My Blackpill Moment

WARNING: Lilypichu bridge is in possible danger!
Destiny rants about relationships, double standards and his Tomi Lahren blackpill moment...
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[@Choke-a-Cola]

"how do you get self esteem?" "easy you just have to do it before you're 14" like a shotgun to the stomach

[@6packproductions710]

If you’re 15 at this point, I’d suggest setting goals and reaching them, goals that don’t require another persons verification. That builds a lot of confidence, even if the goal is to make diamonds in LoL.

[@Semesty]

And if youre 24 like myself you are pretty much fucked because you hated yourself for the better part of the last decade and can only find comfort in building your profession. Which is made even more difficult because you have no confidence in yourself and arent able to build lasting professional contacts.

[@huckmart2017]

I dont buy it. My self esteem tanked when i was 15 but got much better now that im in my 20's.

[@EliasOwnage95]

@@Semesty Im 24 and why did you have to write this

[@footballholic_R10]

@@Semesty Don't take what Destiny said about that question as fact, it was just a tongue-in-cheek answer. If you're going through self esteem issues, make a habit of doing positive self-affirmations, set short term goals on personal enrichment (from living healthier to learning new skills), and actively work on strengthening your social skills with people in your everyday life. As uncomfortable as it might feel or be at times, always remember that you have the power to build yourself up just as much as you have the potential to bring yourself down. You are your greatest ally and at the same time worst enemy, the only question after realizing this is what do you really want to do in this life, and pursue those desires to the fullest.

[@robbysawicki]

He "played" minecraft for 40 minutes and did almost nothing other jump on some white pillars

[@smalltrashman4227]

LOL

[@myles6557]

I mean I'm sure I've got 100 hours of running around Orgrimmar, so who am I to judge...

[@fizzlebank]

@@myles6557 I’m doing that right now lmao

[@adamcummings20]

tbf I find it really hard to talk about things while also playing a non-repetitive game

[@SUPERLINKX2]

@@myles6557 i do this with silvermoon, It's just so pretty

[@vitalepitts]

"How do you develop high self esteem?" "EASY you just have to do it before you're 14" LMAO

[@moldycarrot9267]

Wait, that's the point where it plummets..

[@zulhazwan98]

@@moldycarrot9267 It depends. If you can maintain it at that age, it be easier to bring it to your adulthood.

[@WINCHOism]

Sadge no hope

[@yourunclejoe9500]

Hopium FeelsOkayMan

[@missionpupa]

Moldy Carrot yeah and that’s the critical stage. Anyway, it’s not really 14, it’s more like before 7. It has to do with you being secure in attachment around your parents or caregiver when you were a child.

[@neubiineubii2931]

that intro was way too interesting to just cut it off your monster

[@devidock321]

I like it haha

[@Toxodos]

"when you go online looking for a video, saying [DESTINY INTRO SOUND]"

[@HasanPlbyk]

That shit had me getting mad out loud lmao... I went "ayo wtf"

[@matt_9112]

Genius move (got mad myself as well)

[@insomniac9895]

SAYING WHAT?!

[@xaviersgiantego1453]

'at risk of burning a bridge' and then proceed to be wholesome? softie steve

[@50ULL355]

Sofstiny

[@hendog5396]

I love how chat was a REE wall and then changed to widepeepoHappy s

[@thomasdoyle6812]

Everyone knows that to get a girlfriend first you have to ground your axioms

[@renatogasparsaldana]

This is probably the best comment ever xd

[@arkfille]

TRUE

[@aesthetewithoutacause3981]

Tru doe

[@FullyBaked3D]

and be better than average looking

[@MiroKotilainen]

Epistemic Andy

[@Jorge-vo9ii]

“Human sexuality is one big missed high five”

[@Jatischar]

"at the risk of burning a bridge..." OH NO NO NO.... xDD

[@slimywater9945]

PepeLaugh

[@ivarisalie8759]

Here we go again... But yeah, the vtuber is fucking cringe.

[@ryanroache3042]

Can someone update me on this? I used to follow lily and haven’t listened in on Destiny for a while.

[@legendarylitening]

What time stamp?

[@luvaznsandrice]

Why do people care what Lily does with her stream or Vtuber shit. You might think it's cringe but hella other people don't think it is 🤷

[@melonmazing515]

4:30 This 100%. Torturing yourself by staying close to someone you love who's never going to date you pretty much will only drive you insane, just don't do it.

[@ScepterShard]

I literally lost my hair from the stress doing that. Got diagnosed with alopecia. Guess what the causes are...stress. DONT DO IT. SAVE YOURSELVES.

[@evilexnumber3]

I like to call it "girlfriend zoning"

[@evilexnumber3]

@@josh_harrison I suppose i should have explained slightly better, apologies. Yes your love interest may friendzone you, however i find it equally damaging for both parties if you girl/boyfriend zone them ie can't see them as anything other than a romantic or sexual partner hence why i say "girlfriend zoning" i hope this cleared it up

[@deviljho4260]

The only alternative that worked for me is to get over them

[@daviedood2503]

This is why u NEVER EVERRRRE do the "sure we'll be FRIENDS" guys don't know what this means. They think "sure we'll be friends, she'll see how good I am and doesn't have to be w horrible guys anymore" No, once u step into that you'll never come out unless it's MANY YEARS LATER and she's messed up, old, prolly has children by then and ur getting scraps. She doesn't even want u tbh ur just the BACKUP help Incase another guy comes along then it's the "I tried were just friends". They get use to u being friends that's her normal. She just isn't seeing u THAT WAY. ur trying to force it. If u do the friend thing you'll spend all ur time and money taking her out, hearing her stories of guys she shucked off won't text anymore, guys she let do it and won't text her back. Trying to make her stop crying etc. And u get NOTHIIIIIIIIING for it. Ur just some safety net she doesn't like or respect. The second she feels better (thanks to you) she's gone and "too busy" for u. What if YOU'RE kinda down? Well "friend.." tough luck! Ur on ur own! It's not ever a two way street. If anything she may say "oh just get them flowers, now back to MYYYYYY story" Her advice never works ever. It's just some words to say is all. So she can get back to HER story and YOU give advice that works. Point is it's all bad all around. Plus they like the idea of having a guy around that likes them and watches her have fun with ANOTHER GUY. the whole "he likes me and jealous hee hee hee". 🙄 It gives them VALUE. if no guy was jealous and NO GUY was after her, she'd feel very value less. Prolly not feel very pretty as well. Don't play the game man. The longer ur around that being her FRIEND the worse it is for u. It's self torture. Just say hey it's this or NOTHING. don't ever do the one way street just to make someone feel better that doesn't like u, nor cares about u. U have to have the "it's this or NOTHING" approach. Take ur loss and move on man. Sure it can be hard but it's harder if u stay and watch all that and hear the stories. Bc u imagine those things happening to her.

[@saintsguard53]

Beds are honestly slept on 😑

[@trasher618]

Finally an important issue getting covered

[@TheFlyoverReport]

Don't sleep on beds.

[@sadboipotato3382]

I prefer couches, tbh.

[@TundeoftheBaba]

I love all of this🤣🤣

[@staplez6038]

@Zane Thunder I'd like to see this argument lay out

[@Saul.Gone_]

I would honestly pay good money to watch destiny debate the incel/blackpill community. That would be some serious quality content lmao.

[@wizzzer1337]

Edited- this comment was cringe

[@raulr752]

He’s debated an incel before.

[@dickjohnson8983]

he has, its worse than you think

[@exiledhebrew1994]

Anyone can defeat the black pill; will destiny take on the red pill?

[@herakles1536]

@@exiledhebrew1994 "Anyone can beat the black pill" Can you elaborate on that?

[@kaiser2383]

The most based Destiny has ever been

[@Jr-bn7kc]

Very incelly

[@guest3858]

@@Jr-bn7kc tee hee wow thats so funny to combine smelly and incel. you know theyre right, everyone knows deep down that theyre right which is the biggest reason why they are hated

[@ninenemench9403]

Yeah but slightly

[@ninenemench9403]

@@edithboozy1000 Wubba Luba dub dub

[@Un4tunate_]

@@edithboozy1000 based on what evidence

[@huckmart2017]

You gotta find self respect outside of womens validation. Thats the only way forward.

[@thaswami9900]

Just become gay, never worry about women ever again lol

[@nkdgma]

@@thaswami9900 2head

[@void3793]

how (I think I know the answer but it's good to get a different perspective)

[@huckmart2017]

@@thaswami9900 lol

[@DarkestKnightshade]

@@thaswami9900 You listened to papu franku's advice in 100 Accurate Life Hacks, praise be to Chin Chin. Dicks for life. Oh yeah.

[@johnfarley7074]

“Crazy men stories usually end with life in prison.” Toooooo truuuuuee! Or murder suicide...

[@oli.r7697]

Or in office :)

[@jellewijckmans4836]

When it comes to hot people seeming more mentally unstable it's important to consider these two things. If they where unstable and ugly why would you hang out with them and if they where hot and stable why would they hang out with you?

[@keithfilibeck2390]

its more that being incredibly attractive fucks with your mind, breeds narcissism and a delusional outlook on life, just listen to any Hollywood Celebs in videos of them doing normal shit, they sound insane.

[@iddra1868]

@@zanoman2 kzbin.info/www/bejne/jKTUqKGjlLBmmtE @19:19

[@therainman7777]

This is such an amazing comment lol

[@qactus4031]

The problem is some people look for a boyfriend/girlfriend that could stand them, when they can't even stand themselves.

[@gregorisomariva2031]

a society is being lived by ourselves

[@bellzhellz5922]

Careful your treading on enlightening information. People will have you assassinated for saying this lol. But sooo true

[@treadstoned9915]

Yeah as much dumb stuff as Joe Rogan says one of the MOST important things that he advises A LOT is self improvement and seeking validation and happiness that way.

[@percival5568]

What a load of crap. The problem is women get plenty of sex ever since they hit puberty while men for the most part stay virgins until they die. Notice a little difference there....? Let alone a girlfriend, most men can't even get casual sex a single time.

[@treadstoned9915]

@@percival5568 just hang in there and don't give up. It always finds you when you are not looking for it. Don't let what 1 ir a few girls say about you or how they treat you determine your self worth. YOU are good enough and you DO matter. ✌

[@davebryan8416]

I’m gonna rage against the machine and find myself a sugar mama. Career-oriented women in their mid 30s where you at 😎

[@salvadorfonseca7]

Cosmetic industry

[@missionpupa]

Thank fuckin God I realised that this was a terrible plan at a very young age. I know people who actually had the same plan and they now live wasted lives

[@knes167]

Ah, I see you are a man of culture as well

[@nathanstitt7459]

They exist

[@6packproductions710]

They are trying to find a guy earning about 58% more. That’s the statistic.

[@xxri552]

I've never heard someone's beauty characterised as top two percenter until now

[@iamthekulture3822]

I looked at this comment as he said that 👀

[@xxri552]

@@iamthekulture3822 Yeah in that case subscribe to me

[@hunterthompson6737]

was surprised when he said attractive people don't have a lot of sex

[@salvadorfonseca7]

@@hunterthompson6737 never heard about those beautiful people who are fish in bed?

[@hunterthompson6737]

@@salvadorfonseca7 yes ii did lol

[@ditokelio7860]

The thing that annoys me is that we are trying to move past the women expectations but pretending that the men's problems don't exist/dont matter. That's how I feel at least

[@keithfilibeck2390]

because the zeitgeist of today is "Men Bad", so it doesn't matter what lot is given to them.

[@sadboipotato3382]

That's cause everyone ignores men's issues. Till it gets to the point they start mass shootings, then they cry about guns.

[@july8503]

@@sadboipotato3382 were men shooting up places back in the 50s? Mass shootings don’t automatically mean male oppression. Crime was arguably way worse in the 80s 90s

[@july8503]

Men didn’t seem all that bothered when expectations were ruining women back then. It’s not that no one cares about men problems it’s just they didn’t care about it until now. To be charitable, some men might not even be aware of those problems

[@keithfilibeck2390]

@@july8503 Men, for thousands of years, where meat for the war machine, or broke themselves on the fields, the vast majority of all men who lived , lived short brutal, incredibly hardworking lives, its hilarious how feminists view the past.

[@longstaff4730]

Why do I even watch this I'm lightyears away from a relationship.

[@thedeathstar420]

@@UH1YVenom123 you are a saint

[@bobsherman3055]

facts. I'm like 5'3 bro, I'm just watching to fill the void

[@longstaff4730]

@@UH1YVenom123

[@chaoky]

@@bobsherman3055 I'm 6'1 no gf either

[@DaSticks]

On International Mens day, fitting

[@abellpepper6169]

Why

[@frbe0101]

@@abellpepper6169 Because instead of talking about the draft or circumcision or parental rights, talk about what men really care about: how to get sex.

[@mongoose890]

@@frbe0101 to be fair, people already talk about those things, the only people that talk about the shit destiny spoke about are incels so it's good that a reasonable person with a large audience spoke about them imo

[@user-vp6cq4sv3d]

@frbe0101 How to maintain a monogamous relationship is far more important honestly but you do you.

[@frbe0101]

@@user-vp6cq4sv3d Not sure that is a men's only problem there.

[@mush2445]

"Everyone is 1-up:ing themselves on misery" so true

[@huckmart2017]

26:00 preach!!! This is 1000% true. The vast majority of people have sex for clout, not pleasure. They have sex with a stranger on vacation because they want to tell a story about it, meanwhile they probably didnt even enjoy it. This is why casual sex is iil advised. It comes with a lot of baggage, and no real benefit.

[@keanowhitmore8009]

So would you say men shouldnt sleep around? Is it pointless

[@huckmart2017]

@@keanowhitmore8009 thats what i think, yeah

[@traditionalreturn3954]

@@huckmart2017 the only real reason emotionally independent men would "want" a girlfriend is to access the physical pleasure that comes with sex. Everything else he can either get from himself or others without the extra maintenance that comes from maintaining a relationship. So with this in mind, why shouldn't a guy do casual sex if everything else is sorted out for him?

[@ImpulsesOG]

@@traditionalreturn3954 no one is ever totally sorted out alone. There will always be something lacking

[@traditionalreturn3954]

@@ImpulsesOG Of course. My point was that you can get the same support from friends and family that you can get from a partner. Without the gruelling labour that comes from intimate relationships. I completely agree that living an entirely solitary life isn't possible for most people.

[@laserloui2008]

About "You have to love yourself before others can love you" thingy. Self-esteem, self-acceptance, self-love, self-confidence and all that is fine and healthy but i find it annoying and quite unhealthy to hear so much stuff about "You are perfect the way you are!" and all the other crap that is going around. People seem to forget the importance of self-improvement. You are never perfect. You never know it all. You can always improve yourself, educate yourself even further and become a better person. Accepting yourself doesn't mean that you ignore your shortcomings or convince yourself that you don't have any.

[@readneuromancerbywilliamgi6761]

When people say that, it's a total misunderstanding of the love yourself sentiment. Love yourself means that you need to come to terms with who you are for better or worse, you have to accept the flaws about yourself that might not be your most optimal feature, but it's a feature none the less. Like for example, some people have the ability to speak to women in this semi-James Bond strong silent type thing, where they have this real serious look on their face but the girl is digging it. You might be a silly person who tends to goof off and laugh off a lot of things, make jokes of things, but you see some other guys doing the James Bond approach, and you think to yourself that your approach is inferior and flawed, theirs is what you need to imitate, so you try to change your whole personality and it comes off so cringe and unnatural when you try to do it to women. That's not being OK with yourself. Being OK with yourself means that you accept your approach because it's you in your element, you're really good at it, and for some women it will fail, and for others who would hate the James Bond guy, you are what they're looking for. That's what it means to be OK with yourself and love yourself, not to treat yourself as perfect but to accept yourself for better or worse.

[@deensama7718]

@@readneuromancerbywilliamgi6761 ye, i'd actually argue that you can never truly "improve" yourself (at least not in ways you will ultimately be happy with) without learning to love/accept yourself. people treat these things as if they're totally different, but to be a truly authentic person they HAVE to be interlinked or the disconnect will prevent you from acutalizing and coming into your own personality and being

[@blasphimus]

Self esteem, self acceptance, and self love are about self improvement by finding your flaws and learning to accept them and address them in a healthy way. Getting a hobby and following your passions are part of that. But learning to play a guitar isn't going to make you better person.

[@planetary-rendez-vous]

Positive shit nowadays is incredibly toxic.

[@rodiculous9464]

The problem is taking it too far. Bulimia, bigorexia, all sort of other dysmorhias

[@51gan788]

This is one of the most wholesome videos I've ever seen about such an edgy subject

[@abellpepper6169]

Why

[@Aspectioner]

agreed. Content like this just doesn't exist. Destiny is the only content creator I know that will genuinely talk through topics like this from a logical world view.

[@ataridc]

@@abellpepper6169 prob because he takes the time empathatically view and criticize it from both sides instead of just blindly criticizing just men or women

[@51gan788]

@World Academy Of Music that shit ain't wholesome, it's extremely toxic

[@eneiban6503]

@@Aspectioner hey bro, check out Aba and preach. They also make content that’s very objective and not full of hate, just calling out the real shit online; destiny did a vid w them a few weeks ago as well!

[@oliverrugg3732]

"I like this girl but I found out she's being going out with a guy for a year, what should I do" >just go for it Destiny is off the fucking *chain* this truly is a blessed timeline

[@midget3048]

The whole thing about men finding validation through womens acceptance is so true and something I realized over the past year or so. Once you get over that and start finding validation more in yourself its like a whole new life and you can start forming genuinely healthy relationships both with other guys and women

[@AchillesThePeacemaker]

I often forget this is true because I recognized that early in life. It also made me less driven to go after girls because I didn't want to adhere to the weird social norms and etiquettes and stereotypes that are built into normie relationships. I wonder if the tradeoffs have been worth it, but I think they're right for me. You can hold out for a relationship that makes sense for you, and there's internet porn or fwb in the modern age for the margin losses, lol.

[@AchillesThePeacemaker]

@@july8503 Yeah, I could totally see that being half of the problem. Some guys go for women for the status and validation, some because they don't know how to love and respect and care for themselves. I mean those can be fulfilling parts of a relationship, but you should be able to love yourself and feel validated without it first and foremost.

[@midget3048]

@@wisemage0 yeah there's positive and negative ways you can go about it. Imo it depends who you think causes that mentality, mgtow people alot of the time end up blaming it on women. When really the correct thing to blame imo is society more broadly.

[@AchillesThePeacemaker]

@@wisemage0 It definitely doesn't have to, but yeah, lol

[@6packproductions710]

Except then it goes to the extreme. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to get laid or be a more desirable person. True story: I’m only exercising to improve my appearance. It has other benefits, sure, but we are social animals. You are going to seek the approval of others sometimes. Just don’t jump off a bridge over it.

[@snapgecco]

This is a black pill delivered on a silver plater. Absolutely hilarious.

[@crepooscul]

@Reptilezionofaramouru adre ​ Not the main driver at all, at least it wasn't in my relationship. Not to say that it doesn't matter because that would be ridiculous. Looks matter but to say that it's the main drive and parade it as some sort of universal rule is silly, and mainly a projection on how you feel. The woman can be the hottest being in existence, if she doesn't share things in common with me and she isn't herself attracted towards me, then I can't even get my dick up. I'd rather take some physical flaws in exchange for a nicer personality and shared interests, than some bimbo full of make-up with a tanned body that has air between her ears. I tried installing dating apps, and it's how I ended up swiping left 95% of the women despite being attractive or just fine looking. The only ones I swiped left based on appearance were either obese or had a comically large nose, and they were a small percentage. The problem with the 21'st and 20'th centuries, is that television, ads, the internet and other media nonsense brainwashed people into having ridiculous standards. Not that people are late at discovering that "looks matter the most". Here's your real, vantablack pill.

[@crepooscul]

@Buck Dewey Eh, I'm no longer in that relationship, it lasted like 1-2 years. It was nice, but to be honest, it made me realize that I would hate to end up with someone super long term that will always be around me. For some reason my brain is really demanding a lot of "me time" constantly. But thank you. I do believe that I was also the outlier. My main point was that we were brainwashed as a society to have ridiculous standards, not that this is how the human mind naturally is. I believe this is a recent thing in human history, and standards used to be much lower.

[@master2497]

@Reptilezionofaramouru adre He literally says as much in the video.

[@several.]

@Reptilezionofaramouru adre Is the elephant the fact you're a neek?

[@RapidBlindfolds]

"The same thread you hang onto, hoping that the person you like will put out, is the same thread you hang yourself with 2 years later when they end up with someone else." Damn

[@Savannah-]

I agree. If there's a friend that turned you down romantically and you aren't 100% positive you can deal with that, cut it off completely. It'll hurt, but it's better for both people. You don't continue to get hurt and you can move on and the other person doesn't have to deal with trying to maintain a friendship where they have to be careful and worry about hurting you or worry if you're still interested.

[@medicann_coping]

Blackpill -> "She is not hard to get, you are hard to want." "If she is not chasing you, she is not interested"

[@foxblaze4415]

Let's blackpill these normies I just saw u in prt comments lol

[@foxblaze4415]

@maxxingcel It's over

[@xenochrist15]

Guys, getting a girl is not difficult. It's just showing her you have three things: A personality, a plan, passion and plenty of cash. Just kidding on the last one, but it does help. A plan for the future is most important - if you have no vision of the future, an attractive train for her to ride, then good luck finding someone.

[@medicann_coping]

@@xenochrist15 nonsense. . . . it all about looks = face+height .. . . . . foids dont give f about your plans :D . . . delusional normie

[@bobtucker4531]

@@medicann_coping And must have a 7'' personality.

[@mauzki-]

destiny talking about my dream to be a house husband

[@matt_9112]

I feel you bro

[@richard_from_england333]

@@josh_harrison Don't lie

[@greeneightball]

>Destiny implying his hair is ever combed.

[@N8NiZzL3]

I really hope Destiny does more social commentary/ normal stuff like this

[@caca0caca0]

God it's so strange because what Destiny says about the way women are treated online in terms of beauty standards and comments about fitness and makeup and all that seems true. Yet in real life whenever I see couples it's almost always the woman who's heavier/less fit of the pair.

[@SirLied]

Men date down, both in age and status. Partly because those things are correlated and partly from preference from both parties and maybe necessity from the guy.

[@CEWIII9873]

Men are often loyal, even when women feel secure enough to let themselves go....

[@CaulkMongler]

When women let themselves go it’s because it’s the natural life cycle of a mom, and you’re a dick if you try to shame her. When men let themselves go it’s because he’s a slob and got lazy.

[@CEWIII9873]

@@cedar4539 Sure they do, sweetie. Maybe while their partners get over the plague - men are unselfishly spreading their seed to further MANkind.

[@TorqueBow]

This started a lil rocky but i ended up agreeing with a lot of your points, Destiny. Thank you for being you.

[@lordoflobsters7254]

I could listen to Destiny talk about gender roles in society for 10 hours straight

[@haruhirogrimgar6047]

I still want him to cover this again/more.

[@qlum]

Very much agreed. That being said, being in my late 20's with 0 relationship experience. In the rare case someone may be interested in my excuse / reason why: My social circle is very small, I don't like going out, I am kind of picky about people's personality, I am not that successful in life. Most importantly though I really don't care that much, unless the stars align and I happen to come across someone I am not going to chase it and accept this is just the way things are.

[@jaceunderwood7942]

Holy fuck. I feel like I just read my thought process. Were you like this when you were in HS?

[@krytenfivetwothreep2485]

Get out of my head lol but seriously, that's pretty much my exact attitude too

[@qlum]

@@jaceunderwood7942 Not that different, but more I doubt I find a girlfriend right now, who knows what the future brings.

[@chaoky]

that's almost me, but I do care, I just lie to myself

[@pgmlivegameur]

@@chaoky big if true

[@franceshogg8907]

We should come together as a society and agree to be ugly

[@GameFuMaster]

I mean, Destiny's point about every girl feeling like they're 4 or 5 is pointless, because they're still going to be worshipped, and they'll still get that hot guy in bed for a night. Nothing changes for them, but it changes a lot for the average guy because women's expectations stay high, just like how they earn more but won't date down or "settle" as they prefer to call it.

[@B0rg2]

@@GameFuMaster the best and only solution for guys is to focus on himself stop chasing skirts and just work towards bettering yourself. The women come regardless when your at a certain point. Women are sought out regardless. Men are sought out by status. (Good looks, nice cars, career, education, own place) if you have just one of those then you will get women.

[@franceshogg8907]

@WorldFlex I mean, nobody is a 3 or any other number because those ratings are purely subjective. And how someone rates themselves is entirely dependent on their confidence level.

[@utkajmatke863]

@@franceshogg8907 beauty is objective

[@utkajmatke863]

@@franceshogg8907 beauty in sexual attraction i mean

[@religionofskatee3537]

I want more content like this. Destiny’s takes on relationships are always so salient

[@_SeeYouSpaceCowboy]

Based af. I found Destiny not too long ago and I’m so happy I did. Been watching a lot of the community on the left and to finally find someone who speaks what you need to hear and not what you want, as well as just being plainly brutally honest and nuanced about real life / existential shit. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@Opomax]

You make a lot of sense here. Especially regarding the tomi thing. I remember Patrice o neal on opie and Anthony used to talk about how even the famous people on the show saw a hot doctor, or girl who works at mcdonalds the same.

[@traditionalreturn3954]

How to attain sex: (as a woman) Step 1: Exist Step 2: Congratulations, you attained sex! (As a woman)

[@traditionalreturn3954]

@Iwant Bleach women use sex as a bargaining tool for resources and security. Women don't have sex with men because they're physically attracted to them, they have sex with men because it's currency used to get more goodies out of whatever simp they manage to capture.

[@commanderchris4083]

Asking a question in chat and having desting respond is the best feeling ever.

[@rn5598]

In private destiny calls this an n word pill

[@Nobody-uo2eo]

The blackest pill of all.

[@vivianaristefolo7269]

Hard R

[@DZMegamind]

i feel like i should be paying money for this

[@ImMakEiTNasty]

Pay money to have a beta tell you that women like attractive guys lmao

[@amikae4470]

@@ImMakEiTNasty go away

[@-Collin]

@@ImMakEiTNasty shoo.

[@Legendarypine]

@@ImMakEiTNasty Hissss

[@moldycarrot9267]

@@ImMakEiTNasty GOTTEM

[@Queenjilicious]

wow i never watched any of your streams or videos but just like binge watched a couple. I cant belive how much i agree with you on so many different things. Someone spitting big time truths, i like that! Glad i found your channel :)

[@anbuhyuga8299]

The pre 14 thing is bullshit people, don't take it too serious. People work through traumas, anxiety, ocd, addictions, phobias etc. all the time, self confidence is not any different. It's not easy, but just as you go to the gym to train your body, you can train your mind. I know he was probably half joking, but kind of irresponsible of him to say that imo.

[@martial6474]

My sentiments exactly. I also found another point rather odd that he said that becoming a 9 is possible. He said you could go the material route, as well, such as buy better clothes, which is true I agree. But, if you're a fat whale, I'm sorry, I'm gonna notice the fucking weight problem before I notice the prada or dior you're wearing before anything else lmao. Not to mention, I think going to the gym works miracles as well.

[@anbuhyuga8299]

​@@martial6474 Yeah, I'm a straight dude, so can't really say if that's true or not. When it comes to women though, I do think most women can become like an 8, but that might be because I am a sucker for bodies. If you have calves and thighs, some natural squish and smell nice, that kinda hijacks my male ape brain. All those things can be obtained by pretty much anyone with some training. But if I remember correctly, and based on what you are saying, he was more like "get a shave, shower and dress decently", in that case I agree that 9 is pretty ludicrous.

[@martial6474]

@@anbuhyuga8299 yeah, if he would've expanded on the clothing argument, maybe I wouldn't have assumed that example that I came up with. I'm the same though; I don't really care for natural beauty. I think if a women just smells nice, takes care of themselves, and presents themselves as more than capable of being by themselves with minimal help (support from fam/friends) is probably the most attractive thing that alters my mind too. I'm straight as well, lol did I come off as gay? 💀 It's alr tho. I noticed I didn't outrightly say it, but I do believe it is possible to become a 9. Looks are subjective, but character isn't imo. You're either a dog shit human being hellbent on not changing or you're someone who strives to better themselves in the pursuit of knowledge or experience. That's my two senses.

[@anbuhyuga8299]

@@martial6474 Sry, I assumed you were a woman since you said "I'm gonna notice". I thought it was about physical appearance though, not character.

[@lightmorrison5404]

i agree with him tbh, but im very fatalistic and currently depressed asf

[@harrisonmckenzie8357]

Lookism is totally real. I lost 140 pounds and it's wild how people just assume I have my shit together in general, not just physically.

[@Americansikkunt]

...Do you really need to make up a stupid term for it? If you have sores on your face, and appear to be drug-addled, people will treat you accordingly. That is human nature, not some behavior that needs to be stamped out..... Why don’t we all beautiful people wear bags on our heads, strong people wear weights, etc....?

[@TheYahmez]

Yeh, when I was larger it was because I had a woman feeding me, had my life together and would eat out for work and socialise a lot. Now I'm a single, jobless, lethargic, stagnant piece of shit but lost a lot of weight and 1000% less healthy. 🤷‍♂️

[@dickkickem]

you got lucky then. i lost 85lbs and im treated the same if not worse. doesnt help that i have the same facial characteristics as the white shooter meme despite not even being fully white

[@bobjenkins4925]

This used to be called Halo Effect

[@harrisonmckenzie8357]

@@Americansikkunt Your sense of superiority doesn't help.

[@SIGSEGV1337]

INCELSTINY ARC LETS GOOOOO

[@frbe0101]

... but he is married.

[@slapdashzeal6095]

@@frbe0101 and he gets some

[@ponternal]

@@frbe0101 Don't worship women = incel

[@viinisaari]

@@frbe0101 Inceldom is a state of mind

[@SIGSEGV1337]

@@ponternal I'm being post-ironic

[@steamyconnor33]

What's funny is Destiny thinks we don't only watch him because of his looks.

[@sherrybopcherrypop]

Ngl he used to be cute a few years ago but now his skin and hairline needs some love

[@slapdashzeal6095]

Listen to destiny DGG and you’ll be smashing Mia Malkovas like crazy.

[@levvy3006]

Mia Malkova is really chill.

[@missionpupa]

Yea you and thousands of other guys.

[@slapdashzeal6095]

@@levvy3006 i thought she would be a funny reference since she also streams.

[@levvy3006]

@@slapdashzeal6095 I just see her on Trainwreckstv scuffed podcast all the time.

[@storminmormn6283]

This is exactly the opposite of what he was ranting about. Stop validating yourself through your sexual attractiveness through women lmao

[@comicsrevenge6498]

This truth was so true that it was the truest true that ever was true.

[@sadboipotato3382]

Truthfully

[@drodi7320]

True

[@ibrahimismail675]

true words

[@jonafloppa8336]

"Those little, narrow, threads of hope that you hang on to, are going to be the same threads you hang yourself emotionally, two years later, when you're still not dating the person you haven't moved the fuck on [from]" honestly very poetic and accurate

[@someimperfection]

2nd part is also a vibe. destiny is killing this

[@pnutdraws]

watching this video now is super interesting, i hope destiny looks into this topic more

[@mitchel123234]

This video really resonated with me. Destiny has a way of saying what I’m thinking when I can’t put it in to words. Cheers

[@liluglyboi]

bonnell i needed this a year ago >:(

[@hugonamenlos7218]

Same but more like 5 years ago

[@ravestar_supreme803]

That thing about men validating themselves through women is sooo true. It takes actual effort to rid your mind from those thought patterns, like if im gonna do this or that women will value me more.

[@TheJudoJoker]

Can confirm 100% from personal experience. It hurts even more when she becomes single because, the fantasy of you being able to be with her if she was single becomes the reality of her not being interested in you.

[@josephparkes6412]

This is without a doubt destiny’s best take

[@justsomeguy2372]

I wish someone was this honest with me in high school when I needed it. I agree with Destiny 100% here, I learned every single one of those lessons through painful trial and error.

[@argonaut8560]

I come back to this video once in awhile because it's fun to watch

[@roberthartsoe664]

Pretty solid advice if you’re seeking relationship advice on twitch/KZbin. A healthy amount of introspection can answer your own questions if you can be honest with yourself.

[@sleepykeys4007]

Destiny's editors doing work in that intro lol. Snagged

[@moksha8473]

unironically Steven's best video yet. This stuff is important, all memes aside.

[@abellpepper6169]

Why

[@syndicalistspeedsolver]

some of these takes are not good

[@moksha8473]

@@syndicalistspeedsolver Which ones, out of curiosity?

[@syndicalistspeedsolver]

@@moksha8473 Idk I didn't watch the video lol

[@missionpupa]

Why do people say unironically all the time and follows it with a statement. Jesus Christ, just talk like a normal person and we will consider all your statements unironic unless you say it’s ironic or you say Kappa.

[@hamedghandhari8714]

Best destiny video ever

[@Notalex010]

Idk a stay at home dad sounds pretty hot to me

[@Notalex010]

@@absurdandy4122 not yet :(

[@su2spinors]

@@Notalex010 man you are never gonna earn as much as a man earn lmao.

[@qaiser648]

@@su2spinors Ok friedrich nietzche

[@conradwerner7456]

@@su2spinors nietzsche nobody listens to you about dating advice; you're the OG incel bro

[@orangecream3340]

@@su2spinors Shut up nerd DuckerZ

[@ultearmilkojohn1145]

The contrapositive of men that are older and successful are seen as good would be that men that are seen bad are not older and successful. The contrapositive of (A implies B) is (not B implies not A). What you did was a inverse, which is (not A implies not B).

[@dominiks5068]

destiny loves to use philosophical words without knowing their actual definition, he constantly does this lol

[@ultearmilkojohn1145]

@@dominiks5068 thats not a philosophical word, thats a math/logic word LOOOOOL the irony here

[@dominiks5068]

@@ultearmilkojohn1145 and logic isn't part of philosophy? are you drunk?

[@tehDmez]

Low-key my goal is just to find a chick with a good career and be a stay at home dad. If men are insecure to make less money than a woman I'll gladly take that role lmao

[@abellpepper6169]

Why

[@tehDmez]

@@abellpepper6169 why not?

[@StGeorgedragonhunter]

the problem is on the other side of the equation though, i'm pretty sure there are a lot of man who'd be happy to do it.

[@eugger3011]

The problem is that you have to find a woman that wants a stay at home dad while she works.

[@bananian]

Yeah but women don't actually want a guy like that

[@PokeZenTCG95]

destiny you are so right, anybody that says you arent is oblvious, you got a new sub.

[@FaroTV_]

Dude. This is great. I try to preach this shit since years but you are so much better verbalising it!

[@TheJasonmanguy]

I started dating a girl I knew who was going to school to be a nurse. I used money I saved to help her pay for school and then married her. We've been married for 5 years, and I stay home and take care of our daughter, and she works to keep a roof over our heads. She wants to be home more, but also loves her job and literally would still work even if we won the lottery. I love being home and being a stay at home dad, but it is hard to fight the idea that I am a "do nothing" or slacking off. I love my life but it is rough going against the grain of typical gender roles because it's always a punch in the gut to meet new people and tell them that my "job" is taking care of our daughter and seeing them cringe a little. I wouldn't change a single thing about my situation. I love staying home and being with my kid and cleaning the house. Work sucks, this is much more fun.

[@TraumaGarden]

I appreciate you going against the grain of society. Keep being a great stay-at-home dad.

[@captainbube1217]

Are you a "do nothing" though?

[@vafongoo]

Imagine complaining about living life on easy mode because it's only 97% sunshine and rainbows instead of 100%

[@sameveland8560]

@@vafongoo why dont you get married to the other loser who wants to spend his life at work and thinks thats contributing to his family instead of parenting his daughter because you're insecure about your masculinity. You're right bro he should be just like you and write idiotic ignorant comments about other people's lives while exposing none of theirs to criticsim. I'm very glad he's the stay at home dad and you're the buttblasted faceless basement barnacle that thinks parenting a kid is easy mode. Maybe if you parent like you talk it is easy for you but for a real parent it's quite intensive and challenging. P.S he can train to learn your job in a few weeks you couldnt parent his daughter properly ever

[@bikuu7991]

You have the life bro

[@zukobutreal]

I think Vaush hit this point better in his video, but the meme of guys feeling sad longer than women post-breakup is because more often than not, men lack a strong support network whereas women tend to have a stronger one. But as Destiny said, you need more information on the situation.

[@macc6995]

“Usually when you say really good girls who have their shit together you really just mean girls who are pretty” THANK YOU. Been trying to say this for years now.

[@hiya2793]

This is a positive for girls tho. It's time that we put higher standards on girls, and that girls put lower standards on men.

[@Lectical]

I think what we mean is that the standards shouldn't be so gendered and less based on traditional societal expectations

[@july8503]

I’m not sure if I understand. Is he saying ugly girls don’t have to thier shit together

[@hiya2793]

@@july8503 No, he's saying - if you're a successful woman, you're good. That's what we want. We're making feminism work - good job. But now YOU don't go around expecting sexist stereotypes from men. Get yourself a pretty guy, who hasn't got a school education, who doesn't work a job, who just cleans and cooks. Date down. Like men had to do for hundreds of years in terms of success.

[@july8503]

@@hiya2793 “date down” isnt always the case Not every women was just a pretty housewife (not that being a housewife is super easy) a lot of poor and minority women had to WORK also to keep thier families alive. And a lot of single moms are sole breadwinner. The whole “women all thoughout history got it easy because all they have to do is be pretty and know how to keep a houseclean” is pretty stupid not to mention sexist im

[@TheOsamaBahama]

This is one of the best videos ever.

[@makise]

woah wtf destiny blackpilled ?!:"?!? basedd!

[@july8503]

17:56 Breadwinner thing : men don’t need to have families as much as society tends to impose on women. plus there’s a good chance nowadays that not only are you the breadwinner but so is your wife. minority and poor women have always has to work for thier families also.

[@jasmineprice7847]

Yeah I just don’t agree that in this day and age women dont need to “have their lives together” or aren’t looked down on for being jobless or not having an education. And if it were true, I don’t get how it’s a good thing - like no matter what you do as a woman, if you’re a waitress or a doctor you will be viewed the same way because people don’t care about your achievements or mind but just how you look. I also think men tend to have an exaggerated perception of how desirable being totally reliant on another person financially is. Maybe it seems more desirable to them because a man being totally financially reliant on a woman probably wouldn’t be in as dangerous a situation than a woman totally reliant on a man would be if the relationship turns abusive.

[@danic2514]

Yep I felt like that has only been true for a portion of white women. Most of the WOC in my life are expected to be both. Breadwinner and still perfect housewife. POC always have to be working hard to survive. Then women are also not trusted enough to gain the jobs they need to become more independent. So there’s a lot more nuance to it.

[@MultiVerres]

Love these kinds of talks.

[@tudornaconecinii3609]

"You'll never hear a younger guy be like dude I met this 30 year old chick, she's so fking cool, like she works in a law firm, she's already making 120k a year, she's on track to being a partner..." for some reason I found that description extremely hot.

[@youare5907]

I'm with ya id probably get some shit but id be down for a well of gf/wife

[@tudornaconecinii3609]

@@youare5907 Tbh I couldn't live with myself being a stay-at-home husband but I'd be totally cool with still working but having a wife that out-earns me. No shame in that.

[@Khymeira]

I'm not a lawyer, but I'm the breadwinner in my house (financially comfortable etc.) and I honestly love spoiling my guy, lmao

[@leonie3317]

You wouldn’t have a problem with her, she’d have a problem with you lol

[@Khymeira]

@@leonie3317 this sounds like projection a lil bit

[@yosefshekelberg5433]

"men's expectations of women's looks are too high" This is a STUNNINGLY bad take. Go ahead and look at dating app data, the vast majority of men swipe on anything from a 3 or 4 to 10s. Women on the other hand ALMOST EXCLUSIVELY swipe on the top 20 percent of men, with exponentially increasing swipes on the top 10 to 5 percent. This matters because dating apps are literally the way most couples meet in 2022. Women have high beauty standards for THEMSELVES AND OTHER WOMEN. Insanely bad take.

[@Host00Die]

Based and true.

[@JohnDoe-jp4em]

Dating Apps are not a representation of reality. This is what so many blackpillers get wrong. It's very distorted just by being mainly populated by males. A 3:1 Ratio (which is typical for dating apps) means women can ignore the bottom 2/3 of men completely and still find someone. Men would behave exactly the same if put on a dating app where 3 desperate women were searching for every man. Obviously on a dating app that prioritizes looks, people will go for the best looking person they can find, both men and women do this. Men swipe on everything because they feel like they have no other options, and will go empty handed if they don't date down 1 or 2 points.

[@yosefshekelberg5433]

@@JohnDoe-jp4em "not a representation of reality" It's literally how the majority of people meet in 2022. Opinion discarded.

[@JohnDoe-jp4em]

@@yosefshekelberg5433 The analysis isn't "Women have high standarts". That's an overgeneralization. The analysis is: "If you put women in a situation where they have an abundance of men to choose from, they adopt higher standarts" which is literally what everybody does with everything, not just dates. Same effect in reverse for men. Also, just because a slight majority meets over OLD, does that mean you can't meet people otherwise? Second, just because most swipes go the top 20%, doesn't mean none go to the rest. It's enough to have one match that turns into a relationship, 100 matches doesn't mean your chances are that much better. The top 20% aren't the only people who get into relationships from OLD and when women who aren't in the top 20% want a relationship they necessarily have to look at the other 80% of men.

[@yosefshekelberg5433]

@@JohnDoe-jp4em Cope. None of this is true, you're literally copeing so hard it's almost inspiring. First of all, you're assertion that men, when provided with choice, will be pickier, is false. Even men in the 90th percentile swipe on women well below their level of attractiveness. This is observed not only in online dating but in everyday life. Men are biologically programmed to spread their genes, this results in finding more women attractive than not. Two, if youve ever looked at ANY dating app data in regards to female swipes to male profiles, there is an EXPONENTIAL increase in swipes starting from the top 20-15 percent and going on EXPONENTIALLY from there. Similarly, when women were asked to rate thousands of male profiles, virtually ZERO men were rated as "extremely attractive." Out of thousands. This is further evidence that women are extremely critical of looks, much more so than men. Third, if the majority of people meet with dating apps and these problems exist, they absolutely will have deleterious effects on society and demographics going forwards. So this discussion absolutely SHOULD be talked about, not simply brushed away because because the majority of those affected are men and people could not care less about issues than affect men these days. You can cope all you want, for any man who's used dating apps long term, these things are self evident. The problem is that you cannot simply dismiss this technology, meeting in person is not nearly as simple as it used to be. Let's see the problems presented for a young man trying to meet a woman in the real world. The majority of young women hold beliefs that they should be afraid of a male strangers, out the gate, the man is at likely to fail. Most vast majority of young women are on some form of social media, where they are already getting attention and validation from men of all types. This further causes them to insulate themselves in real life. Why respond to a stranger when there's ten other guys who you have already vetted or met and provide you with attention. What does all this result in? Never before seen numbers of people not in relationships. Never before seen numbers of VIRGIN MALES and men who haven't had sex in years. Notice I said MEN. Womens overall sexual activity rate hasn't changed, at all. Again, this means there's going to be issues down the road, but there's always people like you who can't see past their own fickle dismissiveness.

[@ReddoFreddo]

"How do you develop a good self esteem? Easy. You just have to do it before you're 14, I think." Oof...

[@TheSgtFarmer]

I am completely in agreement with Destiny, said some shit I realized awhile ago.

[@thisissusomlfrfr2866]

This helped thanks for the blunt truth Bestiny

[@greeneightball]

I don't what ailment Twitch affiliation caused Destiny, but he has been so fucking based since being cured.

[@ArcadiaAus]

probably the best 39 minutes ive heard

[@Frichilsasta08]

Destiny your video is getting in the way of all the amazing ads

[@realchoodle]

this is is pretty much the best destiny video ever

[@LordMichaelRahl]

Quite rare objectively good take from Destiny.

[@IsaacGBaby]

How has he not figured out you can just put illuminators around his base

[@gagesmiles]

Destiny gotta say. I have been really enjoying your advice content. Probably cause I mainly agree lmao.

[@shuheihisagi6689]

When I turned 18 and went to college, I had a thing for older women. And I had no problem finding women who had not married yet and who wanted to date a younger guy. But the catch is that usually cougars are embarrassed to be with younger guys publicly. And it makes dating awkward.

[@CEWIII9873]

Why date when you can smash? That is all they wanted

[@GeorgeMazur29]

The less you worry about your lack of self-esteem and choose to be open about it the better it gets. People love the rough edges. People love someone who just has their flaws on their sleeve. It demonstrates self-awareness. As Charles Bukowski said, "Don't Try"

[@davidwashington9113]

Thanks

[@wastertame3348]

House Husband/Stay At Home Dad represent!!! I cook, clean, and help both of my kids through virtual learning while my wife is a successful claims adjuster for a fortune 100 company.

[@normaharlean4457]

genuinely insightful ~ thank you, sir :3

[@gon9898]

I fucking love the new outro, the little clips are perfect 👌

[@homelessman1453]

I love how chat values Destiny and Lily's friendship as much as Destiny does. Them immediately spamming NO, NOT THE LILY BRIDGE was the most wholesome I've ever seen Destiny's chat.

[@AlextheBant]

I confirm, Destiny is right. I made that mistake and it ruined 4 years of my life.

[@orangecream3340]

BURN ALL THE BRIDGES

[@CEWIII9873]

The drug running?

[@gypseetim]

this was great more of these moments imo

[@kmoney890]

10/10 video a masterpiece