MARRIAGE: A Real Conversation (Part 1)

[@LaiLaNahAr]

I think there's a big problem surrounding the issue of "respect." A lot of 20/30-something Muslim men from traditional families think that word revolves around them, and don't truly understand that it needs to go 2 ways. When an empowered Muslim woman speaks up for herself & her rights, she's deemed as being "disrespectful!"

[@musicfordreamers]

omg so true! Whenever i speak up that's what happens. God gave me the brains and a mouth for a reason.

[@Isa-qh3ue]

musicfordreamers I agree I’m a Muslim man in a lot of cultures the men think they are superior , they use the women to cook and make tea etc and think thats they’re job , that’s why a lot of non Muslims think that Islam is bad , the prophet was a beautiful man he treated his wife like queens , women are the backbone of humanity

[@ilovejesus9303]

Not just Muslims even most African women are treated as objects for sex and birth only nothing else esp those who are house wives

[@Reformation123]

@@ilovejesus9303 that's not true i don't know your personal experience but i live in Ethiopia and i am very respected

[@fozf9193]

Mine was arranged. I got lucky my hubby is awesome. Actually he must be the lucky one since he got me lol! Love that you did this.

[@hautehijab]

Haha alhamdullilah!! I'm so happy to hear that! :) ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for watching!

[@artisthusnatalal3099]

Your comment was exactly my comment lol! 😄😍

[@Withloveleenaofficial]

Loved this video!! 💗💗💗

[@hautehijab]

Thank youuu Leeeena!! 💗💗💗

[@thalblankson4002]

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[@thalblankson4002]

@@hautehijab 💗💗💗💗

[@sitimaisaroh5902]

@@thalblankson4002 ggyggyg

[@sitimaisaroh5902]

@@hautehijab gff

[@bintjamiel2873]

As to my opinion There a very very very less marriage talks as regards to the boys/men and how to be a good husband, all we grow up hearing is a woman has to do this for their husband do that and that and for me it’s really gets me thinking whether we a just slaves to men especially in African cultures. Men grow up ignorant of how to treat a woman because they have a superiority inside of them, they grow up thinking they a the boss yet in-front of Allah we have obligations towards each other. And to be honest this is why many women now prefer to be independent and a scared of getting into marriage because of these one sided talks Thank u sisters

[@khadijahamid944]

Same goes in Asia

[@lavarball7538]

The problem with independence sister is you hit the wall and at age 35 women have high risk pregnancies, so you have to get married young in order to have a family as your body is in prime mode then. So independent single women are usually financially ok, most women don’t have Careers they have “jobs” and jobs aren’t enough to retire on when old. So independent women end up lonely and can’t create a family of their own anymore and die alone

[@artisthusnatalal3099]

*I started to be proposed since I was 17 but I went all the way passing through many proposals that failed again and again and again just because I was the youngest and they didn't want me to marry before my 2 elder siblings (This is another problem in some families). My proposals were blocked everytime till in my early 30s is when I got married. But Alhamdulillah I thank Allah for everything and I pray our marriage to last till death do us apart Ameen yaa rabb!. For those who are not married have patience every good thing comes with difficulties and pray a lot you might be having enemies who don't see any good to reach you. Surah BAQARAH, IKHLAS, FALAQ NNAS will protect you from evil eyes. Remember to always stay HALAL*

[@MohammedAli-nx9tx]

I wonder which country are you originally from? What people are those who don't allow their daughter to get marriage because there are two or more sisters in front of her. I swear by Allah this is injustice. What if she committed a haram thing. Alhamdu Lillah siste that Allah protected you utill you get your halal husband.

[@dueiudjjebidjdjsos4686]

Mohammed Ali it’s a practice in quite a lot of cultures. its really unfair yes

[@afshi786]

This is like the Muslim The View. Love it. Also another big issue within the Muslim community is that we have “older” women (30 plus for example) in the community who are looking for husbands older than them....but it’s these “older” men that are only interested in women who are young and in their twenties. And with their good jobs and financial stability, these young ladies are also interested in these older men. So it leaves the “older” women just hanging around and struggling to find someone.

[@starsighting7167]

The sisters in shaa Allah will find someone, may Allah make it easy for its getting very difficult but we must have positivity, Allah is with us

[@hautehijab]

You bring up a great point! May Allah SWT make it easier on all women in our community inshAllah! ❤️

[@ilovejesus9303]

So true

[@mamiesharrieffschrean2575]

May Allah help all single Sis to find a good spouse.

[@Khwaab]

Afshi sister, I agree partially. Why don´t anyone speak about how a big amount of Muslim men prefer white non-Muslim ladies, and therefore, there are even less men for Muslim women to marry. The thing is that we HAVE TO marry Muslim men, so if they don´t choose us, it becomes very difficult. What´s left is often those uneducated ones who are just seeking to come to Europe and who will be eternally frustrated because they don´t even know the language while the wife will be doing all the work both outside and inside the home. Also, I don´t agree that every Muslim woman 30+ is looking for an older man. MANY are not. Those are exactly the kind of men they know grew up entitled and with mothers basically tied to the stove. These women are highly educated and independent, so they don´t need a man to take care of her economically. They just need a God-fearing husband who believes in equality and that women are more than just an age. I think it´s just a bad bad time for Muslim women. The best situation is for converts (because our men desire them and will marry them just because of being white, age and sexual experience won´t even matter) and for uneducated girls from poor countries that come as import-wives and don´t expect anything but to go back home and be able to brag about being a "foreigner" now.

[@musicfordreamers]

Nowadays everyone is getting engaged/married left and right and honestly i have no sweet clue how people are meeting. I'm really struggling and tried various ways and no luck at all :( Help a sister out!

[@xSunnyDaysx]

musicfordreamers hehe same over here sis. But i secretly think that people are actually dating. Even if they are set up by family or friends. 1/10 probably do it the prescribed way. And people probably go on multiple dates. We only see the wedding or engagement party, while people went through a few struggles to be at that point. At this point i’m trying to be happy with my life and myself. And all i keep saying to myself is: in sha Allah, i will get everything i want in Jannah. That’s the only thing that keeps me motivated to even not think about marriage. It might sound sad. But i aint gonna do haram stuff to make it halal. I’ve also said to a few friends and colleagues to keep an eye on a ‘candidate’. No luck so far.

[@musicfordreamers]

@@xSunnyDaysx ME too wallah! I try to enjoy these moments and always remember when it's my time it will happen isa. Isa all the single ladies find their true companion:)

[@bananarahman6637]

Try online meeting apps

[@musicfordreamers]

@@bananarahman6637 I have and unfortunately i keep getting hurt:(

[@Maha420]

Join the club sis! My local masjid has a matchmaking service so maybe see if your masjid has it too

[@tahanihassouneh3651]

Beautiful group of women MashaAllah! and very interesting story of you guys. Great video and very important dialogue. I laughed alot when Laila was talking about how she meet her husband lol she is so fuuny and cool women. I love these kind of videos about marriage,life, and business. Keep up the good work Melanie 💕

[@hautehijab]

Aww thank you so much for watching Tahani, and Layla is HILARIOUS! We loveee her!! 💗😂

[@ladysafk7810]

Mashaa'Allah🙏❤❤❤❤❤ Alhamdolilah I'm married four months ago. I met my husband in the community where i was born and grown up. He was our neighbour. looking forward to spend the rest of my life with my amazing husband Inshaa'Allah. I pray Allah see all of us through in all our endeavors Ameen.

[@hautehijab]

Aww congratulations!!! Alf alf mabrook! May Allah SWT bless your marriage always inshAllah! ❤️❤️❤️

[@ladysafk7810]

@@hautehijabAmeen Ya Allah! Thanks so much sister appreciated ❤❤❤

[@valf156115]

Mashallah!

[@pearls2733]

Totally agree that it is very hard to find a decent spouse in these times. It is even more harder if you a divorcee and 40! May Allah help us all get married to righteous spouses Ameen. All the best from the U.K.

[@ocdalert1]

This was such a great video! I just want to add as a avid HH watcher (and KZbin watcher lol) that the filming of this video was really distracting. The zooming into faces and the audio made this a less pleasurable viewing experience because it felt a little KZbin circa 2012. Nonetheless, very funny and I did enjoy the video. I definitely think better filming will get you guys more views iA!

[@hautehijab]

Salaam Zobia! Thank you so much for your feedback! We were having some minor difficulties with the camera for this series but hopefully it won't happen again inshAllah! :) We're glad you enjoyed the video otherwise!! Thank you again for watching! ❤️

[@Khwaab]

I agree! I could hardly make out what they were saying, as there is a kind of "humming" sound in the background and then that annyoing, repetitive music. I can´t imagine what a struggle it must´ve been for people who have English as a foreign language.

[@12345akh]

Love this video! As a mother of a daughter and 2 sons ( MashaAllah) I love that these conversations are happening. Keep up the good work!

[@hautehijab]

Thank you Ayesha!! So glad you liked it alhamdullilah! ❤️❤️❤️

[@stevenhernandeznon-profitf968]

So many great points! I do pre marriage education often with Muslims and I am going to share this video!

[@hautehijab]

Thank you for your support! Part 2 is out as well if you'd like to check it out! :)

[@stevenhernandeznon-profitf968]

Thank you. I will be adding a new video on my channel about red flags in relationships so keep an eye out for that

[@zizzybaby3695]

Can't wait for part 2,3 4,5..... Very educational Maa shaa Allah you guys have no idea how much you inspired me May Allah make it easy for all if us Thanks😍

[@hautehijab]

Aww you're so sweet! Thank you so much for watching! ❤️❤️❤️

[@aiysha130]

So much truth and a needed conversation

[@hautehijab]

Thank you Aiysha!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@proudcitizen4883]

I am glad to Seeing a Sisters that’s Talking about in our Muslim point of few

[@najma2022]

❤️ I love this kinda stories about marriage,life, and tips for growth thank you Melanie

[@hautehijab]

Glad you enjoyed it alhamdullilah! Thank you for watching! :) ❤️

[@afsheen11]

salaam sisters i just found your channel and i enjoyed watching this. it will be very educational for our youths today and everyone in general . keep up the good job you all are doing

[@Salma30b]

I love this. Such an important topic of discussion and helped me put into words a lot of the wonderings I had in my head.

[@aoikdream]

it would be great and interesting if you can do similar talk about 1) marriage after divorce and 2) marriage for senior adults (45 yo and above)

[@shamd29]

I can’t wait to watch this video but one thing I noticed in the beginning was the background music was a little too loud for me. Anyways thank you fro talking the time to film this video!

[@hautehijab]

Thank you so much for your feedback! We had some filming issues with this video unfortunately but we plan on having it resolved for future videos inshAllah! :) Thanks for watching!! ❤️

[@astrine7]

I'm agree with you. The music is disturbing. But interesting talk. Thank you

[@xSunnyDaysx]

Haute Hijab It’s better to mic up the ladies. It sounds to echo-y. And the zooming in is not needed. Specially when you see it being zoomed in. Good luck!

[@esalisa1618]

14:52 what layla said about her doughter is exactly what i feel about merraige..i want to live my life the way i want ..i'm engaged and i love my fiancé but they all changing after merrige 💔

[@ribebelgofre9890]

This was so cute MashaAllah! I loved this. Looking forward to more of these kinds of videos.

[@hautehijab]

Thanks so much Ribeb!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@mvelazquez004]

I’m not Muslim but I would love to get advice from you guys (or any of the readers)

[@hanifak25]

Advice about what?

[@quranchannel4622]

Don’t do sex before marriage. Always avoid people who just drive you into moment but look or engage people who like you for longtime relationships. Also, friendships can be bad influence to you so be careful who is your friends and what is their behavior.

[@khaleelahlankford3002]

Love this video

[@hautehijab]

Yaayy! So glad you liked it alhamdullilah! Thank you so much for watching! ❤️

[@isaackid09]

Ya Allah i just wanna say thank you SO MUCH for this! You guys took the words right out of my mouth, and now I don't feel so alone anymore. These are my exact thoughts about the Muslim community when it comes to marriage. Unfortunately, the older people around me, both men and women don't seem to understand these issues and they tend to treat women like they're only worthy as a maid. Their understanding of a woman's role in a marriage is that of a maid. Sadly, my own grandma thinks as such. So thank you for this, Alhamdulillah I found your channel. This is my first ever video of your channel, so you got yourself a new subscriber! Yeay! Haha Love from Malaysia ❤

[@rosed7576]

How do I tell my parents that I don’t see myself getting married. I have 3 younger sister and they expect me to be married before them ideally. I need advice please.

[@MindfulMuslimah]

Love what you all are doing!! We need more!! I would love to have you on my podcast to do a feature some time in the future. I do tons of stuff on love and marriage for our young Muslimahs. I'll be in touch, insh'Allah :)

[@thalblankson4002]

Love your hijabs. Great video. 👋🙌

[@hautehijab]

Thank you!! ❤️

[@raquelsinmas9538]

Activar subtítulos en español por favor 😊

[@LavenderLife007]

enjoyed the conversation.

[@hautehijab]

Yaay! Thank you so much for watching!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@nigerianrose]

Maasha’Allah sisters! I love love love this series💖 Very relatable.. please continue to do more like this☺️

[@hautehijab]

InshAllah! Thank you so much for watching! :) ❤️

[@rukziee]

Loved this video! 💕

[@hautehijab]

Thank youuu love!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@hawakamara8733]

I like the conversation, I having the same problem in my home.

[@zebedasharif]

Alhamdullilah.. good topic . Nut hard to hear the speakers due to the background music . Please take that off for future sessions .. jazakalahairan

[@zebedasharif]

I meant it's hard to hear

[@NjBou]

I LOVE this!!

[@hautehijab]

I'm so glad!! Thank you so much for watching! ❤️❤️

[@lovelee193]

MashaAllah, please keep the conversations going!

[@crispinislam]

Mashallah! Love this video.

[@hautehijab]

Thank you and thank you so much for watching! :)

[@proudcitizen4883]

I’m waiting more videos from you

[@aaliyahharoun1707]

MashaAllah sisters. Please bear in mind with the best interest at heart. The music background is quite distracting. Shukran

[@SalymahIV]

Help find a Sistah a husband 🙂

[@lastqueen9536]

Dating is not haram it all depends on how you carry ur self I can't marry a man unless I know him well enough to trust my life with him 🙌🥂

[@chuxbouch2793]

Dating in it's acctual meaning is haram, so please don't confonde that But the fact that u wana to know the other person and stuff is ok , speacialy if he or she is in your entourage, in a respectful way not like going out and have fub and touching and so on .. Sahaba did that Hope i'm cleare, i'm french girl so my english isn't so good 😊 Have a Nice day

[@amandakrcic9423]

You can't get to know someone "well." Until you marry them. People will put up "masks." And try to impress you through out the process. Knowing someone for who they truly are can only be attained by marrying the person and seeing them in their natural ways;with family, at home, when their mad, sad, etc. Because when you meet someone who your interested in, you look to impress. And you most likely won't show your uncomfortable/bad sides. :)

[@lastqueen9536]

Amanda Krcic yeah so you will just marry to know them deeper I got you 😉

[@lastqueen9536]

Chux Bouch sister by saying dating is halal i don’t mean the western ways bf and gf stuff, getting to know each other and exploring them to realize if he is the one for you that’s all 😆 the world is nt same anymore we’re in 21 centery not the Sahaba time where everyone was pure and holy

[@Khwaab]

You´re right Last Queen. I date with a mahram in tow. But with "date", I mean meeting up at a restaurant full of people and keeping within halal bounds. My mahrams sits a few tables away, just making sure I´m not being treated badly. Then I bombard the guy with questions, LOL! And when at home, I do istikharah about the guy. I feel like guys respect me more because I tell them about the mahram right away. It also takes care of the jokers who are not serious at all..they flee at the mention of a mahram! I think some people still haven´t heard about halaal dating. Regarding the sahaba, no sister, you´d be surprised..they were great people but even they made mistakes. There are ahadith about sahaba who actually made a mistake with a woman, but as he repented sincerely, he was back on the good path. They were very human and real in their struggles, and that´s why it´s important to read up on their lives.

[@samahamara8543]

How do u find a Muslim husband though? Any help ? I'm just looking on Instagram lol

[@sagalk1394]

That is not the way to go about about it😂

[@samahamara8543]

@@sagalk1394 Everyone's on insta...it's more real than reality here since social gathering is almost impossible and always limited

[@mellima4226]

Definitly a good question.

[@dewi_malam]

Go to muslim match website.

[@MelanieAnhMyTran]

Try HalfOurDeen.com. I found that website to be really really good. You should check it out, in shaa Allah

[@TheAk8888]

May Allah bless and save them 😍😍😍 I love them from Kuwait

[@hautehijab]

Thank you Laila!! ❤️

[@Light-cy1gp]

I FREAKING LOVE MY SISTERS IN ISLAM (im a girl too)❤😍😍😍😍😍😍, as soon as i saw all of u i fell in love

[@macab6141]

Masha alah to all of you💗

[@Salma30b]

I find Muslim women raised in Canada have it even harder because most Muslims in Canada are first generation Canadians (FOBS) unfortunately, unlike in the States and UK where there are many 2nd, 3rd, and even 4th generation Americans having a similar mentality, culture, and expectations.

[@proudcitizen4883]

Dating is No word ..talking is right ☝🏾 We have to keep it all clean. Even talking Islamiclly

[@salifukeita2511]

The background song didn't made me enjoy this video.

[@mbabazijoseline6983]

Am not a Muslim but ur conversation was helpful. Am not very social and not religious so.... how do i meet someone

[@Exiria]

Give religion a chance, people with principle are hard to find otherwise

[@quranchannel4622]

“People with principles hard to find them.” Well said! Sometime listening motivation speech helps to build your principle but not the same as religion since we have bigger reward in the next life. Life is does not end after we die.

[@yasmined985]

Really wanted to watch this video but quitting 5 mins in because of the annoying music background 😑 please consider leaving it out in the future

[@rosesandthorns6654]

As salam alykoum wa rahmah Allah wa barakatu , an advice for all you tubers is to remove all videos that include things that Allah has forbidden ، may you all be good and in best eman

[@Somalifood12]

💕💕💕💕💕💕🌹

[@thalblankson4002]

Alsalamu Alakuim. Love you dear 😘😘

[@hautehijab]

Love you too! ❤️ Thank you!

[@proudcitizen4883]

I love sisters for the Sake of Allah Masha Allah

[@esedd2056]

Hallo

[@seyamnida6784]

be more specific ! 😂

[@aishacoco8902]

I want a musilm

[@CPTZK11]

Wow more man bashing. 'muslim women'. Wonder how the sahabah were who are the BEST GENERATION of mankind as said by the Prophet you are meant to follow: Narrated `Abdullah: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "The best people are those of my generation, and then those who will come after them (the next generation), and then those who will come after them (i.e. the next generation). Sahih al-Bukhari 6429. Do you women really think the best of wives were strong independant boss women who didnt listen to their husbands? They were certainly strong but never independant and rebellious like you guys are asking women to be and for men to accept

[@farahsiddique6702]

SUBHANALLAH

[@التفكيرالجنسيضدالدعارة]

🦎🐅🐩🐊🐢🦈 The Body, are from god. The body design , are from god . God , made the naked show happen . Keep Going . Keep Naked . Note: 1- the God , make some people don't like naked , then , they are making Clothes . 2- the god , make some people hate clothes , they are prefer to live naked , the god made them to be love naked life , they are comfortable to be a naked . _____ 1- Clothes, are Not from god . 2- the Body from god . 1- Clothes , is the human design 2- Body , is the God's design Note: The people are different , some of them like the naked life . And, Some of them are against naked life . All this different happened because of god , god wants the different inside the society. ( The nature are contain differents = Balance )