Overcoming Relationship Anxiety

[@jallor]

It’s great to hear an overview about relationship anxiety that makes sense to me. Thank you!

[@LeslieBeckerPhelpsPhD]

I’m glad you find it helpful. Thank you for letting me know!

[@tattooyu]

This is a very poignant video. In my case, my fear turned out to be a learned response from childhood. Overall, I had a very loving home. However, the love was inconsistent with one of my parents. It was really great most of the time but quite traumatic at other times-I downplayed the bad stuff most of my life. All this led to fear of abandonment in my future relationships: trying too hard (esp. too soon), crossing my own boundaries, making it work at all costs for fear of loss, etc. For anyone else out there who experiences something similar, there is hope! Get help from a professional, if possible, and Dr. Becker-Phelps' books. Many thanks, Dr. Becker-Phelps!

[@LeslieBeckerPhelpsPhD]

I'm saddened by what you carry from childhood, but I hope that you have made progress on your personal journey; and that you continue to do so. I appreciate your call out for people to get my books (thank you), and I hope it means that they have helped you!

[@tattooyu]

@@LeslieBeckerPhelpsPhD While I was definitely aware of something being "wrong," I had no idea of the source of it/connection to it until recently. "Insecure in Love" was a huge help on my journey! I'm going to get the workbook as soon as I can.

[@LeslieBeckerPhelpsPhD]

@@tattooyu That's great. I hope the workbook helps you take some more steps forward. Remember that taking the workbook slowly and really doing the work is more important and more helpful than going through it quickly. Wishing you the best, and I'd love to hear how it goes.

[@garyr9580]

Betrayal trauma keeps the betrayed outside of personal interaction, barely existing...... Had a dream about a all mechanical electrical city were everything was real , had six layers underground, with tunnels to another city that was very similar.....wild..... No carbon based lifeforms, only minerals, ferrous and non-ferrous materials etcetera

[@LeslieBeckerPhelpsPhD]

I can feel your pain in that dream, a powerful expression of the betrayal trauma you mentioned. I hope that your psyche can allow for an alternate dream of a city with carbon based lifeforms, some of whom can offer warmth and a sense of home. It can be extremely scary and difficult to recognize and open to this alternative. But if you would like to, maybe you can do the necessary healing to get there.