Mrs. UPPITY or Triggering INSECURITIES?

[@lioness8456]

Baby that jealous Boogawolf is sending me hunny! 👻 It's hilarious because them demons look just like that in real life. Smh self love is necessary. 💯

[@WeGoJaiye]

Lmaooooooo😂😂😂😂😂 I am crying

[@misswarren1515]

same 😂😂😂

[@TheProvocativeSpiritualWife]

I just wrote about this 😮

[@Shelby-s2w]

Omg I haven't heard that term used since I was a kid. But it was only used by my aunties when referring to an ugly or trifling man. I need to add it back to my vocabulary 😂😂😂

[@colleenmariet]

I wish people became inspired instead of insecure

[@butm5125]

Thissssssss ❤

[@EbonyMMoody]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@________1516]

This part!!

[@caspersbestfriend]

Hey Colleen!

[@Euniqview]

Omg 😮‍💨

[@dianeenaid7207]

I recently lost 60 pounds…I had a cousin ask another cousin if I was sick…mind you I post gym selfies regularly….people will attack your strength

[@Ontheupandup123]

Wow congratulations! I’ve also been on my journey to be better and loose weight and my sister told me I was giving Y2K anorexia… Keep going!

[@lucidasmr6413]

60 pounds! No easy feat🎉 People see the success but don't understand the struggle and sacrifice.

[@dianeenaid7207]

@@Ontheupandup123 to ask if I’m sick is insulting. If I was sick I would be in my bed not the gym

[@NoOne-wt3sv]

Keep going sis ❤ you got this. Let them talk outta the side of their necks.

[@lebogangsedumedi143]

I lost weight my picture was distributed amongst family members and I was declared sick 💔

[@islandgirl8067]

I was betrayed by close friends. It came as a shock because I had no idea they saw me as a threat. I’ve also been bullied by coworkers & female family members who were mad because I was moving up & trying to better myself. I don’t compete with other women, & never understood the need to do so.

[@josephineedward8233]

Same.

[@tresboujay]

You said a whole mouthful!

[@goddesst5405]

Me too.

[@nettaleanne]

Been through similar things

[@chikFromMTL]

Same

[@VerleanHurd]

You mad at me because you lazy.😂😂😂😂 I love this.

[@JamaicaKim]

😂😂

[@Kreezword913]

She’s so right

[@chebetwhitney67]

She grew up sheltered and secure. I admire that.

[@PassionFruit411]

I’ll never forget the mistreatment of other women and how they’ve outcasted me simply for being feminine. It’s so isolating and hurtful. I even buckled under the pressure and toned it down to avoid being treated that way. I lost myself and will never do it again.

[@liahlove8297]

I did the same and girl I found my power at 27. I recently turned 28 and what I'm realizing is that friendships isn't for me because all my life I've been hated by friends, strangers and relatives and life is teaching me to stay true to me, be myself and keep striving. My heart is clean and I found that god has been good to me and keeps on blessing me and for that I'm grateful for and thanks to him, it motivates me to keep going. I urge you to make peace with it and do the same ❤

[@brooklynfan3544]

The more I'm online and see nasty comments, also thinking about real life, I actually find that not only do I avoid hateful men who are growing more and more dangerous, but find most women including so called friends DON'T wish you well and want to see you fail, are petty, jealous and just mean and can't mind their own business. Everyone is exhausting. I just wanna stay indoors and am okay with not having friends, but rather well distanced aquintances. 😅

[@Ang_Nicole]

Im right there with you with you lady 😅❤

[@girly.mimi00]

This is accurate. I've been called uppity by family before. I'll admit I'm a little on the boujee side and embracing it more. Keep up the great content girl. 💅🏾💅🏾💕💕

[@walkinmyshoes1254]

Same here but I take it as a compliment 😊

[@liahlove8297]

Same. I used to try and humble myself to fit it and girl I just did the personal work and stop. Like you, embrace every bit of it.

[@Shelby-s2w]

I wish more women would be more bougie or at least have some class

[@girly.mimi00]

@@liahlove8297 Thanks.

[@YGabi333]

I love bougie!!😂 I am one myself!

[@SaskiaTheBoss]

as you get older, those people become so pointless once you focus on all the good you are building around you. i’m closer to starting a whole family, a whole bloodline directly from my belly.. do you know how amazing that is.. can’t always worry about everything, when we should focus more on what’s within.

[@Exclusively_dkh]

I am so glad this popped up on my thread. I’ve cut off many hateful friends who were constantly trying to take advantage of me while downplaying my success, beauty and knowledge. I don’t share anything I have anymore and I only want to be in safe environments with like minds. Now I move in silence. Best decision Ive ever made.

[@munequa81]

Same!

[@HarrietWanjau]

And the community's literal representative of this trope is Beyonce. The community loves praising her against other people yet love nothing more than tearing her down over every little thing she does. They went as far as criticizing her child's hair yet she stays silent and consistent in her work and it irks them that she pays everyone dust. Her priorities are her career and her family then minds her business. Yet for over 20 years people have felt like she owes them something it's sick.

[@justsarah3812]

THANK YOUUU

[@canesugar911]

Tbf the community is why Beyonce is Beyonce

[@HarrietWanjau]

@@canesugar911 no Beyonce is Beyonce because she puts in the work and is recognized by every demographic of people. This entitlement is what I'm talking about. She doesn't owe y'all anything. She's worked hard for everything she has.

[@HarrietWanjau]

@@canesugar911 and in any case that still doesn't excuse all the vitriol towards her. She never forced anyone to listen to her music or buy anything from her. You sound like those kpop stans who think they own idols just because they stream their music

[@canesugar911]

@@HarrietWanjau I love Beyonce and I'm not black American, but your comment is a little disingenuous. No one is disputing her hardwork. But that would be like saying white women are not the reason Taylor Swift is who she is and a billionaire. Taylor has fans from various backgrounds but her white female fanbase made her. It's not entitlement to state facts.

[@Soulfulgoddess]

Women being crappy to each other is a tale as old as time.. including the insecure behavior of a lot of men.

[@jasmynelliott]

An interesting thing happened to me a couple of years ago: I became less available. I’ve had to say “no” more often so I’m no longer the one showing up early to set up for parties or do favors. Wouldn’t you know that as soon as my labor was no longer readily available, many of my “friends” have been MIA?

[@AyaEgbuho]

This is also true in spiritual settings like church/mosque/temple. It is heinous!!! The jealousy spirit is alive and well among women. As a feminine woman, inside and out, I have no lady friends at church. They act like I don't exist. Yet all the masculine men in church show me so much appreciation. I wonder why? 😂 And honestly it's not even sexual, no one has ever asked me out. But they treat me like a princess. I was shocked and saddened by this dynamic initially. Now, I truly embrace my level up and have learned to enjoy my own company. Excellent reminder video Chloe! You blessed me so much! Tsunami blessings to you and yours. 🥰

[@earthtogoddess159]

This is my same exact experience, it's so lonely. However, I'm not going to lower my standards to be surrounded by trash!

[@_healyaself]

You are out here doing the lords work 🙌🏾

[@stilljocelyn_]

13:49 THIS!! My first real job out of college the way them women would bully me was horrendous.

[@prestigeschool09]

I experienced jealousy a lot but this year for the first year I actually experienced sabotage and reputation destruction. The sad part? It came from a 55 year old woman I wanted to mentor me because she’s successful, married, and popular in my area. A woman will have these social powers and still try to sabotage other, especially young, women.

[@sammybee1493]

I have a few women I know who have children and marriage who go out of their way to monitor me and attempt to ruin my reputation and presence.

[@ChildfreeLT]

Block them

[@someonespecial581]

Those women probably lack beauty and youth

[@islandgirl8067]

They’re obviously unhappy in their marriages.

[@VerleanHurd]

​@@islandgirl8067Not necessarily, they could be unhappy with themselves.

[@humilis42]

Wow this was deep. I will leave people where they are and eventually they recognize that I’m gone. People who mean you harm don’t deserve an explanation at all. When I run into them again I’m always cordial but brief with them. They will never get access to me again and it’s okay. People come and people go. The ones who stay were meant to be there.

[@Lot_us09]

Stubborness is a downfall. I had a friend give me "advice" that almost cost me my marriage. Will never take such "advice" this woman told me to my face "im jealous of you and what you have going on here" i decided to give this frenemy another chance. They have a monitoring spirit im keeping away.

[@SS-cu8se]

I feel like a lot of women subconsciously want other women to be as unhappy as them. That’s why you see a lot of the “drop him! Could never be me!” comments online when it comes to relationships, completely ignoring the reality that relationships are not perfect and there are high/low moments. But I have realized a lot of ppl in today’s day and age is heavily influenced by online discourse, but the problem is, not everything online translates well in real life. I feel like that’s one of the reasons why there is a dating/relationship/loneliness epidemic.

[@canesugar911]

​@@SS-cu8se don't bring sensitive and nuanced relationship drama to the internet, knowing fully well that they are going to make judgements based on your framing of whatever situation you are going through.... Most people just give top of head replies, they are not trying to ruin your relationship. You are doing that by your self

[@ForTheDivine_2000]

The real gag is when moms are jealous of their own daughters. Its just weird in the world right now. Y'all stay safe

[@humilis42]

Wow this was deep. I will leave people where they are and eventually they recognize that I’m gone. People who mean you harm don’t deserve an explanation at all. When I run into them again I’m always cordial but brief. They will never get access to me again like they had it and it’s okay. People come and people go. The ones who stay were meant to be there.

[@selinakyle2368]

I work with one of these insecure women. She is the boss’s wife and she always has it in for me. She’s insecure about her looks and does everything she can to make me look incompetent to her husband. It’s been a nightmare working with them ever since they got married.

[@VerleanHurd]

She think that will make you look less attractive in his eyes.

[@mercedesharrison5550]

Be careful and make sure you leave a footprint everywhere. People like that tend to create a scenario where you can be blamed for something once they see you’re not going to fail or mess up.

[@selinakyle2368]

@@mercedesharrison5550 oh I know. I’m making my way out of this company.

[@lovergirl________]

Have u tried looking for another job🙇🏽‍♀️🤍I can imagine how exhausting that must be💔.

[@selinakyle2368]

@@VerleanHurd I agree. But you know what there is nothing physical attractive nor intellectual attractive about him. She started out as his assistant while he was still married to his first wife ( and he has 2 children with his first wife) and then they started dating and eventually they got married.

[@wanzagithitho]

This has come at the perfect time. Where I am at right now, I am dealing with the reality of being a threat in most places and it has been quite uncomfortable for me to deal with women who are threatened by me. I recently got a part-time job as a delivery person taking goods to a certain organization every weekday, and the lady that I report to (let's call her Adani) seems to be threatened by me. I have had confirmations through her demeanors towards me compared to how she handles the lady that I work for (who also happens to be my big sister). Adani is literally short and round and has a moustache, and I am modelesque and pretty, and my sister agrees that Adani is insecure about her body hence her demeanor towards me. It has been hard dealing with her because it is super uncomfortable, and in as much as I would love to stand up for myself against her classist, insecure and racially-motivated (she's of Indian decent) demeanors, I cannot risk my sister's job (and by extension, my own). I am now letting myself develop a backbone because this isn't my first time experiencing this - I experienced a similar experience during my mandatory attachment for my coursework last year, and my current dentist also gives off this kind of energy. I also realized that I was a target when younger because I am pretty, and I had no idea. It's tiring. I have been watching Chloe_ for two years now, and I am aware of what is happening and why. I look forward to the day where being attacked for being a threat will leave me unfazed. I try to not let the women who find me threatening see me sweat or look sad because of that. In fact, I ensure that I look extra pretty to make Adani choke if that's what she wants to do. Lastly, I relate to and like Tyla more than I used to after I realized that both of us were being attacked for being threats. It might be hard but on second thought, I love being the full package and I understand that this is the price that I have to pay. Thanks for talking about this, Chloe_❤. You've been of great help to me and I appreciate you.

[@SaskiaTheBoss]

this was a really good video! i agree with homegirl, it’s crazy how “no one talks more shyt about you, than the person who did YOU wrong” how my internet villainous arc started… i’ve retaliated, but now, i don’t give none!

[@711PARNAERUE]

This!! When I started my journey, the one closest to me would mimic everything I did & constantly attacked me every chance she got. It started to feel like I was in a competition to be me 😵‍💫

[@WeGoJaiye]

I always wondered why sweetie and Tyla got so much hate online.... even tho they are very unproblemtaic in nature..... and it'susually from unattractive or insecure women.... women who have not accepted their own value and power..... it's sad

[@RebekahReflections]

It's the actual Booga Wolf picture for me 😅😅😂😂. Chloe you had me in tears at work! 🤣🤣.

[@TheNewFeminine]

🤣

[@ShekaGolden]

Chloen PLEASE 😂😂😂 The Boogawolf 🤣🤣🤣

[@Thecutest_Giraffe]

I dont find this topic funny at all, its actually quite sad and depressing for me. Personally, I've become an involuntary recluse due to this jealousy and hatred. Things start out well, be it at work, with friends or church members. Initially, everyone admires your beauty, vitality, and kindness, and somehow, a sinister disdain comes out of nowhere. I've learned to recognize the signs. Once the envy shows up, I cross the street.

[@AyaEgbuho]

I am curious ...what sogns specifically di you notice of the change? You are so right ..people switch up out the blue!

[@lf3554]

That's the one! Rather disheartening. I Also start having a Stoic, upity air about you and just deall with people on a surface level till you find your tribe

[@lf3554]

​@@AyaEgbuhoyou can usually feel the energy shift be it an eyeroll and or snide comments on and passive aggressive behaviour

[@TBTMovies96]

I rebuke all super saiyan stalker demons in Jesus Holy name!😂😂❤❤❤❤

[@marieporter6631]

"How can I change my behaviors so that I can receive"...this part

[@JenniferBey-h1r]

As an average to below average black woman, who is a loner. I know I don’t have social power. I grew up in foster care, traumatic childhood, and built everything I have. I did not become a product of my environment. I like what I see when I look in the mirror. I want the man that is for me. When I see the women that are beautiful, although I believe natural hair, dark skin big facial features like mine are more beautiful. That’s me, but I know that is not how the world works. If I’m around women who fit the beauty standard, I don’t feel small or the need to put them down. I tell them how beautiful they are, although they get it a lot. I see it often and the insecure women who perpetuate this nasty behavior are horrible. They don’t understand they are showing their nasty soul.

[@Peacebewithu34]

Girl, if that's you on the pic, then you're gorgeous 🥰

[@Thesilentvoice...]

@@Peacebewithu34ditto you are beautiful

[@aracystic28]

Thank you for making this content, lovely. It has definitely helped me and many more restructure our thinking. Many appreciations. ✨💕

[@mychannelafc]

Hey Miss Chloe, I'm new here and I am LIVING for these female friendship videos! I'm leveling up thanks to your videos and need my girls! Thanks for teaching us how to vet them, discern them, and gain sisterhood. :) sending you love ❤

[@osunyeye]

People like being depressed too much. They just need to realize that they don't value beauty, but feel that they should.

[@nikkinanette8807]

Yes, they are nastier even if they are married and is well cared for by their husbands. One as such was so jealous after her mother gave me a compliment proceeded to create a lie to make me look bad. I feel sorry for her.

[@janeekeaton2028]

I kid you not, my spirit kept telling me to watch a Chloe video and you dropped one right when I needed it. Thank you because today I experienced this today and felt confused but two bugger woofs (lol) tried me in class today and I didn’t have to say a word when three other women came to my defense, as well as the TA. It left them flabbergasted. But I was so confused but now I see that they felt threatened. Thank you and can’t wait to join the new feminine.

[@reinaafricana6423]

I have always been attacked for my intelligence and honesty. I’m so happy I got away from a “fake nice” friend. I ran into her and her husband. I’m happy that they’re doing well. I can’t be friends with someone that was friends with my enemy.

[@louisa6008]

Love your channel and always insightful every time

[@Paths2business8406]

There are women that have been jealous of me, including family members and so called friends. I never understood that because I've never looked at another woman and wanted to be her. That's really weird behavior. My own sister and her friend told be not to come over their house because they were worried about the dudes that they would bring around being attracted to me. The thing is I've always had a down to earth personality and they took that as something I did on purpose to attract the guys they brought around. Like nah Baby I'm just fine get over it Lol

[@_Dark222Angel_]

im also pretty and have a hard time understanding why I have no friends...I just want a friend group so bad but I always get scapegoated. probably because im nice and nonconfrontational 😂

[@KeenyaTheStylist]

They better not be messing with my Tyla! 💅🏽

[@rtoriq]

I was JUST gonna make a comment that I STILL don’t know why everyone is mad at Tyla! 🤷🏾‍♀️ And I don’t even follow pop culture that closely. Jealousy is mental illness.

[@girly.mimi00]

Facts. TYLA WILL THRIVE AND I'M HERE FOR IT !!!! 💅🏾💅🏾💕💕

[@EmpressAcended]

@@KeenyaTheStylist IKR?! 🥰

[@Shay-rx4xu]

They just want to hate her so bad she is talented period

[@KeenyaTheStylist]

@@EmpressAcended she’s so cute, smart, and wise/strategic! 💅🏽

[@Treebee6009]

All women are beautiful. Too many just don't know it yet.😊

[@dragonslayer616]

My biggest haters are indeed the women in my family. Never understood it, and it broke my heart. My godmother said they all saw the potential in me to blossom. I see it as clear as day now. I've never been jealous of anyone, so i had to distance myself. This video put a lot into perspective. ❤❤❤

[@EliteGoddess1111]

This video is spot on!!

[@qtju]

I lost all my closest bffs (been friends for 10+ yrs) once we got into our 22-25 age range. I moved to a big city and started dating rich ppl posting luxury stuff which-mind you wasn’t out of the ordinary for me I was called the bougie one in the group as jokes for years- but when I stood on that business they turned on me in the NASTIEST ways I’m telling you don’t just end their slick comments END the friendship early baby girls

[@azureavocado5195]

Just said a whole lot of nothing. And probably proved why those friends don’t come around anymore😂.

[@qtju]

@@azureavocado5195 i hate illiterate ppl like you bye

[@tyckeri]

I wish I saw this video 10 years ago 😪

[@_healyaself]

It’s never too late to grow 🌱

[@tyckeri]

@_healyaself I had group of girl friends. That I cut talking behind my back more than once. They were always mean to me when things were going well for me. And nice when things were going bad. And much much more of passive agressiveness. But I was dumb and weak

[@donnamcintosh2109]

People are forever talking about Tyla, saying that she’s arrogant. Who knows; maybe she’s being misunderstood, or maybe she is arrogant. Even though arrogance is not a positive trait, if a person is arrogant, at least back it up.

[@byst8729]

She’s a confident woman which seems to intimidate other women.

[@HarrietWanjau]

@@donnamcintosh2109 she triggers everything in insecure women. Whether she's arrogant or not isn't the issue. The issue is she's confident in her body, her originality and her talent. That's enough to set a lot of people off without even factoring her personality

[@eyebloom__]

I love that nun of her songs are about having a wet 🐱or dogging a man out or using him for money , it’s just pure vibes and confidence

[@andreadeveaux4727]

We have got to do better it’s matriculating down to our young girls

[@TheProvocativeSpiritualWife]

Chloe girl, that Booga Wolf clip is scaring me. But in all honesty, that is exactly why I stay away from women who are unhappy in their marriages or women who don't level up. Because they are definitely giving off Booga Wolf energy. POV: These types of women will set you up or push you off a cliff, or push you into a swamp of alligators and call it an accident. For the love of Christ ladies, cut off those fake friends.

[@nettaleanne]

It really sucks when you try to bring people to your level of confidence and comfort within yourself and they start running their own race smh

[@AhkeYahWoolyHaire]

Wow. I really resonate with this video thank you

[@Age_Of_Aquarius84]

19:09 Lord, this woman is stunning 😍😍😍

[@inannaxo]

Helloo!!! I love that you’re speaking on this topic.

[@UrbanRomance_]

At this big grand age😂😂 stop Randi😂😂😂😂

[@bougiehippie]

This is so true and its to get women to admit it.

[@Kreezword913]

Hi Ms Chloe_ This is a very sensitive topic for me. I always felt like I was the odd man out because I never really receive attention from men in a social setting. I would dress super provocatively and then I would wonder why I attract dusties. At 43, I still get jealous and threatened because of attractive women. I am not ugly but I feel like I do not have pretty privilege. I am realizing that life is not fair. And at my BIG SSA AGE, it is time for me to flex my soft power….or at least lean more into it!

[@TheNewFeminine]

thank you for sharing! 💞

[@Kreezword913]

@@TheNewFeminineThank you for being you ❤❤❤

[@aminaadam3617]

Girl,you can use your experience and get the kind of dating life you desire.Sometimes men may not approach you in social settings for various reasons but you can increase those chances by finding more one on one spaces.❤❤

[@Kreezword913]

@@aminaadam3617thank you so much❤

[@gorgeousprincess332]

I've given up on sisterhood.

[@azureavocado5195]

If sisterhood were real, why do women keep birthing and raising destroyers of other women😂

[@nikkinanette8807]

This explains it why he behaved that way 3:00

[@WorstDruidEU]

Sadia being the number one pick me on the internet. She claims that regular men don't benefit on marriage which kinda tells you how low she values femininity of a common lady

[@AndreaPortley]

I enjoy being uppity! Secures my boundaries and only haters are triggered!!! 😂😂😂

[@DnewNancy]

That boogawolf be scaring me forreal!!!! OMG

[@pashtlove7917]

Now chloe...where did you find the pic of the booga wolf 😭😭😭

[@SleepingBeauty-e6f]

How do we know when your projecting

[@Kreezword913]

That is a great question. I am here for it too❤

[@SleepingBeauty-e6f]

Chloe would make great neuro scientist

[@annadenise8902]

She’s very analytical. That’s my baby ❤

[@jasminesaez4878]

Thank you ❤ the better I am doing The more hostility I been getting it’s been weird but I am going to keep going in Jesus name

[@newtrollaccount384]

Great video.

[@traceycheking]

This!!! ❤

[@user-cp5yi8cr5w]

I rearly comment but Chloe this conversation right here 🙌🏾👏🏾❤ …please don’t stop with this content. You are much appreciated ma’am. 💯

[@Thesilentvoice...]

I thought black women wanted a example like Tyla? She isn’t black but in America they see her as that so my comment is towards them. She’s a small petite girl with confidence and class, and not the same stereotype of the bbl, ghetto, stripper exterior. Sexy red got a lot of hate for having the stripper ghetto brand, but now people hate Tyla for being confident, classy and sassy? Then what can win? Because we complain black women and girls aren’t a monolith. But once you see someone who isn’t the norm or a little different there’s problems.

[@loveandpeacepie]

I am really confused. It's been years since these videos have been around. 1 stop posting everything. 2 stop talking to everyone about your dating choices. 3 lose weight in private stop telling everybody. Be silent about your dreams and desires only to tell friends and family that have been supportive of you. Honestly, it's not hard. The man with the green glasses has my personality

[@Thatgirl12-fp3uq]

Triggering Insecurities.

[@ChooseU4ever]

Why do we never get comments from Nigerians who know these people? I wonder if they are aware or complicit?

[@chikFromMTL]

Thank you Chloe for doing God's work 🙌🏾 The clarity of your content is gold 🥇

[@zenanirae]

Emphasis on maturity CRISIS.

[@Tephiffany]

I do not understand this?

[@brittejones24]

What does it mean when this is coming from other men?😅

[@cocoa_bean_queen]

👌🏾♥️✨

[@annadenise8902]

💋

[@EmpressAcended]

7th😂🥰

[@dianacastor]

❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍

[@LifeWithShysamer]

Fourth! 😀

[@loversdecent]

First

[@angelapenedo8174]

Second😅

[@kemmyoluwo4732]

Third

[@gracelynappiah6793]

8th❤

[@essking34]

Third😅