4 Ways to Stay Calm When You’re Stressed: This Life Advice Will Change Your Future

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In today’s episode, you’re going to learn 4 pieces of advice that will help you act confident when you're stressed, be fearless under pressure, reach your potential, and unlock the magic in your life.
If you can’t stop procrastinating, are battling self-doubt, or you just need a reminder that you’re stronger than you think, then this is the episode for you.
And if you know someone who’s not living up to their potential because they keep procrastinating on the actions they need to take, send them this episode and let Mel give them the motivation they need.
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In this episode:
00:00 Intro
03:45: Why The Mel Robbins Podcast listeners are the BEST.
04:40: What got Mel SO excited.
06:00: You get the opportunity of a lifetime but you want to turn it down?
10:50: Why you get mad at people you love who aren’t taking initiative.
13:40: Expect this response when you confront people who are avoiding.
15:50: You avoid lifetime opportunities because of this.
17:25: Do this when someone you love is backing away from opportunities..
19:45: Be prepared and expect this as a response.
21:10: Life Lesson #1: use these 4 words when you’re stopped by fear.
27:00: Fast forward to Carnegie Hall, and what a surprise this was.
29:10: Does your anxiety look like this too?
34:00: Lesson #2: The BEST thing to do when you’re feeling stressed.
38:20: Here’s what the science says about a good scream.
45:15: Phil Cook is a phenomenal artist; listen to his music clip here.
46:55: The 5 minutes that Mel held her breath in awe.
49:00: The moment designer Leanne Ford’s kindness saved the day.
50:05: Life lesson #3: What if you lived your whole life like this?
51:30: The text exchange between two women supporting each other.
54:25: Life lesson #4: Instead of your phone, get your memories this way.
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[@Belovelyava]

Man, please tell your daughter thank you for allowing you to tell that inspiring,intimate moment/memory. That’s what life is all about, these precious moments.

[@delmasanchez4845]

😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😅p😮😊

[@floraboraamor]

Mel the elevator scream was not the only thing powerful. You being there, accepting her as was, and allowing her to scream is huge. You showed her she was loved and accepted. I grew up with unemotional parents I have lost it like your daughter but instead of love I received shame. I am so proud of you for being there for your daughter to allow her to express her emotions without judgement!

[@user-qx5sj7ef6e]

Very true!

[@clinton6631]

Wow Wow Wow !!!! Love you also Mel your daughter was awesome. Oh my goodness God bless you and your family. Thank you so much for being such an encourager and never hold him back. You have a ministry that breaks the racial burials go beyond. God bless you, Clinton.

[@NoBSAffiliateCoaching]

Facts

[@WenOotje]

Who is cutting onions!!! Thank you for sharing this❤

[@NajaalaK]

I cried the whole show I guess because I can relate to your daughter. As a singer I too have fear, worry and anxiety. Listening to the podcast motivated me to pick up my gift and start singing. “It’s not that DEEP”.

[@Jchilcoatva]

Mel this story gave me chills, made me laugh, lifted my spirits and taught me a great lesson. This was one of my favorite episodes EVER !

[@mitzihobot]

I’ve been sitting in the Costco parking lit for 45 minutes unable to stop watching or stop the tears - what an inspiration. The gift of recognizing the emotional state of another - whether your Mel or Leanne - and reacting with grace and with kindness and then there’s the “leaning in.” Those were my take aways. And in kind of an opposite way - they felt kinda deep. Maybe that’s the point - deep is were the love is. Everything else - not so much. Sncere love to you for sharing your incredible experience. I’m so inspired.

[@Anastasia_Boura]

I could listen to Mel Robins for hours… just amazing! Thank you so much 💞🤩

[@paulalee2345]

Me too 😊

[@NoBSAffiliateCoaching]

Same

[@amywilloughby8019]

I felt like I was listening to a close friend telling the detailed story of her daughter. I'm so proud for Kendall and for you. I was tearful and excited and can't wait to see all the great things she gets into. Love you Mel

[@danielahofmeister1671]

Sooo amzing❤ thank you two❤❤

[@livingwellwithhealthandfit2462]

❤❤❤​@@danielahofmeister1671

[@user-uc5ik9co3k]

Wow wow wow… the power of kindness from a stranger, and unconditional love from a mother. 💕🥰😢

[@yogalover7373]

It’s been two weeks listening to this podcast in the mornings before going to work, and I can’t believe how your energy, your words, your amazing interviews, Mel, has changed the way I see life now. 🙏🏻❤

[@lauriehancock3974]

What a beautiful episode! As I prepare for my first born to graduate college next month. I’m reflective on all she has over come to get here, the tears the hard work and this episode moved me to tears for both her and I. THANK YOU!

[@JLTravels]

“It’s not that deep”! Awesome! Yes, we spiral 🌀 into our negative emotions, stress skyrockets, & mental paralysis overwhelms us. DEEP breathing exercises are my remedy, then writing down a step by step process to move forward. Thanks for this insight!

[@findingaway5512]

Loved that too. ☺️ Especially because it feels like drowning in situations when you are spiralling. I can picture someone in a creek thinking they are drowning when all they have to do is realize they can stand up and be fine. And people are yelling from the side. It's not that deep. ❤❤❤

[@caitlyncooper7966]

Uùu

[@michellenapoli2065]

Oh my gosh Mel, you have got to be so proud! Your daughter is so gifted! I just love her voice! I just love your podcast, too!! You always know what to say and when…‘it’s not that deep!!’ Thanks for sharing your light with us all!❤

[@PilatesbyGina]

The “what if’s” can paralyze us! But “it’s not that deep” is such a healing phrase. Not everything needs to be taken so seriously. Love you Mel!!!! Thank you!!!!

[@akjoseph6533]

Freakin love this episode. Huge fan of Mel & Leanne. Im listening to it while I renovate my PA river cottage that is inspired by the Fords. Love This story. Goosebumps the whole time I listened. Thank you thank you for sharing. We life fully when we live with an open heart. May we all give selflessly to each other as in this story ♥️Mel Kendall Leanne & Ever♥️

[@sheliascott8208]

Mel, you're an amazing storyteller!! I could see and feel every word. Kendall is incredibly gifted!! Love her storytelling, too❤ You should have Leanne Ford on your show. She, too, is breathtakingly gifted!! Thank you for sharing...utterly enthralled. Peace and blessings to you, Mel and yours.

[@barbaramunro5961]

I laughed and cried with you! What a great storyteller you are 🙌 today's gift for all of us is Leanne Ford ❤

[@mc5366]

Mel what a fabulous story with jewels of experiences! Congratulations to Kendall. 👏💛 Pants off to women who show such genuine kindness!!

[@ninijellybeanie6853]

I couldn’t resist….. I went to listen to Kendall’s song and it was AWESOME!!!!! Love both her voice and her writing skills!!!

[@EVOLr]

I loved the song and put on my favorites. Great song.

[@Faran1352]

I cried when you said "I Love You" and I realized how much I needed today.....

[@myastone6069]

There's absolutely no way I could put on the exact pants someone just had on, but what an amazing gesture! I'm so glad it had a positive impact.

[@JourneyWithJewell1225]

This episode has me in tears. Oh my heart. I enjoyed this so much. Her voice is so angelic gave me chills on the sound check. 🖤🙏🏽

[@karenbailey2435]

This was a beautiful story Mel. I could feel your excitement for Kendell. It brought tears to my eyes. What beautiful moment between Leeann and yourself. We need more moments like that to uplift humanity as a whole collective.

[@ivygueco8224]

I’m crying tears of joy and pride for Kendall and especially YOU Mel! There aren’t many moments in life that are perfect but I’d have to say this is most definitely one of them and you’ll get to cherish it in your heart forever ♥️

[@eckomartichuski6551]

I listen to your podcast every single morning! This was, by far, the best episode! Amazing!

[@leeleeonthemove]

If you not talking about ME!!! I’m listening and thinking, this is exactly how I’ve been feeling lately, allowing fear and my emotions to drive me!! I love this phrase and will tell it to myself when I feel the imposter coming to visit! Thank you!

[@GailFernandez]

Mel this is beautiful people are kind and loving. I cried thru this with happiness and love knowing my husband is most likely getting layed off from work. People are good Thank you and thank your daughter for letting you share this made my day❤️❤️❤️

[@katiewright2232]

I think the real truth of the matter is in these situations we stay out of it - eyes off of them! - and completely “just let them.“. “Just let them.” This is not about us in these situations. If we are “confused,” that is on us. At that point, it’s for us to go inward and ask our self the question “what’s in this for me that I am driving this so hard?” Yes, of course, we want what’s best for the people we love, but only those people know in any given moment what is best for them - and it is their journey to figure out what that is

[@irmaestrada5675]

Beautiful beautiful episode. The way you described your daughter got me teary eyed. 😢 Congrats Kendall.

[@user-bx9ht7oz7f]

Your daughter's voice is spellbindingly beautiful!

[@menkedejong9968]

Yes it is and it stays with you ( me) long time after. Sort of echos in your ( my ) head. Only great singers have that impact. 🥰

[@alexfantor]

Mel I always wished I had a mom like you, but you really are a mom to me, all the love, inspiration and lessons I have received from you I just don’t have enough words to thank you! 🙏🏻

[@gracechoi6537]

This episode literally made me cry like a baby. The kindness people have is so inspiring and touching. Thank you so much for sharing this story with us. I appreciate you! ❤️

[@nancysmith1453]

So happy for you as a mother, Mel. You made me cry!

[@user-np5dk7ul8s]

Kendall's voice is amazing! Mel - thank you!

[@user-us9uu2wj7s]

Beautiful song! Thank you for sharing your life with us!

[@user-vm3mi6sp8y]

Mel, you could definitely do some more audio books! Your passion and feeling in your voice is captivating! Thank you for guiding us on everyday situations it adds so much value. ❤

[@danahcorrigan6234]

Beautiful episode Mel… Mother daughter relationships are delicate , fragile and precious. My singer daughter and I went through similar experiences, and I cherish everytime I was in the audience. She went onto do other things ..in a big way! I think because she had a vision, because I learned to be the sounding board. May you continue to be an active participant in your daughter’s world…it’s one of the best feelings. She sang so beautifully, I feel your absolute pride.

[@LouiseBergeron-mh3eu]

Just ❤ the great story about woman cheering another woman and supporting each other - very touching moment 💗

[@kimberleeswanson8001]

Thank you for sharing this experience! My tears have been flowing throughout your pod cast. These are tears of happiness and excitement first for Kendall. For having the opportunity and the strength to fulfill a dream. Secondly for you to be able to watch your daughter spread her wings and soar! I loved how much emotion that you had in sharing this life experience. You always throw in a life lesson for all of us along with tips and tricks on how to make our lives better. I have used many of your suggestions in my own life and I thank you for that. In this message I feel that God is giving you back this time for what you do for so many others. I will share this pod cast with friends and family. Many of us Listen to you. If nobody has told you today. I love you!

[@wanderingearthgardeners]

As a proud mother of a talented videography/photographer daughter I felt this episode so hard! She actually taught ME when to put the camera down. Nothing better than moments like this! Thank you Mel for a good cry and an amazing heart warming episode. Now I need to call my daughter and tell her I love her and how proud I am of her! ❤

[@whatlifeisabout]

Brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful and kind lesson. ❤

[@kamilagryziewcz413]

You are an incredible mum Mel and Kendall is so lucky she is your daughter. Loved watching it and how inspirational you both are ❤

[@christopherasimakopoulos6768]

Lol… loved the story. You really got me at the pants. I cried tears of joy. That is so hear opening. Tears of gratitude. ❤ you are such an amazing mother on sidelines with your daughter. I had chills listening to your daughter sing. Wow! 🙏❤️

[@ritcha02]

Oh my gosh Mel when you were telling the bit where you arrived into the rehearsal post scream and you played in the music as you spoke - one of the most powerful and emotional things I’ve ever heard on a podcast.

[@comfycozyfaerie]

This was the most beautiful story. Thank you for sharing wisdom and the beautiful experience your daughter and you got to share. I had tears over how beautiful it all was. ❤

[@edalong1064]

Oh Mel, wow, wow, wow, what a fantastic story! What a fantastic evening and what incredible synchonicities, please bring Leanne Ford on, who she is shines through you and this beautiful event in mega watt energy and joy! Wow! I just went to Crate and Barrel to see her new collection, its stunning, just as you decribe her to be! Thank you ... I love your podcasts, you and the transparent, real, open, honest and fun way you present and share, teach. I share you constantly! Blessings and love! Big Gratitude!!!!

[@MiB-in9bi]

Mel has come to my life in a time where I thought I’ve been hurt, abused and used and that’s all I’m worth. She’s allowed me to see things differently, made things make sense, shown me that I am worth it and that I can be more than those who have hurt/left me. I praise her from the rooftops!! Just sent this video to my sister who is going thru life’s moments, I’m praying that she too will be moved by Mel!

[@shawnadabomb]

Thank you! Ironically before I was listening to this I screamed in the shower from needing to relieve stress. Love the story! Also my mind has been racing over my next steps in life so your phrase helps. So much love ❤

[@marenbrekke]

Oh my goodness, Mel. As I wipe away the tears streaming down my face, I feel the love and echo LeAnn’s sentiments.

[@Cricketchirps39]

What a song. Her heartbreak comes through. Peace and Love to you and Kendall and family!

[@kaydabot9368]

My mommy issues really came out with this video. It was so emotional and beautiful, and the support and love you have for your daughter is incredible. I'm still deeply hurt by my mom (great aunt, my mother and father abandoned me) not showing up while or after I gave birth to my daughter. I had to bring my baby to her three weeks later. Every woman needs their mother during such an important, impactful event.

[@omnibenevolence85]

Geez. My sister told me to start listening to your podcasts to help me out of this mental rut I'm in...this was the first one and I just balled my eyes out about 4 times.

[@loriswilson725]

Stop it! I’m crying !! I loved all of this. You’re amazing and appreciate all you do. It’s like having coffee with a really really good friend.

[@reneehicks2718]

I just showed Kendall's performance to my 1 year old granddaughter and she was memorized with her song and never took her eye off Kendall. Thank you for sharing!❤

[@SpatchG]

So happy for Kendall, how amazing!

[@sheriMonforte]

Thank you Mel for making me cry again! So wonderful that you shared all of this, God Bless

[@findingaway5512]

Love the scream story. Another great thing is laughing! There are actually laugh therapists.... Or something like that. They do laugh exercises and even if you fake laugh it tricks your brain and turns into real laughing. 😂 I love laughing to get me out of a funk or stressed state. In case someone needs a less emergency situation inducing option. 😜

[@margaretjongebloed5888]

The emotions I felt with this story were indescribable! From relating to the feelings you felt as a mom to the feelings of fear your daughter felt. What an incredible story with such wonderful lessons! I need to remember for myself and for my children, “it’s not that deep”! Thank you Mel! You’re a gift to us all!

[@pd4887]

Such beautiful song and voice, so happy for you both Mel!❤❤❤

[@anastasijakostic9043]

I just started crying by listening to this.. Thank you so so much Mel, you helped me A LOT! Wish to be able to meet you and your daughter one day. Greetings from one musician to another 🥰

[@TL-ex8fz]

Mel your daughter is amazing ❤ what a beautiful song, a beautiful voice, a beautiful woman and a lovely story. Thanks for sharing it.

[@isabelleaufrecht8993]

I was so moved and overwhelmed by your story that I started crying at the part of the lion's roar in the elevator and kept crying through the story. Thank you so much for your passion to encourage us all to find the beginning of the path of our passion. May God bless you. I love you, too!❤

[@p2nice680]

What a great way to start my week, thank you Mel ❤

[@stellaaplin7899]

I totally agree its best to be in the moment than record it , as you mis out the experience , thanks Mel

[@alejandraschmidt9383]

Mel, The story, oh my!! I had to stop listening at least ten times to avoid crying. I could picture my daughter and I creating such an amazing memory and how much support will be provided by me. This has been the best episode by far. I absolutely loved it.

[@pkasenetz]

I am not sure why this amazing story made me emotional but I am crying

[@cjones0921]

As always this episode is incredibly helpful. I recognize my frustrations with my strong desire to help. Also, the annoyance of people asking me questions when I am stressed about a new situation. Your podcasts help me and also help with my relationships. I scream when I am alone in the car. It does allow you to feel better. I always laugh at myself afterward. Such a beautiful singer. Thank you both! Being in the moment is always more important.

[@susanc8749]

Omg tears rolling down my face….While I’m putting on my makeup! Truly the best story EVER! Your daughter is amazing! Wishing her so much success! ❤

[@JessicaDickson-tn8dv]

At 8:11 I burst into tears because I have stood at open doors for 24 hours or more just paralyzed... WAY TOO MANY TIMES! no more Mel 😭😭!

[@fionaTK3005]

Mel, first at all, many many congratulations for your daughter!! To me everything goes so slow and I see it too far to get to my goal. On the other hand, it’s too hard to get emotional support from your own family. When I am feeling down they drain me even more when I share my feelings. They’re nagging me or comparing or sometimes looking down on me not succeeding.

[@kmartinson-bw7sz]

Mel Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful family with us.

[@Mariaebb]

Mel I am currently on freeze mode towards my goals. This testament has truly come in at the right time. I prayed to god for help and here you are. I didn’t feel like listening at the beginning of the episode because I don’t feel like doing the right thing right now. I feel like my own worst enemy right now. I feel sad instead of frustrated. This is having me in a victim state mindset, like girl move! Go study get ahead of it all. Thank you Mel for being you and doing the what you do. I do the scream sometimes, but it’s more like a loud Stop it! And it truly does create a shift in my mood and focus. It’s great!

[@CourtenayRogers]

I love watching you love your kids and teach us these lessons. I'm so grateful for you!

[@jillwagner1477]

Thank you for sharing your experience with your daughter. The pants and the message from Leanne was so heartwarming. I was balling 😭 ♥️ it was so good. Also, I can so relate to the interactions between you and your daughter. Stressful, comical, joyful, all the feels! 😊

[@nydiatremblay8319]

The letter from Lean Fort made me cry. It was beautiful. You could feel the emotions radiate off you.

[@kary82167]

Hi Mel I actually came here to your channel 1 year ago with the only intention of listening content in english, because learn a second language is one of my purposes I'm achieving my goal, and not only that but i have learned so many tools for my day to day. Thanks for that. I just wanted you to know. Greetings from Mexico 🇲🇽

[@wendyalbrecht3375]

Hi Mel, was almost finished listening to this (your) podcast when my instinct and curiosity got the best of me - I had to find Kendall’s song (if it was there…) on KZbin! Tah dah!! And badda bing…there it was! She is wonderful Mel! All of her dedication is paying off 😌Wishing her and you a blissful, healthy, joy-filled future! 🌟❤️🌟❤️🌟

[@RomeleeGoodpaster]

Literally was having a rough morning, this episode helped me get through it❤ I have a stage daughter as well, and I know exactly how you were feeling. She has a beautiful voice and I was sooo moved by her performance. Great job mom!❤

[@user-qx5sj7ef6e]

The episode of your podcast is not over yet, so i am still listening, but can't wait to share how thankful i am) Brilliant blend of love, psychology and storytelling. Thank you! ❤

[@suzannapenichetti1860]

What an incredible experience for all of you! It brought tears of joy to me. LeAnne is right. Thank you for sharing. God bless

[@chrisihouck8393]

I needed this one…”it’s not that deep!” Thank you! AND I was so teary.. so many times listening to this one on Audible earlier today, I will be sharing! Seems like the imposter syndrome episode was just yesterday! WAY TO BE Kendall and WAY TO GO Mom! Cheering for you both! ❤

[@karinroos1980]

Tears flowing, Mel this was magical!!! Best podcast EVER!! You affirm where I am at the moment stepping like Kendall into greatness, dealing with the FEAR but grasping the amazing opportunities coming my way. Please NEVER stop being our friend Mel. Love you back

[@janehurge8517]

What beautiful lessons and I'm crying by the end. Women supporting women is beyond amazing and beyond that I was projecting pride moments in my son's as adults, hoping I am doing all the right things to help them get there.

[@Not_A_Social_Media_Influencer]

Good Morning Sunshine! 🙌 You Are AMAZING! And I Believe In You... 🫂💙😎

[@olgaquiros1498]

What a beautiful blessing not enough words 🌹

[@CP-ei7yo]

Love this! First off, what a beautiful voice♡ Thank you so much for sharing this experience from your life with us! Thank you for all that you do Mel! I love you and I am so thankful for you!

[@diloromdjamirzayeva9129]

Good morning Mel! I really, really respect and admire you.🌄🌈🥰😇❤❤❤

[@karifoto]

You’re such a great story teller! I felt really emotional listening to this because it’s a wonderful story, & it’s truly amazing how supportive you are as a mom! Your beautiful daughter has such a great singing voice! And “it’s not that deep” is a good phrase to remember 👍

[@rifqahcloete8847]

Beautiful! Thank you so much Mel! Thank you Kendall! ❤❤

[@emmelymedina9522]

Such a beautiful story!! I’m in tears! 😭💕

[@user-ew9xt3bl1c]

Mel, Congratulations & Thank you for sharing!

[@renateeikenaar]

What an amazing gesture, makes my heart overflow with love. Seeing women support each other like this is incredible! Thank you Mel for another great podcast, there is a valuable lesson you teach every single time, you are an absolute gift❤️.

[@EileenLupo]

Wow! Thank you so much Mel for sharing this amazing story about your daughter's success. I was very emotional listening to all of this and especially the note back from the designer. I am a mom of two amazing young women and I love the message to support one another. I am a huge fan and long time supporter of you, keep it coming...Love, Eileen

[@psrwhite]

Your daughter is beautiful with a beautiful voice. She is so blessed to have such an awesome mom!! I have a daughter too. I am so blessed like you!!

[@ebbflowvinyasa8543]

Yes we need to give to receive!!!!

[@pegsglutenfreekitchen]

Simply Beautiful and so powerful Mel in all ways! ❤❤thank you for being so raw and real! My heart was so filled with joy for you and Kendal🎉🎉🙏💝💖👏👏👏

[@pennibrockett6558]

Beautiful voice! She's done herself proud! You too Mom❤

[@user-cb9vi8rn7g]

I loved watching the Ford's decorating/remodeling show!! She loved white and black and I would comment on her style! This brought tears, laughter and motivation - you're a tremendous story teller and thanks to Kendall for sharing her beautiful talent...keep on truckin...the best is yet to come! God bless

[@user-pk3zf2ir1w]

I just listened and wow! What a beautiful voice and the lyrics! Exciting stuff! ❤