"Nice Guys" Can't Stop Terrorizing Women Online

[@jillm9165]

Eww him saying “if she’s not retracting, push further” is literally rape culture

[@jnicole510]

genuinely disgusting

[@SkarGig]

they often turn out to be rapists.

[@nicoleajobo3415]

I got that vibe too and I’m genuinely terrified this is allowed on KZbin.

[@jillm9165]

@@SkarGig He definitely gives off complete lack of respect for boundaries, I wouldn’t be surprised at all sadly

[@roo1322]

And if she does retreat, he would go on for another two months with his darling whiteboard ranting about "ungrateful b**ches not acknowledging his worth"

[@itsmushbloom]

“No reaction is a positive” is seriously SO WRONG and dangerous. no reaction is a no, because she hasn’t said yes.

[@hell_screen]

EXACTLY THIS!!! it just goes to show how awful the whole Melanie Martinez situation is, because she literally said (about the victim) "well she didnt say no." like, WHAT?? WHY are people still defending her??

[@JayveeUgh]

Please for goodness sake, SPEAK UP! You need to sternly vocalize your consent or no consent. Otherwise if you try to make claims or stand in court, they’ll say you never said no.

[@krismuttz]

the problem with that is, some people don't feel safe enough to say no, because it might backfire on them since some people are so reactive, that they might even result to hurting you if you say no. ​@@JayveeUgh

[@_Keikoo000]

This is why we practice ENTHUSIASTIC consent.

[@nbassasin8092]

yeah, I usually go with that, IDK how thats not the instinctual response for most guys if I dont get a straight yes, everything else is a no does that lose some potential relationships for me because girls werent sure enought to say yes even though they didnt mean no? sure do I care? better to be safe than sorry, or even worse, creep who cant take a hint

[@gamegrunt8739]

My boyfriend always says “I’m not a nice guy. I’m a kind guy. There’s a difference. “Nice” seeks compensation, while kindness expects no reward”. And I truly believe he is right.

[@flowerpetal3014]

Your boyfriend is a good one. We need more men in the world like him 😭

[@Mango_1672]

As a girl, if a guy had his arm around me and I sat there silent that means I’m uncomfortable!! And if he pulled me tighter I WOULD BE HORRIFIED😭

[@seiretzym]

the freeze response is so real

[@skumsters2323]

i started screaming if i did not know what to say or do, when anything like this occurred... we all have our own response, but it should be obvious to the other that we were not happy or comfortable at that moment. They fell short! In stead of calling the girl or woman hysterical or dramatical.. with you, love

[@quincyzacc]

i threw up after a man kissed me unprompted once. usually I freeze or get "phone calls" from my mom if someone’s making me uncomfortable now

[@yeldana7044]

ikr like i would genuinely be scared for my life😭

[@futuristicgirl14]

I tried once to leave politely after a bad date, and no joke, he kissed me and out my hand on his crotch, he legit didn’t pick up any of my uncomfy vibes

[@alwaysbehindyou1849]

If someone feels like they have to announce they are a nice guy, they are in fact NOT a nice guy.

[@jassmine9797]

Real

[@Dækvy]

Exactly! Real nice guys are just nice to everyone without seeking any profit from this

[@avrillavignefanclub1927]

its manipulation if youre expecting something in return (like sex) for being nice to someone, how crazy you have to be to think youre the 'good one', youre manipulator that we women avoid because we see how awful you are

[@311junglist]

Yup, thats facts. Reminds me of 1 specific person.

[@Eddysig]

Right?? it's like having to constantly tell someone your favorite color, it's like...okay? And? It's either relevant or not, why just announce that

[@fozzyspots]

My first boyfriend (I was 18, he was 20) excused his abuse of me and toxic, controlling jealousy because his girlfriend when he was 13 cheated on him. Girl, it was the playground

[@jaeydec]

IT WAS THE PLAYGROUND 😭😭

[@ElizabethCox-z9o]

That is the most pathetic excuse I've ever heard. And I've had guys that I liked constantly reject me of course I am a woman though.

[@LittleKitty22]

That's exactly what happened with the first ever guy I really liked. It never even came to a relationship.

[@justmya8039]

The exact same thing happened to me. He was cheated on by a girl on Roblox when he was 13.

[@Koffeefr]

“you’ve had coffee with me… now we must have sex.” this is literally the internal monologue of nice guys omg 😭 don’t forget the “nice guys always finish last 😔” they bring that up 24/7

[@ambersmith2612]

“ I spent $30 MAX on you and now I’m entitled to your body”

[@maybemablemaples2144]

​@ambersmith2612 but I don't like sex workers because I have to pay for sex. Make it make sense 😂

[@sadem1045]

The math ain't mathing

[@audreynelson3997]

“I bought you a drink so you’re obligated to go home with me now” -nice guys in the club

[@audreynelson3997]

This guys mom listening to him yell FUCK WOMEN from the other side of his bedroom door 🤐🫢

[@frameout2035]

'Being nice to women makes them reject you.' Sounds like you want to eliminate your competition

[@purrrrrrrple]

Sounds like he'll attract equally damaged women that enjoy being spoken badly Those relationships usually end bad :c

[@gabby222themoon]

@@purrrrrrrpleexactly like they’re just toxic dudes looking for toxic back

[@AshChiCupcak]

​@@purrrrrrrple definitely doesn't help when u have women like Colleen Hoover writing books where toxic guys are the love interest and it just reinforces that thought process even more

[@futuristicgirl14]

@@AshChiCupcakwomen aren’t a hive mind though. Twilight was popular and anyone at my school obsessed with Edward definitely didn’t fantasize about their crushes sneaking into their bedrooms to watch them sleep. If you consider women as people, you’d realize that most of them want a respectful man, it’s just fun to read about dramatic relationships.

[@AshChiCupcak]

@@futuristicgirl14 No, we aren't. But when you get the right mix of vulnerable minds without the right influences in their lives, unfortunately, some of them are going to think that it's ok. I grew up with toxic parents and toxic grandparents and I sadly went down that same path till I finally broke out of it. I also thought twilight was so romantic as a teenager until I got older and was hit with the whiplash of reality. Obviously most people will draw the line between fantasy and reality but some won't and those are the ones I worry about ending up in a tough situation like I did. Plus, it's worse if gullible men read those books and think that's what women want in real life cuz they don't realize it's a fantasy. It's less the book's fault and more the lack of proper influences in their lives of what is and isn't appropriate.

[@enotaebi]

There was a “nice guy” in my highschool. He was awkward, had tried his luck with 14 GIRLS… got rejected every time. I had just moved into the country so I was girl number 15. Confesses to me on the first day. I say no. He starts crying. LOUDLY. In the middle of the cafeteria. In front of my professors. His grandmother, my chemistry teacher, mentioned in the middle of the class that I made her grandson cry. Feeling pressured, I befriended him, but established firm boundaries that I don’t want to date him. Cue him stalking me all the way to my house, sending me love letters, telling me he wants to have babies with me (what), writing poetry about my breasts (what), telling guys we did it (what). I’m glad I have zero contact with everyone in highschool. Last thing I heard, he had tried to make out with some girl at a party. Said girl had a bf. I’m so glad I’m not in contact with anyone in highschool. What a weird time.

[@VelvetRed-rz8ur]

Ugh.. he is the embodiment of creepy gross pervert.. that type of men grows older and keeps behaving that way chasing girls. Poor you.. I had experienced those false rumors too. As a virgin it was so upsetting having vicious rumors and being called a slut just for being nice about rejecting a pathetic guy, never took pity on them. Don’t even let them confess just run 🏃‍♀️

[@barbara9315]

He sounds like a baby. He shouldn’t try dating when he’s as emotionally matured as a toddler.

[@VelvetRed-rz8ur]

That sounds like a horror story.. that would totally stress me out 😖 I got guys I rejected on high school making up rumors about me too.. They do everything to save face and look cool in front of their bros 🤦‍♀️ I got called a slut a lot because I’m pretty (I agreed on meeting at the cafeteria to study for group project?? a SLUT it’s seducing every guy on the group!.. got the best grades in class? a SLUT who slept with the professors!) mind you; I’m an asexual virgin 🤷‍♀️ 🤦‍♀️

[@Lily27636]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. And his grandmother is awful for accusing you of making him cry. I wish you could have told her it was her fault for not doing better by him 😅

[@pj1g2]

That guy isnt sane

[@SuperZura91]

I'm pretty sure when you tell one of these weirdos "9 out of 10 women won't enjoy sexual comments about their body", they will just see it as "So 1 out of 10 like it". They live in a bubble, and will only hear what they want to hear.

[@kylief03]

I accidentally found myself sitting near two of these guys talking at my university's student center today. You're completely right. "Statistically, if you go up to 10 women on campus and ask them out, 4 of them will be single. Your odds aren't too bad for getting a date." It was WILD

[@PeachysMom]

A lot of the sexual comments are meant to be be upsetting - they’re misogynists and get off on making a woman’s day slightly or significantly worse

[@Bre-ke-ke-ke]

👍👍👍

[@jessgoldman5519]

Leave Coopers Weirdos alone!!!!! these people aren't weirdos, they're creeps

[@kesia872]

Nah, they would say it's only if the guy is ugly and all girls go after like the top 5% of men because female hypergamy 🙄🙄

[@Eddysig]

"they're attracted to emotional stuff" * lists only physical/appearance based things *

[@elenah9950]

As an absurdist, I found this hilarious

[@catheriney6209]

It was a sarcastic comment I think?

[@elenah9950]

@@catheriney6209 oh yeah, this guy definitely seems self-aware and confident enough for sarcasm to play well with his audience (

[@mads4250]

if I could like this comment 1 million times, I would. I was soooo confused when he only listed physical traits. None of that has ANYTHING to do with emotion....

[@Goomations]

He was tryna be like those dudes that are like “women only like men’s bodies, not their personality 🥺🥺🥺”

[@aidanbenson3617]

I'm waiting for his mom to interrupt him and he immediately starts churning out the "yes, maams."

[@lajourdanne]

The way he said “women” like it was a slur 😂

[@sophthevoice]

some guys act like not having a dick means you're not a valid human and it's so ridiculous that it's almost funny

[@victorhimanclan5802]

@@sophthevoicerequirement to be a person: have a gluestick

[@HanSlowlo]

Bet when he's not recording he uses terms like "fem0ids"

[@AubreyDrop-hj6pf]

As a girl, men, please don’t do any of this 😭 just be not dry and not rude. Making fun of others is not attractive, neither is disrespecting your family. Go hug your mother.

[@123mehmehmeh]

jokes at other peoples expense are never funny, just make the joke about yourself instead, shows security at the same time! :)

[@Infinite1107]

Sometimes I fear their mothers might've raised them to disrespect women. Or their fathers...

[@Bab3Bat3]

When someones actually secure, if they arent it is just pick me behaviour

[@liampugh]

@@Bab3Bat3yeah my brother brags about how he was mean and made fun of his current girlfriend to get her desperate for his approval. Most people can see through the bs, but some ppl are very insecure and desperate for the attention. Goes for men and women.

[@futuristicgirl14]

It’s fatherless behavior from men

[@Alo.producedbymgc]

Aromantic shoutout!!! thank you, Cooper, I feel seen and appreciated 💖

[@anisa2273]

yass it was nice to get a shoutout wasn't it? i'm gald we don't have to deal with people like that

[@threemanband]

"i could throw you through a wall" is CRAZY

[@Scrumptious_omelette]

Right? Like who is that attractive to? LIKE EXCUSE ME TF??? EW

[@charliegibson4016]

I know several devoted lesbians who would let a hot woman throw them into a wall, But it’s creepy when a guy says they actually can. just… wierd predator vibes there.

[@shrek_is_life_6974]

13 year old me would've loved it tbh.. But no mature woman finds that attractive

[@ambersmith2612]

@@Scrumptious_omeletteBella Swan

[@BigAlexgator]

How the hell was I watching and then read this comment right as that scene happened??? always such a crazy coincidence

[@sweetness371]

Coming from an actual "woman", if we're "neutral" when you're touching us, we're likely in a freeze response in an uncomfortable situation.

[@Remedy462]

Yeah, it's pretty telling, you don't even have to touch someone to tell they are uncomfortable, just notice their blunt responses, ignorance, and shifting attention.

[@lunarcryptid]

Exactly! lol she's probably scared and frantically thinking of a way to get out of the situation

[@BrogieSmells]

Because you said “actual ‘woman’” I feel like we need to upgrade this statement to ALLEGED woman.

[@YurgenLeitnerNotInThisEconomy]

​@@BrogieSmells what are you on about ?

[@BrogieSmells]

@@YurgenLeitnerNotInThisEconomy you know when the

[@Lei-AICPhD]

I was single for 6 years and I have ran into so many hundreds of these guys… and omg they’re insane and you have to block them and sometimes take out restraining orders on them and a lot of times you haven’t even had the first date with them either. It’s a mess out there.

[@aub023]

the pauses to write on the whiteboard are so funny 😭😭 "WOMEN.. *squeak squeak*.."

[@jbeesknees]

YOU'RE SO RIGHT 😭💀💀

[@JS-dv9ji]

I have my retainer in and this made me laugh so hard it almost came out 🤣

[@bettyboop9311]

“WOMEN👺👺👺……” *✏️ ✏️* “FUCKYOU 👺👺!!! BUT ALSO FK ME!” 🤦🏽‍♀️😂

[@erikav7597]

I can’t 😂 the squeaks 💀

[@FantasmagoriaAhoy]

I can't imagine he isn't deeply in the closet just white-knuckling it and praying that his "tutorials" are an adequate smoke screen. He'll find an understanding and reassuring Mentor/Top one day.

[@Xuromikuromi]

Just started this so maybe you show it, but I saw a video of a woman who was ABANDONED ON AN UNMARKED TRAIL because she said "no" to a "nice guy". Like she didn't wanna hook up. I said that's coercion and basically would've been grape if she couldn't find her way back and had to say "yes" to get to safety. People arguing like "well he didn't pressure her" PLEASE TELL ME how saying "have seggs with me or im abandoning you on this unmarked trail" is not pressure and is somehow nice guy????

[@martophrenia]

you don't have to censor yourself on yt, my guy

[@aaaaaaaafjjdjs]

OMG I SAW THAT TIKTOK WASNT SHE IN THE SNOW AND SHIT

[@ArtisticlyAlexis]

Yikes! I remember being young & making similar dangerous mistakes when dating! Brings me back to those days of bad uncomfortable verging on life threatening dates.

[@selkiefluff]

Please stop diminishing the seriousness of these words by this unnecessary censorship... this isn't tiktok

[@aduckofsomesort]

@@martophrenia you do actually. KZbin will automatically remove comments. And it seems there is no hard and fast rules as to what gets it removed.

[@mr.skeletonhands]

Here's the thing where the guy said he wanted to throw her through a wall, I've been told that, I'm a little person, I'm 3'11 and I always get the "You're so tiny I could break you," like what happened to hello? Also, I would get those messages on my art account!!! It's so insane to be a woman, also a disabled woman. I use a wheelchair and I get so many weird messages about that, like "I could do whatever i want to you," like fr tho, what happened to hello? Just buy my art...

[@justsomenightowl7220]

That is so sad to hear 🤍

[@MellowYellow2347]

That is absolutely ridiculous. People are way too comfortable on the internet fr fr sorry that happened to you, sending you prayers ❤

[@Orquet-qj2nf]

That is scary. Scary that they want to or scary that they don't realize how barbaric they sound.

[@flowerpetal3014]

Gurl. Gurl, no. No, please no. NO. "I COULD DO WHATEVER I WANTED TO YOU???" WHAT? That's insane 😭 why would you ever say that to a person??? Any person??? Disabled or not??? But especially a disabled person??? Do they realize how fucked up that is???? 😭

[@mr.skeletonhands]

@flowerpetal3014 it really really is fucked, cause I was so so scared

[@shivarooni]

when Nice Guys mention "women" or "females" they never mean all women or females; they mean hot, attractive, interesting, driven women like the Angelina Jolie type. They have a specific type (which isn't bad) but when they keep getting rejected by these women for not having the same interests (ie anime) or ideologies (not sleeping together on the first 3 dates) or various other reasons, they start with this "women just don’t like nice guys" bit, ignoring women who share their interests and ideologies because they're not "hot' enough. Women love nice guys, you’re just not one of them.

[@Dækvy]

Damn, that last phrase perfectly summarizes it!

[@SarutaValentine]

Women like REAL nice guys. The ones who don’t have to state that they are a nice guy Ross Geller style

[@Justanothercog24]

& it's ironic how they say "all women chase the top 20% of guys" when they're the ones chasing the same types of gals & ignoring all the rest. I've seen it so many times where guys say they want a gal who ticks off x, y, z boxes. Yet when one of those types shows them interest & even asked them "why don't you date ____? She clearly likes you", the answer has been "she's not hot enough", "she doesn't put out like so & so does" or "she seems boring." They end up chasing after the same broads they claim to NOT want to be involved with.

[@jasper8293]

"i like your innocent ways" jail immediately. Straight to jail. not even 5 minutes into the video and im dead

[@birthgravy]

I read this in Fred Armisen's voice 😭😭

[@SevenReads007]

@@birthgravy ME TOO

[@micahfoley9572]

yeahhhhh hard to see dudes fetishizing female innocence as anything other than pedocope. either that or they're so afraid to be compared to other dudes that they avoid anything resembling perspective like the plague lol

[@FantasmagoriaAhoy]

"Straight to Jail!"

[@louisacrevecoeur7273]

The whole "if she's ignoring you, keep pushing to the next level" mindset / advice is actually so troubling to me. Becuase if she's sitting there not reacting, she may just be trying to not embarass you and could be comfortable. But this mindset kind of starts to move into a territory where we are operating under the assumption that silence is consent, which to me is concerning...

[@TheAlixm]

"Talking to women is easy af"... WHEN YOU RECOGNISE THAT THEY ARE ALSO FULLY FORMED HUMAN BEINGS, AND NOT OBJECTS THAT EXIST TO GET YOU OFF! I'm not even done with the video and I've already unconsciously exclaimed "Eeewwww" too many times to count. Thank you, Cooper!

[@Da.Da.04]

i'm like almost fully convinced that guy makes the videos for shits and giggles

[@crispy7499]

literally any struggle i had with talking to women was fixed when i stopped talking to them like women and started just talking to them like people lol

[@alamp.8271]

fr, i roll my eyes every time i hear someone say they don't know how to talk to a woman because it's like... do you also not know how to talk to a man? just talk... the same way... what's confusing... women are people. so, what you're really saying is "I don't know how to talk to women, because I don't view them as people but I do view them as objects to conquer and a potential hole to fuck."

[@yappertoign]

​@@Da.Da.04How.. he's being real and it's sad

[@Da.Da.04]

@@yappertoign awh man i was so certain that this was another guy that actually trolls but i realised only after the other guy's video popped up on my feed that i was wrong(i'm horrid with faces lol)

[@verobb7149]

Men need to understand that breast dont normally "appear" when we are 18y old. Girl/Women with big boob normally have them between 9-12y old. WE see guys, mens, old mens staring at our boobs everyday since our puberty started. And yes, we know when someone look at our boob and not our eyes....

[@justarandomchaneldontmindm9098]

I have worked in retail for a few years now, and the worst thing I've learned is that men, especially older men, are the only ones to call me by my name... because my name tag just happens to be where my boobs already are. I know thats what it is becuase when I've worked jobs where the name tag is on a lanyard people don't call me by my name. Its very violating to already be treated like a fucking machine, but then you greet someone and they use your name after you DIDN'T introduce yourself! And I just know, oh you were looking at my boobs. Now you know my name, that makes me feel really safe. 🙃 I'm against name tags for retail staff in general because we're not friends, we're strangers chatting for 30 seconds. I don't need to know your name, and you don't need to know mine, just ask where the thing you need is and leave

[@SwarmOfBees404]

i seriously don’t get why they think they’re so sneaky when they sneak a peek. like my brother in christ you just looked nearly an entire foot down from my eyes. where else are you looking. “oh i’m looking at the ground” i didn’t know i had transparent boobs thank you for letting me know

[@mar420.74]

I'll hate any man that seriously just sees me and immediately goes to boobs, I'm literally a walking breathing person like you I'm sorry that man aren't made with meat sacks on their chest, they wouldn't think it's cute anymore when men started creeping on each other, oh I'd love to live in a world where everyone just fucking swapped genders for a day, shush and deal with each other's problems now, then sexism would almost be impossible.. because how can you be prejudice against what you'll experience. that was random but those are my thoughts.

[@trinitah]

I near always call out a guy for looking. just a little *i see you* hand gesture and „up here babes.“

[@walterpost9073]

Just imagine their world. Woman on her 18th birthday *blob* Ta-da. Boobs. XD

[@nataliep1298]

why do men think we're some sort of enigma and try to come up with "hacks" to talk to women 😭

[@trinitah]

waiting for the „five minute crafts: dating edition“ now

[@thebcwonder4850]

If you've spent a really long time with no women interested in you, you might get the idea that you have to "trick" woman into talking to you

[@FreeFalling2d]

Every time he curses, he sounds like a 12 year old saying fuck for the first time 😂 the second hand embarrassment was only saved by Coops humor

[@_E_m_m_a_.]

Oh my god, that's it. That's exactly it. That's why it feels so weird when he says it!

[@cloudyairlines7355]

i was looking for this comment 😭 100% agree!

[@solus8685]

I mean he looks really young lol

[@MiloBanks79]

​@@solus8685 right he look like he can't be older than 17 but then he acting like he's 12 so my guess is maybe 15

[@jaeboogie2786]

He's probably 30 and still a big V 😅 Cringe AF

[@erstwil]

I hate it when guys immediately pull the “you must have a lot of trauma, I get that” “it must be that time of the month” “you should get checked out to make sure you’re getting the treatment you need” “you’re probably asexual” just because you’re not attracted to them. I consider it a win, not a loss, thanks. I’m so glad you’ve reacted that way so I know who to distance myself from.

[@thenicagirl]

And when they find out that I am in fact asexual, they say they can fix me. They sure have a lot of confidence, cause there’s no “fixing” me

[@erstwil]

@@thenicagirl THIS 😭 Like no??? Being ace doesn’t mean you haven’t found someone yet, it just means you’ve found out how _you_ are. Big difference. That’s actually crazy. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with men like that

[@jimini.e.swings]

@@thenicagirl why does everyone always think they can "fix" us being ace...like it doesn't work like that 😭

[@thenicagirl]

@@jimini.e.swings I have no idea, but it’s hilarious how confidently they say it. Like, do they really think that they’re so good we’ll actually be attracted to them?

[@jimini.e.swings]

@@thenicagirl lmaoo they really think they're IT and that it will just flip a switch for us to be sexually attracted to them 💀

[@RtWolfenbarker]

I once gave a “nice guy” the attitude he gave to me and he shriveled up. He said “snap me” with some under tones of inappropriate- AFTER I had told him bluntly I wasn’t interested- bc he wasn’t getting the hint & I said “in half?”

[@TheOllieDollie1779]

Real confidence of this guy to film in front of a whiteboard where Tuesday is misspelled.

[@chahirotsunaki3792]

Right? Like maybe don't take life advice from someone who can't spell the days of the week hahah

[@stormstrife6211]

He also misspelled "Wednesday" haha

[@TheOllieDollie1779]

@@stormstrife6211 I didn’t even notice Wednesday!

[@littledrummergirl_19]

“Skool”

[@maudvanduursen4016]

He was probably too distracted by all of the names of the super real dates (that are totally actually really happening) he had written down for those days

[@SevenReads007]

Woman here, I like it when men are capable of empathy and therefore treat me like a ✨fellow human being✨ with ✨valuable input to conversation✨

[@roxyglow9670]

empathy? from males? pff😅 too rare in this society of entitled bozos

[@izzyk9-]

lol coincidence! Me too!!!!

[@sophthevoice]

my ex telling me "man up and show me you don't have balls" when i told him i didnt like being treated as a "bro" when we tried being friends. some guys are creepily unaware of the fact that women are human with good input too

[@victorhimanclan5802]

Who could’ve guessed that women are also human 😱

[@hollynguyen8988]

Cause that should be the bare fucking mininum 😭😭😭

[@destinyhornik4356]

I'm in his discord. Within 2 hours of you posting this video it was tagged 3 times. Myself and 3 other *femine sounding* people said hello guys. He specifically said "please stop trolling. I have 10 spots available for a phone call." The next day someone replied "what time zone, I'll be in school" We got em boys 😂😂

[@PanicLedisko]

Whaaaaaat

[@hemlockgaming9987]

As a woman, if someone puts their arm around me and I DONT lean in and am quiet, SOS I am on the verge of running screaming💀

[@emmataylor4478]

writing and underlining “women” on the board as if he’s introducing a new concept is such an interesting choice 😭

[@THEAnnM115]

“Nice guys” are actually narcissists. Prime example of gaslighting etc. If a guy says he’s a “Nice” guy he really means narcissist. Actually nice guys are humble and won’t be “hurt” and use the “but I’m a nice guy” trope

[@Cinnamonraisin_Bagel]

why can't these guys get a hobby like knitting or smth

[@honeydew720]

Real lol

[@gabby222themoon]

Only hobby they can have is gym bro

[@captaincaspian42]

They would call knitting gay 😔

[@Julienna]

Because his ego needs to feel like he rules the world and teach the human-monkeys, how to actually live a life correctly, while he lives with his parents, his mama doing his laundry, cooks for him, and he does zero house chores. So he is pretty much spoiled and bored.

[@sparklpugtea]

@captaincaspian42 Hot take, why do we give af about “they” lmao

[@zocha5174]

i met one of this nice guys, on our first meeting one-on-one he started talking how funny alpha podcasts are, how women are bad drivers and called some women "whale" so i blocked him without explanations. best decision of my life

[@AndromedasLight17]

It's actually insane men think that we would respond positively to insulting women.

[@botticellismuse]

sounds like my dad.

[@probablypositivity8918]

​@@botticellismuse Shit, sorry man

[@Butterflyonlife]

​@botticellismuse my dad in a way too especially with the 'women are bad drivers bit'😭

[@that0nerandomperson374]

It's funny to point out to these men that women are statistically better drivers and to see the upset over something that really shouldn't matter

[@jayh9695]

"Where my aromantic people at?" *Cheers in AroAce*

[@tehreemfatima-bn2lr]

Fortunate 🎉

[@ScS-g1o]

YIPPEE!!!! 🧡💛🤍💙

[@icetypejulia]

as a 24 year old woman I have absolutely had my life ruined by things a 14 year old girl said to me😭 but then I didn't become a misogynist after, so crazy and wild

[@trishapaytaskitchenfloor]

i hope you were able to find comfort and stability amidst your circumstances. peace and love❤

[@scotlynmummert3751]

@@trishapaytaskitchenfloorthis reply w the classic meltdown pfp is sending me

[@QWERTY-gp8fd]

its so crazy that u dont hate the part of u. congrats being a normal ducking human lmao.

[@madkarma2248]

I had an encounter with a “nice guy” recently 😭 he was really sweet when we were talking but I had decided I wasn’t interested. After we went on a date I texted him telling him it wasn’t going to work and he messaged me back calling me a slut

[@theberrycake]

You Dodged a bullet 😭

[@skumsters2323]

im 40.... are there still dudes that do this and think this is ok or works? time flies but men are slow... sorry, i had a few flashbacks, reading your statement. With ya, f 'm love from Rotterdam

[@311junglist]

​@@skumsters2323im 44 and a dude and yeah they are everywhere. I like to sit back and watch the trainwreck that is incoming with these guys. One day they will look back at this time that they were sucked into this incel red pill bullshit and be embarrassed as fuck.

[@Slormplo]

It's so frustrating cause they'll default to just blaming and bashing the women for it?? Like damn dude, we don't owe you shit? Go back to kindergarten with that attitude tf?? 😭😭

[@jennconrad6068]

Just to be clear, he’s calling you a slut for…NOT sleeping with him?

[@Samzillah]

I feel like I've ended up with so many male friends who just randomly develop a crush and make things weird. Especially because they always befriend me knowing I'm comitted to someone else. Despite the fact that most men can be completely normal and friendly, those experiences always make me feel like its wrong to be friends with men in general, especially as a married woman.

[@Hysteria_-]

these men feel so preditory.. literally a different breed of nice guy

[@DropDread]

Rightttt

[@Slormplo]

They usually are Especially with ones you're friends with at first They'll act all nice and sweet to try and get close, then throw a hissy fit/guilt trip you when you tell them you aren't interested (speaking from experience 💀💀)

[@ChevereJones]

Yes I feel bad for the literal nice guys

[@Hysteria_-]

@@Slormplo LITERALLY like they need to realize personal boundaries and just act like a normal person instead of being weird abt it

[@dilfpickler]

I'm begging these men to go to therapy instead of spending the money on tinder gold 😭😭

[@Tara-h9m8m]

REALLL😭

[@Anniecpw3]

Sadly Tinder gold is cheaper lol so I doubt they’ll ever try therapy…hell I can’t even afford it so what makes us think these guys could?

[@QWERTY-gp8fd]

@@Anniecpw3 most men have money. unlike u though. they rather do drugs, shoot out, workout instead.

[@avrie6668]

Literally EVERYBODY NEEDS THERAPY every single person I know online or in person needs it DEEPLY And I’ll be honest I am too YOUNG to go into THAT conversation I’m not like *pubescent* but still not anywhere near mental and emotional competent enough there’s WAY TOO MUCH I need to click into like IMMEDIATELY like I’ll dip in that kind of stuff at 20’s or above

[@Anniecpw3]

@ I’m gonna be real with you I can’t afford it and I’m not sure it’ll even help

[@yolandaponkers1581]

“You might think I deserve better than you” is a psychological strategy called “negging,” and it’s to diminish your self esteem in the moment so you might feel more open to his advances. It’s truly awful.

[@Romanticoutlaw]

if someone ever hit me with that I'd have to inform them that no, I don't

[@RainaReckless]

I once told a guy straight up that I was getting “r/nice guy” vibes from him. He replied and said “thank you” 😬😂

[@BrookeBarrett_]

That’s INSANE

[@Freya_Blue]

Haha, but he probably just didn't know what it meant. Maybe actually could be a good sign if so. Might not be being influenced (brainwashed) by other guys on the internet. But then could just mean they're a "nice guy" without being influenced, but of their own personality.

[@anteater-muravyed]

​@@Freya_Blue, exactly! Like,you can't tell whether he's a good person just from this exchange, but he didn't say anything bad. He literally thought they were calling him nice and said thank you :')

[@Emma88178]

Did you explain to him what you meant? I hope you didn’t just leave it there.

[@rafsandomierz5313]

Damn lots of assuming here by just single reaction to 1 sentence exchange, mistake on your part. Poor fella probably thought you complimented him.

[@hella.more.than.strange]

Honestly? I as a women am instantly turned off by sexualizing comments in those situations. *BUT* At the same time I kinda am glad when I get to know guy's a creep right away and won't waste my time on him rather than being manipulated into thinking he's something more than a pervert.

[@Liurika]

Preach!

[@paradoxtatorstudios9681]

Indeed. Guys who are creepy but stupid are a blessing in disguise regarding safety. They give themselves away, it's amazing.

[@sunnyspinach]

the "girl ask the guy out?" part is so silly because I both asked my fiancé to be my boyfriend AND I proposed to him and he is the most feminist man I've ever known.

[@andreamarie584]

@sunnyspinach that's so awesome, I wish I had confidence like that! I had more confidence in my late teens and early 20's than I do now.

[@LMBillingsley]

The worst part is that a lot of guys are genuinely lonely and looking for connection, and these assholes are out here basically sabotaging any chance they might have and turning them into predators. It's so sad.

[@purrrrrrrple]

Exactlyyyy they don't even realize the predatory cycle they're in

[@springbrown9769]

One dude actually told me that. I said I seen what men say about women and it was awful af. He said "men like that is ruining it for the others" I agree.

[@Isthisjoebiden]

Lonely, yes. Looking for connection? Not reasonably. A lot of dudes are so scared to be humans. They're very weak and easily harmed emotionally

[@Anthonybrother]

@@Isthisjoebiden what do you mean by being humans

[@bunnyrabi]

The thing is the guys advices, besides the misogyny, is very good if talking about PURE HOOKUP CULTURE!! So if any guys are taking these advice and applying it to women looking for partners and not just sex... then yea... obviously those looking for something serious will be put off.

[@musicloverst]

NAHHH when the "nice guys" bring up innocence 💀

[@glowa-q9b]

most nice guys r pdfs, trust me. they needa do a study on ts

[@mimuchaan]

It’s giving pdofile… predator…

[@PanicLedisko]

@@glowa-q9b CHECK THE HARD DRIVES!!

[@lilacramen7483]

As a woman, sometimes we can't just block them they will find anyway to contact you, it is terrifying.

[@MusiciansRule07]

R/NiceGuys, R/Neckbeards, and Self Inflicted Celibates is the absolute WORST Pokemon Evolution line to ever exist! They think the world runs on Hollywood HS/RomCom logic where they're the Hero when in reality, they'd be the Bad Guy watching the true Main Characters' wedding either in a full body cast in their hospital bed or from their jail cell. Being Nice with an ulterior motive is not Being Nice. It's being Manipulative. Nobody wants to be Manipulated. And trying to sound like Christian Grey or Patrick Bateman when trying to talk to women is beyond Cringe. It's Pathetic. No means No, not CONVINCE ME. Live in Reality, not Delusion!

[@soupy_cat]

Self-inflicted celibates is the PERFECT comeback to incels. I need to remember that, lol

[@futuristicgirl14]

It’s because they worship Elliot Roger and like their god, weenie out when given any opportunity to interact with women irl. So they socially isolate themselves and learn about women online and hate them because of perceived stereotypes/slights. These same guys will unironically tell you that men are oppressed and the world is misandrist. It’s wild

[@futuristicgirl14]

@@soupy_catalso eternal celibates is a fun one

[@Dækvy]

Turns out, in order to have relationships you gotta be socially active and just a decent person😮 That's what these guys fail to understand, relationships are not a granted

[@6thwilbury2331]

Nice. Now I'm trying to figure out why all of the adjectives are Capitalized. it's kind of Weird.

[@dphairas]

‘Female.’ Wanna throw hands, nice guy?

[@DropDread]

"FEmales ☝️🤓"

[@Googledebunker]

Some guy on gta asked if I was a female and then asked if I was a pretty female it was weird

[@RandomNoobbbbb]

What’s wrong with saying female? As a FEMALE, I don’t understand the issue. It’s just another term for woman. What’s so wrong about that? (Yes I’m aware people usually use it in a negative manner but there’s nothing wrong with the word in general.)

[@LunarEleven]

​@@RandomNoobbbbb if you are aware nobody is saying there's a problem with the word in general then what is your question? You clearly understand it's the context that makes it negative... Did you watch the video or...

[@LunarEleven]

And "women" gets air quotes so he's just unwilling to refer to the opposite sex with the bare minimum of respect. That's one step away from SuPpLiCaTiOn

[@Kedakayy]

I turned down a friend because that’s exactly what we were, friends. Out of nowhere he tried sexting me?? Like my guy what are you doing? Then he told me I’m so fat that I probably ate the entirety of Africa and I’m too ugly for him anyway. At the time I was in junior high and so my people pleasing was at its peak. I didn’t want to lose a friend and I really wanted him to retract all those mean things he said about me, so I was crying and apologizing. He apologized and said “he doesn’t know why he said that to me” only for him to say those things and worse all over again when he tried to make a move on me again. I finally understood some people are just mental and not worth keeping around if they constantly make you feel awful for something you don’t want to do.

[@Dragonsfire663]

Thanks for the aromantic shoutout it feels like people disregard people who are aromantic, ace or both, from an aroace person

[@h0peros382]

As another aroace person, I wholeheartedly agree!!

[@gavanimates599]

from another aroace, it caught me off guard and was nice :))

[@bella6.4.6.4]

yes omg, from the bottom of my heart thank you cooper

[@voidraid3867]

Yaaaay aroace gang❤️

[@bunneysbunbun7409]

You have literally summoned the whole aroace community lol

[@avy8857]

It's so cute that Cooper keeps accidentally saying his wife/that he's married instead of his fianceé/that he's engaged 😅

[@NextDavidAttenborough]

they're married all but legally now

[@cuntapalooza]

Yeah but some boys do that to sound more mature without the actual commitment. See: John Mulaney.

[@Butterflyonlife]

It's really sweet they're so cute together too I hope only the best and happiness for them💜✨️

[@emptymitochondria0]

ikrrr, i hope all goes well for them 🥺

[@xhannzz]

It kills me that you’re literally in the first episode of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. When I saw you I LOST IT

[@countrynugget]

Wut- WHATTWTARATS

[@kdawson020279]

The LDS you say! I gotta see this. 😂

[@EmyN]

Huh??

[@xhannzz]

@@EmyN he’s in the first episode. They’re showing content creators talking about Momtok & he’s one of them.

[@xhannzz]

@@EmyN go to 3:12 on the first episode.

[@H3ARTSMASH3R]

How dare KZbin hide this from me for a couple of seconds

[@nicholasolmstead4687]

REAL

[@CornerCrawler]

How dare KZbin hide this from me for 2 minutes

[@dorkchops]

for a whole 4 minutes

[@cardinalcar]

Hello from 8 mins later Edit: 7, my bad.

[@greenland_shark_2009]

ads are hiding this from me =(

[@WhoWhatWhe]

From this video, I've learned that: Men don't care what women want or care about them at all. They care about how fellow men view women and what fellow men want from women. They also respect those men who get women without changing their horrible personalities and character.

[@AndromedasLight17]

The proof is in the pudding. There are women who are fangirling over the face tat murderer & praising Andrew Tate.

[@PebblesFromOuterSpace]

So real, men don't actually LIKE women, they just feel sexually ENTITLED to them

[@ka1mantic200]

The Hamilton quote on the “how to sleep with any woman” whiteboard is craaazy

[@isitliv]

you are inimitable 😡

[@xscottishsoulx320]

"Sorry babe, I can't adult tonight, the cute American Weirdo posted a new video about incels"

[@jmarlened]

😂😂

[@gabby222themoon]

I think he’s Canadian

[@LLawrah]

@@gabby222themoonhe’s not

[@MrCtsSteve]

I don't hear that Canadian accent...I'm guessing Good ol U.S of A ​@@gabby222themoon

[@RandomNoobbbbb]

@@gabby222themoonno, he’s from Olathe, KS if google is correct.

[@wibif420]

20:12 IS THE FUNNIEST THING IVE SEEN ALL DAY💀

[@damien706]

"Women"

[@b4lagan]

Why do (some) guys feel like they have to literally study women and come up with some crazy techniques and evil plans as if they were planning out a battle field or sth to find a girlfriend???? Like dude just be yourself and eventually you’ll find someone that matches you

[@kuboland8638]

Ah the most fameous female lie

[@Nomakeupmama]

As a 31 year-old woman trying to get back out into the dating world. I am horrified that there are men at our big age still being creepo "nice guys". Helllpppp

[@lowlowseesee]

nomakeupmama is fiiiiiiiinnnnne

[@threeraccoonsinatrenchcoat8863]

I'm 42, it just gets worse. I've fully decided to take myself out of the dating pool at this point.

[@hashtagmate]

Babe it never stops. It's not the age it's the character of the person

[@alejandraguzman3851]

Yup that why I’m packing up buying and moving away from everyone me my cats, and Guinea pig don’t need this

[@jones1234567891011]

I am sorrying that you made so many bad experiences

[@stephaniefitzpatrick3912]

If somebody tapped me like that on a date I'd be so annoyed! Loads of people have sensory issues. You could be overstimulating and upsetting them doing shit without permission or encouragement. Could also be intimidating so they're even less likely to say something. Absolutely disgusting to suggest pushing the limits further. YOU DONT TEST LIMITS YOU RESPECT THEM

[@victoriatamariz9445]

"not tonight, she has to warm up" tf does bro think we do before sex, wrap ourselves up in foil and preheat to 375°f ??????

[@stupidmangoz]

Couch potato girlfriend

[@PebblesFromOuterSpace]

LMFAOOOO 😭 IM GALLOPING

[@moeythemad8901]

😂😂😂

[@LittleKitty22]

That's a good one! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@LunaWitcherArt]

I wonder how many of these men devoted ANY of the energy to "decode women's signals" into ASKING SINCERELY what a woman wanted or how she felt about something.

[@filthybeliever]

I think these men prefer to continue to perform mental gymnastics about how “complicated“ women are rather than ask women what they want/mean and take them at their word. It allows them to continue doing whatever they want to do rather than treat women like individuals.

[@TipTheScales27]

That line of thinking men have is exactly why I’m a feminist. Most men genuinely don’t view us as full human beings, at most the secondary gender 😒

[@DimaRakesah]

Also, notice how when Nice Guys want advice about how to talk to women they go to A MAN to tell them how, instead of like I dunno.... asking women? And that man is another angry piece of shit who will degrade women through the entire "lesson". I think they bond over their hatred and frustration more than anything.

[@QWERTY-gp8fd]

everyone "decodes" the signal when approaching in public. its just that men signal is simple while woman is seemingly impossible to comprehend. dude just chilling, safe to approach, woman just chilling, gray area 50/50 chance of being psychopath who would falsely accuse you or actually normal person.

[@kuboland8638]

​@@DimaRakesah becouse you lie all the time about what you find attractive you dont even notice it you do it to protect yourself from sense of quilt that would come by aknowleging your true nature

[@143Sturniolos]

Women have to be warmed up first??? Wtf are we hot pockets??? 💀💀💀

[@Vidasinvida]

Hot pockets 💀😆😆

[@143Sturniolos]

@@Vidasinvida It was the first thing that came to mind I’m glad someone thought it was funny cuz I sure did lmaoooo

[@Vidasinvida]

@@143Sturniolos hell yeah man 😎 I had a good laugh! 🤣

[@143Sturniolos]

@@Vidasinvida Thank you 😂

[@vanessaa7602]

Gonna start calling my lady bits my "hot pocket".

[@dyutiparnadeviroy6018]

She was responding because she was taking screenshots and sending them off into the dark abyss of the girl group chats, where they cackle about these weird "nice" guys

[@stupidmangoz]

Yeah that's not a really good mindset to have. She's feeding his negativity and spreading it around her friend group

[@shrutighosh8934]

​@@stupidmangoz or she is making her friends aware that these are the guys you stay away from? Cooper literally made a video about this guy's negativity 😂

[@PhoebeAnne_TheArtist]

FRRR

[@Moko_27]

These people can't be reaaaal omg im so sorry for women having to deal with these creeps

[@VelvetRed-rz8ur]

Unfortunately they are.. and we deal with them.. even when; we don’t even want to stand there, and watch them “shoot their shot” like.. the amount of times we have to endure their fake confessions and try to reject them as kind as possible in case he is a psycho who snaps and wants to retaliate 🤦‍♀️

[@cassiehartford8997]

If a woman is ignoring your cringey advances, PLEASE, for the love of God, DO NOT keep pushing. That is so fucking predatory and makes for nothing but incredibly uncomfortable situations that will only end badly for all parties involved. Just don't. 😑

[@bidushipyakurel1885]

no way bro pulled out a whiteboard 😭

[@AndromedasLight17]

Rule one of getting a woman: Don't pull out a whiteboard 😂

[@Karmakarmelion]

My new favorite part of Coops videos is how he always works in how excited he is to be getting married to Sophia. Its truly the sweetest thing to see someone so in love and just looking forward to being with their person.

[@Bond_MrsBond]

First of all, if it’s not a yes, it’s a no… if she’s not reacting but not recoiling in disgust, she’s trying to be nice by not reacting at all. Cooper is completely right. Also, I think the issues with these “nice guys” is they get mad when they can’t get a woman who they’re not even compatible with in the first place. Like Cooper was saying, every pot has a lid, these guys need to go find women that they are actually aligned with and stop throwing a 2 week tantrum cause the “hot girl” you wanted, isn’t your soul mate. 🙄

[@Slormplo]

@@Bond_MrsBond LITERALLY. I was friends with this guy who KNEW I was a lesbian, but STILL kept trying. He acted all sad and guilt trippy shit when I said I didn't like him like that. I mean, he KNEW he didn't have a chance?? It sucks because it just solidifies the point that regardless of if they know that a girl isn't into them, they'll still keep going until they get a definitive no, then throw a hissy fit when they get the answer that they knew about the whole fucking time. And I'm sure it's even worse for girls who actually are into guys omfl. It's just bullshit

[@Bond_MrsBond]

@@Slormplo gross, so he was a fake friend all along. I don’t seek out guys friends at all… they are all drama 😂

[@PanicLedisko]

@@Slormplo Oh you SO know that MF just believes lesbians just haven't "met the right man" or "had good D" as if finding women absolutely beautiful beings ISN'T **the requirement** for being A. LESBIAN., no no it's hating men because they were mean to us?? lol

[@h.3.x]

Omg the subtle/not so subtle anime-neckbeard hand movements are SENDING me

[@sashacarter4939]

I love the accent of "dey musta bin dwunk or someting like dat"😂😂😂😂 its hilariously adorable when you do it🤦🏿‍♀️😂😂

[@pixiecardamon9256]

As a gay guy, watching straight "nice guys" feels like entering a new universe 😭

[@Brooke-hv9yc]

Are we sure that one guys straight?

[@ohmewaw]

​@@Brooke-hv9yc lmaoooo

[@cosmicnic]

currently sobbing my eyes out and trying still to be a mother, i so badly needed a distraction today. Thank you so much Cooper.

[@dissipatedcloud]

Remember, this feeling is temporary. All you have to do is get through today. You got this!!

[@larra468]

You'll make it , remember that

[@cosmicnic]

thank you lovelies. hard morning. much love to all of you❤

[@AShortDork]

Hope you’re doing okay, sending hugs!! 💜💜

[@Sof_rha]

Sending you lots of hugs❤

[@f4kef4ngs]

men who explicitly hate women and feminism complaining that they can't find a woman is hilarious to me. of course they don't like you, you don't even like them!

[@HexingHobbit]

“With the teary eyes of bambi” I died

[@andreamarie584]

I met a man 3 months ago that was respectful, gentle, kind, wasn't desperate for sex, (didn't even bring it up) he was a good listener and very understanding. He always treated me as his equal and our mutual respect for each other and connection made us fall in love. He also respected my boundaries and what I want in life with a partner. We are married now and I'm happy to do all I can to please him as his partner and wife. I praise him everyday and happily will do anything for him. No relationship in this life is perfect but if you try to be the best human you can be, your life will be as perfect as possible. The goal in getting a partner should never be sex or anything sexual. Treat others with kindness and respect. No means no on both sides and forcing anything makes people look desperate which isn't attractive to anyone. If you want a good woman, be a good man and don't have an "agenda" let things happen naturally in their own time.

[@sadem1045]

As a woman, I believe these "nice guys" have made many of my fellow ladies even more cautious around men. We have proof that there are genuinely nice guys out there - I know a lot of these men, in fact. These incels (and men who are dangerously close to crossing that line) give actually kind guys a bad name.

[@spagooter1807]

Lmao I don’t care enough about women anymore to even have a drive to casually date you good luck.

[@kuboland8638]

Define "crossing a line" being incel sadly defoult setting for most guys ( only model looks guys dont have even small incel era )

[@sadem1045]

@@kuboland8638 1. I mean guys who are starting to believe bad stuff about women because they've been unlucky in finding a partner. 2. Most men are not incels and it's really screwed up that you believe they are.

[@kuboland8638]

@@sadem1045 so you got being incel thing wrong being incel just means "involountary celibat" you dont have to hate women to be incel person who belives bad things about women is rather misogynist I would say (although being mysogynistic incel is a thing) . Secondly there is far more incels than you think becouse you only interact with guys who " made it" and those who didnt are just invisible for you therefore you make false assumptions about incel population.

[@sadem1045]

@@kuboland8638 I'm used to seeing/dealing with misogynistic incels, but you're probably correct in saying that it's a misconception. However, you're also making an assumption - you think that I only know guys who are in a relationship and that's just not true. Here's proof: you said, "You only interact with guys who 'made it' and those who didn't are just invisible for you."

[@grampsandi]

AYYYY AROMANTICS GOT A SHOUT OUT thank you for noticing us since we're always left out of conversations and also for being cool as hell yet again!! Like being so genuine, that made me so happy. Also the dude's response to a woman not being responsive to a pursuit makes it make so much sense as to why men push further and further when women are giving clear indication of disinterest and it is so uncomfortable and scary to be able to see that some men will genuinely just keep trying

[@prettyBPD]

The squeaking of his marker as he writes in silence is sending me 😂

[@HaloHunterGod]

I don't think a lot of people know what a "nice guy" is vs a Nice guy. "Nice guys" are men who only seek Anything to fulfill their lust. They never want anything serious, and complain when women don't like them. Nice guys are actually nice. They can handle rejection, and know how to treat a woman. They don't seek to fulfill their lustful urges. And are very sweet and funny people overall. Not to mention, They don't seek female validation, They are actually just like that. This is coming from a woman btw, I have seen both in my life. Edit: I forgot to add, a real nice guy never tells people they are a nice guy. Edit 2: Also, Real nice guys act the same In front of men and women. While "Nice guys" act like Mr Man's, around other men and they act like a "Nice guy" around women.

[@lowlowseesee]

i say abolish the term altogether. any "nice" person doesnt call themselves that and doesnt need to have it as some introduction or red carpet

[@HaloHunterGod]

@@lowlowseesee I 100% agree! And I said something similar in the first "Edit" I made. But yeah, I also believe doing the bare minimum isn't a reward.

[@DimaRakesah]

I think the thing that strikes me the most is how they talk to women like they're not individual people. They're always using a bunch of "tactics" they picked up from some creep online, which only makes women run even more. They talk to us like we're an NPC they can romance, and they just have to figure out the right dialogue tree to go down. I hate it so much. It's incredibly dehumanizing.

[@karyncowperthwaite9124]

kinda love the comfort of knowing like 400 people are watching this almost at the exact same moment in video as me, hay friends

[@m0ss7.c4n1n3]

hiiiiii

[@yourfavperson3748]

Yall are still watching so hiiii

[@zxhsraa]

10 minutes left of the video, hello friend 😴😴

[@purrrrrrrple]

Hii 🎀💖

[@aaaaaaaafjjdjs]

a bit late but hiiii

[@Theamiah3]

Just realized how many times I stood stiff as a board while a man has slowly escalated physical contact 😭 this video was both horrifying and hilarious to me

[@fbiagentfrank]

WHAT?! Why? Why would you do that? Sounds dangerous. Use your words.

[@fbiagentfrank]

I didn't mean for that to sound dismissive or snarky btw. I'm a preschool teacher so "use your words" comes naturally lol. I hope it sounds the way I mean it to.

[@HannahKayW]

@@fbiagentfrankYou do that because unfortunately freeze response is a real thing. Your mind is busy calculating the superior strength of the other person, the likelihood of a violent reaction to rejection, a total disbelief at what is happening, often complicated by a traumatic past experience. This mental panic causes the body to shut down in its responses. The freeze response is perhaps the most unfortunate response because it is the most vulnerable, but it is a natural response some people have and not a choice. It takes a lot of mental fortitude to learn to get out of it in the moment.

[@Theamiah3]

@@fbiagentfrank in my case what happens is a lot like what Cooper and the guy from the video were talking about where the touching wasn’t alarming enough for me to freak out but odd enough for me to be a little annoyed or slightly uncomfortable 😭 So I would ignore it out of fear that if I were to say something I would be “doing too much.” So somehow in my head I end up being the crazy one until I saw this and realized what was actually happening…

[@Theamiah3]

@@fbiagentfrank for example this one guy went from his hand on my back to tapping my sides while he was talking until I was being pulled into him and only then I started creating space. Another kept slowly pulling me further in. The crazy part is both would comment on how stiff I was but would not take it as indication to stop touching me just to keep trying to warm me up to it until I inevitably got too uncomfortable to stick around 😭 but even then my exit would always be a polite excuse…

[@user-fc3um2ko1v]

10:15 please stop yelling at me 😓😭

[@thelemonoftroy]

Him having the words “emotional vibe” on the whiteboard while giving that dead soul stare 💀 it’s like something out of Black Mirror

[@herecomestheboi1285]

It's the autism stare

[@aniela70]

the hamilton lyric on the whiteboard guy's wall actually killed me

[@gabby222themoon]

So he’s into musicals and theatre eh

[@CGWatts-li6lq]

Indoctrinated definition of a "man" got him probably to a point of confusion in his own sexuality and therefore a lack of empathy for women (who he "should" love because he is a "man"). But just my two cents of armchair psychology here (not to be taken too seriously;)).

[@FantasmagoriaAhoy]

​@@gabby222themoonHe's an enemy of all w0men...but a friend of Dorothy. He just doesn't know it yet. He'll probably still hate w0men when he finally finds a "hot as shit guy" to top him.

[@tobyfinchghost]

"skinny guy with the teary eyes of bambi" was genuinely such a good demasculating comment lmao

[@RAHHHH420]

the way cooper really gets into the nice guy character is insane and i love it

[@kylomitchell5719]

Perfect timing. I needed something to watch

[@squids3820]

Love your pfp

[@yourfavperson3748]

Literally

[@frizzer48]

Literally same😂 the doom scrolling was not giving me the needed dopamine hit

[@BellaTealSings]

I love watching cooper because he’s one of the only male KZbinrs that actually respects women

[@roselover411]

I love on the side of the guy in the first video, he has a "schedule" for a dozen different women's names. As if anyone would believe he's actually that good of a player.

[@kelliepatrick519]

They're not 'players', they're liars. They will say and do anything to convince the woman to have sex with them, especially pretend they're interested in a relationship. Generally speaking, women date to find someone that would make a good husband. Men date to get sex. it's time all us ladies accepted that the majority of men are not marriage material, and most don't want to be.

[@emilygorman8894]

I’ve had a few instances of men putting their arms around me, without me even expressing interest in them beyond just being friendly. It happened even after telling those men that I’m a lesbian, for some reason they still thought it was appropriate to shoot their shot that way. In almost every instance my immediate reaction was to freeze, because I was shunted into an awkward interaction that I didn’t know how to safely exit, and while I managed to wiggle my way out of these situations eventually I still feel gross about them to this day. Lack of explicit rejection does not equate to enthusiastic consent, which is why more people need to be clearly taught about consent.

[@abnormal_cerealbowl]

"WE LOVE YOU COOPER" WE SCREAM IN UNISON ‼️‼️🔥

[@xenamation]

WE LOVE YOU COOPER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

[@KORA_______]

WE LOVE YOU COOPER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@SoulMori.]

WE LOVE YOU FLIM COOPER !!!!

[@hyperpuppy]

WE LOVE YOU COOPER!!!!!!!!!

[@Rubberduckiesforever168]

WE LOVE YOU COOPER !!! 🔥🔥👏👏

[@HannahKayW]

My ESL boyfriend will occasionally say “I’m a nice guy” during an argument and I understand, he doesn’t know the culture, he is struggling to find words to express himself, but a little tiny part of my brain dies every time 😂😂😂 love the guy, we’re doing great, but please please stop saying that.

[@FantasmagoriaAhoy]

I dated a guy from a European yelling culture who would yell when he was angry but then he would argue that he had trouble with voice modulation...No, Dude...it's emotional dysregulation. Your ears and vocal cords are FINE. You're yelling because your parents were always yelling. If you didn't talk in a normal tone of voice, I would not be dating you.... But even though he spoke 5 languages fluently his communication skills were terrible so he had to bet let go of.

[@hashtagmate]

Girl this shit sounds the same in every language. English isn't even my second language, more like my third and in every language I speak it's the same. People who say "I'm nice" are a red flag. I wish you luck and happiness, but just stay careful

[@HannahKayW]

@@hashtagmate It definitely is something I’ve had to deeply analyze. I believe that it is more a manifestation of a sort of childishness of emotion which I’ve observed. Thankful all of his virtues are so great, and I am good enough at conversation to get past it, and I think it’s a good fit :P but thank you for your concern. At the end of the day, no one is perfect and we must choose which aspects we want to put up with.

[@rafsandomierz5313]

@@FantasmagoriaAhoy You were probably dating person on the autism spectrum. That's literally the walking textbook definition of autism.

[@Xenathewarrior83]

​@@FantasmagoriaAhoy Gonna write that down... "European yelling culture"... Hehe

[@katatonic726]

Homedude really said "Chees Execyoov Offiter" 23:24 watch it back 🤣