Narcissist Tit for Tat Games!

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[@sanjeevbains690]

“Every toxic person will find another emotional punching bag to go after”

[@hildesolstraleaksnes8390]

Wow thank you 🙏

[@simplyone200]

Hoping so!

[@timothyleavell4226]

The covert narcissist in my life has a lot of people tricked like I’m the abuser when in reality it’s the other way around!

[@MischaelaRichter]

Ughhhh the 'competition'. I grew up in a house where 'winning' an argument was the objective instead of actually hearing and understanding one another. It took me most of my adult life to learn that ALL I WANT is to be seen, heard and understood by the people I keep close to me. I'm sad it took me so long to learn this but I'm glad I know it now. Thank you for sharing this!

[@octoberdawn1087]

Yes I have a family member that every conversation with her is like a mic drop a moment for her. 🎤

[@WaweruG]

Something to adapt henceforth "Listening and understanding" and to never impose an already predetermined/biased outcome.

[@casperinsight3524]

If they disrespect you that's not okay If they make you feel bad about yourself that's not okay Pay attention to how you feel Pay attention to how you function Pay attention to your wellbeing Pay attention to your Peace of mind Pay attention to your ability to concentrate Pay attention to your ability to make good decisions

[@kmartin2988]

Talked with my mother yesterday - it was exhausting. No matter what I said, she one up'ed it - all simple topics like my garden or what I was going to do this weekend. No matter how basic, she was triggered. Then she dismissed me, cutting me off because she has to go do something meaningless, as in EVERY. SINGLE. CONVERSATION.

[@veep5712]

It's a type. Difficult to avoid given your relationship but you are probably better off minimizing conversations. Your body is telling you. Time to walk away earlier. If you haven't already, you will start to notice the tantrum-like tactics when you cut it short. Sometimes they try to call you back, suddenly when you don't care. Or I have seen this type get enraged even if they ended the conversation, because they are so busy and important. Just get what you came to do and get out of there fast.

[@veep5712]

Just realize they are totally powerless, pathetic and insecure to treat others this way. Especially her own Daughter.

[@veep5712]

For all their anger, it's probably about what they didn't get as a child. Then dumping it on you. As an adult, you probably also have lacks because she can't give what she doesn't have. So try to heal without her, boundaries will help you.

[@veep5712]

Also look up the psychological definition of Emeshment or Emeshment Trauma, it might resonate.

[@N1co777]

When I became aware of narcs and the abuse that they elicit, I had a hard time trusting anyone new... I struggle to this day to make new connections with people because I am now aware about narcs... for me its better to be alone than to be manipulated and use by people who only care about themselves

[@damienwelch9067]

True 👍

[@patrickfyall3536]

Yea man. Even when someone is showing genuine affection. In the back of my mind I'm wondering, is it real? Hate thinking like that.

[@juliataylor2578]

I relate. I hope there is a way to connect with new ppl without the fear or paranoia. I hope there is a way to keep ourselves safe but still be open and vulnerable to new connections.

[@Bexlawal]

Me too ❤

[@nicselectronics81]

Same

[@thirdlantern]

What's really debilitating is when the abuser is supposed to be your champion, your advocate, the stakeholder in your happiness -- but they use it to destroy you instead.

[@anonomous1546]

I am living celibate and single and these people still insist on trying to push buttons with me. I just try to stay to myself these days.

[@cc967]

I unfortunately forgot my parents anniversary and profusely apologized. Sure enough, my mother “forgets” our anniversary. It’s like dealing with a 10 year old.

[@peterknyk1942]

WOW! Even before listening to this entire video I was reminded of the many times that the narcissist said to me “if you do this for me I will do that for you etc.,” “blah blah blah blah blah!” 🤮

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

It's textbook..

[@debratrebbne4632]

😆🤮😆. Exactly!

[@peterknyk1942]

@@debratrebbne4632 Yup! I love your use of the emojis! 😂

[@debratrebbne4632]

@@peterknyk1942 It’s not funny when one is “in it” to be sure…but as long as I have learned, I can laugh!

[@eddiejamesmagic4207]

Yeah I've heard that line my entire life sometimes the smaller promises come true but you can usually count on it not coming at all it's just a way to make you think they have a shred of reliability in them.

[@dark7angel456]

I started to feel extremely nervous and tense after coming across hundreds of these kinds of people, I lost a lot of my self-esteem and sanity dealing with these types of people in the flying monkeys. I have to put up my guard 24/7 and always be defensive in order to feel right

[@allyourbase888]

A source of sanity. Hallelujah! Thank you 🙏🏾

[@catherinerhea6336]

Exactly!!! Unplug them. ...like they don't even exist!!!🖤

[@aaronTompkins-kr7tk]

It took me 20 years before this was revealed to me. Once I realized this I saw this all the way back till the beginning of our relationship. It is so overwhelming

[@ReelFloridaOutdoors]

Almost one year no contact. I didn’t know what I was dealing with until after our break up. A few months before we split she moved out but insisted she wanted us to work things out. I kept trying to break it off and she would find a way to keep it going. The last month she was playing games coming and going and telling me when she’d be around. I finally moved her stuff out to a mini storage. They’re great at manipulating and if you ever think you can outsmart them you’re wrong. Going no contact was the best thing and going to therapy to get your life back and of course watching Stephanie Lyn videos lol to learn more. Great video Stephanie!

[@wiztribe]

Gawd I wish I had THIS knowledge when I was WAY younger- YOUR HELPING ME LADY- see as clear as can be- clarify what I’ve known for so long- the questions are answered!!! YOUR A BLESSING!!! Thank you, I type THIS behind tears!!!! Tears of acknowledgment & Clarity !!!!

[@Soothsayer937]

The past few months, I've been taking this crash course in narcissism. I'm 51, but in my early 20's, I didn't have a clue that people like this existed. I knew the man I married at 22 was a liar and a cheat, and I left him about a year later. While I was trying to play fair, he was using every play in the narcissist's handbook. These qualities revealed themselves over time. He ransacked my life while playing the victim. He ended up with a career and financial stability. I ended up a scapegoat with autoimmune problems. This video describes my experience perfectly. No, he never did what was best or right. Yes, he was vengeful. When it feels like everything comes out of left field, it's difficult to know how to handle the situation. I didn't have access to this information, and he made sure I didn't have resources. The domestic violence shelter where my daughter and I stayed for 76 days demanded no contact, while the court system ordered otherwise. Family court judges don't comprehend narcissistic abuse and its ramifications. The thing I really miss is my innocence.

[@johnbehneman1546]

GREAT VIDEO STEPHANIE!!! THAT WAS MY SIX-YEAR MARRIAGE AS WELL. UNTIL I WALKED AWAY FROM THE ABUSE. I ALSO LEARNED THAT NARCS NEVER CHANGE. THEY DO NOT WANT TO LEARN OR GROW AS A PERSON. WHICH IS REALLY SAD IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT. THEY ARE SO LOST, THAT THEY DIO NOT KNOW THAT THEY ARE LOST. AND THEY DO NOT WANT TO FIND THEIR WAY HOME. THANKS FOR LETTING ME SHARE.

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you for very helpful advice. The goal is not to show narcisistic abuse affects us, ignore them and move on not looking back.

[@user-lm2vs1sl3v]

It’s like dealing with a child. Even when her behaviour harms her, she still does it because she knows it hurts me.

[@cyberchen4]

You are Amazing!! Everything you have said… Is spot On!! I finally understand so much more than I did! Thank You for Educating US and helping Us to understand all the commotion is NOT our fault! It’s just them projecting!! I so understand! Finally!!!!

[@heidireyes1909]

Omg .. Yes your taken on a ride and always buffering between everyone cuz he's so out of control

[@SonyFranz]

I really wish I’d known these things many years ago. I’m just recently divorced from exactly this type of person. I swear you were talking about this person like you knew him 😂. It’s been a very long and difficult 30 years and I truly have a lot of healing to do. The divorce process took much longer than it needed to because of his need to be difficult. I’m extremely happy I found your content because I don’t know how I would have made it thru this divorce and still have my sanity. I’m equipped now to put my walls up and keep my peace. Thank you!

[@yesyoga]

Omg, this is the most helpful message ever. I was deeply hurt by a tit for tat comment and rude behavior game and constant kidding that had me feeling like I was going CRAZY. My stomach hurts so much. I blocked them for the sake of my sanity. I didn’t know there were people out there like that!

[@sue4742]

I’m dealing with a narcissistic person at work. She is exactly like how you explained. She is using other techniques like gaslighting as well. Thank you very much for educating us to face better for these kind of people.❤

[@slimlittle2827]

Its like watching a 2 year old having a melt down. It was funny once i became aware of his behavior. I found the best way to deal was ignore the bad behavior .

[@debratrebbne4632]

No WORRRRDS for my gratitude! You have just helped me to finally drop the metaphorical hammer on THIS person! Thank you 🙏🏻

[@lorihoop3831]

It's so freeing....

[@bee18825]

Oh. My. God. This has just explained my entire life.

[@jimbyrne8281]

This hits home hard. My 36 yr old son has said and done the most hurtful things and understanding and responding are very important it's allowing me to be truthful with myself. I feel like I'm trying to untangle telecommunications wires tangled and wrapped up. Calmness is extremely hard but a huge factor. Thank you Stephenie I really enjoy your lessons.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

You're so welcome! Calmness is a huge practice.. you just have to take it moment by moment.

[@lesleedetchon]

My ex husband was/is a narcissist This reminds me of him and why we’re divorced

[@jimbyrne8281]

You made a wise choice! Definitely the reason I discarded. But also the reason I also woke up and realized what loving myself means Coach Stephanie does an amazing job helping us understand miro layers the NPD and thriving is possible. But my what a sticky web of evil!

[@ST-cy6we]

My wife competed about everything. I took a new job that was very high pay, but not quite what hers was. When she found out my salary, she said she had to find a new job that would pay her more. Instead of being happy for me and for us, to have the new income, she had to be competitive and always make more than me.

[@kyannakins1650]

I was with a narc who I felt was very jealous of me--I didn’t see it at first because I tried my hardest to be everything for this person and tried to do everything right so they would love me. However, when they noticed that other people liked and enjoyed me-they began always tearing me down and putting me down to the point i was cut so low that internally I felt like I just could never do anything right and no one could or would ever love me. It took me getting out of the relationship when the discarded me to realize what was actually going on

[@mickyzzzeee]

I knew it the first time I took her out and we played a game…she was so proud about the fact she beat me she went on about it for 2 years.

[@dark7angel456]

This video helps me deal with most of the people I've encountered in life so far, I always wondered how to deal with people like this

[@jimhendricks88]

This was a great reminder, and I needed to hear it. Thanks for sharing these strong presentations. Cheers!

[@MsPrecious61]

The word you used "relentless". This was what I grew up with. My Family was absolutely relentless in their arguing and abuse! It never stopped. I finally shared the Bible Scripture Mark 14:6 and blocked them

[@dark7angel456]

I totally see where these hundreds and hundreds of the narcissistic people in my life came from out nowhere. The dysfunctional people are trying to be functional by bring it down the functional people into being dysfunctional

[@pittsburghgirl9898]

I'm so glad I saw your video. My best friend for over 20 years was doing the tit for Tat game. i didn't understand it until i stood up for myself. Now we are not friends anymore. I went no contact, and it's been 4 months. It breaks my heart that a 20 year old friendship is over but i needed to set boundaries so i wouldn't get taking advantage of again. Thank you for sharing your knowledge it means alot. 🙏 ❤😀

[@mickyzzzeee]

Best way to describe it…I felt like a mouse in a maze chasing the price of cheese

[@carsonc6659]

Yeahh, I'm about to be free. Selling a home we bought together, yet, he wants me to get much less than what my share is. HORRIBLE PEOPLE.

[@DartmoorPaul]

Thank you so much for all your time you put into these videos, Stephanie. I write down now each morning a list of things you said in your videos when interacting with my narcissistic mother; stop, slow down, breathe, don’t get on the ride it’s just a child throwing a tantrum! This video completely describes my mother’s behaviour and I used to get embroiled in the drama for my whole life (I’m now 55) until 12 months ago. It’s a tough habit/trauma bond to break, but through therapy and your helpful videos as reminders and journaling I can feel more times in control than not. Thank you ❤🙏

[@George-wx5nv]

Hey there I totally agree that’s exactly what I do now I’ll up date one incident yesterday I thought I’d share this I was sitting down after a long day at work I was listening to the radio And a particular song came on with an ex s name Well the gas light started My narcissistic partner says OH I bet this song takes you back to the past 🤷‍♂️🥱 Before I knew about Stephanie’s videos. And you guys on this platform form I would have taken the bait But nowadays I just look away get up or totally ignore the fact what she has said and done this infuriates her especially when her supply and flying monkeys are not there to feed her this is just one of many tactics I learned from Stephanie and reading comments on this platform So thanks Stephanie and to all you guys I wish I knew then what I know now Stay strong 💪 everyone ❤️..

[@rascallyrabbit]

using the parable of the talents, the narcissist's talent is destroying, mocking, hindering others' talents. those who don't encourage you should be avoided.

[@michelledehoyos4103]

I would like to hear more about this. This hits the hammer right on the nail’s head!😮❤ I need advice on how to handle this. It is so difficult to withstand!

[@sendingloveandlight140]

Soooooo Incredibly Helpful! Please deep dive this. More about how to disengage gracefully. I have this with my family and friends. I tend to try to distance myself. And cut myself off but I leave the conversation feeling attacked and wounded energetically. I totally understand what is happening but I just want to feel more confident after the encounter. I hope that makes sense.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

100% it does!

[@debratrebbne4632]

THIS! I feel you and also would appreciate advice on the graceful exit…but I have a feeling it might not be possible, so fast and permanent will have do for me!😆

[@type1dialectic731]

@@debratrebbne4632 I tried so many times. Last night she started the games again and I said “this is over” and asked her not to touch me as she tried to stop me, then I blocked her number after a couple of texts. Sucks, we’ve been friends forever. But I can’t allow myself to endure this treatment anymore. I have to believe deep down she hates me. That’s the only thing that makes sense and allows me to feel okay breaking this cycle once and for all.

[@debratrebbne4632]

@@type1dialectic731 Sending you strength and blessings as you move forward🙏🏻🫶🏼. Remember YOU are #1…love yourself MORE than she “hates” you. She actually hates herself.

[@lorihoop3831]

@Debta a did a quick, forever exit. It's so peaceful now, and enough time has gone by that I have no feelings for them any longer. Do it!

[@ceciliareyes1968]

Stephanie before I found your page,,, 4 years ago I was uneducated on Myself, you were the kick start for me leaving my Ex of 10 years, we have been broken up for 2 years . Thank you

[@heidireyes1909]

It sucks cuz I'm still in the relationship cuz of kids for 30yrs. I'm trying to get out this year tho .. It's sad when you're own kids are telling you get out

[@michaelcoddington3026]

Heidi, I'm in the same situation 20 years now and we have 3 children. I said to myself that I will sacrifice my happiness for the sake of my children. You're not alone.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

A lot of people have that happen to them where they see it clearly.

[@peterknyk1942]

My kids knew and I didn’t acknowledge what they were trying to tell me!

[@jons1992]

​@@michaelcoddington3026 I tried to stay for my child. I put in 6 more years of hell. I finally decided my peace of mind was worth more than suffering another 10 years until my child was an adult. Your children see what you're going through. They might not understand it, but they know something's wrong. When you finally have the strength to end it, do it. It's very hard at first but in time it gets better. You'll be giving up a lot at first for long term gain. Good luck to you!

[@richardfrank4647]

God bless you Heidi🌈🌈

[@lwilson3005]

Yes, it's very true. I recognized it the first time he did it And then I ended the relationship at. I've been in a relationship like this before. And it doesn't end nowhere healthy so I ended it with that guy. I only knew 2 weeks of trying to communicate with and get to know. And it didn't take long for him to gaslightly and tic for tat me. Nope, I'm not going through this again. I recognize a real quick time to move on. You literally have to do a no call, no contact. With people like that, they'll eventually get the hit.

[@bmo5983]

I have just blocked the narc contact to my phone because I know I can’t play the game. I’m not made this way. This video was helpful in helping me realize this. Ty

[@mirjanan.1963]

❤❤Thank you Stephany; you did hit all my unhealed points...manipulation goes unseen...the bullying I was under for years in the apartment where I live and pay rent on time was so, so bad...that at one point I felt even suicidal.😭Survivor of a horrible personal attack at me and my family from years ago, I was finally so happy when my children found me this sweet apartment to live and get healthier. I did not know what was I getting myself into...from constant stealing, bringing back in garbage and recycling, nuggets thrown in my fridge sitting in milk, soups filled with worms, cacroches, bugs...I felt I'm losing my sanity...I couldn't sleep, I had fear of bugs, nightmares would wake me up, noises, constant and I mean, constant bullying...a boy did steal my bank card while I was getting my laundry in 5 minutes...card I did cancel but still 2 months after I couldn't get it my name card on the bank card to be delivered home. So, all kind of abuses from financial (sometimes "they"...I don't see them...would steal but then I would find money back, I guess when I use the banknote ...?bad tax games, is that it?)..emotional, mental...they would steal normal clothing and bring in either bigger size or smaller size, or put stains on it or replace it with older worn items of same style...etc., etc., I can't say "you did it, stop it.", they play invisible bullying. I feel personally better now. I went to seek counselling 4 free since I have money limited income, little did I know, but I was asked if I'm on medication when I was persistent in getting the right answer why our governements don't do better jobs protecting the citizens from these bullies. Then, omg, I see on TV she was in reality a landlord at my favorite Agenda panel. So, you Mirjana just stay sick and bullied, you're good (we know yhat) as a victim, just don't speak up, we have a landlord to help you while the counselors are sitting at the reception!, talking about the margins of human behaviour...you Mirjana don't deserve any better,...we know. That's it, when you don't have money to pay. Thank you for your videos Stephany, I wanna learn. ❤❤

[@jrr4475]

My ex would always pull tit for tat when basic consent was involved. I'm guessing he didn't like feeling rejected when I asked him nicely not to do something, then he would turn around right away and say I couldn't do the same thing/a similar thing to him. It was so obvious that for him it wasn't about being uncomfortable with the the thing I was doing, it was really just him trying to get back at me.

[@lovelylinda8891]

Same! So childish and dumb!

[@lisavansant961]

This is absolutely the truth I have documented by journaling the cycle of the person I was involved in that I now know is a narcissist. He owes me money and I've tried to get the money back but everytime I go forward he goes into the cycle of what he wants back from me for the money it's been a vicious cycle I finally gone no contact. I'm blessed that I have the luxury to do that I have no children with him. So I might as well take advantage of this blessing. Because nothing will ever change not with him. Thank you for this video Stephanie I have saved it to listen to it again and again. God bless you.

[@eddiejamesmagic4207]

I hope everyone heals well and doesnt relive the bs everyday in their mind we are all strong people and will shine through on the other side of the madness best of luck and if you can help it dont let it jade you on making great connections with good people just be careful of accepting crap people because your lonely

[@aomumoo]

I was once in a long term relationship and the tit for tat drove me insane. He told me once “I’m so tired of losing our fights! You always win!” And I replied that there are no real winners when we can’t truly resolve conflict, we were both technically losing. And then I found out he kept a list on his phone of who “won” and “lost” fights and he said it was because “he could never remember”. Again- we both lost there.

[@jag5798]

The saying “let the games begin” is said to acknowledge that this is the tactic of the person(s) your dealing with and if you don’t realize it beforehand you will have a lot of hindsight. Anyone want to see this in play should watch Michael Douglas/Demi Moore movie “DISCLOSURE.”

[@stephanieallan-dt9dd]

My mother to a tee! Always trying to trigger me into falling into her trap so she can hurt me to the core and then walk away,,

[@vilmaliobikas5895]

My ex constantly played this game!It is extremely exhausting!When I told him about it,he was denying everything I said.Thanks ,Stephanie for your wisdom!

[@igtgw]

No games here living it 🎉

[@ricardocamara1602]

There was some days where I feel down and sad but then I watch one of your videos Stephanie and you bring my spirits up thank you 😊

[@Yayme1115]

This video describes my life exactly. Demeaning and blaming emails from the man I divorced have gotten ragefully worse. My awareness of my trauma bond to the cycle has been so helpful. Breaking myself of waiting for the verbal and emotional abuse, has been eye opening. I see myself walking the pattern almost mindlessly as I make steps to changing my subconscious habits.

[@morningglory3681]

They're unjust & evil.

[@JJones-nr2pl]

Exactly correct! My "mother" and her phony "family" caused me massive losses; too many to list here. They get the law on you and then you are finished! Derogatory records are written and maintained and you are reduced to someone with less status than the village idiot. 🤪 The "family" court works closely with the phony psychiatric system and is used to ruin you. Narc family is the WORST!! GET AWAY FROM THEM IF YOU ARE IN A SIMILAR SITUATION AND NEVER CONTACT THEM EVER AGAIN! THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!

[@JJones-nr2pl]

Narc "family" causing you problems are usually after a goal. That is almost always control of you so they can separate you from your personal or real property 😈😈😈😈😈.

[@nicholecornes1915]

They tear us up !

[@hiddenmeeh]

Great video, thank you Stephanie :)

[@Lorinisborin]

My alcoholic mother and narcissist brother both resent me because I kicked them out of my house. In return, my mother came out with “ I slept with your fiancé” a week after we got engaged. My mother and my brother wanted me to believe it so bad, because they wanted to ruin a happy moment in my life. At first it really did get to me (as I think it would anyone) but after dealing with it for a year straight and getting no answers, I just decided it was easier to cut off contact with them both completely. My moms story changed about 10 times during the year and my brother decided to tell my whole family about it. It really broke me, I believe and trust my fiancé 100%. Unfortunately they decided to use him to get to me. I no longer react to their behavior and don’t put anymore energy into the topic. Although I will admit it was tough, no one would ever want to think about that happening. But once I realized what they were trying to do it was easy for me to take a step back and not let them get in my head like they so desperately wanted to. My brother told me “just accept that it happened”, I mean I could if it actually DID. But when I asked my mom questions or wanted to talk about it she wouldn’t give me any information just say “you’re just mad because it’s true” , she had no remorse for hurting me and still doesn’t. I cried so hard the day she told me, showed up at her house and she had no emotion on her face. Instead she called the police to make me leave. I often wonder if I could ever forgive her for this but so far the answer is no. I don’t want to admit that I hate her, but I really do. The intentional amount of pain she caused me continuously for a whole year and even still now is something I can’t and won’t understand. Your videos have helped me gain insight on this whole narcissistic behavior which I had no idea I was even a part of until recently. I’ve learned a lot but I just wish I could accept it easier than I am. When it’s your own mother it hurts deeply. I hope one day I can fully heal from this, but I have to admit I am struggling.

[@kristelwalton3141]

Healing from co-dependency is the answer and you WILL get there! Keep on believing that these toxic antics don't have to be part of your future. Affirmations, body awareness, quiet time for yourself, say no to anyone who is not lifting you up, and recognizing the way anxiety shows in your feelings. You will heal and be part of the drama free club!!

[@mib4uk]

I hope you can get to the place that you can forgive your mother, your brother too. It's not about whether she deserves it or not, or even whether she's asked for it. Forgiveness is for you, not her. The ability to forgive allows you to free yourself from the bonds that she has you in. It's not easy, but it is possible. It is liberating. I know, because I've been there. My wife of 29 years ran off with a narcissist. It took some time, but with God's help I was able to truly forgive them both. Neither ever apologized or asked to be forgiven. It doesn't matter. The forgiveness was for me!

[@35itsracer]

Right on. You really nailed it!

[@roobeebakes]

Thank you ❤

[@sand0077]

Very enlightening content, thank you!

[@amybostic1439]

I KNOW I was meant to see this today. Thank you so much

[@lorithrall9847]

Hey Steph! I am for sure in a relationship with a narcissist. We have been separated for over a year and going through a divorce. We have a daughter who is seven. I went through his games of being told I was worthless and no good. I became a shell list person no backbone. He finally discarded me. And then the game was on. Running around telling people how crazy I was. Then we played the game let me improve myself and change for you Mr. narcissist so we can fix things. But he never was interested in improving or getting better. So then he played the game of let me talk and discuss things with my daughter so I can leave out my wife and she goes crazy because it’s so disrespectful and manipulative. He plays the game that he’s Mr. Disney and all of a sudden instead of neglecting our child for five years suddenly he has all the Time in the world to pick her up from school to take her to school to have lunch with her to coach her soccer team and we constantly play games where oh well I am so supportive and you’re not . He’s played the game where he enlist the flying monkeys to check on me and troll me and tell him that he’s so wonderful and I am so terrible and crazy yet my family will not allow this abuse to go on.

[@cr4228]

Just say to yourself: I'm Flippin the switch to off. Forg3t him completely. He will dig his own downfall. Work on yoy based on your truths. Not his. Zero attention to ANYTHING HE SAYS TO U OR ABOUT U. ZERO. DONT ENGAGE ANYONE WHO IS ON HIS TEAM. NO ONE.🎉❤

[@lorithrall9847]

@@cr4228 thank you for support

[@mmess8585]

Very well said!

[@raynita27]

I love your videos. Your voice is so easy to listen to and you make total sense 💪🏽🙏🏽

[@anneaires3984]

Yes, this has helped me immensely......it's neverending until you end it within yourself, many thanks, fabulous channel!!!!

[@George-wx5nv]

Wow ty Stephanie another great video ❤

[@laurengarrett9005]

Best explanation of how they feed off your emotions. It never made sense before. Now I get it.

[@joelmccoy9969]

Excellent video; it actually explains the internal dynamics. I will be watching this video again!

[@froggygreen2876]

Whilst on the phone, I have hung up on boyfriend a few times to escape hearing the way he spioke to me. The other day I didn't do something that he requested and at night we started to talk about it on the phone. I said I was allowed to say No and he said then he is allowed to hang up on me, so he did. I have not reached out to him at all in the couple of days since. When I hung up on him, it was to protect myself from being spoken to harshly. When he hung up on me, it was because I set a boundary for myself

[@msc8245]

Yep!!!!! Great video

[@insoromanoworries7923]

This video is right on time. I went no contact with a covert narcissist person. She was furious for cutting her off. She is now staying temporarily at my neighbors house to house and dog sit. She knows I have a walking relationship with their dog. She has always been jealous of this dog and our relationship. Ever since they left, she won't let me walk the dog. The sad thing is that's, it's a big dog and needs all the walks and this person can't provide. The neighbors left under the impression that I will be coming to help. Unfortunately, she is punishing me and using this poor animal as a pawn. I'm so sad about it.

[@kristelwalton3141]

Once you save yourself from the drama circle, all the other things will fall into place.

[@ellien875]

I literally had finished a whole war of an argument with a narcissist whom were playing the victim. She had a whole group gang up on me too. But damn, I owned that situation so well. I played the grey rocking method and I was EXTREMELY Firm with my boundaries giving clear logic and details and continuously asserted myself showing no sign of discouragement. Eventually she knew she couldn’t do anything and gave up. But the whole situation actually traumatized me and I am taking lots of time to heal from it. But now I know not even a narcissist can beat me and I can handle it if it happens again in which I truly hope I don’t need to. I’ve come so far and I’m tougher than I think I am ❤

[@user-gl2ps6ui8p]

Thank you! 💜

[@debbielotus1073]

I can see it and it is extremely triggering. He knows exactly what he is doing and plays innocent.

[@glendapeglau4694]

Oh my gosh!!! Ding ding ding. Winner winner chicken dinner. You just sooooo perfectly described a person I've had to deal with daily for a while. Could you plz plz go even deeper on this .. wow. It's amazing how perfectly you know this. Thank you

[@discopotato675]

Oh boy... This should be good

[@SnagglieFang]

Spot on.

[@aliciawolff1546]

Nail on the head!!!💯

[@_Horizontal_Relation]

Thank You

[@hemanvirdi]

Great video!

[@rodbryant1928]

Very true and wise

[@gladysserfontein]

Oh man wer were u 30 yrs ago wow crystal clear to me now immediately u transform me with new everything strength, courage, power, wisdom, powerful video tx, tx, tx😊😢❤

[@feliciaangel7041]

Thankyou so much ❤

[@MrsLC-tp8oj]

This sounds so familiar to my 9 yr situation. He said if I'm quite and don't complain about the gambling til 4 and 7am the going cold for some hrs the going missing every other weekend at midnight then popping back up in the am like nothing happened if I don't speak on those things that I will get anything I want from him. If I say anything he gets upset and turns it on me. This information is spot on when u get upset and go off it's twisted on u the best thing is to stay calm and have a plan to remove yourself something which is something I have been struggling to do so I changed my number. I am very sad and miss the fantasy of the relationship and don't know what to do so used to the cycle of on and off. I am trying to get through this it is hard I don't wish this on anyone.

[@JessicaRash-sz1xw]

Thank you

[@bonniehafeman9757]

IT IS A GAME. THANKS. AMEN.

[@albeejohnson3201]

It's the 1 up with me thank you.

[@anthonyiacobucci3652]

The authentic self has been blocked off because it was wounded deeply at an early age, but yet the authentic self is in there and needs nurturing, so the narcissist uses the new false self to try to meet the original needs of the real self that has been blocked off but is still in deep pain.

[@veep5712]

So on point. Thank you. They are deeply insecure, their criminal harassment and a list of 20 crimes, multiple counts. But they just wont stop. The legal system favors narcissistic abusers, has given a free pass to the criminals.

[@veep5712]

They seem to have no identity other than harassing and trying to destroy others. Cease and Desist.

[@veep5712]

From what I understand it is a destructive rotten couple behind this. They have no soul amongst the two of them. No interest whatsoever. Couples are not a "couple" if they need more people in their bs. Just predators on society.

[@veep5712]

Those with emeshment trauma are the most hideous stalkers. Unfortunately law enforcement and the weaponized legal system are often manipulated into further harming victims of harassment and stalking.

[@veep5712]

These are the kind of horrible couples you read about occassionally like in The Mirror or The Sun with 40 bodies in their backyard. That's the level of dysfunction.

[@tmitz73]

Strong!

[@ninjagirlnomeansno9403]

Thank you so much for this Stephanie, Absolutely tremendous, You're absolutely beautiful, I see what he's doing, I will not be manipulated, Pressured into a relationship, Peace, love to you and everyone, Thank you universe 💞🐉🧿♾️💎🦄🐺👽😁🐴🤍🤍🌌⚘️😀🐈‍⬛✨️🛸🥰😃💫⚘️

[@laurasoriano8395]

Yes so true

[@nataliemyers7348]

This video was great and I love the way u explain this nonsense they do. I have learned to manage the narc in my life for now. I can see how he wants a reaction good or bad just to feel valid. It's so sad how empty these folks are and what they have to do just to feel good for a day. It has to be a new toy or shoes or clothes, or causing harm to others emotionally mentally verbally or they will b super nice and helpful only to mess w ur mind and completely turn it around. Now that I know all about the game I feel like I'm winning. I just smile and stay quiet where as I usually would put up a huge fight go off or defend myself. Only for them to turn it around and act as if I'm insane and started all the problems. Lol

[@hildesolstraleaksnes8390]

If he is afraid of my light then it is goodby.We lift each other up 💛✨️

[@tahseenkouser3778]

❤thank you