Noel Gallagher, His Abusive Father & The Mind-Blowing Meaning Behind 'D'you Know What I Mean?'

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[@LadyLuck13]

I met Noel in 2000 on a night out. Once he found out I worked with vulnerable teens he told me about his abusive father. This was a really deep conversation in King Tuts WahWah Hut in Glasgow. He told me stuff I'll never divulge. He wasn't playing at Tuts, he was there supporting young/new acts. I had never liked him or Oasis and I told him that but he just laughed and took it in good stead. We had a great night and he gave me his number so he could meet the kids I worked with. Changed my opinion of him forever after that. He's a good bloke

[@TdT2211]

Did you ever call him?

[@LadyLuck13]

@@TdT2211 I did a few times but his assistant Kat wouldn't pass on messages. She was a right cheeky 🐄 tbh. The kids I worked with were gutted I must say

[@Faithnomore227]

Very cool to read this. Yes he seems like a great bloke when you strip away his ladish brovado.

[@LadyLuck13]

@@Faithnomore227 I honestly was not a fan of him before I met him. He pretended to strangle me when I told him that..lol He definitely changed my mind though after our convo that night.

[@kaleahcollins4567]

Your crazy Wonderwall is amazing champaign supernova is boss

[@patkeohane5005]

I grew up in Birmingham in the 70s. Irish family too. It was horrific. I relate to everything the lads have said about the violence in their lives. I'm 52 now and I still get depression. My dad got sober before he died. My mother is toxic though and I can't be around her. My little brother is in prison and my other brother is dead. I have my own family now and I love them. Sorry for the sob story. I just wanted to share because a younger me might read this and relate. Get out of there. Make something of yourself. Put it behind you.

[@luminyam6145]

I am so sorry you went through this and relieved that you have a supportive family now.

[@catherinecastle8576]

I know exactly what you're talking about...I think all of it made me a kinder person, but, I also have all kinds of health issues related to C-PTSD.

[@sandy-quimsrus]

Strange to think how different life was at time. Nowadays kids get naughty chairs and a whole lot of love mostly. Bet you're a great parent though, giving your kids all the love you wish you got. I know that's what I've tried to do with mine.

[@patkeohane5005]

@@sandy-quimsrus I prayed for a happy family every night as a child. I left school at 15 and I moved out when I was 16 years old. By that time we were living in Ireland. I went back to the UK and started working construction. I trained for 2 years as a carpenter and when I was 18 I was made a foreman. I started my own business when I was 25. By that stage I was married and divorced. Anyway I did well. I also met a beautiful, wonderful woman and we've been together for 26 years now. I got my happy family in the end. I have 3 great kids, all grown up now and doing well. I have a good relationship with my little sister who lives in the States. But I had to cut the rest of my family out of my life. I honestly couldn't cope with the toxic negativity. There was no love at all. Only hurt. So I'm good now. As good as I can be given I have a mother and older sister and brother who have hurt me at every opportunity. Thanks for your message. I don't know why I posted my comment and I was going to delete it. But I left it up because I know that there are others out there who have lived the same shit I have. I guess my message is that there is hope. We can change things.

[@patkeohane5005]

@@catherinecastle8576 I'm sorry to hear that.

[@judithfrank607]

What an intelligent, heartfelt clarification on this artist's music. Thank you. I am a 73-year-old American woman who has not exposed herself to Oasis' music. I will now. Again, thank you.

[@JamesHargreavesGuitar]

Thanks Judith. I recommend their second album 'Whats The Story Morning Glory' as a great place to start - particularly tracks 3 & 4 👍👍

[@Simon1985_]

@@JamesHargreavesGuitar track 5 “don’t look back in anger” one of my favourite songs ever.

[@aidantanner2059]

@@Simon1985_ don't look back in anger is track 4 I think

[@Simon1985_]

@@aidantanner2059 could well be lol, been years since I’ve played a CD 👍

[@ACNC1]

@@JamesHargreavesGuitar whatabout the morse code?

[@annawalsh8880]

This is why I love Noel. He doesn't need to justify himself or bow down to anyone let alone his abusive father. There isn't a hint of self pity in him it's his instinct to do better for himself and I respect that. He's been mistaken for being arrogant but he's not. He just believed he deserved better and he went out and there got it, good for him!

[@adtballoon]

He is arrogant. But everything else you said is also true. I don't blame him either. I respect him.

[@samanthaswade7053]

100% he's confident w a good sense of humor, both of them. Not genuinely arrogant. Genuinely lovely and witty. People are just stupid.

[@lesliehilesgardener6959]

What pain can cause one to do

[@stephendodge4086]

It is so sad how much abuse goes on behind closed doors, I am soon to be 70 years old and I still feel the hurt and pain of my father hitting me, telling me that no one liked me, and telling me that I was an embarrassment to the family just because as a child I had a bad stammer. I take my hat off to Noel for how he has handled all that has happened to him and how he has done so well for himself.

[@sherylpayne5851]

I'm so sorry Stephen. It can be frustrating to a parent when they don't know how to fix their child but that is never a reason to take it out on them. I know they have often learned that from their parents. My grandmother told me she was beaten badly at five for picking up a clothing line clip that belonged to a neighbor. She was told she was a thief and bad. I helped raise a child that stuttered and thank God the school found her a great speech therapist and she quickly overcame the issue. I'm sorry that wasn't available for you. My heart hurts for you. You deserved better.

[@stephendodge4086]

@@sherylpayne5851 Thank you Sheryl for your kind words, my stammer did go away but, in recent years it has come back but, being the age I am now I don't care what other ignorant people think as it's their problem, not mine.

[@sherylpayne5851]

@@stephendodge4086 That is so true.

[@juliette2439]

My father was emotionally abusive to me ..I was adopted and always felt his disdain and dislike for me

[@sherylpayne5851]

@@juliette2439 How heartbreaking. I pray Jesus helps heal your pain. Rejection is so hard. Just know it was never about you but their own unhealed wounds.

[@BrendanJSmith]

Tommy is the reason for Noel's cynical and bitter attitude and Liam's wild and careless attitude. All their personal problems and problems with each other lead back to him.

[@malcomgladstone]

yes the dad is English though , right ? Just the mum is Irish.

[@TheMountainHare]

@@malcomgladstone No Tommy Gallagher is Irish, from Co Meath.

[@silvio.r8443]

Noel is the splitting image of him..

[@lemsip207]

Liam would have witnessed the violence, and that would have affected him, too. Noel would have resentment towards Liam for not getting beaten as he was.

[@jimbyrne1844]

You understand Gallagher is NOT an hinglish surname right?

[@marykelly4074]

What an absolute swine for a father. I'm from an Irish Catholic background too and acknowledge how dominant ' the man of the house 'can be. Its just really sad and explains why the boys come across so aggressive. They may not see it, but they have been damaged. God love their mother. A strong Mayo woman.

[@josullivan8729]

My grandmothers name is Mary Kathleen Sullivan. Her mother Kelly….. surname …

[@buttercxpdraws8101]

@@podthesod Right? A strong woman would have left him and protected her children regardless of the Catholic Church. I’m not blaming her, she was clearly a victim as well, but I wouldn’t necessarily use the word ‘strong’ to describe her. It diminishes the strength of women who do summon the courage to leave situations like that.

[@johnjones.3427]

It's scary when you're a little boy & he's a much bigger than an average man,i grew with a father off his head drunk,sober he was fine...smart,very hard worker,ran a construction business,treated his workers to free drinks at the closest pub after work till closing time,then home he,d come & carry on.what amazes me is that I've come to understand it has gone on so long, domestic violence abuse is still rife & it's never been addressed until now,it has does create a huge problem as a whole for societies all over the world,a that go thru it end up drinking,drugs,crime & prison ending up trapped in the system that let it go on all this time,I can't speak for adult women & they distress it cause them,women need to be reinforced,have help at hand,a safe haven to take their kids while it's worked out,the perp is dealt with.

[@christineperez7562]

@@podthesod Yeah because no one created everything you see. lol There is God and the evidence is everywhere.

[@bofhzerozero777]

@@christineperez7562 chill Christine. Or assume what you are saying: your god either exists (and created everything and witnesses millions of children suffering undeservedly), or he is an imaginary figure made up to keep your head down. Diversify your reading.

[@lunaumbra]

I think this is the crux of why the brothers find it hard to get along. It's sounds like their dad placed a wedge between them by favouring one son over the other. Abuse is long lasting and they prob don't even know themselves why they are at odd's with each other.

[@pennyc7064]

Spot on!. I can so relate to your comment.

[@lemsip207]

I bet there was a lot of resentment from Noel towards Liam.

[@sarty88]

I relate to this so much.

[@JustAnotherBlader]

Number one misunderstood thing about Noel G… people don’t know how terrible his childhood was and his persona is clearly a self defense mechanism. Despite his enormous ego, one thing you’ll never see him brag about is how he literally saved his entire family.

[@LSUOdyssey]

Kinda does on this song 😄

[@floatyjam]

Noel's mom had to leave his dad at one point

[@lemsip207]

Liam comes across as much more egotistical and brattish than Noel. He was the 'golden child' in the family. Noel suffered the most abuse followed by Paul who played the game at home.

[@Maya220100]

​​​@@lemsip207 Still. He witnessed and saw his brother being abused day and night. DO you think it is healthy for a little boy? Do you think it is not abuse as well? It happened to a friend of mine. He saw his older brother being bit up and was absolutely terrified and traumatised hearing his older brother being kicked and beatten and crying while hiding in his bedroom. Plus he had to face and fight Noël's jalousy for his life.

[@lemsip207]

@Maya220100 No, but I meant relatively unharmed not actually unharmed. He would have heard the rows between his parents as well. I saw children slapped by the teacher in school. It traumatised me, but not as much as it did the children being slapped.

[@simonrichards6739]

He tried to get served in an Irish pub I worked at a few years ago in Didsbury, south Manchester. He came in all over the place, I refused to serve him (I’d recently read the books and knew what he was like). I’d met Peggie and she was absolutely wonderful! He tried kicking off and said “do you know who my sons are”? I laughed and replied “indeed and if they were here they’d hit you not me”!

[@cocokitten2252]

Karmas a b**** Tommy

[@Fpclark]

Good job👏

[@ottson]

Legend

[@SuperAnimelover100]

Good on you ! :)

[@Lorenzo-cp7qs]

He got served in my local last night fine and was polite lol.

[@niviamendez1958]

Wow, I had no idea Noel Gallagher went through this. Good thing he discovered music and was able to use it as an outlet. He did well for himself.

[@lemsip207]

I had an idea that his father was abusive but didn't know the details of what happened.

[@ccasey1904]

I too grew up abused mentally and emotionally. Some people should never be allowed to have children.

[@kw2142]

Agree with this

[@jasonbarron3047]

Me too casey had a narcissistic mother who hated me and shamed me and totally screwed up my adult life to this day. Confidence shattered it's truly shit sometimes mate x hope you find peace x jase

[@Catherinetatethefkingliberty]

How to sift out those who make good or bad parents?

[@angelarobins2084]

So was I and agree totally

[@dicemofo4522]

Yup. My parents sucked ass

[@kathyh4804]

This is so hard to watch 😢 It brings back MY childhood as a battered abused little girl. My “father” did the same to me, he would pass me in the street (I was 11) in his beautiful car that I couldn’t go in because “I was “dirty” whatever THAT meant! I’d hitchhike and he and my brother would wave and laugh as they drive by! He would never give me a lift, he said “put your short shorts on, you’ll get a ride”! What kind of father is that!? The abuse was only to me, not my siblings. I never understood why God would allow my life to be so horrible abs why I was worthless. Now that I’m older, I see that it turned for the good of others, I have a heart for the abused, have most of my life. I have a discernment that I probably wouldn’t have so fine tuned had I not suffered so much. Now I can help other children and have Thank you for this video

[@loracardwell575]

I'm sorry for what happened to you. Please never give up on God. I was Catholic but God isn't a denomination , He is real and He is just waiting for us to ask Him to have mercy on us and come into our lives. He does love us. I would never have been found by Jesus if I had stayed in a Catholic church,( Not that anyone could) because they never taught us how to have a relationship with Him and that Jesus is the only way to God and not by giving your sins to a priest. I don't know why many of us suffer but we do.I have gone through plenty of suffering. But God isn't the cause of it. I pray God answers any questions you have about Him . You are such a beautiful person to have gone through what you went through and now help children. God bless you. And maybe one day... ask Jesus any questions you have for Him. He's just waiting for us with a merciful plea!

[@lindab8397]

Bless you ,,,,,, that was just as hard to read your account , as it was listening to Noel and Liam and Paul’s . Poor peggy I can’t imagine what she felt knowing her boys were being beaten.

[@josiecamilo7098]

@@loracardwell575 exactly 💯 God can not be blamed for what man does.

[@lindab8397]

@@loracardwell575 your story is just awful. And who knows what and why he did it for. Do you still see and speak to your bro, if you do , he would be in another place now , he is grown up I presume . Guilty for what he did to you, by laughing ,and not protecting you. He will have to live with that for the rest of his life….. THE GUILT …. Maybe he is a father himself now, and he will have protection feelings for his own children. This will make him realise how bad it was for you . I hope now that you are a grown up, you can let the past go. You never have to be in that place again , and you can as you say , help others ,by knowing what it’s like for them. Humans are shocking creatures , and it’s them who will be the end of life as we know it ….. 😕😕😕😖 🌸🌺🌸🌸🌺🙋‍♀️

[@loracardwell575]

@@lindab8397 Hi, that is Kathy's story...😊 but I agree 💯

[@johnnyd1611]

This is a fantastic interpretation. I was obsessed with oasis from 16 till my 20s. I’m 42 now and still love the songs and memories of how oasis captured my generation. I really don’t care if oasis reform and perform ever again. But I really hope Noel and Liam can be mates again. That would be better than any concert or gig. Stay Young, Live Forever. ✌️

[@jmc7504]

same age,

[@Miamiborne1969]

Oh my goodness this made me cry. This is awful beyond belief, I myself was abused as a child but this is much worse. Thanks for sharing this and how it relates to that song.

[@rosemarrypolack5708]

Noel is a beautiful soul and a wonderful musician. Music helped him survive.

[@vinslungur]

It makes perfect sense why they were angry and felt threatened all the time. Noel was brutalized by the person who was meant to protect him. Trust is not part of his vocabulary.

[@edvinparmeza1298]

This analysis helped me understand why Gallagher brothers always have that cocky attitude. It's so sad to know that they were abused, but it's good to see that they successfully left that life behind and built a new one for themselves and their families.

[@lemsip207]

I used to think their cockiness was media driven or their record company told them to act like that. Noel Gallagher was actually a stand-in for Damon Albarn as it was Blur Tony Blair wanted as a celebrity endorsement.

[@MP-po6fj]

​@@lemsip207fare points.. I think it was a shit childhood front their father that they were hiting out and not giving a toss. Thet proved their owl wank of their father so wrong that they could be successful and worthy... SO proud of them and their self belief.. Ego driven or not

[@themichael3105]

I’ve never met my alcoholic father. I’m 46 now, and it still sticks with me everyday. But I don’t walk around and mope about it. This song always helped me out cause I could feel what Noel was expressing. Especially, “I met my maker, I made him cry.” Great vid, mate. Cheers

[@boysrus61]

I'm old. I've never heard this song, it isn't my genre. But I was so touched by your interpretation and had to find it and listen to it straight thru. Thank you. What a talented singer and songwriter Noel Gallagher is.

[@juvguimaraes5370]

No way! Oasis is the best Rock from Manchester

[@roddymcniven8734]

@@juvguimaraes5370 na

[@sarahgt1533]

I have no idea of your age but your using the internet and taking an interest in a genre that isn't to your taste. Age is a number and also a frame of mind so I would say your about 21 + vat. 😁

[@DenKulesteSomFins]

My favorite line has always been "I met my maker, I made him cry", because I thought it referred to him spitting in the face of destiny. He was always the underdog; abused by his father, struggled in school, stammered, not the best looking of the brothers, a failed amateur musician. He must have felt like a nobody in his mid-twenties before Oasis. He then became one of the biggest British working class heroes and rock icons. I think your interpretation is probably more likely to be Noel's intention, but I prefer reading it this way. Death of the author, eh?

[@tortoisetamer486]

He must have felt, like a nobody 🤔 He was travelling the world with the inspiral carpets in his mid twenties, seemed like he was living the life🤯most guys would have, given their right arm to be a roadie in a successful band, traveling the world 🤔

[@Ami483]

great comment, absolutely true

[@mrkipling2201]

I don’t know if he would have felt like a nobody before Oasis. Maybe before he became a roadie for the Inspiral Carpets though?? I’ve heard him say quite a few times that he felt like he had it made when he got that job. He was travelling all around the world, getting decent money, free drugs and alcohol without having to do that much work, according to him!!

[@wallybingbang4350]

@@MoonwalkerWorshiper Correct it is Liam's band - Noel joined last and took over

[@denzil_red]

@@tortoisetamer486 He didn't do that out of school though, he had a job at the gas board. The roadie job was the beginning of his life changing tho

[@DanielHillCoaching]

Fabulous breakdown of the lyrics James… Noel and Liam are not passive personalities like Paul is. Their childhood with Tommy was diabolical and abusive, whilst unconditionally loving and nurturing with Peggy. Those boys rose up and faced the music - literally. Part of Noel’s character is full of fight, hard grafting, as well as being very optimistic, glass half full, creating possibilities, hope, adventure is in your hands. He’s a counterphobic enneagram type 6 with a strong 7 wing with a hell of a lot of great Gemini traits of being daring, bold, innovative, creative, outspoken, lively and active. Liam’s an enneagram type 1, anger always burning away on the back burner ready to boil over at any minute and a Virgo too which is a double dose of perfectionism and wanting things to be right. I love how Peggy still lives in the same house she moved the boys to in 1984 in Burnage and they still go back regularly to visit, although sadly not Noel and Liam together. Oasis though are a true story of working class heroes. I hope for Peggy’s sake they reconcile before the end of her life. Anyway, really great synopsis, I’ll never listen to DYKWIM again in the same way ever again 👏🏻 🎶🎸

[@gugao.doidao]

Liam a type 1? Isn't he more of a type 7?

[@DanielHillCoaching]

@@gugao.doidao in my humble opinion I'd say no, I sense that he's a 1. When 1's are out of their ego they become more fun loving and adventurous - hence you see the 7. He is so much more chilled out these days and happier, despite holding the type 1 gripe that he was wronged as "Noel left Oasis" in his mind. Just like the type 1 of Roy Keane holding his gripe with Alex Ferguson (ex Man Utd boss). 1's struggle so hard to forgive. 7's find it easier although it's still a challenge. For me also the greatest indicator of him being a type 1 is what happens when he's in stress, and he goes to the moodiness of the 4 like all 1's do. This is ultimately what broke Oasis in the end, his big dramas along with his temper, and the French gig that-never-was with the smashing of the guitars was something Noel couldn't deal with one second longer. The 6 of Noel will do everything to avoid "chaos". I'm a 6 and I'd say James is too, but both phobic type 6's as opposed to Noel's counter-phobic 6 personality type. Also 1's are in the need to be in control as they are by nature one third of the control types, and although Noel's a counter-phobic 6 - a security type - they tend to resemble type 8's and Liam would complain about Noel being so controlling and almost a little Hitler, which ironically was Hitler's personality - a counter-phobic enneatype 6 - although he had more of a 5 wing as opposed to Noel's optimistic and upbeat 7 wing. Could I be wrong, of course, but my intuition says he's a type 1 all the way and I've thought that for many, many years now... I'm more than happy to hear your thoughts.

[@Rulito1111]

Liam are virgo not libra my friend

[@DanielHillCoaching]

@@Rulito1111 ah you're right, thanks he's on the cusp but a Virgo indeed. A double dose of perfectionism then, on the enneagram and in astrology. No wonder he's got that snarl and so much anger! I will re-edit my comment, thanks...

[@Rulito1111]

@@DanielHillCoaching what it would be if liam and lennon will meet each other? Virgo and libra have a good relationship? But when they fight the fight right? The same like tauro and gemini

[@DHILL82]

What a bloody shame Credit to Noel to get on with life and making most of what he had. Absolute hero x

[@MP-po6fj]

100pc so proud of them and were they came from beaten down with their Dad.. They. Proved the old. Man they were so smart xxx

[@bravesoul5743]

Childhood trauma will never leave a person-- ever!

[@sharondoherty682]

That's so not true - it takes personal work but healing is possible

[@Suzibird307]

As a mum myself, a past victim of abuse and mostly an Oasis fan until the end, this made me cry. I knew of the abuse, but not in such great detail. I just really wish that I could tell Noel, & Liam too, how sorry I am that they were put through that.

[@susangarvey9415]

This story sounds so familiar to victims of domestic violence, I, like you suffered it for a while, by the time I had my second child I'd had enough, my ex hounded me until he finally got sent to prison for his actions, whilst he was away I met someone bigger and tougher than him. These children grow up and either are like their fathers, or like my children totally different. I hope you had a better life after you got away from the violence, and the Gallagher brothers reconcile and make peace with themselves.

[@jesterr7133]

I grew up in a similar situation to Noel. When you endure something like that, you have to learn to create a tough exterior so that no one can ever hurt you. I think that is the key to a lot of Noel's lyrics in many of his songs. He puts on this tough exterior, then writes about these deeply personal parts of his life, but structures the lyrics in a way that no one will know exactly what he is talking about. That is why he never discusses the meanings of his songs, or simply lies about them. He has to maintain that tough exterior so that he never appears vulnerable. "Champagne Supernova" is a perfect example. He is asking Melissa why she couldn't have been there to stop them from getting high before that gig, and he is warning her that he may overdose one day. It is a deeply personal song, and that is why he always lies about it. This song is very similar. He is telling a deeply personal story, but made the lyrics vague enough so that only people who had been through it would know what he was talking about. That is why the title is "D'ya Know What I Mean?". Of course, he will never admit it.

[@sharondoherty682]

Whose Melissa?

[@AnElusiveButterfly]

I absolutely love Noel's solo work. I had no idea about his traumatic childhood. It explains a lot. Thank you for explaining the Gallagher brothers background.

[@catherinebrennan8133]

Never knew either

[@helenferullo5706]

I grew up in the North of England near Manchester. My parent’s were Irish and my father was abusive ….. especially when drinking. I married an abusive alcoholic, and even though I did leave the situation, I am scarred from the experience and will be the rest of my days. Not only was I influenced by Catholicism, but I was dependent on my husband not only financially, but also emotionally and culturally too. At the time it was a male dominated society and women were relegated to the kitchen and taught to be passive towards their husband. I was able to graduate college and get my social work license. For many years I worked with victims of domestic violence snd during that time I have seen many of societal changes. Women now have choices, help is available, and the stigmas of guilt, shame and helplessness are no longer. Bless you all.

[@hazeltrott4490]

😂😂I've met the dad recently had photos done has well ❤ it's still there dad after all !!!!!

[@hazeltrott4490]

I was in hospital with Jim and 18 other people done 10weeks in there and so did Tommy, whot a lovely man, even seen the 2 photos he carries in he's wallet and a £5 note...

[@LAllan-ls5er]

He is a metaphysical poet . Able to be read at several levels.

[@Sickiey]

"You can not think about it to deeply or it will drive you f**king mad, " Quote

[@zed4225]

Facts, lock it in a box in your mind, don't unlock it.

[@matthewstromer]

My mind is blown. I will never hear this song the same way. It’s always been my favorite of their catalog. Well done sir! 👏🏻

[@alexm2930]

10 days later I can tell you for me this is maybe the most impactful video you’ve made and while the subject matter is powerful, it’s actually through your video style that makes this so memorable.

[@amvasconcellos]

This song just grew even more on me now. Maybe it isn't 100% accurate or even wasn't a conscious effort, but how it connects to his story made it larger then it was. Thank you for that, James!

[@Peaceharmony-x3r]

I wish I had Noel's courage. I was abused by ALL my family. It never occurred to me to get on a bus or train out of that toxic environment as soon as school was over. I felt too trapped and helpless. I still carry the scars at 64, but I am in therapy.

[@deadpoetstodd]

So sorry to hear that. Hope you’re doing well

[@hinkhall5291]

Noel has to be the most decisive middle child ever. Something which is rare.

[@SarahWilson-fv5vo]

I'm the middle child and most decisive of my siblings. As a middle child you learn to fly under the radar, diplomacy and self sufficiency. I'm so pleased to be the middle child.

[@deborahcurtis1385]

Me too. Although despite what had gone on, I once saved my father's life. He eventually repaid me by being his usual controlling self, and by removing me from his will, because I refused to pretend and play happy families. I put limits on what I would tolerate. He hated my independence. I only intervened to save him because I didn't want a preventable death on my conscience, if that makes sense. I would do it again to save a life. He had more chances to redeem himself and he still behaved like an a**hole but that was his choice and I exercised mine. I didn't call him 'Dad', I called him by his first name. That would really irk him but he was no father to me. He called me to let me know I was 'on my own' about the will, which obviously I had always been. I said 'don't worry, with any luck I'll be dead first!' and went on to enumerate my many auto immune disorders brought on by stress. He was really pissed off because he wanted to hurt me, but I'd seen that coming from a mile off. LOL! I would say however that in his day there wasn't the services available for alcoholism and mental illness. So the disinhibition of alcohol combined with the misogynistic society and the power of being able to do what he liked behind closed doors was a volatile combination. He hated me pathologically, and my siblings are all at each other's throats. They hate me the most because I broke out of it and had minimal contact for my whole life when I was old enough to do so. They say 'you abandoned us' which wasn't quite right, I tried to help them but they chose addiction and selfishness and expected me to serve them, while they hated and ridiculed me. They still do but it's their problem.

[@fullbeans983]

This song always meant a lot to me, always will. As an 11 year old boy who always had to think his way out of bad situations, I fully understand why this song resonated with me. At 13 years old I remember being told I was mature like a 30 year old. Not to say I didn't have a childhood, I just had no choice but to grow out of my childhood faster. "Everything I ever wanted in life was coming out of the speaker"

[@IMightSay]

I’m an Oasis fan since 1995 (I’m 34 now, just missed peak Oasis by a few years), saw them in 2008 in the US. I’m very knowledgeable.... but you always bring in something interesting, with fantastic insight, unique, and great presentation. This is one of your best, truly moving... I was getting chills at the end. Seriously. This was amazing insight. Don’t ever stop doing these Oasis videos. I hope you’re monetized.

[@FuzzCookies]

Great vid. I'd say the way I interpret the chorus given the context you've given is Noel being surrounded by his family at some point and reflecting with pride and accomplishment at how they're happy and thriving without his father and it being down to him. Can just picture Noel, beer in hand, sat in a garden watching them all and thinking "Yeah, all my people right here, right now. D'you know what I mean?"

[@JamesHargreavesGuitar]

Good call

[@emeraldeyes3338]

The damage caused is absolutely heartbreaking, it never leaves you any kind of abuse, growing up in the 60s and 70s was an extremely mysogonistic society and abuse towards children was the norm particularly in Ireland with the Catholic Church and its enablers. I hate going back there as the memories are horrible. No wonder Noel won't take any prisoners, I now understand why, the flash backs must be horrendous.

[@deborahcurtis1385]

It gets harder as you get older because memories from childhood come flooding back. I was asked why I went to my father's funeral, and I replied "to make sure he was dead".

[@annepartington9002]

​@@deborahcurtis1385 as you get older memories show..

[@deborahcurtis1385]

@@annepartington9002 To be sure, to be sure....

[@pippalewisNYC]

Thank you for sharing. It's gut-wrenching. He was so adorable as a child... they all were. Impossible to imagine what they went through, and yet, I've been through it myself. It makes it that much more difficult to fathom.

[@connoroleary591]

Irish families. I know too much, have seen too much and have felt too many punches as a child to get anything but severely nauseous when someone with a British or American accent, tells me how kind, gentle and amusing we are. They really have no idea.

[@desertrose1226]

Sad. Even Sinead O’Connor came from an abusive family and that is why she’s so depressed and sad and has been for years. She has many issues and now has to deal with the loss of her poor son 😔

[@bieni78]

I dread if the Gallaghers had had a sister.....based on some of the Irish families I went to school with..

[@malcomgladstone]

Its not just the Irish its the scots and welsh and English its the booze

[@itzAurora_Xoxo]

​@@desertrose1226 may sinead rest in peace.

[@ScareglowSkull]

Wow

[@cpisarek4284]

"I met my maker, I made him cry." Noel doesn't believe in God, but he references God often in different songs. I believe this line to be, I met God, and I made him cry after I yelled at him anguish, questioning why he wasn't there when I was a kid suffering at the hands of my father.

[@vjr5261]

I thought the same

[@josiecamilo7098]

They belong to a cult sex drugs and rock and roll meant to influence the masses.

[@JJ-iq8mi]

His maker is his Dad, not God.

[@onone9149]

Insightful. Cheers🙂

[@amyf_spot7511]

I always thought that ‘coming in a mess going out in style’ was NG saying his childhood was a mess but look at him now. I’m sure there’s multiple ways of interpreting these lyrics and maybe more than one thing is true. I knew that their dad was very abusive to the boys as children but I’d never heard those passages from PGs book. How could anybody hurt those little boys? I love seeing those pictures of them as kids, snaggle toothed and grinning from ear to ear. So precious!! And Liam may have been prettier back in the day but in 2022 Noely Noely is a very, very good looking man. Thanks for the video! Enjoyed it!!!

[@duffers29]

I’m sure the blood on the tracks was a reference to Dylan’s Album “Blood on the tracks” I remember an interview in the 90s with Noel talking about it .

[@jaynewoffenden4833]

And your heart just bleeds for the young Noel and kids every where like him.

[@TheMoninoniin]

I, too, grew up with an addicted father, who caused a lot of damage. I feel sorry for Gallagher brother to experience such violence in their own home. No child should be scared from their parents. Their mother should have left much earlier to protect her sons. I liked this song a lot but never really understood the meaning. You have explained the song beautifully. It is one of my favourites now. Thank you ❤

[@craigeboy70]

Great video, I remember bouncing around my friends living room counting down and waiting for this songs 1st play on MTV . It has always been up there with my most favourite songs and you really shed a light on why Noel remastered it and gave it the attention he thought it deserved. It clearly means a lot to him and many off us .

[@astetic_vibezz319]

I find it very hard and triggering to listen to this. I left Manchester to escape an abusive and controlling husband. I left with two young boys, (who also witnessed a lot unfortunately). Their story continues to inspire me and encourage me and my sons to do well. Liam and Noel you smashed it ! Well done 👌🏼

[@deadpoetstodd]

Hope you’re doing well. Glad you got out ❤

[@astetic_vibezz319]

@ ❤️

[@scarletoharabia3801]

He had to develop a ruthless side to survive.

[@sharondoherty682]

Brilliant insight - God bless them all - from a N Irish woman - i knew their story but you bring such depth and more compassion for their lives with this heartfelt analysis thank you 🙏💖

[@josephodonnell8649]

James you make so such sense, and in such a simple manner..im melting watching this..Man you have a gift for just explaining ..I came and grew up in a similar family to the Gallaghers..I got out and all my siblings are doing well. Im sad but glad that my father died a horrible and slow death unlike my mother peacefully in her sleep. Respect and love to you.

[@malterwitty5433]

Can’t remember what interview but Noel was asked if he was scared , he replied ( not word for word but along this lines ) when your dads beat you black and blue and gave you a stammer and beats you for having a stammer , how could I be scared of anything after that !

[@BAGHEAD1995]

Yes I remember him saying pretty much that in an interview I heard ages ago.

[@malterwitty5433]

@@BAGHEAD1995 yes was ago ago but I recall it, I respect the whole family for not giving him - the dad - another chance . Take care mate ✌️

[@callum5915]

Beautiful breakdown of the lyrics James! This song has a completely different meaning to me now! So sad to hear about what the brothers and Peggy had to endure!

[@LisaRichards_123]

Many rockstars were abused, Dug from Kings X, Ozzy by his mother, Pete Townshend… It’s terrible what parents and grandparents do to their innocent children

[@mikaelsjoberg1894]

Steve Jones...

[@BrendanJSmith]

Brian Wilson

[@desertrose1226]

Sinead O’Connor..

[@liberatedhippything]

As a mother of two boys, I'm glad I left their dad doing that. I'm glad I'm divorcing. And just like he got, if a man would touch me again it's either he kills me or I'll kill him but hes at least walking away with something broken. Idc what. My kids don't need it. I'm glad we are learning more and know better now. I know how he felt. We plotted killing our moms bf. We would lay up at night and fantasize about stabbing him in the throat. Swapping ideas about it between the three of us. Aged like between 7 and 5. Just the three of us exchanging murder plans at night. But we were all really scared of how invincible he seemed. A ways back I heard he was found decapitated. I really hope the coronor can confirm soon that it was him. Not bc we fear him anymore. But bc he just needs put down. I'm so sad for any kid who saw this. Endured it. And to have someone say they love you and be the main reason your being beaten. Bc they won't pick their kids before anything else. Fuck that. I hate that it happened to anyone ever.

[@jaimeerivera8217]

Brave, amazing woman you are ❤️

[@more444store6]

Everyone has to get out of it themselves. But, people who have experienced this become very empathic.

[@ellebee783]

You are brilliant! I love the song but never understood how profound these lyrics are. I listen to it in a whole different way now. Thank you!

[@alirlandes2238]

As well as the beatles songs you mention, Blood on the Tracks is a Dylan album and Dont Look Back is a Dylan documentary,. This was a technique of noels which we see in Morning Glory too "Tomorrow never knows what it doesnt know too soon". Great analysis! Nicely counters the misconception that there was not much depth to Oasis.

[@_jdt.v]

Well I thought he was referring to his blood being on the tracks The Fool On The Hill and I Feel Fine and that the next line "don't look back cause you know what you might see" means he doesn't want to remember the past by looking at these things or something like that. Nonetheless Noel is an underrated lyricist!

[@lukenardoni2454]

The line “Bring it on home to me” could also be a Dylan reference. (Or thinking about it, maybe Sam Cooke!)

[@captainwalrusbeard3793]

“Get on the bus, Gus (make a new plan Stan)” Paul Simon- 50 ways to leave your [abusive father].

[@_jdt.v]

@DnB and Psy Production Noel is a great lyricist so i don't doubt it hahaha

[@SovereignSpectre]

Such a brilliant video good sir. I always found Noel's, Liam's and the entire Oasis story motivational and inspirational to my life and I am sure the life of millions. It is very heroic. A working-class lad downtrodden with the burden of life getting abused by his father with no help at all. Yet, through perseverance and strength, Noel Gallagher came out on top as one of the greatest songwriters of all time. An absolute beautiful story. Very heartfelt. But one thing I would say though, I do think God was on the Gallagher's side. God may have put Noel in this circumstance, this harsh struggle to face in life to become the genius of a musician he is today. God, Fate or Destiny (whatever you may call it) has put Noel and his family through this struggle for a much more beautiful outcome in the end. So in a way, God did answer Noel and Peggy's prayers in the end granting two of the biggest rockstars England has ever produced, Noel and Liam. That is one way to look at it. God was on the side of the Gallaghers. God bless Noel, Peggy, Liam and Paul. They deserve it. This is important to note because all the original Oasis members came from Irish Catholic backgrounds. Noel even stated abuse in marriages and to their child was normal in their Irish council estate. Truly a harsh life. I always found "D'you know what I mean?" an anthemic inspiration for anyone in that downtrodden, working class and abusive lifestyle. To join Oasis and search for meaning in life. To look for hope. Oasis always had a rock n roll swagger to them with larger than life lyrics and music but deep down, there is a melancholic innocent boy inside Noel Gallagher. Otherwise he would not write songs such as "Dead on the water" or "Dying of the Light." As well as "Live Forever." All a plead to seek hope and beauty in life. Noel Gallagher and Oasis has helped inspired and motivate my life and I am sure he has done the same for millions. A truly remarkable story. And you sir, have a great insight on lyricism and poetry. Along with a great reading voice. Keep it up! Best of luck to you and your channel! Cheers!

[@foekist7312]

Well said man

[@DipityS]

I have to thank you for educating me on this fellows background and the song, I'm fully behind your take. I think by the very nature of the abuse Noel Gallagher didn't grow up able to talk about his own background except through his art. I'll never listen to this song the same again - and I admire the fellow very much.

[@Lexthebarbarian]

I could not watch it all to the end the first time because so much memories came back, but now I did. The end was great. There is hope. Life is a gift. And mean and cowardly bullies cant take it away from you. Stand up for yourself kiddo!

[@SRCreativeStudios]

Wow what an impressive break down of the lyrics. I had no idea of the Gallaghers past but this has made me interested to learn more about their songs. Thanks for such a well researched and put together video.

[@Tinkz1972]

Love this ! And ive always loved this song, Noel threw himself into his songs and music probably saved him. Ive met both his parents as i live in Burnage...Peggy is a lovely woman, i cant comment on Tommy, i served him in the bookies i worked in over 20 years ago now, but i'd been told what kind of man he was by someone who knew Noel very well growing up. Im glad he made it for himself, he deserves his happiness.

[@47imagine]

Awesome presentation, James! Well done.

[@kieranjquigg6670]

Absolutely brilliant video. Heart breaking that so many people grow up in that environment but so inspiring that he was able to rise up and become the legend we all know and love. Was bought the supersonic book for Christmas and haven't gotten round to reading it yet but will definitely make time this evening to start. Keep up the amazing videos. Massive fan of the channel. ✌✌

[@ThomasDoubting5]

Thanks for the recognition, a lot of lesser people shy away from facing what some of us have to deal with as children.

[@martefact]

This was my life! To a large extent still is ...Living without a single family member and with cptsd now.

[@jasonbarron3047]

Listen pal if ever you want to talk or need a friend message me. I think u and me have a lot in common and don't worry I'm not a weirdo or anything I had a fucking horrible childhood a narcissistic mother that hated me, I was the oldest of 3my sister died at age 42 february this year I have a brother but we don't really see anything of one and other, I know loneliness and suffer mental health issues because of my past. Anyway drop me a message if you ever want a chat buddy the world is a fucked up place at the moment we all need someone to talk to sometimes. And if not then no worries I hope you find peace my friend. I'm Jason by the way from leeds UK x maybe speak soon my friend xj

[@davidyardley512]

A very cleverly crafted tune by Noel here. "I met my maker, I made him cry". I think the same thing about my father.

[@mariothestrange1929]

Oh man, suffering a similar upbringing, I always loved D'you know what I mean, yet another raised Catholic turned Athiest (by the scars left by time) kid, "Be Here Now" gave me everything I needed to keep my focus and push thru those dark times. Thanks for your analysis!

[@cutekanjii]

Shouldn't let it turn you against Jesus as that Man made institution blasphemously used his name. Tnot one single clergyman in it right up to the pope is any better or closer to Christ than you are! Im fact they have mpre to answer for by disgracefuly and arrogantly claiming to be his "stand in" when they should be promoting him as alive and here just as much today as 2000 years ago. He is accessible to everyone and yoy don't have to go through other human beings, no matter how fancy a dress they wear, to get to him!

[@theheadofthemansonfamilyof1363]

Thank you so much for making this video, I was unfortunately absued when I was younger, and the way Noel coped with it really inspired me, if he can do it so can I, much love to you sir x

[@petianenakhov1777]

Great vid James! Gas panic is a hell of a song too, maybe one day you could do an analysis of it!

[@hamricmike8]

I think the Blood on the Tracks bit is a nod to the Bob Dylan album.

[@Crumblesoftruth]

Don't look back is the Dylan film from 1967

[@Crumblesoftruth]

Think the issue with Noel writing these deep hidden lyrics is his acknowledgment of how much he steals ..Read somewhere Don't Go Away was written around the time Peggy had a Cancer Scare As James has shown before in previous video the heart & soul of it The chorus stolen from the Real People Love Noel but I don't think he's ever been introspective songwriter. When it comes to his own pain 100% believe he'd put pen to paper writing a song about Sarah his own darkest Childhood memories I don't think so ..

[@KathySong1]

Not forgetting ‘bring it on home to me’ is a Sam Cooke song which the Beatles also admired. Enjoyed this breakdown of the song.

[@KathySong1]

I’m not sure it ties in… but the verse; “I don't really care for what you believe So open up your fist or you won't receive The thoughts and the words of every man you'll need Get up off the floor and believe in life No one's ever gonna ever ask you twice Get on the bus and bring it on home to me” Could he be talking to Tommy directly here? Noel doesn’t care what story his Dad spins to the public or even to himself. Is Noel telling him to open his fist, stop being aggressive now and maybe his boys (“every man you’ll ever need”) might actually talk to him and have an open conversation about what went on? Is he telling Tommy to ‘get up off the floor’ change his ways, because he won’t be asked again? After all that has passed, would Noel even care for so much as some recognition and admission from his Dad for what he put them through? Possibly. Bring It On Home To Me by Sam Cooke’s lyrics are quite striking to Noel’s and the boys situation Is the song reference a nod to say “look at what you could have had”? Noel would have provided and loved back, if only Tommy had loved them and never hurt them

[@foresthill538]

This is an anthem for everyone who has been abused and treated like dirt. I love that side of Noel's songwriting. How he turned an upbringing of pain and neglect from his father to turning negatives into a positive in the songs he has written. Unlike Kurt Cobain whose songs with Nirvana have a more depressed point of view to them, Oasis songs lean optimistic and accepting despite being working class. D'You now What I Mean uses the same chords as Wonderwall and is a completely different angle of a song, too. The genius that is Noel Gallagher. The definition of a songwriter.

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

The more you stand up, the more you get beaten. I’ve been there. It is good to get this story out. It is really important.

[@rizeorfall]

Good video. I’m overwhelmed with emotion

[@m32bmine]

Have always loved the song, but never really paid attention to the lyrics, but recently I gave the lyrics a good read through and was blown away. Now with the insights from this video it really makes me appreciate the song and Noel that much more for what he went through and the power of the human spirit and what we can achieve if we just believe in ourselves! "Get up off the floor and believe in life No-one's ever gonna ever ask you twice" - hell of a line on its own and with the added context its now truly inspiring. Great video, thank you!

[@jdclover1074]

This really is a fantastic deciphering of Noel's lyrics , i'm sure he'd recognise most of this . Great video ,James .

[@jackrobertjones2874]

such an informative watch, thanks for making this. Gives ‘d’you know what i mean?’ a whole new meaning, brilliant stuff James

[@findlay1arches]

Thank you so much for this. This song has always been one of my favourites of oasis along with the masterplan and falling down.

[@LifeInProgress12]

To all the children in the world suffering any kind of abuse, you don't deserve it, it's not your fault. You are loved, you are wanted and God created you for a purpose. Persevere and don't let those who hurt you because of their own insecurities win. Nothing lasts forever, don't let it make you bitter, let it make you better. You will overcome!

[@njr380]

You forgot: Contact the authorities or anyone and leave, right now. Don't accept it for a minute. Any man who beats his partner or kids is not worth staying with, no matter what.

[@radidov5333]

lol .. cheeky, the main culprit is Religion here. Go tell Noel God is here for you

[@tinatina1104]

Shout it from the roof tops that someone is hurting you and Hope to God that someone will hear you and rescue you.

[@WoodyGamesUK]

I didn't know about this at all, I had the vague idea that Noel and Liam came from a broken family but it's really serious stuff. It makes me feel sad for Noel in particular, I have to say that I have been been very disappointed by Noel through the years (not that he owes anything to his fans, but I have been a massive Oasis fan in the early days and I looked up to these guys). This makes me have a lot of respect and understanding for Noel. It's just tragic, and unfortunately it's all too common.

[@puddlespickles8810]

What a father, a coward in his own right hitting women and kids is as low as you get,

[@SuperAnimelover100]

He should never be labeled as a Father , he's the stink of the Stinks !

[@stewartmckenzie5163]

How totally upsetting to think of those boys going through that; particularly Noel. He has been through it and you can tell he’s a good soul.

[@thatkodochagirl]

You know, I always theorized this song was actually about confronting and leaving an abuser, but I was never sure. Your analysis really confirms this for me. Especially because I always thought about my experience with an abuser while listening to this song. It just makes so much sense. Love your videos! ✌

[@lindab8397]

I have read this book myself , as I was am still a fan of oasis. Their music in the 90’s was just so good. I have met Noel twice , and both times he was so lovely to stop and have a proper conversation and did not try to rush off. A lot of people don’t like the brothers but on a one to one NOEL was just so lovely. Their upbringing was shocking and poor peggy , she looked after her boys the best she could. With very little money from Tommy. Noel lived near me once in Chalfont st Giles , when he was still with Meg. I always thought it strange where they lived is called BURNAGE which is my surname . But at least now all the boys are grown , with their own families, and have turned out good fathers . Thanks for this video very nicely done . From ONE OASIS FAN 👍❤️😁🙋‍♀️

[@larysacherner312]

This is so sad. I knew they were abused but didn't know it was that bad. Total nightmare of a childhood. Thank you very much for the video!

[@sanders7789]

Never stay with an abusive partner ‘for the kid’s sake’. The fact is that growing up with an abusive parent destroys a child. The trauma is often lifelong and crippling for children. Take the kids and get out as soon as you can for their sake!

[@Sirrealll]

Great video! This is probably my favorite song and I’ve been telling… well my wife that this was the story he’s telling. You explained it perfectly thank you.

[@Junkbot-si5er]

Can you imagine a kid who never finished school, a druggie, abused now is a millionaire? Damn thats an icon

[@FreddysHamster]

I find it easier to imagine than your first example, that finishing school is the primary reason for any success. It's probably the primary reason that they're not automadroids and still have some personality/creativity left lol. Another brick in the wall?

[@lemsip207]

The Blur members finished school and then went to Goldsmiths College.

[@Maya220100]

​@@lemsip207Not the same background!

[@MadeOfStone02]

These lyric breakdown videos are brilliant James. They truly showcase the genius of Noel. Safe to say I’ll be listening to this song with fresh ears and it will no doubt go up in my estimations

[@metalshell69able]

Wonderful breakdown of the lyrics. I just went and watched the Supersonic documentary because of this. It's a bittersweet life those two have led. I hope they make amends one day.

[@graemeadamson7272]

For some reason I've always ranked D'you Know What I Mean as the best song Noel ever wrote . I always thought/knew it had a deeper meaning than the seemingly gobbledygook lyrics , but could never suss them out . So thanks for clearing it all up . Very rewarding to hear your concise breakdown of a truly truly brilliant song . Fair play to Noel for not reacting with his fists in the meeting with his "dad" ......... Hardly surprising he's an "arrogant bastard " having put up with that shite . I was abused and bullied by a very close family member as a kid and had no one to turn to , and then a lot later in life, they all of a sudden want to pretend nothing ever happened and they want to be your best mate . NEVER gonna happen dickhead !! Thanks again for a superb piece of journalism 👊

[@Trevo1]

This video is class man. Great job. I did always think that meeting the maker line was about him talking to his dad.

[@georgia8592]

This also helps explain why these two brothers relationship is so deeply fractured☹️

[@AnnaGirardini]

To me this is the saddest side of the story, that they've been so damaged by their childhood they cannot manage to get along.

[@jadepetty8048]

It also explains why Noel walked away and refused a reunion for so long. I’ve always cheered him for prioritizing his mental health over the desires of the fans. Seeing that they’ve gotten back together hopefully means they have healed a lot of those old wounds.

[@rocklee6306]

They have been through too much together, it was a pain to know they had spilt. They belong beside each other.

[@gaskit1448]

I'm so glad to see this, I always enjoyed the song but now it resonates a meaning so much deeper.

[@mijail194]

Such an inspiring video for an incredible song . Love your work man , thanks for the knowledge

[@TheJmister99]

great vid, always saw this song as a generic single on the underwhelming be here now album but this has changed my whole mindset. Great work!

[@chemicalimpossibility9822]

Coming in a mess, going out in style I ain’t good looking but I’m someone’s child. Those lyrics have meant something to me, yet I’ve never known precisely what. Thank you for this, James.

[@Crumblesoftruth]

I just think it's a Noel universal lyric about coming home after work on a Friday night sprucing yourself up and hitting the pubs & clubs. The Friday night of most working class blokes who fill the Oasis fan demographic in the 90s - Can almost imagine looking in the mirror and thinking only a face a mother could love 🤣 I've always seen that song as anthemic call to arms to the working class

[@leeoasis1982]

Great analysis James, you’ve given a new perspective to this oasis classic, thanks for this , it’s really appreciated!