'My SIL Left My Baby on a Bench.. for 2 Hours!!' -- Reddit Story

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[@mkai15]

Tbh, I couldn’t go on marrying this girl because she put my niece in danger AND goes on to say she WISHES the baby got kidnapped. That’s insane behavior.

[@Zaboox]

Even without the baby in the picture, can you imagine losing your dog, looking for him for 45 minutes, and when you realise you can't find him, you just go "oh well, I'll just go shopping for a bit" ? So even if she had not forgotten the child (which is terrible), even the story about the dog shows how screwed up she is 🤯

[@metromelody18]

Bruhh the baby’s is more important than the dog. A baby is defenseless

[@jasmyncarey6855]

@@metromelody18 That's not the point they were making. Straight over your head lmao

[@Hev.M]

@@metromelody18 Nowhere did the comment say the dog was more important than the baby. It says even without the baby, meaning if the baby was not part of the situation. And it was just her and the dog on the walk that day.

[@kylenlauren7133]

@@metromelody18 lmao 🤣 I think you missed the gist of this comment

[@-hayleymc_is_tired-5038]

Yeah like I know if my dog goes missing I’m looking until I find her. And the baby on top of that is insane. And also she was walking the dog AND holding the baby carrier. Who goes for a walk with just the carrier and not the stroller?!?

[@alannagraham6582]

No the thing that is the MOST fishy to me is that she said she went shopping after, which is already weird, but the fact that she went shopping FOR THE BABY?? And that didn’t trigger her to remember she’s supposed to be watching said baby??? Nah, that’s weird. Either she lied about shopping for the baby because she thought it would somehow make up for the whole thing, being like “well I know I left the baby on a bench but look! I care about her! I was shopping for her!” Or something a lot more fishy is going on, because HOW, could she have POSSIBLY gone shopping for the baby without remembering the baby is supposed to be with her?

[@stirlingarcher7972]

I was thinking brain tumor or neurological problem of some sort… I may watch too much Grey’s Anatomy lol

[@Kakitabobita]

I was thinking that too, like she didn’t even find the dog. She just lost her dog and then she just goes shopping??? Not to go print lost dog pictures or go home to see if he ran home or back to the park??

[@laurapatterson9535]

I think the story is made or up changed if the families on the SIL’s side

[@torilee5584]

She was probably toking it up at the park. I could see it happen. I toke but I wouldn’t if I was responsible for a 2 month old.

[@sydneyharp1989]

I think she probably was looking for that dog not thinking about it. Or drugs lol.

[@obvioustroll3736]

SIL sounds like she’s neglectful, the fact that she lashed out at OP too? She sounds full of herself. I want to believe it wasn’t malicious intent, but the fact that she has no medical problems at all (aside of high blood pressure) and made the comment that she wishes OPs baby would have gotten kidnapped doesn’t sit right with me, I can’t look past that and say she wasn’t being selfish and malicious.

[@destini9986]

Hey this might sound idiotic ( forgive me if it does sound that way to you ), but what do you mean by "OP?"

[@AdriJB06]

@@destini9986 it means "Original Poster", so the woman that shared her story

[@maggiemccormick6088]

This. Like the audacity of saying the mother is selfish and that she even has thoughts of wishing a kidnapping on a child? Nah

[@Ohhnaaa]

Something sounds fishy. I don’t think SIL told the whole truth or perhaps the entire thing was a pathological lie. What did her brother have to say in all this?

[@tealablu3759]

That she has high blood pressure

[@maggiemccormick6088]

I didn’t really think about it that way but that makes sense.

[@LilacLilly9696]

Dude I think she was drunk or super high and I don't mean like off weed I mean high off something

[@Jynxxy13ravedoll]

Right that is such an odd series of events. 1 loses dog 2 put down baby to get dog back 3 give up on finding dog 4 go shopping for baby clothes? Like even if she completely forgot about the baby who is like "oh I couldn't catch my dog guess it's gone forever now time to shop"

[@yasminegomez11]

I think the SIL is lying about the whole thing to get attention and look like the hero to those telling the mother of the baby that she’s being petty. Who forgets a baby for two hours and goes shopping within that time? Who then tells the mother that she wishes the baby was kidnapped? It just sounds like a huge lie that got out of hand for her.

[@obvioustroll3736]

That’s true, I’m sorry but I don’t believe she wasn’t trying to be malicious, idk what the guy was even saying, SIL is one of the most malicious people I’ve ever heard of and it baffles me how anyone can even try to defend her. She’s mentally well, according to her doctors.

[@drowsybunny7179]

But the baby ended up with sunburn on their arms so it could maybe be true…who knows though

[@yasminegomez11]

@@drowsybunny7179 there’s just so much inconsistency in the story too so honestly who really does know lol

[@littlestrawberryfaery]

I think she was trying to have something happen to the baby.. Maybe leaving the baby for a " pick up " in trade for money.... I mean she did go shopping... Maybe she chickened out and changed her mind

[@Discrete1998]

At two months old, that baby needs to eat every 2 to 4 hours. They were likely sitting in a soil diaper for a long amount of time as well. She straight up neglected that baby. I hope she has the worst wedding ever and that she is incapable of having kids. No one needs to be in her care.

[@TheOfficialOC]

Also, who loses their dog and then decides “Eh I’ll just going shopping”?!?!?!? If I lost my dog while I was baby sitting I wouldnt go beyond a 100 meter distance to look for my dog and I also wouldn’t go shopping for baby clothes once I realised my dog was actually lost

[@kattgreene4294]

The guy you were talking about was my co-worker. He was crushed after his son died. They had fertility issues and went through treatment to have their son. Imagine the heartache. His wife called him at work because she went to pick him up at daycare and he wasn’t there. Everyone rushed out of the meeting to his car and he collapsed when he saw his son. His son fell asleep on his way to work so that’s why he didn’t notice and it wasn’t in his routine. My heart still hurts for him because he is living with that mistake and oversight daily.

[@amyamesburg4657]

I think theyre talking about a different guy bc the different guy went to a coffee shop before work brought his son in with him put the kid back in the car drove 2 blocks to his work and returned to the car at lunch to check if the kid was dead and when initially pullig in backed into the parking space and turned around to see where the car was going. That guy 1000% was fucking satanic and did it on purpose

[@dana1892]

Omg my heart hurts for them. I can’t imagine their pain 😭❤️

[@shootingcomet082]

The issue isn't just that she forgot the baby, it's that she had no long term remorse for what she did.

[@d.on.in.a]

I don't get why so many people are trying to imply that there must be some health issue when she clearly said "I wish she would have been kidnapped"

[@kendallt9248]

could be mental health, which is still health

[@d.on.in.a]

@@kendallt9248 mental health issues don't make you a fucking monster

[@markjones6519]

@@d.on.in.a psychopathy is a mental health disorder. that often turns people into killers. Not in any way excusing what she did but serious mental issues like psychopathy or if she’s a sociopath or so on could very well be a reason for her behaviour.

[@d.on.in.a]

@@markjones6519 that's 100% true but I don't think that's what people are referring to when they bring up health issues. I feel like they're trying to imply that she's forgetful or stressed

[@Facieee]

I'd be scared to approach a baby on a bench myself, I'd definitely call the cops after around 5/10 minutes of an adult being a no show though. I definitely believe that SIL did this with malicious intent, I mean...the shopping? And the comment after? Yeah, I'd never bring my child near her again

[@kateyhinds2329]

You brought up the story of the dad forgetting his son in the car and related it to this story. I don’t think you realize but the dad was actually found guilty of murder in that case.

[@markjones6519]

Omg wtf

[@samhernandez8626]

Exactly! Most parents end up in jail for murder for exactly that!! They did a whole docu-series about it on Netflix I believe

[@lilims123]

There are parents who have not been convicted of murder for leaving their kids in the car.

[@rainbowshinelove1208]

@@samhernandez8626 No like...there is a case where a father left his son in the car ALL DAY in the heat and he had INTENDED to do so and was found guilty of his son's murder. There was video proof that he went BACK TO THE CAR during the work day but he claimed he didn't even know his son was still in the car. Look up the case, Kendall Rae has a video on it here on KZbin.

[@marianagimenez4414]

Yes! I was about to make a comment on this case! The man was found guilty not for forgetting the child but because he planned it. He actually made stops on the way to his job and took the child with him, in his arms, to buy coffee, and minutes later just left it in the car to die.

[@jenniferreynolds1537]

I wonder if the baby had actually been kidnapped or died, would the family be calling the OP petty. I highly doubt they would, so it seems they are downplaying what happened just because the SIL found the baby. I pretty sure I would want to beat the SIL or anyone that forgot my baby on a park bench for 2 hours!!!

[@v-mariewilliams7058]

I think of when parents accidentally forget their child in the car. I can maybe understand SIL forgetting about the baby, being very distracted with the dog and obviously not accustom to having the baby. What shows her TRUE character is the comment that she wished the baby was kidnapped.

[@Discrete1998]

That’s often due to exhaustion though. Baby brain is real for parents. SIL doesn’t have that excuse.

[@allieloulou85]

Which makes me wonder her intentions at first 🤔...

[@29misslucky]

@@Discrete1998 TBF a lot of weddings could probably do very similar damage😅.

[@linda33528]

@@Discrete1998 no it’s just that SIL doesn’t have a kid so obviously her day to day life wouldn’t be like oh my baby blah blah blah in regards to her baby right so it’s hard to just remember that you had to babysit when you were literally just reacting to your dog running away. And also if you don’t believe me on this look up news stories where first time parents legit forget their babies in cars on top of cars too in a baby carrier because your mind forgets about it sometimes since it’s new.

[@MintyBingus]

@@linda33528 I've heard of some parents finding methods to avoid that kind of thing happening and it's actually interesting. The most common one is putting something that cannot be forgotten next to the baby, like your work stuff or a shoe, so when you inevitably have to retrieve that item, you'll see the baby.

[@itsbellenotbella3297]

Honestly, I don't care which relative it is..but if a relative of mine left my baby on a park bench I would 100% press charges.

[@kevins3080]

Why would you trust sil your baby? Like you should’ve known her character and made better choices by hiring a professional help. Not everyone enjoys being tied to a random baby fr

[@enenenergp]

@@kevins3080 didn’t the SIL offer the free help herself? like if someone offers to take care of a baby, basically someone who’s a close family memeber at that point cos you knew them for so long, I think you can safely assume they don’t mind taking care of kids, maybe even like them, and that you can trust your baby with them, if all their interactions with the baby prior to that have been normal and good.

[@viribaby]

Red flag at the beginning. Her parents don’t like her!!! She knows why now. Take your brother and run. Ok she volunteered to babysit so suspicious.

[@W-I463]

Yea but parents don't like op either

[@drowsybunny7179]

But like how can you shop for 2 HOURS for THAT BABY SPECIFICALLY and not notice that the baby isn’t with you????

[@NativeKayKay]

That’s was so disgustingly suspicious Edit: typo correction

[@linda33528]

She didn’t shop for 2 hours she spent 40 minutes looking for the dog and an hour or so shopping but yea… either way it’s bad

[@natalliesinanan3316]

SIL story sounds like a lie, mostly because the story she tells OP is incomplete. She goes for a walk with the dog and baby (would need a strap on carrier or stroller for that). Dog runs away, she puts baby down and looks for dog then goes shopping for said baby. And then OP blows up and the story ends. So, how did she remember the baby at the park to go back and get it? If the shopping didn't get her to remember, what did? The story didn't have a coherent end on how she got back to the child. She kinda gave herself away, when she said the infant should have been kidnapped. It means she either lied about it and her lie caught up to her, or she left the kid on purpose because she chose an area where child kidnapping is prevalent and came back disappointed it's still there. This means she's not upset with OP but rather jealous of an infant getting care and attention. She tried to get rid of what took away attention from her. Just my observation, but SIL comment on the baby getting kidnapped means she didn't forget (even with high blood pressure).

[@amyamesburg4657]

She probably got a text hours later from op saying im omw or something

[@oliviagwynne7569]

Honestly Justin trying to justify the SIL in the story as just being forgetful is ridiculous. You aren’t allowed to just be forgetful when you are watching a baby. Not about something as serious as WATCHING THE BABY.

[@thatonedog819]

I remember this thing going around was this "tip" that you should leave something in the back like your phone so that you don't forget your kid. .... Important? Like your kid?? Like???

[@riuqaaf]

If you lost ur dog why would u go shopping immediately after and not go home or drive around to find the dog ? That’s super weird! And ur buying clothes for a baby that you left at the park?? Definitely seems malicious!

[@happyascanbe]

So when I was a kid, my grandad left me on a swing to run after his dogs. I fell off the swing and cracked my head on the concrete. It was about 10-20mins, and then people in the park got his attention. I think he might be on the spectrum and gets a bit distracted, but he was forever apologising, and now I have a 30-year-old scar on my head that makes me think of him.

[@rachiemushroom]

I’ve got a similar thing, I asked my sis to just be in the house while I went to the shops and just as I got home she was walking out the door leaving for the night! She said that she just forgot because there’s never been a babe in the house and that she was asleep making no noise, I’m just happy that I got home when I did.

[@NativeKayKay]

Omg I’m so sorry, that’s so scary to think of that. Idk how old the baby is but idk how someone can forget about babysitting, like changing diapers and feeding them bathing them for the mom and just forgetting? I’m sorry that happened to you😔

[@kevins3080]

@@NativeKayKay she probably just didn’t want to babysit. For people who don’t get along with kids it’s a lot of work, not everybody enjoys it. After all it’s parent’s responsibility, and if you’re asking a person who doesn’t really enjoy kids to babysit them, you should realise the consequences. Otherwise don’t be cheap and hire a professional nanny. Cannot expect much from relatives, especially if it’s beyond 1-2hrs.

[@ashsun144]

@@kevins3080 wow, what a twisted way of thinking. I hope you’re never in charge of a child and that you certainly never have any of your own.

[@mariemillien5748]

@@kevins3080 what an idiotic thing to say. If the person you are asking to babysit doesn’t like kids, they can just say no.

[@brendamoon2660]

She had to admit she left the baby because of the sunburn on its arms. She had to tell what she did or make up some other story how she let the arms get sunburned.

[@elodiaravenwood2644]

As someone without kids and not a lot of experience with children, I can see myself making a mistake like that. Putting a child down without thinking or forgetting I had a child with me. But there is so way in hell I would leave a child alone for TWO HOURS!!!! That's not irresponsible that's criminal. That's was not a mistake

[@daisyfaye3630]

As a pothead i do stupid forgetful shit … a lot. But when in charge of a baby…. Naw in that SPLIT SECOND she chose the dog. Irredeemable IMO.

[@virgie4715]

Right same! I (25) have babysat my cousins (oldest is 12) for like at least the last 10 years and I’ve *never* forgot that I was watching them. I’m the most forgetful person ever and I loose everything, forget where I put things I just had, can’t remember ages or birthdays for shit. But no. You just don’t forget a whole person even if it is a baby. Just no. Especially not a baby tf

[@Hwgt888]

Agreed plus I’m so dumb I’d take off with the baby seat hooked over my arm. It would be a horrid trek but the stress that would come from losing my dog and having to take care of the baby at the same time would give me adrenaline for sure

[@enenenergp]

I feel like the whole forgetting a baby on a bench and going shopping for them in that time sounds like something an exhausted mother suffering from post partum psychosis could do, but doesn’t make any sense for a SIL taking care of her. Idk she has to be seriously unstable mentally or have actual massive memory issues, cos like.. wha, how?

[@Nmc99MU]

I’m wondering since they mentioned she has high blood pressure if she’s taking medication and if that’s causing HUGE memory fog. But then I’d ask if she does have that problem why offer to babysit

[@felithesweetheart4238]

That should be a red flag for the brother if she can do that to his niece imagine when they start having kids and the same thing happens but worse

[@lalamakeuprehab]

Why are so many people so extremely unfit to watch or care for children?!!!! Like how? 2 hours!!! Oh no no no!!! I’m in childcare and I can’t even imagine putting a child down and turning my back, let alone putting a child down and walking away! For hours!!!! Makes me ill honestly!

[@kaleighm993]

i once had someone’s dog (while dog sitting) run out of their apartment and i was looking for the dog for over an hour until the owner called and said someone found him. i can’t imagine giving up on searching for my own dog AND forgetting a baby

[@Ehipopo]

The examples that the guy was using to compare was bs. Because this woman left a BABY alone and she went shopping?????? There is no excuse.

[@virgie4715]

Just imagine if the baby *did* get kidnapped. That would be the wildest case... she would totally get the blame. I mean, as she should, but no one would believe she left it to be kidnapped if it came down to it. Like if some random weirdo or some crazy lady wanting a baby actually did take the baby, no one is gonna believe sil and she could be accused of like the worst... There would’ve been footage of her shopping alone if she really went shopping? This is insane and could’ve got even more insane..

[@catarinaafonso1963]

As strange as it is I can believe she actually forgot. A couple of months ago, where I live, a mother of three (a one y-old, a 4 y-o and a 6 y-o I believe) working from home took her children to school/daycare/kindergarten, like she would every day, the baby was the last in the route before returning home to work. This was something like 8 a.m. At 6 p.m. she asked her housekeeper (don't know that's the right word for it) to pick up the kids, since it was normal for them to do it that way sometimes. The housekeeper gets the older children first, when she gets to the nursery/kindergarten and asks for the baby, no one knows where it is, it hasn't come in that day. They scramble around for sometime looking for it (she phones the mother while still at the school), the housekeeper returns home, still no baby. The mother finally remembers to check the car.... It's Portugal in the summertime you can guess the outcome of that story. So if a mother used to a routine forgets a child for a whole day, and onle remembers to check the car as a last resort .... I can believe a girl with no children would completly forget one in a park bench

[@mrsanonymous414]

The moment I heard high blood pressure- this needs to be brought to attention because I feel it may develop understanding and give an explanation to everything! Hypoglycemia can be caused by high blood pressure as a result of low blood sugar. This condition will manifest in memory loss and confusion- loss of cognition- and the symptoms are often compared to drunk ness!! Seriously- my husband is an EMT and told me this one story where a man took police on a police chase for about an 11/2 hours, when he crashed, they got him out thinking he was drunk, but he passed every test. Medics arrived and notified the cops he was experience HYPOGLYCEMIA. After being treated, he had almost no recollection and said the most intact memory was going into a daze while driving and thinking he’ll get his next sugary snack at the gas station. This does not mean everyone experiences memory loss, but they most definitely experience incoherency and confusion. This condition is easily reached as it just requires low blood sugar resulting in heightened blood pressure. Unfortunately, most people who experience this aren’t even aware of its existence or how far it can go. I’m betting this is what caused everything.

[@blackrose7578]

honestly, I think she just didn't care enough about the baby and I think she was jealous that baby mom was paying attention to the baby and not her. she wanted her to be focused on her and her wedding. i can not believe she is that absent-minded.

[@ohumhi1203]

This sounds fake to me...or else there were drugs involved. Not necessarily illegal drugs, I used to take anti seizure drugs (taken as prescribed by a Dr) that gave me brain fog that could've been bad enough to cause these kind of mistakes (like forgetting what I was doing, knowing I was forgetting something important but unable to remember what) but I wouldn't have agreed to watch a baby while I was taking those drugs. Prescription meds can also change your attitude and/or make your emotions volatile. So maybe she's on a new blood pressure medication, and the side effects are messing her up? Still needs to explain that to OP and really apologize though. I don't have any personal experience with blood pressure medication, so I don't actually know what side effects you could have from that.

[@happybunnyntx]

Some med students on another video of theirs suggested that the SIL could have a brain tumor and completely blanked on their memory that day because of it. She might have lashed out due to embarrassment that she'd forget something so important. I know I'd die if I forgot about my niece for even a second like that if my brother didn't do me in first.

[@ohumhi1203]

@@happybunnyntx Thanks for letting me know! And I agree about the lashing out, almost like a young teen who hasn't figured out how to handle mood swings and hormones yet. That's one of the reasons I thought maybe side effects from a new drug. She maybe hasn't gotten all of the side effects figured out yet, isn't really sure why she isn't herself right now and can't explain what is going on because she doesn't know. I had a REALLY bad reaction to a drug my Dr put me on, I genuinely worried I was losing my mind. Between the hallucinations, loss of words, and mood swings I felt like I needed a padded cell. If she's going through something similar (whether from a tumor or meds) she might be lashing out from fear as well as embarrassment.

[@d.on.in.a]

@@happybunnyntx a brain tumor doesn't explain why she said the baby should have been kidnapped

[@happybunnyntx]

@@d.on.in.a That would be the lashing out bit. Although it could be a sign of it affecting her personality. There are cases of people changing entirely because of a tumor up there and if she was nice before but being an ass now it's a possibility. If it's not that then I'd probably agree with the majority and say she's just a bitch and hid it well for so long.

[@linda33528]

@@d.on.in.a no she said that because she lashed out. A brain tumor and meds would definitely make sense for her being so forgetful and not even being able to catch the dog that ran off…. Like what?

[@spiritualsanity0.082]

So how did she remember everything she did but not the baby????

[@imjustanasshlesometimes3488]

Omg. My son is 8wks old today. I couldn't imagine if someone left him on a bench for 2 hrs. I don't think I'd ever be able to forgive them. He eats every 2-4hrs... it would destroy me knowing he was left behind... probably hungry, hot/cold, etc.

[@sarahisbell1918]

It’s so nuts I feel like she had to be high or she has DID or something. I have really bad ADD and I’ve forgotten important things but to go shopping for the baby right after seems insane

[@strawberrytart2543]

That’s what I was thinking too

[@Hwgt888]

Exactly! ADD/ADHD would make her aware of the responsibility because of the anxiety that comes with having to strain your brain to stay focused. Honestly I would love to know what their mom is like lmao

[@sydneyharp1989]

Yeah I have ADD too, terrible memory. But if it was something I was checking the entire time before (like waiting for an important text or in this case checking a baby) even if the dog ran off id notice I was missing something in weight or action. Like when you forget your keys so you are like “what am I not holding”. No way could I go shopping for someone without thinking of them!

[@Indifferent12390]

Maybe this is because I am a mother but how the fuck do you forget a child. I have ADHD. I forget everything. I lose EVERYTHING….. But a human????

[@bethspall4458]

Obviously we only know OP’s story but when you lose a person or even a animal 5 minutes seems like hours. Being a mum to 3 kids I’ve done dumb shit but thank god I’ve never forgotten my kids Maybe the “wish baby did get kidnapped” comment was most likely said differently and out of anger. (100% not the right thing to say at all but people say some dumb stuff especially when angry) People are most likely to forget things that they haven’t been in routine with or around much. I have to set timers on my phone just to remember school drop off and picks ups (first proper year doing school runs due to pandemic) otherwise I could 100% see myself accidentally leaving my child at school. I doubt leaving the baby was on purpose and done to hurt the mother as OP said they were really close. But I think OP is wrong for trying to split her SIL and brother’s relationship up over a accident… (yes should never of happened). Think both parties just need to calm down and give each other space to think things over properly. I’d still tend my brother’s wedding to support him but it would take a while to mend bridges with SIL.

[@yurmom_]

12:29 did this dude just compare forgetting your keys in your car to go on a chipotle run (horrible in itself have some self respect and take your ass to a taco truck) to leaving a literal baby, who could die if left alone- on a park bench to chase after a dog then forgetting about THAT dog and going shopping 😭😭 i cant with him

[@natalata1435]

I would of forgiven her had she not gotten crazy after SHE fkd up. She should of just said, "I understand" when OP said she wasn't gonna go to her wedding. But she fkd it up even more when she said, "I wish your baby got kidnapped" there's no coming back after that.

[@kennedy78]

Also no one seems to acknowledge that she went on a walk with the baby...without a stroller? With just the seat? Who does that?

[@kateajurors8640]

I actually can see where someone would make this comment. They've known each other since they were like 12 years old. In a panic she sets the baby down in its carrier and Chase's after a dog. I personally have chased after a dog for hours. I don't know what the in-betweens were. But she obviously felt like she needed to come clean and be honest or she could have just kept it to herself and they would have never been the wiser. I understand that they're probably still hurt but how long has this period been? If it happened 2 months ago then yeah I can understand the outrage but if it happened like 2 years ago and they're still in contact enough with her to hear about a wedding and stuff then they should have either cut off the friendship long ago or just sucked it up and talked it out gone to therapy or some s***. But I can imagine having a friend since I was 12 years old and having made a mistake and being honest with them about it because I want to be an honest person and then starting to regret that honest choice. Maybe wondering if I just should have never told them at all. And then I just want there to be my best friends there on my special wedding day and they refuse to come all because of an honest accident that I was honest and up front with them about. I honestly think she probably could have been exaggerating the over 2 hours part how would she know it was actually over 2 hours. Especially if you're walking with a dog and then chase the dog she probably felt like it was over 2 hours. But let's just assume she's right and did leave the baby for over 2 hours. I highly doubt in a park or a high traffic area that a baby would have been left like that for over 2 hours maybe 30 minutes. I don't know what time of year or where this is but wouldn't the baby probably have sunburn or does it have any medical issues from this? If not I can see her being upset that her best friends don't want to be at her wedding and then lashing out and saying something like that cuz she probably doesn't have that bond with that baby that a mother has from growing inside of her. She has a bond with these friends that she's had for probably like half her life now. That's what she recognizes. So I can understand and see it but I don't know how I feel about the whole thing I don't know these people personally I feel like I can give better input if I actually knew who they were it just seems like it's a lot of emotions to actually get a clear view

[@SeraphsGenisis]

What makes all of this even worse is that sil wished the baby would've gotten kidnapped! It's horrible.

[@mf24997]

A 2 month old baby could've died in this situation. The child could've been kidnapped and died at the hands of a predator, or the child could've starved to death/overheated outside in the sun on a bench. The OP's brother should NOT marry her. The response to OP not coming to the wedding is the craziest thing I've ever heard in my life. How can you not understand someone would not want to come to your wedding when you lost their baby for 2 hours? Insanity.

[@Bweird501]

If anyone did this with my child they would be ended… the SIL is a monster.

[@mariev2342]

This one is f-ing wild to hear as a parent. So many things could have happened to that baby, two months is so defenseless. They barely have neck control and could have rolled off the bench and cracked their skull. Regardless if this person doesn’t have a child I couldn’t imagine leaving behind ANYONES child even before I had my own child. This is abuse and neglect. Also why the heck would the brother want to marry someone who did this, dude what’s she gonna do with YOUR kid one day? That’s def a mom whose child will be neglected….

[@chelseymaclennan7907]

Definitely would call the cops!! Completely unacceptable! Definitely not the ahold! 😤

[@stewartann816]

Lmaooo if anyone had the balls to say they wished harm on my baby to my face they'd be scraping their own face off the floor

[@srishtisingh3143]

I went and googled this after watching the video...apparantly increased blood pressure can cause brain fog/ confusion. The SIL is diagnosed with high bp. Maybe after the whol ordeal with the dog, her blood pressure increased a lot and left her confused...?? That might explain why she went shopping and forgot the baby?? idk...

[@becc_fitzgerald]

Such a bizarre story 😳 how do you forget about a baby for 2 hours and not to mention just forgetting your dog and then deciding to go shopping??? What the hell!!

[@jessicahanson6105]

That whole family is weird for taking up for that person. And the brother is weird for still wanting to marry her.

[@seosarang]

No❗️❗️ I heard this on TV about leaving a baby in a hot care. They said leave something important in the back so you remember the baby. So the baby isn't important. Out of experience I don't have any kids but when I do babysit my sister's kids I'll never be neglectful.

[@Iriateayuda]

To me the story doesn´t make sense because someone would have called the police if they found a baby alone in a park

[@MakenzieMGomez]

A dog has tags and hopefully a microchip. A baby does not.

[@aeriellynn3388]

I don't think SIL was drunk, possibly stoned, but I also don't think there was an ulterior motive. I think it was a genuine big fucking uh oh. SIL could have easily just never said anything to mom. Clearly, she felt guilty asfk, but the parents have all the right in the world to be pissed asfk. However, I'm not sure I would skip my brothers wedding altogether; she just would never watch my kid again. But when she said she wished the baby would have been kidnapped (a highly emotional, immature reaction), then mom definitely was not an asshole in the slightest. Before that comment, I'd say she was kind of an asshole if time had gone by and some sort of mends hadn't been made, given I think it was a genuine big effing whoops. SIL just sounds really immature. I'm also curious to know if it was SIL first time with a child alone. I just don't see what SIL would have had to gain by making it all up if it the whole thing is just some grand scheme of hers.

[@Josy5527167]

I agree that although, I would’ve been pissed off, I would have still gone to the wedding. Since my baby was safe. (Unless the SIL had done other things and this was the last straw). Yet, the SIL had to mess it up and be an a$$hole herself.

[@allyb3510]

It's been 13 yrs since I was a nanny and my eldest sister had a baby about 5 months ago. I have never forgotten a child because I am invested in my nieces and nephews lives. I love them, losing them wouldn't just devaste my sisters or my brother in laws it would kill me too. So the fact her brother tried to play it off because of his fiancee having high blood pressure is fucked up. Thats not how shit works and he's an asshole too for trying to play that shit off.

[@AM1999]

High blood pressure wouldn’t attribute to forgetting a child

[@kitsune1516]

This reminds me about this stupid commercial about how parents should leave one of their shoes in the backseat so they don’t forget their children.

[@adreannasears994]

I would go to the police and press charges for child endangerment

[@kristysmith8896]

There are so many things about this story that just don’t make sense! Taking a baby carrier takes a couple min if doing it safely. There is 0 reason why she would have to take the baby off if she was going after her dog. And to have not 1 person in 2 hours report a baby alone in a park! Especially a 2 month old. AND THEN for the OP not have her family have her back and being called petty. I am calling BS on this whole thread. I can’t imagine how one would EVER have a reason to put an infant down to chase their dog.

[@yoyohayli]

What if something WORSE actually happened, and the "leaving the baby on the bench" story was a lie she made up on the spot, feeling like she needed to confess to "something," but the REAL thing was so bad, she couldn't say? That's immediately what popped into my head when OP said she's sure there were other people around, but nobody did anything. And then everyone here saying if they saw a lone baby on the bench, they'd at LEAST wait with it or call the cops.

[@SamK31]

SIL had to be doing so malicious. No one is that spacey. Is she jealous of her? Jealous of her having a baby? I don’t understand…

[@Dszabo95]

I don’t know I have too much anxiety to forget about a whole baby lol

[@toddharms4740]

How is it that nobody else walked by, saw the baby by itself that they didn’t call the police?

[@nicorawest4529]

TWO HOURS!!!!! Hell no SIL is dead to me..it’s my CHILD left alone only thing from keeping me from beating her ass. Would be the thought of me going to jail. But that’s neglect she can go to jail for that!!

[@DS_Honeycutt]

I'm glad she didn't get kidnapped, but no one found the baby! Shopping for the baby, without the baby? What? Damn, they said what I wrote, sorry....

[@meghanamoroso718]

She could have gotten that baby taken by CPS. Then, the parents would have had to go through hell to get her back.

[@ashleydawn517]

I don’t believe it. How could someone else not find the baby on the bench?! *still watching* also she should have been sitting on the bench beside the baby so it doesn’t make sense how you forget and don’t have a single thing jar your memory.

[@PenelopePeriwinkle]

Bad comparison with that guy who left his child in the car. It was found that he deliberately did it. He was charged and convicted.

[@SophieWoodward08]

I love my dogs more than anything. But if I had my godchild and my dog, and this happened. I'd never had even thought about putting my godchild down at all. My dog is microchipped and I'm sorry my godchild isnt worth my dog

[@xBrii333x]

I have severe ADHD, am incredibly time blind, and have terrible object permanence and even I wouldn't forget a baby on a park bench for two hours. I also wouldn't babysit a two month old baby for all of those exact reasons, but that's not the point.

[@amyamesburg4657]

To everyone saying she probably lied, the baby had a sunburn afterward

[@princessoftheworld2734]

Who is to say that the SIL even brought the dog to the park? I just…I can’t with this one. It was intentional and SIL wanted the baby gone.

[@savannahellis8888]

If youre able to forget a child youre babysitting, then what would you do with your own child!?!?! I would definitely get the brother to reconsider the wedding... this is the woman youre going to spend your life with....are you thinking about or planning kids? With this woman? You definitely need to reconsider if she prioritizes the dog over a human child.....

[@NoName-ko4ut]

I wonder if she intentionally left the baby there to hurt the SIL but then had second thoughts and went back for the baby and made up the whole dog thing.

[@TourettesMajestic]

Honestly the sister in law was forgivable until she said she wished someone took the baby

[@victorywalkingtours8843]

Hell no. I would NEVER EVER EVER forgive someone for something so horrifically irresponsible that could have cost my child their life OR placed them into a life of suffering and trauma. F that evil B.

[@sadezem991]

I totally agree I don't think it was on purpose or malicious at all. As a drug addict who has known many drug addicts, she sounds like she might be on something if I'm being honest.

[@spacemonkey340]

It’s either fake or the SIL was on drugs. That’s crazy.

[@LA-of2sd]

The man in that picture of the dad crying over leaving his son in the car, was charged for killing his son. He knew his son was in the car the entire time

[@isabelrose5872]

“Tempting disaster” that was good. THAT WAS GOODDDD

[@emmamurphy738]

Definitely NTA wtf… that’s your baby! You trusted someone to watch after them and they leave them outside in a public place for 2 hours THATS A LONG TIME! Wtf

[@rainbowshinelove1208]

OP is NOT the AH in this, how could her brother MARRY that woman after what she did?!

[@DaveedTurningHeel]

Look I know people love their pets, but if its a choice between the human baby and a dog, there is no choice.

[@lellypip]

The SIL brain at that moment: dog > 2-month old baby

[@Josy5527167]

My dog is my life so I think it would be a hard decision if I had to choose. Yet, I would take the baby with me. Once my dog ran out of my house. I was babysitting my nieces so I ran to yell at my dog, from my front yard, he didn’t listen and kept running into the street. I ran back and locked the door and chased after my dog. But I did make sure my nieces were safe before I got my dog. Thankfully, I caught him quickly

[@hadieldoar8251]

@@Josy5527167 honestly I think if it’s someone else‘s child I would NEVER try to get my dog. Imagine something would have happend to the child while I try to get my dog. Like what would u say to the parents ? Sorry my dog run away and his more important than your child like what ?? 😭 As much as I Love my dog I could never leave someone’s child alone

[@Josy5527167]

@@hadieldoar8251 that’s true. Yet I think I would think of a scenario where both my dog and the baby were in the picture. Like, I would carry the baby to go look for my dog. Like, when I babysit my nieces, I’m always scared to walk my dog with them. I was attacked by two big dogs, a few yrs ago. I’m afraid for that to happen with them. So, I taught them what to do in case of that scenario. Since I would hate myself if something happened to them. If my dog ran away from me, my nieces would be the ones to run after him, though 😄

[@leahthomas787]

I’m sorry but how can anyone excuse this behaviour? If someone did that to my child I would never speak or see that person again..

[@erikaperez9688]

I would press charges on the sister in law

[@smAshesquatch]

@15:51 Im gonna start saying "Stir the Boat" and "Rock the Pot" from now on hahah

[@Jane_doe2400]

My baby always has one of his toys with him that has his name and birthdate on it, I’m paranoid about getting into an accident and not being able to give the doctors his information. Iv seen that some people also write their information on their kids car seats

[@nikki-tr7xx]

i remember the exact story shes talking about and im sure there are IRL stories just like this, but it was also a sorta creepypasta. it was called 'autopilot', its a cautionary story.

[@laurao8099]

Maybe the brother should reconsider marrying her at least until the fiance gets mental help. Hopefully they do not want kids of thier own. There are definitely some serious issues she has to sort out.

[@armanirose4210]

i dont think she did this maliciously i truly believe it was a mistake, a horrible unforgivable one. OP said her and SIL used to bond over how much OPS mom hated them and i feel like SIL wouldn’t do this already knowing OPs mom doesnt like her and knowing shes getting married to her son soon.

[@babyyodachelsea7034]

The one curiosity empathetic context I wanna give SIL in the story because without it, this makes NO SENSE AT ALL is do we know if the sister was on any new medication specifically for mental health such as antidepressants or antianxiety medication some of the most odd behaviors memory wise happen when people dont mix with the meds.... also do we know if she happened to be pregnant at the time because my mom had moments like that of forgetfulness when pregnant! Update just got to the part about the high blood pressure again want to look into those medication's for two reasons first one being if she's on something that's causing that level of forgetfulness that can literally be deadly you want to spin point it and get her off of that or change medication the way medication impacts most people is not how it impacts everyone and so when you're on medication you must be on the lookout for odd behavior if your loved ones do stuff like this that seems so extreme and out of the ordinary especially out of the ordinary when you were close before look into this don't just assume the worst jealousy is one thing yes but when it’s out of character look around.....

[@Cath6Rob]

I hope the SIL doesn’t have children if she can space a child. If the police were involved at any point, this could have been so much worse.

[@LaunchPadMcQuack4Hire]

There are a lot of plot holes in this story. If it's true, the SIL'S behavior is bizarre to the point that it indicates there's some sort of mental illness or drug abuse going on. So why trust her to watch a baby in the first place? When I had a newborn, I would have been extremely selective about who I'd leave the baby alone with... Idk. Not saying the story is definitely false, but I am saying that it leaves me with a lot of questions...

[@Dragonfruitlemonade]

I love dogs, but being livid would be an massive understatement, if any family members sided with SIL I would've cut off ALL contact with them, I probably would've attacked SIL.

[@nerdierakiowaasvidankio3958]

She can be charged with abandonment

[@bhumitrasaruparia3869]

Yeah no even if they are embarrassed and all that doesn’t justify calling op the disgusting things she said , it just shows that she is not able acknowledge her mistakes and how she will be in the future with op’s brother and even when it was such a big thing like you left somebody’s baby on a fuckin for 2 hours where she could have been kidnapped or died from dehydration if the weather was too hot and then u dont even want to hear some words from the mother like i dont like how yall tried to justify what she said by saying it might be because she is embarrassed and like soooooo???? She SHOULD BE MAD embarrassed , DONT JUSTIFY HER LASHING OUT BY SAYING IT WE LASH OUT WHEN WE ARE EMBARRASSED YEAH NO I HAVE NOT SEEN A PERSON WHO DOES SOMETHING SO HORRENDOUS AND THEN LASH OUT

[@janedoe41276]

The dog might have been microchipped and had tags. It would've been found eventually (if not already). I am surprised no one at the park called the cops. That would be my knee-jerk response.