My Boyfriend Keeps TESTING ME Regarding My Med School At Home r/Relationships

[@thehoogard]

"Sorry, I'm off the clock. If you want me to look it up, you'll have to pay me".

[@MarshmallowCUPCAKee1]

#1: OP's bf is JEALOUS and had his ego bruised knowing his gf is in med school and he isn't so he's doing his best to make her feel small and demean her. She dodged a huge bullet!

[@khaleesireyna731]

Why do narcissists have the thinnest skin and smallest/most fragile egos when they're really not that remarkable to begin with? I will never know.

[@Jana_San_SS]

Also it seems like his family were the one instigating this behavior.

[@Sherwoody]

@@Jana_San_SSshow how close you are to being a doctor. Send them a bill for consultation.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

This heartache, as unfortunate as it is, is waaaay cheaper than divorce years down the line. I would've been, ahem, more confrontational on the quizzing. If you're getting "pimped" by an attending, he at least knows the answer. I'd say, "Well, Einstein, if you're so f---ing smart, you tell me." Congrats to OP for losing that 180 lb tumor of a BF.

[@ynmonroe]

@@Jana_San_SS Assuming he wasn't lying. I wonder if he claimed his family felt the same way about OP to save face. And even if it's true, it makes me think it's part of the reason he is so misogynistic.

[@lifewithlee6298]

So … docters are narcissists… but lawyers aren’t ? 😅 wtf

[@LilFeralGangrel]

I mean, he can't be a narcissist because he's perfect (which i mean is something that a narcissist would say but he clearly doesn't have the self-awareness to know that)

[@madelynstorms4609]

I’m in law school and joke the only job with more narcissists than law is medicine lol

[@JoJoGranum]

Lawyers tend to land up being politicians. Let’s make of that as you want

[@diamcole]

The running joke in my cohort is that doctors are narcissists with a severe God complex and lawyers are sociopaths with a touch and go relationship with the truth lol.

[@hanma6480]

Y’all forget about Engineers they are the most narcissist people 😂😂😂😂😂

[@TriXJester]

Story 2: I'm pretty sure thats not only a state violation, but a federal crime that dude committed.

[@nathansheldahl]

It is and the feds (FBI most likely) would have a field day with this case.

[@faithlesshound5621]

He's set up a transmitter and has been receiving private audio and video over the air in another state.

[@jessicarichards6796]

Finding out a friend installed camera’s in your home would make you paranoid after that. Holy crap. I wonder why they where spying. The audio devices would make me think corporate espionage or something, but than why put a camera in the shower? It’s so weird.

[@nelly2958]

Yeah I can’t come up with any good theories besides, crazy people exist

[@darkmask5933]

Camera in the shower and facing the bed, probably perv cams. And some people like to be able to hear people too.

[@pippo17173]

@darkmask5933 literally its basically the friend hoping to see the girl in the nude so what best way then to hope op and the friend gets it on.

[@artemishallihan8973]

It can be as simple as voyeurism, gratification from watching people doing things in a private nature, usually without their knowledge or the expectation of privacy. It could be considered a kink, but unless the person they're watching is an exhibitionist, its a problematic one. The person who placed the camera could have used the footage for themselves or hosted streaming on the dark web for other voyeurs. Whatever the reason, it's so gross

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

@@artemishallihan8973If one of the devices caught sight AND sound, that person might be in violation of federal wire tapping laws.

[@Raaslen]

Story 1: I have a friend that deals with that kind of crap in a really nice way, whenever someone starts bugging him about medical questions he just says "the consultation is 200, it will be card or cash?"

[@amberleeannalee1999]

I’d tell him “I don’t know I guess you should try to get into med school Again so you can know everything “

[@MaryTheresa1986]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@paulastiles5507]

They felt that burn on Pluto!

[@luvondarox]

Oh my gosh. 2nd OP sounds like the victim of a full-on spy game level bugging. That's creepy as heck and honestly a little terrifying.

[@karenrickert9430]

On that last story, if the person who placed the cameras in OP’s house had it set up to a WiFi transmitter, he might already know his cameras have been found! If the images were transmitted over state lines, well that could add to the charges. The old phrase throwing the book at him comes to mind.

[@AndreNDP]

He 300% knows. This is prison time bad.

[@nataliereeves3594]

Police might be able to trace it through the serial number.

[@alosialee]

Yeah seriously. We're talking invasion of privacy, recording in private spaces without consent, potential wire tapping type charges, "revenge" p0rn if the person distributed the footage at all, and then some depending on how many state lines they can count them as having crossed, international charges if they're not from this country or have cameras elsewhere in other countries if they are, extras of the same charges again if they have cameras set up like that in other homes they've stayed at which is plausible in this circumstance. A whole lot of prison time kind of an eff up.

[@flamelily2086]

Story 2 This is so sick.The moral of this story is don't allow anyone to stay in your place while you are away.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

I thought the moral of the story was that after knowing someone for 10+ years, you still don't really know them.

[@Boundwithflame23]

@@Nathan_BookwurmPor que no los dos?

[@shawnesmith5364]

@@Nathan_Bookwurm Nah the moral of the story is don’t let just any/ everyone in you house. Man can you imagine having over 90 being able to stay in your home

[@nentash8566]

​@shawnesmith5364 seriously, I have been at my place for 5 years now and have yet to let ONE stay over 😂

[@NiMissNi]

As a person who studied chemical engineering, I heavily relate to this med school student. My mom asks me all the time about chemicals and the reactions in the body and she'll ask "didn't you study this in school?"

[@tamsel814]

I studied plant sciences and family members keep asking me why their plants are dying, usually based on a description of the plant. Which is not what I studied. I have given up and just say: toy either give it too much or too little water.

[@jackspring7709]

You could answer by saying "Yes - I studied this, you didn't". Or when she tries to test you (belittle you) just answer with a comment about the weather or the grass growing.

[@CircusoftheMoon]

I studied chemistry/forensic chemistry (I work in pharma currently) and family members ask me about their medical diagnoses.

[@sierralovat5498]

​@CircusoftheMoon I think people dont realize that certain jobs dont have a blanket or even relate to what they think. I.e. oh, you work in some form of medicine. You must be a doctor. uhh, no.

[@sierralovat5498]

What does engineering have to do with chemicals??? What if you are an architectural engineer, agricultural or a software engineer?

[@ZoeAlleyne]

Story 2 he should have called the cops right off the bat, not let her leave with a device that might have a lot of vulnerable people naked.

[@Plaprad]

My thoughts exactly. There are times to deal with issues yourself. But when it involves other people and actual crimes committed, call the damn cops and let them take care of it.

[@maryseflore7028]

The shock he was in is probably why he didn't call right away. Being both informed they were cams in your home AND have your friend accuse you of sth you didn't do, plus having said friend lose her sh** on you, doesn't help you keep a cool head.

[@TheodoreBotman]

It also could have completely screwed him and could have destroyed his life, if she blew him up on social media.

[@OD1261]

I mean, in his defense, I didn't think of it either when I was listening to the story, lol. But it is in fact the only smart thing to do.

[@michaelwoods3651]

He’s so bitter about not being able to cut in the medical field that he negs his girlfriend to make her feel inferior. He’s trying to make himself feel better at OP’s expense. Someone that claims to love someone else wouldn’t do something so crappy. She can find better.

[@ynmonroe]

I know, right? And to make himself feel better, he basically criticizes and questions the industry and it's professionals. Pretty sad. He could have used that energy to shore up whatever weaknesses he had that didn't make him eligible the first time around and basically worked towards his dream. Dude is definitely toxic.

[@ScooterBond1970]

And then that update? 😨😵 "Oh I wanted to dump you long ago but I didn't because YOU needed ME"? Nice Guy much?

[@katiekates4416]

Last story is so scary. To think someone you're close to would do something like that. I wonder if OP will change how he lets people stay because of this

[@plantemor]

It reminds me of a thread in a subreddit I'm a part of where a guy admitted to make deepfake porn of women he knew in real life. Friends, acquaintances, family members. That read was so fucking creepy.

[@faeb.9618]

man i don't think i'd be able to let anyone stay over anymore after that

[@RuminatingRaptor]

Extreme violations on so many levels.

[@RuminatingRaptor]

@@plantemor That’s deeply disturbing.

[@plantemor]

@@RuminatingRaptor he was drawing the line at colleagues because he thought it'd be going too far, lol. Absolute degenerate.

[@TheCheaPet]

As the token "tech" person, I started carrying a hammer with me to annoying friends houses when they asked to check out their computer problems. I would whip out my hammer and announce that it's best to put it out of its misery. They never asked again.

[@WhiteWolf-lm7gj]

Tbh, taking a hammer to my laptop might make it work better, thanks for the suggestion!

[@alyzu4755]

@TheCheaPet That's brilliant! 🤣🤣🤣

[@niq872]

@@WhiteWolf-lm7gj sometimes a good whack can make them work better like my old tv

[@LittleMaitea]

This is brilliant!

[@whiskey287]

That's crazy!!!! I make up stories too. Let's be friends

[@swiftninja91]

Story 2 - Massive yikes! I don't know if I could keep living there if I found cameras in my house. That is terrifying

[@MaryTheresa1986]

If I were OP I would never let anyone stay in my home again.

[@everdreamcosplay]

​@MaryTheresa1986 yes that was my thought. My trust would be so damaged.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

I would tear down every item I have room by room to see if there's anything else before I'd live there comfortably again.

[@Hexashy]

story 2: to be honest, I want to know what the whole friend's reaction was when OP got the police involved and if she knows about the whole situation. Probably doesn't know the whole story if police are involved and they know the guy who did it. But I'm really damn curious on what that friend thinks now

[@howaboutno.01]

Yeah, me too! I was waiting to hear that the friend was told what had been found, and what she thought of that, but no such luck

[@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh]

Not really a friend I guess 😅

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

She was there when the police found all the stuff and it sounded like she was still there when the police asked OP who the person on the picture was. I'm sure they talked about it and OP just didn't write it in the post, because OP was probably very thankful that she found it.

[@faeb.9618]

to be fair i can't really blame her, i think anyone would guess the house owner who gets so many people staying over would plant a camera like that. i do hope she apologized for her outburst but i would freak out too, especially considering she was already in the shower when she found out about the camera so yknow

[@tamsel814]

Story 2: I can't blame the friend for doubting op. If I stay somewhere and find a hidden camera I would also assume that the home owner is responsible. It's the most logical suspect.

[@impishrebel5969]

Except when you consider the home owner is away most of the time and he lets his apartment be used as a basically free AirBNB, then it's not really. How many AirBNBs might have cameras installed by previous guests? The answer is: a lot. This stuff has hit the news multiple times and it ranges from the owners to guests trying to get footage to sell.

[@Plaprad]

Doubting, I can agree. But as soon as the cops were involved and they found out who it was she better be apologizing. He was the bigger victim in this.

[@robertx8020]

Actually, not being at home a lot of the time WOULD be a good reason to install cams..ofc not in bathrooms or bedrooms! I have multiple cams in my house, all remote controlled ..ofc I have nobody staying in my house when I'm not there but I have some ppl that have a key..e.g. to water my plants

[@juresichj]

I would ask questions, instead of going off on the person. If they admit it, or act really suspicious, then I would probably go off on them.

[@elsaflood6393]

S2. This is the risk you get of running your home like an air bnb. If you do, be a good landlord and do a check after every guest leaves.

[@Npyne]

Story 1: NTA. I'd turn the tables on him, start asking the stupidest questions about his job that could have just been googled and when he inevitably gets annoye, just keep saying "you should know this/want to know this" etc.

[@darkmask5933]

Story 2 is very scary, it reminds me of those news stories a few years back of a lot of people finding hidden cameras in lockers in gym changing rooms. Only this is worse since its in your private home.

[@dimsufferer9951]

Or of that guy who was arrested for putting perv cams in his AirBNB

[@brina4058]

That last story is creepy on so many levels. I would be paranoid af. I wouldn't be letting anyone stay at my place after that, and I would be doing sweeps of my place on a regular basis.

[@Tokyo_Rose.]

And change the locks! The guy who set up the cams could have had a key cut.

[@RuminatingRaptor]

@@Tokyo_Rose.Good idea!

[@sophiahumphrey4686]

Story 1: I am glad that OP broke up with her boyfriend. He sounded so jealous of her because she is in med school. I could not believe what he told her. I am glad she ended it. Story 2: This story really creeped me out. Someone who you let stay in your apartment violated his privacy. I really hope that they found all of the cameras. He was lucky that his friend found them.

[@Swnsasy]

Omgosh he sounds exhausting! I had to literally yell and drop a friend of 3yrs.. I'm getting my PhD in Forensic Psychology and Applied Behavior and she would ask me about EVERYTHING! If she's a guy she likes she wants me to, "watch for serial killer signs." She will also find every single "symptom" and ask if he is a narcissist, has Bipolar, Borderline PD and on... It's just so annoying!!

[@justine8387]

Its also vastly unethical to go around diagnosing people without consent or context.

[@Swnsasy]

Story 2: That means someone is looking at him too! Keep the camera and take it to the police. A professional at the department may be able to trace it... He really should take it to the police! Omgosh the update is SCARY!!

[@taurus3alexis]

In a zombie apocalypse doctors will be needed, not lawyers. This is basically saying there will never be a time in past present or future where a doctor isn’t needed, and lawyers are always needed

[@Grace_x68]

Lawyers will be the 🧟‍♀️ zombies 😂😂😂

[@paulastiles5507]

@@Grace_x68 Gives new meaning to that old Jackson Browne song "Lawyers in Love."

[@Grace_x68]

@@paulastiles5507 ah man didn't hear that song in a while....

[@Kayenne54]

OP needed to stop engaging in that "control" game. "If you're interested, you look it up, I'm busy STUDYING TO BE A DOCTOR".

[@michamocha]

I honestly might've laughed at his outburst because it truly just sound like a desperate attempt to make it a "they didn't dump me, I dumped THEM" thing that some people do when they're offended at someone breaking up with them. For sure, he's either jealous of her getting into med when he didn't or sexism. Either way, Op did good taking out the trash. Spy cam: I feel so bad for them both jfc. Not only were their privacy violated but Op now had to scramble to prove his innocence and face the betrayal. I can't imagine what he's feeling now after finding all of those cameras and audios around his home. It makes me question things but it'll just make the situation sound so much worse if I think on it too long. Glad that Op got the cameras out and found the guy.

[@raptoress6131]

Story 1: Sounds like boyfriend was madly jealous of her and wanted her to drop out too. Good riddance.

[@adequatepipe8610]

"Not the bloody printer..." I feel this in my heart 😂

[@brendamuirhead483]

I was six months into nurse training when i was expected to have the answers to any random health related question… by my own family….and ridiculed soundly if I didn’t know…six months into training….I relate to this so much..

[@justine8387]

Man i hate when people tall poppy syndrome there own kids, like just be happy for others success, specially if they are your own people.

[@belafalda7594]

That last story....I NEED an update on that one. I would love it if the culprit got jail time for that

[@Chen_Han]

All I want to know is if the friend in the second story apologized. Sure she can be suspicious at first, but after finding out it was someone else, I hope she apologized to OP for automatically assuming it was him

[@thatonecooktone]

Doubt it. I wouldn't be surprised if she still tells people he had cameras set up to spy specifically on her 🤷‍♀️

[@chsparkle]

I mean, it wasn't unreasonable to suspect him and of course he'd deny it. I hope she has apologised but she can't be blamed for her reaction.

[@small_joys2022]

I think it was mighty observant of her to have found the camera. Without that he would still be in the dark.

[@WhiteWolf-lm7gj]

I mean, if I found a hidden camera in a shower, the logical conclusion would be that the owner put it there. I can't really blame her for automatically assuming he put it there

[@RumbleDelta]

⁠@@thatonecooktone That’s a pretty bold assumption.

[@TheDarwinProject1]

On the last story, I hope that OP wasn't staying at the "friend's" place when out of town too.

[@thatonecooktone]

That was my immediate thought too! He probably has his entire place rigged with cameras and audio!

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 1 your partner should never demean you. That's definitely what's he's doing. You need to leave, if don't you will be a fool. He couldn't make it in the program, but he somehow knows more than her. A layperson somehow knows more than her. Sure Jan 🙄 Have people not heard the numerous stories of patients who couldn't get a diagnosis even though they've visited several doctors? Doctors don't know everything.

[@vanzy01]

He went full mask off😢

[@eloritia.cosplay]

the thing that freaks me out about story two is like it's now out there, what if the perpetrator sees the story and realizes that he's been caught?

[@Cheri8795]

The icky, well more icky thing about the cameras in the apartment is I'd bet money there are videos of the people that've stayed there for sale on the dark web. I mean that guy went through a lot more work than a casual viewer. It's absolutely disgusting! I hope they charge him for every single person that was caught on those cameras in any way at all!! I wonder if OP is still friends with the girl that found the shower cam?

[@catherinemorley4829]

Story #1….wow, just wow! As the bf was giving the list, I was muttering a lot. What a horrible person!

[@meezerluvr]

Story 2: If the culprit lives out of state and was monitoring footage from home, investigation will likely involve the FBI and may bring federal charges as well. What they find in his home may dwarf what was found in the apartment. The guy is likely looking at some hard time, not to mention the possibility of follow-up civil suits from OP and his guest(s).

[@artemishallihan8973]

Story 2 reminds me why I check for hidden camera's whenever I'm staying at a hotel room/B&B, or have "friends" stay over in the guest room.

[@AlyssaAllen.a]

Story 1- Oh wow 😮 that break up speech was vile!

[@deirdrelewis1454]

It’s not only doctors who are treated like this. Us nurses have the same problem! No one can possibly know everything in any field. All of us specialise in a particular area. I’m a retired ICU sister but people keep asking me about things like orthopaedics. I just can’t…

[@brokenmask333]

1st story: My theory is that the ex has some kind of vendetta against doctors. So In his twisted mind he thought making op drop out would make him a winner

[@NovaGirl8]

He wanted to go to med school and is very jealous of OP. Probably found he is not a good fit as a med student and took out his frustrations and bitterness on her.

[@cl5470]

He's just jealous.

[@whims6278]

Lol so bf needs to prove his imagined dominance over his gf who DID go through med school after hed quit, and now hes trying to placate his ego by demeaning her. This is like the ultimate red flag for escalating behavior imo. If someone (who supposedly loves you) cares more about putting you down to lift themselves up, theres typically no low they wont stoop to.

[@bhart3321]

That's straightup abusive behavior cuz quite often that emotional abuse turns physical eventually.

[@erenssister.5535]

The last time I checked AI passed the lawyers exam and not medcial exam. So whose profession is in trouble?

[@crowdemon_archives]

​@@erenssister.5535 AI also proceed to flunk actual lawsuits lol But yea, medicine is where AI just can't quite catch up well yet.

[@bryancorrell3689]

I hope the OP from #2 lets the other people in his apartment sharing group know about the situation. Others probably have hidden devices planted as well.

[@faithlesshound5621]

The first story reminds me of the joke about the doctor who asked a lawyer he met at a party how he coped with people asking for professional advice in social situations. Simple! He just sent them a bill the next day. "Thanks very much, I'll do that." A couple of days later he received a bill for legal services from the lawyer.

[@allanmartinez7535]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together, it was a really bad phase but we got through it.

[@wonhur885]

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@allanmartinez7535]

@@wonhur885 its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

[@wonhur885]

@@allanmartinez7535 this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.

[@laurenevers8644]

Dude, I keep seeing you using like, 3 or 4 different accounts spamming the exact same rhetoric like a broken record in different wording on EVERY! SINGLE! ONE! of mark's videos to get likes and attention. Get a hobby dude.

[@Iflie]

The spy equiptment seems too professional for someone who only did it once.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Yea, makes me wonder how many other places he has stayed. Do all the friends in this revolving door policy let others stay at their place or is it just OP? How many hotel or Airbnbs has he done this in? This guy has serious issues and needs to get help! Not including his friends, his family has stayed in his place from time to time. Must be making him sick to know some perv has pictures of his mother and sisters naked in the shower. Also, sounds like the friend is a creep to point a camera straight at his bed hoping to get some footage of OP and a partner going at it. What’s he planning on doing with that footage…snuff films for profit? Without even thinking of the repercussions of what this could possibly do to OP in his personal/professional life? With friends like this, who needs enemies! 😡🤬

[@Iflie]

@@stirrednotshaken4823 Snuff films are where they pretend to kill one of the sex partners, sometimes (rarely) it's actually real. i think people will assume the one target will be women but I think it's more likely that the focus is OP, his friend having some sort of obsession with him. It could also simply be for money, if he runs a website they can make money from videos like that.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

@@Iflie guess I should have used the word smut…oops! 😉🤣

[@pambarab5506]

Story 2. I think the only other thing that could be done against the perp is a lawsuit. The victims could sue him as a group, for privacy violations. It would cost money, and not likely get much in return, but would provide much needed retribution.

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Story 2: That's why whenever you spend the night in an Airbnb/hotel/motel, you look in **EVERY** hole you can find.

[@sandeesandwich2180]

s1: "He's a good guy," he says. He forgot to put the quotes around "good guy" because that is classic AH gaslighting there. S2: The hardwired camera in the bedroom is next level. Scary. I hope OP's friend has realized that OP had nothing to do with any of this.

[@leslieKbp]

I’m an RN for 29 years, and I hate getting these questions too. So annoying. So happy for you to dump that 2 year old and his constant why’s.❤

[@agnesstrzykowska4300]

Story 2: Im curious in how many places that creep installed cameras and if the police checked them 🤔

[@fluidwolf]

Story 2 is really scary. At least they know who did it though and hopefully the friend apologized to OP too. She was right to be upset when it was found out but when it's found to not be him he should get an apology regardless of how valid the initial response would seem

[@Grace_x68]

S2 OP need to let the police know that they use each others apartments. I get the feeling this bloke has done many apartments this way and that his primary work is to set up cams. Wish we can get an update also on the friend who accused OP. Does she believe him alteast now? The desk microphone could be for industrial espionage (we had a business that was subjected to this)

[@khughes9574]

S2: Well THAT's creeptacular. Depending on price, I would get a home 'bug sweeper' or try to find a company/PI that does something similar. Also, it may be time to do some major remodeling and tear everything out. I'm glad OP called the police.

[@kmgg5005]

I'm a trauma psychologist- generally i do not tell people when i'm chatting because...'oh, i had this experience/feeling/etc...'- but if it does come out, my response to someone asking for info is that i am not working right now. of course if someone is in severe crisis i will provide basic support/resources, but otherwise i just keep saying i am not at work right now. if that does not get through to them, i will ask what they do for a living and ask for free stuff related to their work😉💚. Anyway, glad she got out of that 'relationship'!!

[@nyotauhura7412]

#1The OP will quickly discover how much better their life is now the ex isn't around. They'll be angry with themself that they stayed with the creep as long as they did.

[@TheMimiSard]

Story 1 - "Lonely old lady doctors" - You know, I know an old lady doctor, and she is married, has adult children, and I presume is not lonely. She's also the head of the GP clinic I usually go to and has been running it for over 23 years.

[@kathydurow6814]

The men who say "you'll wind up alone with your pets" are the ones most scared of being alone with themselves. A lot of women I know (myself included) would laugh & and say, "Don't threaten me with a good time."

[@crowdemon_archives]

"Lonely old lady doctors" are also some of the first choice of people to run to when one has serious medical conditions so... 🙃

[@leeway3739]

"Oh, not the bloody printer"...I really felt that 😆

[@cheskydivision]

I was expecting the landlord/maintenance to have set up the cameras.

[@NumptyMcGlumpty]

just a reminder there was a lawyer cross exmaining a doctor in court : "how did you know he was dead, doctor?" ; "his brain was in a jar on my desk" ; "yes doctor, but are you SURE he was dead" ; "i suppose it's possible he was practising law somewhere" was the doctors final response

[@shells500tutubo]

That one's a classic. I read it I think in Reader's Digest over forty years ago.

[@speiga]

The police can put in a request to have him taken into custody and transported to OP's city

[@acatnamedm4529]

Wow, that camera story is wild. If there were any pictures of minors on there, the charges are going to be amped up considerably. If any of the images are shared online, there might be additional revenge porn type charges. I don't know if these charges will include federal ones as well as state since perpetrator lives out of state.

[@queencars802]

Great example of why you dont allow everyone and their mother unfeathered access to your home. OP was setting himself up for this kind of situation allowing "friends of friends" to stay in his home alone. Never let people you dont know, even acquaintances, to stay in your home when you're away.

[@shawnesmith5364]

I’m surprised not many people are talking about that, he claimed to let over 90 people use his place.

[@themayhemofmadness7038]

Story 2: I hope this helped fix his relationship with the female friend that thought OP set up the hidden camera. I also hope we get an update that the creep guy was sent to jail for a very long time!

[@laurdiane]

as someone studying psychology and biology in college, not even in med school yet, i relate hard, and i feel so bad for op and hope she’s doing better now, she’s deserves a better partner

[@msanderlin3330]

I would love more updates on Story #2.

[@kaikouchickamatsu]

I would have freaking informed all that guy's friends that he put cameras in the OP''s house after he gets arrested. Blast the bastard.

[@jmac5951]

Story 2. Who has the time and energy to spy on someone else like that? Creepy.

[@jennifersilves4195]

Dude who placed the cameras knows they've been found. It would take balls of steel to go back to OP. Wow.

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

guy: is too cowardly to break up also guy: "I'm too good of a dude to leave you so I'll stick around and be bother"

[@fcold9402]

How does he figure doctors will be automated before lawyers? It is already legal for people to skip the lawyer and defend themselves. Perhpas not the smartest move but certainly legal and do-able with resources online (as long as you don't hit a sovit site), unlike perscribing your own medication or trying to set your own bones.

[@pickle_pup8187]

OP needs to turn the camera over to the police. Once it was discovered the bottle needed to be set down and the police called and have them come. Provide the list of guests to the police. OP needs to go through his home with a tool to look for any hidden cameras. OP needs to report it to any entity that has helped arrange this “swap” if used. Then OP needs to close the apartment for use.

[@eileenheath1968]

Story 2 - dang. This is sounding VERY much like corporate espionage or OP got on an alphabet soup agency's watch list. Or one of his guests did. Back in 2010, a student found a GPS tracker hidden on his car. The FBI said it wasn't theirs - and they'd like it back.

[@paulastiles5507]

Story #2: That's really scary and sounds bonkers. Poor OP. Reminds me of a 1970s film called The Conversation starring Gene Hackman and featuring a young Harrison Ford.

[@poetryqn]

I'm not even five minutes in, and @MarkNarations, you have me snorting my morning coffee with laughter. I ADORE your comments and reactions! Your reactions are always priceless and the reason I've subscribed. Honest, compassionate, and still hilarious. THANK YOU!

[@kellyashland379]

Hidden camera, if any of op's friends or family had a minor stay there and got undressed in front of one of these cameras and there's video proof, the dirt bag that set them up is also looking at child porn charges as well.

[@nairbvel]

The doctor-to-be dodged a massive bullet... and if her path ever crosses ex-BF's in a professional sense, find a way to refuse to treat him and make sure her colleagues know why. And for the OP whose "friend" installed all kinds of illegal surveillance equipment... He needs to contact each person who stayed in the apartment after the install happened, and he & every one of those other people should *individually* sue the offender, or at least file a MASSIVE class action suit against the perp. Make sure that the local jurisdiction's penalties don't matter because they obliterate him financially.

[@pau.chimmy]

My ex used to to this to me His bff who was a druggie high school drop out always knew more about my chosen field than me who was the second highest GPA and had gone to countless speciality programs on my field

[@CatLoverX74]

Even though the friend called him a perv and whatnot he’s lucky she found that camera! The two (shower and bedroom) sound like he was a perv but the kitchen cam and audio at his desk seems like he was trying to hear his business. I wonder what OP does for business. I believe the charges would be for wiretapping as well. That’s scary that you know someone for ten years and they do this!

[@xxKillgorxx]

I'm sorry, but I am dying at this dude's projection! He is SO salty he isn't a med-student like OP.

[@paden1865able]

Time to bust the creep and change the locks, never letting someone stay in your place when you're not there.

[@raeishimura]

Yeah, as an Architectural Engineer, i used to get this kind of crap from my brother all the time. I got really sick of it and finally said "you know how to friggin use the Internet, use it! I deal with smarter people than you asking smarter questions than you all day and I'm sick of THEM, what makes you think i wanna answer moronic questions from YOU in my time away from work!? If you really give a crap about this, Google exists. If you are just trying to annoy me, good job. If you ask again, I'll re-engineer your face" something along those lines. I pretty much blew up in his face. He hasn't done that crap since.

[@Dawghome]

Wow that last one. OMG for sure.....

[@iSmileyPerson]

I hope that the OP and his close female friend made up. I’d be relieved to know someone I trusted wasn’t behind all of this.

[@nocause5395]

Didn't OP say that he also stayed at his various friends houses when he was in their territory. I wonder if his friend, the creepers house also has cameras in it. Also any of the other houses the creepers stayed in. There could be a whole lot of houses that have hidden cameras in them from this one person

[@jpbaley2016]

2nd - the horror of this is, this probably isn’t the only home that freak set his crap up in. Once the police have their case together, I would warn everyone that let the AH in know what he did. Hell, if you know what hotels he stayed at I would send them an email, too.

[@TigersandBearsOhMy]

Started doing some Google searches in an attempt to confirm the hidden camera story (because, cmon....) and I'm just going to say that it's disturbing how often this appears to happen.

[@jacksparrowismydaddy]

story 2 :the inn is closed. warn all the people that share to check their homes for the cameras. no more sharing.

[@Happydandy]

Tell your boyfriend that you deal with this subject all day long! When you come home you need a break from this, otherwise you'll burn out. Besides which someone who is learning, isn't going to have all the answers. Hence the term learning!

[@AryonaSamoto]

Story 1: OP dodged a nuke🙌 Story 2: WTF😲 I know the feeling that OP is going through. While not the same, I've had maintenance do creepy things in my apartment when I've been away and had a stalker break in before. I hope OP and his friends and family get therapy to help with this traumatic violation. It's hard feeling safe again after things like this.

[@ineedhoez]

Lmao @ the "lucky to be in med school" bit. You didn't flip a coin to get in. You worked and studied your ass off!

[@yamairad1]

I barely started the story and I'm stressing out. This reminds me of my X. I'm not in medicine but the belittling me concerning my studies and work. I'm hoping the endings is good. I hope she punches him in the face. 😂

[@joshguerrero8760]

I work in IT and refuse to work on pretty much anyone's PC, Printer or etc. Because of how they think I am free support. The only one I will help is my MIL because she doesn't take advantage of me and says thank you.

[@teenalot1235]

I sincerely appreciate men who understand that their ego and insecurities, and choose to avoid women who are intellectually out of their league cos it tells of a self aware person who understands his boundaries. Listening to story one makes me appreciate (even more) men who cut their coats according to their sizes rather than get with someone and traumatize them.

[@eeeeeehhhhhhhh]

Story one after update: after he made all that rant I would have just looked him dead in the eyes and told him "I should have broken up via text". No emotions. No nothing. Just the simplest way to state that this interaction was the biggest waste of time of the last few months and then leave.

[@kellypatterson8506]

Camera story, the person that set up the camera is also violation federal laws as well since the transmission was being sent across state lines.

[@terramarini6880]

Also depending on what he does for work he may want to let them know about the hidden devices at his desk. The added weight of an HR department with corporate lawyers could heat the suspects seat up nicely.

[@kellypatterson8506]

@terramarini6880 yeah, if he's involved in data, intelligence, or finance the person could also be charged with espionage, military, state, federal, commercial an so on.

[@thelittlemermaid9282]

Story 1: As my father always says, Out with the Shit.

[@geckokid8265]

Story 2: i just looked at their account and that is the only post which was posted 7 years ago and there have been no further updates i did however find this from OP about how his relationship with his friend who found it is doing "We haven't talked much since the police left. She said she was sorry she accused me but at the same time she doesn't feel safe here which I completely understand...I don't either. I sent her back to the hotel and ended up going to a hotel myself for the night. I have professional contractors coming in 2 days to fix the wall and to paint / clean the apartment while I watch. They'll move all the furniture and clean as well so I can maybe get some piece of mind."

[@andreavanhoof6047]

Story 1: NTA; but your boyfriend is! You dodged a major bullet!