Message to Frustrated and Discouraged Neurotypical Wives

Downloadable programs:
--- Interpersonal Relationship Skills: eBook and Audio Instruction for Male Partners with ASD- www.neurodiversemarriage.org/...
--- Living with ASD: eBook and Audio Instruction for Neurodiverse Couples- www.livingwithaspergerspartne...
Coaching services for autistic male partners:
--- Skype Group for ASD Men Struggling in Their Relationship with an NT Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/20...
--- Skype Group: ASD Men’s Master Class: www.asdmasterclass.com/2022/0...
Coaching services for neurotypical female partners:
--- Skype Group for Neurotypical Women Struggling in Their Relationship with an ASD Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/20...
--- Skype Group: Recovery from Cassandra Syndrome for Neurotypical Spouses: www.cassandrasyndromerecovery...
Coaching services for the ASD + NT couple:
--- Skype Group for Neurodiverse Couples Affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.adultaspergerschat.com/20...
Individual coaching services:
--- One-on-One Sessions for Struggling Individuals and Couples Affected by ASD: www.adultaspergerschat.com/20...
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Fighting Multiple Battles at Once:
In life, it's not uncommon to find ourselves fighting multiple battles at once-whether they're internal struggles, external challenges, or a combination of both. This can be an overwhelming experience, as it feels like we're being pulled in different directions and forced to divide our limited time and energy among various fronts. However, the ability to handle multiple battles simultaneously can also be a testament to our resilience, adaptability, and strength.
One of the most common scenarios of fighting multiple battles at once is the juggling act between personal life and professional responsibilities. Many individuals find themselves trying to excel in their careers while also fulfilling obligations to family, friends, and themselves. This can lead to a constant internal tug-of-war, as we strive to meet the demands of our jobs without neglecting the people and activities that bring meaning to our lives. Balancing these competing priorities requires effective time management, clear communication, and the ability to set boundaries. It's a challenging but necessary endeavor in today's fast-paced world.
Another aspect of fighting multiple battles at once involves overcoming internal battles while also facing external adversities. For instance, a person might be dealing with mental health issues while also navigating a difficult financial situation or a strained relationship. In such cases, each battle can exacerbate the other, making it feel like an uphill struggle with no respite. However, seeking support from loved ones, mental health professionals, or other relevant resources can provide much-needed guidance and strength. Developing coping mechanisms, practicing self-care, and finding moments of joy and solace become crucial in such trying times.
Moreover, there are instances where individuals find themselves fighting multiple battles within the same domain-such as tackling different challenges within a specific project, academic pursuit, or personal goal. This may involve managing time constraints, technical hurdles, interpersonal conflicts, and self-doubt all at once. Here, an organized and methodical approach, along with a willingness to seek help and collaborate with others, can make a significant difference. Breaking down the overarching battle into smaller, manageable tasks, and celebrating incremental victories can keep motivation high and prevent overwhelm.
While the experience of fighting multiple battles at once can be taxing, it's important to remember that it also presents opportunities for growth, resilience, and self-discovery. It allows us to tap into our inner reserves of strength, creativity, and problem-solving skills. It teaches us the value of asking for help, fostering empathy for others facing similar struggles, and finding gratitude in moments of respite and small victories. Ultimately, navigating multiple battles at once is a profound test of character-one that can lead to personal and professional development, improved coping strategies, and a deeper understanding of our own capabilities.

[@markhutten]

Downloadable programs: --- Interpersonal Relationship Skills: eBook and Audio Instruction for Male Partners with ASD- www.neurodiversemarriage.org/2023/09/resolving-neurodiverse-marital-problems.html --- Living with ASD: eBook and Audio Instruction for Neurodiverse Couples- www.livingwithaspergerspartner.com/ Coaching services for autistic male partners: --- Skype Group for ASD Men Struggling in Their Relationship with an NT Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-asd-men-struggling-in-their.html --- Skype Group: ASD Men’s Master Class: www.asdmasterclass.com/2022/02/asd-mens-masterclass.html Coaching services for neurotypical female partners: --- Skype Group for Neurotypical Women Struggling in Their Relationship with an ASD Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-nt-women-struggling-in-their.html --- Skype Group: Recovery from Cassandra Syndrome for Neurotypical Spouses: www.cassandrasyndromerecovery.com/2021/08/recovery-from-emotional-deprivation-for.html Coaching services for the ASD + NT couple: --- Skype Group for Neurodiverse Couples Affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/10/mark-hutten-m.html Individual coaching services: --- One-on-One Sessions for Struggling Individuals and Couples Affected by ASD: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2019/07/skype-counseling-for-struggling-couples.html Access to “Members-Only” videos: --- Get your perks here: kzbin.info/door/UZG9TJ9LHwSfmHb4ogQmxAjoin

[@danjobry333]

This is hard to listen to but valid info nonetheless. It's exhausting and frustrating to be involved with a spectrum partner.

[@silvergirl7810]

Boy, there sure are stages through all this - I’m at 23 years of marriage and I’m not in a good place- and it’s clear that I’m in a marriage by ‘marriaging’ myself. Interestingly enough, my mom had issues and my dad was a workaholic so I also parented myself. I’m so ill at this point I don’t think I could move out of this- I’m frozen.

[@musica4567]

That's another layer for us as NTs, the multiple battles includes addressing current challenges and past stuff ie our childhoods. Remind yourself you can do this and you can only focus on one element at a time. Getting therapy for the childhood stuff can help us NTs a lot. IMHO. It can help us know ourselves better which helps us with coping in the present.

[@danjobry333]

This is a lot of work, isn't it?? Ugh😢

[@silvergirl7810]

@@danjobry333 yeah, I thought it would get easier as I got older and I was very wrong 😑

[@markhutten]

In life, it's not uncommon to find ourselves fighting multiple battles at once-whether they're internal struggles, external challenges, or a combination of both. This can be an overwhelming experience, as it feels like we're being pulled in different directions and forced to divide our limited time and energy among various fronts. However, the ability to handle multiple battles simultaneously can also be a testament to our resilience, adaptability, and strength. One of the most common scenarios of fighting multiple battles at once is the juggling act between personal life and professional responsibilities. Many individuals find themselves trying to excel in their careers while also fulfilling obligations to family, friends, and themselves. This can lead to a constant internal tug-of-war, as we strive to meet the demands of our jobs without neglecting the people and activities that bring meaning to our lives. Balancing these competing priorities requires effective time management, clear communication, and the ability to set boundaries. It's a challenging but necessary endeavor in today's fast-paced world. Another aspect of fighting multiple battles at once involves overcoming internal battles while also facing external adversities. For instance, a person might be dealing with mental health issues while also navigating a difficult financial situation or a strained relationship. In such cases, each battle can exacerbate the other, making it feel like an uphill struggle with no respite. However, seeking support from loved ones, mental health professionals, or other relevant resources can provide much-needed guidance and strength. Developing coping mechanisms, practicing self-care, and finding moments of joy and solace become crucial in such trying times. Moreover, there are instances where individuals find themselves fighting multiple battles within the same domain-such as tackling different challenges within a specific project, academic pursuit, or personal goal. This may involve managing time constraints, technical hurdles, interpersonal conflicts, and self-doubt all at once. Here, an organized and methodical approach, along with a willingness to seek help and collaborate with others, can make a significant difference. Breaking down the overarching battle into smaller, manageable tasks, and celebrating incremental victories can keep motivation high and prevent overwhelm. While the experience of fighting multiple battles at once can be taxing, it's important to remember that it also presents opportunities for growth, resilience, and self-discovery. It allows us to tap into our inner reserves of strength, creativity, and problem-solving skills. It teaches us the value of asking for help, fostering empathy for others facing similar struggles, and finding gratitude in moments of respite and small victories. Ultimately, navigating multiple battles at once is a profound test of character-one that can lead to personal and professional development, improved coping strategies, and a deeper understanding of our own capabilities.

[@karissamacgregor7449]

Hello Mark, I am extremely new to your channel and am very interested in receiving counseling services from you personally to seek help for my husband. He was just told recently he has aspergers, though he is definitely high functioning and is wanting help to better understand his issues and in turn our marriage. We have been struggling for our whole 5 years of marriage and have a young 3 year old son also that has been a big source of hardship. Please if you do have counseling services available and not just the videos we would love to sign up to receive the help we so desperately need. I'm so tired and have many past traumas in my life that makes living with him feel almost heartbreaking for me to handle any longer.

[@navscheiecoaching7800]

Hi Mark, I have sent you in email seeking counseling services. We hope to hear from you soon. I, an NT wife feel desperate.

[@karenworstell3886]

Married for 33 years and only just realized that our challenges were because we are an ND/NT couple. Retirement of the ND partner has escalated some of the challenges. I will continue working as the social connection is my lifeline. Listening to the song "flowers" more and more lately.

[@lynncarter4964]

Noone can have it all. Noone. Once I accepted this, I coped ok.

[@jadedempath7453]

Thank you for putting this so simply!

[@akferren1]

HELL on earth