How to Build the Life You Want: Timeless Wisdom for More Happiness & Purpose

[@memesfarmhousedesigns9254]

Happiness is a choice! My mom had a mental breakdown when I was 6 and fractured my hip. She was in and out of the mental hospital growing up and a psychiatrist sat us four girls down and said one of us would most likely to have this as well. I remember clearly saying “Oh, hell no!!”. I was not getting that death sentence. I believe I have a predisposition for chemical imbalance, but I have the CHOICE to keep my brain healthy! Thank you for pouring this health into us daily!

[@woojinlee7749]

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[@biancaquijano1360]

100 %

[@Wiseamphibian87]

I Agree ; mental illness in our families is the worst thing ever ; especially when that Family member doesn’t believe they’re ill; refuses Treatment, therapy . I have made A conscious decision to seek Therapy during traumatic periods of my life , exercise & eat healthier, do Yoga 🧘, meditate & exceterA. I hope to God I don’t ever get Schizophrenic or bipolar disorder; it’s A terrible illness. Positive mindset & gratitude 🙏🏿 is key to Happiness in Life!!

[@mariaciobanu9882]

I am blessed to have bipolar now. In the past, I was cursed.

[@lisaaamoun3520]

I am so glad that the stigma around mental health is changing through education. Also so much has been learned about addiction. My mom had mental health issues but was never diagnosed because she blamed everyone else for her problems so she never got help. My worst fear is that I will be like her. It’s hard because I loved her but she caused so much suffering to all of us kids and I’m angry. I remind myself “ but there by the grace of God go I “. LET IT GO!!!!! I am blessed beyond anything someone can due to me because of my greatest gift of faith. Amen. Sermon over !

[@jenniferbalogh4090]

Honestly, I never heard before about PTG (post traumatic growth). In this video I heard about it the first time. And it really interests me, I really admire those people who can grow from their unlucky situations. If I thinking about it a little it's about you have two way when you are in a miserable situation: 1. option: You start thinking you will never get out of this, and you become pessimistic, and you say to yourself "this is what life gave to me, so I just have to accept it". OR 2. option: You try to start thinking in a positive way, you become more optimistic and saying to yourself: " now I'm going to get out of this sh*t, no matter what, and I am going to throw away my victim mentality because it just makes me more miserable, and I want to feel strong and powerful" !

[@Wiseamphibian87]

I have been practicing that #2 choice daily. I don’t have everything I want in life but I am surely blessed & grateful for everything Good in my life right now . If we dwell on the negative aspects of our lives ; we’ll never be Happy or content !!! I love these Podcasts, they remind me to practice mindfulness & gratitude!!!

[@LaurenTuong]

Time stamps for you guys 00:00 Intro 05:51: The two questions that ultimately led to Dr. Ben-Shahar's career. 10:17: The research that cautions about what you promise yourself in the morning. 13:22: The 5 major elements of happiness. 18:22: How having a goal makes you happier. 22:35: Where do you begin if you don't even know what happiness feels like? 24:06: The shocking but honest answer Dr. Ben-Shahar gave about happiness. 25:47: Try one of these 5 one-minute activities when you're feeling depressed. 32:12: How can you be happier if you feel lonely? 34:58: Research finds doing this for just 2 minutes makes you happier and healthier. 40:55: What does a morning look like for a happiness researcher? 43:07: One essential truth to know about happiness. 46:43: What does it mean to be "anti-fragile?" 52:21: How to have more hope when you're going through a hard time. 55:26: The key to systems thinking and why it matters. 1:04:43: What does the research say about LASTING change? 1:06:07: The 3 Rs of Change that should be at the core of all habit changes. 1:10:07: Two essays that Dr. Beh-Shahar recommends if you want to be happier

[@lizielita]

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[@LaurenTuong]

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[@1979France]

12:34 is the correct timestamp for the “5 major elements of happiness”

[@bptdawg]

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[@homeagainonroute66]

Becoming anti-fragile! Finally a term for what I'm always trying to do....sometimes with much success, sometimes with less success....but always getting at least a wee bit stronger. I have felt hopeless at times, but eventually I realized I did still have a choice left, but it was one I thought I'd never have to make and didn't want to have to make. Realizing it gave me the strength to make the choice, and once again have hope. It was HARD and PAINFUL, but I did grow by making that choice and following through! And am happier after having gone through it.

[@paulamoors]

When I’m drawing sometimes I get this peace that washes over me and I know this where I am supposed to be. This is happiness to me. Doing what I love.

[@tatasoto9708]

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[@ShannonSchavillie-cw6re]

You are such a passionate, empathic, educated female. My daughter suggested podcasts a while ago, and it has really been helpful. Printing & savoring every word!! 🎉🎉 Celebrating Recovery 🎈🎈 Making life 🧬 work for me🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@michaelp8856]

i've been out of work for 2 years now since i moved back home to take care of my elder mother. i had to move back to my old home town that is a beat down old steel mill town near pittsburgh. i moved away after high school to make and get a better life and live. i got a MS degree from a top university and was lucky to work for Pfizer for 18 years. But having to move back to a place i grew up in and worked hard to get out has been taken it's toll. there is no work here other than working in a hot dog shop standing in front of a french fryer. i had to give up my whole career and life. it's gettting harder every day....

[@elizabethwilk9615]

I take care of my mom and developed a digestive issue due to stress. May I suggest if possible moving to a place close to doctors and friends. I have my church near by and friends. I can’t go out too much due to being with mom a lot. I try to meditate besides prayer. I plan to get visiting angel or some other neighborhood service where the elderly are picked up by vans and taken to the mall to walk. I hear the van deal is free! That way I have some time to go to the gym at least. I’ve done it on my own too long and it’s making me ill. Now she also gets very rattled and lashes out at times. Other than that Am fortunate she can walk. She’s 92. Good luck.

[@michaelp8856]

@@elizabethwilk9615 elizabeth - i'll pray for you. i seem to feel i'm in the exact same situation as you. at least AARP magazine backs us up - indicating that we are stressed out caring for elder parents living longer these days. stay in touch

[@glendawilliams7453]

This was painful. I guess my expectations were high. I usually get a lot from your podcasts. This episode is like mining for gold. Three quarters in he said something very important about even meditating for one minute will change your life. Meditate for a minute three different times a day will give one the happiness of a 45 minute workout. It’s possible. If I can last through a 45 minute workout or any length workout for me it’s an achievement. For me recovering from the death of someone close means you get through it. But for me & another I talked to, you never get over it. Definitely my challenge is to establish the routines for goals that I could be in repetition. Then I will have resilience & happiness. I will have conquered the hard thing & thrived. Thanks.

[@lolaibrahim]

I cried!!!! This one has to be ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND CHANGING LIFE-SOULS EPISODE!!! I gonna share with everybody!!!! Profund as the sea aand so easy to understand😭😭😭😭 ❤‍🩹❤‍🩹❤‍🩹❤‍🩹❤‍🔥❤‍🔥❤‍🔥❤‍🔥 I LOVE YOU BOTHHH!!!! THANKKKKSSSS ♾♾♾♾♾♾♾!!!!!!!

[@rosiehamid4680]

Aaaa

[@Katrowlyn]

Such a great listen- and I loved the last part about Helen Keller since my daughter found out she is going blind. And as difficult as it will be for her, I want to embrace the idea that through the difficulty of it, she will become an amazing woman she is meant to become. ❤

[@ms.m2410]

Thank you Mel and Dr. Tan Ben-Shahar for this amazing podcast! I do understand now that it is natural to experience pain and to believe that someday I'll get over it. Taking care of my well being is important in order to be happy in life. Taking small action in my present moment can make changes in my situation. Happiness is when I take simple steps in improving myself until I notice that I am are no longer in a difficult situation and moving forward. :)❤🤗 God Bless both of you!🙏👍❤

[@jimmyjamessac7171]

You are amazing

[@olgaquiros3032]

I LL TELL YOU WHAT......................i am pursuing happiness for a long time I believe I in our human nature but I found out that being grateful, is the key to happiness and enjoying every moment, embracing every day looking forward to waking up tomorrow and having God in your heart is for me Happiness.......................... doing what you love as for me making my dolls, listening my favorite country music , and is possible WE CAN FEEL HAPPY INDEED

[@soniafraga4893]

Definitely

[@Wiseamphibian87]

Yes, Yes & Yes 👍!!!

[@glendawilliams7453]

On the subject of happiness. I have in the past been so unhappy that I just focused intently that I am going to be happy for 30 minutes. It worked 15 minutes in I realized I was happy. Sometimes I got a little too happy & became goofy like I drank 8 cups of coffee in a row. Unintentionally drank 8 cups of coffee in a row vibing through conversation with friends at a small town cafe.

[@LadyChissell]

Happiness is a choice

[@LadyChissell]

​@Silence_between_waves it's good to explore positive things to uplifts Humanity. Happiness is an expression of feelings but it is not a part of the humans six senses. Our six senses are feeling, taste, touch, think, see, and smell. I am a spiritual being having a human experience. Happiness is a virtue and doesn't originate from our feelings and also can be accessed by your higher consciousness. When you refer to feelings, thoughts, etc. those are simply the faculties of the human senses. Happiness can be experienced through the six senses but happiness comes from our higher consciousness and occurs when we are in harmony with the truth of spiritual laws and virtues. These spiritual laws have been practiced by thousands of religions, and cultures for over 6,000 years. Ease and Grace to all!

[@christinacardona5694]

Happiness is a state of mind

[@patriciagarcia9618]

I enjoy volunteering at my local food bank not possible every week but at least once a month brings me a sense of joy and purpose I also meet new people with similar interests

[@marcelapintado3290]

We are alive with emotions up and down. Being happy , sad is a moment an experience not a state of mind. The power of acceptance is the key

[@efhessar7703]

That was brilliant Whole time i smile and listen and had lots of aha moments 🎉🙏thank you mell by the way i am learning english with your podcast also❤❤❤

[@kaylasembly6590]

My goodness, Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar just put everything into perspective. What an eye-opening discussion. I'm so glad this popped up on my KZbin feed. Thanks for facilitating this talk @Mel Robbins.

[@TaDAbyKAT]

Be present in the NOW mindfully

[@Gingersnp13]

Thanks!

[@ritagrey3295]

More guests with a real approach on life experience. Keep happiness in the time of stress that comes from economic struggles with day by day. Someone that can do that, keep happiness in the middle of a life earthquake.

[@SamBo-y6f]

Happiness is ever changing according to circumstances, our perceptions and ability to interpret emotions and the details of our reality.

[@victoriavandoren3999]

I loved this interview. Mel Robbins speaks very clear and Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar explanations about happiness could have not been more simple to understand. I will be sharing it many times. Thank you!!!

[@davidlgomes7120]

I have a bipolar i treat it daily, this podcast helps!

[@teresaheckendorn3871]

Happiness creats Happiness...Simple...

[@LoriMiller1111]

Thank you great interview. It made me happier.

[@myaalberto2959]

One of your TOP Podcast!!!! Loved it what a unique perspective to Happiness!!!!

[@nancymurphy6344]

This episode was AMAZING! I am going to rewatch the whole thing and take notes! This brought tears to my eyes a few times, just knowing there are actionable things that can help us (me) get through a very trying time in my life that is currently happening. THANK YOU MEL for bringing this to us. You are the best!!

[@EcomCarl]

Dr. Ben-Shahar's breakdown of the five elements of happiness is a powerful reminder of the multi-dimensional nature of well-being. Integrating these elements into daily life can transform personal satisfaction and effectiveness, particularly in the realm of entrepreneurship. 🌟

[@LoriMiller1111]

Wonderful interview thank you both!

[@Raqueld333]

I'd love to hear a discussion on the matter of hope being the greatest hindrance to healing from a narcissistic relationship (in your recent podcast with the fabulous Dr. Ramani) and the difference of hopefulness for a better outcome being connected to post traumatic growth.

[@alynncurran6250]

I just watched both of these episodes back to back and had the same thought as well... I suppose it’s a matter of strategy in targeting what you’re hopeful for. In other words, you can direct your mindset and energy into the idea that you have hope that you will not be as emotionally entangled in the actions of the narcissist in the future (NOT that you’re hopeful they will change. You know they will not change and you accept it and the hope is that you have hope you’ll make more educated choices in choosing who to let into your life next, for example.).

[@sabamisghina7076]

I agree his compliment Mel ! You are.❤️❤️Love you both.

[@katyjean862]

@12:42 If you only have a few minutes, listen to this bit. SPIRE

[@poochesnpals]

I got so much out of this. Thank you!

[@created4passion442]

Humans were never meant to go through painful experience that's just a part of the fall in this broken world. It was perfect at one time but mankind made a selfish choice and here we are

[@lacresha625]

Always grateful for this podcast!

[@ashleyannephd]

I am so grateful for your lessons and knowledge, my own teaching resonates with your podcast. Thank you for continuing to support your people.

[@donnaraeschwartz5457]

Thank you for all you do❤

[@danielahofmeister1671]

Happy 😊 to have you 🎉

[@raquelnakayama3575]

Mel, thank you for your podcasts !

[@BloodBathandCake]

True happiness has nothing to do with achievement or the pursuit. That is all ego driven. True happiness is full presence and connection to source.

[@imlv2614]

yessss

[@RebbeccaLotts]

I love your podcast 😊 the segments always insure me that I'm doing what's best for me and my future self 💖❤

[@loisjackson6572]

Another interesting and inspiring podcast by you Mel Robbins! Sharing this! Thank you for your time, energy, being courageous and for being so genuine! The content and wisdom you share changes lives for the better! 🎉🎉😊

[@DianeLCohen]

bravo - excellent podcast - love the SPIRE, MVI, three Rs, Helen Keller's essays ... - thank you thank you thank you to both of you, Mel and Tal. 💙

[@Maria-nl3px]

Thank you both so much 💓

[@silviadelatorre1490]

Thankyou very much, I listening this video, to reminder every word

[@kimberleyformacio865]

Love this episode! I had a rough morning today and listening to this podcast absolutely helped! ❤️❤️ Thank you 🙏

[@AprilSpreadLove]

This is the episode I was looking for my entire life! Thank you

[@stewartg7673]

Phenomenal interview Mel !!!!! I think my life has just been changed. ❤

[@Julie-lh9mw]

Thank you Mel and Dr. Tan Ben-Shahar what an amazing interview very grateful 🙏 🦋💙

[@yvettedroll5074]

Another Amazing interview ❤

[@mslwinters]

Thank you for this amazing interview! Love you and your guests Mel. 💜💜💜💜

[@imlv2614]

Thank you so much, Mel, you are my favourite❤

[@pamelabrown8344]

Love all of you content!

[@tranquyen2323]

I love your postcard. I've leaned a lot from you.

[@jiblalgautam1408]

Great podcast,I appreciate it thank you ma'am Welcome from Nepal

[@monicakaram]

Thank you. This is amazing.

[@CBella100]

Thank you both 🙏 this was fantastic

[@ITOPCU1]

I love this episode like many others:) Also, I wish Launch would be cheaper

[@christinegarcia369]

Mel IM so Bklessed to see you at work I do learn things .

[@Lucyrandomvlogs]

❤Hi Mel♥ I am watching you while having my lunch~

[@PaulFerguson-t2x]

Drink every day & be happy

[@ratnaali8206]

Vodka ?

[@noiphiraksa90]

Thankssssssssssss 💕💕 for this. It's amazing!!

[@sima52525]

Excellent interview! Thank you.

[@brandnewyorker]

Pure perfection 🙏💕

[@imlv2614]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@antje8303]

Mel, can you interview Sally McRae one day ? She is great and I think tje two of you would make a great match !! 🤩

[@Zane618]

"How to develop a better personality/ be a better person that people around you appreciate" Think you can make a video about it?

[@gowthami18778]

Absolutely true ❤

[@wandahare8064]

His favorite it my favorite song, too. Everyone sends me videos with that song as the background music. No other can compare. I Will Always Love It!!!! ♥️ Whitney

[@imlv2614]

So grateful for your podcast❤I am hooked❤Very very much valuable nuggets of wisdom here❤

[@yerankarchikian3620]

Thank you

[@IzabellaRamosSantiago]

Love this!

[@TaDAbyKAT]

Mind Body Spirit...in balance.

[@jengillespie7827]

Thank you so much!

[@lydie-anneruestbelliveau5608]

I love him.

[@nechamatk1234]

Mel I love your channel. I hope and pray that you don’t use curse words anymore. Your mouth is Holy. And so is your message. Ty so much.

[@joannechapman6013]

I think this is what has happened to me I hope I can do well in something else. I got a degree but I didn’t excel in that field.

[@BellyBreath]

Another wonderful informational podcast full of so much learning. Happiness is a choice.❤

[@TaDAbyKAT]

seek JOY happiness is temporary.

[@AbigailsJoyfulLife]

My Rabbi said in a recent Shiur "No, Money Can't Buy You Happiness, But it sure can help you avoid Pain" 😉

[@BelLa-up6iz]

I love this man! Thank you!

[@maryirick3579]

Thanks!

[@pilarfernandez5621]

Querida Mel: ¡qué preguntas tan interesantes haces a tu invitado! ❤

[@nanbeck1299]

Happiness is not something you experience, it's something you remember.

[@BeNaturallyBlessed]

Love this! ❤

[@ReikiRosie]

Great show thank you Mel!

[@rhambn2990]

This is very good!❤

[@regcrowder9010]

😁 Hi Mel! 🎉

[@levilopez6446]

ThankYou😊😊🤗🙏

[@lucillejones-yw6yp]

I guess that's why it's called " The pursuit of happiness."" "

[@tiffanybittman7523]

Love this,

[@michaelp8856]

Listen to Hole - "Malibu" - good happy song - relatable lyrics - great chords

[@Amina-nn5mi]

That's my favorite song too❤

[@christinegarcia369]

My name is Christine I did that I didn't wait for my husband or my sons wild hu I really haven't done it yet though is it possible to do that in my head cause I got free in my mind and it made me happy.

[@aliciabadashian7234]

Happiness is not sustainable. Joy is my guiding North Star. Find the joy in everyday. It will expand your heart

[@vallang4832]

It is hard to be 😊happy when you have illnesses. I hope people are aware of that. It is a struggle for them.

[@Michelle-md5kd]

Not always. I am a cancer researcher and a lot of my patients are super happy. Not happy that they have an illness, sometimes fatal, but rather they choose to appreciate all aspects of life. I wish you good health 🤗

[@kellybrooke9068]

Another great podcast! So much explained thank you so much Mel for all you do for us listeners. Have a great day 😊!

[@shelley3520]

Antifragility--What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger….

[@VOID-Venture_Geology]

Happiness is subjective. If people are generally miserable, they can be sold on romanticized versions of accountability.

[@VOID-Venture_Ear]

Yes. That is why it's called the Pursuit of Happiness.

[@jat6547]

Please stop ✋ you DON'T have THE answer..

[@VOID-Venture_Geology]

@@jat6547 I was not asked a question. Why would I need an answer. . . level up!

[@jat6547]

That was meant to be a comment only. I made a mistake and addressed it to you....... However I will not take this opportunity to " talk down " ( level up ) to you, kindness goes a long way. Blessings.

[@VOID-Venture_Geology]

@@jat6547 Your virtue signaling does not go unnoticed. It is alarming how many people attempt to manipulate on a level they haven't reached yet.