Husband Secretly Ruined Food I Was Preparing For Guests, I Lashed Out AITA

[@andreachristensen5383]

The fact that he seasoned the food to the point that he himself wouldn't even eat means there's no medical condition or helpful behavior going on here. He over seasoned it, didn't eat it and went out for dinner. I bet it was with another woman and not the guys

[@blueberry1804]

I have messed up taste where I add to much salt or black pepper, but I have help I'm learning to properly put it in but I know never to mess with others cooking it's basic respect to others creative work. Only excuse would be if he was a small child but he's not he is a grown man

[@Grace_x68]

Same feeling here

[@wickedamoeba8719]

I’m so sick of little girls being taught to hug and kiss people on command. They do not owe people physical affection. I’m glad the mother is teaching her step daughter to form and respect her own boundaries.

[@BlueMageDaisen]

Happens to little boys too As someone who is both autistic and grew up to be gay I remember often being shamed in multiple ways for refusing to let girls hug and/or kiss me I wasn't exactly found of physical contact with guys either but all the pressure was on contact with girls

[@wickedamoeba8719]

@@BlueMageDaisen Very true. People should be teaching boys and girls to respect boundaries. I wish adults would stop pushing their heteronormative bullshit on literal children. I remember not wanting anyone to hug me but adults going “but you’re going to hurt his feelings” over and over again anytime I didn’t want to hug a boy and being pressured by that boy directly for a hug. I imagine you went through something similar with girls.

[@TheIronwil]

Your screen name is inspiring!

[@lovinavargas-carriedo2698]

She is allowed body autonomy. It is also an absolute disservice to kids with disabilities to not teach them to set boundaries. If they don't learn to respect boundaries then they invade space and it leads to issues down the line.

[@susankaempfer8427]

@@lovinavargas-carriedo2698exactly what I was thinking and the number one point to bring up to the other mom. Time to introduce the bow.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#2 - wait. hold up a goddamned minute here. the boy in question and his mom are allowed to accommodate his limitations and needs, but no one else can set their own boundaries? bullshit. OP is NTA and old mom of the boy best learn to teach him others have autonomy over their own bodies and NO is a complete sentence.

[@hand.sanitiizer]

I agree with you

[@stephenlundy5082]

Story 1: The quote that got me was "Then he went out to meet his friends for dinner." If this was about him making the food better, why the hell didn't he eat it? You are talking about some real passive aggressive AH stuff here. If I was OP I would save every scrap of that meal and make him eat every bite. Breakfast, lunch and dinner until it was all gone.

[@IlkaWaffy]

She should probably rather get out of the relationship

[@kemonono]

@@IlkaWaffy this ^^^^^. There is something clearly fucked up and it's better if she just leaves.

[@songohan3321]

She should weaponize it or I hope she had him tested for Covid-19.

[@Lestaticate]

Sabotaging food is one thing, but Officer Salty’s lucky he didn’t do lasting damage to OP’s old man. Imagine if you were preparing food for guests with allergies and Officer Salty added a secret ingredient.

[@bluedragonfly8139]

Oh god, I *love* the nickname 'Officer Salty'!

[@arianebolt1575]

He kind of did. Salt is just safer in that you'll probably notice before you ingest too much.

[@Acidfunkish]

There's a lack of evidence that salt has anything to do with blood pressure. Just saying.

[@OnewBiased]

@@Acidfunkish there's google. I suggest you try again buddy

[@josefinbjork1086]

What if she was cooking and not adding some ingridints becuse of alergis ore sensetivitis/medical condotions. And he ads somting ells He could make someone very sick or even kill Someone. He is a cop ore did i hear wrong is he nuts he must have somting wrong upp stairs

[@sagesaria]

I'd like to add on story 2: MAJOR props to OP for specifically how she encouraged her stepdaughter to say no herself with the "you try, and if you have trouble I'll help you." Teaching her that she's allowed to stand up for herself and that it's a good idea to speak up for herself, but also still being there for support if it's hard - learning how to defend boundaries is scary even as an adult, let alone as a child, so that support system is important.

[@t.matthies3049]

She handled it perfectly (assuming she did it pretty much as described). And especially being neurodivergent, learning physical boundaries before he reaches adulthood is so important, not only for other people who may not want to be hugged, but also for his own safety (crossing such boundaries as a grown man could get him into so much trouble, or even prison time depending on the circumstances). If he starts being taught those lessons as a child, it will make being an adult a lot easier for him. OP did both him and her daughter a favour by handling it the way she did.

[@rosemarie1817]

This comment is perfect for the situation, as a kid, I was forced to hug and kiss relatives I didn't know nor feel comfortable to touch, this ingrained in my head that rejecting physical affection was wrong and was why when I was sexually harrased I wondered if it was really sexual harassment.

[@Suilimani]

Why are girls always made to feel guilty about saying no. No is a complete sentence. I don’t care if the kid is neurodivergent that doesn’t mean he can touch whom ever he feels like. I know girls can be touchy to and they should learn that no means no. It just seems like if you’re a girl and you have the audacity to say no to a boy then you’re made out to be wrong.

[@boba4]

It's important to teach your daughter to set and stick to her own feelings about bodily autonomy. One person'a affectionate hug can feel like an unwelcome assault to another.

[@zebnemma]

"nice guys" giving a woman a super small favor like holding the door open or giving a flower and woman doesn't suck his dick. HOW DARE SHE!!??? Buying affection doesn't really work unless it's a prostitute or a gold digger, it's a bit weird that some guys seem to think every woman in the world is a gold digger and expects that as the norm.

[@r.dunlap4139]

"No" is a complete sentence, and the end of the discussion.

[@angeliccow]

I would say the op “could” have asked her daughter if she wanted to high five/fist bump but there may not have been time, same with warning the other mother and supporting the daughters right to say no both ahead of time or two seconds before or even change her earlier yes to a no when it comes down to it is more important than keeping another child happy regardless of that child’s abilities and understanding. It’s the boys mother’s job to teach her child that not everyone wants to be touched and if she had done that then the boy would not have been hurt. Given that this particular child has boundary issues anyway (shown by his aggressive behaviour) it’s even more important that he learns it’s ok to be told no.

[@ItsCamille735]

Story One: If he prefers his food with more salt/spices why doesn’t he just season his food to his taste? If the food is supposedly the way he likes it then why is he seemingly not eating it?

[@janet6421]

Exactly. He doesn't like the food and will not eat it either. He knows that he is sabotaging the food.

[@wmdkitty]

Power and control.

[@IlkaWaffy]

Its not that he prefers more salt. If he did, he'd then actually eat the food but it doesn't sound like he ever really does. He is controlling and manipulating her

[@bluedragonfly8139]

Right? Like, I've got a bad sense of smell, so I tend to oversalt/overseason things. So I've learned to follow the recipe and if it seems bland, to add salt or spices to *my own portion* rather than ruin the food for everyone.

[@michaelmorris8302]

Or she thinks she's a better cook and she has bland food who buys secret spices?

[@xreinachan5872]

I don’t trust anyone who can just sabotage someone’s food like that-

[@MarkNarrations]

Too true! Very sneaky!

[@IlkaWaffy]

I'd honestly be worried he was trying to harm me

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

@@IlkaWaffy same. The nice side of me wants to believe he just hates that he can't cook and she can, and maybe it hurts him. But the other part says he's just an asshole and is trying to make her feel like she can't cook and control her

[@xreinachan5872]

@@GabrielleHayes1921 nope, that’s controlling. Trust me bby, I know the signs.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

@@xreinachan5872 oh no I definitely agree, it's just that one voice in my head that always has to say "but what if that's not the case?". I'd stop cooking for him in any form, if he's hungry clearly he thinks he can do it better and therefore can make his own food

[@janabug68]

Story 2: Teaching consent starts with hugs at a young age. I work at a preschool and if kids don't want hugs from their friends, we don't force them and encourage the kids to ask for hugs. I have to say, OP, you are an awesome step mom in the way you encouraged her to stand up for herself. NTA.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Story 2: NTA. Children need to learn consent. This mum to John is setting the kid up to feel he entitled, which is not on. Good on OP for standing by her stepdaughter.

[@paulastiles5507]

What's scary is that he is already physically bullying the kids and then his mother is bullying all the girls into letting him do the pre-teen version of groping them. That's really bad for both sides. Good for OP, standing up for her daughter. NTA allll the way.

[@billjacobs2799]

First story...RUN, he is not trying to make the food better!

[@boooo13]

Story one - the parents did say something thou! They said they couldn't eat it because of too much salt!

[@HackiePuffs]

Story 1: NTA. Is no one gonna talk about how the boyfriend made the OP’s father sick?!?!! They’re lucky all the parents did was leave I don’t know if you could press charges in this case but going off of stories where people tried to trick people into eating things they’re allergic to I would think that it counts. Correct me if I’m wrong 😅.

[@Lestaticate]

And the dude’s an OFFICER. Big oof!

[@HackiePuffs]

@@Lestaticate oh I didn’t even notice that the first time that makes it worse!!!

[@IlkaWaffy]

Had so many stories about cops harming/killing their wives flashing through my mind (might be a bit dramatic but his behaviour already did end up harming her father and he wasn't apologetic about it at all , so I doubt he regrets it )

[@HackiePuffs]

@@IlkaWaffy that’s EVEN worse and scary now 😬

[@audraverela3663]

@@IlkaWaffy 7 years older, and a cop was a big nope for me. Add in weaponized incompetence along with purposely sabotaging food which made one person sick? Girl run 🚩

[@peggin169]

Story 3, OP is absolutely NTA. He didn't "put his job above his son," he put his household's only source of income over his fiancee's hairdo.

[@boba4]

The entitlement and pettiness coming off her and her mother are like a tidal wave. Dropping off your child at the guy's place of work to go have your hair done is appalling. Employers generally take a very dim view of that sort of thing except in case of emergencies.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@boba4 I know right? This would've been a dealbreaker for me. Seriously, why would you cost your partner their livelihood for your own selfish desires?! ಠ⁠︵⁠ಠ OP needs to get out and not look back. If he doesn't, he's going to be in for a miserable marriage.

[@JSainte17]

“I couldn’t believe he would leave me like that.” TF? He took a job and you didn’t wanna go. Also, “I eventually got over it.” I’m only at this point in the story and I can confidently say, no you fecking didn’t. This wouldn’t be an issue if you “got over” the thing he didn’t even really do to you.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 1: *NTA* Maybe Mike has issues regarding his sense of taste? Like maybe he can’t smell or maybe his tongue just doesn’t work? So he oversees his food to compensate for his lack of sense of taste? Apparently your sense of smell is heavily tied to your sense of taste and if you just can’t smell your pallet is going to be weak. Honestly the nerve of him to go out to dinner with his friends after he ruined the food his wife prepared. If he thought the ingredients he added will make it taste better than he should’ve eaten the food he “helped with” STORY 2: *NTA* There’s not some “hierarchy“ when it comes to disabilities. Sensory disorders are disabilities too and step daughter should not have to choke down her discomfort in order to make another kid with a “worse“ disability feel better. Major props for OP to teach her SD that it’s OK for her to say no when she doesn’t want to come to physical contact with someone else. It upsets me that SD was so apologetic and said that she’ll put up with giving him a hug next time. No one should have to adjust their boundaries to please other people, whether they have a disability or not. Bodily consent is a thing no matter your age, gender, or reason for denying your consent. *Coerced Consent is not full consent.* STORY 3: *NTA* How was OP supposed to watch a kid while working at the hospital? “ you clearly care more about work than taking care of your son“ Not only is that gas line but it’s also an oxymoron. Don’t you need money to take care of a child? How do you supposed to get money? Oh yeah I work at a job which is what OP was doing. Not to mention the Mom getting her hair done is more important to take care of her son?

[@little_lion_heart9850]

Totally agree, and furthermore, someone does not need a disability to not want to be touched. If someone just doesn't want to be touched, that is reason enough alone.

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

Yeah, I agree with both you and Little Lion Heart. Absolutely NOBODY should have their consent or bodily autonomy overridden, at any point, disabled or abled, but it's definitely a thing that I've experienced as a chronically ill, disabled and autistic person. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter how deep the water is; if you can't swim, you're still drowning. And just because the person opposite you is in a full-body cast, it doesn't mean your broken leg magically fixes itself. It's super hard to unlearn that imposter syndrome after being told that crap so often. And just because you THINK someone else doesn't have as many issues, that doesn't mean you're right. Hidden disabilities and masking are things that happen a LOT.

[@beingWantable]

Story 3; why would she not bring the child to the salon?? Op explained that this is out of the normal, maybe something is wrong? Why did she not call her soon to be mother in law???

[@itrasheditgood]

I think she was just pissed that fiancé was sticking to their guns about working, she was trying to be controlling. This is a major red flag because I think future MIL had a part in this. It’s likely future MIL will interfere in relationship from here on out. If the couple can’t have a united front and not let future MIL influence decisions, then the this relationship is doomed.

[@Azulakayes]

OP is literally the one providing an income for the family. His fiancée should grow up. OP shouldn't marry into that mess until she matures.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@Azulakayes No. Scratch that. OP shouldn't marry her at all. Dumping kids at your partner's workplace? Nope. Instant dealbreaker in my opinion.

[@BushidoBrownSama]

"The fiance cared more about a salon appointment than her son" Do NOT marry! Dropping a kid off with OP who was working from home is shitty, but OP works at a hospital dropping a 1 yr old off with hubby who works there is moronic

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 4: YTA. It's also his wedding, so he gets a say in who he wants as his best man.

[@leegraves8878]

She isn't over ex I hope the fiancé figures this out before throwing his life away with her.

[@gelasiakidd8076]

I agree with you 100%. Still I can almost feel the bitterness in her words. She really needs to talk to a professional. It sounds like she got stuck in this bubble of negativity and everything is tainted with it. Maybe worth couples counseling, if this is how the marriage is starting. There's so much that isn't being said. But she doesn't sound well at all. Speaking as someone with PTSD and C-PTSD, sometimes you just. Get frozen where you are. I think it's *fixable* but it requires acknowledging there's a problem, and she's not there yet. which is I think what makes her the AH most of all. She can't just force people beyond reasonable just to pad herself from having to deal with the negative feelings she doesn't even admit she's carrying.

[@ezyo1000]

@@gelasiakidd8076 Ehh if your already needing couples therapy before your even married then it may be a good sign that you should not be marrying that person

[@gelasiakidd8076]

@@ezyo1000 true, but half of couples counseling is more like mediating to a healthy split. It's not always to fix it. It's sometimes about trying to finish it with the least damage possible. I don't think it could hurt, and if they continue with individual therapy after that can only help

[@ilydowa]

idk id feel weird having my brides ex as best man, but she does sound bitter

[@Tammohawk1]

1st Story: NTA "But honey, I was just trying to help." Me, "And you see how well that went don't you? Did I ask for your help? No! Don't "help" until the moment I ask. Otherwise, leave my food alone! Capice?" 3rd Story: NTA You have every right to be upset. You have to work. Your mil said you were selfish for caring more about work than the kid? Wow!! I would be so so upset. But the babies mother getting all shiny for her cousins wedding is more important? Who is going to feed her daughter and the baby if OP doesn't work? OMG! This one got to me badly. Baby and I would not be going home. We would be staying with my mom.

[@sebastianjoseph9628]

Isn’t there, I don’t know, a pandemic that has killed over 400k+ going on and hospitals are hot spots

[@Jennifer_helen]

Story 1: I wonder if OPs husband has feels inferior that she is better than him at something? She is NTA

[@ebonynaomi1085]

Why would he feel emasculated that he can't cook?? alot of women still cook a majority of the meals, for their husbands. He just sounds like a weirdo. Lol

[@digit5465]

Story 2 felt kinda weird to me, i dunno why. But NTA, the mom should realise not everyone would want to be touched, she exploded out of nowhere

[@bluedragonfly8139]

Yeah, I think my friends and I are from one of the last generations of :'Go hug aunty/give nana a kiss!' and still remember how totally uncomfortable it was and the fact that it really sets up an unhealthy view that our boundaries didn't matter.

[@red0421]

@ʆίϯϯʆε ƒɾεδ ɓյσɾηα I'm a pretty chill person, but I would lose my shit if someone tried to hug me when I said no to it, I don't like being touched without my consent, and especially by people I'm not comfortable with! OP should tell them "He might be disabled, but that just means he needs extra support, not to have people disregard their own wellbeing for his appeasement. He needs to learn no just like any other kid, so unless you can justify why I should teach my kid that they should let someone touch their body just to keep the peace, or why you're all upset over a little girl not wanting a boy to touch her, maybe you should think over it and why I'm not okay with teaching my daughter her boundaries aren't important. Here's a hint: child predators." I'm kind of sick of people being afraid to tell a disabled kid no, they're still kids who need to learn it.

[@paden1865able]

I wasn't a hugger until I had kids and a good marriage. I still don't like random people touching me and will spin around ready to punch if taken unaware. PTSD really sucks.

[@jacksparrowismydaddy]

she probably has a hair trigger from all the hate... for every supportive person that understands kids have disabilities, there are a few assholes that bully them. I'm chalking this up to a misunderstanding but she has to teach him "not everyone likes hugs and that's okay too."

[@paulastiles5507]

@@paden1865able I used to work in some professions where I got groped a lot. Add to that an abusive childhood and I am *so* not a hugger. I'm pretty good these days about people randomly coming up and patting me on the back or whatever without ill intent. When I was younger...not so much.

[@47896285pgdfzgnd]

S2: From the other parents perspective they don't know that SD genuinely didn't want a hug, since her 'no' was so quiet, so I can see it looking like the mother just dragged her child away from the disabled boy. NTA for protecting the kid and boundaries, but I see why the other mother was offended and how the other parents probably thought about the situation.

[@SherriLyle80s]

It's believable because it's very sad that even at this age, little girls are conditioned to be timid and not have ownership of their own bodies. I have two little girls and one has ADHD, the other is very hands-off, don't touch me. Very different personalities from the same family. It's up to parents to teach their children about consent at a very early age. "You don't want to hug Grandma? It's okay." It's simple.

[@bobbyjay205]

i don't understand why this couldn't be sovled better. I don't get why a mom with a special needs kid wouldn't understand another kids special need. does that make sense?

[@deebee4930]

Story 3 - He should ask the partner's mother if she is prepared to support them if he loses his job. Or, maybe his partner could get a part time job so he could cut down his hours and be home with the baby more. I agree with others that the mother is not going to hold her opinions back after the wedding - he's in for a lifetime of interference.

[@scousemouse9566]

Story 4, YTA, it is not just your wedding it's his too.

[@Gumbier_Than]

Thank you! Too many act as if these grooms are just accessories or just there for moral support. Nope, they're not getting married too at all. 🙄

[@lunaticbz3594]

I'm rather surprised that the vast majority opinion is calling it YTA. Granted I wouldn't end up in the same situation as OP, but if I somehow did I wouldn't want an ex to be a major part of the wedding. Attending the wedding is one thing, but having a critical role in it means a lot of interactions. Are people expected to emotionally resolve all their issues with ex's? If that is a common expectation then I'm definitely an asshole.

[@Gumbier_Than]

@@lunaticbz3594 it's not her discomfort with the ex that's the problem. It's like she has a "my way or highway" attitude. He didn't have anyone else to stand with him on the big day, he proposed no parties in the wedding also. I do see your point though.

[@songohan3321]

Just read this woman's comments. Apparently she slept with the ex. When the ex moved 3000 miles away because of a job, she hooked up with his best friend. Many in Reddit pointed out that she is mad because she didn't get the reaction from the ex that she wanted.

[@koolkittykat04]

Story 3: As someone who currently works in a healthcare field... you can’t just “skip work,” especially not when you work in a hospital.

[@NeoLotex]

Story 2: Absolutely NTA, no one should be forced to do anything that they don't want, no matter how small a thing it may be. I say that as someone for whom a hug is not a big deal, but for others it is and that has to be respected. Maybe OP could adress the issue at the next meeting publicly to disperse any confusion on the matter.

[@dm9078]

All kinds of red flags flying over that first story NTA Jesus. 2nd story NTA. No child should be told that he or she should have to hug or be touched by another. Screw these a-holes. Time to move on from that relationship Unless the best man is a criminal etc of some sort yeah YTA for telling the fiancé who his best man can be. Fiancé may need to reconsider this relationship. YTA 💯 and apparently not over the ex!

[@lsmmoore1]

"No child should be told that he or she should have to hug or be touched by another. Screw these a-holes."

[@alyssacooper7975]

I honestly wish that more parents would take that stance. If you teach them their boundaries, they will be safer and more confident.

[@leegraves8878]

Story 4 op isn't over ex hope her fiancé sees this planet sized red flag.

[@susanlayton2143]

From the first time I heard story 1 I was thinking that the husband was flat out sabotaging OP's cooking for some reason.

[@maggpiprime954]

Story 1: NTA. But, is he having a stroke? Like, he knows he's bad at cooking, he's accepted doing other chores, he's always liked the meals before, why the sudden change? What is going on with him?

[@jennilynne1977]

It's funny, I was watching one of Markee's videos and at the beginning of it he says, "This is Mark Narrations biggest fan. Your main man Markee." I thought that was so neat.

[@Ospyro3em]

Story 1- It sounds to me like he's not just a bad cook, he's deliberately ruining EVERY meal- both his and hers for some controlling reason

[@protoskeeper]

Story 2: I would write a letter to all the parents if they are happy that a little girl now thinks she has to allow everyone to touch her and isn't allowed to say no if she doesn't want to.

[@nerdy_evy]

The fact though that he dropped his son off at his mother's place shows that his mother was free for the day which means that for some reason his fiance didn't want to call his mother which is confusing

[@ncisfan1002]

Story 1: Divorce him, he clearly doesn't respect you or your parents by sabotaging your cooking

[@groofromtheup5719]

It was some screwed up game going on there. Either controlling (likely) too much ego to admit to failure (less likely) an excuse to go out with his side chick (likely as well).

[@yabe-kfptentacultist]

Story 3: really? looking after a child whilst working at a hospital? please reconsider marrying her OP. NTA

[@growinghigher420]

Also its during a pandemic which is even worse🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@Pipamonium]

Story 2: Hell to the F no! I'm a mom of two ND kiddos and when my son was younger, pre-covid, I did similar as that mum to help him have more interactions with NT peers. My son ALSO loves to give hugs. His sensory problems lean towards hypo- instead of hyper- and so he's ALWAYS looking for more stimulation. The FIRST thing I worked on when I noticed his tendency to try and glomp on people is to seek consent. Then how to handle rejection when it happens. ND kiddos already have difficulty understanding social cues - no need to make it HARDER on your kiddo by teaching them wrong to start! PERHAPS it's 'cute' now as a little kid but it's NOT gonna be cute when he's a teen and gets accused of SA. The OP in that story did beautifully supporting their little girl! I appreciate that they encouraged her to speak up for herself first then followed through on defending her reasonable boundary.

[@RosesTeaAndASD]

Story 1: The husband could have caused serious harm to OPs father with his "salting crusade" and the fact he acted confused at the table is a clear sign of gaslighting as he knew OP would be blamed for this and no one would believe OP if they told the truth. He even gaslighted OP in the beginning by letting them assume THEY had messed up their own cooking repeatedly in the beginning before admitting he had been tampering with the food and OP had not some how began messing up their own cooking. This is a warning sign for OP in their relationship.

[@JSainte17]

People are downplaying story 3. What she did is literally insane.

[@LadyTarasque]

I think some people have missed the note made in first story about OP eating out for past week because of her husband sabotaging her meals. That's controlling. And no, loss of taste is not an excuse for what's been happening. OP told him he's put too much seasoning and he completely ignores that. I'm baffled that anyone can excuse him that easily..

[@christinasutton5805]

First story: that girls man sounds like bender from futurama with all the salt he adds to food

[@bluedragonfly8139]

It was ten percent less than a lethal dose! 🤭

[@cheskydivision]

Love step mom teaching sd that she can say no. As a kid we were required to hug or kiss the adults we meet. I hated that, I made sure I always told my kids they never had to hug or kiss anyone unless they wanted.

[@pacomcjorge]

Story 2: wow that's theater group taught her daughter that if everyone's upset with her enough she'll have to give up her body to whoever wants it. What an awesome lesson to teach a young lady that she totally won't internalized and come back to haunt during High School with the way the boys are

[@dynodish]

Teaching a child from a young age that they have the right to say yes or no to any kind of touching from anyone is an awesome lesson.

[@kadycurrent160]

On the 2nd story- I'm not an affectionate person, but my family seems to think that affection is love. It's not love, it's how you express it, and I don't express love in affection. It's never been a major issue but we have had some disagreements. I express my love through conversations, time we spend together, emotions, etc. What should I do?

[@zerotodona1495]

Nothing you can do but tell them you love them and give a hug. I have the same issue.

[@red0421]

Tell them you speak different love languages: some do it through big actions, some through small, some by saying it, others don't verbalize it but say it in another way. Everyone has their own way. So long as you're respectful of the person you're communicating your feelings too and their boundaries, then I don't think there's really a wrong way.

[@Jen321able]

Last story, everyone doesn't completely get over all of their exes. Sometimes there is still love there but they are just not compatible. I do think this girl still has lingering feelings for her ex, but that doesn't mean she wants him. That being said, she started dating his friend so she should have known it was going to get weird and uncomfortable for someone eventually.

[@firesoftheasylum7890]

I still care for my ex; I want him to be happy and healthy, and get the family he always wanted. Do I want him or love him? No. Not all breakups are scorched Earth. I do OP goes and talks to a therapist or something, and figure out why she seems so bitter. Snarky ass on Reddit with that last comment was a bit much. "He had a girlfriend who didn't care enough about the relationship to follow him" wtf? Not everyone can just pick up and move, people need to learn that. Will admit, that one pissed me off.

[@pshaw8406]

Some people can't even boil water. I feel for the little 6 year old, I feel the same about being touched. Weddings are important and so are babysitters.

[@DarkAngel65989]

Story 1: OP is not the ah, he definitely doing this on purpose because he's a control freak wanting everything the way he likes it and probably this to hang out with friends or maybe cheat. Story 2:OP is not the ah, I can understand the other mom wanting her kid to fit in but the way she reacted was a bit much and she should talk to OP instead of making assumptions on the interaction. OP should tell an adult, who in charge of the center because this is considered bully base huge misunderstanding that is affecting the kids. Story 3:OP is not the ah, the fiance is nut and is the unreasonable one, she could of hire a babysitter or so a family member, being a nurse is a demanding job, there hardly any break or things happen like crazy, the fiance is the selfish one and her mother have no idea what she talking about, the bad parent is not OP it the fiance. OP should reconsider the relationship to see if he want really marry her. Story 4: OP is the ah, OP isn't over the ex, also the relationship between the ex and fiance was before OP and the fiance dated, so she needs to get over herself and just let the ex be her fiance best man since there no one in ex's life that have that relationship. The fiance should rethink marrying OP.

[@wombat4583]

I mostly agree with story 3 but if OP wanted to be supportive he also could have also just called up his family members to see if anyone else could help. Instead the response was figure it out yourself despite her side of the family was going to attend a wedding. Supposedly big events are enough to take time off but this time isn't good enough. Regardless of the profession (I know how bad nursing can be) doesn't negate getting time off. She was still a wacko of thinking the appropriate response was dumping the kid at Op's workplace, though.

[@emanx222]

@@wombat4583 I kinda disagree with the idea that if the OP wanted to be supportive he could have tried to look for child care. In any other situation I would agree HOWEVER, Why should that responsibility fall on him when his work load is already intense enough? The fiance was going to a bloody salon, she could have taken the kid If anything. In what world does someone think dropping their kid off at a hospital (pandemic or not) with all kinds of diseases flying around, makes any sense at all? I'm sorry but no, the fiance is ENTIRELY TA for her lack common sense and inability to reason. It's not like the fiance was busy besides the salon visit so really and truly she had absolutely no reason to be an entire asshat

[@spookyprizm8162]

Thanks for uploading as often as you do and being so sincere with us! It means the world to us! Much love, Mark! :)

[@rustyshackleford1697]

Oh man the first story reminded me of when my sister purposefully ruined my meal by adding something I told her directly not to put in, but she did anyway to spite me. She said I could just pick it out of the whole dish which wasn't possible and I was fucking furious. I don't blame her for being mad!

[@Mewse1203]

Stpry 4: marriage is doomed. OP is being unreasonable. I'm pretty sure she's got something for the ex. Whether anger, or old feelings, there is something she is latched on to. I agree it makes no sense she'd latch on

[@twitchcontrols1441]

The hugging story is a great example of parenting Edit because I hit send early: on the part of OP. teaching a kid that they do not have to be touched if they don’t want to is an early step towards sexual assault prevention.

[@1911odisea]

Story 4: I genuinely don't see how OP is the asshole? She's not controlling who her husband chooses, she's just vetoing one guy for and very good reason. She's even OK with the ex attending the wedding. Even if she still has some hang ups over the ex, so what? That's just human emotions for ya. Those Redditors are crazy.

[@SpookiePossum]

Mark I wanna say I appreciate all the time you up into making these especially that you do multiples a day. I love to listen to your videos while I clean, cook, draw, etc. All I wanna say is thank you. Also make sure your taking care of your.

[@TheIronwil]

Hugging Kid: NTA. WTF? I've never seen something like this in real life. Why would any kid be obligated to give hugs to someone else? Any adults for that matter. It's fine not to want to be touched, and if the other kid's mom was that fragile, she should probably wear a sign so everyone knows she's made of glass.

[@crystadawn8176]

Story One: yeah, DEFINITELY sabotage. And that last comment brings up a good point. Not only that, but what's next? How long before he adds something more sinister, like someone's allergens or even drugs? He hid his spices because he KNEW that he was in the wrong and not helping.

[@dracone4370]

If my prospective spouse pulled a stunt like this, I would tell them couple's counseling or our relationship is over in the next 15 hours

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Yay this up load has perfect timing cause I was in the middle of a freak-out domt worry ill be ok

[@MarkNarrations]

I hope so Broken, please look after yourself.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@MarkNarrations yeah it's already a bit better thank you 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@Mewse1203 thank you so much💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@paden1865able]

I'm sending hugs and good wishes your way because you deserve everything great in this world.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@paden1865able so do you 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@bilbybloom]

I wonder with Story 2 if the father was viewed as htre one who didn't want his daughter hugging the disabled boy. He said she said no very quietly, so the mother wouldn't have heard her. Then he put his hand on her shoulder and pulled her away, so the mother likely saw that as him saying no and not the daughter. NAH, I think he should just speak to the mum and tell her what happened.

[@harrypotter2700]

I’m not too sure that the mother is completely innocent though considering how she stretched out the situation over the span of months. Also, at no point was it mentioned that the little boy was asking if he could give hugs and kisses or a high five/fist bump, just that he was going around and doing it. That in itself sets a bad habit of acting before asking which his mother should have taught him otherwise. It should have been her priority to make sure her son was asking everybody for the physical contact, especially considering the fact that he was kissing the girls on the cheek.

[@carolynmurtaza1180]

First story. I would sit him down and tell him that if her dad had falling ill from eating the food you would have informed his boss. He is a police man and what he is doing could make either you or anyone else seriously ill or worse.

[@kessiawright1710]

Even a 6 year old should have bodily autonomy. I understand why the boy's mom got upset though. When something like that happens, she automatically thinks it is rejection because of his issues and becomes mama bear. People like him often get rejected by other kids. It doesn't mean how she responded was correct, it was an immediate emotional reaction. She has forgotten that he is not the only child in the world with issues. Mama bear is TA but perhaps not as much as we may think. It can be difficult to override your emotions long enough to think rationally. .

[@adriennewaterhouse5174]

What a waste of money can spend all that money on food just to throw it away

[@KittenUndercover]

Need to give props to how sweet and selfless the ex in story 4 is. I could never be that generous if I was in that position.

[@Jennifer_helen]

I dunno why but whenever I hear mark say waffle gang in my head I start singing the Gucci gang song but with waffles Edit: it makes the song better. Like ten times better

[@MarkNarrations]

Haha yeah a bunch of us was going to do the remix at some point :)

[@Jennifer_helen]

@@MarkNarrations please make it so it’s a full song I can buy off apple or google because I would listen to that daily 😂

[@berylwheaten9385]

@jennifer I just sang your version of the song and laughed so hard 😂😂😂😂

[@nadiaoneill3570]

I love it when you do update stories and it would be great to have you dive into some Just No Family Stories 😄

[@katiesmith2031]

Hi Mark thanks for the video hope your evening was good. Goodnight and sweet dreams 😊

[@MarkNarrations]

Always coming in for my good night Katie haha. Night my friend :)

[@katiesmith2031]

@@MarkNarrations always except last night was typing then posted before I had a chance to put good night and couldn't get back to edit sorry 😔

[@DuckTapeWarrior1]

Thank you for these videos, I’ve had three tests and a quiz today. One of the tests is three essays together. I’ve been really stressed but this definitely helps!

[@gabinathan5499]

I AM GROWN UP BUT I HATE BEING TOUCHED BY PEOPLE WITHOUT WARNING/AT LEAST WITHOUT BEING REQUESTED , WITHOUT ME ASKING THEM CAUSE I HAVE BEEN THROUGH SOME NASTY EXPERIENCES IN THE PAST.

[@novabrilliant4510]

Been outside because it's finally nice enough. Have a big helping of waffles to catch up on. Hope everyone is having their very best day.

[@ichigokurosaki-ij6bk]

Forced affection is always wrong. If its not in them, its not in them.

[@groofromtheup5719]

Story 3, If she wont cut back on her contact with MIL and get her head screwed on straight, dump her ass. Maybe toss in a "this is the 1 and only time you ever pull crap like that. We are over if it happens again"

[@lizcatty9281]

Absolutely always enjoy your stories/content Mark!☺ Really loving all the new music choices lately too!🥰🎶🤩 Much love u wonderful human😘 ♥️🇦🇺

[@amberkucera1211]

When I say no to my boys 8&11 and they try to back talk me, I ask them what “no” means. And they say “no, means no” end of discussion. Everyone has the right to say no and nobody should tell them otherwise.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 2: the mother of the disabled boy is trying to get him comfortable around children but when the opportunity of a good lesson in consent, she blames OP for whatever “disability shaming” excuses she musters. OP looked after the wellbeing of her kid by reaching wHe it’s ok to say no to being touched. Why the heck didn’t the other mother swallow her “hurt” and teach the boy consent too? She’s only putting in his mind it is ok for him to touch people even when they don’t want it. It’s a shame

[@chulutheimposter5415]

Again? Wow I like notifications :D, anyways I hope you have a fantastic evening Mark! I love seeing new posts every day but remember to take breaks when you need to!

[@MarkNarrations]

Thanking you Chulu :)

[@annemariekennis3122]

I have been binge listening to your videos as I'm at work. Currently we just received a sh*t ton of waffles. Btw freezers are cold.. very much so when you're handling cold product and putting it away.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

Story 2.) I HATE it when people get angry and don’t wanna talk. Once I asked a kid a question her mother accused me of being a racist. She wouldn’t even let me explain, having an holier than thou attitude. Like wtf?!?!

[@Davtwan]

Story 1: Controlling behavior? Probably not. Not wanting to be accountable for ignorance? Hell yes. The man is stubborn in thinking he can do it too no matter who he angers.

[@niyablake]

Lol Mark in story 3 was like naw fuck that shit I'm out

[@mariem8705]

“So let’s crack on.” I love hearing this.

[@shaylynnejones1725]

Story 1: Why the hell doesn't Officer Salty put his additions in his own meal? Or practice by cooking his own separate meal and eating only those?

[@janicewilcox8590]

The fiance and her mother are both insane. Bail now! And get custody of your kid. She's dangerous.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 3: It’s so busy at salons, I know, but the logical thing to do, instead of taking the baby to the salon, was give the baby to the father working in the hospital... where it’s busier and have sick people? That mother is unreasonable and selfish. Even then she could have given the baby to her MIL if OP drove the baby there. Sounds to me like she regretted being fiancés with someone with a tight schedule

[@cypressk3838]

Story 2: nta, that mom is the reason why in high school a former friend of mine after being told that I don't like to be touched unexpectedly declared that that doesn't get to apply to her and that she can hug me whenever without my consent.

[@emibaka309]

Again commenting here what im up to while listening: its actually night time where I live so im washing my face :) going to listen to this as a bedtime story ✨

[@EleanoraDzen]

Hugging and Kissing someone against their will is disturbing at ANY age! Well done OP! Empower your child!

[@BeadleJuce]

Story 2: I think people are assuming that everyone had the same knowledge of the situation as OP, but that probably isn't true. 1) they don't know her daughter doesn't like to be touched 2) they probably didn't hear "the quietest, squeakiest no" So to everyone else, it probably looked like the ND boy tried to hug SD and OP was like "excuse you, no, don't touch my daughter" which insults the ND boy and also oversteps SD's bodily autonomy rather than protecting it.

[@ashh4929]

Anyone else really skeeved out that the dude in story 1 is god damn *POLICE OFFICER* and he's doing this?!

[@DarkDreamsAndMoonlitNights]

The story about the little girl and her not liking to be touched hit a sore spot. When I was little I had rosy cheeks. Old ladies would reach out and touch my cheeks, sometimes pinching them. I wish my parents told people to F off. No one is entitled to a hug or anything from anyone, let alone a child. People need to stop pushing kids to give affection.

[@jaywan5553]

Sabotaging is a form of control and manipulation. This time it’s your cooking but anything you do better than him or where you feel accomplished will be sabotaged by him.

[@samanthacarpenter3336]

Wow, that 1st story is so weird, I mean WHAT! Also what a waste of food, could he be putting something more malicious in nature in the food and covering it with spices?

[@civivva4501]

The more I hear the policeman over salting his wife's food and ALMOST KILLING HIS FATHER-IN-LAW story the more creepy and fucked up the story becomes.

[@joankimbrell8334]

I’m an RN also. OP could loose license because it is called patient abandonment and it is against the law. Don’t walk, run out of that relationship!

[@BushidoBrownSama]

1st OP is NTA, intentions are important but negative impact is more important than positive intentions.

[@squirrel670]

It's disgusting that immature awful people like that are officers who are supposed to protect people.

[@eileenmoran235]

That nurse needs to RUN! His fiance is a awful, and her mother is worse. Run!!!!!!

[@groofromtheup5719]

story 4, It doesn't matter who is the AH. He has drawn a line in the sand. Elope or don't get married.

[@hekatsees9449]

1st Story: OP’s husband sounds like he is a sadist. I would expect him to escalate…