Nanny Cam Caught My Boss Cheating (w/ Ben Cahn & Emil DeRosa) | Perfect Person Ep. 43

[@PerfectPerson]

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[@alexrudie3538]

One of my favorite aspects of these episodes is the response each guest has when Miles has to restart the music in the heartfelt moment.

[@PerfectPerson]

absolutely same.

[@literarymary4933]

Alternate title: “roasting my grandpa for his general organ failure”

[@sleepypup]

I just started the video and im excited to find out what this means 😂

[@strawberrymilkteaa]

one of my favorite parts of the show is the guest's reactions to Miles having to hit the sad soundtrack again 😭 gets me every fucking time

[@alexisreve1]

I love how none of them are ready for it lol

[@Alkimmie63]

They hated the music over their serious talk! Miles didn’t care, lol, kept it playing anyway.

[@heatherfeather1203]

I just wanted to say that the vulnerability and openness that Ben and Emil had on the get real segment was touching. Thank you for sharing your stories 🤍 also I love their dynamic they’re funny

[@mariapizzaa]

That wife who keeps defending her husband's weird friend needs to take a step back and realize that being a creep "just being a part of his personality" doesn't really excuse his creepy behavior. That guy gets a pass bc they've been friends forever, but if he was introduced to them new, she would realize he's a gross weirdo 🤢

[@123kgo]

This!

[@KZesty]

Yessss

[@anonymixx8106]

Frog in boiling water. I've dated a guy with a "just kinda problematic personality" friend and he was not nearly as different from him as I would have liked to hope.

[@asunbeam5479]

i love how realistic and compassionate these guys were about finances. the 'financial advice' most content creators have really is only applicable if your parents paid your bills

[@zerocraic3966]

Second caller re:her husband and their “friend” I hope you read this. The amount of times you kept repeating “I don’t mind being asked this I don’t mind I don’t mind” How little mental space have you given yourself to proactively pick friends you LIKE. seriously, he’s not a boss or a relative. Friendships and positive social engagement is not about what you “don’t mind” that’s not what friends are. They’re not people whose completely inappropriate and disrespectful behavior is supposed be something you “don’t mind”. You shouldn’t have friends who weird you out. Or brazenly disrespect your relationship status. It’s completely possible to be a flirtatious person and not do it with people who are not appropriate to flirt with. That’s not “just how he is”. Theres nothing harmless or funny about a grown man that things provoking people or being “controversial”, getting a reaction from people, that that is intimacy or friendship to him. He sounds like a total dick tbh. I’m very sex positive but the idea of a man asking me what me and my spouse do in bed is so disgusting and crass. There’s something extra gross about that person being intoxicated when they do it. You weren’t obligated to participate just bc you “don’t mind”. Bc 1. You should mind dude. And 2. Bc he is into you, you know why he asked that. Sharing your husbands kinks with a “friend” who already disrespects him as your husband is ammo that your “friend” is likely so excited to have. That sucks. You’re not obligated to keep a friend just bc you “don’t mind” all this bizarre and disrespectful crap they say and do… it sucks when a creep like this is part o like a friend group but like esp in group settings, I think you owe it to both you and your husband to create some distance from this creep. based on the fact that he’s shamelessly crushing on you and asking about how you have sex… like you gotta know this is not someone who is a positive addition to your life.

[@ernestinataleb1265]

Hi there! Just want to add: it really worries me (and very obviously Miles and the guests) that this creep is taking advantage of his proximity to you and your laid-back ‘open-book’ persona. It was VERY inappropriate that he asked you that and the fact that he doesn’t feel ashamed or apologized to you means he doesn’t really see you as a friend. He sees you as an object to pursue. Please distance yourself from this person and tell your husband. You’re not starting drama, you’re alerting your partner that someone close to them is crossing a line. I agree with the previous commenter, I worry that now that this creep knows this thing, he might try to drop a bomb in your marriage so that he can swoop in to pick up the pieces. Also: you can be an open book and be friendly with people, but still also have boundaries. There are certain people out there who will try and push those boundaries or be upset that you have any boundaries at all. These are not people you want to be friends with. It sounds like there were other people at that party and in your friend groups. Please spend more time with…like…anyone else.

[@123kgo]

This is just my opinion, but to me she seemed like she was at least SORT OF into it and probably likes the attention she gets from that "friend." I don't see any other reason why she would even entertain that question.

[@zerocraic3966]

⁠@@123kgoi didnt get any inkling of that mainly bc i know so many doormat women esp, who giggle their way out of rude, disgusting interactions like this and really play down how upsetting it actually is. Idk deranged guys like this make tou confused in thd moment, you dont jnow why you’re participating or answering its very embarrassing and confusing after. My exhusband was like this. Not about sexual stuff specifically but he very proudly would tell me how in school hed talk some sorta embarrassing thung out of “losers” at his school and then would use it to torment them.

[@conniesbeenhereXD]

all 3 of them exude safe silly boi energy. Best episode yet!!

[@ashleyholmes4221]

AGREE!!!!!

[@marybeth3983]

Ben and Emil AND Miles??? This ep gets 1000 thumbs ups from me and I haven’t even listened yet

[@PerfectPerson]

Thank you for the THUMBS

[@ANGEL-zr4yq]

crying at ben and emil absolutely LOSING IT during the restart of the heartfelt soundtrack

[@lezlezzin]

I theorize miles keeps the motion sensor light just to show off how flexible and gangly he is

[@heatherfeather1203]

It’s the modern dancer in him

[@OhItsJustAspen]

My worst nightmare is someone knowing my partner is cheating on me and not telling me. Don't sit back and let me waste years of my life on someone who you know is taking advantage of me😩 It's physically nauseating to me to imagine.

[@a_o011]

I agree. While I do think she shouldn't be too involved because she isn't friends with them, I also think the widow and fiancé are being taken advantage of (If the couple haven't talked about a thruple). Because the widow is going through a roller coaster of emotions and the the fiancé is obviously in love they aren't going to be thinking about the fact that they are hurting anyone or being hurt in the fiancé's case. Again unless it's a possible thruple. My point is lol while it's a bit nosy I think the babysitter, when/if the opportunity arises should bring that up to the fiancé and ask if there is a possibility of them being open to that. If the fiancé isn't... then in my personal opinion she should let the fiancé know. Because this infidelity before they are even married should be addressed and questioned.

[@anonymixx8106]

On top of that, I would lose the friendship for real. That's not care, it's enablement... And it even implies that they potentially wanted to see me suffer..... At the least, if you can't be honest with me while I'm suffering, just get out so that I can see that I need more help of another kind.

[@sofiaposadas1]

The TMG collabs are insane, Miles. Does this mean... BNCMAP & RAINIE CROSSOVER IS FINALLY HAPPENING?

[@TheClairesable]

Health is so fragile and no one is guaranteed to stay healthy forever. Last October I started having a bunch of symptoms and my friend said "You know it could be MS". A long journey down the road and I finally got test results that indicated I DO have an autoimmune condition. It's scary every day and life sucks but we keep fighting.

[@hiVanderLinden]

I will absolutely need a super cut of the moments when the music gets restarted and it kills the mood 😅 gets me everytime

[@lorithomasscott349]

What Ben shared hit soooo close to home, my dad also dropped dead when I was 21 and it really was like a before and after moment, but then continues to inform so much of my life. Despite wanting to keep his cards closer to chest I really appreciated the vulnerability!

[@mosesdueck4198]

I too lost my vision to Leber's Hereditary Optic Neuropathy, about 4 years ago. It's a mitochondrial DNA mutation that is passed from mothers to children, and the vast majority of people who are affected by it are males. If you experience any vision issues at all, from photophobia to Charles Bonnet Syndrome, or any blur in your central vision, go to your opthalmologist or neurological opthalmologist. I have optic nerve pain 24/7/365 now. It's a HUGE adjustment. But life continues. By the by, I've listened to the podcast as soon as it comes out, from the very first one. Love it. :)

[@mosesdueck4198]

And to address the financial aspect of a sudden disability. I'm STILL trying to clear out medical debts. I debated posting my GoFundMe, but that's a dick move without permission.

[@mchammerandnail]

I feel like seeing someone go through a lot of specific pain and loss makes us think it’s gonna happen at any waking moment, cuz trauma is wild like that. And the trauma never goes away it’s just like u deal with it and that feels so human, and it’s oddly comforting hearing people go through the same thing (in various ways)

[@abbylynne9798]

I need you all to know how much I was touched by the get real. In feb in the span of a week I went from having a very healthy dad to him losing his leg and open heart surgery. It’s been a crazy adjustment since then and I still feel like I’m recovering and coming to terms with it

[@mel.bon12]

Miles low key telling her to friend break up with the guy 😂

[@zerocraic3966]

The amount of times that poor girl kept saying I don’t mind I don’t mind Screams of not realizing friends are supposed to bd people you like. Friends shouldn’t be people you’re emotionally negotiating yourself into tolerating. Poor woman I hope she creates some distance btwn her and this creep

[@dsch2000]

I lost my mom three years ago (when I was 25), I had to take care of my grandma after that who was slowly slipping into dementia and lost her as well as my grandpa since. My dad started dating someone three months after my mom passed which i couldnt and still cant really understand. I felt so incredibly alone in all this grief. I was very depressed for over two years until I got medication. Things are looking so much better now, but I just want to say thank you for sharing your own stories of surviving these hard times of loss. It makes me feel seen, understood and a lot less alone. My friends tried to be there for me but they just couldnt understand that *everything* was different after. So thank you!

[@smc6881]

I am so sorry for all of your loss, and your loneliness in grief. I am so glad to hear you’re taking care of yourself despite it all. I wish you immense love and kindness, and that each day offers softening of the pain. May your strength allow you to express your vulnerability with people who truly deserve it ♥️

[@dsch2000]

@@smc6881 thank you so much for your kind words! It means a lot ❤️

[@2021michellecarpenter]

I wish I would have had a problem to call in with because I listen to both of these podcast and this feels like my two lives overlapping

[@EvWuzhere]

I do have proboems to call in with but im too scared to. One time miles and will picked up and i freezed when they asked me what my problem was so i said nothing im fine and then the call ended

[@El1society]

@@EvWuzhereomg nooo i can definitely see that happening to me ngl

[@strangeaslife]

First call: my immediate thought is this is what she wants to say in her proposal. If Jessica is helping Maddy shop for rings then it only makes sense she's confiding in her what she wants to say for the proposal. Idk unless her name is used so it's 100% clear it's for Jessica...

[@KayleeSchlundt]

MILES IVE BEEN WAITING ALL MORNING. thank you. my wednesday mornings have now become drinking coffee and watching perfect person. 💗

[@PerfectPerson]

It’s a pleasure to be a part of your morning routine!

[@KayleeSchlundt]

much love!!!!

[@aveskies15]

This is my new fave hobby. Sippin that joe and watching Miles and his dudes hangin and chattin

[@shamaramill]

I really liked this episode. Ben and Emil were great guests!

[@Indonesianfolknigeltufnel]

This is the best collab of all time

[@xxAlexixx88]

“Perfection is only a call away” still makes me smile 10/10 every time 😂

[@andyqv-goodvibes1900]

yayyy I love to bullet journal on Wednesday morning while I watch/listen to Perfect Person. A perfect combo for a perfect morning ☺☺

[@ashleyholmes4221]

I finally finished this episode, ugh, so sorry it took me almost all week. I think this has been my favorite one so far. It's amazing listening to you 3 men be vulnerable, and kind, and understanding. I would love to have more pods with these 2 and yourself. ❤

[@aliasjsjsjs8783]

BEN EMIL AND MILES PLS so glad my faves know each other exist

[@Secrets4theMad]

freaking love everyone at tmg studios so i'm so hyped about this, hilarious as always!!

[@um2913]

I’m never on the side of the cheater. I would always tell the person getting cheated on especially if it’s someone I know. And I think it’s wrong to keep that to yourself. Bc most people would want to be told or find out. It’s just the kind thing to do. Otherwise you know I hope you get cheated on no offense. That being said if ur boss is cheating don’t let ur boss know you told the person. Either do what they said or what I’d do is try to leave the person getting cheated on an Easter egg so THEY find out. And that way YOU “stay out of it”

[@MissGhostface]

Wow, this was officially my favorite episode! You all had a great rapport, and I loved the "Get Real" segment. It was great that everyone felt so comfortable with you to share real stuff. That's says so much about you as a person!

[@LeshenWren]

My new fav routine is listening to this on the way home from work 💕 Last night we had a surgery that took longer than usual, so I’m headed home in my scrubs because I’m too tired to change. Thank you for helping me stay awake on my way home!

[@thatmfdiego]

I truly don't think that the second caller has conceptualized how truly bizarre what that "friend" is doing truly is, like this isn't a "it's just his personality, he's funny like that" type moment, this is really weird and disrespectful behavior, especially when he's being described as "flirty" with his friend's wife. The way I see it, this could be one of two ways 1. You are so open because you like the attention that he's giving you, hence why you're being so forgiving of your husband's friend flirting, having a "little crush" on you, and ultimately being a complete creep about your business. 2. He's taking advantage of you being an open person to gradually get closer and potentially cause problems in your marriage, and you're being forgiving because in your eyes he could do no wrong, he's your husband's long-time friend, why would he try something? Regardless of which one it is, you need to evaluate why you're keeping that "friend" around and alert your partner about him/cut him off or figure out why it is that you are craving this weirdo's attention to begin with. It's not a good idea to stick around and find out just how many red flags he can raise before something comes of it, just drop the dude, no guy like that has good intentions

[@markaylaballard]

holy shit this is the crossover of the century. TALIBEN WHERE YOU AT?

[@minmom166]

I had no idea who these guys are and there's no way I'm getting into investing but this was one of my fav eps! From the calls to the vibes and laughter, all great💯

[@Namite0001]

The edit to show the simultaneous "Woah" at around the 15:00 mark is sending me 😂

[@pretzellina]

This is hands down the best podcast I’ve ever listened to. Dare I say: it’s perfect. ❤

[@gracecy8010]

this last week......i....sort of made.......a bunch of extra ice cubes.....hee hee *awkwardly smiles*

[@Negative_NBG]

My mom actually just finished Hamburger University. It's like a management training program, she's been with mcdonalds for years. It's a big deal, very exciting

[@RandomMannith]

Email and Bean should do a podcast together

[@cringelemon5365]

The music restarting when Ben was talking was HILARIOUS

[@Mary-kb5dk]

Obsessed with all these people together

[@cmols13]

Miles x TMG studios is the crossover i needed today, please get Fibula or Lady Efron on the pod

[@gdaves5257]

2:33 the all knowing “ooh buddy”

[@urmother72771]

another day, another miles slay

[@emmaengland951]

Subway is literally the least profitable franchise out there. My parents owned 5 of them until I was 15 and each store cannibalized the profits from the next. There's no restrictions of how close franchise owners can build the stores together, and it's relatively cheap and to open one (about 10k?). I have no clue how any Subways are still open, especially with the amount of fines corporate leverages against its franchisees for shit like a failed update on the cash register.

[@MJ-xz8mi]

I love Ben and Emil!!!!

[@Brokenblinds95]

I’ve said it before but the reaction to get real segment by a new freelance assistant(s) is still my favorite part. They never do the research before going on the show 😂😂

[@nikalive1]

My fave podcast genre - three white guys with mics

[@chrissyo.5522]

Why are the trillionaire boys outfits giving dad vibes? Dads who match at the BBQ

[@abigailsnider8348]

AHHHH DREAM COLLABBBBBB

[@maryerickson9978]

we NEED Brooke averick miles!!😩😩

[@SMSFWM]

Please never "fix" the be real music. It's perfect.

[@alexare6655]

Why do all the callers have the same voice?

[@PerfectPerson]

I have wondered this myself

[@MrQTip547]

Best part of the whole pod 45:39 😂😂😂

[@NobelNighthawk274]

I am SO GDAM excited for this episode the crossover ive always wanted but I didnt know could happen!!

[@Shibbyyaaa]

Every time this show airs, I realize more and more that this show, while obviously very funny and entertaining, is an avenue for miles to process the loss of his brother and friend. Im trying not to overstate the context here or read too much into it, but it does feel like a comedic tragedy art piece at times.

[@NatFallsAlot]

Best day of my life wtf

[@PerfectPerson]

happy birthday Natalie!!!!

[@findparadise]

This show is the best medicine

[@thetrickyvicki]

Omg TMG and Try Guys crossover 😍

[@Ram-zc4fi]

ben and emil fitted like they are about to paint my house

[@mel.bon12]

OMG!!!!!! The pod I’ve been waiting for!! And had no idea it was in the books!!!

[@fruitgh0st]

shout out to wills eye! they just took a shard of metal out of my eyeball!

[@lintgirl]

so happy about this crossover

[@d0rinachick]

The foot fetish friend story sounds like the dynamic between the two male friends in the newest season of White Lotus

[@NatFallsAlot]

All of my favorite people in one place????

[@l4eternal]

Loved it. Top tier!

[@Jen99576]

loved these two! Great episode, miles!

[@delgadocorcoran2963]

The crossover I didn't know I needed

[@beckmannm]

Loved that the comment about funeral laughter was really shown during the get real segment 😂

[@mei1194]

Never I’m my wildest dreams I could have imagined this omg??

[@howdydee]

This is literally my dream crossover

[@emptyb00b]

never been so excited!!! my two favorites i never saw this coming

[@coobapo]

The weird extremely hard open is super weird but kinda works? First time I'm seeing this channel so idk if he does that often, but really greases up the wheel.

[@lovecraftbaby]

Ben and Emil my beloveds

[@sophietaylor8999]

BEST COLLAB EVER

[@lorithomasscott349]

(Also Kintsugi is the concept y’all were looking for!)😊

[@Peepee4brain]

me at 23 never having faced any major catastrophic loss 👁👄👁

[@Peepee4brain]

On a real note, these conversations are so incredibly helpful

[@danielmorris6804]

AHHH MILES I requested Ben but I get both Emil as well??! DREAM COME TRUE!!

[@kimberly.aerial]

fantastic matching outfits today boys

[@futuroid]

this was a very sweet ep

[@taniciadhakal1419]

Me out here like. It’s McDonald’s Hamburger University 💀

[@jdrummerdd]

Never heard someone more obsessed with themselves than that 3rd caller holy hell lmfaoo

[@ianlee4565]

Sarah, sorry about your grandfather's passing. (And thanks for giving me an opportunity to take some notes on how to handle my own Nana and Papa's funerals in advance.)

[@aisling7244]

That throwaway Subway franchise advice tells me these people aren’t John Oliver fans. He just did a whole segment about how Subway is the worst possible franchise option.

[@maryerickson9978]

Brooke averick and rainie PLEASE DADDY MILES 😫😫😫😫

[@natashalpz]

Oh this is such a good combo

[@StargazerApril]

Hell yes, shout out to all my fellow ocular migraine sufferers!

[@cassandrascanlon1378]

Omg go I'm early on purpose yes this advice is gold❤

[@faith-4059]

Man I'd love to see Maddie Dragsbaek on the pod

[@jessicagonzalez7367]

I’m so happy rn

[@FroAlchemist]

31:15 Tell The Husband!!!

[@Lily-um9tj]

Wabi-sabi: cracks filled with gild

[@protomenfan200x]

Is it sad that my first thought seeing this episode was, Oh my God, that’s the guy from that Succession with M&M’s video?

[@victoria-freire]

god i love these guys

[@skylerp5740]

you knew what you were doing with that title

[@Kristhegirl39]

The second callers husbands friend is most def a Scorpio. Iykyk.