AITA Friend Passed Away, Adopted Her Children, Now I Won't Let Grandparents See Their Grandchild

[@fangchick93]

I'm sorry, but since when are pigtails a sexual hairstyle? Little girls wear them for crying out loud!

[@MarkNarrations]

It's a really strange one

[@KittenUndercover]

That’s a very good point..ugh gross!

[@EliosMoonElios]

Controlling person see any aesthetic as luring competence.

[@carolsimpson4422]

@@EliosMoonElios really well put.

[@irenerandazzo4206]

Exactly. That boyfriend is disgusting and controlling. Leave that boyfriend and ditch the toxic friend.

[@jinxgiz3104]

Story one: NTA and can we talk about the major red flag that this guy is sexualising a hairstyle predominantly worn by little girls, like girls under the age of ten

[@donzyroberts3457]

Exactly my concern too

[@fionamasters1822]

I think it's the higher pigtails that is the sexualized one coupled with the naughty schoolgirl look. A friends mom wears her hair like the character pictured here and I don't see anything wrong here in this case.

[@robertx8020]

drop the BF !

[@bobot.chimpanzee8612]

Frankly the sexualizing of the hair is the smallest red flag his reaction is the huge red flag that he's a possessive potentially dangerous person.

[@Acidfunkish]

I'm so confused that the boyfriend called her a whore AND HER FRIEND said that it was inviting the wrong kind of attention. What kind of toxic people is this girl surrounded by, exactly? I'm seriously concerned and confused.

[@-mokerly-5984]

By god... First story is NTA. Pigtails, inherently sexual????

[@MarkNarrations]

I know right? 🤣

[@shithead1029384756]

Yeah..... i don't get it. So..... keep that dude away from any play grounds. ...

[@samantha1102]

I love to wear my hair in pigtails. She needs to run!

[@BronzeDragon133]

I dunno, ever since that Pippi Longstocking... Seriously, right?

[@ghostchainscatterer1794]

I think it has to do with pornography. Some use pigtails and braids on girls to give them the 'innocent look'.

[@TheKrabbyPattiez]

Men who don't like their girlfriends looking anything but 'ugly' when they're not with them are so 🤢 being mad that your girl...looks good???

[@MarkNarrations]

Yeah think she's best off out of it right?

[@pedroarjona6996]

Weak and insecure

[@gamero31o]

definitely insecurities.

[@kimsmith1746]

I've had long hair for over 30 years of my adult life. Because of the length, I have to do pig tails, when I need it out of the way (one braid isn't possible, as I can't reach that far behind me...bun and ponytail are heavy and push against the seat, when driving or just sitting). Although the typical comment is about Pippy Longstockings, I have had a few grown men make suggestive comments. I get disgusted at them, as it just strikes me as gross.

[@VeritasEspiritoria]

While i can see that wanting your girl to look like a nun that doesn't wash her face is ridiculous, i also understand where the idea comes from, if she's making herself look desirable she's wanting attention, it's like a married woman walking on the beach while moving her ass to every man there to show off, it's not cheating at all but it's of poor taste, of course this situation isn't like that and the girl probably thought that it was a cute hair cut, but then again, it doesn't seem that way always, i kinda get the boyfriend's stance on this. Even so, he should've been grateful for the cosplay, that's a lot of work, he could've discussed this later, he doesn't seem ready for a relationship if he's going off for something like this.

[@drawcula4025]

Story 4: so she sleeps with a married man, their family breaks apart and she moves in, expects the son to like her and is offended when he doesn't, and now expects him to give up his childhood bedroom so her daughter can have it? She's a real piece of work and I wouldn't be surprised if the son hated her AND his father for what they've done. Also, that "I'll just tell my daughter to get rid of her belongings" comment.. drama queen, much? Ugh.

[@terramarini6880]

It was very passive-aggressive, if she acts like that all the time it's no wonder the kid couldn't bond with her.

[@EmilyElfmore-bk5it]

Why can't the daughter use the same storage areas for her possessions that with which you were preparing to saddle the step-son? Because it's sooo much fun having your belongings all over the place... Don't worry about Kyle's influence on your daughter. He's a man. She won't identify with him. Worry she'll grow up to be a home wrecker, like you, who drinks(to excess) and acts like being drunk is an excuse for reprehensible behavior. Stop drinking. Perhaps if you stop drinking, you won't completely destroy your child's moral compass.

[@cheskydivision]

So Kyle doesn't want anything to do with his dads mistress, wonder why? The woman who hooked up with a married man and busted up their marriage worried the step son is a bad influence on the girl. Worry more she isn't like mom

[@mimigranville7452]

Very true like she put way too much emphasis on his sexual life which wasn’t needed, yet didn’t want to talk about her own misgivings *also the dads cuz “two to tango* (yet we can all figure out how that went down)

[@schokigirl1989]

Story 4: "He hasn't bothered ever trying to build a relationship with us." Guess what: You are the adult. That's your job! You already broke up his family (in his eyes), invaded his home, never bothered to have a relationship with him & now you want to take away his save space too. YTA

[@clairelouise3591]

Honestly, like when kids reach 13 they start distancing themselves from their parents anyway, nevermind from the new stepmum that's appeared in his life with a relationship that started before his mum and dad had even separated. No wonder he holds a grudge, kids struggle with a new parent figure at that age anyway nevermind with those circumstances and with a stepmum that clearly favours her daughter

[@beepsie]

THANK YOU!!! as a step child I would HATE to have her as a step mother. How does she expect a 13 year old kid, who just went through his parents rough separation, to "establish a relationship" with her. HES A KID. obviously he's not going to be able to establish a relationship to an adult because he just wouldn't know how???? She's supposed to put in effort for that too and its clear she never bothered trying.

[@schokigirl1989]

@Keys andFood Because she is the adult in this situation & adults are suppost to look after kids. I didn't say she didn't try. Maybe she did, but it wasn't enough. But she can't blame everything on him. And the son can make a decision at 13. That's ok. But you can't blame a child for not bothering to have a relationship to the woman that (in his eyes) broke up his parents & destroyed his family. Of course he doesn't want a relationship with her.

[@schokigirl1989]

@Keys andFood I´m not blaming her. You misinterpret me. If this is the relationship they both want, fine. That's their decision. But I interpreted her sentence, as her blaming the son for the lack of a relationship & that is just wrong in my opinion. If she wanted a relationship, she would have had to try & if she had & it failed, then she can't blame the child either, because he has very valid reasons (that are based on her prior actions) for not wanting a relationship.

[@danni1650]

As a young adult introduced to more “step dads” then can at all be healthy I completely agree! Only one of those men made an effort (more then my dad ever did) and he’s the only one I would talk to nowadays (they are divorced now tho)

[@KalenRann]

First story: NTA!! That boy just threw a HUGE red flag. GET OUT!! Second story: NTA! You are a true friend for honouring her memory and her Will.

[@kaedatiger]

Plaits are NOT sexual. This guy is 100% tripping and doesn't deserve the nice surprise.

[@justine8387]

It was so lovely she put so much effort in. I mean seriously she cut her own hair.

[@RenaRoo123]

Pig tails are a child's hair style. Idk what that first guys on about

[@AlisonCasilli]

Sounds like he, and some other males, might have something they need to talk to a therapist about.

[@Becks-and-books]

That’s the issue. They get off on women who look like children. It’s disturbing.

[@mirandanils5114]

@@Becks-and-books this.

[@fionamasters1822]

@@Becks-and-books very

[@red0421]

I want to like your comment, but it's at 69 and I don't want to ruin it. Have a star instead ⭐

[@crayolaclouds2696]

Story 4: She's so damn mad the internet told her off for being a homewrecker and reminded her that her stepkid hates her for that exact reason. She also comes off as super entitled and snarky. Like really, her last response was basically "Fine, I'm wrong. But my stepson is a dirty whore and I don't want him corrupting my angel. I'll just make my angel throw away everything because she can't have his room." She's BIG MAD.

[@TheFlowerchild712]

That's the pot calling the kettle black, imo. This woman knew his dad was married and chose to sleep with him anyway. If the step son is a "whore" for having multiple partners while not in a relationship, what does that make her who knowingly got with someone in a relationship? I pity women who get with someone who is in a relationship and not know about said relationship. I have very low opnions of cheaters and those who know they're with a cheater. The dad is also hot garbage.

[@susanyoung1600]

If this guy thinks pigtails are sexual, better hide you preteen daughters.

[@maheenahmed6653]

And toddlers and babies

[@maheenahmed6653]

And teenagers

[@rubymeaddle]

Most women start getting unwanted male attention by age 13.

[@belalugosisdead4444]

@@rubymeaddle You mean most girls, weird of you to refer to them as women. I wouldn't call anyone under the age of 20 a man or woman

[@rubymeaddle]

@@belalugosisdead4444 I didn't call 13yos women, I'm saying my gender as a whole experiences unwanted harassment at that age. Idiotic argument.

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

There's nothing wrong with baring terrible people from being near what Is essentially your child now.

[@fcold9402]

2. Clearly not the ahole, why would the parents care about their daughters memory when they did not care about her or her daughter. They just want to control the grandson and would no doubt try to turn him against all of you.

[@xTwilightWolvesx]

Yep. Additionally, the granddaughter would be abused and have a shitty life going forward. OP, protect those children with all your might, they deserve a life free from abuse. NTA.

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

OP of story 4 literally caused her own and another family's divorce with her cheating and still has the nerve to try and kick her stepson (WHO PAYS RENT) out of his bedroom?! The audacity.

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

She said she was already divorced, but it was early for dating. The man is the sole cause of his family's divorce, he was the one in 2 relationships. And 100 is hardly "rent"

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

@@TheZombifiedFairy She still had an affair with a married man. No wonder her stepson doesn't like her. And, rent is rent. He is paying for that bedroom, he should get to keep it, especially when he needs that extra space for his studies and school projects. At the end of the day, her logic is wack.

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

@@kimberlyterasaki4843 depending on if she knew he was married or not, it is still solely his fault. He knew he was in a relationship regardless of if she did or not and he made the active decision to step out of it. Place the blame where it belongs... on him. And the other child has school work as well, thats not really a valid excuse for why he needs the room. If anything, they should have just had both the kids downsize and moved to a house where no one can say "but this is MY place"... no... it isn't. Its your parents'

[@04beni04]

@@TheZombifiedFairy Objectively, the cheater is to blame for breaking up their own family, yes. From the kid's perspective? He had an intact family unit and the attic space was his established space, and she is the interloper looking to claim his space for her daughter the way she claimed a parental role in his life when he already has a mother. I'm not saying she doesn't deserve respect as a stepmother, but he has the right to resent her and the way it happened. ETA: it's true that the better solution would be to find a new home that better meets their changing family needs. If that is an option for them, that would ease a lot of tensions, yes.

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

@@04beni04 I don't know, I was raised that a child stays in a child's place. Have your feelings, but be respectful. When my own parents divorced, I didn't really like their respective friends, but I definitely made an effort to get to know them, especially if they were going to be in my life for a while. Eventually they got back together, but my parents both told me recently that they really appreciated that no matter how much I argued with them and wasnangry with them, I didn't take it out on people that weren't at fault. All that to say, feel how you feel, your feelings are valid, but you don't have a right to make those around you miserable. Not to mention its be 5 years now, OP isn't filling in a space if the mom is still active and she didn't try to take his room 5 years ago, it was just now.

[@charlottehancock76]

Story 4: As a uni student in a creative area that needs studio space and got uprooted from one room to another with no warning and in the middle of a very important project, YTA. Not only are you taking away his safe space, you're causing a massive disruption that could cost him his grade. Smh at the OP in the story

[@anngrowgaming7790]

"what is a sexual hairstyle" literally said it the same time as u xd

[@MarkNarrations]

Haha great minds 😁❤

[@anngrowgaming7790]

@@MarkNarrations yiz yiz :)

[@notevenlistening6072]

I was originally picturing a beehive hairdo shaped like...something...

[@anngrowgaming7790]

@@notevenlistening6072 lmao X)

[@artsybeedle4662]

Story 4: op sounds horrible. Glad she stopped pestering Kyle. Mannequins and sewing supplies take up lots of space. So much favoritism, it's not even funny.

[@onecrazybritishlady9613]

Story 1 : So he thinks pigtails are a sexy style? I'd seriously keep him away from schools. NTA Story 2 : Alexis's parents are clearly demonstrating why their daughter didn't want them near her kids. NTA Story 3 : It's true that she ruined her own life but ... it was the wrong place and the wrong time for what seemed like an unasked for opinion. YTA Story 4 : Op thinks Kyle is being dramatic? Of course he is! That attic was converted for his use by his parents so it's not just a room, it's a gift. A gift that Op planned to take from him and give to her biological child. If she didn't have a good relationship with him before, she definitely doesn't now. YTA

[@paden1865able]

That room was built for Kyle, leave him alone and let him enjoy it. I feel sorry for Carly, having a mother like that.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: My god this is the "You can't show your shoulders at school cause it could distract people" like ????? It's *hair*. If you're looking at a hairstyle and getting turned on that's a YOU problem, not them.

[@pierrotlehonque5084]

pigtails are a child-like feminine hairstyle, not a sexual hairstyle. I can kinda get where the guy might be coming from because Britney Spears did sexualize herself in some music videos with pigtails, but still this guy is really damn weird if he thinks that pigtails are inherently sexual

[@kellharris2491]

But even if you did consider them sexual how in the world is it his place to say how 'sexual' she dresses in the first place? He called her a whore!? What an Ass.

[@thatwitchychick2717]

Britney Spears managers (aka her parents) sexualised her. She had no say. Just an fyi. She had as little power then as she does now over what she wore in her videos. Her parents are practically criminals. Her father definitely is.

[@standinthegsp6858]

Tell anyone who gives you a bad time about you not letting your deceased friend’s parents see your new son EXACTLY what they said about your new daughter & that, because of this, the children’s deceased mother said her parents are never to see them. Make sure every school, dr, daycare, sitter etc knows this as well.

[@afkfromawake]

In story 4, YTA! If Kyle doesn't want to move then you can't do shit about it. You got your answer, NO! Kyle's room is his space, a space he's had since he was a kid. You are prioritizing your daughter over Kyle, and your only reason is that Carly has more stuff, that's her problem! If you kick Kyle out of the room that was remodeled for him and he has lived in for around a decade, then you are saying that you don't care about Kyle's well being and will always put Carly's wants and needs above Kyle's. When you married Kyle's dad you married his family, if your gonna put Kyle down then you aren't deserving of being his step-mom.

[@shithead1029384756]

And anyone wanna explain how pig tails are in anyway sexual?

[@MarkNarrations]

If you find out, let me know

[@danielkoskiluoto4499]

I just clicked on the video and went straight to the comments, that's one weird way to start the video!

[@shithead1029384756]

@@MarkNarrations first thing i think of when i think pigtails is that scene from Matilda... keep his ass away from the playgrounds if that's how he thinks

[@skylarjnelson6898]

I once watched a video on youtube about how adding pigtails to sexualized characters can make them seem more innocent, and thus more desirable? If that makes sense? Something, something, sexualizing childlike attributes

[@shithead1029384756]

@@skylarjnelson6898 yeah.... that's still pretty weird. Though i wonder about cousin it from the Addams family with pig tails lol

[@somegremlinwanderingtheweb4104]

Bf from story one was probably distracted by a girls shoulders in school

[@azadalamiq]

he be the type that faints at the sight of a girls ankle.

[@SorenPenrose]

that first story is an abusive boyfriend. Maybe not yet, but he's on that path.

[@EliosMoonElios]

I guess you don't get it but yelling and preaching is abuse.

[@lolly166541]

@@EliosMoonElios Oh boy, if yelling is already abuse - I wonder why no one put a stop to coaches. Let me guess, born after 2000 and in a city?

[@carolsimpson4422]

@@lolly166541 so a wife/gf is just a player on a team? I feel so sorry for you...

[@muffinnothin7940]

@@lolly166541 you're not supposed to love your coach nor live with them. A coach yelling is like words of encouragement, motivation and criticism. A lover/parent yelling at you is completely different.

[@kellharris2491]

@@lolly166541 calling someone a whore and dictating what she can and can't wear because she is dressed too sexy. Yes that's controlling and a precursor to abusive behaviour. And couches are trying to encourage and lift not tear someone down. Coaches that don't know the difference get fired.

[@delmaplain5358]

NTA! They are interested in grandson only, get a lawyer, they are harassing you!

[@GrandCorsair]

Not even being subtle about her favoritism in that last one. I bet she is going to guilt trip him about Kylie having to get rid of her things. I feel bad for him it sounds he's going to have to deal with this from now on.

[@VegitoUnlimited]

Based on the pic of the character i can safely say...i got nothing lol. Boyfriend must just associate pig tails with sexy girls. She better leave him fast is all i can say.

[@MarkNarrations]

Too true 😁❤

[@marist6734]

I wonder if the boyfriend thinks Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz is sexualized. 🤔🤔🤔

[@kennethsjvold9212]

🤣🤣

[@GinDenkai]

rule 34 artists: *SWEATS*

[@red0421]

That just reminds me of the rumour about the Munchkin groping her during the film.

[@GinDenkai]

@@red0421 wait wut

[@red0421]

@@GinDenkai yeah, I don't think it was ever confirmed, but there were rumours that the actors playing the Munchkins would stick their hands up the skirt of the teenage actress playing Dorothy. I think you can find an article or two about it online.

[@bonniebaldridge1248]

Story 1: NTA!! Your bf is not only TA but a controlling one. Drop him like a hot potato! Story 2: NTA. Those people are poison. Story 3: YTA. There was no reason on earth for you to say such a thing to that man, espy in his emotional state. I'd say at least apologize for upsetting him, but something tells me you'd do it in an insincere way.. Story 4: YTA. Favoring your daughter over Kyle. I'm glad you decided to leave him alone.

[@mandyrobbins1041]

Story 2: NTA. My sister was born more than 75% deaf. You can't tell when she speaks, but she was. I wanna dump the bio grandparents in a volcano for what they said to Alexis' little girl! Protect those kids, Mama!

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 3: YTA. What OP said was true, but it was the wrong time to do so.

[@anonymousbrooks8194]

Seriously OP needed to read the room, (the car). Who says that to someone who just left the prison after visiting their wife there?

[@missluciddreams3472]

Hair does not equal sex...NTA on story one Story two: NTA...my heart broke at how those grandparents treated the deaf child. When I realized my youngest had Autism, I was worried about family judging him and was ready to cut ties but thankfully, that is not the case. Story three: YTA... sometimes, people just need support and a shoulder to cry on...not a lecture...learn some tact. Story four: YTA... wow... favoritism much? U don't move in and kick someone out of their room because someone is moving in...beggars can't b choosers.

[@MarkNarrations]

Tis true Lucid!

[@beliciapinkrah3919]

Beggars can't be choosers huh have you heard of r/choosingbeggars

[@missluciddreams3472]

@@beliciapinkrah3919 true...but they rarely get their way...

[@beliciapinkrah3919]

@@missluciddreams3472 yeah I know just saying they technically can be choosers

[@amilikestea433]

OP should have challenged her boyfriend and made him explain his reasoning.

[@Loki-and-Thor]

Out for a walk in the rain. The rain isn’t such a bother with Mark to listen to. Yay 😀

[@MarkNarrations]

A pleasure to keep you company Bonnie, enjoy the walk 😁❤

[@denisebrown216]

Keep the guy in story 1 away from Wednesday Addams.

[@MarkNarrations]

Lol!

[@bunnyslippers191]

Maybe we should rethink that. I mean, if *any* little girl wearing pigtails could deal with a perv like the guy in Story 1, it would be Wednesday Addams. Just sayin. Edited to add: Wednesday would hand this guy his balls in a bag. I wanted to make my meaning crystal clear for the people in the back.

[@melissaclark1051]

But she would kill him.

[@nancyjay790]

😹

[@abdullahalali3962]

Story 4: she’s joking right ? What’s is wrong with this person is everything ok you know with her brain

[@TiaNichole17]

I’m wondering the same thing. First you have an affair when you guys were both married, then you suggest that your daughter takes his childhood room and a space he uses for his studies and put him in a smaller room to accommodate your daughter. Sounds like the only things she suffers from is narcissism and favoritism.

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

@@TiaNichole17 And let's not forget, OP was cool with "sleeping around" when it was her sleeping with a married man, but when it's Kyle having consensual sex with his male or female partners, well, then it's just "dangerous", "disgusting", and she doesn't want her daughter to be "exposed" to a healthy sexual mindset. Also, even at the end you can hear her cry "poor me, woe is me, can't you see I'm crying and so you should change your mind to match mine?!" with her "FINE! You'll be happy to know I decided I'll magnanimously ALLOW Kyle to keep his room and will just throw away everything my daughter owns" bullshit. Throw it away? Why? I thought you had a spare dining room you never use? Wasn't that where OP wanted to store all of Kyle's stuff? Why not just store her daughter's things there instead? EVERYTHING out of OP's mouth (or fingers in this case) is a manipulation tactic.

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan I know! That last sentence made me want to stamp a red "YTA" on her forehead. She's a 1) Cheater 2) Mildly homophobic (she literally pulled the "I have a " friend card!) 3) Awful stepmom 4) Picks favorites 5) Manipulator and narcissist 6) HYPOCRITE!!! 7) Has unhealthy ideas about sex I mean, I can get her not wanting strangers in her house. But she literally said Kyle WASN'T doing that? And WAS being safe and using protection? "Unhealthy lifstyle" my ass

[@blifefamilyadventures6994]

If Carlys room is only slightly smaller then why does it matter 😂😂😂 clearly won't make a difference if it is slightly bigger?

[@fabiocandelori9163]

Anyone else got passive-aggressive vibes from last OP's edit?

[@terramarini6880]

yep

[@andreawalker8343]

It will never cease to astound me that women question if they’re the asshole for their partner’s controlling behavior. If you can’t wear your hair the way you want without your partner freaking out, run for the hills-not to Reddit!

[@tinawrenn7984]

AMEN SISTER

[@beckyhartley9502]

The first story: Little girl's commonly wear pig tails to school, it worries me how the Op'S bf and friend view the kids. Story 2: Definitely not and the other parents can mind their damned business. Story 3: sounds like the opposite where my friend's telling me that I should forgive my mother after she was arrested for years of domestic violence, sexual assault along with other charges purely because she's my mother. I didn't ask for his opinion and OP's brother didn't ask for hers. Story 4: OP needs to cut the BS, she's been a bitch to him the entire time and knows that she, OP fucked his mother over with his father. Now she invades his space too and don't blame Kyle for anything her daughter does, that'll be down to her poor parenting.

[@susanlayton2143]

I agree with Mark's question, what is a sexual hairstyle? She's not responsible for what anyone else thinks of the way she is wearing her hair.

[@stan8479]

I think long, voluminous curls look quite sexy on most people, but that should be a positive thing! Not a negative thing! If that were my GF, dressing up as a character I have an attraction to, I'd be STOKED.

[@angeliccow]

One where you use dildo shaped hair adornments?

[@queencatherineofaragon938]

You know a man is a prick when he sexualizes a hairstyle. But as a side note that hair is pretty cute, like damn I wanna try styling my hair that way.

[@04beni04]

S4: might as well call the stepson Cinderella and be done with it. I mean, broken family, attic with dressmaking gear, stepmother with a predatory personality showing favouritism for bio daughter and willing to undermine stepchild's journey to find their prince ... lol. Maybe I'm just a younger sibling from a large family who learned to value and defend any personal territory the hard way, but this one got to me.

[@trainerlesseevee478]

Throw out the whole stepmother. She showed blatant favoritism in her bio kid over her step kid. She married a man with a child and if she can treat them both equally than she doesnt need to be there.

[@larry9910]

For the second story I would go to the courts and file the will as a reason for why them trying to get into contact is harassment because for someone to put that in their will means something happened that was serious in a way and it wouldn't be hard for anyone with more than 2 brain cells to realize that

[@scousemouse9566]

🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇 story 2, NTA, No one mentioned about the grandparents asking to see their grandson, they never said anything about their granddaughter. People like that dont deserve grandkids or kids. Great video Mark, thank you 🧇🧇🧇🧇

[@JB-kg3js]

I’ve seen that evil stepmom (story 4) post before and I’m happy to know that she backed off. I can’t believe she felt entitled to kick the stepson out his custom made room in the first place and the dad was just going to let her do it 🤢.

[@GIChiyo]

WTF that is not a sexual hairstyle, he jsut has a VERY specific hair kink Why does EVERYTHING have to be sexualized about women it's tiring

[@justine8387]

Like I have seen some BDSM kink involving tying pigtails in specific ways that means the person whose hair it is to pull their own hair when they move in a specific ways. But I can't imagine even the most devoted fan thinking that pigtails are exclusively used for this.

[@sandrajohnson6810]

Consult a lawyer to see about legal no contact orders for story of adopted kids.

[@Candyshopqwe]

‘Ill just tell Carly she needs to get rid of her belongings’ Hello passive aggressive 😹 (i presume) the son is not going to be in the house for much longer, Carly can learn to handle a smaller space

[@HazelJuanitaMillanHoffman]

Especially since you are the misstress/stepmother that broke up his Family. Keep in your lane. Stay out of Kyle's stuff and downsizing your daughter for her new room and home won't hurt her. Otherwise you can always give up your master bedroom and take the smaller room to keep your princess happy.

[@kbf9644]

#4- Oooo, attic stepmom was *salty* about nobody backing her up. 😂 I could just hear the pinched nose “You all should be happy…” 🤣

[@gothlymoor9472]

I wear pigtails constantly and shock, it’s in public spaces 🤣. I always get complements when I wear pigtails too from random strangers which is nice, and my boyfriend loves it when I wear that hairstyle which makes it even better.

[@victorvaldez8869]

For the situation in the title story, I totally agree with the advice on keeping the kids no contact as the will stated, & agree with the seeking advice of an attorney, preferably the one who handled the will. I'd also advise that she share the full story on Social Media to any people who claim she's being cruel, as if others had the whole picture that the JUST wanted to have contact with the son, & not the special needs daughter, especially that they told their own daughter that it would be better if THEIR OWN GRANDCHILD HAD BEEN A STILLBIRTH! When others see how heartless her parents were they will understand why it was in the will to not allow them to foster a toxic environment between the two siblings.

[@LadyPinkmonsta]

"If you'd like to skip the initial waffle-" Initial Waffle: D:

[@princesslulu5795]

Im glad op in story 1 has seen they were wrong. Just talk to Carly tell her she can thin out some stuff she doesnt need. Maybe set aside space for important stuff like photos, sentimental stuff, things she might need later like for college etc. Everything else that goes maybe help her sell online and she keeps all the profits, and anything that can’t be sold have her donate to someone she knows in need or to charities of her choice

[@sherisheepsworth8432]

Story 1: NTA, thats a very cute hairstyle

[@isoney]

If someone has gone to prison for their mistake, they are paying for it and so are their family. When it’s done, it’s done and it sounds like she’s learned her lesson. No need to stick the boot in. A classic case of not needing to say every thought that comes into your head.

[@saiyan4414]

story2 The parents just want to see the grandson and not the granddaughter as well. I wouldn’t do it.

[@zombiedoggie2732]

story about Kyle: He should keep the attic bedroom. As someone who sews, I know working within a small space can feel impossible. He also has projects with due dates, and work with multiple dressforms for his job. This isn't just "Stuff." these are tools for his work in uni. Diffrence is, Daughter WANTS the space. he *NEEDS* the space!

[@Night_Owl2023]

Story two, you are doing the right thing as it was the late mother’s instruction, to keep those toxic scumbags away from impressionable innocent young kids OP. Their past interactions with their grandkids have shown their true colours, so next step maybe an RO or a NCO. OP you took these kids into your family, you sound like you and your family are loving and caring with all the everyone in your household, OP you and your husband sound like a champions to me, Bless You All. NTA

[@anitacharron9153]

NO NO NO That is his bedroom/ safe space. There is nothing else to say but NO!!!!!!

[@ArcaneChipmunk]

Oh God, Julia her outfit looks amazing. It almost makes me want to cosplay her as well. Also, wth is it with it being a sexual hairstyle? It often is associates with nerdy hairstyle. Hell... I wear it often after a shower like that because I have absolutely no curls at all and if it dries up like that and I take the braids out, i have a bit of wavy hair. Braids are great and not sexual at all.

[@mikilacunningham6259]

6:09 NTA Get u all of u into therapy & keep them out of ur life get a lawyer up ASAP and keep a journal of the harassment because these ppl are toxic ASAP actions actions actions....

[@yams3843]

Woah I'm early, while I'm here I just want to say thank you Mark, I love watching your videos and seeing your notification makes me happy, thank you for doing what you're doing

[@MarkNarrations]

Thank you for being here yams 😁❤

[@jimstam6137]

Story 4, kyle is also paying rent! wtf, evil stepmother all the way!

[@lovelywolv]

Yo we sexualizing hair now? We can't even show shoulders at school 😭

[@red0421]

USA?

[@lovelywolv]

@@red0421 yep

[@red0421]

@@lovelywolv sympathies from the UK.

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

Story 3: NTA, she may be miserable, but she DID deserve it. My sister went to prison. I cried with her, we laughed, but I let it be known to both her and myself that she did this to herself. No one else. Your miserable, but it was because it nothing was good enough for her. Hopefully she learned her lesson or she'll be in ther again

[@mermpydermpy2047]

Bruh if I my bf pulled that shit in story 1, he’d be out before he could say ‘Pigtails’

[@soulbound2]

2:22 man and I thought I hated pigtails but this guy blows me out of the park jeez he should chill

[@annvictor9627]

Of course the second OP isn't an AH for keeping Alexis' children away from her parents. Just tell the other parents that Alexis' will specifically stated she wanted her children kept away from their grandparents. The OP could also point out how the grandparents are verbally abusive about their deaf granddaughter and only want to see their grandson.

[@kimsmith1746]

Stepson's room...we don't get to hear in this video, why does OP'S ex husband have custody of their daughter? Hmmm, let's think...OP admits to destroying her marriage by having a fling with her current spouse. In the process, the daughter most likely hated her. Now, daughter wants to move in with Mom (likely due to her becoming a pain in the rear teenager and daddy not giving her her way all of the time). So, she realizes the she can manipulate mommy, who wants to be the favorite parent and get her daughter to love her again, and get the nice bedroom and her butt kissed by everyone.

[@HazelJuanitaMillanHoffman]

Bingo! Princess will cause chaos with both Stepfather and stepbrother. Mommy will baby the spoiled Princess. The woman is a huge passive-aggressive personality who destroyed two family's already

[@itjustmemanning8441]

I've been braiding my hair for years. WTH is wrong with that bf?! I'd tell him to get lost.

[@WatsonAndDaughter]

#1 boyfriend is abusive, straight up.

[@signespencer6887]

Story 2.... consult a lawyer, have the lawyer write a cease and desist letter. Citing the mom’s will. Don’t press harassment unless they really refuse to stop. Charges are a last resort. Possibly a restraining order.

[@roelthas]

I went and looked for pics of the character before you showed it. xD

[@ettinakitten5047]

Story 2 - Your first priority as a parent is to your children, and these kids are your children now. It could be really harmful to them to reintroduce them to toxic people who have previously been harmful to them. If they came to you saying that they deeply regret the way they treated their grandchildren before, you'd still not be obligated to give them contact with your children, especially if they don't want to rekindle anything with their grandparents. And they haven't even had the decency to do that.

[@jennylillkvist1160]

Me looking up Julia hair style realizing I'm walking around with same hair style right now 😂

[@OmniscientlyMe]

1) Not only is she NTA, her hobbies and thoughtfulness sounds like dream girl material to me.

[@EliosMoonElios]

1st story, I guess that BF have his "sexual morals" from porn, because in porn industry women use pigtail to look younger, innocent and easy.

[@ezra2701]

I left my headphones at my friend's house and I went back today (she lives over an hour away) just to watch this

[@AaaaNinja]

Story 3 - Oh god I hope at the very least that OP didn't say all of that while the child was in the car... she also shoulda kept it to herself if it doesn't help him. The hell is he supposed to do with the knowledge that she has that opinion?? I love The Big Lebowski quote lol.

[@kimsawyer3918]

O.P honor your friends request no one but you and their mom is aware to how these ppl really are .protect those baby's as you have been doing..people who want to believe the lies will so be it please keep fighting for these baby's.

[@bunnyslippers191]

So OP in Story Three said that in the car on the way home *with her niece right there in the car?!?* Holy crap, she's like a Boss Level AssHole for that! Plus, that's mean to your brother! They can come up with a plan for the future and not let this ruin their lives entirely. Yes, they may have a big drop in income from now on, but they can rebuild at least to some extent. Yes, her former career is probably gone, but at least she can hopefully prove she has changed and find gainful employment.

[@ZoeAlleyne]

"sexual hairstyle". I have died. This killed me. Please don't bury me with a sexual hairstyle, I don't want the other ghosts to think I'm a slut.

[@MsAnimefan95]

"He hasn't bothered ever trying to build a relationship with us." "Yes, Kyle's dad did cheat with me." Golly gee, I wonder why Kyle doesn't want a relationship with you?

[@47896285pgdfzgnd]

Hell yeah you got part time!! I really hope it works out for you!

[@annvictor9627]

Dump the boyfriend who yelled at the OP for doing a cosplay because she thought it would please him.

[@brandishwar]

#1 - Umm... talk about dodging a bullet. Dump the bastard and move on. #2 - Even if it wasn't in the will, the OP knows the preceding events and knew that the decedent's wishes absolutely would've been no-contact. As pointed out, the grandparents only wanted to see one of the two, not both. The only remedy for the grandparents here is to sue for visitation rights, provided there State allows such. At the same time, wanting visitation for one but not both is... probably not going to go over well should they try taking it to Court. Kudos on the stepson for learning ASL, too. Hopefully he's helping the rest of the household learn it. #3 - "Pick your battles" and "love the sinner, hate the sin". And the OP is also presuming Sam hasn't accepted what his wife has done. I mean he lives with it every day. Is she taking him not petitioning for divorce as meaning he hasn't condemned what his wife did and what that has done to them and their livelihood? #4 - Favoritism doesn't automatically make someone the asshole in a situation. And it's easy for us to castigate someone else's favoritism when it manifests in a way we don't like while ignoring our own inherent favoritism merely because it almost always plays out in a way we do like. This whole thing boils down to one simple question: who owns the house? Sounds like it's the OP's husband, with the OP having no ownership stake, so she doesn't really have any say over who is in what room. That also means it's entirely at his pleasure that either Carly or Kyle live there. OP can suggest Carly take over the attic bedroom, but it absolutely is NOT within her right to try to force the change. The OP's husband still has the final say, regardless of whether Kyle "needs" the space, not the OP. At the same time, I wonder as well if there's a basement to the home that can be similarly converted like the attic.

[@MariMotherofGoblins]

My husband and I have an unspoken you can't tell me what to do rule. Obviously this excludes certain things, like If I started doing heroin or he started cheating. But if he told me I couldn't wear pigtails (he wouldn't) because they were too sexy, I'd probably respond by wearing pigtails every day.

[@sylviahartman7099]

Story 1... I worked with a 60 something, wonderful lady who wore her hair in braided pigtails. She's a HUGE hippy and has worn it that way since the 60s!! Lol! ❤💫❤💫❤💫❤💫❤💫

[@MB-go8mi]

The only hairstyle that I can think of as even remotely sexual is the style Cameron Diaz wore in that scene from There's Something About Mary... You know what scene I'm talking about. 🤭

[@tinawrenn7984]

😂

[@Lithiel]

The pigtail hair story...wtf...WTF..WHAT THE F--K?!! What WORLD or ROCK does this guy AND their friend live on and or under!!? Like seriously?! RUN for the hills!! These two sound crazy!

[@hopetirendi2386]

In story 2 notice they asked to see their "grandson" and that's all!! NEVER let them near those kids again! Period!

[@bonniebaldridge1248]

Much love back to you and your Dad. :)

[@MarkNarrations]

Thank you bonnie

[@melissaharris3890]

Story 3 is an example of being correct, but not being right. When my grandma died, I felt relief that I didn't have to deal with her anymore. I would never tell my dad that. (It's complicated and a long story. She never was mean to me though)

[@501Magnum]

1.NTA OP went through all that effort to make him happy, only to have OP's BF and their "friends" to scream at her and call her a whore. NTA, GET OUT ASAP!!!! 2.NTA those grandparents are the ones who are better off dead. 3.YTA being right does not justify OP being a AH. 4.YTA that's playing favoritism, plain and simple. YTA

[@0Jenna7]

Under no circumstances would I put up with being scolded like that. Especially not over a hairstyle. I'd make it clear that I wasn't tolerating that crap, and to get his act together, and a sincere apology would be mandotory. Or I would be gone.

[@kellharris2491]

The second a man called me a whore he would be dead to me.

[@0Jenna7]

@@kellharris2491 Yup, I forgot that part.

[@doctordisney5755]

I always wear my hair in long braided pigtails. I never saw it as sexual and no one in my family or my boyfriend thinks they are sexy. They are just the easiest way to style my hair since it's really thick and curly. If I braid it behind my head it gets loose and it gets extra frizzy. If I leave it down it gets tangled. I only ever see them as nerdy and plain looking. People say I look like a girl from little house on the prairie