How to Read Body Language to Get What You Want: 6 Simple Psychological Tricks to Be More Confident

[@appetites_and_delights]

That’s why Mel is so likable, because she is so authentic and doesn’t pretend to be perfect 👍🏼

[@pegstervegas]

Agree. Mel is very relatable

[@alyssaeifling1271]

I heard Vanessa speak at the Global Leadership summit in 2022 to over 200K people around the world. She is even more impactful in person. She demonstrates everything she shares. Great job!

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Hi Alyssa! Oh thank you for your kind words! That means a lot to me! 🥺🥰

[@sarahbrooks4403]

I live alone and work remotely. I get no social interaction during the week and do more on the weekends. ANY social interaction is good for me. I like it when I take a walk and someone waves at me.

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I’m waving at you and smiling at you through the internet. I hope this comment brings you a moment of ❤

[@brynne77]

I like interactions, too, but I have a real problem being around people who are constantly staring at their phones and not talking to me or others. It's tricky being out in public.

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[@dianalaughlin]

14:46 Proverbs 18:24, which reads: "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly" - meaning if you want to have friends, you must also be friendly towards others.

[@MrCarl007]

@14:50 Gosh this is making so much sense. This is confirming some things for me and reinforcing my belief in myself which I have come to struggle with over the years. Not trying to toot my own horn or anything but I use to be popular in high school but never really knew why... Looking back, I use to be that guy that addressed everyone by name, waving at others in the distance, and made sure to acknowledge everyone in my path one way or anything. I was friends with everyone. So everybody knew me. I wasnt even that cute lol. But now watching this, it's making a lot of sense. I give credit to my grandparents who raised me to be this way. So grateful to have these principles in me. Working on believing in myself more and more.

[@KH-q3s]

Introverts can be very assertive. Introversion isn't shyness; it's an inward focus of energy and attention.

[@biancarowena9040]

Omgosh thank you! I came here to say the same thing. I can’t stand people using introversion and shyness interchangeably. They have nothing to do with each other. I’m introverted and have zero shyness. And when smart podcasters get this wrong it just continues the misunderstanding. I tell people I’m introverted and they laugh, because they think if I’m not shy then I must not be introverted and I’m joking. Can we please just get this right? Introversion has to do with how you get your energy, that’s it. It has nothing to do with assertiveness or shyness. Anyhow this is a huge pet peeve for me and I’d hoped that Mel would get it right, or her guests would. But since the majority of humans are extroverts, they don’t even begin to comprehend introversion, but just talk about it from an outside perspective. I particularly dislike it when people ask if I want to just talk one on one since I’m an introvert. That’s a nightmare for an introvert! I’d MUCH rather be in a large group where I would have to contribute less and pay attention less attentively, than talking with one person, one on one. Going for coffee one on one can drain an introvert for an entire week! Anyhow, thanks for speaking up for the rest of us introverted minority ❤️ Whenever a specialist guest starts saying introverts are shy etc. I stop listening. So I don’t actually know the rest of what was said in this interview lol

[@PilledUpCrazy]

Indeed! In fact today I was talking to a friend about how introverts choose the conversations they make and don’t just keep chattering their way out. Being a serial chatterbox, I would love to acquire this skill! ✨

[@stephaniematthews5088]

This is my favorite pod cast. It’s an extremely a valuable addition to life’s tool belt.

[@CRMjen]

Damn. This was a great edition! So much actionable goodness! Introvert here….reporting my actions taken as an immediate result of listening to this podcast. Thank you, thank you!!! 1) updated the names of my calendar meetings to prime my day 2) bought Vanessa’s latest book 3) took copious notes to help me be better equipped for social settings

[@Mystic_Paths]

Understanding body language helps us better interpret what others truly mean. Often, people’s facial expressions, gestures, and posture can tell us more about their feelings than their words, providing deeper insights into conversations.

[@yuwmelon3868]

I like both of you. I like the way Vanessa smiles. I like the way Mel listening attentively to Vanessa. I like Mel's strategical placement of Vanessa's books on the shelves. I am honest about my likes.

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Ohhh wow! Thank you so much! 🥰💛

[@Mr_Kenneth]

I like your comments (see what I did there!)

[@miangcordura6569]

Mel and Vanessa didn't know how much this podcast helped me and encouaged me. This is my favorite episode and I come here and listen from time to time to be reminded of everything you say. THANK YOU SO MUCH

[@tricialoza603]

Thanks!

[@raggaahmed8626]

Wow❤ one of prophet Muhammad advice's ..if you love (like)some one ..go and tell him or her . We are not talking romance here though 😊I like you both ❤

[@nahimehjaffar7201]

“Really fun people mask, they are fun but they aren’t actually having fun” - realist realization ever

[@thebahana]

Is that lilke women who fake orgasms?

[@buttermonkey33]

I love her so much I started listening to her like years ago I'm so glad she continues to be a bright strong light

[@NoLa1955]

Mel. Pls let Vanassa speak. There is no need to translate or repeat Vanessa, she is fully capable of explaining. Thank u

[@memesfarmhousedesigns9254]

I love Vanessa! When I figured out that I am a recovering SA from her it was life changing!! 🙌🏼❤️

[@ScienceOfPeople]

That's amazing!!! Thank you so much!! 😍🥰🥰🥰

[@brynne77]

Sorry, what is an SA?

[@Julia.Mandelbrot]

​@@brynne77socially awkward person

[@deerco1]

This lady Vanessa is fabulous. I've been binge watching podcasts of her stuff.

[@peaceemezue]

I like Vanessa reminds me of how I will like to be. At work I say hi to everyone I come across and for some reason everyone knows my name and I felt awkward now I know better. I was raised to greet people and be kind to people around me which is not very common in the uk. I felt stranger when I moved here when people see you and walk pass without saying hi. I really like Vanessa

[@sugar4973]

Mel! You have helped me so much! Much love to you! Thank you for being YOU!

[@willdajarrett1107]

This woman’s information and research references are profound!!! Fantastic interview!

[@miriammandel1968]

Love this. Shes adorable and could listen to these two all day!

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Aww Thank you so much! 🥰

[@fabianecunha7982]

I was listening the podcast and then I stopped to jump in KZbin to see you both. I Loved! Amazing! Beautiful! 😊

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Yay! That's heartwarming to know! Thank you so much! 💛

[@nicoleolaes1373]

❤❤❤❤❤ thank you for making me feel more normal and comfortable crying and then laughing while watching this beautiful episode 😂

[@andreajaquez9039]

This is the BEST episode I’ve ever heard! Thank you Mel, thank you Vanessa I needed to hear some of this not only to remind myself how well I’m doing but to know what more I CAN do

[@weronikakunka684]

2 my favorite motivational women speakers in one room ❤❤ love you both! Great energy and tips before networking event that I am attending in just a few hours 🎉

[@learningenglishwithclaudia]

You said the right thing @weronikakunka! 🥰 In one room! Lucky us… It was fantastic!!

[@DeepakMeena-tq4ri]

U r my motivation😅

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I love them!!

[@DeepakMeena-tq4ri]

Me too

[@brittanyneeley1996]

This is one of my favorite guests/episodes/ so helpful! Thank you! 🎉

[@dov111]

This is quite possibly one of the most interesting and helpful podcast I have listened to. It’s so good that I sent it to my boss and asked if we can have a team building activity with others on our team. I especially liked the part about how to be more productive and I plan on using it going forward.

[@riyasaah]

Wonderful podcast. Now about likeability. I like people and I'm nice to everyone all the time! I do things to elevate them. but I don't get anything in return. I know love and like unconditionally but... Seriously it's jaded and one-sided now that I prefer to be alone and like myself. Idk honestly dunno. I wish I can find my kinda people maybe. Would love to hear someone's take on this matter. All in all a fab podcast. Thanks so much Mel and Vanessa❤

[@asdf7711]

It's disappointing if it isn't reciprocated. There needs to be give and take. You seem like a good person but maybe don't try so hard. If someone mistreats you, stand up for yourself: they will respect you more. Good luck!

[@akm17178]

You could be sending a subconscious message of neediness, too. People pick up on it even when we aren’t aware and it pushes them away. I have had to do a lot of work in this area because of trauma wounding causing me to seek acceptance and approval. I’ve read both her books and they are outstanding, but the tools work best when combined with deep work on our subconscious programming.

[@vickibazter3446]

Come from the heart and total authenticity.

[@riyasaah]

@@asdf7711 thankyou I'd definitely stand up for myself and I'm not a people pleaser. So these people i mentioned are my close friends and family. So yeah it sucks a bit but... Okay. I'm practising self love and trying to just let them be as Mel says. Thank you for your kind words. I hope you have a wonderful week

[@riyasaah]

@@akm17178 Dunno about that. It would be nice to be appreciated back. These are my people. My friends and family to begin with. But yeah. Maybe not. Maybe they only wanna put in meagre effort and I'm overly zealous and loving. I've been told I'm too kind/compassionate by strangers. Maybe it's just my nature now.

[@carlasaunders3983]

Wow! I just downloaded this episode 8 minutes in. This is so helpful!

[@DanaDelSol]

Such a valuable podcast. I am going to actively like people from now on.

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Yay! 🧡🧡🧡🧡

[@jackiefreiberg6581]

Vanessa is powerfully, passionately and positively contagious! ✨✨✨Thank you Mel for spreading such GOOD stuff!

[@Kristinnicole88]

Yes!! I have designated open and closed door hours in my office. Some of my colleagues snub their nose at the idea. However, I can get work actual work done without feeling drained!

[@traceypoole9877]

Love this episode. Have just reserved one of Vanessa’s book from my library can’t wait for it to come!!

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Oh thank you so much!!! That's exciting! Hope you'll enjoy the book too! Share it with us via instagram! we'd love to hear from you! 😍

[@DanaDelSol]

Mel, you have such a great speaking style. I love your energy and compassion!

[@loriheadlee5094]

This has been my favorite episode I think I’ve ever seen… thank you I appreciate you so much

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Aww Thank you so much! 😍

[@nickcobos7607]

Wow, I needed this confidence tip- for years!!!!!!!!!!

[@celinahuezo5518]

She's really good, she has a lot of stuff on things like socialising, reading body language and stuff.

[@adelaharlisca6496]

Thank you so much for this postcast. I have learnt so much from it. I will apply a lot of the tips from Vanessa ❤!

[@amandamurray1657]

Authentic question about vulnerability: How do you reconcile being vulnerable and authentic when there are people, like narcissists, who exploit vulnerability? You might open up, thinking the other person is genuine, only to later realize they were putting on an act to manipulate you. I’ve had experiences where I thought someone was kind and genuine, and I let my guard down, being my authentic self, only to find out they had ulterior motives and ended up using and hurting me. How do you navigate vulnerability in a world where some people have hidden agendas?

[@VanessaFreedom-zt7cs]

Great information!!! Can't tell you how many times folks have said that these body ques were "bad", "too much" , etc... Now I wonder what their motivation for shutting people in their team down, by trying to undue this positive body language.

[@sarahg2158]

Thank you Mel! Thank you Vanessa! I admire Vanessa she is very well at explaining things. Looking back at how she was before her career change it is inspiring 💕

[@SimpleCleanAndGreen]

Great tips! I need to listen more than once. Don't want to miss anything! She's a fast, fast speaker and I grew up in the fast speaking midwest. 😊

[@pattythomson2455]

you are right. I listened to this on the way to work today and now on you tube. So much better!!!!! Great Stuff

[@ruthkbroadbayharbork8cente198]

❤ it is so true. Work energy is drowning me, thank you! This Pod Cast just pin point and answer the question I ask myself . What am I doing wrong?❤🙏

[@Eduardo_Music8560]

This interview was amazing! Great video, congratulations for both women.

[@MysticalMatterTarot]

Fantastic interview!!!! Life changing. Love your channel Mel. Thanks for sharing all this knowledge 🖤

[@gloriamargolis581]

Thank you Mel, I enjoyed the podcast with you and Vanessa, and I don’t just like you both I also Love you Mel and Vanessa and I mean it 💋👍🏻❤️🙏🌹

[@christinaking3333]

This podcast alone made me subscribe

[@tammybradshaw7175]

I LOVE THIS PODCAST! IT'S SO REAL! LOVE YOU MEL! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!❤🎶❤️🎶

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Oh yas!!! I love this collab Mel! Super enjoyed it! 😍

[@fatimasamira3695]

I am so happy to see you two ladies together.

[@lindafano491]

I do the steeple with my hands when I am in my extended staff meetings and it feels great!

[@desdevon3382]

Loved this episode so much!!!

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Glad you did! Thank you for listening! 🙌

[@yiomarierodriguez2108]

I love it. And I would like to hear about how to embrace imperfections in order to be happier, specially when you have a physical disability.

[@angel1329]

Thank you so much for this information and for the way it was delivered!!!!🎉

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You're one of the people that turn on lamps in my brain with the way you think and the amazing people that you host🎉🎉 Thank you❤❤

[@SmilinsShrinking]

What an incredible episode!!! Can't wait to share it!!!

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Oh thank you so much!!!

[@Bud_Ergon]

Mel you used perfect word for her. she is adorable❤

[@mrsa1453]

Two great ladies together.... can't wait to watch this....thank you in advance ❤❤❤

[@ScienceOfPeople]

You are more than welcome!!! Hope you'll enjoy the whole podcast! 😍

[@mrsa1453]

​@@ScienceOfPeopleI'm sure i will....if it's possible consider doing a podcast with Brene Brown... another great lady!

[@learningenglishwithclaudia]

You are amazing Mel and Vanessa! Oh my Goodness… I’m impressed with your empowerment and knowledge. Thank you girls ! ❤❤

[@sherriewagner1737]

Great podcast. Love you both, Mel and Vanessa

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Oh thank you so much!!! 😍

[@ebbflowvinyasa8543]

Thia was an amazing podcast!! One of my favorite !! Thanks Mel!!

[@lindacknd]

wow wow wow i learned sooooo much 🌸🌸 great video and im gonna share it with people who want to level up🙏🙏

[@khillikialea]

I found this extraordinarily interesting and insightful. Loved it. Send love hugs two you both. Thank you

[@lisabayliss6427]

Fabulous Mel One of the best!!!! 5 pages of notes!!!! Lol Hilarious re excel sheet- SAME!!!🎉🎉 ABCD love it!!!! You guys rock Love you Mel❤

[@kellybrooke9068]

Another great video! I learned so much thank you Mel and Vanessa!

[@geniehappyisland7540]

Love this❤ Thank you Mel❤

[@amymccoy6382]

I love these two ladies!

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Oh thank you so much!!!

[@shannonalexander4890]

This was such a beautiful conversation. I took away an incredible amount of inspiration.

[@heatherframpton9693]

Thank you, Mel & Vanessa for this insightful & applicable content! ❤

[@ScienceOfPeople]

You're most welcome! 🥰

[@jaelsandra7017]

Love this episode, thank you Mel ❤

[@RedMambaYard]

Highly inspirational and informative! ❤

[@maryhernandez8393]

Mel, I’m obsessed with your podcast. I love your energy ❤

[@DeepakMeena-tq4ri]

Marry don't be silly

[@ShaxruzaDurdiboyeva]

what an amazing podcast. THank you! I agree with you,Mel. Venessa is a relly interesting research! I just jumped from hopelessness to the gratification❤❤❤

[@mabelsto.domingo1824]

Oh my God! I LOVE YOU BOTH. Thank you❤

[@OUMABRIDAL]

Too good! Love this episode a lot. Learned a lot!

[@nineoneoh]

Lovely interview. Thank you so much for this one.

[@fitnessnutrition877]

I absolutely love this lady!

[@judykoss1976]

The best episode ever!!!!

[@gersonberthault3880]

Great interview. Thanks for sharing

[@debzimon4632]

Fantastic interview!! Loved this episode!!

[@jaej34]

Thank you !! I needed this today❤

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Yay! 🧡

[@debbydoodler33]

Wow. So many good takeaways. I have some homework I'm looking forward to doing!!

[@ScienceOfPeople]

That's wonderful to know 🥰

[@teresaheckendorn3871]

This was awesome..gave me goose flesh....

[@ali-ahmed10]

Thank you for the wonderful interview and the information you provided.

[@ScienceOfPeople]

You're most welcome! 🥰

[@uzuetayala12]

HAHAHA I rolled my eyes when she asked the question “what’s your story?” HAHAHA 🤣

[@thefilipinojoe]

My suggestion is never show up anywhere with a feeling of obligation, promise, etc., to stay there longterm. No matter how much you may show up expecting a great time, realize that you are walking into the unknown. Like walking into a blind date.. have an out.. a plan for leaving sooner than you had expected and hoped to. You can even forewarn the host saying I’ll be there but I am unsure how long I’ll be able to stay.. because of xyz. I personally have no problem with getting up and quietly leaving anyplace I am not happy. The secret is to do so quietly and if possible, unseen. ❤

[@HelenHuyenDaoTopAtlantaRealtor]

Love the video 😮

[@Kama4155]

This was really good. Made some mental notes to myself

[@lindsayalright]

@mel I am driving and listening.. and keeping up. Please STOP interruptig Vanessa to de describe the same thing she just did. (Power pose, steepling) just let her talk! We ARE getting it!

[@Drucifer888]

It was Mel Robbins looking around after Van Edwards said to use chairs with arm rests 🤣 she was like “aw damnit” 😂😂😂😂😂

[@sonadoagouei7274]

Hi Dear Mel, i'm a Persian girl living in Germany since 2015. with 26 yo i immgrated alone , studied and now im working as a Manager and all in German Language. eventhogh my German is sooo soof but i am not confident at all to talk in Germany when native people are there , but i talk perfect german when non-Germans are around, i am soooo nervous to talk german on the phone like even i get heart bits with every ring at work, and i donn feel confident even iam really doing great! it would be great if you will talk about the ppl who are working and living with 3 or more languages how to be confident and how to talk and donn be shy .. i am really struggeling with being not native!! i love youre videos.. thank you so much for helping all ppl around the world❤

[@12e_1]

I am a native German and I would love to help you speaking confidently to German natives ❤

[@asdf7711]

Sounds like you are doing a great job. Most people are understanding when you are not a native speaker but I admire anyone who can work in a different language. You need to conquer your fears - what's the worst that can happen?

[@jovoorheescollinsmphbsnbch6245]

Vanessa!!!! Omfg!!!! You just confirmed something I observed in patients for 20 years!!! Our mindset and world orientation is contagious!!!! I have watched this occur in patients at the hospital and nursing home 💯 and I have observed this in my spouse and my children!!! Really excellent tips today!!!! I need to figure out what my A work is....

[@Studio-yv7px]

I love you Mel, Vanessa!!!

[@jhendry6969]

Amazing, thank you Mel and Vanessa❤❤❤❤❤

[@DeepakMeena-tq4ri]

R u jullie rodrix

[@drnadiaanuar]

My two idols ❤❤ Thank you Mel! I love this episode so much! 😍

[@love3mtb]

Her closing comments made me emotional ❤

[@Bouzytsy_Laitra2]

first time i took notes listening to your podcast 🤩

[@sivapriyasanthanam2517]

I am really curious about how this work applies to someone from outside the US or someone who doesn't speak English or isn't used to Western ways of socializing. I am also curious how this information would be helpful for someone who is autistic. I'd love your thoughts and would appreciate it, Mel and Vanessa.

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Oh, I love your curiosity! 🌟 The beauty of cues is that they transcend cultural and linguistic boundaries. These universal signals of warmth and competence can help anyone, anywhere, build connections. For those who are autistic, understanding these cues can offer powerful tools to navigate social interactions with more confidence. It's all about finding your unique style of charisma and making it work for you! Keep exploring, and you'll discover how these insights can enhance your interactions in a way that's authentic to you. 💫

[@erikamagallanes8181]

Thank you Mel, I appreciate this. 💚

[@lisaturner2871]

Great information! Introvert IT geek that is now in Tech Pre-sales. Holy Guac! Thanks ladies!! 😆