MY 18 YEAR PHILIPPINE LOVE STORY...DID I FAIL

[@midlifewanderings]

Love your Southern accent. I love your honesty and candidness about life. I hope things will work out for you and your wife.

[@freedomwillring6749]

I just learned about your story with you appearing on Paul in the Philippine's channel. Glad I did because your story interests me, and I totally respect you for staying with your kids to raise them right. I was raised by a single father myself, so I can relate. Best of luck to you, and thanks for your advice. I'm a new subscriber to your channel, and I'll be keeping up with it to see how you're making out. Prayers for you and your children and family.

[@joeknight3269]

i am married to a filipina in the states and after 6 yrs were getting divorced.i am coming there soon to retire and she's staying here to work and pay for her new house in the Philippines.i think america changed her but it has given her and her family a better life.everything changes and everything happens for a reason.take care bro

[@rolandmueller7218]

Joe, if you don’t mind, what was your filipina’s age when you married her? Was she very young, maybe early 20s? I have a theory that the very young Filipinas still have a lot of maturing to do. When marriage gets difficult and they realize they could do better and get divorced, they can easily find someone new if they are still young, maybe under 35.

[@rolandmueller7218]

@Ahno Nymuz I know a Filipino married couple that moved to the USA and becacame naturalized dual citizens. I guess they did get somewhat materialistic and obsessed with making money while they lived in the USA. They own property in the USA and in the Philippines and spend half the year in each country. But, somehow, they managed to raise their children, took care of their elderly parents, and stayed married for 45+ years. I think the key is that they always did things together as a family as much as they could.

[@ThisIsHarderThanIThought]

filipinas are all about working and sending money back to the filipines, whether its to help her parents/family, or that new house u mentioned...instead of asking u to do that for her (or maybe she did ask u and u were against it), she wants to do it on her own by working and earning her own money...u didnt say anything else that would give us any clue why she changed, but we cant judge bcuz we dont have both sides of the story.

[@ThisIsHarderThanIThought]

@@rolandmueller7218 >>> yes they bcome obsessed with working and earning money to buy a home/land back in the filipines (bcuz most of them or all have plans to move back to the filipines in the future, or to provide for her family. back in the filipines)..i know a few of them where i live that does that and they have two jobs...really, u cant blame them for wanting to work and earen money...remember, there are more filipinas taht are willing to work and earn their own money than rely on her husband.

[@screamdreamer]

I never blame her,but our case is alittle different,she doesn't have to work

[@joban7851]

In a relationship, whoever moves out has more problems. Finish your project. Take a vacation. Be strong, don’t give up, keep living forward ➡️

[@screamdreamer]

ABSOLUTELY

[@papaguth933]

This sounds like a westernized version of a wife. There is only 2 options. Put up with the bad behavior or move on without her. The middle ground is just more misery.

[@boatnic]

Juells, I appreciate your honesty. I was wondering about this. You're in the Philippines building a house and raising your kids and she moves back to the US. WTF???!!!

[@screamdreamer]

She likes it there

[@TJTravels1]

I have been married to my Pinay for almost 20 yrs. I will retire in approximately 3 yrs and relocate to the PI and my wife will work at least one 13 week traveling nurse contract to give us a little infuse. We were watching your video, although we don’t know the details our heart goes out to you and your kids. God bless!

[@mikedoyle7300]

First off amazing clip. I really feel for you brother. I think you said it yourself when you said that you did everything you could to make her happy. This was a problem IMO. If you live vicariously through your family EVEN though it is where your joy comes from, you will lose respect rightfully or wrongfully from your family. Although Philippinos are very family oriented they can be very self centered and they almost resent your " saintly " loyalty to others that they themselves know that they don't have. We all go through different relationships and phases in life, like you said your children are growing up and you will always be their father and have a relationship with them. God has a way of moving us forward onto another path or direction in life. This could be that time for you. I always found in life that if a man isn't willing and prepared to leave a woman and doesn't let her know that, that's when they lose respect for a man. You can take comfort in that you gave all your love and effort into your and now it maybe time to move along. Perhaps you have fulfilled ( given ) your wife everything she wanted and needed from you and she has no futher use for you. It hurts, it's painful and it's saddening. But I'm sure you been through it before. It seems she wants you to move on with your life and perhaps you should find a another woman. Hopefully this isn't part of some sort of plot to jam you up with the law somehow. Hopefully she hasn't been " playing " you for so long. Regardless you will always have beautiful children and that is something real. Hard to accept the possibility that you have been a sucker for so long. I'm definitely not saying that you were and I hope that she didn't play you for her own agenda. Were you naive perhaps but you have a huge loving heart and sometimes people interpret that as a weakness and sometimes it actually is a weakness that people prey on and try to capitalize and take advantage of people like us.I been exactly where you are and it's definitely not easy, best advice I can give is move along and know that in the eyes of God you did that which was good. Good luck I hope things work out fine for you and we know to listen to the still small voice of the holy spirit within us. Or let her know you have a new girlfriend and watch how fast she gets her ass home. Your choice. Good luck. Brother.

[@larrybivens1852]

Juells I feel your pain, many of us know the story all to well! 28 years and 3 kids for me. 10 years later I can say it was the best thing to happen!! Life is in constant change things get better!! Now Ive met a 58 year old filipina that seems to be genuine and had all the qualities that western Women have lost. I hope to share a beer with you the next time I'm in the phils. Happy trails from Colorado.

[@PsychiatricParfums]

When a woman consistently pushes a man down, it is a sign she is unhappy with the relationship. I feel for you. I have been where you are at and never want to go back. I do believe that when that behavior starts, a man needs to set boundaries and let her understand that is not acceptable.

[@philippinesxtremes]

Your mistake was taking her to the states.. suddenly she got a taste of "the good life" . They just see the shiny stuff cuz they don't pay attention to the stuff that bogs down our minds and makes us wanna come here to paradise for the "easy life" She became seduced by the western treasure. Its all too common.. Happened to me, my best friend and many others. Lean on the lord. His will will be done

[@philipcooper3330]

I feel your pain brother i really do and can relate to you. We are the same age as well as the ages of our wife’s. You got a good attitude, try to stay positive and keep your kids close. Stay the course brother. You ever in Luzon, you got an open invite to come stay at my place and visit. Your always welcome! Peace

[@DenverBrad]

You are the rock for your kids. You didn’t abandon them like your wife. Maybe she did you a favor that you can’t see. I wouldn’t want to be with a woman who left her children. I realize there are two sides of the story, but you could not pay me enough to leave my kids while they are still young. This speaks volumes about her character. We can find out things in our significant others’ after 20 years that we never knew existed.

[@MikeHoncho884]

My motto is to never sign a legal binding contract with a woman. And I think everyone should watch standup comedian Daniel Sloss “Jigsaw” before making any drastic decisions for long-term relationships . Do not watch jigsaw with your lady !!!

[@sumostorms]

How to say “still loving you” in 13 minutes. Very brave to share your personal story. the scorpions “winds of change” is whispering in the background. Take care g-man your pain went through the screen. Whatever happens you made great kids together who deserve their parents

[@robertt6327]

You're telling Noah about the flood. You just described my first two marriages, my first wife was from Mississippi I met her in Houston, then my second wife was from Houston. I will never marry another woman from America. Im living in Manilla with my sweetie and I will never let he be corrupted by American women. She is from the province and she is very sweet and innocent.

[@walkerskii]

You asked, "Why did it turn around"? Cuz you stop being the man of the house, a masculine leader & over time gave her the power. You gave her too much, spoiled her, started putting her up on a pedestal, which backfired, as doing that causes the woman to lose attraction for you. Metaphorically speaking, you handed her your balls & she put them in a jar on on the shelf & hid the key, so she has control over your balls. That's tacky but true.

[@ottowokeninger9617]

Which isn't even possible to the same extent outside of the decadent west. I hope the younger guys aren't considering bringing them to the west, where the social contract and social controls have been annihilated.

[@screamdreamer]

AMERICA IS CRUMBLING IN SO MANY WAYS.A SHOOTING YESTERDAY AT A HIGH SCHOOL GRADUATION

[@davem8898]

Appreciate the honesty gman! I think all us older dudes have our war stories related to love. After watching a bunch of your videos it showed me you’ve always done things with good intentions for your family. Sadly I’ve experienced also bringing a woman to the states. Many times they see you differently when suddenly they have opportunities to help themselves. Sometimes things will self correct. If they don’t, then you realize the relationship ran it’s course and you have to start over. Worst case you’ve got 3 beautiful kids and you’re in a place where you won’t have trouble finding another. Hoping for success in your situation brother!!

[@philipwilliams-xm4ug]

Love your ability to smile through the pain, show her your happy and it may trigger something in her ! 45 years in asia and after 25 years marriage 4 children mine got a boyfriend - rather than mope around i left the same day met my new wife in singapore a few months later and came here 8 years ago with the shirt on my back - since then built a lovely house in malolos, bought land and an apartment i rent, got married here, settled and loving every minute, hit 70 last birthday still.working for an oil company from home, first time in my life have no debt even own my old vehicle ! Living life to the full - essentially life gets better if you remain positive there's always another door to open with wonderful opportunites stay stong bro !

[@screamdreamer]

Thanks for support

[@donpardo1]

That’s too bad for you mate, your heart is in the right place I reckon. Be carefull when you get married / pussywhipped: because the right woman will turn into the always right woman ……😂

[@Deltadawg]

You are comparing a 20yo province girl to the woman she has become at 39. You are the one that chose to take her and your children to America, you would have to be blind to think that wouldn’t change her. I am not busting your chops, I understand why you did it, I’m just speaking reality. The truth is, that giggle 20yo young lady would have grown into a mature adult and changed even if you didn’t move her to America. Obviously moving her to America changed her 10x. I always say the same about every relationship…enjoy your turn with her/him… a small percentage last a lifetime. She does deserve to follow her dreams, she is allowed as a human to fall out of love with you, she is allowed to take the time to find herself. She has to think about her life when you are gone, and how will she support herself. She is a middle aged lady with many good years left. I don’t think she is ungrateful, the reality is, she could have left a long time ago, plenty of rich American men that would love to marry a Filipina, regardless how many children she has. She stayed with you. I don’t think she ever intended on staying in the Philippines, I think she had it in her mind that she would go back to America, once she seen the kids were safe, education set up, etc… She is a beautiful woman and will have many many men in America dreaming to date her, that will be up for her to decide. IF she does come back and stay, cherish that woman for the rest of your life. God bless and I hope it all works out.

[@keithmelton4795]

You know G , I hered it’s best both Ouples shud stay in the philloperns. I hered that’s called westernized . Hay man , I wish the best for the both of you. I plan to come over there in a year or so . But staying in the philloperns would be good . Take care

[@markthomas4376]

It comes down to one thing after their love changes they show their cards Super Control Freaks and you know nothing 😂

[@paulpearce1311]

Marriage isnt just about love. Arranged marriages have a better success rate. Its about commitment and mutual respect in each others roles. Im concerned she only returned to the Philippines to be able to separate. Ie. Playing uou for which reason? Waiting till the kids old enough to drop them. Whos land is the house on? Can you be with someone else in the house? Or is she winning. Will she get it all with your departure? Even if the kids Inhereited its still hers in the end

[@johnreynolds7546]

May GOD BLESS YOU IN JESUS NAME BROTHER !!!! I was married for 24 year's. Didn't matter. When women go through the change,they want change. I still talk to her on e in a while as friends. Still love her to death.

[@roberth3094]

Never take your filipina province girl to the US.

[@samlockie8271]

Chin up mate, you have a lovely family behind you , and we all love ya ❤️

[@screamdreamer]

Thank my brother, we ll hang out soon

[@gilleslaviolette8147]

Oh! Man! That’s got to be hard on you man!! I’m found a super nice Filipina also but, this my last chance at 62! Got make this work!! Got no more time to start over! If I don’t, I will have to get one at the senior home! Smiles! Take care man! All the best!

[@woggs1]

Good luck bro, I am sending you good vibes and hope it all works out for you.

[@byronthayer8990]

Juells, just found you on Paul's channel. Sorry to hear about your situation. I am a new subscriber of yours and looking forward to your vlogs. I been married to a Filipino for 14 yrs. and we live in south Florida. Unfortunately, she has gotten Americanized too! I want to live in PH but she doesn't want to? Go figure! I'm from Tennessee! Big B from TN........🎼 🎸

[@byronthayer8990]

Us Southern brothers have got to stick together!

[@Gonefisin]

Brother, I'm a Southern boy too here in the Philippines. I understand exactly what your talking about. I wish you all the best. Head up and eyes forward. You ever get around Naga City, hit me up.

[@lowtech67]

You ain't the only one. It takes two. I truly hope it works out.

[@tinotino9952]

She grew up ... as simple as that...

[@BrianandMoe]

Thanks for your usual honesty! Your story hit home. Almost like your checking out my life! I think it's normal as we age or grow younger! People change, I always remember you can only control yourself and nothing else, so suggest, be your self, smile ( it penetrates) control how you view things. You are a caring person, but focus on being happy, those around you will cought up in your aura! That's it from the peanut gallery! Nice talk brother!

[@screamdreamer]

Thank you brother

[@DaveReno-rn6iv]

Dang! That was deep.

[@sherrylawson5335]

Hope the best for you, your wife and children.

[@wrafl]

You mean your wife is an OFW? She is separated from you due to her working overseas? But I am glad you're raising a family alone and with great success. Kudos man.

[@darrinchiasson6279]

Stay Strong man and be there for your kids which is what I see that you are doing. Yes Many, Too many have been in the same spot. It is painful, I know too well. Eight years later, I still feel the pain but know it gets less sharp in time but it will alway be there at least for me. Your kids will know and you will know you did the best you could by them and that is your reward! When my 4 little birds leave the nest in the near future I think I will be joining you there in Ph to find my peace! Stay Strong!

[@philippinesOneLove]

22 years for me Then it All blew to Pieces , I Haven't got a clue What makes a Woman Happy ,or Unhappy ,Apart from the Obvious , For me i did everything right , and it still was not enough , On reflection i didn't try to Salvage the relationship ,, Hey I hope All goes Great for you and the kids ,and your Wife .. Family is Family ❤

[@freshaloha4747]

Wow. Love the honesty in your video. Yes, I currently is seeing a Filipina and will be there in the Philippines in August. And I’m totally aware of the challenges of relationships. As prepared as you think we all think we may be, it’s still an extremely difficult mountain to climb when change occurs. I’ve often tell my filipina, “ it’s easy to fall in love, but staying in love, in that blissful place you both had in the beginning, is much harder sustain”. Best of luck brother! But everything happens for its divine purpose…and I’m hopeful when I get there to “ make the rest of my life, the best of my life”….I’m confident you will too! Aloha!

[@TomBTerrific]

Hahaha interesting perspective! We have all experienced some of what you’re speaking of. Seems it human nature because everyone has experienced similar things. Once someone becomes independent and self sufficient their perspective change. Most men are self reliant because our culture requires and expects men to be. Not so much with women. Im not being chauvinistic when I say this albeit thinking has certainly changed over my lifetime. Well after 3 marriages I get it. Actually I got it after the first one. So regardless of my emotional commitment or feelings towards another woman when marriage becomes a topic so does prenuptial. This has never saved any of my marriages but it’s saved my ass during the divorce. That’s reason enough for me. In the Philippines it Bahala na. It is a significant part of their culture. I feel it allows the to live as they do with becoming depressed or angry. Just my view.

[@stevenwistort9903]

A relief video for you and probably some others. I hope your relationship with your wife strengthens.

[@paolo5008]

Hi Jules, first thing I would like to say is this is got to be one of the best videos I've ever seen on KZbin and believe me I have watched many. After being married in Australia for 30 years and having three wonderful children my wife up and left me just like that. I promised myself that l would never be in a relationship ever again and then curiosity set in and I jumped online and met a wonderful Filipina. We are getting along so well but I'm very worried about myself if she were ever to leave me, seeing what you are going through do you have any advice for me mate and I wish you all the best for your future hope things work out for you.😊

[@arabellamagnolia3013]

I would agree with you….why do women treat their husbands so badly as things go on….unfair

[@Filipina1984]

Vice versa dear

[@lor201]

Oh wow, I don't know what to say aside from she might just having a hard time at work. Especially that you guys are apart from each other. Just give her space, that is how marraige are some ups and down. I felt sad too, just look at your beautiful children I hope you guys goona be okay.

[@screamdreamer]

Thanks

[@Jon2.2.0]

Brave man. Not everyone can do what you just did. Complete naked exposure and let us in. May you heal fast and well.

[@mountainmusings23]

Brother, you are not responsible for her happiness. I do hope that you guys can put your family back together again. BTW I've been the single dad of my children, so in many ways I can relate to your emotion.

[@joseamor9319]

Truly Sorry To Hear The Status Of Your 18-Year Relationship Brother! I Truly Hear The Loneliness Coming From Your Heart And Soul. If This Is Truly The End, Well Brother, ACCEPT IT And MOVE ON For LIFE Truly Is Short. You Will Always Have The Wonderful And Beautiful Memories Of Life While Married To Her. You Now More Than Ever Need To FOCUS ON YOURSELF And Your Three Teenagers. Your Teenagers Will Need Their STRONG FATHER More Than Ever! True Parenting Requires PHYSICAL PRESENCE And Not Over The Internet! "YOU CAN DO THIS BROTHER!!" To Reassure Yourself, Keep This Always In Mind, "THERE'S PLENTY OF FISH IN THE PHILIPPINE SEA!!" And Just In Case You Forgot Or Didn't Realize, The Philippines Is An Archipelago Surrounded By MULTIPLE SEAS. As Long As You Keep Kicking It, You Will Have A LIFETIME SUPPLY Of YUMMY Philippine Fish!! Keep On Rocking Brother! Your Love And Devotion To Music All These Years Is What Shaped Your Character And Personality. You Are Who You Are Because Of It! Be Realistic And Don't Let The End Of A 18-Year SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP Do You In! Remember That Firehouse Song, "🎵Bye Bye Baby Bye Bye, That Was All She Wrote!🎵" Well, Sad To Say But Sometimes That Is The Reality We Men/Fathers Face And Must Endure. But NO WORRIES! Makati And BGC Are FULL Of WORLD-CLASS BEAUTIES! EDUCATED Ones As Well! Get Your FILL From Time To Time And Still Keep Rocking And Building In Dumaguete. YOU CAN DO THIS! DON'T BAIL ON US YET BROTHER!! Here's A Project I Know Will For Surely Make You Forget Of Your Worries: Put A "6.2 Liter SUPERCHARGED HEMI HELLCAT Engine" On "The Van Halen" And Watch Her SKIM And FLY Over That Amazing Glassy Sea To Cebu Or Mindanao!! Heck, You Might Have To RENAME Her, "The JUELLS ROCKET BANGKA!"

[@gericornista8133]

Got your kids & there are so many Filipinas there willing to truly love you!!

[@jimgrady7458]

@9:13 The caretaker for everyone's happiness? Dude, don't do that to yourself, there's no way to win.

[@screamdreamer]

I know

[@chrisAnAussie]

Let go and let God see you through. 🙏 praying

[@charlesnuckolls7196]

Yep. I was married 44 years and just received my walking papers. Now I am living alone in India. Tell us more about how you are adapting. We can learn a lot from you. Thanks!

[@Ericno7]

The love you have for your wife is Crystal clear! It’s a shame she doesn’t realise how lucky she is to have you. Even though you are probably not an angel like most men are not anyway.

[@jeretso]

The American South does resemble a lot of provincia life. I assume your wife lives in an American city where cost of living is high and its all work. She is a younger worker bee at her prime brain power. The drawback is the 20+ hour flight between you. I bet your kids will also move to America and work. Jobs are too competitive in the Philippines. Your wife is just paving the way.

[@nevergiveup-db6fp]

Hey Jules, we have walked on the same path in life. I’m in Dumaguete now building a house with my wife. I also had everything I owned stolen from a mini storage about nine years ago. I got over that now. Everything is great never give up.😀🌴🌴🍺🍺 we will meet up sometime for a chat and a cold frosty beer

[@mikedickson6362]

I feel this is a very important Video thank you for have the balls to do 😁if you need a friend I'm here for you ❤ hang in there ✌🤘🤙🖖

[@blockaderunner]

Dude, I just started my journey with one, and she don't work! I intend to keep it that way and she's perfectly ok with that. She doesn't want to work. She's not westernized at all Very poor.

[@screamdreamer]

Good

[@mommyrose9074]

Hang in there hoping everything will get better ❤. Good Luck!

[@SnowmanRH]

Juels your story is different however, bringing the Filipina to the USA was a good way to be together for a while but many times it just don't work for a multitude of reasons. Most every story about Filipinas leaving a relationship involves bringing her to America. Sometimes we let our emotions control our decisions, love is a powerful emotion.

[@DennisStables]

Loved your story mate. Your a man who can find the right path. Cheers

[@anthonyreyes7465]

We’re not up agaist flesh and blood but against principalities and powers, rulers of the dark world… Maybe we should hear some of your oldies but goodie’s praise and worship music? Stay strong soldier!

[@williammorgan6217]

The greatest love is with yourself.

[@bantay747]

If you are married to her, you have all the right to bring her back near you and as a family. Speak to her. Clarify the issues. On the other hand, your wife, like many other Filipinos is probably fulfilling her American dream. She’s young, still in her working age as a nurse in the US. It could be that she’s getting Americanised, that makes her changed. I’m a Nurse myself, and it’s a stressful job.

[@mikebingham976]

A musician friend of mine returned home from being on tour and read a note from his young wife saying that she had left. He was broken-hearted. I felt unable to find the words to console him. He read a letter from her written a few weeks earlier saying how wonderful he was in her eyes. All I could say was “Sorry James. I feel your pain.” He replied, “But I’m a blues singer. The new material I’ve written has never been better !”

[@screamdreamer]

Right on

[@mikebingham976]

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[@mikebingham976]

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[@Ericno7]

Hey Dude😎 I’m sure things will work it’s self out in time. You look like you like it there? Doesn’t look like you would want to give it all up and go back to USA? Are the kids happy there? Do you think they will stick with it in the Philippines? None of the kids chose to go with the mum. They chose to stay with you. Good luck moving forward I’m sure you’ll be sorted in the future 😎 🌴 🇬🇧

[@screamdreamer]

Kids love it..mission accomplished, me and kids here and happy

[@Ericno7]

fantastic mate all the best 🇬🇧🇵🇭😎🌴

[@Ericno7]

@@screamdreamer fantastic mate all the best

[@---Avalon---Sky---]

🌠🌠🌠🌠🗻You better than you know,. I bet you don't know, You have the Very best, Travel show. Your the sum Of all your experiences A work in progress, Your the same As you always are, Only better, Your self aware, And care. Willing to share. Sorrows accrue, That's what they do, Learn,and stay positive, You just have to Get through today., Keep it in God's Hands He will provide, Thanks for sharing, Your wife now knows Your still there caring. Good Bless,and guide you.🙏👍🎩🏝️🇵🇭🌺🇺🇸🗻

[@angelideleoz3516]

She must have found her individuality, can hold her own but not meaning loving you less

[@joeblaney684]

Love is rarely forever is my experience. My X left me because she felt controlled all her life, realized years later it was not me it was her family generally wanted to come back but the damage was done. Read lots of the comments here mostly good and have genuine points. My only advice is heal good and move on. I wasted 5 years broken hearted only to realise it was not something I did but more what’s going on in her head. Love will find its way to you again

[@jimbrown2485]

Just found and subscribed to your Channel first video. Great job wonderful really good show. Sounds like you're from South Carolina? Hopkins? What made you choose and end up in the p.i. 🏝 the Philippines 🎀 were you stationed there in the military such as I was 🇺🇸

[@sampinto3079]

Ur 2004 experience in the Philippines seems like a premonition warning in hindsight. I'd say drop those who don't like you. U goin crazy dude

[@Adventure5619]

Brought my ph wife to America it corrupted her within 7 years she was unrecognizable a poor mtn girl that was tickled pink to shop for new clothes at good will to. If it ain’t Gucci then don’t bother. Luckily she left me for a younger man that could afford her. I so miss how happy I was the first year. I moved back to ph hoping to find that again this time never moving back to USA.

[@p.e.3953]

Hopefully she doesn't return to the Philippines and kick you out of your new home? Put the deed of the home in one of your children's name instead! What your wife doesn't realize is that karma is real and it will 100% come back to bite her!

[@litalaslo6375]

You can not make your wife happy unless she will makes herself happy first.Perhaps she can not find a job in Pinas that is why she went back to USA. Perhaps she wants to experience a single life in her 40's.Hope she wont regret her decision one one of these days.

[@Enjoy51690]

I only say that because I have a co-worker is always nice always looking out for the people and then some people could be thinking who is he really what is it covering up for people not to know. For me maybe I'm just a cynical New Yorker I don't know

[@frankb.269]

Nothing in life last for ever, even love or marriage. Filipinas, once they had a taste of the west, they change. Don't want to discourage you, but you've lost her for good. Just look for someone else and don't invest anymore cash in her. Expect her to pay her share for the children cost of living

[@JohnTaylor-yk9hl]

Golden tip y can’t make them happy because they don’t kn themselves never try to work v them out because they don’t kn

[@auroraalmeida3184]

The Filipina women are hard to understand by western men, you just have to accept your wife for what she is and move on, continue loving her and maybe someday she will understand you.

[@bchrismonks8760]

Wow! That’s a lot of reality. Big respect for you to open up like that. I can see the emotion in your eyes. I’m about to make my move to the Philippines. It’s a good reminder that things can change. Do you believe exposure to the west has been a negative influence on her? It seems like the modern, western culture is to drive a wedge between men and women. I hope the best for you two and your family

[@screamdreamer]

ABSOLUTELY

[@speedracer2336]

Sorry for his bad situation. It happened to me also, I call it “little head thinking for big head” and moved on.

[@joemama8243]

l think this is where the age gap comes in, the younger wife wants to work cause she might think she is wasting her productive years, while the guy wants to stop working and relax because he just wants to enjoy the rest of his life, lm not saying this is the case for you guys, but all the best wishes to you Juels and to the Mrs. , whatever it might be you guys will get through it im sure

[@screamdreamer]

Could be right

[@nzsl368]

she's a gold digger... run fast before she overtakes & controls you 😂

[@elvie174able]

My 2nd marriage is approaching 15years now with another child who is our little miracle being born in the US back in 2014 at only 24 weeks at 1lb 12oz and spending 3 months in NICU with hospital bill of 1m US. My 2nd wife is a province girl with 10 siblings here in Bohol and we are still going strong but yes once they know they won that golden ticket and own the chocolate factory they do change a bit but the province girls are usually much more faithful, hardworking and will take care of their partner. My wife seems to be very proud that she is the bread winner for her entire family and can help each and every one of them in some way. Life is a like a box of chocolates and sometimes we are just a golden ticket to win the factory that makes that box.

[@genaroduran3012]

If she is sending money to your kid's it's fine Eventually when she get old and tired in working she will retired in the Philippines

[@vanturner9560]

Damned if u do damned if u don't... no win situation

[@roberth3094]

The house and land is hers. When you complte it, she will kick you out and move her family in.

[@stanlysteemer4872]

The reality is men love women need. No need no love, gave her everything now she doesn’t need you. Next time don’t give so much so she still needs you.

[@yvonnesheehan9079]

Wishing all your family peace, love and happiness. ☘️🇮🇪☘️ Yvonne. Ireland

[@KelvinWilson53]

Wow what a story G man. A complete roll reversal. Unbelievable to me that your good lady wife prefers to the U.S. to her home country. Did this all kick off many moons ago, like before you decided to build a home in Phil ? My heart goes out to you , stay strong and keep on rocking down that rocky road, going on to the bitter end, when Christ will reveal His glory in us!

[@victoriafediuk362]

yes, I do love your southern accent. I hope you're ok. stay strong sir..god bless.

[@schuey999]

So hard friend.. praying the best for you.

[@gdennis310]

I am new to your channel, Jules. What is the age difference between you and your wife?

[@screamdreamer]

20 years

[@dazamistwalker]

I'm the same age as you, and am going through a similar thing -- a marriage that isn't really a marriage and hasn't been for over 10 years. SO, I'm looking at the Philippines as a possible exit strategy to work out the last third or quarter of my life. My wife isn't a bad person, in fact she's probably a better person than I am in most ways. Seems there comes a time when you simply can't make the other person happy and the best you can do is to not make them miserable. Still trying to figure out what that looks like

[@Mexicobeanpole]

This is the most mature thing I’ve ever heard said about a relationship ending.

[@viclarock5321]

It's only my opinion since I know neither you nor your wife but, sometimes when we become critical of someone in our lives, it speaks more of who we have become than of who you are. Hope everything works out between you and your wife. Stay strong Julian 🙏

[@CassieDavis613]

Heartbreaking.

[@henrychinaski8554]

As much as it hurts I'd cut the cord man -she's gone its over its done finito benito

[@ThisIsHarderThanIThought]

even in the US, many services are slow,,,services that we feel should not take longer than a day or two because of technology, takes a week or longer.

[@badbrad1632]

I feel for you brother, hope it works out for you both. Life is tough but marriage is much tougher at least for me.

[@glenclarkchidley3637]

It’s been like this from the beginning of time!

[@JTland-sea-air]

Good story. People change man. Be happy you had 18 good years, and move on. Next! Nothing stays the same. The only constant is change. LET IT GO. Embrace the next chapter. You got this

[@screamdreamer]

Time will tell

[@jeffcain928]

Thanks for sharing G, very very good heart-felt video, relationships are always challenging, perhaps some time apart may be a good thing. Sometimes the grass looks greener but doesn't turn out to be. Whichever way it goes Ruby and I wish you internal peace and happiness. We are in Cebu now and coming back in a few days, let me know via pm if there's anything you need me to pick up from here to bring back. Look forward to seeing you my friend.