 🙄

[@damoeman6004]

I find it interesting that OPs stepbrother refuses to see his mom for who she is but OP himself seems to insist his dad is a good guy, just too influenced or under his wife's control. That is a lame excuse also. Both OP and stepbrother don't want to see their birth parent as the POS they are. OPs dad has clearly shown what a lousy person he is. He puts out the nice guy thing to many who like him very much, but he stood by and watched his insane wife take out her anger on a 4 yo and smack him hard enough to make him bleed. Then stand up for her actions and go as far as refusing to attend the wedding if she can't. Then allowing family members to hear a completely different take on the situation, not mentioning the assault, so that his son would be seen as the villain instead of his wife. Clearly he is equally the POS she is!!! Why the multiple "normally he's a good guy" excuses from OP? Step brother also thinks nothing is wrong with his mom's actions because he won't deal with the fact she is awful. No one that defends them has any amount of compassion for a 4 yo boy that was made an orphan and luckily has a half sister willing to take him on. That is so sad. How can any adult not have their heart go out to a boy that almost lost everything? OPs dad knows damn well he married a loon that treated his children like her audience, her pet projects, her excuse to get more attention for her fake graciousness. Yet he allowed his two children to deal with her while he plays the good guy. I don't know why OP thinks his dad will "come around." Come around from what? Being a poor excuse of a man, father and grandfather?

[@CarelysDeAcosta1]

Mark… I’m gonna tell you something, when the dad said “she only hit him once” I was like if that was my kid she hit I would have put her lights out… I don’t condone violence, but it’s MY child, and you don’t put a finger on them, you don’t touch them, not a single hair on their heads… That woman shouldn’t have hit that little baby, PERIOD! It actually disgusts me that so many people are defending her… Let’s see if her son will dance to the same tune when is HIS child the one she hits! 😤

[@jeancarbonneau6966]

Hitting Luke, Jane's 4 year old brother once was once too many times for me. For starters, stepmother isn't related to OP or his family. She's just OPs dad's wife. Luke is OPs "son" and brother in law at the same time. I would have been furious about the fact that this woman had the gall to hit a 4 year old child in the face and split his lip like that. OPs dad was the babysitter for his children and by allowing stepmother being with him, he basically allowed her to slap a child. I hope that OPs dad realizes that because of this woman, he's going to lose pretty much his access to his children's lives and his future grandchildren lives. He will be on his deathbed before he realizes what a really bad mistake he did by marrying that woman. She's a "see you next Tuesday".

[@BW022]

Presumably the RO includes not just your house but anywhere the 4-year-old is. You should also post copies of the RO on any family web site, tell your neighbors, any daycare workers, etc.

[@malayshamorgan3918]

“She only hit him once” SHES NOT SUPPOSED TO HIT HIM AT ALL!

[@jvangriend560]

LoL - Mark love your chatter, side stories, and name interpretations. Though I think 1st OP's name is intended as Doctor (Dr) OogieBoogie 42. Still dug the DroogieBoogie name! 😁

[@carolynv8979]

“She only hit him once” Oh? How many times do you suggest a toddler should be hit? Because personally I was thinking Zero.

[@Well-groomed_Hobo]

Hey, Mark! I just wanted to thank you for your videos, they helped keep me awake on my way home from a callout Sunday night/Monday morning!

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww you are very welcome Hrodebert, thank you for being here!

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@MarkNarrations I also appreciate the effort you mostly do make to read stories with updates and endings. I realize many of the AITA stories don't have updates or endings because the way the subreddit is run by the Nazi Mods is messed up but the stories are often too good to pass up on. There is a subreddit I found and maybe you know about it called, "BestofRedditorUpdates" that grabs stories from many different subreddits that have updates and posts them. They even tell you if the stories are "concluded" or "ongoing". I think some KZbin Channels have found this subreddit as the same or the next day these stories are posted on there, they end up on KZbin.

[@lvincent7493]

Story #1... I would have blacked out. Only to come to wondering why I had the disconnected head of step monster in my hands.

[@Kstanimal]

"you bloody berk" totally got me 😆

[@scepticalhyenas5750]

21:34 _"He tried to go with the whole "she doesn't feel included" excuse again,"_ She's NOT included! That's the goddamn point!

[@Raaslen]

Story 1: I would have chosen violence if my stepmother did that to my kid, but knowing my father I wouldn't have to do so because he would have done so himself.

[@autumn557]

It’s like the Lori and Summer case. Everyone in her family was in denile she hurt her kids. Now they’re finally realizing what she did to them and new they were gone for months. Family will put blinders on when they want to no matter what you say.

[@markwalker4823]

The family who are still standing by evil dad and stepmom is what blows my mind!

[@togatampubolon5948]

OP forget the family and others who enable the bad step mom and should focus to destroy the step mother for hurting his kids.

[@coreymartin6486]

"He only got hit one time" (one is enough)......then it would go, "This is only the second time he got hit".....then it would go, "He only gets hit when shes in a bad mood".....

[@carolrondou6161]

I would punch stepMonster in the face and tell Dad, "What? I only hit her once."

[@chazk4110]

I would take a sense the footage of step-mother's "handiwork" to everyone. If anyone still sides with them, they can stay away from wedding.

[@bseelman67]

This little boy, Luke, is not family???!! Luke is the fiancee's baby brother and newly adopted son. How is he not family?

[@taetannim3581]

Yeah, I doubt that woman would have left my home without me shedding some of her blood. We'd have likely both gone to jail and I'd have done it with a smile and promises of what's to come once we're in lock-up.

[@PhoenixDragon86]

The dad said "she hit him once".....that's more than enough for a charge for assault. Oh the ignorance

[@30WallEra]

If that would be my stepmother, she would be on life support and all defending her would join her quickly

[@skyelinkhyrule5715]

"This includes my stepbrother, who agrees with his mother no matter how many times I try to tell the truth." Wow OP, you are NTA. You and your wife did the right thing banning stepmonster from your wedding. Also, if Stepbrother is going to defend his mother for her actions towards Luke, he's definitely going to defend her when she does something to his future girlfriend/boyfriend. In other words: she raised a mama's boy.

[@anndownsouth5070]

I grew up in a time when being spanked was normal, but we were never hit on any part of our bodies except our butts. I think it is disgusting to hit anybody in the face or behind the head. Especially a kid. Also, whenever we got spanked, we knew exactly why it happened (and to be honest, it wasn't often)

[@LovesGaming37]

The OP and fiancee have more restraint than me. I would willingly go to jail if that might I could end her

[@carolsh1983]

I had heard most of this story but not the last update so I was happy to hear all of it. Thanks for reading it!

[@paperkay]

The dad's generation, the "What are you whining about, she only hit him ONCE..." ... I had the same reaction. It's just a slap. What's so bad about a little bit of a split lip? ... And then it hit me: Oh, yeah. That's because our parents used to beat the crap out of us. A slap was NOTHING. You wouldn't even consider a slap a real hit. It was almost a kindness, like a fair warning. Gods, I wish I could afford therapy.

[@emnorfolk5559]

"SHE ONLY HIT HIM ONCE"... I HOPE TO GOD THAT WAS RECORDED!!!

[@deezvidz218]

Wow I'm so early there's only 3 comments! Mark just wanted to say you're amazing and I got a waffle hoodie a while back it's one of my faves!❤

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww Deez thank you so much, what colour did you get? I often still wear my bright pink one haha :)

[@deezvidz218]

​@Mark Narrations Omg! I didn't expect a reply this made my day truly! I just got a grey one❤

[@justinecorrington4106]

Oh if they apologize for hitting a four year old so hard, he bled… we will forgive them. No. Hell no. Op is struggling to accept his dad will always prioritize his wife. And so he keeps forgiving him

[@LiveLocallyNow]

OPs dad is weak and will have a sad and sorry life with that narcissist. He will have many regrets on his lonely deathbed.

[@Tamar1503]

OMG! That MIL was lucky OP and SO were busy with kiddos, because had that been me, MIL wouldn't have been walking out of the house alive. And in the strange case that she was still alive, she definitely wouldn't be walking...!