Mirroring in negotiations, with former FBI negotiator Chris Voss.

[@xpndblhero5170]

Found out later in life that I naturally did this and it freaks people out.... Even people who walked in a room hating me would walk out defending me. I can tell you right now that people do not like that if they know it's insincere... 😅😂

[@jakeperry3926]

Know it’s insincere?

[@chinqlinq89]

@@jakeperry3926I was typing out a response to explain to you what I thought the original comment was trying to say… then realized and laughed at myself.

[@Iri-c9h]

Regardless, I appreciate you!!!❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉 Thank you

[@bogusmcbogus2637]

Actually, I was thinking of holding an actual mirror up to a person, sir. A person, sir.

[@Fnidner]

a person, sir?

[@midwestgirl777]

SIR???

[@sk8nchill52]

.Ris ,nosrep A How’s that for a mirror

[@TheEsquirePodcast]

just walk around with one of them giant mirrors youd have hanging up somewhere. itll be great at starting conversations. it might start with "why tf are you walking with a mirror"

[@JackSmith-t2y]

That’s just weird. If someone wants to buy a car from you, you’re going to hold up a mirror to their face when talking to them, sir? How strange.

[@adamboots1]

I’m a frontline key worker. This is what I’ve been doing during interviews and difficult conversations with demanding people. Interesting to find out it’s an FBI negotiation tactic.

[@Mew__]

An FBI negotiation tactic?

[@ALICESMITH-k7f]

If I mirror in any way is a compliment. I'm meeting the person know, I saw you, or you impacted my life so on

[@Konrad111111]

Life so on?

[@DOLLCRAZES]

Thank U, Chris Voss 4 differentiating THIS! May I please ask what U think of as the mirror effect/ picking up energies from people (intense emotions) that one can fine tune as emotions r energies 2 understanding people? I adore, admire, & appreciate how U explain everything as a straight shooter which is my cup of tea! Thank U! 🙏

[@mnsega]

See, the problem here is that I wasn't listening in the first place😅😅

[@Fnidner]

the first place?

[@Konrad111111]

@@Fnidnerno, you got it wrong. The question is: “Place 😅😅?”

[@ACertainWay]

Guy sounds like Al Pacino

[@Fnidner]

like al pacino?

[@paulpierce2051]

i naturally do this with my wife all the time because i’m not really listening to her. I tend to just autopilot whole conversations while thinking about something else. Anyone else do this?

[@nihleigleca6702]

Gordon Ramsay: "Oh, fuck me!" Chris: 🗿🗿🗿

[@recks1151]

"Oh? Fuck you?" 😂

[@stan-qf3dk]

"Oh, fuck me?"

[@Flesh_Wizard]

_😳_

[@arttoegemann]

This is for communicating, not gaslighting.

[@DeferAIM]

“Fuck me?” *Gordon Ramsey proceeds to explain how he screwed up*

[@jjokah]

Roger that. One to Three Word. Got it.

[@Fnidner]

got it?

[@evelynfarfellwooosh1219]

​@@Fnidnergot it?

[@yournopatriot3704]

Word, got it

[@StefanMuller-cf3cy]

@@yournopatriot3704Word?

[@dianaalyssa8726]

TY

[@Observer-p5s]

Mirror last 3️⃣ words

[@hexane8]

"Buy time"...

[@differentman1878]

How would you put that in organically in a conversion?

[@MattJBarnes]

In the negotiation.

[@daseinbot]

i do that because otherwise i would forget what we were talking about

[@Fnidner]

were talking about?

[@Fnidner]

@@correy55 than them because?

[@Fnidner]

@@correy55 I’m asking you?

[@josieflores8320]

that's right I got there from you Chris

[@mikebull3156]

thanks

[@GeraldSmallbear]

In a negotiation.

[@Iri-c9h]

Why mirror? I think the NVC is better. Stating out loud that you have understood the other person's perspective and then state your statement, question, or comment.

[@mollymanifest7504]

It’s a way to buy time

[@Konrad111111]

To buy time?

[@rexjantze296]

It's a way to own a little control of the conversation and keep them focused and staying in the thread of their own talking points, in which you can detect the nuances if they are making up stories on the fly (to get rid of you or have something to hide by changing the conversation) or have genuinely thought over their problems. It also keeps control of the conversation if you have nothing to say yet, or not sure how to steer the dialogue.

[@akashmondal1120]

Is he that meme guy?

[@andrewmiller8402]

I was wondering this too. Can someone send me a link to that meme? I haven't seen it in so long and I can't find it

[@Ed-of1jo]

@@andrewmiller8402no that’s the ice cream guy 😂

[@StefanMuller-cf3cy]

More time to think?

[@maureenparker6185]

Cool

[@marijandesin8226]

Some people move their lips while you're talking to them I wonder if mirroring is what theyre subconsciously doing

[@jillmckee5775]

I thought that was almost a Parkinson’s precursor

[@angelxdv518]

​@@jillmckee5775A Parkinson's precursor?

[@davidvernon3119]

Time in negotiation?

[@petrakolenakova2]

...buy time?

[@strategicarts8969]

1:11

[@jerrodzaneplummer]

The best way to negotiate is let everyone else realize that thinking you get whatever time you want from God is the reason you are out of patience for yourselves. I know because when people do things I don't like and/or tell me not to mind, they lose that piece of themselves indefinitely. When I decide to forget the world, it no longer exists. Heaven is a place on earth, but never will any of you actually see it.

[@greenguy767]

man look like quuuuuwnd NICE

[@samrat447]

The title "Mirroring in Negotiatins"??

[@kymberBee]

Toby from “The Office” has an amazing story 😊

[@Konrad111111]

An amazing story?

[@wolvie_dad]

Nah.. got a reTurded uncle that does this all the time. Primarily because he's not actually listening or contributing to the conversation.. it's annoying enough to avoid a conversation all together now.

[@jamesdavidson8660]

in a negotation 🤔

[@technolus5742]

Not at all using the same words, it's just repeating their words. 😂

[@hazardeur]

Smells like god damn bullshit

[@Konrad111111]

Repeating their words?

[@technolus5742]

@@Konrad111111 Repeating their words

[@JTProperties-fd9hv]

In a negotiation?

[@shannon9159]

It bought you time to buy that rug on your head.

[@hexane8]

Where's the speed it up button damn dudes are slow

[@AndreeaCe]

Good thing he became a former FBI. Very few in FBI did a good job.

[@maribethcondrillon1079]

I know that whos say to me bidy language he flirting me.but he is wife ❤

[@vadimsky]

Isn't that mocking?

[@davea136]

You misspelled "negotiatins".

[@PhilC]

Misspelt*

[@MrVinhPhan]

negotiatin?

[@SecondaryChuckle]

Noice

[@DG-ee9hi]

It looks like Chris got a better piece since this video was filmed

[@AdrianMunch]

Passive aggressive.

[@addisonchoi9380]

Uwgzya6

[@niels8195]

That's called parroting though. Mirroring is what you first described.

[@thraxxxsd]

I'll take his word over yours, unless you got better credentials?

[@niels8195]

@@thraxxxsd Google it. I've got a bachelors and master degree in psychology. Ive read Chriss's book as well.