My Son Designed My Sister's Wedding Dress But REFUSES To Let Him Attend The Wedding r/Relationships

[@holeymcsockpuppet]

A 17 year old who can design, choose fabric, sew, decorate, and alter a dress that ends up being worth 22-25K?...then sold it!!! I don't think people realize just how gifted you have to be to do that. Hope this guy does well in life. Mad respect.

[@Deutritium93]

Seriously! I’d be a damn proud father!

[@holeymcsockpuppet]

@@Deutritium93 I'd be proud too.

[@gabrielle4152]

I was thinking the same thing, what a talented and hard-working kid!! Truly amazing.

[@annageorge8406]

I would be proud to even know them. Whoever gets to be the 17 year old's spouse will be lucky.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Every child-free wedding I have been to has been capped at 16. Meaning anyone 16 and over are usually invited. This young man is 17! She can trust him to make a $25,000 wedding gown, but can't trust him to attend the wedding!?

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

To me, all I can think is OP said he’s the only child in the family, so she is essentially singling him out to not be at the wedding! As a guest, I wouldn’t want to bring my small child to a wedding anyways, but this boy is 17 and considered an adult and old enough to enlist in the military! If a person that young can go to war, then I think he’s old enough to attend a wedding 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@pippo17173]

Sister is playing her cards early as a manipulators only none are taking her crap.

[@SharmClucas]

I was once excluded from a family wedding at 17 and they didn't even serve alcohol. Turns out they just wanted babysitters, which I also didn't do. To be honest I don't even remember whose wedding it was, just being mildly annoyed that I wasn't invited.

[@sonialinsey8083]

Childfree weddings are stupid. If you have one, you should pay for childcare, but imo it’s actually something important for kids to see. It’s a big part of life, getting married. That’s from a person who doesn’t have kids. You can’t isolate half your family who either have kids or are kids because you wanna get smashed. Only exception is if it’s small, like elopement or an under 30 people affair.

[@themayhemofmadness7038]

The only reason I could see denying an older teen to be at a wedding with alcohol is because that teen has a solid history of stealing drinks, getting drunk, etc., and you don’t want the liability. I agree with others saying there is some other reason she didn’t want OP’s son there, and it is most likely homophobic on either her or her new hubby’s side. I am glad OP stuck up for their son and didn’t give sister the dress and that a bunch of other family members also stood by OP’s son and boycotted the wedding.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Most adults can't make any wearable clothing, let alone a wedding dress due to lack of skill, time, or patience. This SEVENTEEN year old has the patience, skill, and focus to do this and this trifling heifer has the nerve to not even invite him. Most weddings have alcohol, what a dumb reason to not have someone who's basically an adult and is more mature than most adults. Disappointed in that mom. Those moms from the dirty home story would have raked the aunt over the coals. It's what she deserved

[@grootsChannel]

Also, I don't understand this prudeness that many people and countries seem to have around alcohol now. I'm assuming this is in the US, because I almost can't imagine, in the Netherlands where I live, someone not inviting a 17 year old with the excuse that ''there's alcohol present''. Like, of course there is. They're seventeen, they can drink in (less than) a year so what's the big deal?!

[@iamdangerous5189]

I'm sorry but "trifling heifer" has me cackling. It's been a while since I've heard that.

[@djdomain]

From the update it sounds like alcohol was merely the pretext for not inviting him, since it turns out OP's son is gay and sister's husband is a bible thumper.

[@lifewithlee6298]

Yeah , that’s super rude 😢 if she didn’t want to invite him she should have at lest payed him

[@AndyyWithAY]

@GrootsYT I've only heard this foolishness on Reddit. This isn't a "U.S. thing", it's a Reddit thing. Most weddings have alcohol and aren't child free

[@cinnabunny4342]

Story1: so sister isn't okay with alcohol around a minor but she is okay with child free labor?

[@alyzu4755]

Right?!?!?!?

[@agentzapdos4960]

Yeah, that's normal for people with more conservative views on life. They all think teenagers should be getting married and small children should be in factories and mines.

[@SuperYoshi29]

OMG THIS is such a great point!!!!!

[@mindyschocolate]

Right!?

[@SCP01986]

@@agentzapdos4960 What about any of this is conservative?

[@H.P._Lovecrafts_Beloved_Cat]

Story 2: “Should I talk to my boyfriend about our lack of intimacy and support him in this very difficult time in his life? No, I’ll just force him to give up his dog! That’ll definitely fix things!” Glad OP’s out of that relationship. What a selfish woman.

[@karenrickert9430]

I got the feeling that OP standing up to her manipulative tactics was the true deal breaker! Anyone with a normal emotional compass would understand the stress he was under. I think he dodged a bullet.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

@@karenrickert9430 I actually get the feeling he was over her being manipulative and kind of pushed her to break up. The way she goes from excuse to excuse on why he shouldn't keep a dog shows that none of those are the real excuses. If it really was about interrupting her work she would laser focus on that point. Also, he was completely inflexible which is usually a sign that someone has checked out of the relationship. My best guess is she tries to dominate his life and his friends are going "dude, you pay bills, buy food, own the house and you let her run your life" and he finally reached his breaking point.

[@mindyschocolate]

Agreed. She can’t stick with him during his time of need and make things about her she can go kick rocks.

[@horrowwatcher]

Yeah i'm glad for him,as for the commenter who accused him of being a mysoginyst simply for not bowing to her self-entitled will,that one is a moron.

[@diarradunlap9337]

@@horrowwatcher These f-inists ALWAYS cry "MISOGYNY!" when a man stands up for himself against a manipulative twatwaffle slug of a woman.

[@nyxcuseme]

Story 2: "You are not as passionate since your father has a life changing illness and you needed to take on a new responibility you told me about before I even moved in." The bullet dodged OP for him when she broke up. 😂

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

More like the bullet missed it's target. Either way, OP was lucky to escape.

[@madambutterfly1997]

NTA. Not inviting the designer of your wedding dress is disrespectful and disgusting

[@Mr.2Dirty]

Especially when said dress designer is your own nephew.

[@MrBuns-yi2hk]

Let's not forget that it is also a dress that OP paid for, and that the labor was free.

[@hi_stranger9156]

Yup and she asking for FREE.

[@hnrynova]

And dress is worth 25k I was damn and you can't even bother inviting the kid. If he is this talented he is going places

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

@@hnrynova Exactly! And the fact that it sold for "enough to fund his college" only weeks after the original post (so a quick turn around time), and without the fame of a viral post boosting it's visibility, proves that it was worth every penny. Now I REALLY wish I could see that dress!

[@MrBuns-yi2hk]

Story 1: She said "it's too expensive. It should be a gift because I am family." You don't get to use that excuse after uninviting your nephew, who made your dress, from your wedding.

[@salomerodriguez5145]

She didn't even uninvite him, she straight up did not invite him at all.

[@Aziara86]

Damn, a $22-25K dress? He could make 2 or 3 per year and live well! Why some people don't value art (because a well made dress is ART) I will never understand.

[@toxicginger9936]

Because we live in a society that barely values art. In any way. Plenty of parents don't think art classes matter in school. And Art majors in college tend to get laughed at (you'll end up a starving artist and never make any money). And yet we consume art every day. TV, Movies, Music, and even then, people don't think they have to pay for it, (Pirated movies, music etc) Many many people do not put any value in art. And it's painful.

[@joimumu]

Well it depends how much the material cost so he might need to make 4-5 per year but I do agree Op son can make a killing selling dresses

[@akl2k7]

@@toxicginger9936 Reminds me of all those stories of choosing beggars expecting free or cheap art, and then saying they could easily make it by themselves when refused. Oh, so it's easy, huh? Then do it yourself! Of course they won't. Art can be a service like everything else.

[@lonewanderer8743]

Even amongst the top end designer dresses the usual is around 5-10k. For 22-25k it would have to be threaded with gold, be diamond encrusted or have a high end brand name attached to it. I'm calling shenanigans on this one.

[@reginyra8401]

Artists also have a major tendency to undervalue themselves, especially in the beginning. I hope he properly calculated his labor for this dress (art doesn't typically include by the hour costs so tweaks to things can majorly impact your profit).

[@thefallennero5265]

Story 2: So OP's girlfriend was just jealous that OP was paying more attention to his dying dad's dog than her while also being told beforehand the situation

[@paulinadeboer3604]

I have the same with my mum, she is dying in a few months i took her and her pet (dog and cat) in. No problem here, hubby agrees. And well two pets on my menagerie does not make a big diffrence. My mum trust me with them, so i never hand them to someone else.

[@brad5167]

IMO she did OP a favor by dumping him. I mean not only was she an insensitive prick, but she was a essentially a user IMO. She didn't even try to understand the situation which makes her a horrible GF.

[@st_bibon]

@@brad5167 yepp she was a leech and then got salty that he was not simping hardcore for only her anymore xD

[@lightwork11]

OP can do better than a manipulative woman jealous of an innocent animal. He dodged a bullet.

[@bunnyslippers191]

Yep, she's jealous if the attention OP pays to the dog instead of getting in there and getting lots of that wonderful doggie love for herself. I'm sure Mila would give her more than enough love and attention to make up for the amount of attention OP has transferred to the dog from the GF. Plus, his *dad is sick and not getting better!* Of course that's going to change how he feels within himself and that is naturally going to change his behavior. It sounds as if his dad is dying. That knowledge affects a person deeply. GF is shallow and self centered and OP is better off without her in his life.

[@edalynclawthorne5877]

Story 1 really is the simplest thing. That wedding dress was the son’s wedding gift. You don’t give a gift if you’re not invited to the wedding.

[@eldeano9964]

Story 2: someone calls op a misogynist. Yeah, definitely reddit. Also she did op a favour by breaking up with him, because he stood his ground against her manipulative ways.

[@jedimasters1462]

I seriously don't understand why someone would call him a misogynist for simply refusing to break a promise he made before the gf ever moved in. Also, reddit just proved again how they are against men because there had been several other stories of a woman having to pick their pet over their so and were praised to the heavens for doing so, yet a man did it here and he's attacked and all that.

[@user-nb8tk6hh6x]

I rolled my eyes at that Ngl it’s to the point where if someone complains about misogyny on the Reddit post, I just drop it and stop reading or lose interest entirely, and go to something else because I don’t care anymore, it’s to the point where I is a woman centerfield misogynistic because I’m just so tired of it.

[@SwirlyPinwheel]

Eh. Every post always gets a few paint huffers.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

@@user-nb8tk6hh6x It's such a lazy move that some women use to avoid any responsibility. I joke with my friends that I could yell "hey lady, you're driving on the wrong side of the road" and a large portion of women will go "what a fucking misogynist" and continue right on driving on the wrong side of the road lol

[@paden1865able]

One of the biggest rules in a relationship is: never make an ultimatum because it's selfish, manipulative, and unreasonable. Now, if it was something like an addiction, I could understand why she would do that, but it's a dog; a living, feeling being who needs a good human to love and care for them. A human can fend for themselves but a dog needs someone who can take care of them when all is said and done.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: so op’s sister acted like a bridezilla while her nephew made her wedding dress and refused to invite him to her wedding. Op is NTA, aunt needs to learn to treat people with respect.

[@ugojlachapelle]

Oh yeah, Sister was awful.

[@peterhobson3262]

Sister f-ed around and found out. OP and son are not AHs, sister is.

[@kaykay8855]

@@peterhobson3262 you would think that she would want the designer who custom made her dress to be at her wedding.

[@myagant3470]

nah more like wanted something for free and used her own nephew to get it then kick him to the curve like nothing if i was the groom i would have nope out of marrying someone like that.

[@juliamiller2299]

I think things worked out well. Sister Bridezilla didn't get the dress. His son was able to sell the dress for a substantial amount of money towards college. We find out that OP's son is gay and his sister and her fiancee are homophobic and OP has gone NC with her. I also loved the part where half the family had their own party instead of attending OP's sister's wedding.

[@CatAstridphe]

First story: Straight up, it's because she didn't want to share the spotlight with her nephew for designing the dress. She didn't want people praising him and paying attention to him for even a second on "Her big day". There is no other reason for it.

[@courtneywoodbury5198]

The moment the girlfriend said she was 'putting her foot down' on the issue I thought 'all you will accomplish is your first step towards the door.'

[@vulpixle9659]

Hopefully OPs son saved photos of the wedding dress it could probably help him get into a good collage in fashion

[@rubymeaddle]

Especially if he has $25k saved up, that's a good jump start

[@swedishmeatball4382]

Considering that they sold it online I would assume the advert included photos. And as the son seems like a bright determined young man (not to mention with amazing skills) I am sure he saved as well as his favourite drawings of the suggested designs for a portfolio.

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

Story 1: Wow, that must've been some dress that it already sold for $22k+ in pretty much no time. Good for you, OP's son, that's amazing.

[@hnrynova]

That kid has talent he was being used by the aunt he was doing everything like she wanted just right for her he loved his aunt and this how she treats him her and his grandma. Where family when you try to screw the 17 year old hard work and didn't ask nothing in return

[@iasomnium919]

I really hope he goes on into the designing world. A $22k+ dress at 17 worked on by himself, imagine if he had business-level resources.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@iasomnium919 Yeah. This kid is *going* places!

[@DomSte128]

25K FOR A WEDDING DRESS?!?! Why OP's son is wasting his time saving for college when he can make a living selling wedding dresses? This guy can be rich!!! Wow, OP's sister lost a high value dress she would receive for free because of her stupidity. Not only that, but she lost some family members as well. I love happy endings.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Don't you just love it when karma does it's work?

[@adriennewaterhouse5174]

I'm betting the person who said that they wanted to deny claim him as a designer and not give him credit was right on the ball

[@AbbyKenobi]

As someone who makes clothes and have been taken advantage of by friends AND family because of it, I feel so much for the son. He deserves to have his work recognized and paid for, wedding invite or not. His dad handled the situation so so well.

[@Russman67]

Story 1: I think the sister wanted to act like OP's son didn't make the dress. And having him there would mean she'd have to explain it. Screwed herself out of a 20k dress. Good on OP for standing up for his kid.

[@Mammongus]

This makes so much sense! Good eye

[@tinaqutelia5569]

Bride had other plans, that didn't incdule her nephew. Options are: 1. pretend some other, famous designer made it. 2. "Yes, I had my dress made. Its unique...designer is really exclusive, yes" 3. I made it.

[@handy-fy1bn]

@@thecrowuknow I think you are absolutely correct on this. Too many people telling the young man what a wonderful job he did would take attention away from her and as the bride, she wants all the attention on "MEEEEEEE"!

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Yes. Good on OP indeed and good on the family for not enabling this bad behavior. OP's sister got exactly what she deserved. And I guarantee that once that marriage falls apart(and I have a good feeling it will), she'll come crawling back to the family with her tail between her legs, begging for help, only to be told to buzz off.

[@CodenameTurtle]

I could never imagine telling my SO "you've changed" when they have a dying father and just break up with them... at least it's good to know before they get even more serious I suppose. Really heartbreaking though

[@artygirl66]

I get child free weddings but legit the nearly adult boy made a freaking wedding dress and wanted to see her wearing it. I can barely stitch up ripped seams correctly, let alone make a whole dress! I commend him in his abilities and skills with making it. I also commend op for sticking up for his son and also not bowing down to his mother or bridezilla! NTA in any way, shape, or form!

[@rubymeaddle]

Usually they're capped at 16 because a 16 year old doesn't need constant adult supervision

[@vanillablossom]

Yeah, he was enough grown up to sew whole *wedding dress* (I sew my own clothes, but didn't dare to sew clothes to wear for someone else, did some commissions on smaller things till now, bags, etuis etc.), but not old enough to invite him? Where the bar would probably still ask for people's IDs anyway? I call bs, she didn't want him to be present to not get all the attention on "her day", maybe she didn't even want to give him credit for his hard work and either credit someone else or herself.

[@Zurround]

In some situations minors below normal adult age can earn the respect of adults and thus earn extra privileges and levels of trust beyond their age and be trusted with extra responsibility if they prove themselves capable of handling ADULT RESPONSIBILITIES. For example, if a teenager is under 18 but gets good grades in school and is doing well holding a part time job the parents might let him stay out later than if he is failing school and cannot hold a job because the previous example is showing much more ADULT RESPONSIBILITY. I kind of think that spending 5 months perfecting a 25,000 dollar first class wedding dress for her is kind of qualifying for taking on "adult responsibility".

[@abm5119]

Story 1: "But family!!!" If Bridezilla is going to treat OP's son like any other person, than OP's son should treat Bridezilla like any other person and bill her for his work. Story 2: NTA. I feel like OP has done everything he's supposed to do in this situation to make Milo's introduction to your GF's life as seemless as it could possibly be. Were OP's words harsh? yes. But so is suddenly demanding that he gets rid of a dog that they have been living with with no problems for months.

[@karimygirl5826]

That's exactly how I would have handled it.

[@antoinealez12]

It was never about the door. She was just looking for a way out. gf is a clown

[@trinitylane2202]

It seems to me the real reason she wanted him to get rid of the dog was because she wasn't getting ALL his attention anymore. Sounds like she was jealous of the dog. OP is better off without her. There are lots of women out there who love dogs and aren't so insecure about having to have all their boyfriend's attention focused solely on them.

[@tallyp.7643]

Story 1: This is definitely one of those times when you have an entitled butthead pull the "but FAMILY!!!" card and the OP can dish it right back automatically. Sister doesn't have even a fraction of a good excuse to keep nephew away from the wedding--the age thing will be easy; if he's the only underage person there, just notify the bartenders no alcohol for him. Some teens can be quite responsible (and one who can have the patience and ability to focus for months on a wedding dress can refrain from being an idiot and try to sneak drinks). She's got no good excuses, and OP should've pulled the "but FAMILY!!!" card til sis buckled and gave up the real reasons; though suspected homophobia or stereotyping is most likely.

[@supremeturtle1186]

Story 2 she's making a lot of objections for a house that's not hers, bills she don't pay, and a gf that's not a wife

[@mracula1667]

Story 2: NTA. I thought her original reasoning was BS but the real reason is way worse. What has to be broken inside of you to see your SO going through the things OP is and get upset he’s not as happy as he used to be?

[@swedishmeatball4382]

Sounds like my cousin's first boyfriend. My cousin had a really bad time: she moved into her first own apartment and my dad commented when he helped her move that he could smell mold. They investigated and found dangerous black mold hidden in the bathrrom, so my cousin had to move out that same day as the apartment was deemed unlivable. Her landlord took her to court and sued her for caused the mold in the one hour she spent in the apartment. Then she lost both her grandmother within two months, and in between their passings she found a mystery lump in her breast and was told she most likely had breast cancer (thankfully it wasn't, but it took a few months before she was cleared). She was quite stressed while all this was going on and not quite as chipper as usual, so her boyfriend dumped her because she was "too depressed". At least they had only been together for maybe four months and could go their separate ways without having to deal with each other in the future, but what an asshat.

[@truthseeker9249]

If anything you should be upset about that only because you CARE about that person and so therefore it hurts YOU to see them in pain. I'm the world's biggest crybaby, when my boyfriend goes through any sort of turmoil I start crying. Sometimes even if it's just a simple "I had a bad day at work". I cry for his pain because I can't handle the idea of him suffering in any way because I love him so much. But that's just me being too sensitive and caring for my own good. No I'm not saying everyone should be that way but everyone should at least be a little bit like that. You should care about your partner's pain and at least want to do whatever you can to make it better. Not see your partner's pain as some sort of "inconvenience" to you. 🤬

[@brigidtheirish]

@@swedishmeatball4382 Dumping someone who's going through trauma because they're "too depressed" is absolutely *disgusting.* Doubly disgusting to me because most of my family suffers from *chronic* depression. My mom was *physically incapable of feeling happy* from probably her teens into her early thirties. My dad, among other things, has *PTSD.* You're either willing to commit to someone, in good times and bad, or you *aren't.*

[@swedishmeatball4382]

@@brigidtheirish Oh, I completely agree. Sure, I understand that it can be taxing if your SO suffers from chronic depression or has some prolonged trauma to deal with, but life isn't all sunshine and roses and you have to be able to deal with the more cloudy days together.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@swedishmeatball4382 Yes, exactly. That's why the standard marriage vows include "for better or for worse."

[@iononcantomascrivo]

The first story: OP is not the butthole. His son did a colossal favor for his aunt by saving her money and creating her an original piece. On a personal level, it's only right that she allow him to attend, not only because he's family, but because of the massive favor that he did for her. To give him the cold shoulder and the proverbial slap in the face now that she's gotten what she wanted all along just completely reeks of narcissism. That's what narcissists do: if you have a resource they need and covet, you're the light of their life...until you outlive your usefulness and then they discard you. Let's also address that, from a professional point of view, his aunt denying him an invite to the wedding potentially cost him some very lucrative networking. I imagine, when the rest of the guests found out that he created this exquisite wedding gown, he would have been the talk of the wedding reception. I also suspect that was another motivating factor for denying him an invite: auntie didn't want him getting all the attention. I hate to say it, but I also think homophobia played a factor. OP’s sister is being totally unreasonable as is their mother.

[@Zurround]

If she had been more clever she would have invited him then as soon as he sends the dress she rescind the invitation and order the security guards not to let him in. She gave him the chance to not give her the dress.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

@@Zurround Yep. There's an old saying that goes: if you would think like a serial killer once in a while, you could anticipate how others are going to screw you over

[@audreynothepburn7663]

OP is male

[@acgearsandarms1343]

You don’t backstab your dressmaker, especially if it’s family who did it in good faith and for something approximately $25k. That price tag alone is about more than 80% the cost of an average wedding.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

@@acgearsandarms1343 👏 That part.

[@kitties1782]

Last story: I'm betting GF was at the "I'll leave you before you leave me" mindset, she knew she was not gonna win so she broke up with op first so she could at least walk away with her "pride" lol

[@halbouma6720]

She's also already got someone else lined up. That's why it came up now after 4 months and the whole "you're not into me anymore" speech. She was testing to see if she could control OP and continue her free ride during this.

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

Don’t ask someone to help with your wedding if you don’t plan to invite them or otherwise disrespect them. If you don’t want them there, don’t ask them for help. Religion isn’t an excuse for homophobia. Story 2: She knew he would likely be adopting his father’s dog. It’s his house. He does all the dog work. Don’t abandon that dog. She knew he would be getting the dog and initially said that was fine. Are they not allowed peanuts because that means they can’t invite people over who have peanut allergies?

[@agentzapdos4960]

The only way religious homophobia can be eliminated is to make the religions themselves illegal, which isn't possible in the US due to freedom of speech/association/faith.

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

@@agentzapdos4960 there’s plenty of religious people who aren’t homophobic. Some religious views are fine. Others are not. I agree that it would be impossible to end religious homophobia, but it is possible to reduce it. Step 1: get rid of the Republican Party. For the US at least, It’s 95% homophobia and 5% on the fence.

[@Zurround]

Story 1: Her husband is every bit as much of a shallow prick as the wife. I love it when sanctimonious judgemental @$$HoL3$ hide behind the banner of their "religion". He wanted to have it both ways. He was happy that his wife was getting free labor to make that dress and if he was truly someone who would fully reject a homosexual then he should have told his wife that the kid cannot make the dress as he does not want to be beholden to a homosexual. At least be CONSISTENT. He wanted to have it both ways, use the kid when its convenient for him only. Story 2: If he got rid of the dog he would NOT have been choosing her OVER the dog. Ultimately he would have been choosing NEITHER because if she really loved him she would not try to make him lose the dog. Her emotional blackmail of telling him that if he really loved her he would get rid of the dog could be reflected right back at her. IF he sends the dog away its a doomed relationship anyway since she does not love him, then when all is said and done he will end up without her AND without the dog. By keeping the dog and getting rid of her then instead of ultimately ending up with NEITHER of them he gets to keep ONE of the bitches.

[@skyelindsey687]

@@agentzapdos4960 no, the only way to get rid of it is to inform those that their sacred text was purposefully mistranslated due to everything found out about priests and little boys being more than just a joke in Hellsing Abridged

[@jancatperson8329]

Dog story: So NTA. Whenever someone tells you, “It’s me or the dog/cat/horse/parrot/whatever animal,” you ALWAYS choose the animal. Especially if they throw in that “If you love me” BS.

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Story 2: The gf wants the dog gone. And to the gf's friends asking if OP is going to throw away a 2 yr relationship for a dog, then OP should say that he has known the dog longer, if they want to go down that route. Edit: Also, this sounds like a powerplay on the gfs part. She's trying to see if she can control OP.

[@danisonice.]

I bet the bride thought that she'd lose some of the spotlight if the dressmaker was present to receive compliments

[@embroiderart6131]

If one of my nieces/nephews had designed and made a wedding dress, absolutely they would be invited to the wedding. I also would be telling everyone, all day, where I got my dress.

[@timtompkins8774]

Story 2: she was jealous that you were spending more time with Ella and of course you're not as engaged or loving with her, your dad is in the hospital and his health is not getting any better.

[@natmickan]

*Mila

[@donnalothes7085]

Great for the kid for selling the dress.

[@RomeGod177]

S1: Go on op for sticking with his son. S2: I am proud to see that op is not a pushover. He will find someone a lot better than his ex.

[@TheArnaa]

Story 1: why couldn’t son attend the wedding ceremony to see his aunt get married in the dress he worked so hard on but miss the booze laden reception? Were they planning on boozing it up during the actual wedding ceremony itself?! Edited for typo.

[@lastronin9047]

It's because he is gay. At least that's the impression I got. Sisters fiance might be a hard-core religious person

[@gaara8217]

​@@lastronin9047.. N maybe cuz he will get all the attention when others know he made the dress..

[@buffysheffield1328]

@@gaara8217 exactly! She wants all the attention on her!

[@trinitylane2202]

I think the alcohol being served was just an excuse. More likely her and/or her fiance didn't want her nephew there because he's gay.

[@tinaqutelia5569]

She thought that he would steal the spotlight, by advertising that he made the dress. There was nothing about the groom but small "they are not close". Ops son is brides 17 year old nephew. Maybe in the future, but why would hhe be close with the groom? Op just can't comprehend that sister is just AH.

[@adyashanayak7958]

22k-25k wedding dress??? Woah! The talent 👏

[@Musiyca]

Story 2: Imagine being with someone almost 3 years and just ignore what's going on in their life and turn and say "you've changed" cause all you can see is your own nose. That's wild. Ex gf had no compassion, no empathy to OP what so ever. She was literally adding more stress to him. I personally am not close with my family, but if I see my partner helping his parents with sudden health issues you bet I will make our home life as easy for my partner as possible and aid him and his parents as well. I just can't fathom adding more fuel to the stress. And no, OP didn't change at all. More like ex gf stayed in place when life happened. Life tested them and turns out they don't share their priorities and bonds. Good riddance to that selfish snake.

[@justinecorrington4106]

Story 1: so sister demanded a wedding gift from her nephew; a designed tailor made wedding dress that took 5 months of his life and him away from any other projects or designs. Maybe if nephew had actually asked to make the dress and/or surprised her, then maybe an argument could be made. But no sister demanded a gift from someone she wasn’t inviting to her wedding::: glad op didn’t just give sister the dress because it was so close to wedding 😊

[@pinklemonade8320]

Leave it to AITA to accuse you of being a misogynistic because you won't capitulate to your gf's demand that you break a promise to your dying father "so her friends can come visit"

[@villebeny]

So a 17 year old is old enough for the bridezilla to get a FREE CUSTOM DRESS from but not old enough to be invited for a 'childfree bs' wedding

[@LadyCeag840]

Story 1: NTA. Especially after the update! If I had a teenage family member skilled enough to make me a wedding dress that could be sold for 25k, I would invite them to the wedding and STILL pay full price for the dress!

[@julieeverett7442]

the one thing about that update, the groom might be homophobic? Please explain to me how being good at fashion automatically makes the nephew gay? When was this even hinted at?

[@zozocecp]

5:00 My cousin had a family friend do all the floral arrangements for her wedding. She was SHOCKED everyone body from my side didn’t show up. We just all felt disgusted honestly. He was always invited to weddings and parties because he always worked on the floral’s for free but for some reason, she didn’t invite him for her (large) wedding. He did all the arrangements for her for her and couldn’t even invite him for FREE. Absolutely disgusting

[@ladyvee2090]

Slightly similar situation, my mom's husband's daughter was getting married and they came to me to make the formal arrangements. Now I used fake flowers and my mom paid for most of the materials. But the jars/bottles, paint, ribbon, the arranging, all of that was me and I charged them what I was told was a pretty fair rate. Now this was NOT offered as a gift because I was having hard times and money issues, so they came to me to _commission_ me for the arrangements so they could help me out. It's been almost two years and I've only received half of what I charged them. They keep telling me money is tight and they've had this issue and that issue come up, then turn around and want to rush me into my own wedding claiming they can help pay for it. Y'all can't even fork over $200 after nearly two years, the hell are you going to contribute to my wedding?

[@carolsh1983]

Seeing is a great skill and I’m so pleased he was able to sell the dress for a good price. Good for him.

[@susanvanophem4569]

Wedding Dress: Your son's designs and creative is worth money. OP you paid for the fabric and he put in his time and talent of sewing the dress. You and your son are in NO WAY wrong. I am so very sorry this happened to him. My daughter is a costumer and I understand how people try to underpay them and their talents. Have him send pictures to Vera Wang registered mail. He may have a new job. Good luck to you both. Let his talent flow. Hugs to both.

[@D-D-Gaming]

Wow 20k. I'd love to see the dress. Must be extravagant with much details! The bride is a major AH and deserved what she got.

[@hothotheat3000]

The alcohol excuse is total BS. I’ve gone to plenty of places with alcohol and no children are in any danger. I think she’s ashamed of her nephew and is trying to hide him from her in laws. Well, wish granted. He’s gone, the dress is gone, her family is gone. Way to go.

[@Myskitti]

About OP taking in his fathers dog: i also dont particularly enjoy having a dog around, especially in my craft room (admittedly i dont do pottery but other similar hobby) and you know what i do bc my partner loves dogs? I got a baby gate to keep him out (it also has a cat flap so my kitty can come and go as she pleases) like there are ways around this stuff

[@AndyyWithAY]

Not sure how story 2 OP is a misogynist. He's taking care of this dog solely on his own, it's not falling her. If you loved me, you'd do X is almost always manipulative.

[@335chr]

Because some people believe not agreeing with a woman regardless is misogynistic.

[@BruinPhD2009]

Years ago, my mother made my aunt’s wedding gown. I remember it being a HUGE undertaking. OP’s sister (and possibly fiancé) is a complete fool. Not only does she not value the time and energy it took to make the gown, but she clearly doesn’t value her nephew. If there really was a concern about alcohol, she could have offered to have her nephew attend the ceremony, but not the reception. But, because that was a BS excuse, it only further heightens her assholery. Good on OP for standing up for her son, and best wishes to her son for a great career in college and fashion.

[@nikkid7838]

The 3 worst words to ever hear in an argument “he/she is family” 🙄

[@Junodragon6780]

Story 1: OP's son is going places, but the sister, yeah I can see a divorce paper coming soon. -_- The alcohol excuse is so bull, kid 17 and is old enough not to touch the booz, and since he is the only kid means she just doing this on purpose. 🙄

[@dsm4462]

“Mother of Heman” my new favorite phrase, thank you!

[@HaaraAki]

Story 1: I could also see her sister fearing people would give OP's son too much attention if they found out he made the dress. She seems like the type that couldn't handle any chance of not being #1 spotlight 24/7.

[@crowdemon_archives]

Which makes no sense unless her guest list is literally just fashion designers and no one else. 😅

[@FriedaMMartin]

Woooow….that much money on a dress and she wants to snub the poor guy. Selfish to the max that bride is

[@RedPanda74]

Story 1. ABSOLUTELY NTA! I cannot believe OP’s sister’s massive sense of entitlement, complete disregard and total disrespect for OP’s son. This is a bridezilla on a whole new level! Not only would I refuse her the dress, I would also refuse her any future contact with myself and my child, and I sure as shit would not be attending the wedding. I admire your very shiny spine! I have to wonder if she was getting worried that the son might get more attention than she would, given that it would be known he designed and made the dress, and that’s why she doesn’t want him there? Whatever her reason, she’s the only A-hole here.

[@Empress58]

Last story: none of the girlfriend’s real concerns was about the dog. So he would’ve given his dog away and betrayed his dad only to be left by her anyway. 😢

[@kichikitsu]

S2: I am an artist with multiple little menaces commonly referred to as cats. They do not know not care what work is, they only care about their person giving them attention. Meanwhile, Mila is apparently well trained and will leave a room on command, as well as (probably) being too big to jump onto high counters like my cats have. I'd love to see her reaction if Mila was a cat lol. Anyways, yeah no OP was in the right. Dad and dog has priority over a relationship of 3 years. Especially when said gf knew damn well dog would eventually be moving in with them unless either OP or dog dies before dad. Ellen moved in with the assumption she'd be able veto keeping Mila when the time came and is now upset she's being faced with the reality that she doesn't have control over another person like that ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯ Also, if she really cared about her friends' allergies, she wouldn't have agreed to move in. She's trying to make OP feel guilty for keeping her. Edit: and the real reason is that she just cannot deal with reality, just in a different way. yikes. it's not easy watching a family member being that ill. like, I get it, we all have emotional needs but like...? if you're ready to leave your partner after the first real hardship that affects one (or both) of you, then you're... not really ready for a relationship at all yet imo.

[@crowdemon_archives]

"in sickness and health" means absolutely nothing to that sort of people tbh

[@kellypatterson8506]

Story 1, holy phuck 22 to 25k, that kid has talent, the materials used must have been top quality only and every attention to detail. Hopefully OPs son goes far:)

[@AndyyWithAY]

You can't be TA for following through on something you communicated from early on Heard this one before and She was just looking for a way out and used this as an excuse. He's better without her. I hate people who can't be upfront

[@laraprisma6381]

Story 1 - I also thought about the possibility of her thinking that the OP's son is gay because he likes fashion, which is a huge negative stereotype! just because he's a boy who likes to design and sew dresses and clothes doesn't mean he's gay! If this dress is as good as described, this boy will become a rich and famous fashion designer one day, and OP should be proud of him because he deserves recognition!

[@whitneybennett4857]

Isn't Calvin Klein (um, only one of the most famous designers ever) straight?

[@mirandabaggins501]

EXACTLY!!! You read my mind!!

[@laraprisma6381]

@@whitneybennett4857 I don't know, I'm not into fashion, but if that's the case, that just proves my point. Just like a man liking flowers doesn't make him gay or a woman liking to dress more masculine doesn't make her a lesbian. These are negative gay stereotypes. Yes, there are gay people who are like that, but there are also gay people who fit the male and female gender stereotype respectively. It's just a question of romantic/sexual attraction and not a question of "personality" (which by the way, is something very offensive and wrong to say that being gay is a "behavior" or a "personality")

[@Tyanna01]

Story 1, before the update: I remember when I first saw this one on another channel and to me, the dress was a wedding gift, but if you're not invited to the wedding you aren't obliged or expected to give a gift. So she can either pay her nephew for the dress he made (materials and labour), buy a new dress, or invite him to the wedding. Those are her 3 choices. Also, saying he's adult enough to make her a wedding dress, but not adult enough to be around alcohol is a wired distinction to make imho.

[@d.wayneharbison8691]

Story 2: Ellen has found someone else, and is using this as an excuse to break up with OP. How much do you want to wager that she's already dating someone else?

[@halbouma6720]

Yes, she's already found someone else because "OP wasn't given her enough attention."

[@badkitty4922]

Hi, Mark. I figured the story of OP and Mila would hit home for you, and I'm glad to see OP stuck by his dad and Mila. I know you wouldn't have let anyone come between you, your dad and Poppy. I'm happy that OP was the same way. Much Love to you and little Miss Poppy!💖💖😘😘🐾🐾

[@concretecaveman7666]

1st story: I wonder if Sister finds it difficult to breathe with her head stuck up he own ass. There used to be a commodity known as gratitude. She should look it up. Also OP didn't ruin her wedding day, she did it herself.

[@mercycunningham2813]

Story1: Mark don't be so shocked about the price for the dress. It costs so much because OPs son worked for F*ing month on it. Actually 22k-25k is very reasonable for a one of a kind custom designed and handmade weddingdress. OPs son had to come up with several designs and changes from the sound of it. Then he had to create a pattern from scratch. He probably made a mockup to check if it fits before starting the real one. Then the obvious costs for the fabric. I guess aunty dearest wanted crystals or/and handemboidery. Good quality crystals cost a pretty penny. Same goes for good quality lace. Don't get me realy started on crystals and lace. If you consider some Brides pay 10k+ for a weddingdress from the rack. Yep. 22-25k realy sounds good.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

Just got done filming! So glad there's a video for me to watch to wait for the next class

[@252stardust]

Story 1: I think the bride was afraid of the limelight being taken off her as everyone would have been impressed that a 17 year old made such a beautiful and expensive dress. I am so glad they didn't give into her and sold it. I am glad that Dad stood by him. Story 2: I am glad op didn't give into his ex. Just the thought of him giving the dog away made me feel sad because the dog will also be stressed out in a new environment and will sense his Dad is ill. I got my dog Henry when my other dog Cassie was older. Henry absolutely adored Cassie and when she died he was never the same again. People like to think animals are 'just an animal' but the reality is they have feelings too.

[@susanlosey9511]

Your son is an amazing person and so talented. 17 years old and designed and made a $22-25k wedding gown? WOW!! I bet your proud of him. If he’s this talented before university, just think of what he will do after he finishes university! Keep a picture of the gown and clothes he made to go into his file to show future employers.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

S1: Good for you OP for selling the dress. Your son should keep making stuff, he's clearly good at it and 25k for one dress is a lot of money👏 S2: You're going through a rough time, and GF leaves you cuz "you are not the same." Good thing she leaves now before having any attachments to her (as in house, marriage, kids). You clearly can't trust her to support you in bad times.

[@caelum8160]

Story 1: YTA Wdym you won't let your Sister exploit your son while simultaneously excluding him from one the biggest moments of her life that he made a contribution to??/s 😂 Story 2: NTA These things need to be discussed early for a reason. This could have been avoided if this was handled as soon or better yet BEFORE the issue arises, so compromises could be made. I would maybe understand if OP blindsided her with this but he didn't. She decided to stay silent about her issues and that's her fault entirely, humans can't read minds last time I checked. That being said, OP was harsh, but honestly I know people who have said worse if asked to give up their dogs. I also thought it was wierd too how she said OP changed when he's clearly going through a rough time. She has every right to leave a relationship for whatever reason but how exactly does she think long-term relationships work? Is she going to bow out whenever things get tough or her partner is going through a crisis. Would she be okay with being abandoned during such a vulnerable time?

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

You had me in the first half 😂🤣

[@marystarr3025]

It WAS discussed earlier by the OP, that he would be taking the dog is something happened to the dad. GF was and IS TA,

[@jedimasters1462]

Story one, that bride screwed herself. Hopefully op's son is going to get more business from the sell of the dress. Even if he doesn't make it his life, doing it while in school could help him pay for school so he doesn't have to worry about debt after.

[@loryndabenson2118]

Story one. I'm so glad the young man was able to sell the dress. I hope it helps kick start his career designing if that's what he wants.

[@Tammohawk1]

2. Girlfriend is out of her mind thinking that she can give OP that ultimatum. A dog is a living creature, who only wants to be loved and show their appreciation. She knew what was up when she first got together with OP so she doesn't have any room to complain.

[@arieblanche1489]

I use these videos to help manage my ADHD, they help me stay focused on chores and tasks. Thank you Mark. Please keep making these, I and many others really appreciate them and you!

[@carlrood4457]

Just hearing about OP bringing the dog to visit his dad tells me he made the right choice.

[@madisonl3401]

I am so happy that this channel hit 100k subs just a couple months ago and it’s almost 1/5th of the way to 200k!

[@buildingpimp]

You are absolutely correct in not allowing her to wear the dress

[@CrazyWolf2468]

My father passed away when I was 5 years old so for those of you out there who are adults and still have your father cherish every moment you get to spend with him!

[@ItsYaBoiV]

Story 1: Unless I missed something, she isn't even paying this kid for all this work, including her crazy micromanaging, so the LEAST she could have done is let him attend. I wouldn't let her have the dress either.

[@matthewpopow6647]

Man, wish we could have seen the dress but respect for listening to the son and not posting it.

[@elevin8858]

Story 1: I was 26 when I got married. I designed my own dress and my mom sewed it for me. It was silk and cloth of gold brocade and I have been grateful for the work she put into my wedding with me. If someone is adult enough to design, sew, and tailor a wedding dress, he’s plenty old enough to be treated with respect by the person who plans to wear that gown.

[@mangoshateu361]

If she’s not going to invite him she needs to pay him in full

[@TheFlowerchild712]

It's super disrespectful and rude to have someone make your wedding dress for free and then bar them from the wedding. Especially since she was pain in the neck about it.

[@Objective-Observer]

Child Free Wedding and the 17 YO Dress designer is not invited- THANKs FOR THE UPDATES, MARK! Other channels haven't included them. 1. Everyone was forgetting the Groom's family, and any possible children on his side of the wedding. 2. The updates solidify this for me: *The Bride wanted a well designed dress. I don't think she expected quite the quality of the design, nor the finished product, however. *Since her nephew did not discuss pricing, and her sister paid for the materials... the BrideZilla just let them, and kept her mouth shut. She never volunteered a budget for her dress, nor how much she would need to pay for her nephew's services and a guessitmate on the price of the fabric and notions. *The Nephew was so accommodating- that she realized she could easily take advantage of him and force him to make any change she wanted. *When her mother cried at the final fitting, I think Reality Finally hit home: this was a top tier dress. How could this bride afford such an expensive dress? Everyone at the wedding would be talking about the dress... and ultimately talking TO THE DRESS DESIGNER AND SEAMSTRESS. To be succinct- Bridezilla began to fear: everyone would focus on the 17 yo old KID who designed and sewed that goregous dress, and LESS about the bride wearing the dress. *This WAS NOT FUELED BY HOMOPHOBIA ON THE PART OF HER HUSBAND. That Bridezilla would have easily tossed that aside, when her Sister refused to let her have the dress- a week before the wedding- if she didn't invite the kid who made the dress. *She totally knew what that dress was worth, she kept hoping, if she didn't say anything- she would get it free from FaMilY. *Even when faced with having to pay for the Dress OR GET IT FREE WITH AN INVITE FOR THE KID WHO MADE THE DRESS- SHE STILL WOULDN'T ACQUIESCE. She kept the Nephew out for HER excuses and that was to keep the focus on her and not the kid who made the dress. *Off the top of my head, knowing what work went into this dress, I easily put a $20K price tag on that dress. Which is not an uncommon price line for the boutiques on 'Say, Yes, to the dress;' or 'Nazranna Diaries.' [you tube]

[@gerrimilner9448]

changing and growing through the tough times is life, she clearly did not care to allow herself to grow with him, as for mila she is beautifull and her love is pure

[@BohemianScandalous]

That dog tax, she’s doing such a good job! That ball is guarded 11/10 fantastic doggo

[@dennisrolke1381]

It seems likely that she believed the dress designer, an exceptionally talented young man whom she is related, would receive adoration and acknowledgement from attendees. This would take attention from her. Gross.

[@LetholdusKaspyr]

Imagine being so misandrist that you accuse a man of being a misogynist for the crime of... not sacrificing the entire rest of his life for the pleasure of his girlfriend.

[@LetholdusKaspyr]

Holy crap, she legit dumped him because she wasn't literally his entire world. I pity the cats she's going to end up with.

[@kichikitsu]

S1: lmfaoo love the fact I called her attitude -- I was like, "oh and I bet she was getting the dress for free, wasn't she? And that shed complain and go "but family" if OP & son tried to get her to reimburse them for the cost?" Aaand then she did that exact thing when they graciously gave her the option to buy it from them. AND 25K AT MOST?!?!? holy shit the amount of work he must've put in!!!! I'm so interested in seeing his other designs if he'd ever be willing to share them. But the fact that it's 20k+ and sister STILL had the fucking nerve to go "noooo ur supposed to give me the dress for FREE even though you're not even invited to the wedding bc familyyyyy!!!" goddamn. Fashion designers are magicians and as an artist that could only draw such things I have so much respect and fascination for them. Kudos to OP's kid and I wish him way better commission clients in the future.

[@YinYangAngel55]

"You've changed ever since you got the dog" Dodged a bullet there, think how much OP would have changed if it was a kid

[@awdrifter3394]

Story 1, I love how she pulled the family card when it come to money.

[@halbouma6720]

Yep, and that the card only applied to what she wanted lol.

[@nyx_moonwalk]

aaa i saw this one in a text-to-speech tiktok and was so excited to hear you read it!

[@owl7072]

Story 1: How are you gonna use someone to get a nice wedding dress and treat them like shit in the process, then single them out and ban them from the wedding? It sounds way too convenient that he's the only minor, and she's banning minors due to there being alcohol. Honestly, I feel like she's trying to hide that she had to rely on her nephew to get a nice dress or something and doesn't want to admit where she got it, so by banning him she can keep it secret. Regardless, she's still a massive c u next tuesday.

[@agentzapdos4960]

It was religious bigotry in the end. Of course a religious conservative would be okay with child labour.

[@PonderingStudent]

It's just plain old homophobia. I'm glad the OP didn't give in, and her parents should be ashamed of themselves.

[@pippo17173]

@Agent Zapdos we don't know that but hearing the fiance being hard core Christian and doesn't like the cousin, I guess that does confirm it. Hope sister loves her new family because I can garenteed it will fall rock bottom.

[@halbouma6720]

Yeah, OP should have asked her "why are you ready to die on the "no kids because of alcohol" hill for someone who made a $20k wedding dress for you?"

[@LetholdusKaspyr]

Wow, a family member goes all out, pouring their heart and soul into a creative process for months, designing a WEDDING DRESS, beautifully, FOR FREE, only to be excluded from the actual wedding. That's amazing. Way to ruin your own day with your entitlement.

[@lanadelrad6147]

Shit if that was me, that kid would be eating at the front table and get to drink. I’d be bragging all night at his skill and showing off that dress like i was at the Grammys

[@tobyroad]

I found an abandoned pup on the side of the road a year and a half ago. He's the best pet a man could ask for. My wife wasn't thrilled but I refused to take him to the pound. We spent quite a few evenings over drinks discussing our roles of who was going to do what and we came to an agreement on how we could keep him. She never threatened to leave, or act immature, but helped with him during the day and I take care of all his other needs, like bathing, vet visits, groomers, and daily walks. He's at the age now where he doesn't need supervision or constant watching. He loves sitting all over her during the day, until I get home and then He's all over me.

[@RavenTeamCharlie]

My other half got me addicted to your videos. Every time i start you video i throw out the most over the top ‘WAFFLE GANG!’ I can. Shes not sick of me yet 😂

[@mommieminnesota3108]

Having a hard day thanks for posting new stories @mark narrations so I can tune out for a few min and laugh,cry,yell lol.lots of love from across the pond Minnesota