Secret Service Agent Explains Psychological Tricks To Read Anyone & Spot A Liar

[@sheilaedwards7152]

I believe EVY was chosen for the position she had in the Secret Service because of her personality was that,she wasn’t looking for power, she wasn’t trying to outshine everybody else, she didn’t want it. What better person to have it.

[@sandygrungerson1177]

but she got dem crazy eyes tho🤣

[@kenjudithglover]

@@sandygrungerson1177 yes! The eyes! They are flat. Like no soul lives there. Good trait for a spy!

[@lynylcullen8370]

She is amazing! This interview was full of great life lessons!!

[@BridgetFitzgerald-w9p]

❤ Exactly, she's amazing!¡! ❤

[@doitallez6518]

Her mind is so sharp

[@hildahambone7277]

Best start with not trusting or believing anyone. Time and observation will eventually reveal their character.

[@Telly-q4u]

It’s definitely about removing that emotional judgement to it too you know

[@angel794]

To me, being more neutral is helpful. As the person reveals who they are, you can begin to form your attitude about them.

[@peterpaton9785]

@@angel794 Trust no one but God.

[@dianethompson6804]

My Mother was so wise. She said " you can't make people do, think, or feel what they don't want to."

[@jzen1455]

Yep, You can inspire but you can't make people do what they don't want to do.

[@healthsecretsofthebible.7004]

Good advice for women who are dating.

[@0annonymous]

But remember though, eventually they're going to have to see the truth Another thing to remember is on Judgement day, we're all going to stand before God

[@michau_12]

Look at muslims, they being manipulated to erase people from the Earth surface, they don't understand this is so wrong. So yes, you can make people do what they don't want themselves.

[@vanessavanessa9381]

Unfortunately, you can 100% it's called propaganda

[@richardyurcak]

I saw Evy on a Diary of a CEO. Evy is fierce. And Mel - thank you for showcasing your authenticity. I love the way I can see my favorite people from your perspective, from what inspires you.

[@Thesantanders]

Yes she definitely has shown that she admires or looks up to in awe to people who appear to have strength and confidence. For me, it's not necessarily confidence that I am seeing displayed with this guest. What I see is someone who is convinced or confident in what it is that she's saying. She's confident in the information that she's providing. I wouldn't suggest reading so much into someone's personality based upon one interview.

[@JustLaurenThanks]

I love Evy. I’ve watched her on several podcasts. It seems like they all pull the same info, ask the same questions differently. I’m 24 minutes into this interview and have already learned new things from her. The magic of Mel Robbins, y’all. Looking forward to the rest of this discussion and will be saving to watch again ❤

[@SummerFace]

Agree love them both 😍 so empowering 👸🏼

[@elzbietapruszynska8647]

😊😊

[@elzbietapruszynska8647]

😊

[@PuzzleVibesAndFeathers]

How do I find Evy on other Podcasts? If it's ok to share it in Mel's comments.

[@danielsmith337]

Lol just search her name ​@PuzzleVibesAndFeathers

[@yuliachesnokov3664]

I have adopted this mantra of “handle your shit” since in my early 20s. While it has been challenging to see it, clean it up and move on, it has propelled me through things I didn’t think otherwise I could move on from. Thank you for the reminder Evy and Mel.

[@jzen1455]

I live by a similar ethos. I used to whine and moan about stupid shit while not doing much to better myself. I was doing more talking (more like indulging in self-pity) than doing. It's fine to talk about problems as they arise, but you have to take action and move on.

[@PrettyLittlePoison]

I say that almost daily, handle your own shit before you become stuck in that rut of shit for the rest of your life

[@beckys8332]

These two women are not just smart and personable, but wise. Thank you for this interview.

[@JenTheTG]

So real

[@Reddragons111]

When she speaks she says everything thats aligned with what i learned about energy. Her energetic boundaries are impeccable.

[@kenzie.fromtherock]

Oooh what did you learn about her energy? I love her energy and composure.

[@s22centuaryfox]

Evy's ethos of mental armour has helped me to get out of a toxic working relationship and think of what is my intention rather than fall at the insults. I've live up to my aim without her power hungry behaviour throwing me off. Cos I wont be part of that game and do whatever to protect myself (my own president). I've had to be my own protector too. And I love the resilience and learning about it. Also love when Evy said she wanted to get into the force had had to go for what she wanted cos she has to live with thr decision everyone else will eventually come around like parents. And better to not have regrets. That really empowered me to close my heart to a bad job. But I'm hopefully now I will find better x

[@FrenchwithVirginie]

I saw Evy on the Diary of a CEO, it’s a pleasure to see her here as well ❤

[@EveMarieGaudreau]

Thanks for this reference.

[@FrenchwithVirginie]

@@EveMarieGaudreau avec plaisir 😊

[@Maral1234sara]

I saw here there first too!

[@rammilanamoatshe4528]

Same here I am here to hear her again

[@chavernytwin16]

Saaaame!! Think I'm addicted to her 😂

[@franzabananza]

I concur. When you listen to your enemies, they tell you what their real fears are and it aint even you

[@tyronegreen6165]

9

[@Gtpl28]

There is not a minute of this interview that isn’t useful. This woman is incredible!!

[@Snugglebit]

Something I heard once and it stuck with me ever since: "If being hard on yourself worked, it would have worked by now."

[@LisaRobinson-we1ms]

I like that one

[@SUNNY-KZY]

😂 did not get it at first, finally I let it sink in. Thank you. I mean it.

[@RocketSpam0]

I loved that quote Evy gave. One of my favorite quotes is..."Whatever is in a man's heart, will come out of their mouth."(Bible) So, listen, look, and watch.

[@pianomi7596]

I observed that often we behave and act like we are on edge even if there is no reason for it... a habit of anxious mind. Confident mind looks for information not for a confirmation of itself being confident.

[@skyleawood2649]

Yes. Very insightful!

[@angel794]

Good point

[@cbak1819]

Trauma from past issues never addressed is why.

[@CatalinaFOIA]

20:15 Gut instinct, being able to read a room and non-verbal cues/micro expressions in the first 10-20 seconds is a great predictor of overall behavior & mannerisms. I love Evy's advice on: feel the energy in the room, pay attention and don't call a person out just read the cues.

[@johannjohann6523]

And when they talk, don't interrupt. Give them plenty of slack like with a fishing pole when you hook a fish. Because for whatever reason, people love talking and telling on themselves thinking it will impress you how they broke the law. Or did something wrong (and didn't get caught). People rarely brag about "doing something right". ("I've been a devoted husband for 5 years". (boring) Instead it's: "I went to this bachelor party in Vegas and whoa boy! Luckily my wife never found out. Shhh.") 99% of all crimes not on video tape are figured out because someone "talked". The truth always comes out. It's whether you happen to be there or not when it happens. People love telling about the things they have done wrong in the world. So let them. And you my good friend, keep them lips buttoned up! lol

[@pennycaldwell8141]

Non verbal communication interpretation is more art than science.

[@jacobgustafson1349]

Apparently a kid on a rooftop with an AR-15 isn’t enough of a non-verbal communication

[@Monipenny1000]

This interview is packed full of solid information, but most importantly, incredibly validating. Thank you! I come from a family full of deceitful, manipulative liars to marrying into one in 1988. Enough years to know my gut has been right all along. Thank you! I will be watching this interview again to boost my confidence.

[@mysticpeace]

This was better than having a personal session with a life coach! Great interview! A+ So grateful for both of you for this content!!

[@JLTravels]

Evy is amazing…I’ve watched multiple interviews & learn something new each time!

[@SherryTomlinson-mk7gm]

I’ve watched her a few times. A tough and beautiful woman. I wonder how tall she I? 5’5’ to 5’7”let me add very intelligent too.

[@adgreene]

Yes - a true gift!

[@catalhuyuk7]

@@SherryTomlinson-mk7gm Being Greek Evy might be short in stature but she’s a giant in character. See those stilettos she’s wearing?

[@HH-gv8mx]

I need this woman to give me a makeup tutorial. For real.

[@adgreene]

@@HH-gv8mx Agreed! :)

[@mc7playatease]

I love that beautiful, bright and brazen Athena did not have to shoot anyone! Thank you for broadening the notion of what a beauty can be: divine feminine who loves so deeply she protects what she values, holding her own, now nurturing via sharing wisdom gained. bless you

[@agnieszkaschulz2962]

That’s where people lose their confidence by being with the wrong people (family,friends or strangers)We so into others opinions that we forget that we have a say about our life.We more care about losing people from our life then losing own life to others..Fascinating talk .Thank you .❤

[@Pizzarules]

Evy is remarkably thoughtful, which I hadn’t expected given the little bit of backstory I’d read before listening to this and this first time I’m encountering her work. Remarkable because there are many larger truths and lessons we can glean from our everyday lives, but it’s so focus intensive and mental vigor to get those from our everyday lives, especially because it’s easy to rest on the initial or heuristic way we manage the normal. Evy is, to me, sort of heroic in the discipline she has in keeping herself open to radical shifts in perception, in noticing what others don’t and what others won’t. Lies are motivated deceptions, and that motivation is secondary to any revelation or detection of deception. Evy can see all of that at once, which is extraordinary but also deeply invested, kind even. Great episode

[@janineh378]

What a phenomenal guest, I’m hooked!

[@Theresa_52]

Both Mel and Evy are incredible. Such inspirational women. Thank you!

[@blessedAriesGoddess]

Agreed

[@HaHa-tb9hd]

I really love Evy's personalities: calm and empathetic but strong when needed. If I could only have 5% of her, my life would be much positively different. Her appearance is great but her personalities are greater. I'm a new fan of hers.

[@SimMdluli]

After watching this I felt like it was my mother I never had guiding me to do anything that I want with my life I'm not saying my mother doesn't do that😅 I love you Mom❤.... Best video I watched today, absolutely loved it 🎉❤

[@godiva348]

One of the best guests ever! This episode saved my sanity at such a critical time and got my spirit back on track! Thanks to both Mel & Evy for a life enhancing 80 min of such worthwhile information!

[@lolakathol4109]

Great video! I have met people who make me feel uncomfortable by yawing, while I’m talking. This to me is so rude. It makes me think… am I boring?! I quickly end the conversation. People who look away often is another sign to exit. Thanks !😄

[@GlitterSparkleJacque]

I didn’t think you could help yawning. I always just say I’m sorry…

[@GMRG6]

⁠@@GlitterSparkleJacquei think it’s more about knowing the manners + respect to cover your yawn gracefully vs overtly yawning like you’re alone

[@JeanettaSwanepoel]

I have a daughter in-law that is compulsive lier and i also have a ability to read people not always but i look at the eyes and body not only her a lot of people but i am gullible

[@JeanettaSwanepoel]

What can I do and i leave it somtimes cause it tires me out

[@barbarahall5514]

My dad use to say….”Get your shit together!!!!” Another way of saying “Handle your shit!!” And it worked! Happy healthy whole at 63!!!!!!

[@Lele-un7oy]

❤️

[@tucky2297]

Now that's funny! My son has his first child at 43 years . When my grandson would cry uncontrollably. My son would say HE HAS LOST HIS SHIT!😂

[@kenjudithglover]

@@tucky2297 in the 60's, we used to say "get your shit together!"…I still say it

[@jbirdz3609]

Really needed that pep talk on bravery & confidence! Action first. You don’t learn from winning you ultimately learn from your losses 🙏

[@TheStarisis]

I felt like I got permission to rely upon my observations, I would dismiss what I saw for what I heard. Powerful interview I got ALOT out of this thank you!

[@bearteeka4782]

So much truth, even just about halfway through it. Politicians do that thing where they don't answer the question but speechify for a few minutes about distantly related accomplishments they want accolades for. And I love the advice to just pull out of the relationship without announcing it and without calling out the person. No need for that drama. Just go on and be happy. You don't owe them that, and they don't owe you whatever satisfaction you would get from calling them out.

[@godiva348]

Your last line is spot on!!

[@HH-gv8mx]

So just ghost people?

[@allaboutme2024]

I thought the same - politicians came to mind first

[@nancyberger4975]

Totally agree 💯

[@carlyd.9662]

I learned not to call people out. My sister on the other hand can call me out anytime and I can with her. Makes us more self-aware of our behaviors and actions. Thank goodness for sisters (close ones anyway)

[@Viviebby]

I have this relationship with my sister too I thank God every day for it, its life’s biggest blessing x

[@gwendolynholland8220]

She has made me realize that my confidence means more than I ever thought it would. I am unsure most of the time. I always hid behind the ugly skinny shy person I thought I was.

[@tango7660]

First time I've seen your show. Wow you are amazing! A great interviewer, authentic and so well spoken. You trust what you want to know is also what your audience wants to know. I already knew Eve P. and learn so much every time she speaks. Thank you and thanks to Eve.

[@nicholacarr969]

I love to hear you interview people Mel, you are so respectful and you don’t keep interrupting them!

[@anniemartin4128]

Omg this lady is amazing, I learned so much from this session about myself and how to deal with people and myself in the process. Oh god this was so hard to hear but so true to how it resonated with me .. Thank you, I will handle my stuff.. I could hug you😢😢Thank you Mel you are such an inspiration.

[@donnashaw6890]

I could listen to this lady all day. She makes sense. ❤

[@tikicaelle]

I honestly cannot say just how powerful this episode was…just WOWWWWWW!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@jenblied9193]

Evy Poumpouras is the voice in my head after reading her book and following her on many podcasts. She's a true badass, one with grace and virtue. Loved her book and love her. Lucky to have her on your show. She's the real deal 👍

[@Zuqui-fr3yg]

Refreshing to see a real woman full of courage, expertise, charisma, intelligence, and above average confidence👏 Great interview 👍🥇

[@vivienne2221]

I admire her❤

[@samsonsansan4193]

this is a great conversation and exchange; it s so beautiful seeing 2 persons able to listen to each other, instead of the tipical male influencer talking all the time

[@BluieBeth]

Evy has been my hero and inspiration for years! I love listening to her and learning from her. I am quite the opposite of her but I do have an “inner Evy.” Lol My bucket list definitely consists of one day meeting her and attending some of her classes. She is so real and so smart not to mention absolutely beautiful…inside and out. Great guest Mel! ❤️👏👏👏

[@angeslinda]

Wow just came across Evy only yesterday. Amazing woman! Human behaviour and nature is so important and so much to learn! Thank you for this interview Mel.

[@boykaangelov9384]

This podcasts was with most genuine, authentic presence from both parties! It was a pleasure watching it. Great job

[@brandonhogan6072]

Mel thank you so much for having Evy on your podcast. I have Inattentive ADHD and have similar struggles to what Mel experiences and it was nice to hear the advice she got from Evy.

[@katiecolwin102]

Evy is amazing! Thanks for having her! I haven't heard or seen Mel interview before and I'm just as impressed with her. She said she was exhausted, but but...wow! She was SO present! It's amazing to watch someone that is that skilled at what they do, so in her element! She contributed just as much to the conversation as Evy. This was an amazing interview on both sides. Thanks! Very inspiring.

[@kangeyKangey]

stop wasting your time and go read forbidden manifestation by zara blackthorn. your future self will thank you.

[@hackff5595]

started reading it yesterday too

[@Freefiregamer-w8o]

heard about it before, thanks for sharing!

[@Anticherist]

read it a few days ago, its great

[@mdAlam-ch8qc]

I finished that book 2 weeks ago and I can say that is amazing book. Would also recommend it.

[@dfhioke2296]

I found out about Evy just several days ago and I enjoy listening to her in all the video interviews I could find with her as the guest. She is so consistent and she narrates very well. This was also made possible by having good interviewers like Mel. I always feel that Evy is verbalizing everything in my mind. Often, I feel that she is me.😊 Thanks for this .

[@lorrainedevlin6409]

Some people are shy,because growing up they were always being told off for stupid stuff. Shy people can from time to time break eye contact,like look at the wall or the floor.

[@Ironbird03]

Thanks

[@leoteruel9356]

Thank you Evy and Mel. That was wonderful

[@jadenvicenzi6847]

Watching Evy speak encourages me to perform in my relationships at work and in my personal life. Thank you for all of the wisdom.

[@barbarapfister2293]

Thanks!

[@carolannstevens5814]

I need this as I have been in an abusive marriage … should have done this many years ago! Thank you both!

[@ishantshanu9918]

Evy is the kind of woman everyone guy wants in his life ❤. Her see through skills can really heal and give warmth.

[@terrymoore3978]

Wow! Amazing podcast. So much for me to learn. By my age, 60+, I thought I would know more than I do! Thank you.

[@mariettap322]

I’ve watched several interviews of Evy but Mel raised the bar. Great questions, Mel.

[@cassiepoorman268]

I freakin love this woman! I found her on another podcast and listened to them back to back. I’m going to order her book as well. So much of what she’s about resonated so much with me. It’s so funny Mel said she’s speaking directly to her because I felt the exact same way! Two amazing women!

[@2ndwavestrength]

Mel you and Evy are amazing communicators and I literally sat on the edge of my chair watching and listening and rewatching and sharing. I loved it when you said you have been watching all of Evy’s interviews “like a stalker” because I am the same. I now give her book to my friends and family for all occasions especially graduation or house warming gifts. Mel keep up the great job you are doing! ❤

[@HH-gv8mx]

I need this woman to give me a makeup tutorial. For real.

[@2ndwavestrength]

@@HH-gv8mx me too!

[@markodejanovic1635]

Love Evy, I'm following her for couple of years. This episode has something.... I'm beyond inspired, filled with positive energy and most important empowered. Much love from Balkan (Europe) ❤

[@Chaneldelarosaa]

More people need to hear this! Doing creates bravery and not the overway around.

[@albertobotero7595]

Great interview. I love your honesty and vulnerability, Mel, especially when you shared that Evy came to talk directly to you. It's not our gut that we need to listen to most of the time, but rather, we need to risk not being liked by the decisions we make. We don't like to go through emotional pain or discomfort, so we ignore our conclusions and hope things improve without risking disapproval. Alternatively, we seek validation of our intel from others to shift the burden onto them, avoiding responsibility. So, what should we do? Trust our conclusions. If we make a mistake, we can always apologize. Risk not being liked in the moment. We won’t die, and the relationship probably won't either. Relationships are built on conflict.

[@xannaz9226]

I love listening to her, that clear confidence is very attractive.

[@valleygirl2530]

My finding these brilliant women wasn’t an accident. I needed their messages to penetrate my hard head. It’s amazing how one’s own mind can get stuck in “idle” or even “reverse” mode maybe because it feels easier. NO. Keep an open mind always, the more stuck I am the more I need to change things up. Thanks to ALL the smart women on KZbin 🥰

[@GeminiTwinning]

I love watching interviews with Evy. She is such an interesting person and a serious female role model. Sometimes I think, What would Evy do? And it gives me confidence. Also, love to Mel!

[@MelDaHide]

Thank you for sharing this conversation. I loved every bit of this. Listening to Evy's words about steadiness in behavior, speech, and emotion resonated with me deeply. We create our own path and learn every step of the way, and confidence is earned by taking the road less traveled. Remembering that you are 50% of the equation in any interaction reminds me of the saying "you attract more bees with honey instead of vinegar." Thank you both for this enlightening video.

[@loubossejr.2830]

Now this is a pure example of two, strong, intelligent, charismatic LEADERS who would make an incredible United States Presidential ticket for the next eight years! I wouldn't blame you for having no personal interest in that thought! LOL! Thank you so much for your brutal honesty and incredible way of teaching us some very important life lessons and invaluable interpersonal tips. Wishing you both joy and continued success in your life journeys. Love, JR

[@mimiontube]

This is the best one yet. Evy is fantastic.

[@joleenla8045]

Mel and team, I love all your podcasts. This was one, for me, was outstanding! Powerful in so many ways. Thank you!

[@lorrainedevlin6409]

She is so spot on with advice.

[@flooferwoofenschnizz3858]

Evy is aaaamaaaazing!! I thought I was really good at reading ppl but she’s taught me some things!! 💛🙏😊 She’s a treasure.

[@susiedalon8263]

Omg this really hit home for me Mel and Evy!!..I've been so drawn to Evys interviews since l came across her. Mel your interviewing skills and questions you asked were exceptional in the understanding of ourselves, people around us and for life in general! Thankyou ever so incredibly much to the both of you for This life transforming podcast!! I'll be listening to it again taking notes and sharing it. So much gratitude and love to the both of you ❣❤❤❣

[@christinevandenberg8]

No cubilce! ❤🎉my dad was a marine in Korea and a NYCF. The last 5 yrs of his career, Rescue 4. His nickname was "the incredible bul." I still remember he would always sit with his arms crossed, the back and forth jokes, however, he was a tough SOB. Thank you for serving & sharing. 🎉

[@RhondaWills-o9q]

O U T S T A N D I N G guest and interview. Thank you, Mel, for bringing top talent to feed your audience. I appreciate you.

[@carlyd.9662]

I LOVE EVY, I'm reading her book becoming bulletproof right now.

[@djtomlinson3797]

First time I've heard of Evy. Wow! Fascinating podcast! Now, off now to purchase Evy's book. Thank you, Mel and Evy. 🤩

[@EP-kt5sl]

Wowwwww, two of my faves together. What an impactful episode! This is everything I needed today.

[@RocketSpam0]

Thank you Mel......great choice for a guest.

[@davidl9781]

Wow and wow!! I was riveted to this podcast from beginning to end. Evy is great. Mel, you're great. This helped me tremendously and I'm glad I listened to what you had to say at the end. I will share this with others!

[@ChrissyMiami]

What a smart lady. Very poised and emotionally intelligent.

[@D.GB-k9o]

I can’t express how much I wished for this collaboration to happen 😍💪

[@Mariek54901]

Love Evy watched her on like tons of podcasts she's so honest ❤

[@Rani.Dutta.]

This is the best episode so far, one of my most favourites.

[@Dwightinho56]

Love Evy, seen her on several shows and eventually bought her book. If you have serious life experience, good instincts and antennas, able to read the room, guts and disipline I guess a lot of what she describes would be applicable to complete a good foundation to master your surroundings. On top of that obviously comes brilliant training.

[@MrRatMommy]

1:13:20 handle your shit dont avoid problems 1:15:37 greek quote 18:10 WOW. you do what you need but take ownership and responsibility and close the scar. i adore this moment!!!!

[@simsimahmadi9133]

Love her book which I'm reading now Bullet Proof...she's humble and a go-getter. Her main take to me is this: she believes in herself and works her ass off❤

[@DebsMcCoy]

I’m reading Evy’s book too. I was in tears within the first few pages. She’s not reached where she has without a LOT of loss, trauma, fear, bloody hard work and experience from growing up to within her field of work. Incredibly strong, intelligent, brave and gutsy woman. I have the upmost respect for her 🙏❤️

[@allaboutme2024]

Wow - I was leaned in the entire time. Life changing to "handle your shit". Life changing to move from people who don't. Thanks again Mel for another amazing podcast !!

[@lavendercloud2174]

Mel, Mel, Mel! Thank you in so many ways for you being you! Thank you, Evy, for sharing your knowledge and expertise. Now to be brave enough! Is this the sign of our times? Those that we may never actually meet are the most important to our well-being?

[@Onebetter20]

Very insightful interview. Wow what an incredible person Evy is. Such a big reminder of so much for me.

[@67oldcoach]

Great interview. She has great wisdom I feel. And… all my life I have been called ‘so confident’ … oh so untrue… But ‘brave’, yes! And what is bravery.. doing the thing that must be done although you feel afraid and scared.

[@heathercody46]

So much wisdom ❤Great podcast

[@jessica-ott]

Incredible conversation.... helped me self reflect to see where I am also out of congruence in my own life- and how I can live more authentically and lean into trusting myself more. Thank you xo 💜

[@michaelakraus7161]

What a pleasant voice on top of her fantastic delivery of interesting information 😊

[@user-mt7fo5bg8v]

wow! incredible interview so much clarity...🤯🤯🤯 thank you ladies!

[@nancyberger4975]

Hi, I listened to her on a different site yesterday and she said she started in the New York police dept., so how is it she has not had a criminal justice class.??? Doesn't make sense. She is very intelligent for sure. Truths and errors , very interesting . Can learn a lot from her.!!!

[@kathyleanewerner7382]

Mel-thanks for another amazing guest. I love everything about her. So intelligent and so inspirational. Off to get this book!!

[@lorrainedevlin6409]

I can keep eye contact,but if a person is looking me an intense way sometimes it activates my shyness,depending on the person they are.

[@vivienne2221]

Introvert😂

[@isJudgingYou]

I LOVE Evy and rly look up to her. Ty for having her on!