OUR FERTILITY JOURNEY: miscarriages and gender disappointment / Herky and Milton will be big sisters

[@herkythecavalier]

Our most personal video yet. Thank you for being here for us even if you did not know what we were going through. We love you! ❤️

[@ayushidebnath9975]

We love you too!

[@mariechloefernandes5103]

We love you too. Don't worry and I pray for you.

[@berdienvandormael5350]

❤️💛💜

[@ceram0911]

Luv ya

[@cpetbeech65]

Little boys are fabulous! I only had sisters so boys were very foreign to me. I had a boy girl boy and found boys every bit as lovable as girls! Good luck with everything! ( I also had a miscarriage😢).

[@valeriewright9250]

I’m so happy for you both! I also had 2 miscarriages before I had my daughter who is now 12. I cried watching your video. Sending you love and prayers!

[@herkythecavalier]

Hugs to you mama ❤️

[@BrookeSR]

I was disappointed when I found out I was having a boy. Everyone thought id have a girl with how sick I was. I wanted a girl, but now my boy is 13 and I love him to pieces. I didn't even do the whole nesting thing my mom was shocked I just didn't feel it. Once he was born it all changed, now I raise him on my own. Your feelings are valid and it's not a bad thing it will change when it does. CONGRATS I'm so excited for you guys!!!

[@herkythecavalier]

I am glad you relate. No doubt I will love him, just need to adjust to the idea!

[@silverkiss37]

That was a very nice post. 💙💙💙 (Blue is for boys! 😍)

[@melanierose9015]

Not even 2 minutes in and I’m crying. 😭

[@herkythecavalier]

It took a while for me to get this video for that reason. Watching back on the footage was really tough!

[@melanierose9015]

Congratulations! Infertility is difficult, I’ve never been through it but I care for women going through it and getting them ready for surgery. No one really talks about gender disappointment. It will just take time to process and bond with your baby. I’ve suffered from post partum depression and anxiety with every pregnancy and breastfeeding journey. I mentioned this because it begins during pregnancy and i hope you will talk to your doctor about what your feeling and possibly see a specialist. I saw a post partum depression specialist and she was amazing! I truly hope you all the best and happiness. And just remember you are still girlie and you’ll be a smokin’ hot boy mom!

[@herkythecavalier]

Thank you for sharing this ❤️🤍

[@serafinathecavalierkingcha1481]

Hi! Serafina’s mom here. I was so excited to hear you were expecting. Herky & Milton will be great big sisters. Sorry you had to go through two miscarriages. No matter how far along, it can be devastating. I had two very difficult miscarriages myself, both requiring a D&C before getting pregnant with my second child. It took two years before I conceived my first baby. When we talked about having children, we hoped we’d have a boy and a girl. Instead we were blessed with two amazing sons. With my first son, we didn’t find out the sex until he was born. With the second, I found out at four months gestation. I was very disappointed it wasn’t a girl, but that feeling didn’t last long. As your pregnancy progresses and you feel your baby move & grow, you’ll start to bond and get more excited about his arrival. It’s not unusual to feel as you do about your baby. Pregnancy is a very emotional time for a mom, and hormones are raging. Everything will change when you hold your sweet boy in your arms, counting those precious fingers and toes. If you find you’re very depressed though, that’s the time to talk to your doctor. As one with experience bringing up boys, I can tell you, little boys are devoted to their moms. They’ll want to do all of the usual guy stuff with Dad, but a mom and son have a very special bond. Wait until the first time he presents you with a scraggly little weed, thinking it’s a beautiful flower and you’ll know what I mean. 🌾 To you it will be the most beautiful flower in the yard. Press that first “flower” into a book as a remembrance for when he grows up. 🌷 You will cherish it. 💖 remember, that baby boy is a part of both you and your husband, formed from the love you two share. I think before long you’ll be so excited to go shopping for that sweet little homecoming outfit for your beautiful baby boy. Don’t worry about not feeling excited yet, that will come. Praying all goes well and you have a quick delivery. 💖 Sorry this was such a longwinded comment. Love, Serafina & her mom. ❤️🐶🐾

[@Msandjaja]

Congratulations!!! We are so happy that you overcome the challenges and are looking forward to little shrimpy to come out this fall. My husband and I are still waiting because I’m so scared to go through this whole process. Thank you for sharing your story Mai and Andy!

[@ceram0911]

OMG CONGRATS! I AM REALLY HAPPY FOR YOU! HERKY AND MILTON WILL BE THE MOST AMAZING BIG SISTERS’ EVER!!!

[@herkythecavalier]

Thank you!!

[@ceram0911]

@@herkythecavalier No problem! I’m so happy for you! I love you guys! Congratulations

[@kikifranklin]

I cried throughout the entire video!! You are so strong and so incredibly amazing!!! Congratulations!!! I’m a nanny and my friend who I nanny for had several miscarriages before her second was born. I’m so sorry you had to go through this. It was hard for me to see my friend go through this and how emotional and physical it was for me and for her- I couldn’t imagine. But I’m with you each step of the way. And you are entering a new place in your life! Honor your feelings! Talk to family and friends and doctors and whoever else! You will make a great mother! Andy will make a great father! And herky and Milton will make the best big sisters ever! Remember to breathe and take care of yourself! I’m so incredibly excited for you guys! My heart is so full of happiness and love for you all!! I’m with you each step of the way! 💕

[@herkythecavalier]

Love you so much

[@carmenthomson6011]

Congratulations 🎉 I’m so very happy for you both. You are going to be fantastic parents, and Herky and Milton will be great sisters to the little man that is coming along. As for gender disappointment all I can give you is my experience,. Many years ago when I was pregnant i didn’t even want to find out the gender of my baby because I was 100% sure it was a girl, I didn’t plan any boys name and everything I had was either neutral or pink. As you can imagine I had a boy and he is the joy of my life, he is all grown up now and makes me proud every day :-) Again lots of love to you all xx

[@tropmama7626]

Omg ❤️ I cried, I laughed… love your family reactions. Can’t wait for more videos, congrats and many blessings on this journey! 🥰😘

[@tammyross9159]

I am so happy for you guys! Congratulations on you pregnancy! I also had two miscarriages, and needed a D & C after one. It was devastating and i woke up crying afterwards! I love you can just be yourself and talk about difficult conversations. You help many people who follow you! Thank you! Love Herky, Milton, and you two!❤

[@herkythecavalier]

The trauma from the D&C is real. You know! Hugs to you ❤️

[@mindyappleton3752]

How devastating. I can only imagine your pain. On the gender, I thought for sure I was having a girl and wanted a girl so badly. I ended up with a boy. However, he’s 15 years old now and I am sooo close to him. It turned out better than I ever thought and I see the girl parents and say to myself, “thank god I have my son.”

[@herkythecavalier]

Haha I’ve been told the same from teen girl parents! 😂😂

[@blackglitter1474]

Do you think part of the gender disappointment has something to do with society? I see far more parents disappointed they don't get a girl. Boys were highly desired in the past. Clothing manufacturers sell very dull and borderline evil looking clothes/characters for boys. I look hard and find clothing that looks like sunshine for my boy. The girl mums always boast about dressing their kid. I never understood this because if I wanted to dress something up, I would get a doll or dress a niece or adopt/design a baby. I wouldn't do something with 50% chance of being another gender. I'm pregnant 2nd time around and am already experiencing people pray for a girl and it's very disrespectful for the boy I may be carrying. I feel like it's the girls' club with unicorns etc and the businesses promoting the craze. Dragons are just as sparkly and magical as unicorns (not to mention unicorns historically had a unisex appeal.. horses were actually a very masculine toy back in the day but it has now gone to the female pony club). I believe toy manufacturers and fashion designers are taking the sunshine and rainbows out of the boys' lives through this way. Even dance being heavily promoted as a feminine activity. The posters are always girls. There are allowed to be girl TV shows but hell no if there is a kids' show dominated by the male gender.. e.g. the Wiggles or Thomas and Friends. By removing boys from all the wonderful things they used to enjoy and pushing them into these violent superheroes or violent video games, we just bring out the aggression rather than their creativity and compassion. I do challenge what society pushes on us but the flip side of not settling into the gender role society imposes is losing that sense of belonging to your gender and being exposed to bullying etc.

[@whateveryouneed4858]

You had a rough journey, but it all paid off in the end. I'm sure your baby boy will be happy and loved, congratulations and I wish you all the best! 💙

[@herkythecavalier]

Thank you for the kind words!

[@silverkiss37]

AT MINUTE 1 AND I'M ALREADY CRYING!! Ok, I'm almost done watching the video now and I've cried a lot more. I myself had a miscarriage. My very first pregnancy. I was also given this drug during my miscarriage to make sure it all came out. "Peanut" came out but I never had a D&C and because I didn't I got recurring infections for years because of what was left behind. I think you are blessed for having to get the d&c and it's probably the reason you were able to conceive again so quickly. I am so sorry for your losses. I still call my little lost baby "Peanut' because my mom watched me pass it and she said it looked just like a peanut. 💔 I will forever dream of one day meeting my child. And people who haven't lost a child couldn't understand. I am so happy you guys kept fighting for what you wanted instead of getting down and giving up. Congratulations on your pregnancy and coming child. We are all waiting with you. You guys will be in my prayers. God bless your little one.

[@herkythecavalier]

I am sorry to hear about your peanut :( Like you said, there are pros about the D&C for sure and in retrospect I guess I am glad I got it. Going through it though, it feels so invasive and physically very challenging. Sending hugs to you

[@silverkiss37]

@@herkythecavalier I just finished watching your video and I would just like to add sweetheart that with my boys I didn't have a lot of connection during my pregnancy. I didn't have a lot of energy I gained weight a lot I was more depressed more moody but these things ended after the baby was born and I was able to connect with my boys just fine. Now I also had two girls and during those pregnancies I had a lot of energy I hardly gained any weight I was very happy I was not moody and I was very much in love with my girls in utero. All this being said my children came out all the same and I love them all the same obviously I love them as individuals but I love each one as much as I love the next. I hope this helps you feel a little bit better about the emotions that you're experiencing. Pregnancy is kind of like that we never really know what to expect and each one is a little bit different. But give yourself some grace and give yourself sometime to adjust. You will. I believe you and Andy are both very loving people and I believe you're going to be wonderful parents whether it is a girl or a boy. I believe a girl would be much more fun for you but I think having a boy will be nothing but a sweet surprise. Thank you for your kind words about my own loss It really helps when they come from somebody who has experienced the same trauma. You know it just might be that you're still very scared to become attached to your baby. And that might be why you're feeling so blue about a boy. But who knows? Pregnancy is weird hehe. 💕

[@jaydays365]

Congratulations on expanding your family💗💗💗!!! I love how real your channel is and can’t wait to see the rest of your journey... thanks so much for sharing! Omg I can’t wait to see the girls meet the new baby... yes take us for the journey, shopping, setting up, expectations everything 💗

[@katerosario1139]

So grateful you made this video and documented what you went through so others can see how common miscarriage is and how it affects everyone. Thank you for your honesty regarding gender disappointment as well, you have every right to feel that way and I know several people who have experienced that. Best of luck, I know you and Andy will be fabulous parents! ❤️

[@itskatarianna]

The first time I found out about this from your insta a few months ago, I was super happy (literally i was screaming irl 😅) since I knew you were struggling and I'm still very happy for you guys 😄😄 Congrats 🥳🎉 can't wait to see you lil Shrimpy 💙 Soon you're going to have 3 kids instead of 2. Ahhh... can't wait 😍😍

[@herkythecavalier]

Thanks Arianna :)

[@geralynhoskins1045]

I love that you are sharing your life with us and I love the bond you have with your family and friends. It's not easy to talk about disappointments but believe me, you will be smitten when the little guy is born. I always look forward to Herky and Milton videos and now I can look forward to them with the baby. Bless you all♥

[@tiffanibanks7218]

Congrats! Herky and Milton have prepared you being an attentive parent🥰 thank you for sharing.Know that this vid is helping so many ppl. Btw the bubble captions are 😆😆

[@herkythecavalier]

Haha, very impawtant to let you know how Herky and Milton feel!

[@JennV-B]

Awww Mai this brought me to tears!! You’ve been though so much but I’m so so happy for you guys now! I actually have a friend right now dealing with gender disappointment. She had IVF and they chose to have a girl implanted and they did the nursery pink, all the clothes, got a sign with her name and then at her big 20 week appointment the doctor told them it’s a boy. So either they implanted the wrong embryo, the test was initially wrong about the gender OR and the most scary the embryo was mixed up with someone else’s! Can you imagine?! They are pretty sure the last one isn’t the case but they won’t know till they know. Anyway she’s still coming to terms with the fact that it’s a boy but she’s finally getting back into it a little more and being happy again. It takes time though but it’ll happen especially the second you hold the baby in your arms! Wishing you a safe rest of your pregnancy! Thanks for sharing with us!

[@herkythecavalier]

OMG I can so imagine how your friend must feel. Especially going through IVF which is that much more invasive :(((( So sorry

[@brookerose3464]

Congratulations! You said in a video once that you weren’t going to have kids, so this was a big surprise! So exciting 😄

[@taniameenowa9160]

Mai, thank you for sharing this journey. It is not easy and it is not talked about often. You have bought up something that really needs attention and I respect you for that.I wish you all the best for this pregnancy and I send you lots of love. Boys are so much fun. They really are. My nephew is a gift and I love him so much. Keep the calm vibes going x

[@claricemonarcha7478]

So happy for you guys! Really sorry you had to go through this.. 😢 I’m sure you will be super glad once he is born though, and you are obviously allowed to feel whatever you are feeling! ♥️ You always imagined it being a girl, anyone would be at least a bit upset... Loved the raw honesty! Hope you are all well and happy! Love you guys 🥰

[@PercymmA]

Thank you so much for the very personal sharing. It's a privilege to go through the wide range of emotions of your journey. So happy things are going well this time! You've been through so much! Congratulations !!! 💕💕💕

[@shilpabhopatkar8936]

Congratulations! Do not worry about disappointing anyone or being detached. My first miscarriage, I was devastated. I thought for sure it was because I wasn’t religious that I was being punished. My next pregnancy, I prayed every day and was so good and I still lost the baby. So, the third time, at my 5th month ultrasound, I saw my son sucking his thumb, and only THEN did I believe I was actually going to have a baby at the end of this! And he was a cuddly snuggly squishy chubby sweet gentle little boy. All the preschool moms loved him because he didn’t pull their daughters’ hair. Your baby will be Herky & Milton’s best friend.

[@chrisstepleton4761]

Congratulations! It is a lot more fun having a boy than it used to be. Little boy clothes are cuter and honestly for the first year or so, the sexes are basically the same. Having the girls as big sisters will definitely have an effect on his personality in a very good way. Many people think the perfect family is to have a little boy first and then have the little girl. Maybe this will happen to you. I can't wait until you choose his name! You will be an amazing mother!

[@herkythecavalier]

Who knows what the future holds for us! :)

[@sarahfurlong8458]

Thank you for being so transparent and open and honest 💜 We can’t wait to welcome your baby boy into the Herky the Cavalier/Cavology famjam 💙

[@lilliannissen3183]

I went through similar circumstances many years ago, but, thank God He gave me a Son and later, a daughter. They have given me six grand children, and they all are the biggest blessings in my life. So, I am sure your kids will join Herky and Milton, to become the family that both you and Andy really need. I enjoy watching all your posts. Praying that you will have a safe and healthy delivery, both for you and your new baby. 😍

[@CH-jd8km]

Congratulations Mai & Andy. Wishing Mai easy & healthy pregnancy. Very pleased for both of you and Herky & Milton you.

[@jessrichardson9462]

Congratulations Herky and Milton are going to be amazing big sisters ❤

[@DonWickelgren]

Mai, I think you did a terrific job with this video. Struck the right tone and openness. It helps me to understand some friends that have gone through a similar path and I think can help prepare them, if a little bit, for such a difficult time. Congratulations to you and Andy!

[@herkythecavalier]

I am glad this can help in any way ❤️😊

[@lisapowell7100]

Such a tearjerker video! We love you Mai, Andy and Herky and Milton ❤ I'm so excited for you and your growing family!! You're gonna be the best mom!! And the baby gets to grow up with the best dogs ever! I'm so excited to see your beautiful future!!❤🥰❤🥰❤

[@Nayisbae43]

AAWWWWWWWWWWWW i started crying, and wow you are so blessed and brave and strong! you really make me happy watching your vids with my cav and the physical pain and mental pain you went through is unimaginable but you made it ilyyy!!! hope the new coming baby has a healthy growth

[@maryhutson55]

I had 4 boys. Not one girl. I must tell you the boys are so much joy . You'll see. One look and you'll be in love. God bless you both.

[@lindabrandse8060]

I have been following your video for quite a while now & have been enjoying them. I wish you every happiness. I hope you really enjoy Motherhood. xo

[@herkythecavalier]

Thank you Linda!

[@FullmetalGirl94]

I'm so glad things are looking up for you. And your feelings about the gender are completely, 100% valid. If nothing else, at least you do have two daughters with Herky and Milton!

[@herkythecavalier]

Yes, at least I can always say I have two girls :)

[@debbieannisaacs2778]

Watching this for the first time, I cried for you. I think you are so brave and strong, you are amazing. Thank you for sharing it helps to know we are not alone. I am so happy for you now, it’s positivity from here on. Loving you from the United Kingdom 🇬🇧.

[@marcusnorville32]

OH MY GOD!! CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR NEW BUNDLE OF JOY!!! YOU WILL BOTH BE AMAZING PARENTS AND HERKY AND MILTON WILL BE AMAZING BIG SISTERS!!

[@herkythecavalier]

Thank you!

[@marcusnorville32]

@@herkythecavalier Your are so welcome!!

[@Kaj0699]

You put the gender disappointment explanation so well. It helped me understand my own Daughter actually. She went through infertility. Then ivf failure. Then ivf second transfer was a success. She wanted a girl. Always has. And it was a boy. Whom she absolutely adores. But yes had a time where like you said - had the right to be a tad disappointed too. Then a shock 2nd pregnancy - naturally, when first baby was only 8 months old. Again a boy. So she will get where you’re coming from. And as much as she / we all love her boys - a girl is what we always imagined / wanted. But my grandsons melted my heart. As it did mummy & daddy. CONGRATULATIONS. 💙

[@kimmykat9]

Oh my sweet friend, we have never met but we are kindred souls. I too, went through such a devastating loss and no one really seemed to know what to say to me. They sort of acted like it didn't matter or something. I now have 2 sons after losing 2 babies and it will all be ok...I promise. There are many of us that experience this pain...xo Thank you for doing this video !!!

[@sandyschwartzkopf3510]

I'm holding my breath until October! Congrats! I have two girls and a step son. I've found that boys don't get emotional in their late teens and leave you hanging until they mature. Unlike girls, who seem to have it rough during that time. At least in my family. Hope you and yours stay healthy. A friend of mine is having a blood test to make sure her blood is free of viral spike proteins before she breast feeds. I absolutely loved breast feeding, but also used formula. Congrats again!

[@cavaleevi]

Wow, this really moved me to tears from the beginning. 😢 ♥️ you are such a fighter and will have a beautiful baby boy inmidst your caring and lovely cav girls 🙂. I don‘t know how it must have felt to lose a baby..but I know the fear of not knowing if you‘re able to get one. Bc of Hashimoto‘s Disease I had to do a lot about my health to prepare my body for a pregnancy and still wasn‘t sure if it will work. After months ... when I held the first positive pregnancy test in my hands I cried tears of happiness. I am now in week 14 and hope everything goes well. 🙏 All the best to you, your baby and your little family 🐶🌷🌱🤰🏼♥️

[@aprilfurcean8302]

There is something so so special about the bond between a mom and their son. I felt sad when I found out my son was a boy. But he is seven now and our bond since he was born has been so strong and it just gets better and better. There’s no shame in feeling the way you feel and I would dare to say is normal and more common than one might think.

[@JulieSorbello]

I had a boy first also. I wanted a girl. As soon as he was in my arms-he was EXACTLY what I wanted. You will be shocked how he will be the perfect baby for you.

[@ediarcher7047]

YAY! Congratulations to you and Andy! I am the mother of twin boys and, like you, I always thought I would have boys. I have 3 sisters and knee nothing about them. BUT, I can now say that boys love their mothers like no one else! You will fall in love when you see him ❤️😘

[@danavelez5615]

So happy for you! May you be blessed with the most beautiful boy ever!

[@herkythecavalier]

Thank you

[@jessicadieckman8736]

God bless you and your family. Everything you said is very powerful and moving. It’s not an easy journey bringing new life into this world. This was a moving video for many people like myself who can relate to pregnancy and baby challenges. Thank you! In future videos I would love to see how the girls respond to the growing baby, nursery set up, and eventually your new baby. I also live your candid and honest updates. God bless you, Herky and Milton, Andy and of course this new little boy on the way. Keep us posted on name ideas. Thank you again!♥️🐾

[@kimmykat9]

PS., I really was disappointed when I didn't have little girls and guess what..these boys have been incredible, I promise !!!!

[@herkythecavalier]

Haha yes I was expecting one thing... but I am sure we will all have fun with this little dude

[@kimmykat9]

@@herkythecavalier And little girls grow up to be teens....

[@cherylyoung5370]

I was in tears from beginning to end for both the joyous moments and sad ones. My heart goes out to you and your personal journey. May God blessings pour down upon your expanding family and loved ones. Thank you for sharing this with us and your honesty. We love you and see only the best for your futures. Big sis reactions were true to form and smile worthy.

[@herkythecavalier]

Thank you Cheryl ❤️

[@JulieNicoleSays]

Congratulations on your baby boy Idk what its like to lose a baby, but i know friends who have. Just know god always has a plan even when its hard to understand during hard times

[@MsDaisyPetals]

So happy for you both!!! You're going to love so many things about your lives like you never thought you would. Such a wonderful journey you'll be going on. My son is now 30 & he watches out for ME! & gives me great advice. Our relationship is so fulfilling to me & I'm so proud of him. You'll reap so many rewards throughout your years. Bravo! PS I highly recommend Heidi Mercuff's books about pregnancy but most especially the First Year... and Years 2-3 because they explain the cognitive growth changes happening to your little one. If you understand & expect the changes, they are so much easier to adapt to. When the 2 year old issues came around, I could laugh about what was happening. Best wishes & enjoy every moment! 💗👶🤱

[@BlackShaina]

Thank you so much for your video! I' expecting my first child and I felt the same about the gender (it will be a boy, too). I asked myself why I'm so disappointed and this helped me a lot to questioning my expectations on the gender. I came to the conclusion that this would be an amazing chance to get rid of all the role patterns that I lerned in my childhood. Now I'm very excited about my boy, although sometimes there is this tiny sadness about that girl I didn't get. I'm so thankful that women like you speak openly about their feelings! All the best to you 5

[@Mixymitosis]

I went through similar issues to you, unfortunately. I am so glad that you are being so honest about preferring a girl. That said, once you have adjusted to having a baby, you won’t be able to imagine life without your son. Best wishes to your family

[@barbararuga804]

Congratulations Mai. Little boys are fun too. You'll see. Andy yur going to be a Daddy! Luv yu both & Herky & Milton. Xxxxx

[@herkythecavalier]

Thank you Barbara!

[@matilda0410]

What a beautiful video! So happy for you guys! ❤❤

[@sandieweldon2808]

Wow, thanks for sharing your journey, a journey that most people keep guarded. I am sure that this video will help someone that is going through the same. You have a right to feel what you feel. Lots of feelings and thoughts will flow through you and they are yours no matter what others say or think. And soon after your baby is born, there is going to be a moment when it hits you like a ton of bricks how much you love your baby. Soon after, it will be hard to imagine life without your baby. When people told me that, I thought it was lame. But it is true. Prayers to you and your growing family.

[@Allegra11]

So sorry you went through such a traumatic time but huge congratulations on your pregnancy. Believe me when I tell you as a mum of 2 boys and a girl that boys are wonderful and extra loving to their mums. You will fall in love with your baby! He’s a lucky little boy having such a wonderful family! 💙

[@jessicadieckman8736]

Oh! And I promise you, will love your little boy. It’s totally normal how you feel. But once you meet and hold him you will feel in love with this little boy. He will grow up with the best mom and dad and the best sister Cavaliers ever. He will be in love with them too. Our family is so excited for you all! Many blessings!

[@buymywings]

Congratulations in expanding your family, Mai and Andy! I respect your bravery in sharing such a vulnerable and painful time. I truly believe you will fall in love with your baby boy with all your being. Looking forward to your days ahead!

[@herkythecavalier]

Thank you for the kind words :)

[@ms.pawsomebaker6821]

I am so happy for you guys! You guys went through so much and I am sure lil Shrimpy will be adorable! Congrats to Herky and Milton for being big sisters to their new little brother!!!!

[@herkythecavalier]

Thank you for the kind words!

[@tinanatoli594]

Congrats guys.. My husband and I feel for you both.. We took 5 years after at least one miscarriage, to hold our baby in our arms.. I know emotionally what you guys have been through, and what you will perhaps continue to experience, on and off.. When your beautiful baby is born, you will forget about any doubts and insecurities you have felt.. because he’s physically there for you to hold, witness and love.. He’s all yours and your husband’s, and I can see from your videos, what interactive caring ang loving parents you both will be.. Your pups, together with your bubs, will be a beautiful loving family.. And anyway.. It’s great that your baby being a boy brings some balance to the genders in your family; considering Herky and Milton are girls.. All the very wishes guys.. 💕💖

[@320ljohnson]

Been through it. It’s awful. No one can imagine unless they’ve experienced it. So glad you didn’t stop trying. Congrats on the new baby!

[@SuFFo]

Thank you for sharing your tough journey!! CONGRATULATIONS! Y'all are going to be the best human & dog parents ever!! :)

[@herkythecavalier]

Thanks for watching :)

[@mattp2904]

Congrats!! So happy for you guys💖

[@Purify123]

Having a baby boy (gender you didn't want) will definately expand your heart.

[@herkythecavalier]

Wisely said :)

[@AnastasiaPanna]

Your journey and honesty is so raw and beautiful. Thank you for sharing something so personal ♥️ you will be a gorgeous mama and you will heal together and will be amazing parents xx

[@sactownstringsalatestarter4982]

Do I love and respect your honesty and authenticity! Thank you for sharing your life (and adorable fur babies) with us.

[@marilynmani]

Maya, I really admire your honesty about this pregnancy. That took "guts"! No pun intended. Love all of you! (You, Andy, Herky & Milton.) I remember when you talked about wanting only girl dogs because you didn't like the look of certain anatomical parts of boys. But, this will be a little human boy, and hopefully this will seem different since he is Andy's & your baby. You might consider talking with your doctor or a mental health therapist for women who are pregnant & have unresolved feelings about the sex of the child. It can adversely effect your pregnancy & your child. ( My friend wasn't wanted by his mother during her pregnancy because she had already had 5 children (Catholic) and didn't want another child, but back then Catholics didn't use birth control). Unfortunately, some idiot in the family told him while he was in his formative years that his mother didn't want him. That was very devastating news for him to hear, and he went into a deep depression. So, my point is, deal with those feelings now. Those feelings are very legitimate & I think that you should be able to express them in a safe place where there's no one to argue with you or tell you that you are wrong. Again, sending ❤ to you as always.

[@GabbyTTran]

Congratulations for the pregnancy, and keep me posted! Really happy and very excited for you! You are great pet parent already, so I have no doubt you will be great parents as well!

[@bonniefenton1730]

I was so sorry to hear about your miscarriages. They are indeed common but heartbreaking, nevertheless. I had three miscarriages but finally three wonderful, sweet, amazing sons. I too wanted a girl at first but fell instantly in love with our first son the moment he was born. I think I had some preconceived notions about what having sons would be like. As it turned out, our sons have given us some of the best and happiest experiences of our lives and now four beautiful grandchildren (including a girl)! You and your husband will certainly make wonderful, nurturing parents and your little boy will be very lucky to have you! Best wishes from my husband, Bill, and our sweet Cavalier, Isabella, for continued success and with your pregnancy and new parenthood! ❤️

[@alicevlogs7652]

Congratulations to you both on the upcoming birth of your first child, many blessings and prayers for your family. 😊🌹May life be wonderful for you all. Thank you for sharing this amazing news. As always enjoy all the videos! Alice x x x

[@berdienvandormael5350]

Congratulations! So happy for you guys! So sorry that you’ve had such a difficult process! When my niece got pregnant, her mind was focused every single moment on a girl, when she found out that it was a boy, that has been a rough time too, but now 3 years later, she loves having a son, he’s the sweetest, most gentle, funny little guy. And you know what they say boys usually have a strong bond with their mom 😉 all the doubts will disappear when you hold him for the first time. You will be an awesome, funny, sweet, hardworking and lovely mom! Everything will be okay! lots of love ! 🍼😘

[@corinalam7880]

So happy for you Mai and Andy, Shrimpy will be a healthy and big baby for sure 🥺

[@herkythecavalier]

Thanks for the love, Corina!

[@janacreed129]

First of all congratulations. Secondly I’m so terribly sorry for the difficult journey you’ve been through. I also want to say that I’ve personally always thought I would be a girl mom. I have a 9 year old son and two boy dogs so here I am, a boy mom. I know first hand gender disappointment. I never said aloud but I felt it. I will say though, my child quickly became just that, my child, not my “son”. I don’t know if my words and my experience will provide any reassurance but I know you are a great mother to Herky and Milton and your love will only grow with your new baby.

[@giuliamichieli1155]

I have followed your channel for 3 years now and this is so joyful to me! I'm so exited for you guys!!

[@bellesmith8925]

Congratulations on little shrimpy! I am so sorry you had to go through so much loss and physical trauma. Love from California ♥️

[@herkythecavalier]

Thank you so much! ❤️🙏🏻

[@andreachisholm6512]

Congrats and thanks for being so honest about your struggles, I think that is something people need to hear, but also that there is hope too!

[@KateEdenPhotography]

Congratulations dear! I know how you feel, I always wanted a girl, but I have just one boy, unfortunately, I could not have any other children. But I am so happy I have him. He is now a successful man and I'm very proud of him. I can just say that boys love their mothers so much and you will be definitely a happy mummy, you will see 🙂❤️

[@h.r.h.mvthequeen9101]

I’m so happy for you both. Just wait, when that little boy arrives you will love it just the same as if he had been a baby girl. I pray you have a healthy, fast and safe delivery. I pray the baby is healthy and grows up to be a happy, kind man. Teach him to respect people, especially elders and women. Teach him to be a gentleman, they are so rare now-a-days and to always take the high road. Blessings to you all. 💜Margie

[@lamonica0228]

Congratulations! I ran across your channel looking for videos that will help with my cavalier when he comes next month. Your videos are very informative and they quickly let me know I made the right decision concerning the type of dog. Thanks A lot !

[@pippasmom9369]

Congratulations! I can’t wait to see how the fur babies and human baby all get along! Thank you for sharing! We love your channel.

[@tammyhuynh4063]

OMG! Our daughter’s nickname is Shrimpy and her birthday is on October 18! We still call her Shrimp and she is turning 17 now. She is also Vietnamese! ♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@marieryan2541]

Hi Mia & Andy. Congratulations on your pregnancy. Hope all goes well. Marie

[@lieky811]

This was so emotional 🥲...❤️ Congratulations 💙😘

[@maryhurley9702]

Thank you so much for sharing this journey with us. I'm so happy for you to have a health happy baby!

[@alanisreddy5168]

Congratulations and thank you so much for sharing! I'm sure it wasn't easy, but wishing you guys all the best 💙

[@elisadelgado4127]

Congratulations Mai and Andy! I’m so genuinely happy for you! 💙

[@megannicolefoster]

Watching this reminded me of when I found out my sister was having a boy and I just cried and cried. He’s the absolute light of our lives the sweetest little boy ever

[@herkythecavalier]

It's all the feels!

[@sophielabrijn9026]

What a journey! Congratulations to you both and your baby girls! Very brave to share this! Lots of luck to you!

[@SL-tk8hb]

Thank you for sharing this , I am so sorry about your previous miscarriages !!! I am also super excited for you baby boy ! Congratulations!!!!!!

[@herkythecavalier]

thank you Susan

[@marygrow1212]

Lovely and brave video. When we finally managed to adopt a baby from Koea, which was a longer process than a pregnancy, I always wanted a girl. All my friends got girls. I was stunned when we went to get the baby's picture and it was a boy. We would not have turned him down, but I kept thinking it was a mistake, so I can empathize. But you will as you know now, love the lil guy for who he is.

[@Kaj0699]

And Milton & Herkey are amazing. Theyre the reason i picked you out to “follow”. And am even more pleased to do so. 🐶 ive had 3 and lost 3 Cavs in last 15 yrs. 💔 theyre the best.

[@jackiedurk8799]

Congratulations to you both on the upcoming birth of your first child, many blessings and prayers for your family. 😊🌹May life be wonderful for you all. Thank you for sharing this amazing news. As always enjoy all the videos.

[@kellywilliams8506]

Congratulations! This video made me cry and I am so excited for you and Andy. I wish you all so much happiness

[@herkythecavalier]

Thank you Kelly :)

[@ninanedamiani9799]

Very moving video, 🙏 So happy the life of the four of you is taking a new path with a baby boy , you’ll see Mai he’ll be a real gift for you ! Take care . Big kisses to the four of you 🧸🐶🐶🍼

[@dancingdory]

Congratulations! I can understand the disappointment of expecting a girl and having a boy. That was 17 years ago and I have 2 boys. We’ve always wanted girls but we had boys - they are 17 and 11 now and we love them both so much. Once they are out, you’ll be too busy to think about that. We chose to have a female puppy in the end to balance out the sex imbalance.

[@ayushidebnath9975]

I am so happy for you!! Congratulations! You have been very brave and strong about it...

[@herkythecavalier]

Thank you! :)

[@jamiekarlsson6859]

Iam so happy for you. I have been folloe you for 2 years now. Iam so happy. Congratiolltions.

[@gabbienelson8450]

So sweet, sending love and good energy from my cav, Moose, and I. Love to see your cav family grow!