AITA For Telling My Parents They're Failures As Parents!

[@mirandanils5114]

bro i don’t care if we’re best friends and i’m not close to my sister - i don’t need trash like that in my life - if they were “sooo in love” the husband could have ended things and then moved on, but to cheat is to say “I have no respect for you” and i can’t be around people who disrespect people like that.

[@champslim]

I will cut contract. Op is terrible

[@J_e_s_s]

And normally I try not to blame the person that didn't make the commitment to the relationship but she was best friends with the dude's sister-in-law. She probably knew them when they were just dating. That is straight disrespectful of her. And he is a total POS. Cut them both off.

[@heatherdickau5335]

And just wait till she goes after OP husband. I would never trust her.

[@ApricotStone]

Can we just appreciate how Mark is actually reading a book about autism to educate himself? I mean, what a genuinely good person

[@keirasinclair91]

What did he say anyway? I watch all his videos and as someone on the spectrum he seems to be fairly educated on it

[@ApricotStone]

@@keirasinclair91 Lol I actually don’t remember either and I’m on the spectrum too. I think that just proves my point even more since it probably wasn’t too bad

[@charimonfanboy]

@@keirasinclair91 Something like "we're all a little autistic aren't we" Not a huge thing and it's Mark so we all knew he meant nothing by it

[@grootsChannel]

@@charimonfanboy honestly as someone with autism we are all a little autistic

[@charimonfanboy]

@@grootsChannel I get what you are trying to say but if you have been diagnosed then please do not trivialise your disability. Those years of social isolation, of not fitting in, the constant confusion of all those little habits humans pick up from others that you completely miss, the resigned dread of being the freak for not being like everyone else and the years of anxiety forced upon you by others. Please understand that none of these experiences are lessened by NTs showing off their "autistic traits" of sitting in the same place in the canteen or needing to tidy their desk every so often. I remember when I thought like that, so if you are autistic and do believe that everyone is a little autistic then please understand that NTs really do have an easier time of it and you are not just a dumbass for struggling with social interaction, your feelings towards shopping centres are valid, your anxiety and mental health issues can be beaten with help that you should look for. That, in other words you are not a freak who should be able to cope with the same stuff everyone else is and failing, you're a strong individual who has overcome a frick-ton of challenges that NTs wouldn't bat an eyelid at and can meet your other challenges. If you're not autistic, please re-evaluate your life and try to find out what is making you try to both hijack what little sympathy we on the spectrum might get and belittle us for your own amusement or from the belief that we are faking.

[@fatcatlol_4820]

Parents: drown their children in religion Child: doesn’t want to do anything with them Parents: surprised pikachu face

[@alexisgrunden1556]

I am firmly of the opinion that having religion is like having a p*nis: it's fine to have, totally cool to take pride in, and it's ok to share. It becomes a problem when you whip it out in public, wave it in people's faces, and try to shove it down an unwilling throat.

[@15oClock]

@@alexisgrunden1556 Sounds familiar.

[@tkb5726]

Yup. As a religious person I think it’s important to expose your child to your religion BUT also expose them to different beliefs. Let them believe what they want and do not force them to think how you do or worship a God. I would be heartbroken if I had a kid and they felt like they had to share my religious beliefs out of fear.

[@fatcatlol_4820]

@@tkb5726 I totally agree

[@aaronandelise]

Liberals tell everyone they are tolerant. Liberals loot, burn, riot, and destroy. No one : surprised pikachu face.

[@RosensDragon2140]

Wow that last story, OP is sounds like a Karen with their self righteous speech. I feel for the husband.

[@sorayaluthy9383]

Yes there are some things but it also depends how much autistic she is. The kind of autism the little one could have is early childhood autism, so she can have speech problems and learning problems as well as other things with autism, she may neeed a daily routine and too much noise can give her an overload . So yeah autism can cause some issues you need to be prepared gfor.

[@dustyrose192]

@Gi Gi I think the sister misunderstood. The mother meant she would love her chid regardless of the outcome and the sister thought she meant "I'll treat them like a neurotypical regardless so it doesnt matter!" i think the sister was a bit fast to jump to the defense but she had her heart in the right place.

[@funwithcoding2818]

@@sorayaluthy9383 we also see a ton of posts on this thread about parents who treat their children with autism so different to the point of detriment. Obviously there might be some adjustments that need to be made based on where they’re at on the spectrum, but the mom was just saying”yeah, we’re going to still love and raise our kid to be the best they can be”

[@jesterbrown90]

Story 4: YTA. I have Asperger's and i am jealous of that child. I wasn't diagnosed until i was SIXTEEN. I think it was 16? Look, this was over a decade ago, leave me alone. Anyway, I was at a diffucult point on the spectrum in my early years. I was severe enought that even the classmates in elementary school knew i wasn't normal/right/whatever, but mild enough that nobody thought i might have a mental disability. School bullies gravitated to me and of course they got off with a warning every time. My own parwnts mentioned they had moments that they were ashamed of how they handled what turned out to be Asperger's-related tendencies. Funny, because i don't remember any of them.

[@simsgirlgem]

Same I didn’t get diagnosed as high functioning until my late twenties though my dad said a lot of my behaviors and ticks I had as a kid made more sense after

[@sorayaluthy9383]

There are differences, Asperger tend to get discovered late cause of the try to act normal, but the first symptons show at the age of four until then you develope normaly and then start to show the signs.

[@nidawa]

my god i relate to this so much diagnosed at 14 because of counseling after a traumatic accident happened to a near relative and i have a friend who didn't get diagnosed till his mid 20's specifically because he had so many similar "quirks" that was parts of my diagnosis. the diagnosis doesn't really matter much on an interpersonal level, but a lot in getting the right help so you don't bash your head on a metaphorical wall trying to handle things like all the other kids at school.

[@ajzephyros7454]

I got diagnosed in my 20's so yeah, looking back so many things I did make so much more sense

[@Ihavetoomanystickers]

Just got diagnosed with autism at 26 this week. No one treated me like other kids; I was “defective” to the core, and they treated me badly for not rising to the challenge. By treating me “the same” without acceptance, they harmed me. If this mom is prepared to unconditionally love a child as she is, a diagnosis will only help her love that child better. I could have been ok if I had that.

[@katie6731]

I hope this past year has treated you kindly. It's terrible to go through life with an undiagnosed medical issue, especially when people use it to hurt you. Lately, I've been wondering if it's we "neurotypicals" (I hate this word, because nobody is "typical") who are "defective" (this word should never be used for people; I'm only using it to drive home the point that your bullies were wrong). Maybe the people who are autistic are the ones who see the world as it truly is. I can only imagine how overwhelming and overstimulating it would be to live with every sense wide open to everything. Maybe those of us who aren't autistic automatically tune out most of the information we receive, like being eternally nose blind. That makes us the "defective" ones. I hope I explained that correctly. It makes sense in my head, but my migraine meds fog my brain. I'm sending you gentle internet hugs. 🤗💙

[@catefox]

Love it that you actually read what they wrote and not sugarcoat some words!

[@KyrieChii]

Same here, that's one of my biggest peeves with other Reddit videos. I know they're trying to avoid being demonetized or avoided by the algorithms (by trying to avoid certain words), but it often really takes away from the posts.

[@martinprochazka3714]

​@@KyrieChii Yeah, listening to rSlash substitute sex with "passionate hugging" makes me cringe so hard.

[@imweakfordeaky]

@@martinprochazka3714 hmmmm, “passionate hugging” makes me laugh, but I have a weird sense of humor 😆

[@martinprochazka3714]

@@imweakfordeaky I mean I did laugh when I heard it for the first time... I even laughed when I head it for the 10th time but after that... I'm like man, please stop already...

[@KCCAT5]

You mean like f-bombs? Haha

[@0Jenna7]

I was so happy that the mum had such a positive outlook on her daughter's situation and was taking it all in strides.

[@יוליהקושנריוב]

Story 3- op is a huge AH! Beyond all of the drama, did anybody think about the message she sends everybody on her own wedding? "Cheeting is perfectly fine as long as the cheeter and the afair partner end up happy!"

[@americantoadsarecool]

First story: The only thing the OP did wrong was insult her sister by proxy. I know that wasn’t the intention and she was totally right about everything she said but I hope she makes it clear to her sister that she loves her very much. I can tell that from how angry she is at her parents but I hope her sister knows that too.

[@froggy20362]

Yeah. Although it seems to be more of a thing of her being 'bad by religious standards (premarital sex and pregnancy) I'd definitely be offended if I was her.

[@celestialangel666]

Story 4: Just the moment you read what SIL said, and OP said, "that's not right--" I'm like "NOOOOOO, back away, do not try this, don't." and then she continues and it's a train wreck. I'm debating on looking up who that Melanie person is to find out what the insult was, but the moment she asks for validation and is like "but the 18-month old makes weirdo noises!" Yes? Kids do that? *sigh* And I'm part of the waffle gang! Yay!

[@sofia1161]

story 3 just makes me so mad like, screw them cheaters.

[@DarkAngel65989]

Story 1:OP is not the Ah, the parents are horrible and restricting, their lack of teaching of the sister ruin the sister life and made hee unhappy. Also, trying to take credit of OP success. Story 2:OP is not the Ah, they will not be good parent and use their baby as a way to get what they want. OP shouldn't apologize, I think the gofundme is just another scheme. Story 3:OP is the Ah, the sister had a relationship by her disgusting ex and kate and the OP invite them to her wedding that's just a punch to the gut for the sister and mess up. OP should uninvite kate and ex. OP have no sympatizing with the sister situation. Story 4:OP is the Ah, OP was making judgement for no reason and the mother of kids wouldn't change the love she have for her daughter. I feel for the husband.

[@josephfarr1649]

I cannot believe what I heard in story 1. This is what people use as evidence to support schools teaching sex ed. I believe at a certain age parents should teach their kids sex ed. Yet parents either don't or they won't teach properly. If this is coming from a Christian again. Oh my word these people have my brains scrambled. Story 4: I am on the spectrum. I have to say Opie is the butthole. You do not cuddle the kid just because she has a disability. What you do is you learn to communicate things differently and discipline her the same you would discipline any child. Yeah it may be difficult but by holding the kid on the same measure as the others and having that consistency, she be much higher functioning and able to deal with life.

[@simsgirlgem]

My older sister taught me the birds and the bees when I was twelve probably because that’s around the time puberty hits

[@Mia-dt3gl]

OP in Story 3 had a further update in the comments. Here it is verbatim: _” My mil is law is very vocal about it I thought if my sister agreed and could be civil everyone else would but I’m gonna disinvite Kate I’ve taken what everyone said on board I’m clearly wrong I’ll give my sister a week to cool down to apologise and cut Kate out of my life”_ So the home wrecking best friend is no longer invited to the wedding, but OP was more concerned about what her future in-laws thought of her than her sister’s feelings. Yeah, total AH.

[@amyill9280]

Link? I went to the original post and don't see any update.

[@champslim]

Wow OP in story 3..... Wow. Are you serious??!! WOW AND SHE IS PREGNANT???!!! WOW

[@cyndiroberts2112]

20 years old and grounded? I am a firm believer of God and Jesus and this just so wrong. NTA

[@Gloria-ro4vn]

Like it or not, it's THEIR house THEIR rules. If she doesn't like it, she can leave that's what I did the first chance I got, until then it's grin and bear it.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

@@Gloria-ro4vn she's 20 years old, you can't ground an adult.

[@Gloria-ro4vn]

@@kerribottriell-baxter7345 You can if you OWN the property. Of course, being an ADULT she can pack up her things and go find somewhere else to live.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

@@Gloria-ro4vn 😂🤣😂🤣😂 no you cannot

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

@@Gloria-ro4vn you sound like a Boomer.

[@lizzyvue8850]

I appreciate how you shared that youre educating yourself about autism as there should be no shame on admitting you're wrong to better yourself. That's another reason why I keep coming back to this channel everyday. Keep up the great work!

[@indiashante1560]

3:47 "thanks Melanie Barnett" was from the tv show The Game. Her nickname was "med school" cuz she was in school to become a doctor. She was book smart but had very little common sense. 🤣🤣🤣 That was a beautiful burn from the SIL! 👌🏽

[@sr7701]

Thank you! I knew it rang a bell but I couldnt place where I knew it from. Quality drag.

[@bartvansliedregt5482]

Yo I got trouble sleeping lately, lucky for me you tend to upload around the times I am hopelessly awake so I have something to pass the time with. Keep up the great content man. Love this community of kindness.

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

Story 1: Firstly they can’t ground an adult. They’re only living there cause of the Pandemic. Otherwise they’d still be at college and away from them. Also yea NTA cause the other parents needed to hear that so their kids won’t up like the sister. She could love her kids and still not be happy with that life. That poor sister of OPs. Also F parents like that. Just all around yikes. Good on OP. I wish them well.

[@user-pi3hd2bt3f]

Story 4 Doesnt this person know there are different types of autism? Some where you can barely tell the person is not like everybody else? And even if the baby would be high on the spectrum, enabling the little girl to do whatever she wants(probably what OP thought its correct behaviour) is not going to help at all. its not OPs place to tell her sister how to parent anyway.

[@renoloverxoxo]

Kate would not be my friend anymore if she thinks it is acceptable to have an affair with a married man, REGARDLESS of my relationship with the married woman. YTA OP and you are supporting them and their trashy relationship.

[@archereye_7633]

Regarding story 4: The only tiny little sliver of OP's argument that I agree with is that the mom should treat her child differently, but only to accommodate for her possible autism. Everything else is dumb though, and she's totally TA otherwise.

[@Mrs_Sugar_Min]

My brother didn't talk until he was three, I was five and I talked for him.❤😊 I have twin three year cousins that are like that.😊

[@michellemybelle1231]

I’m laughing at using “you donut” as an insult.... this is the only insult needed!!!

[@GothMermaidGamer]

For that last story, I agree with that one family member that said they were "doing too much" Like trying so hard to be "altruistic" and "in defense of autistic people" that they were actually being quite offensive themselves

[@karendaniel620]

Story 3: Did no one address the fact that the affair was going on WHILE the sisterwas pregnant and left her WHILE she is pregnant again. I can't imagine the stress she's feeling, along with the hurt. OP is an asshole. The ex BIL is an asshole. The bestie is an asshole. Her fiance needs to need all these red flags.

[@zerobolt9506]

Mark I'm so glad your reading about autism.😊😊

[@shikuthetempest]

"Reddit I have come here for validation" Good luck with that one, mate.

[@itjustmemanning8441]

Ground a 20 year old 😂. I grew up in a catholic household and when I started my monthly. I had no idea what was happening, my mom explained that this will happen every month. Then she pulled out a pad and wanted to show me how to use it😳! 🧇🧇🧇

[@JSainte17]

Am I the only one who noticed OP said the ex best friend (who slept with OP’s sister’s husband) came to the fitting? Sooooo.... OP didn’t just invite her to the wedding, she made put her in the bridal party alongside the sister!?

[@nicholasking4302]

You know...a co-worker of mine was getting married and she asked someone else we worked with to be a Bride's maid. They were friendly but not super close, but because her fiancé wanted to add another groomsman, she wanted to "balance the line." So the co-worker who was asked (whom I was good friends with ) confided to me that she said yes...but was a but dismayed over the $300 dollars for the dress she had to buy, plus the shoes and accessories so they all "matched." I just recall thinking it was very, very nervy, and I would never have the gall to expect anyone to shell out that kind of money for the "honor" of being in something like that... So where do people get off asking "go-fund-mes" for the life they want to live? I can understand when it's "mom has cancer, dad got laid off and we're losing the house" or "my child needs an operation at a special hospital and we can't afford to get there." But for things that are not life and death? Or the entitlement that people think they have this magic right to have children no matter the costs, or issues? Infertility sucks and must be extremely painful, but sometimes dreams don't come true. And it's not right to demand others foot the bill.

[@lizcatty9281]

Hi Mark! Just gotta say it's really great 2 see u always have more little waffles joining on here & Patreon!🥰 So glad 2 be part of your wonderful community!☺ Look 4d 2 giving discord a go some time👍😉 Much love all xo 💜🇦🇺💚

[@crispycrimson6448]

2 years of cheating and you kept in touch with the friend!? Why are you friends with people like this!?

[@shebakoby]

Melanie Barnett is a fictional character on the American sitcom "The Game" (2006-2015)

[@jeancarbonneau6966]

In story 3, I wouldn't invite my sister's ex after he cheated on her with a female friend of mine. I would want my sister at my wedding before them. I prefer having my family at my wedding before anyone else. This is only theory because I have no friends in real life and I women don't want me therefore I'll never get married.

[@GeorgeHope10154]

story 4 love how when the mom is like oh my daughter might have autism, OP's first response is "omg are you okay???" like it's some sort of tragedy *when you sjw so hard that you become the ableist*

[@messinalyle4030]

I'm autistic, and there is nothing "sjw" about those words or the intent behind them.

[@RoadkillbunnyUK]

Glad you have been doing some Autism reading Mark, just goes to show that you are a really decent guy. I think the OP in story 4 would about die in my house. I often will say how much I ‘love’ my 12 year olds autism as it can make him so funny (probably have to be there!) he is high functioning so we will explain why something was funny and he loves to make his sister and me laugh. I adore my son and his autism is just a part of who he is, I love him so much and even if there was a ‘cure’ for autism I wouldn’t want him to have it. That doesn’t mean we haven’t done years of speech therapy, occupational therapy, education plans and the like. That OP sounds like someone who is professional at being ‘offended’ for other people while having no clue at all what that group of people actually go through or what they need. It’s just virtue signalling at the end of the day.

[@yagirlchoco20]

I was listening to the 3rd story and I had to rewind cause I could not believe OP

[@dawnliddle2046]

Story 4 The mother was saying what is happening to her daughter might now have a name. But she loves her daughter very much and wouldn't change a thing about her. Then the sister goes off, I don't care too much for sisters. I have 3 and I talk to just one once in a while.

[@HonorWillow]

Story 3: OP is the AH for their attitude ("they should all be civil for one day for me" and also forgiving when they have no right to) and the way they didn't even talk to their sister first before inviting, but also for inviting the ex BIL. I understand why they really want Kate there, but the ex BIL, even if they are closeish, is less close to OP so there's less reason to need him there and he was mostly the one who betrayed the sister (as he was the one in the relationship and it doesn't sound like Kate was friends with the sister)

[@blitzburn2871]

Story 4. There is merit to OP's way of thinking. Words have meaning and the phrase "throwed off" certainly sends a message. I think she is sincerly well meaning and has a valid point, but certainly has the approach and mindset of a Karen. She is self righteous and is offended that anyone goes against her.

[@ComaLies225]

Lawd. Love how the commenters in the last story shut the OP down. Seriously what was she thinking?

[@catte.]

It's 1 in the morning but I have been summoned nonetheless. ITS WAFFLE TIME

[@comajuice]

Ayyy its 1 AM here too

[@KyrieChii]

7:22 PM here. Where are you guys, just out of curiosity? =)

[@catte.]

@@KyrieChii Europe, you?

[@comajuice]

@@KyrieChii netherlands:))

[@catte.]

@@comajuice eyyyy hows the situation there? Are you well?

[@ifyourreadingthisyourgay2514]

Story 3? Me: I would simply throw hands 🙌

[@jasminebarnes2764]

Hi Mark! Hope you are well. Sending much love and hugs! For s4, total AH. As someone who was diagnosed with slight autism ( barely on the spectrum ) I developed late mentally , don't like being touched during certain episodes, other episodes I need love and attention, I'm glad my family never treated me any different. They treated me like a normal child. Lord I'm surprised no one smacked OP 🤣. Eh, story over. You're awesome sauce as always.

[@canadalovesanime3137]

Story 1: Those "parents" are delusional. OP needs to find some where else to stay until school is back in. I won't be surprised if they try to "find" a husband for OP, since sister is sooo happy. OP being homeless is better than being in that kind of delusional environment. NTA Story 2: No one is entitled to anything because "family". It is OP's choice to donate or not. Also all this BS about "keeping the piece", or "don't rock the boat" is crap. Get a spine and stand up to BS. No means no, not "no until we harass you until you do what we want". F that. OP should make their own post explaining things once and for all. NTA Story 3: Does the sister really think she has the right to tell OP who they can or can't be friends with. The sister does have the right to be upset with the friend and ex, but she will be hurting her child (and sister) at the end of the day. If she doesn't want to go, she doesn't have to. However; she doesn't have the right to ruin OP's wedding. Let the child go with someone else if she doesn't want to be there. We all have people that we don't want to deal with, but as adults we know it is not our place to say anything. We just have to avoid or go NC the worst ones. This is OP's friend, and her sister will HAVE to see them for the rest of her child's childhood at least. The friend shouldn't have got involved with someone who was married, but the husband is the one who stepped out. The sister should be mad at her ex not at her sibling. The sister will see them in the future. OP has probably been friends with them for years. NAH(expect the ex BIL) Story 4: It sounds like just maybe the SIL is not ready to accept the reality but is at least open to the idea. I hope she does continue to love the child the same no matter what. Many parents don't. Every one got to upset at OP for voicing her concerns. They are the ones who are over reacting. OP should have worded things differently. ESH

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Story 2: NTA Why don't people just adopt, its cheaper and if you are adopting from an expected mother I think you'll have better odds of her not backing out last minute than you having a single 13K session of IVF successfully!

[@thebirdchannelforfans623]

Most people would not get approved to adopt, certainly not this couple if they one of them unemployed and the other is involved in an MLM scheme and can’t afford rent or car payments

[@catalinaplaza7909]

Mark is so sweet and a good example, we should always thrive to better ourselves.

[@thatone6597]

i failed my parents and my family and everyone. thank you for being there for my final moments u are a great person who make alot of people happy keep ur chin up and make these people happy

[@catte.]

Yo you good dude?

[@stumpy1012]

We're all here if you need a friend 💚

[@bartvansliedregt5482]

Yo man you ok?! Please don't do anything to yourself. You are beautiful please know you are loved at least by internet strangers. There is so much beauty out there just waiting for you

[@narararamammily5386]

Hey, are you doing ok?

[@thatone6597]

@@catte. no not really the person who loved me for the pass couple years told me she was just leading me on. also my parents suck they dont love me they hate me my family all told me to go and die i have many mental issues and im suffering with drug addiction and alcoholism and chain smoking my life has been a mess for years and im only 16.. i dont trust adults after having my therapist selling me out to my parents for a quick cash grab my teacher make my life a living hell

[@noahjtthompson8355]

Story 3 esh The op for obvious reasons but the sister in all is trying to gaslight the rest of the family to abandon the op

[@thatwitchychick2717]

How is she gaslighting them exactly? She's asking them to choose because she was wronged by not only her husband, but her sisters best friend and then her sister by inviting her to a fitting that the Affair partner was going to be at without telling her. OP is completely unreasonable to ask what she's asking of her sister who is freaking pregnant on top of all of it. I hope she cuts OP off personally. She's made it clear that she's siding with the affair partner and not her own sister.

[@Chiller-pc1dv]

@@thatwitchychick2717 Maybe because she decided that if any of the family went to OP's wedding....maybe to SUPPORT THEM, that she would no longer speak to them... How is that fair? Talk about a massive overreaction, like if she wants to leave, that's fully justified...but she can't just tell everyone else to do the same, or else she won't talk to them again. How is this not unreasonable? Yeah, the sister should probably cut off OP, but...god, not every family member who decides to go to the wedding, that's insane.

[@scepticalhyenas5750]

_"but ofc I'm not gonna love her any different than I would h-"_ *"YOUR'E NOT GOING TO **_LOVE YOUR AUTISTIC CHILD???"_*

[@justinjones-smith5168]

16:07 I don't know if it's just me but I think that's pretty cool.

[@martinprochazka3714]

After 2 months of voluntary social isolation I myself am doing pterodactyl noises. It's fun, you should try it... Swinging on pull-up bar and doing gorilla noises is also fun.

[@curlygirlusn737]

I’d find a new friend. She cheated with a married man who had a pregnant wife!

[@windowdev]

Mark always gets me pumped up in his intro lmao.

[@reinwolf534]

Man story 3 is brutal. But I have t say everyone sucks. Yeah op doesn't get to choose when her sister gets over her hurt but the sister is demand the family choose between her and her sister so everyone sucks

[@harryh4h720]

I mean what does one expect though op obviously doesn't care about her sister all I got from that story was me me me the sister was blindsided by her ex her sister and her sisters best friend

[@roycrossland9401]

I am sorry it is one thing for your sister to be civil to her ex when interacting with their shared custody. But it is a totally different story to force your sister to be social and be nice and pleasant with her ex and the mistress at your wedding and pre-wedding events. You showed you had no feelings for your sister or what she is going through. I would almost believe that you feel that she deserves what happened considering how you are praising your best friend.

[@alykatstreams7217]

The ADUACITY for that woman to assume her 8 month pregnant sister would ever be around her husbands AP. That OP is an insane person

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

Lol, if her sister loved her, she would have put her differences aside. Sit on the other end of the room, leave early, etc. But grow tf up

[@champslim]

@@TheZombifiedFairy no. It is has been 2 months since shit went down. Hell no! The sister is allowed to be pissed and she didn't warn her sister before hand. No

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

@@champslim again, grow up. The person is someone important in OP's life and it's OP's day, not sister's. If OP wants all the people close to her there, than sister is not in a place to make demands because her romantic life is messed up. I hate to say it, but her romantic life has little to do with OP, especially on OP's wedding day

[@HonorWillow]

Story 4: The mum sounds great. Being Autistic does mean you may need some accomodations but the mother never said she wouldn't accomodate anything that needs it. Autism also doesn't mean you have "special needs" necessarily.... OP makes me mad. Little Baby Bird sounds adorable and doesn't deserve to be around people like OP

[@yoranger8349]

As someone in the spectrum the last story made me so mad and upset. She says you can’t treat her the same as anyone else makes no sense to me since we are the same as everyone else just slightly different and not all of us needs meds for it. She just sounds like autism is bad and how dare you let her get autism. Sorry if I said something to offend anyone I’m just going off on this woman

[@purpleiguana208]

Story 4: I'm of two minds on this one. On the one hand, the SIL saying that it's a non-issue because it doesn't change how she feels about her child.... Okay, great. You still love your child. Nothing about that has changed in any way. Good for you. That's certainly better than treating your child like a piece of furniture that's taking up space now that they have a diagnosis. On the other hand, OP is right that that mentality alone is not enough to do right by this child. How she said it may have been fucked up, but that child is going to need early intervention services, speech therapy, occupational therapy, do social stories, they'll need an IEP for school, they may need to get appointments with a pediatric neurologist or developmental pediatrician. You can't just go from, "oh, my child isn't developing normally" to "That's okay, it's probably just autism," and do nothing else. There are lots of things that this child will need to have put in place if they're going to be able to mesh with society. Maybe the SIL was already going to take care of all that and thought that OP was talking down to her, or maybe SIL is going to be one of these moms who lets her child roam free, never disciplining, never correcting, never teaching, and just says to everyone, "Oh, it's okay. My child is autistic," as if that's some kind of armor that her child can wear all their life. I don't know because there are missing pieces to this story.

[@purpleiguana208]

@Gi Gi Well that's why I said that it seems like there are missing pieces, whether OP left things out intentionally or this mom maybe has OP on an information diet and doesn't feel the need to share all the ins and outs of it. But the way it was written, and all we have is OP's telling of it so that's biased right from the beginning, it seemed like the mom was like "yep, the doctor's think it's autism, but hey we know what to call it now, so that's all we need to know." (Not what the mom said, just how OP seemed to relate it.) I already acknowledged that maybe the mom is already taking steps to do what needs to be done. I'm just making the allowance that in the event that she's not, more is needed for this child than just having a diagnosis.

[@bearhugzfam649]

Story 1, a random thought sprung to mind. When I was still Catholic my grandmother (very religious, and abusive because of it) would say, "the Devil doesn't tell us to believe in him, he tells us we can believe in ourselves" (meaning he tells us we're superior to God and don't need him, i.e. the Devil leads us to atheism). I'm an open-minded atheist now and a parent, and I still hear similar rhetoric, and here's the thing - as a parent, I want my kids to listen to me and trust me, especially when they're young, because they don't have the tools to make their own choices. But part of being a parent, one of the most important parts at that, is teaching them how to make those choices for themselves. If I wanted my kids to be reliant on me their whole lives, I'd be a pretty shitty and abusive parents - I WANT my kids to believe in me, but I want them to learn to believe in themselves, too. Assuming God and the Devil are real, I think the sentiment of "the devil tells you to believe in yourself" is wrong - I think it's God that teaches us to believe in ourselves, and it's organized religion that insists we must believe in them. A lot of toxic religion has a person or organization in the middle of it claiming to speak for God and telling people that their personal studies, thoughts, feelings, and revelations are only valid if they agree with that specific church or person. I guess what I'm getting at is that if there is a God worth worshipping, they want to empower us to tell oppressive organizations to get rekt. Any decent parent, Godly or otherwise, would say OP is NTA. Just read the bible ffs, Jesus didn't say shit about gay people, but he would have had some serious table-flipping to do at the parents' pride and arrogance.

[@june7343]

I feel like if you can't afford the baby you're not gonna be able to afford the baby's needs so... don't have a baby

[@ettinakitten5047]

If you have just barely enough saved up, doing IVF could make you unable to afford the kid. Meanwhile, someone who has the same amount of savings and doesn't need IVF would be doing alright affording the child's needs.

[@olli8389]

if you ever make merch you need to make waffle plushes and pins

[@amysmith6791]

Story 2- I am 30 and have wanted nothing more than to be a mother since highschool. I am single and renting a 1 bedroom. If they are having this much trouble conceiving, maybe they should take a look at other aspects of their lives. Just because you desperately want children, does not mean you should be selfish enough to bring them into a family that can't support them.

[@ibethpena4019]

hey mark i just got here but i can tell its going to be a good vid

[@rossbarone298]

lollllll story four. sorry sis, don’t go to reddit for validation. and mark, good for u for educating yourself!! doin better than op over there :).

[@phoenixfire8978]

Which books on Autism are you reading?

[@amberleeannalee1999]

The go fund me sister needs her family to tell her the truth. That’s why she keeps living this way. Not saying a word encourages them to stay the course

[@lunahix4815]

"Maybe you do think they are right." As right as Plankton getting the fucking Krabby Patty Formula. Or as right as Patrick answering the Krusty Krab phone..... Sarcasam, btw.

[@celticraven8523]

Avon’s awaful, my dad used to be an Avon rep, me and my sister ran it and we got all the profits 50/50 as pocket money. There were some months when we got only£10, which as a 14 year old didn’t cover the basics of my shampoo conditioner shower gel pads and deodorant. We stopped bothering eventually as we got more pocket money with the house hold chore list then doing Avon work and it required far less effort.

[@ACCER]

Story 1 OP was absolutely right to do what was done in front of other people.....perhaps saving their children from the same fate as the sister. My parents were devoutly religious Catholics. I have no idea when I learned about periods....because I was so young I can't remember. I'm fairly sure that I asked a question about my mothers feminine hygiene products at some point and she told me. I also know that I always felt comfortable talking to her about those sorts of things and asking questions. I have two much older brothers and they apparently knew long before they got married as well. I went to a catholic school......and we had sex education. A few forms of it. First in hygiene class, then in biology class.....and then yes, in religion class. Sex, is first and foremost, biological. It's how humans reproduce. There is no place in biology classes for religion, morality, ethics. That's not the place for it. It can be covered in explicit sex ed classes, of course and touched on in hygiene classes as well. For us, we learned the religious, moral, ethical, and societal aspects of it in our religion class. We also learned something else very important: There is no debate about the biology of sex and human reproduction. There is nothing BUT debate regarding the morality and ethical considerations surrounding it. There was no option for parents to opt their children out of it. Before anyone wonders, yes, we discussed contraception. Both in biology class (the scientific aspects of it) and in religion class, the morality/ethical issues and the reasons for the stance of the church. Basically, we were given all of the information we needed to make an informed decision on the matter. There is something especially sinister in preventing people from a full understanding of how their own bodies work and that includes sex. It SHOULD be a crime to withhold that knowledge. OP is NTA. Story 2 If you can't afford IVF then you certainly can't afford a baby. If you can't afford rent and your car payment, you can't afford a baby. OP did the best thing possible for the potential baby in saving it from being born into that crap show. OP is NTA. Story 3 First, and this is kind of important, can we all agree that the best friend here is an absolute moron? She has been having an affair with this guy for 2 years. He has a 1 year old child with his wife (so he was clearly sleeping with both women at that time) AND his wife is currently 8 months pregnant (Ditto on the sleeping arrangements.) I always wonder, does the affair partner consider that the guy is cheating on them when they are sleeping with the spouse? How does that work? Anyway, she said, "AITA for just wanting a perfect day where everyone puts their differences aside for me" Yup, she's a Bridezilla. The differences people should be able to put aside are things like, politics. Not inviting your cheating BIL and his affair partner to your wedding. Her best friend was sleeping with her BIL......and he was screwing around on her pregnant sister but she said sorry so now everyone needs to get along so OP can have a perfect day! What a bitch. She better be careful, her friend might decide to move on to HER husband next. As for what *I* would do in this situation......let's just say that they would never find the body.....I would absolutely support my sibling. OP is absolutely TA. Story 4 There are certain things on Reddit that are a given. If a post starts with, "I know that title sounds bad but hear me out" you know it's going to be 1000 times worse than you could have imagined. Another is if someone comes in seeking validation they are CLEARLY in the wrong. Nice to see some things don't change.... OP is a jerk that doesn't seem to understand what was being said. There is a meme that went around a few years ago about a gay son preparing to "come out" to his parents. He was talking to his boyfriend about being worried and was overheard by his father. He father left him a very sweet note the next day....something along the lines of, we've known since you were 6 and we love you....absolutely accepting....even telling his that he and his boyfriend were a cute couple. One could have said that the son was a bit "throwed off" as in different from the norm. So? That kids parents didn't care.....they loved him as he is. This kids parents don't care, as in they love their child as is.....no wailing and gnashing of teeth necessary. No massive therapy needed to deal with this trauma. The parents here are following the necessary steps for a diagnosis, will handle each issue as it arises and beyond that treat their child exactly as they would have otherwise. Honestly, sounds pretty healthy and accepting. OP wants to make a big deal out of it. Have family meetings, make a plan.....etc. It's not her business. If she doesn't pull her head out of her ass she will likely never be given much access to the child or the family. OP is TA.

[@audreym3908]

Story 3 sounds like something from the Kardashians or other reality shows.

[@Darth_Nycta_13]

Mark you are AWESOME thanks for the videos from a fellow Brit 🇬🇧

[@imperialspacemarine1539]

Story 2: This is the 1 thing I hate most about american society: it is socialy frowned upon to reality check people. This whole thing of "acting kind and gossip about it later to not be rude" is like... the rudest shit ever! Im from germany and seriuosly if people here need a reality check they are gonna get it period. OP sister needs a reality check and your mother doesnt want that, that is her problem 100% NTA. I hope the sister never gets kids because this will mostlikely be another sad case of a child in foster care or at best a child without the original parents. The father and the Mother are serious scammers and when justice comes to them when they have a child... the poor little thing would be punished to.

[@JayeEllis]

When can you expect my donation? Oh, some time between a half past hell freezing over and a quarter to never!

[@smokingsoilder]

As a father to two autistic children story number 4 pisses me off! OP needs to sit down shut up and let the parents love their child!

[@disneyprincessintraining2725]

I’m a very religious person, and people like the parents in the first story make me angry. Kids need to be taught about sex education and about different types of people. People live differently and regardless of your view on how they live, they’re people who deserve love and respect.

[@GameOfSims3668]

I said the same thing out loud when you said "Firstly I'd like to see them ground a 20-year-old" 😂 Oh Leader 👑 Mark! You're wise beyond your Waffle years 🧇 🧇

[@ArcaneChipmunk]

Now I'm curious about what you made a mistake about on autism when talking about it. I don't quite recall it... which might have to do that it is 2 at night right now but still 😂. It peaked my interest because I have a light form of autism. Or maybe I'm able to mask it a bit better with being a girl.

[@TheFlowerchild712]

Story 3: OP should remember the phrase "what goes around comes around". Huge YTA. She's condoning her friend and ex-BIL did. The universe will expect repayment.

[@username-unavailable]

I'll never skip your waffle. I AM THE WAFFLE GANG

[@dylandobbins3135]

Story 4 gave me the biggest dose of 2nd hand embarrassment ever

[@t1995roger10]

Regardless of the content, I will watch it! You are too much of a wholesome and genuine guy to not watch it

[@Kzinix]

Story 1: NTA. OP's parents failed their children by not properly educating them. The sister paid a terrible price for it. OP's success has nothing to do with their "amazing" parenting skills. And grounding their grown daughter? F*** that. Story 2: NTA. These people desperately need some truth bombs. Don't apologize. A child deserves better than to be put in a situation like that. Story 3: hard YTA. Your "best" friend hurt your sister and you INVITE her with that scumbag of a BIL? Where is the empathy for your sister? Being cheated on is traumatic! Support her, for pity's sake. So-called friend and BIL don't deserve the respect you still give them. How can someone do that to their own sister? That is just another slap in the face. Story 4: hard YTA. There was no reason to start an argument! The mother says that she would love her child no matter what, what more could you possibly want? It sounds like OP was looking for a reason to be upset. Not everything is offensive, you know.

[@tgirl8955]

I mean they can’t grind them but they surely can kick them out.. so unless they have other options that are full proof I’d just wait for them to get over the embarrassment and call it a day

[@midgetgirl5]

Op in the the first story Is definitely NTA

[@Ragnarockthedarkwolf]

You can say I have no empathy. Well to be honest I wouldn’t care if my sisters husband cheat on them since they disowned me for stupid reasons.

[@phoenixsky6124]

Cheating best friend. You should have approached her separately and listened when she said she wouldn’t do it.

[@runawayfromtoads674]

SOOTHE ME Do you hear that, it's the redditors laughing darkly in their keyboards--

[@jaybea365]

On the subject of Pyramid Schemes. In NA you have to be very careful(from a legal standpoint) when you use that term, as it is often applied to companies that are *not* from a legal standpoint, a Pyramid Scheme. While I do not know all the companies you referenced, I can assure you that Avon, is not(legally speaking) a Pyramid Scheme. People tend to lump Multi-Level Marketing companies, in the term Pyramid Scheme, however, if the company is actually selling a physical product, through it's sales agents(or whatever term the company uses) it is a legal company(assuming they aren't breaking some other law) and not a Pyramid Scheme. Now that I've said that, yeah the great bulk of those companies do suck, as it is virtually impossible to make a living wage simply by selling their products. However, many of those companies do make fine products, that allow people who do not wish/need traditional full-time employment income to supplement their earnings.

[@Anyrandomnamewilldo]

Good day to you, fellow Waffles

[@UnityDoesWhatever]

Love you Mark!

[@sianchild]

With the last post I can't tell if she's misunderstood what her sister was saying of is just so far up her own backside she wanted the opportunity to be self-righteous. Mark - I think that's great you're choosing to learn about Autism, and is further proof of you being a good human being.

[@everlastingpika1454]

Did you all notice that whenever the title sounds like they are going to be YTA, they're usually NTA, but if it sounds like they're going to be NTA, they're usually YTA.

[@homersimpson5821]

I couldn’t ask anyone for money.

[@fhuber7507]

3... NTA... but OP had unrealistic expectations.

[@freyr399]

In story 1 I was more concerned about the sister possibility cheating on her husband

[@fhuber7507]

1... NTA. Move out and go NC with those toxic parents.