Want to Be Happier Right Now? Don’t Make This Mistake (New Surprising Science)

[@bonneyfinnegan8514]

I’m 72, a self confessed “old hippie”. This is stuff many of us have known for YEARS! Glad someone else is picking up on it!

[@susanforster]

72 and and a young hippie getting younger every day after listening to Mel. Turn 73 tomorrow.

[@virgilkirschner5717]

Agree with you 100%. Thanks

[@soniafraga4893]

@@susanforster🎉🎉🎉Happy Birthday🎉

[@joynewlun9560]

I've spent the last 15yrs with grief..it's time to care about myself again..

[@joynewlun9560]

Anhudonea

[@mohibquadri4053]

Same here brother for past 9 years.

[@carolgeorge6409]

Sane here

[@micheleobrien5672]

Let’s do this together!

[@nancygaxiola5412]

​@@joynewlun9560anhedonia 😂

[@Katiekay.]

Mel I swear you're my new best friend.... I listen to you each day and I am identifying my flaws, and maladaptive self sabotaging behaviors, and its giving me the the power to finally change.... I wish I met you 15 years ago!

[@jennaarmbruster2169]

I feel the same way

[@AngieGouthro]

Me too❤

[@christineatkinson3640]

It not happy people who are thankful. It's THANKFUL people who are HAPPY. 😊

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤ Wow ❤❤

[@paradymelift]

One of my favorite quotes of all time. It’s so true!

[@shannonErnest]

This interview was spot on!!!!! No day is promised to us. Let’s take the time to appreciate the small pieces of joy we can find everyday🎉

[@julielevesque2668]

Happiness for me is progress...when I compare myself to an old version of myself and see that I have been keeping promises to myself and staying consistent with that. Happiness is not relying on anyone else for emotional validation or attention. Happiness is not being lonely because you love yourself and enjoy solitude.

[@Shedidthat311]

Over the past 3 years I have lost 3 of the most important people in my life, so I've been convinced that I was grieving the losses and have struggled to get my life back together but to now understand that collectively COVID has us all in this space already on top of my grief it's no wonder I am struggling and have felt so empty. Thank you for talking about it!!

[@EMuro-wu7uy]

Since my spouse passed away, I have had to seriously reevaluate my life. All of it, making time for friends and family. I am making time for moments of joy. I am seeing someone and practicing healthy boundaries. All of a sudden, I found a man who wants time with me. We joke, we watch movies, and he is really paying attention. I am enjoying time with people who matter, who let me matter. It's bizarre and new territory for me. It is so great to have this now in my life.

[@better.together.healing]

I needed this soooo much. It validated and confirmed so much for me. About a year and a half ago I was literally planning "my out" and I've spent the last year going back to the basics and basically focusing on healing spiritually, mentally, physically and just staying alive. It has been one of the hardest but also most rewarding things I've ever done in my life and everyday gets a little better. Going back to the basics also helped me to validate and understand that sometimes just staying alive IS ENOUGH.

[@ladiiIntellect]

I’m SO GLAD you’re still here! The strength to stay can be so overwhelming (I, too, know from experience), but, even with the ups and downs, I’m not where I was 6 years ago when my life was at its lowest. Things DO get better, we won’t know unless we’re here to experience them. ❤ Sending love!!! Go enjoy this day made especially for YOU! 😊❤

[@amywarnock2325]

I just love how when I come to your channel it’s ALWAYS something I NEEEED ! I am single( by chose) work has always come first. I have children 23 and 17 I’m lost I am scared about my future and want to be happy and this will help. I haven’t felt in years 😢

[@nycrae]

Sadly I always thought pushing your feelings away and being numb was just being an adult. Shouldn't be your whole day... Very bad habit

[@hms17388]

This particular podcast has spoken to me as someone who has felt the trauma of the last few years deep in my soul. This conversation has given me motivation to really try to appreciate the small moments of joy today. A place to begin moving forward. I want to focus on being present in the moment. I thank you Mel and Dr. Judith - your conversation really mattered to me.

[@joshuavillalovos880]

I’m new to your channel, started earlier this month, because I had reached a place in life where I couldn’t run anymore from my childhood trauma. It leached its way into every facet of my life and I had not realized I was living a life that was confined by my inner demons. Thank you so much for helping me get through the weeds.

[@IR1973]

"Anhedonia”, which is actually a greek word (ανηδονία) is such a powerful word! It signifies almost a paralysis (another greek word) of the emotion of happiness! Thank you Mel for this episode, I feel lucky that I have and enjoy moments of pure happiness and joy in my life!

[@samescueta7768]

I happen to stumble upon the word anhedonia a few weeks ago when someone asked me what do you do when you lose spark on the things you love, and I wanted to talk more about it. I’m so glad that this new episode really went deeper on what it means and how we can be “happier”. Just finished listening to the podcast and can’t wait for the next episode!!! ❤

[@melanyephipps4561]

I'm definitely down and don't recognize myself. I made a list of little things that bring me joy. I thought I'd have like 6... I filled a page! Now I'll just be more intentional to do them and mindful while experiencing them. Thank you

[@RosalieElnekave]

listening to this precious video while i'm grieving on my father who passed away 2 weeks ago 😢 i'm trying ti find a way of dealing with his loss (he was very dear to me) and also with all the sufferings he went through before he passed away 😢 this video definitely helps a lot even a person in a grieving situation like mine... but if you can also talk about how to deal with the loss of a parent, i will be extremely grateful, dear friend Mel ❤

[@ashley9776]

So sorry for your loss 🙏🏻

[@RosalieElnekave]

@@ashley9776 thank you so much

[@rosalieferreira125]

Start Looking for signs of your beautiful father and maybe you can shift your perspective to the magic of life. Maybe ask him for a sign and then one day you could be hit with it out of the blue.

[@RosalieElnekave]

@@rosalieferreira125 thank you so much for this beautiful comment.. ill try to apply it and truly hope to find a message, a sign, a hint about him..... thank you 💜

[@CharlotteHodgetts-du2jq]

Mel robins is getting me through the day. She’s amazing! Wish I’d found her sooner. My 84 year old Nan listens to her too.

[@annafield610]

Awesome 'start feeling the feelings again' and a 'simple life is a beautiful life'.. Mid last year I knew it was not good that I could not even cry, at all, I was numb... So I took six month off work as I was totally burnt out... NOW I feel again, thank you this is the first time I think I have realised what that six months off work did for me... No more gaslighting myself ever again! ♥...

[@ikcytom]

Mel, you weren’t lying. This episode is so important

[@FromSchooltoSchool]

Teachers need to be addressed more in conversations like this. I bet all topics chosen for this channel could reach teachers by showing data related to teachers. Thanks for doing what you do in helping us savor our lives minutes a day. ❤

[@mefor5199]

I can relate to this so much . I try to numb my feelings after mum passed away. If you are busy you don’t have time to feel the sadness !!!

[@annatorres2209]

❤❤ Mel, ya did it again. I don't get tired of telling you. I love, love love the love you have for us all humanity. ❤❤ What an eye opener thank you Dr Judith❤❤❤

[@kmarshirley]

Great conversation. Thank you for letting us be a part of it. I felt a lot of emotions just from listening to this.

[@LolaAileenVanslette]

Thank you for telling me what I've been feeling for years.❤

[@amiefowler]

This was beautiful and very needed. As I sit here and decorate Christmas wreaths it brought me joy to listen to this ❤ Merry Christmas!

[@priscillagates939]

This is a positively brilliant and inspirational, and something to do right in the moment, right now! Brilliant!!! love the present moment talking… love the points of joy! One of the best interviews I’ve seen in ages! Thank you, thank you thank you❤❤❤

[@jeepsahara333]

Just found your work. Much needed inspiration- I was just recently wrongfully terminated from a job I gave 1000% to and hated. 💚💚💚

[@jeepsahara333]

@@Amandahugginkizz Ugh- sorry to hear that! It will get better ❤️‍🩹

[@ElaineMargaret888]

The validation of how we all have been through so much is so powerful and the recognition that a simple life is a beautiful life. I loved that the conversation focused on enjoying small things in big ways as the path to a happier, beautiful journey for all of us. Wonderful interview.

[@chrisp7548]

This was amazing! Thank you to both of you!!

[@carolinecarlo9091]

Wow! My points just increased today by listening to this….Thank you!

[@MrJoaniejoan]

The trauma is still happening as well with active shooters I work at a school and we were just in lock down yesterday bc of a student had a weapon It’s not just schools Pre schools Grocery stores Movie theaters Thank you for this Mel

[@Blessing_or_Curse]

So sad that this continues to happen. 😢

[@FTYC2022]

Absolutely

[@maryannsteffler3044]

❤ incredible ❤

[@shawnpippin3046]

Thank you for bringing Dr. Judith on! This totally helped! I will be enjoying the small moments and to be "happier"!! I love you and please take the time for yourself!! We will all understand!!

[@SarahBlatchford-j9u]

This is really validating my feelings.... thankyou so much xx

[@rgsander1]

I have been working on identifying my feelings deeper than just saying happy, sad, angry, mad. Using the feelings wheel.

[@paulineking8257]

This has me sobbing and I am not even halfway through yet. This hits so deep. I need the transcript, there are things here that just gave me words to explain everything I am feeling and going through, there are memories popping up that have never been dealt with or had that time to process the situations and they go way back before Covid hit. I have been living emotionally, mentally isolated and numb for over ten years. This is the first time I have a better understanding of why. HELP ? 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@grandma460]

💜

[@debbeleigh1930]

Thank you Mel and Judith! Happier ❤

[@elisramosviana182]

This video is just so necessary! I just felt the love coming from you two.Thank you all for offering this amazing content to us!❤❤❤

[@ethna1138]

Amazing Mel. Thank you for all your honesty and hard work. Amazing pod cast. Grateful for Dr Judith.

[@christinebarranca602]

Thank you Mel and Dr. Judith! This was really great and hits home!

[@iamenough6218]

After listening to this wonderful interview I just realized how I ve never processed my traumatic experiences so yes have been living in a Numb state, and have been soothing myself with all sorts of distracting behaviors. So this talk is a life modifying.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏⭐⭐⭐⭐❤️

[@frozengun6934]

Love you mel❤❤❤ u are a huge part of my success. I call my morning routine BUSINESS DAD MORNING. It literally supercharges my day ❤❤❤❤

[@MT-tx7bu]

This really made a lot of sense to me! Detached is how I have felt and giving myself absolute permission to just take care of myself and to be around people who are loving and caring is what it is all about. TODAY, I was in the drive-up to get my daily coffee fix and the person in front of me paid for my coffee. Boy, that really made me so happy! I deserve to be treated kindly by a stranger, but then again, so do they! Thank you for being so wonderful, Mel. We truly appreciate you!

[@brittanywatson8943]

I need to study this lady. This is a answer to all my problems

[@AnneVanTol]

I am coming ALIVE again because of your insight, wisdom, motivation, love of life and others --- from the bottom of my heart, THANKS!!

[@nirmalajetty6426]

I luv listening to u Mel Robbins!!!!❤😊

[@JulianaXavierA]

I can't tell you how much I loved hearing this interview.❤

[@dyanyasa5551]

I am only 36 but I have always been living a slow life until I met my partner 3years ago, and now it all makes sense why I feel so unhappy and unmotivated for 3 years. He is a person who moves in autopilot, everything is based on schedule and I feel stressed on my day off because i cant feel like I accomplished what I wanted to do which is spending time in trinket store or farmers market because my partner just wants us to go go go based and dont allow us to slow down. and we knew and realized were too incompatible and this is the major reason why we argue alot and are both unhappy. his values are different than mine, he wants to work as much as he can now and retire early but I want us to enjoy the moment responsibly. we decided to separate and now I feel free and excited to go back to slow living!! enjoying the thrist store, planting some herbs in the kitchen, walking around stores 😊

[@sindynewman1805]

GRATITUDE FOR THE PRESENT MOMENT AND ALL THE BEAUTIFUL LITTLE THINGS!!!!❤❤❤❤❤

[@Awakenedkarolina]

Thank you both for validating the trauma that we’ve been through over the past 4 years. I have PTSD from a car accident and I’ve also found out that I have autism so I am really focusing on self regulating.

[@xannaz9226]

Aww, Mel, take a big hug coming your way. We, the podcast fam, love you and we don't want you to work too hard. It's winter. Take a cue from nature. Time to pause growth, and rest. You can't have summer energy all year long. We love you. If you did one podcast with a guest in Boston a month, and the rest off the top of your head in Vermont, we'd still be here! Mwah!

[@dorothyedwards7225]

Thank you Mel and Dr. Judith!! This is great!!🙏🙏😃🙂😁💛💓💗💖

[@BeOutstanding]

Points of joy. Children know how to play

[@SusanHMcIntyre]

Sorry about so many comments, but this is a FANTASTIC podcast!!!!!

[@arlenefernandez7415]

I really feel this. We just live in a world that doesn’t allow us to recover. I say it often, how terrified Covid and the media made us and now it’s happening again with the migrant situation and the media coverage on it while we watch helplessly. Not only this: the media turns us on eachother. Even our own selves

[@slippery-out-there]

It’s been done to us….by those in power…deliberately I’m sorry to say. However, we need to take care of ourselves and recover because we know best not those in power! Do not leave your destiny in their hands…we must make our own decisions and stand our ground to prevent the despicable decisions made upon us that have traumatised the world. No more…. ❤ is the answer and self love 💗

[@GosiaCanoFitness]

You are right Mel, this is the most important episode you have done so far. I cannot thank you enough for this eye opening interview. I am listening it for the second time I absorbing every bit of information and using the technique right away to improve my life and feel happier ❤

[@marinavieira6344]

Mel, this is about your daughter and how beautiful she sounds, I'm so happy she has her single out and we need an album. Congratulations to a proud mom and Kendall ❤

[@Thrifted.Cryptid]

It's interesting that we are talking about C19 here as if it's not still actively happening. Many of these struggles persist and the drive to "go-go" is present even more so now, without any protections, public information etc. The trauma "That we just survived"? Many are still sick, becoming disabled, are still isolated and experiencing trauma, dying. Second highest surge currently-this is ongoing trauma. True these things happened but the lack of acknowledgement that this is active,.now. This is awesome information from an amazing professional and I don't disagree, I just wish there was more honesty around that language as if this is over.

[@SusanHMcIntyre]

Thanks!

[@DannyLara-pf4vy]

Amazing 🎉

[@ShawnaLaneCNP]

This is functional freeze. The trauma response. Many nervous system coaches like myself work on moving through this. Recognizing our trauma and moving through it somatically without reliving the trauma is key.

[@theresesilvawalker8407]

I am listening on Audible (where I first fortunately discovered you, Mel). THANKYOU both for this very excellent podcast. It reso ates, it's accessible, it's relevant. Dr. Joseph is a fantastic guest! Thank you both again. I would like the links to her books. I shall look for them.

[@taushalarsen1340]

Loved this episode so much!!! I am so understanding this is me! Just glowing through life absolutely numb. Going to try some of these things and see if I can feel again. I want to be able to enjoy the small things. ❤

[@rosalieferreira125]

During the pandemic I was listening to one of your daytime talk shows and you had a dream specialist on. She has forever changed the way I see dreams, and paying close attention to my dreams allowed me to process all my emotions that I was going through at the time since dreams basically put your feelings on the wall like a museum of yourself! lol I mention this because this episode touched on that a little, we need to acknowledge these emotions so they can pass through us . I also believe that stoping to recognize our positive feelings in our day, goes a long way in being happy now because like you say, we are enough. We don’t need to become something and then we will be happy when we can be happy now.

[@loriannwulf8697]

Hi Mel, I am so happy. I introduced you to my sister. She loves you too. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

[@GmorkNothing]

My 2nd video I’ve seen I may listen to you all day.

[@jacquelinefedrizzi5532]

Merci pour votre franchise Mel !

[@GinaSherman-gc2cx]

I love this video! One my favorites. A lot good information, you are the best Mel ❤️❤️

[@L0V1EZ555]

I love listening to you, Mel! I can listen to you all day! ❤

[@RedCatt423]

Had to listen three times...it is so profound to name the pandemic etc. as a trauma. It is so true we have not had time breathe. I love there is a simple step to begin the work.

[@bru-ra]

Just listening to this (while doing my work, of course), I feel seen and validated, as you said, but also grounded and nurtured. I am being present right now and it made me happier already. Thank you both so much for this wonderful conversation ❤

[@virgilkirschner5717]

Thank you Mel. I love you. You are awesome. Make a good life map for yourself so that you can be assured you do not die with regrets. You do not want to be saying to yourself I should have, I would have, I could have.

[@tinastaniscia9057]

Ahnedonia. Go figure. There's a name for my current state of being. Don't know if it helps, but at least I'm not crazy. The numbness is real and profound. Thanks for giving me hope.❤

[@marybethquirin2759]

I use the Panera Bread SIP CLUB! It is such a joy for me every day!!!

[@kimberlylombardi3121]

i really enjoy all your podcast they give me great direction when i am stuck we are all in the same boat looking at the same skies praying under the same moon god loves us all at the same time

[@alanhare8566]

Wow,what they are saying is right on the the button,what we all went trough the last four years ,love this talk.

[@ananapoles1990]

I have been thinking about the numbness part for the past 6 months, and now it makes so much sense. Thank you!

[@wln8888]

So validating to hear the greet importance it is for all collectively to learn how to feel our feelings reconnect with our senses and to label emotions again. We all need to collectively stop living in our head numbed out

[@lifecoach_soniathadani]

this was Phenomenal. Being Type A personality this literally reset my clock. Thank you Mel for bringing this out. I have studied this have been teaching this as part of inner child healing but yeah fails many a time when it comes to me just like that teacher who checks the sheets even while taking lunch. Much Love

[@michellelewis942]

This is me I live where I work, and I never get a break. Property Management is a tough job. But I am blessed for having a home for me and my son =)

[@83Ivspoint]

You are my Mel & Ivs sisterhood!!!!

[@sindynewman1805]

MEL, THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR HONESTY AND VULNERABILITY ❤ I APPRECIATE YOU 🎉

[@MelissaSprouse]

Oh my god. I didn't expect this content based on the title. You might as well be talking right about me, and my small business. I want to cry and laugh but I also still feel numb (ha!). I'm only halfway through the episode so I hope I get to find out how to move forward. Either way, I definitely feel validated. I'm not broken. It's not that I'm the only one who can't make it past the pandemic within their business.

[@heatherbaulk-smith4094]

Can you share the list of simple points of joy the Dr. read ?

[@christineatkinson3640]

Im at 49:47 They should have said "people are not 'stopping to smell the roses' in a nutshell." They should have said that from the start. 😊😅😂🎉❤

[@ClairenParkerontheRoad]

Love this Mel. Thanks so much.

[@jodiegall3366]

Thank you so much for validating. That’s exactly where I am and I see a lot of my friends and people doing this as suffering for this things that are used to enjoy. I have a hard time getting myself to do them.❤

[@sandrafombellida4609]

Good morning Mey and Dr. Jule. Thank you! Lately in the morning before I drink the water I talked to the water. Being grateful. And I do take a little time to enjoy. Thank you again for everything that you do.🙏♥️

[@audreyoreilly4055]

Fair play for your honesty Mel!

[@laurenvazquez6729]

Life. Changing. Thank you.

[@msdyanna81]

This!!!! As an educator/administrator I needed to hear this. Thank you both for your impactful content and practical advice. #happier

[@lorischneider7928]

I appreciate you so much . YOUR WORK IS LIFE CHANGINING FOR MANY. THANK YOU❤❤❤

[@arturomarin8549]

Epic! Nailed it! Thank you!

[@bonniemuse]

Love your channel!

[@sisteranastasia9101]

Mel thank you so much for this, I think this intreview is crucial and lifechanging

[@leealvarezdeguzman]

So helpful! This episode explains concrete steps to increase joy and be happier! Well explained ❤ Thank you for this episode! :) I am grateful for this.

[@helvangod]

So happy I listened to this one. I used to read/meditate on portions of Thoreau's Walden, and would lose myself in his descriptions of ants crawling on an ant hill or bubbles in ice, and I want to get back to losing myself in that.

[@andreasteinmann8888]

Wow! Life changing! Thank you!

[@christinemurphy2544]

Absolutely loved this! So informative and useful ❤. Thank you!

[@samanthawilliams9463]

If you want stability, you need flexibility! Love it… thank you, Nicole and BAD!