Too Fat For Her Own Funeral | This is Why Fat Acceptance Needs to STOP

[@WayraRose]

850 pounds is the size of a horse. You can't fit a horse in a normal car, and when a horse dies, they use a special crane to put them on a truck. What did mom think was going to happen when her morbidly obese daughter died?

[@facewrinkles3886]

I bet there was zero discussion to prepare for this. The delusion is so unhelpfully deep

[@michelewallace9478]

There's a river in Egypt...

[@tenjou0]

@@facewrinkles3886 There never is when it comes to death. Even if the person is terminally ill in some cases people just keep kicking that can.

[@BronzeDragon133]

@@michelewallace9478 The Atbarah? No, if you tried to throw her in that, she'd block the flow.

[@ruggedyful]

@@BronzeDragon133 the nile (sound it out)

[@kinsley7777]

if her daughter was 65 pounds when she passed, mom would be prosecuted for negligence … when will the enablers be held accountable ?!?!?

[@1PrayerWarrior4]

This is a great point!

[@minilea144]

​@@aquarius021489 her daughter could barely move. Mom was more than likely her caretaker. So, yeah she would get in trouble. Like an adult protective services thing.

[@alexshaw4567]

What about Eugenia Cooley. I don't know if when she dies, I think she lives with her mom, her mom would be held accountable

[@kinsley7777]

@@aquarius021489 that’s one of the reasons APS {adult protective services} exists … to protect adults . people don’t have to be senior citizens to be neglected and abused …

[@noname-ip9xe]

Nah because her daughter was a grown ass woman she could have just not eaten everything given to her.

[@lorianabanana6066]

I work in a hospital. I'm built kinda like Michelle- not as curvy/muscular but pretty close at 5'1" 115lbs. I'm strong from working as an STNA on a med surge floor but I'm still a small woman. You wouldn't believe how many patients/families are just INFURIATED that I can't somehow pick up and move people literally 3xs my size. They fully expect me to somehow move their bedbound family members all by myself or with one other small woman. It's just insane, even moving a tiny 90lb grandma isn't easy when it's dead weight. But I always have (especially men) expecting me to somehow lift and carry people who have like a foot and over 200lbs on me- if not more. Like YOU can't do it, but I can??? HOW??!!! Seriously how TF do you think this is going to work? It's so entitled and delusional and it's always the enablers who are the worst.

[@sss2113_]

This is what the world is becoming. You’re in the wrong but they’re allowed to get themselves to that point?! People are so ridiculous 🙄

[@glorysmummy]

@@sss2113_ Meanwhile people in some countries are starving plus so many abandoned, starving pets.

[@TJ-um8ce]

My wife quit nursing and she said this happened to her a few times (she worked on a post-op floor, so a lot of bypass & gastric sleeve patients would come through)

[@xenxander]

remember feminism, women don't need men.

[@MrCophtr]

yeah blame the men as usual to get sympathy points

[@adelinaprentice4703]

I still don't understand how the mom is so concerned with "dignity in death" but didn't think twice about her dignity while she was alive 😔

[@duskonanyavarld1786]

Death feeder, a child is the perfect victim. She can be brainwashed from birth. Now the mother gets attention like Munchansen by proxy syndrome.

[@dxitydevil]

Fr, you dont realize what a thing you have until its gone

[@sprig5173]

How do you keep feeding them to death? It's disgusting.

[@NDNauthorgirlie]

​@sprig5173 fr if my kid was THAT big and bedbound we'd start some healthy food and some appropriate excerise asap

[@AWESOMESAUCEES]

This

[@elizabeth-y6e6f]

breaking toilets????!!!!! nah how do you not take your weight seriously after crushing a damn TOILET 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@Dis_is_fine]

Having a toilet break under you is extremely dangerous too and can kill you

[@SK-rs1hu]

But there are people out there who will go on thinking there's something wrong with the toilet.. can't possibly be me 🚽🪠

[@knowbodiesfull5768]

Steven Assanti broke a toilet!

[@elizabeth-y6e6f]

@@SK-rs1hu omg you’re right. “look at this cheap ass toilet” holy shit that’s so sad i designed bathrooms for a while and most toilets i sold had a 500lb weight limit. i cannot imagine an 850lb pound person coming in to complain about their wall mounted toilet falling off. warranty is voided, babe.

[@BronzeDragon133]

@@elizabeth-y6e6f Good news! An 850 pound person wouldn't "come in" to complain!

[@kimberlymcdonald7405]

The feeder should be brought up on charges😡 at 850 pounds there is no way she prepares her own food. Dead at 33 is murder.😢

[@StarlightEater]

Freedom ain free babe

[@imsleepy6211]

This should fall under the adult protective services category because at that size they cannot be independent and the diet they are getting would have cps asking questions (hopefully)

[@TempestinBlue]

Hi. Funeral director here. Bodies that big don’t even embalm well. And if they want her buried, the casket costs twice as much, the oversized grave liner costs twice as much, and they usually need 2 graves to hold them. We once had someone who was about 500 pounds. He needed an oversized cremation container, 5 people to push him from the van to the crematory’s mechanical lift, and it costs more because it’s dangerous and it takes WAY longer. We could normally cremate several bodies over the course of a shift, but he took all day. And then he needed multiple urns. Had a 400 pound guy not fit on the embalming table or in a body bag. Got a call about a 600 pounder who died out of state and we couldn’t help the family because they couldn’t afford the cost of transporting his body back home for burial (all together: the bill from the place who does the removal and embalming, the transport company, our service fees, the oversized everything, and the double grave space would have come to tens of thousands of dollars); they had to have him cremated where they were. And I’ve had families be so in denial about how big their loved one actually was that they brought in clothes for them that were literally 10 sizes too small. It’s so sad. I also know funeral directors who’ve wound up with hernias and assorted other injuries from moving large bodies like that. So yes I’m fat phobic. I’m sick of having to give their families bad news and making their loss worse, and I’m sick of people I care about winding up in the hospital because of those same bodies.

[@HarlequinsHappyHour]

Thank you for standing up for our profession... I don't think people understand how much additional personnel is needed. We've had fire depots assist us with lifts on caskets and you are absolutely spot on... Adipose does not embalm well and you can hypo the crap out of the tissue but it's never going to fully embalm. It takes so much longer and so much more fluid. Moving them is difficult and depending on the size capacity on the retort it might not even be safe to cremate at that size. Funeral homes aren't refusing service because they don't care about the dignity of the loved ones, it's the opposite. If they can't handle it there's no dignity in it for the family, the decedent, or the director. It's certainly not our fault that a person chose to live the way they did but you can't get on us for doing our best with the materials and staff we have to work with...

[@madamvaudelune3298]

Good Lord y'all. What a nightmare.

[@jayATUK]

Thanks for your your comments, it's interesting to hear about it from funeral directors'/morticians' point of view. 850 pounds is roughly how much a 15hh thoroughbred would weigh, and it's crazy to think a human would achieve this weight. Nobody could expect all morgues, crematoriums, etc to be prepared for a body this large, or anywhere nearly that large. To think of all the special equipment they all would have to buy, just for those relatively rare cases... (although sadly becoming less and less rare)

[@revolutionaryforall]

Can not imagine love one's bringing clothes too small.

[@wendylevinson7924]

Very interesting. I can imagine all that fat would have the fire running extra hot! Wow!

[@Taywanee]

Can’t believe you’re almost a 1 million! I’ve been here since your channel was called “My thoughts will probably offend you” 😂

[@Hehekiki307]

Me too!!!! At 1 mill she has to get her dogs 1 mill treats👀👀

[@hereiscece]

Sameeee 🙋🏽‍♀️😭

[@ally93796]

How did I not notice it changed 😂 I just see Michelle's face, and I click it ❤

[@theinkyspoon]

@@ally93796 same lol. I didnt even notice the change

[@ankaro4258]

I'm since Yoshi was the only child!

[@1SpicyMeataball]

*30+ people in the room trying to move her* Mother: "they didn't do enough!" Bish, really?

[@richerDiLefto]

Exactly. Like she *ever* “did enough” herself to help prevent her daughter from getting this big in the first place.

[@emma2370]

All those people could have injured themselves trying to move her too.

[@chelseaparrott8983]

In my early 20s I was a CNA in a hospital. I was 120lbs. We were super understaffed and one of my patients was over 300 pounds and had an amputated leg. I called and called to get help to roll her over so I could change her bedding but no one came. So I rolled her myself and i felt my back pull, I am in my 30s now and I've had constant back pain since then. It does surprise me that so many big people just expect others to take care of them with no worries about what it will do to the people struggling to move their weight.

[@reborka]

Absolutely agree, it’s selfish and entitled if you ask me

[@helenbibibibi]

Me too, I'm a caregiver and around 110lbs I took care a big elderly person around 280lbs and needed to change her diaper and soiled bedding, I even called my two other friends who even smaller than me just to do it. At first I felt like a failure but boy my hands and waist felt pricking pain for a whole three days after that or so 😔

[@selenedm999]

Maybe we need patient lifting robots, rather than ugly self driving cars.

[@NaomiDollxoxo]

@@selenedm999or OR work on weight loss as a society. There are weight lifting machines. There are weight lifting bars. There’s weight shifting machines. They exist but do not do any good since you must get the person INTO them

[@Nothingisreal1737]

@@selenedm999that’s what rules are for. Usually it has to be a 2+ person job. But even that .. people are risking their health.

[@pattydorkface]

My dad is a retired fire fighter. He had to move a 700 lb man with his crew and messed up his back really bad. He spent his last year before retirement on disability. The man got mad at my dad for getting hurt because it hurt his feelings they were having such a difficult time transporting him. They were all trying their best to get him to the hospital so he could get the care he needed. No one said anything bad or rude to this man. They were just physically struggling to move him.

[@AmakaRickman]

Tell me you're joking 😭💔

[@Joel-wx7zk]

@@AmakaRickmanNah, have plenty of stories like this working at a hospital. Massively Obese people are some of the most narcissistic people I’ve met and just expect 1-2 people to magically be able to lift and carry them and get so emotional when I have to essentially bring 12+ people just to help turn them in bed cause I ain’t risking my back for them

[@BillionairesArentYourFriends]

I truly believe your story is 100% true, and not the first time this has happened. There are so many news reports of people dying at home even though there were paramedics there because they couldn't get the person in the ambulance. One story I read, a man had to have an exterior wall of his house removed and a forklift just to take him out of his bed. It's so sad loved ones support their addiction with food. The guy can't get up, how is he getting food? Enablers.

[@dianasmakeuppalace4205]

Sorry that happened. What a jerk! Lots of hospital stories like these…. When I discovered my bad kidneys I did EVERYTHING to be independent because I knew if anyone helped, I’d hurt their back. I’ve always been close to 300 pounds so nahhhh don’t help me… Well, one nurse must’ve been new because he said ‘I appreciate that because with heavy patients we hurt our backs” 😂 I felt better tbh being the person I am. Other victims try to blame.

[@annjohnson4061]

@@BillionairesArentYourFriends You know how I know you're telling the truth and that this is out of hand. Because that's not the only story like this. One of the women on one of those my WhateverHundred Pound Life had to have a wall cut out and a UHaul truck brought to move her. The medical staff were really nice and stayed in the back of the truck to comfort her. They couldn't close the back door all the way because they needed the light and ventilation as those trucks are made for moving people just things.

[@dougwhiddon8227]

At 210, I am a fat guy. I used to weigh 350. I cannot describe how much better life is at just 210, even though I need to lose another 40ish pounds. I will NEVER support fat acceptance.

[@monicacollins8289]

🎉Congrats and keep going.

[@Imgonnabeatyouwithabook]

Losing more then 100 pounds. God dam! Good job keep going!

[@DarkYuy]

I'd be happy to hit 200 myself and ecstatic if I could get back to the 180 I was in high school.

[@patrickcardon1643]

Doing great, you'll get there I'm sure, and you'll feel even better

[@MalignDreams]

Hey man that's really freaking awesome! I can't imagine how hard that was but I'm so proud of you! Keep it up!! And don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise!! 💯🙌💛

[@cyb0rgirl]

Why does mom act like everyone else was supposed to be planning for her daughters death except her?

[@YouTubeThrowaway-lj9vy]

Because in many folks' sick minds everything is everybody else's responsibility and problem. For the dead girl, she was correct. Because she died and it WAS everybody else's problem. Unfortunately mom survived and can still pass the buck on to everybody else.

[@neonfiresquaw1789]

​@@KZbinThrowaway-lj9vy nailed it

[@creatorsfreedom6734]

i know a pound that piranha's live in

[@thesheerwoodcrow5465]

I mean normally a parent doesn’t have to think about burying their child. The child has to think about burying their parent. However in this case her own negligence partly (daughter coulda put the damn food down as well.) caused this so that doesn’t apply.

[@nicolejennings8389]

Mexican thought process. Their culture is different.

[@TisHotMessHistory]

Hearing the mother talk about how upsetting it was to keep going in her daughter's room and seeing her body.... Lady! You were walking in her room and seeing/helping her die every day leading up to her death. It's a sad story but she had to see this coming.

[@NobodyImporttant]

Only then she was forced to confront reality

[@1normallyimpulsive]

Well we don’t know if she was enabling the daughter. Highly likely? Yes. Known fact? No. And the daughter was an adult, she probably had ways to keep eating outside of her mother. Plus food addiction is different from drugs. People need food to live. Worst case scenario: the daughter could boycott foods she doesn’t want to eat.

[@lainiwakura1776]

@@1normallyimpulsive She was 850 lbs, she was not moving out of that bed for anything.

[@leviacronym6770]

@@1normallyimpulsive I've seen enough to know the mom was enabling her daughter. These people throw toddler tantrums and then their enablers go out and get them bad food or make it at home all day long. She also probably raised her daughter to eat wrong (even mom is obese) and instead of learning to eat better, she just let them all eat whatever. It takes A LOT to get to nearly a ton, so there's no way she didn't know. It's very likely her daughter was bed ridden, too. Mom could have sought help for her kid, and pushed her daughter to do the right thing. This is exactly what my mom would do if I became morbidly obese. She wouldn't just bring me food and call me beautiful. No, she would be on my ass to lose weight and eat better.

[@1normallyimpulsive]

@@leviacronym6770 seeing “enough” still doesn’t make your statement anything more than speculative assumptions encouraged by confirmation bias. There is no strong evidence to back anything you said. You don’t have any evidence that the mom didn’t push for help, & you don’t have evidence that the daughter was bed ridden. The photos we do see are of her inside and outside of the home with no assistance. You don’t know if the mom is losing weight or she could have gained weight from stress eating throughout this whole thing. For all we know the mom could have been heavier before the interview & was trying to encourage her daughter to do the same. I know for a fact, that you don’t know enough to make such a judgement on the mom. The daughter was in the 30s. She didn’t need mommy to hold her hand. Heck, Michelle in her late teens took accountability for her own health. And there are family members of her’s who see no problem with their weight. In some families obesity is normalized or desensitized. Doesn’t make it right, but thats the reality of some people’s situations. Speaking from experience, you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. Plus people who have poor finances look for cheap meals, which are 99% unhealthy. Those people know it’s not good but they’re in a bind where they prioritize a roof vs weight. Still not good, but they’re prioritizing a roof vs weight. There are so many reasons for why the daughter could have been fat outside of her mother. It makes mo sense to make people 100% accountable for something that doesn’t 100% involve them nor have control over. Especially when you only have assumptions & no evidence outside of confirmation bias.

[@AlistairKiwi]

How does a person who couldn't fit through her bedroom door get food? She can't get to the kitchen. Someone was over-feeding her. That's not love.

[@brucea9871]

Yes her mother was. If I was so big I couldn't even fit through my bedroom door I think I would die of embarrassment long before I died from obesity.

[@michaelpettersson4919]

There is a small subsection of people that get off on massively obese lover. These heavy weights sometimes have tiny lovers that feed them.

[@puffsplus72]

Cassandra was only 33 when she died. I’m sure her weight had nothing to do with her death, amirite?

[@lukkachan7186]

Mhmm yeahhh... She died of "natural causes"

[@paulatmuniz]

Skinny people die at 33 too! 🙄🫣

[@giantclaw138]

Tyroid plorbem

[@Alice15210]

Yes. And just bcs she was fat it doesn't mean she was immoral. And I'm sure she was healthy. It was discrimination that they couldn't pick her up like they would do with thinmints (S)

[@Lima_luna-nob]

​@@Alice15210 how is that discrimination? She was to heavy for two to three persons to carry they had to get 20+ people to carry her. It's a fact the she was to heavy for her body to be removed out of the house quickly. Y'all need to stop using the word 'discrimination' where ever you please.

[@cronotose8558]

i dont know how fat acceptance even started and how you could belive that being so fat you cant fit in a chair, car, coffin, anything is beautiful and healthy

[@3dtipsclips500]

it started because America is full of obese people and crazy beauty standards on the other hand.

[@kaitlinsnair2386]

It started as an activist movement to not discriminate against size and I believe it started in the US I want to say new York and then as society got to the social media age we have today, cue body positivity

[@screw_it_why_not]

@@kaitlinsnair2386it got started by white men who wanted to fetishize fat women. Theres more too it megan anne has good vids on it

[@ankida]

The short story; It started decades ago when a couple of guys who had a fetish for fat women were tired of being embarrassed when they were with them. The women ended up exploited. They say it was started by queer women, but it was about mens' little feelings.

[@PoisonedApathy]

Check out the videos of Funtie Times, she made several on the origins of the movement - dates back to the 70's!- about how it was started by men who had fat woman fetishes! It's so disturbing, but very interesting.

[@NotTodaySatan1]

I am a paramedic, and I have had more than one patient complain because I called the fire department for lifting help, we were unable to transport them to the hospital they wanted to go to that was 40 Mi away because they were sitting on the floor in the ambulance, and still touching both sides of the walls, and it is not safe to transport them past the hospital that is less than a mile and a half away, I have had family members get upset with me because we called the fire department and it's embarrassing..... Our intention is not to embarrass you, Our intention is to be able to continue doing our jobs without a ruptured disc in our back or some other career-ending injury... there is not a single medical condition on this planet that makes people gain 400 500 600 lb of Adipose tissue. There's not. We try to handle these things delicately, but most of the time it ends with us having to put our foot down and insisting that we are not going to do something unsafe and stupid just to spare their feelings. We did not put them in this situation, but we sure are called to fix it, help it, contain it, move it Etc all the time.

[@FocusedFighter777]

Thank you for your service. Also, haha username.

[@nancyjones6780]

Thank you for your service ❤

[@susabobus]

How it's not illegal tho? Worker's safety should be written in the law! It should never be anyone else's problem that someone is too big! What the hell???

[@reformingbeauty]

I used to be 453 lbs and this was a fear of mine. Dying and being too big (and expensive) to bury me. So while I don't believe in cremation, I wanted to be cremated to save my family money after my death. I'm happy to say I'm now 215 lbs and still losing weight and healthier than I've ever been in my life.

[@soniasharma5860]

So proud of you! That’s no easy feat! Keep on going ❤ You got this bb!

[@VictoriaReadsReddit]

Congratulations on losing weight. Keep up the good work.

[@mrdojob]

Wow that's over half your body weight. Impressive.

[@ADreamCalledEternity]

Wonderful! Be proud!

[@ImSPOTon]

Congratulations ......you've reason to be very proud.

[@fluffypuff766]

I took an anatomy lab a while back, and one of the cadavers in there was of an obese woman. She did not look old; either late 20s or early 30s. When we were looking into her, the layers of visceral fat even covered her heart and lungs. Whenever I hear fat activists deny it like ‘Oh it doesn’t exist’ or ‘it’s water weight’ my mind goes back to that cadaver and seeing how devastating obesity can be and get…

[@msilverwoods]

How obese was she do you think? Im obese and doing something about it and I'm sick of people being like oh! Youre not! You're fine!!!! I know I am obese, my BMI is 32, but people have got so big I barely register as obese to a lot of people. I think a lot about my organs at the moment.

[@fluffypuff766]

@@msilverwoods I’d say she was around 300 lbs give or take… she didn’t have prominent rolls of fat if I remember correctly, and said fat looked like it was just enveloping her digits(it was more prominent from the waist down)

[@mamacypress]

There are videos of this on the KZbin channel Institute of Human Anatomy. I honestly found it to be very motivating - and horrifying. 75 lbs down, 45 to go

[@msilverwoods]

@@mamacypress thats amazing, and thanks for the recommendation

[@Somebaldguy]

@@msilverwoodsthat’s great 👍🏾 good luck on your weight loss journey. I lost 80lbs about ten years ago and believe me you will be surprised at how different you feel on a daily basis.

[@jeanniecatton9168]

So I looked up animals in the 800 pound range. That includes camels, small thoroughbred horses, and younger male bison. A male grizzly bear is about 790 pounds, and 8 feet tall. Vet staff in zoos use mechanical hoists to move these animals for surgery. Humans cannot be expected to just lift them up are carry them around. That is reality. This young lady and her family were hit with the unfortunate reality.

[@raincoast9010]

you got an LOL out of me!

[@katdoe192]

The mom is even more responsible than just being the main care giver. Chances are her daughter was overweight from childhood.

[@noname-ip9xe]

And her adult daughter could have not eaten all the trash fed to her.

[@margodphd]

Exactly. Zero accountability.

[@irina-ty1336]

Give the size of the mother, iit is nearly a given

[@kathleenking47]

​@@irina-ty1336 Mother, may not have been an overweight child. A reason why she's not as big

[@emorebelle]

​@@kathleenking47she's still fat. Juste eats less i guess but you can Tell by the mustard on her face she doesn't eat healthy

[@miscellaneouscell]

At 850 pounds. There is no way she was cooking her own food, going grocery shopping, or standing up to pick up the DoorDash delivery. Everyone is that household is responsible for her death. Enabling self harm should be a crime. It is ethically and morally wrong to assist it someone’s slow death.

[@sissysovereign1294]

For real you can't even go to the toilet or in a bath tub at that size! You'd have to get hosed down outside like a dog!

[@SageDog]

There's no way she brought light to her home, she cast a large shadow for real.

[@lk4871]

Ever since home Food delivery, the obesity problem got worse. It’s like having a drug dealer deliver your cocaine or drug of choice. I hate these enables, this is partly their fault.

[@shaymorcormick8743]

How the fuck do people make enough money to get that big

[@miscellaneouscell]

@@shaymorcormick8743 in the states, disability paychecks. They don’t save any money. All spent on food.

[@still_onthemark]

The mom should have seen the movie What’s Eating Gilbert Grape, where Leonardo DiCaprio’s mom is 600 pounds and when she dies they cremate her by just burning the house down . She was too embarrassed and didn’t want the town to see her like that.

[@mintyleaf8796]

That was such a sad movie tbh.

[@burmy1552]

Johnny Depp played that character, not Leo.

[@mintyleaf8796]

@@burmy1552 my dude, Johnny depp and Leo play brothers in this movie, so both of them fit the description this person gave.

[@planetdisco4821]

That bit where she just says to Johnnys gf “i haven’t always been this fat” is actually quite heartbreaking._

[@richerDiLefto]

@@burmy1552 Leo was her son. He played Johnny Depp’s little brother.

[@meggiegolden4310]

I would be super embarrassed if after I die. My legacy is being overweight to the point where it's on the news. She passed away and all anybody talked about was her weight. Not for me.

[@Jettypilelegs]

If I hadn’t died already I’d die of embarrassment!

[@EEsmalls]

Her mom probably called the news herself in order to try to shame whoever couldn't handle her daughter's giant body. It just backfired on her.

[@rastus666]

Overweight to the point where you cause a grease fire in the crematorium. What a legacy!

[@lleexxii]

My husband's dad died of covid around 500lbs and he had to literally be partially dismembered and some fat removed to be cremated

[@mc_sim]

Omfg. I wish no one would tell me this.

[@1PrayerWarrior4]

That is TRAUMATIZING! 😮

[@NaomiDollxoxo]

Yup! A grease fire is possible if not

[@Em_Elizabeth]

That is way too much violence to the body!

[@NaomiDollxoxo]

I’m an ordained minister and I speak to people in their concerns prior to death as well as after. Most super obese people are understanding of this but some are just not. Or should I say their families have an issue. I feel bad if they don’t understand why this can burn down the entire funeral home if not taken care of in this manner

[@MsVC-cs8ks]

“Something needs to be put in place”, yeah, like not feeding their addiction.

[@kfam5445]

850 lbs....even the only 2% of the strongest strongmen and powerlifters in the world train all their lives to lift that weight. And this lady is expecting normal civilians to easily move her daughter's dead weight body.

[@richardsanchez5444]

Even then they wouldn't be able to lift someone that size, at least not safely. The weight they lift is distributed evenly.

[@msmaria5039]

​@@richardsanchez5444And in small spaces.

[@paulmurgatroyd6372]

Always someone else's problem, isn't it.

[@xenxander]

that's just dead weight lift strength up a small ramp for about 5 seconds, that isn't lifting it up waist high to get it into a loading vehicle.. even harder and impossible.

[@theconstanttraveler903]

nothing a a hacksaw, some plastic bags and some kosher salt can;t fix

[@NotoriousFox96]

I’m a paramedic and used to work for a private ambulance company that was contracted by a large insurance group to provide transport for all their local patients. We had a regular patient for them who was nearly 900 lbs and lived in a tiny basement bedroom at her mom’s house. At one point we had to take her to the zoo when she needed a CT scan because no hospital in the area had a machine large enough for her. She injured 4 of our employees over a few transports due to her size before we finally started refusing to transport her because we couldn’t afford any more injuries. She died a couple years ago at the age of 29. It was absolutely tragic.

[@MyDuckSaysFucc]

I have to wonder who was feeding that person to be 900 lbs. how is that not a legal issue as far as abuse? It’s abuse to starve a person. It should be considered abuse to feed someone so disabled to death.

[@donelkingii3738]

Wow!

[@CrimsonMey]

If I had let myself go that far, I would at least have the decency of allowing you to take a picture of me behind the bars, as compensation for all your troubles.

[@BeachesNguns-fl4cx]

She died doing what she loved 🍱

[@GrannyReplica]

That doesn't sound tragic (except, the employees getting injured, I agree with that part, that's pretty bad), but what happened to her just sounds in line with expectations, not tragic. 🥱

[@Test-of9sd]

I dated an EMT who hurt his back and suffers from chronic pain because of having to move a morbidly obese person. I learned so much more about how inconsiderate the morbidly obese are.

[@princessmarlena1359]

They’re disgusting. And should be regarded as such.

[@TheShadeKat]

Being called a thin mint by fat acceptance activists actually makes me happy. 😂 Sure I’ll be that cookie that’s got everyone craving me!

[@kiwikrg]

Right??? That's the best one lmao

[@Em_Elizabeth]

Honestly, it's kind of cute

[@Inspirayetion]

I was thinking the same thing lol. You think Thin Mint is an insult? I love those things!

[@juycedream]

And thin mint cookie keeps the breath fresh!

[@suebotchie4167]

​@@juycedream could eat half the box, but i won't - for fear of becoming obese. And the health problems associated with obesity.

[@viviannichols3582]

I understand addiction, but I don’t understand enabling. Don’t bring them the food. Oh, they’ll yell at you? Walk away. What are they going to do; chase you?

[@levithebaddest2369]

Obese people make it very hard to exist around them if they’re not getting what they want. I know because I grew up with one. It’s not as simple as what you suggested. They often do manipulate you and they gaslight you and yada yada yada. Sometimes you just want peace, and if bringing them their 20 Big Macs will make them shut the fck up, you’ll do it

[@bobertoakes1811]

I think to the enabler they do not want the other person to suffer even if the discomfort of having to change there habits. Even thoe they are causing the very issues that are causing the health issues that affect them. Still sad to see.

[@arthurmario5996]

no, but they will bit** yell, complain and fuss until you can't take it any more.

[@mylesgray3470]

Not eating for multiple days is called fasting. It’s the best way to loose weight. Simply provide them with unlimited water but no food for a day or two, then feed a day or two, back to fasting and repeat until they are a normal human again.

[@princessmarlena1359]

They might sit on you!

[@terrybeasley5931]

I am nomal size and 70yo. I had the death and funeral discussion with my daughter when I was in my 50's. Plan ahead people. Don't leave relatives to navigate this minefield after you pass .

[@thecarnivorecollective]

If this was me, I would be embarrassed for not only myself but my family. The mother is outrageous trying to make this the problem of the public.

[@KM-vt4xy]

She probably aiming for people to give her money

[@kane99560]

That's kinda how I feel about fat problems in general. They complain that society isn't more accommodating as if it's our problem. We can only make airplane seats so big or chairs so sturdy. If you're outside of the norm in anyway then you won't be able to do things the way others do them. If you're really short you will have to get all your clothes tailored. If you're really tall it's a big and tall ir custom made for you. If you're too fat you need to figure it out yourself.

[@thecarnivorecollective]

@@kane99560 I agree!

[@YouTubeThrowaway-lj9vy]

​@kane99560 I have freakishly long arms. Long sleeve shirts that fit my torso are too short in the sleeve. Therefore I am oppressed! Or... y'know... I just can't wear long sleeve shirts unless they're large in the torso. 🤷‍♀️

[@lo.lo_marie]

Lol sort of like all the other fat acceptance influencers?

[@girlygi8]

i have so much respect for firefighters half the time they’re doing things that don’t even involve a fire 😭

[@Ella-g2m]

it's actually a massive waste of our public resources. firefighters are specialized, they should only be used for fires. but they get called out for every bit of nonsense, even drug overdoses. at this point, the personal choices of people are impacting the tax burden of everyone else, and a handful of people cause 90% of the expenses.

[@ellorasg4525]

They need a raised pay

[@SoUnDMaN831]

I’ll bet those firefighters were thinking, “What happened to rescuing cats from trees?” 😂

[@226iamacake]

@@Ella-g2m​​⁠​⁠but most of the fires attend they are also caused by people being reckless? And aren’t all emergency responders “highly specialized?” It’s pretty inhumane to let addicts die instead of funding better treatment and research…especially since the gov plays a huge part in perpetuating this cycle. 🫠

[@sharonhoyt2133]

I have a friend who is related to a lot of "first responders" and she dislikes fat people because of the number of her friends who have suffered significant injuries when they have to aid and/or transport them.

[@SouthernGothicYT]

From having to buy 2 plane seats to having to buy 2 graveyard plots

[@ScubaFanatic60]

Would they want that second one free like the airplane seats?

[@VictoriaReadsReddit]

@ScubaFanatic60 They better not get it for free. I had to pay a much higher price for a couple's plot when my late husband passed away. They can pay the same price as everyone else. And if they want the wide gravestone, they can pay extra for that too.

[@BaDazai]

3 or 4 plots, I don't think 2 is enough for 850pounds. Unless cremated maybe? 😮

[@RatClowns]

​@@BaDazaithere's no cremation place that could handle someone of that size, you'd have to go the old school bonfire route 💀

[@alliwhite3941]

Truly tragic.

[@alanathibault6778]

I once picked up a 700 lbs decedent, and my partner and I had to go to Walmart at 11 pm to find a tarp and rope because none of our stretcher covers or straps could go over her. We got exactly the looks you'd expect shopping for tarps and rope at 11 pm.

[@budwyzer77]

"Yes, we are *literally* moving a body right now."

[@princessmarlena1359]

You needed a tow truck.

[@NightmareRex6]

dang, and that would mean they were right on there suspicans what you were doing with it, altho legally not murder illegaly.

[@TheSeptemberSapphire]

@@budwyzer77 "Don't worry, we're the professionals."

[@jamesgullo8240]

Just add duct tape, and customer service would have called 911!🤣

[@devaux01]

Wow, your video is so on point and so well researched. I’m a retired embalmer now a nurse and let me tell you people don’t understand how dangerous it is to cremate someone very large. I had one case that weighed probably over 1100 pounds and I happen to work where we had one of the largest crematories in my state. I had to wait till it got to a certain temperature, then shut it off and let it burn, without any assistance from the crematory and yes, there was grease on the floor from it leaking out of the crematory. I don’t wish this on anybody, including the decedent.

[@littleboots9800]

Wow. I remember when 600lb was considered the absolute limit of what we thought was possible to reach. 850lb at 33 is CRAZY!

[@oihowsitgoingthere6934]

I remember a while back seeing a video about the heaviest man alive, he was around 800lbs iirc. Imagine my surprise when I start hearing stories of many more people around that weight!

[@dylanmorgan5589]

The record is 1400 lbs.

[@littleboots9800]

@@dylanmorgan5589 I can't even imagine that. Just a mound with fingers and toes poking out.

[@enkisdaughter4795]

@@oihowsitgoingthere6934 This woman was on My 600lb Life. There were other people on there who weighed much more than 600lb. There was one woman who topped the scales at 1002lb. She was admitted to hospital and put on a very restricted diet, however, she used her mobile / cell phone to order food online. Her room was on the ground floor, so she’d walk over to the window and the order was handed to her. She’d eat vast quantities of crud (not forgetting dessert), then try to get rid of the boxes / wrappers. If I remember correctly, they ended up putting cameras in the room, because they couldn’t work out how she was still putting on weight when she was on the restricted diet. The cameras didn’t lie!

[@roselane8152]

​@enkisdaughter4795 😮

[@o3MTA3o]

That mother is vile. She did this to "her baby"

[@noname-ip9xe]

Her baby was an adult she Can and should take blame.

[@psychopompion]

@@noname-ip9xetrue but a lot of these over eating behaviors stem from being enabled at a young age, teaching a child unhealthy habits leads to an unhealthy adult. not always the case but often enough to consider it.

[@o3MTA3o]

@@noname-ip9xe for being an addict. But enablers are as bad as the addicts..maybe worse.

[@calvoekleiden8664]

@@noname-ip9xeher mom was most likely the one bringing her food. Most people that obese are too big to live on their own or physically get their own food. Yes Cassandra was eating it and is definitely to blame but her mom definitely helped kill her

[@kathleenking47]

She was a feeder..that's also, a mental illness

[@FaintKarmatic]

I had a flight this weekend and sat next to a large woman with her kid. The woman was 25-35 and 500+lbs. She was so big she had the armrest up and her fat rolled into me and I was having trouble breathing because it was all pressed up against me and since I was on the aisle the armrest wouldn't move out of the way. I felt bad for the kid since this woman won't live much longer

[@mariarosemarie]

It's wild to me that these guys don't draw the line somewhere. Like, 850 pounds... They have to be thinking "yeah...that's a bit much."

[@LadyTsuki]

Yeah I don't fully get that either. Then again, addictions are hard. I remember weighing 168 one time (I'm 4'6" so that's a good bit for my height) and both me and my mom went "ok, we have to stop this NOW!" I cut out most of my munchy foods and exercised more and lost 20lbs. I'm still overweight for my height, but I'm trying.

[@forgetmeblues]

@@LadyTsukikeep it up! You’re doing great!!!

[@nat1578]

​@FreePigeon Women have boobs. They should weigh more than men tbh

[@skootergirl22]

I'm around in the 200ib (17/ 16 St European standards) and have been overweight for all my life, to the point of being tested for glandular diseases and pradawilly and been on diets.

[@nightsgrow6575]

They can’t, if they draw the line somewhere they have to admit that obesity is unhealthy point period blank.

[@VictorH-27]

850 pounds is the weight of motors I see coming in at work. The safe way to move these motors in the workshop is with an overhead crane or forklifts. Ain't no way people can lift that weight securely without lifting tools... Not only is that a health issue, but that weight is also a safety issue on many levels after a person with that weight passed away.

[@skootergirl22]

I remember hearing about a obese person being sent to a zoos vet clinic to get xrayed

[@levithebaddest2369]

@@skootergirl22lmao

[@joelrionstaves4684]

Yikes!

[@Ella-g2m]

burly car mechanics wouldn't be able to move that weight around but society expects little 120 lb nurses to move gargantuan obese people around in beds and not complain.

[@JamesJones-po3mg]

i knew a man who was so huge that the fire department had to cut out a wall and use a forklift to get him out. he had to be buried in a piano case and lowered with a crane. THE MOTHER FED HIM DAILY IN BED FOR YEARS. tHE LAST FEW WEEKS OF HIS LIFE HE LOOKED S THOUGH HIS SKIN WAS ABOUT TO EXPLODE.

[@xSilverFernx]

That mother helped kill the daughter she supposedly loves. Note how she said “my baby” because she knew it sounded bad that she never had any urgency about saving her life but now she is very urgent about getting her daughter’s body out of her home. So that she doesn’t have to see the evidence of her own failure, neglect, and active participation in her daughter’s death. “Someone ELSE should have thought about this and planned for this!!” How about accepting that you, her mom, should have thought about this and (since you weren’t going to do anything to prevent it) planned for it??

[@pmc2999]

Right, she didn't want her daughter's body there and have to see what her enabling has done to her daughter.

[@TheAlixm]

That level of enabling should be criminalised. Nobody gets to be that big without a lot of help.

[@brittany7573]

Seems many people are sharing how obese people can affect their jobs. I'll share mine. Im a dental hygienists. Obese people are also hard to work on in this profession. Their body sits higher and wider in the chair so they are harder to reach. The adipose tissue in their cheeks fills in their mouth, making it nearly impossible to see. It is also fatiguing on the wrists to fight them back. Im exhausted and in pain after a patient with obesity.

[@lilybug246]

Retired NP. You should try doing a Pap smear on a 300+ lb woman. Yikes.

[@jenkinsmontgomery6459]

They should not just think about what happens post mortem, but what about you getting sick and ending up in the hospital. It takes a giant toll on healthcare workers backs trying to move and turn you when you can't help.

[@xsunlx]

Yes and hospital imaging equipment is not designed to accommodate larger bodies. How do these people get an IV placed? How does medical staff even find a vein for a blood draw? I've heard of obese people being sent to the zoo for MRIs since their machines fit large animals.

[@NorsePearl]

Can confirm, 300 lbs patients alone hurts to turn, especially if they aren't doing anything to help us.

[@Magikalic]

My mother used to be a surgical nurse, and she has an absolute horror story about a morbidly obese person's surgery (this was in the UK in the late 80s/early 90s, so morbid obesity was a lot less common). I'll spare you the gory details, but suffice it to say, it was messy.

[@babybluebrindle]

​@NorsePearl This just reminded me how a fat acceptance activist (or member) said that people in those professions need to find a different career if they can not handle fat people with proper training and such. 😐

[@felixoupopote]

Jaebae doesn't even gaf that she's going to break someone's back pushing her into her luxury size airplane, don't look for compassion from food addicts. I'd rather hang out with crackheads.

[@rochellethundercloud346]

800+ pounds?!!! How... The hell do you get that big?!!!! That's crazy. I was big,at 5'3"and 300 pounds. That was nearly 13 years ago. I dropped the weight, and kept it off.

[@VictoriaReadsReddit]

Congratulations on losing weight and keeping it off.

[@spiralrose]

❤️❤️❤️🤗

[@sarasunshinemt4444]

It's really crazy that these people are entirely dependent on their caregivers to be fed, as they can barely move, yet those same people won't put them on a diet. Like, they can't simply say "no, I don't want a salad, I'll get my five cheeseburgers myself". They can't fend for themselves. So it's the caregivers who are feeding them to their graves, while they happily scarf their own death down their throats.

[@Tiger89Lilly]

Omg when I got to 150 lbs I felt so obese and disgusting I am still on a protein shake diet to loose it all. I have 20lbs to go and I promised myself I will never get that huge again if I can't fit into a pair of shorts that's when I hit the protein shakes hard

[@sprig5173]

Watching this woman's post death experience - how can you not be fatphobic.

[@Isabel-ys1wd]

Hi. Not a funeral director but I work in deceased estates. I've seen my fair share of obese people come through for us to help with funerals, and we've almost always had to use cranes and get a specialist funeral director/pay extra (excessive) for larger caskets. The family's attitudes are also almost always the same as the mother's is here, and it's always the same level of not understanding- where the family don't consider every workaround that we are trying to use in the complex situation that is laying their loved one to rest. It's always tragic, but ESPECIALLY when they're under 30 (which is becoming increasingly more common).

[@THICCpikachu]

Everyday I am so happy that I lost 140 lb back in 2018 and have kept it off ever since... The denial is real and so sad.

[@VictoriaReadsReddit]

Congratulations on the weight loss and keeping it off.

[@sunshinem.7741]

That is a huge accomplishment! 😯 Major respect for the commitment to yourself and hard work!

[@spiralrose]

You are a certified badass! Congratulations❤️❤️

[@ADHDpancakesurprise]

So you're a unicorn according to FAs 😂 Also dropped 140 and have kept it off. That's 2 of us. Oh no! 😂 Congrats on the hard work!

[@Meeka416]

Hell yeah!!! You rock!!! Congrats!

[@Ren-vl1eq]

Causing a grease fire after you die is CRAAZY lmao

[@dxitydevil]

☠️

[@CrucesNomad1]

I know how farmers move large dead animals, it is not pretty. The ones that are not used for dog food anyway. You need a front end loader, and would have to cut out a wall. How does this lady afford her food addiction?

[@Robaloo-zu1bb]

I’ve heard of extra large bodies having to be dismembered to fit into the oven for cremation…. I can’t imagine working that job. Also they have to mop the floors when the extra fat drips out and it can stick to you for days :/

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

Oh my god 😮

[@pennyproud1621]

Eeeewwww

[@fatimahsaamah9859]

They're also a grease fire hazard

[@ColdCreekB]

@@fatimahsaamah9859yes. I just looked it up, because “grease fire” was the first thing that came to my mind. Just 1 lb of fatty tissue gives out 20,000 BTU, whereas normal, lean tissue is about 1000 BTU per pound.

[@ScubaFanatic60]

This is horrifying 😮

[@spiralrose]

This poor young woman weighed more than 800 pounds. There is no way she was anybody’s “bright light. “ This young woman had to be miserable. There is just no way a happy human being gets that fat. None. I wonder what she was eating to suppress. What kind of trauma had she fallen victim to in her life that her own mother probably turned a blind eye too?

[@sprig5173]

The pain must have been excruciating for her.

[@toomanymarys7355]

Quit acting like addicts are all victims.

[@elonever.2.071]

I don't know her particular case but a lot of times it is SA at an early age that causes them to gain weight as a defense mechanism so they don't look attractive enough to be in that situation again.

[@avery2041]

The mom was mad that it was so difficult to transport the body but the human body typically shouldn't be that large so she shouldn't have been surprised that special equipment wasn't available from the get go

[@MrMwmussel1]

Let’s be practical, they needed a forklift and a U-Haul truck. Or, and this sounds cruel, call the zoo. I’m sure they have protocols for dealing with large corpses.

[@grandmakatemakes]

Exactly! What else can you do?

[@KM-vt4xy]

I was thinking to call a vet lol

[@megsley]

​@@KM-vt4xy definitely not your local vet though 😂

[@peridot1706]

They do. Sometimes they rely on the food chain to dispose of the remains (obviously, not an option here). Otherwise, carcasses are cremated, with very large ones dismembered to aid the process. I would not be surprised if the crematorium who handled her cremation did so. They had a large enough oven but 850 lbs of fat intact is very risky to process. I wouldn't blame them if they failed to mention that part of the process.

[@YekaterinaPolevshchikov]

It’s illegal to cremate humans and animals in the same machines. Specialized bariatric cremation centers exist.

[@anabel8856]

I worked in forensic medicine and our table had a weight limit of 250 pounds. One time, the corpse was around 550 pounds and the autopsy had to be done in the animal forensic medicine... we all had to drive there to do the autopsy. The corpse had to be lifted with a crane on the table, the same crane they use for giraffes and elephants (zoo animals) that get autopsied. That was so humiliating and i hope, the family never got to know that. While a normal autopsy takes about 2 hours, this one took 4, even though we had more people working. The casket was custom made, but looked like someone just screw a few wood plates together. Don't get obese!

[@Ella-g2m]

why do you even need an autopsy at that point. just write down "died of fat" and go home early.

[@anabel8856]

​@@Ella-g2m Honestly I don't get it either... I live in Germany and we had a lot of cases where the cause of death was some kind of disease... I think it was to proof that the doctors didn't do something wrong

[@rachelburton8689]

@@Ella-g2mlegal reasons

[@xenxander]

this type of stuff needs to be televised to show people that we don't accept large fat people and that there should be a cultural stigma and shame associated with allowing oneself to get that fat.

[@weemac4645]

I hope her family found out about the autopsy. Shame on them.😮.

[@AnAverageMixedChick]

I am 5'3", and I used to be 240 pounds. I got down to 146. It was hard, because I was, and still am, addicted to food. I love food so much, but I love my children and life more. I pray for all obese people trying to heal themselves from unhealthy relationships with food. ❤

[@bluejays9444]

this is so traumatic for those 25-30 people needing to move a body like that.

[@minanes6549]

I realised how much my mum loved me when she couldn't help herself from crying down the phone one day, because she was so worried about me dying before her, because at that time I was over 23 stones, and in big denial. I am so glad she didn't 'accept' me killing myself with food, but loved me enough to give me a wake up call.

[@coonhound_pharoah]

My pops offered to pay me $1000 to lose the weight. Guess what? It worked.

[@joannestark3023]

For folks here in the US, 23 stone is 322 lbs according to Alexa. To the person who posted the original comment, I hope you're doing a lot better now and are healthier.

[@virginiawaters955]

I’ve been fighting morbid obesity for over 50 years. These people who are shouting about fat acceptance are insane. My mobility problems are on the rise and I am tired ALL. THE. TIME. I don’t know how they even walk!! What do they think is going to happen. It’s all downhill!!

[@RelentlessForever999]

Man that’s insane, imagine living in that neighborhood and seeing 30 people struggling carrying a dead 800lbs body out the house

[@MiaMizuno]

Basically like in Stone Age, but with mammoths

[@DagonKal]

My buddy was a cop. An obese woman died, and they arrived on scene, ambulance was already there. The EMS folks asked the cops help to move the body into the ambulance...it was a challenge to say the least. Especially walking on gravel.

[@emilyrhea]

I’m a dispatcher, I’ve had firemen have to cut open a house for people before. Both on medical calls & death calls.

[@alanathibault6778]

I work in body removal, and we've called the fire department to help several times. But they often can't, because they usually die in places where several people can't fit to lift together. We have to drag them however we can, and it's not pretty. And I swear 75% of the time they're in the basement, down a sketchy at staircase, between the toilet and bathtub 🙄

[@bdb3350]

I have been a volunteer Medic for almost 30 years. I have responded to several calls where the patient was so morbidly obese we had to cut the walls just to get the patient out. Recovering people who weigh over 300 labs requires a tremendous amount of manpower, and resources. It is also extremely hazardous unavoidable and most of all selfish.

[@lucy9698]

An excellent demonstration of how one's weight is NOT just a personal issue. Your weight _does affect other people_ in many different ways, even if you don't see it or realize it. In the case of emergency workers, many suffer physical injuries, such as blowing out their backs, trying to help morbidly obese people.

[@dbrown8351]

Its like Gilbert Grapes mom. They had to burn the house down for her.

[@Debbiesdilemmas]

I was just going to say that. Can you just imagine????😢

[@VictoriaReadsReddit]

What's pathetic is his mom wouldn't be seen as such an outlier today when there are so many bigger people around. It's like the fat kid from Goonies is average today.

[@SouthernGothicYT]

For real!!

[@helenas7948]

After watching the video I realised that because of her fat the house was bound to burn longer than usual.

[@selenedm999]

The actress managed to lose some of the weight. She passed away later. Leo said she was his favorite movie mom.

[@loner686]

Many years ago I remember this lady died and the ambulance and firefighters had to use chainsaws to cut the wall out of home to remove her.

[@Gna_d54]

Okay but the newscaster calling them 'monster caskets' and the big casket company naming themselves 'goliath'... lmao I'm not sorry, that sent me.

[@_goblin-_-mode_]

Two people sitting in one smiling at the camera, I had to pause the video because seriously wtf.

[@adrian3747_]

🤣

[@amandameredith]

I just spit out my coffee I was laughing so hard

[@immortalsofar5314]

That's okay. My engineering mind had to do a self-check when the standard solution to moving an object that's too big is to disassemble it into smaller parts or deal with it in situ. Whoops, let's call that plan Z, shall we?

[@bobreid5079]

@@immortalsofar5314 ok. Now I am envisioning someone with a chainsaw and a big tarp. Or even better a couple of guys who hunt moose.

[@teresawise7331]

I wish people could understand how much better they could feel if they lose weight. I’m down nearly 60 lbs (quite a bit still to go) but I feel like an entirely new person.

[@VictoriaReadsReddit]

Congratulations on losing the weight. Keep it up! I've lost 80lbs myself and can now do so much more than year ago. I still have more to lose.

[@spiralrose]

Congrats! I love coming into Michele’s comment threads and seeing stories of peoples weight loss. Your story motivates me. Thank you for sharing and keep doing what you’re doing… You’ve got this!

[@amenenema474]

Yes! I fortunately didn't get fat until my early 20s, so I always knew what healthy felt like and was aware of how shitty my new overweight body felt in comparison. But now we are seeing so many children, toddlers even, who are overweight and even obese and I think, "My god, these kids will grow up never knowing what it feels like to normal and healthy." Some of these obese people literally don't know what health feels like. It's depressing to think about.

[@aubreymorgan9763]

the show Fat Vs Skinny tried to bring this up. even just getting the body out...crematoriums can't fit these sizes (some places will have to DISMEMBER the body to fit, which morticians are not mentally prepared to do), caskets have to be special made, even burial plots sometimes you have to buy 2 or even 3 to bury them.

[@rodneythompson8861]

That title ALONE IS WILD…..

[@Reppintimefitness]

😂

[@juliaslayzz]

Fr

[@sliverfreak9]

Sadly, i remember seeing on Catfish i think back in the day how a morbidly obese man who was catfishing someone- he said he was obviously too scared to present himself as who he is which is why he was catfishing the girl he liked. And i remember him saying too there were times he wanted to commit suicide but what stopped him is thinking how he wouldn't fit in a casket and how much hassle it would be for his family

[@spiralrose]

That’s sad. I Hope he got his life together. That just tugs at my heartstrings.

[@beewest5704]

Catfish was 90% overweight/obese ppl catfishing, 9% family & friends out for revenge & 1% other.

[@Phili2012]

It’s not just the casket. Body bags, mortuaries, crematoriums, cremation takes so long, plots here are expensive. Dressing the body, operating tables, intubation, CT scanners, MRI machines, X-rays get blurred, beds, lifts, ‘perineal care’, IVs. Cancer is much harder to spot, finding lumps, palliative care. Anaesthesia is going to be hard as it is absorbed by fat…

[@NikkiCagesRageCages]

I'm going on a weight loss journey and I'm making gym playlist consisting of Michelle, Cynical Dude, funtie times and Sam at every size while working out.

[@christinerodriguez3976]

If you really want super motivation put Alan Roberts on your list too. 😂

[@juliaslayzz]

Keep it up u got this

[@NorsePearl]

I do the same! It's motivation to keep on going, all those four have some interesting takes.

[@helenas7948]

I usually also work out while watching Michelle's videos. It seems wrong not to :)

[@Ad1nfernum]

​@@christinerodriguez3976 Thiiiis he's fantastic and does not mince words.

[@MM-bn5yc]

when i was a kid my large family member had a slip and fall in the kitchen. he physically could not get up due to the pain so we called ems and they sent several emts and firemen in trucks and ambulances. the trickiest part is it was a split level house (kitchen/ living room on top, bedrooms on the bottom, front door between the levels). so 10 burly firefighters worked to maneuver the 400lb family member while i was getting concerned texts from a friend down the street because of the multiple trucks and ambulances sitting outside with their lights on. imagining that situation with double the weight but also a PASSIVE weight is just unfathomable.

[@VictoriaReadsReddit]

I used to be 350 lbs but was fully mobile. I'm down to 270 but caregive for someone that is 330 in a wheelchair. When they fell I threw out my back trying to maneuver them into a safer position. It took 3 firefighters to lift her back up into her wheelchair. It seems like pure laziness and attention seeking to me. I get the feeling many obese people are narcissists and them needing to be waited on hand and foot is feeding into it.

[@MM-bn5yc]

@@VictoriaReadsReddit first of all congratulations on your weight loss! the family member i was referring to is ABSOLUTELY a narcissist but he also saw himself as a big tough badass and really hated being vulnerable, especially publicly. he was also fully mobile despite his weight at the time. we were all equally worried about his reaction to all this as we were concerned for his health. but i agree with you in that a huge part of morbid obesity is just attention seeking. so many actions are immature and childlike

[@toddw.8277]

I bought my wife a weighted blanket to help with her restless legs. It weighs 15 pounds. When I go to pick it up and move it I am shocked at how much 15 pounds is. I can’t imagine having to move almost a half ton. This crap has to stop!!

[@Debbiesdilemmas]

The mom seems to be worrying more after her daughter’s death. The family is to blame for enabling Cassandra. When somebody has an eating disorder they are not making good choices with their food so somebody has to step in and take control. The more obese they get the more they cannot control their “hunger”.😢

[@msilverwoods]

She's loving the attention from banging on about this

[@reaganjaegan]

Maybe this will motivate me to get my fatass up and exercise today 😩 thanks as always Michelle

[@eliseenvisionz7588]

Same Jesus Christ! her 💀 bed was on the mattress she binge ate on. And was left 1 day on that same bed while unalived

[@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye]

Not maybe, you got this! Start small, anything helps. Just go walk around your block a few times and come back. Go now, don't wait. That's always helped me - not giving myself time to talk myself out of it. Have a lovely day!

[@J-BKing]

Same!

[@winstonslone2797]

That happened in west palm Beach when I was in high school in the 90s. She had a heart attack at 700 lbs. The fire department cut the wall out of the house and it took a team of firefighters to load her on a oversized gurney. They transported her to the hospital in a Ryder truck. You can't expect society to change because you choose not to exercise and modify your diet. Not my tax dollars, they are probably all ready getting social security disability and food stamps. This is insane it took me three years to get disability and I got hit by a car and broke my neck, back and suffered a brain injury. Didn't stop working till 2021 and had a full time job since the age of 15.

[@sl2222]

There was a case in Wales in which the parents were charged with manslaughter and extreme neglect for ‘letting’ their daughter become morbidly obese and eventually passing away. Caregivers must take more responsibility.

[@mysteryheart53]

This mom should have gotten that charge

[@cactuspotato3575]

When my dad worked in the funeral business this huge guy 500+ lbs wanted to be cremated but didn't fit in the machine. My dad has to Sawzall this guy apart to get him to fit in the crematorium thing. Traumatic for everyone involved :/

[@spiralrose]

Your poor dad! That’s just cruel to force someone to do that. It’s the selfishness of the obesity for me

[@YekaterinaPolevshchikov]

Bruh no he didn’t. That’s literally illegal and not in the wheelhouse of what we do as morticians. If you’re that obese, you’re sent to bariatric crematories. It’s also illegal to cremate humans where animals are cremated so don’t try with some “they send them to the zoo” bullshit either.

[@sebastianb3794]

Just curious as someone who worked in funeral service, how was that allowed? Did the family consent on paper? Sounds like illegal mutilation of a body. Fortunately, I never dealt with anyone over 400lbs.

[@YekaterinaPolevshchikov]

@@sebastianb3794 it’s literally not allowed by law. Homie is lying or their dad is to get a rise out of people. Same type of people that love to say they’ve seen a body sit up…no tf you haven’t Jfc

[@sebastianb3794]

@YekaterinaPolevshchikov Yeah, I'm no longer in death care but spoke to my husband who's a FD and he basically said the same as you. He said they had a 700lb person and cremation was not an option in our area. It had to be burial and the FH donated the plots. I love learning about the legal side of funeral service. So many liabilities.

[@michaelmantooth4235]

This is honestly one of the saddest and most disturbing things I've ever heard.

[@ericapierson-way213]

Yuuup, and they are going to cry discrimination and blame everyone BUT the woman who was 850 FREAKING POUNDS.

[@rochellethundercloud346]

You want to stop this? Say no. Stop allowing this. Stop encouraging this. Yes,love your body,but 850 pounds?!!! THAT'S A SMALL CAR!!!! THAT IS A HORSE!!!! WHY,AND I CANNOT STRESS IT ENOUGH THE HELL DID PEOPLE LET IT GO THIS FAR

[@koraliee]

Exactly. What is she gonna do? Run after you? The worst she can do is scream and yell. I'd get her some healthy meals and myself some noise cancelling headphones.

[@rogueranger7989]

I Can Understand Plus-Size not Bus Size.

[@pizzadogma]

@@rogueranger7989brutal 😂

[@bobertoakes1811]

They see it happen over a long time so the changes as clearly as we looking from the outside looking in. Still sad to see.

[@cynthiahembree3957]

Ye that’s what my mom did. She just said no and back then I hated that but boy am I happy she did that now. I would eat so much back then even tho I didn’t need it

[@lynette8918]

A protocol? How many elephants does she think die in apartments??

[@elizabethoboril938]

This lady killed her daughter. She should be charged for manslaughter for feeding her child to death. You would think that once she hit 200-300 lbs the light bulb would've went on in the mom's head. This is not the state's, funeral home's or anyone else's responsibility but the mother's. She'd still be alive if the mother and the other enablers got her the help she obviously needed.

[@BiggestPhangirl]

I do agree with you to an extent, the mother was wrong to enable this behavior, but the actual responsible person is the girl herself. She was 33, not 13. She knew better.

[@Daeyae]

200lbs? Thats not that heavy 😂 I guess it depends how tall she is but 200lbs is generally a bmi of 25-28 barely overweight

[@ms.wilson6439]

I agree.

[@susabobus]

​@@Daeyaebmi 25-29 IS OVERWEIGHT 🤡🤡🤡

[@Daeyae]

@susabobus read what I said.... barely overweight bmi of 25-27 on most people is fine xD especially women who have extra fat

[@cathipa]

Are they now going to refer to a regular casket as a straight sized casket?

[@mc_sim]

Cis casket. 😂

[@Unknown2Yoo]

🤣

[@ghxstzxne6686]

​@@mc_sim cis has nothing to do w fat acceptance you speng

[@dxitydevil]

@@petunia7623GOD NOT THE PETITIONS LOLLL dont give her ideas

[@kathyyoung1774]

😆🤣😂😆🤣😂💕

[@Just1American1966]

I've worked in EMS for over thirty years now. You all would be surprised at how little embarrassment most of these people hold for themselves when we go through what we do while working with them. It should be mortifying, but it hardly ever is. One cannot "shame" someone who has no shame. Cassandra didn't "suffer from morbid obesity". She lived for it.

[@vtreezy6407]

12 hours in a van in this heat wave? Yeah I don't think even with a closed casket they can have a funeral....

[@kayyay86]

It seemed like she was just expressing how traumatic the experience was in general to live with a loved ones body for days after they've passed, but you're right, she shouldn't be complaining about the inability of others to help. I honestly never thought of how hard it must be to move a large body like that.

[@minilea144]

It wasn't days. It was 12 hours. In retrospect, that sounds reasonable considering the size of her daughter.

[@anne-vc7bg]

I don't think she's complaining - i think it's disbelief and shock. It's her daughter. That died. At age 33. In their home. And her remains stayed there and rotted. Because no one could move the remains. 😟 I don't know if you ever had the misfortune of your freezer breaking while you're on holiday or a really 💩 roommate leaving dishes in the sink for a weekend - that is so bad... And that being your deceased child in her room... This is something I would let them Karen about. It really is a really bad situation.

[@bry42001]

​​@@anne-vc7bgyeah I doubt bodies start stinking 12 hours in lol. They just get rigor mortis. After 2 to 3 days do they start stinking. And no it's her and her daughters fault. No one else

[@minilea144]

@@bry42001 I doubt it did too. Considering it was in a temperature controlled room. Maybe if her daughter died outside in the sun cooking for 12 hours, I could see fumes happening. But people don't pay attention. They said it took them 12 hours not 12 days, yet people are thinking mom had the body in her house for days.

[@bry42001]

@@minilea144 right? A quick Google search tells you stages of decomposition. Saying it smells as bad as dirty dishes or a broken freezer just sounds dumb

[@Khorne_of_the_Hill]

what's truly disgusting is that these people are, almost without exception, on disability, forcing productive members of society to be unwillingly made culpable in the deaths of food junkies.

[@reshammaa]

This was started as a protest to garment manufacturers to make more sizes for clothes now has transformed into praise and appreciation for unhealthy lifestyles.

[@elell7971]

Nope it was started as a fetish club.

[@sprig5173]

All of that "I'm beautiful just like this"..health is beautiful.

[@wellthatgotweird]

This is true ! Around 2008-20210 I noticed that many more people ( younger people) coming into the denim store I worked at that were overweight and wanted me & the rest of the staff to cater to their expanding waist line. It was always weird when a size 32 waist denim.didnt fit..they demanded more & more

[@Tangerine76538]

This is one of my favorite topics, and people tend to think I'm lying when I say their funeral expenses, (cremation/burial, grave plots, embalming, etc) is going to double or even triple in price when abnormally large. The deceased may not be burdened with the expenses and postmortem care but the family and certain professionals absolutely will be.

[@DarkVeghetta]

Wait... only 12 hours? In rural areas in my country (Romania), it's customary to have a body stay at the home for a day and have a remembrance at the residence before walking the casket to their final resting place a day later. Her complaints about slow response times are entirely unfounded if the entire issue was resolved within a day & 12 hours, nevermind that plans should have been made given the circumstances.

[@DavidKen878]

Bodies are embalmed before being sat out in caskets. Her daughter was literally rotting. Those are two totally different scenarios.

[@kurtsalm2155]

Not so in first world countries.

[@emma2370]

I worked in hospice and it’s not uncommon for people to have to wait a little while to have the body removed from the home. 12 hours doesn’t seem that long when considering the circumstances. That’s a lot of people to organize and it doesn’t sound like they had even called funeral homes until she died.

[@DarkVeghetta]

@@DavidKen878 I mean, fair enough (though not sure it's always the case and perhaps draining/cleaning is sufficient for rural locations - but I'm not entirely sure), but why wouldn't an embalmer be able to go to her residence and do at least some basic prep work? These are services that depend on the family's involvement, not the fire department. The more I hear about it, the more it seems the parent dropped the ball, not the city.

[@DarkVeghetta]

@@emma2370 Thank you for chiming in with an informed opinion and confirming what many of us were thinking.

[@ShhhandGiggles]

Ive been an ER nurse for 15 years and Ive never had a patient arrive in cardiac arrest who was morbidly obese. They never make it to the hospital.

[@ravenhairwitch78]

Yup. Just realized this when this when you mentioned it.

[@C420sailor]

FF/EMT here. Patients of that size who require extrication and/or bariatric ambulance are pronounced at the scene. We can’t do effective compressions, Lucas doesn’t fit, etc. Nothing we can do.

[@ShhhandGiggles]

@@C420sailor exactly!

[@dmp608]

Maybe not cardiac arrest but they make it in resp arrest. ICU RN here and it is ridiculous because the family insists the obese patient remains a full code.

[@alb91878]

When the mother was talking about how her daughter didn't have any dignity and death all I could think about was how annoying she was for acting like she loves her daughter so much! That's not real love! Loving your daughter and allowing herself to eat herself to death is not love! Is she really loved her daughter and cared about her dignity she would have made sure her daughter ate healthy especially when her daughter couldn't do anything about it. That poor girl was taught that it was okay to overeat and that Mommy will make everything better! Her mother failed her!

[@emma2370]

The daughter didn’t have any dignity during life but the mom won’t mention that.

[@sigacious]

the mother should’ve considered a home embalming. it was always common practice to hold wakes in the home parlor until commercial funeral parlors became popular. i remember my grandad helping to embalm family and neighbors in Ukraine. the funeral precession would then start at the home and end at the gravesite.

[@Puinii]

My dad worked at a funeral home, they'd normally be alone when going to pick up a body, maybe two sometimes. 20 to 30 people to move one body is insanity.