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[@pardonthemusic]

for the last one, "kids being kids" is something you say about eight year olds playing as imaginary characters on the playground, not a literal grown 18 year old man emotionally tormenting his step sister holy shit.

[@Sly-Moose]

I can't believe the other adults laughed at all too! 🤬 I will see them in Heck

[@hawkeyescoffee6399]

Right? 18 is an adult, he's not a child. And bullying is not sibling bonding. That poor girl, dealing with chemo then having to deal with being bullied by adults too, good for her mum standing up for her. I really hope she divorced him (and maybe got her daughter some therapy). His whole family sound like the literal worst.

[@miakirilova7255]

This was horrific, I have cried, when reading it on Reddit. Yes, he's not a child, and even if he was, he shouldn't be able to get away with it. This is not "bonding", it's a CRIME. he have no respect to the girl's personal space (I actually don't know how things are in America, but here, taking pictures of someone without their concern is a crime) nor her body autonomy (it wasn't her choice to go bald, so her wig can be seen as part of her true self).

[@Hip.Username]

i actually feel like the story can't be real, because of how blatantly horrific everyone's behavior is towards a teenage chemo patient. i can see some teens/kids laughing, i can't see any adult guests laughing or any adult guests not interjecting and shaming anyone who was laughing. like it just really doesn't add up with how universally understood cancer is and how terrible this story is. people make shit up on reddit for karma all the time i really think it's a fake story

[@Sly-Moose]

@@Hip.Username I HOPE it's fake!

[@Jackieeeisvibing]

Jesus fuck- as a black afab person who has had their wigs and hair pulled before it’s incredibly misogynistic and evil to do to someone like the pure embarrassment. My heart hurts for this poor girl like divorce the husband assp

[@c.b.barlow]

seriously, who does something like that, especially after going through Chemo. I had a half brother I met for the first time and because of the number of people involved we had to take two cars to go out to eat. he sat next to me and started pulling my hair; I repeatedly told him to stop and eventually this got the attention of the shared parent. I told them I had asked the boy to stop and the response I received was " that just means he likes you." the parent then turned away and let the kid do whatever he wanted. I'm glad said parent is dead and hopefully rotting in hell.

[@splitlele]

not only misogynistic, racist too. are you familiar with the term "misogynoir"? it's the intersection of racism and misogyny, typically affecting black women. but regardless of race or gender, touching other people's things and publicly humiliating them is cruel as fuck.

[@nooneinparticular469]

I’m not black, but I do come from a big hair culture. When I lost my hair to cardiac cancer, she donated 64 inches of her own. Getting used to a pixi was tough for her and I know my mom was devastated she couldn’t brush and braid my hair anymore, and having a wig will never be the same as natural hair I grew my whole life. I can’t imagine anyone doing anything like this to me.

[@ilikeghibli]

Misogynistic? How? 💀

[@nonexistingvoid]

​@@ilikeghibli women especially are expected to have a head full of hair, and people who wear wigs often do this to feel a certain femininity, since society still associates baldness and short hair with men or failing to fit in. I guess some people find it funny to "expose" people who find confidence in wearing a wig to hide baldness or short hair. And their main targets tend to be women. Especially women of colour, as they get shamed for their hair disproportionately. But I might be wrong, as I'm just a white person who's never had to deal with anything like this, so I hope a woman who knows more about it will correct me if needed.

[@astrologay]

As someone currently going through treatment for cancer, I cannot imagine the horror that poor person felt in that moment. Hair loss is absolutely devastating

[@thomasoakley8258]

I hope your treatment is going ok!

[@yuh_yuhmy8919]

Oh I hope you get better very soon

[@universal_stupidity]

I hope you get better and recover well, and also you're so right, hair is a part of peoples identity often, even if they don't realize it (trans people change their hair often first, many people style, cute and dye their hair to manage their confidence), so everyone should be able to atleast sympathize and realize NOT TO TAKE PEOPLE'S WIGS

[@adam8290]

I know, after hearing that store I was ready to throw some hands

[@Mae_Dastardly]

Yo fam u got this. Whoop cancers ass!!

[@hayleigh7354]

the one about the trans kid annoyed me so much. first of all, people dictating what guests wear to their wedding is kinda gross ngl, probably an unpopular opinion but let people wear what they want? especially if it’s dictated by gender. second of all, i get that it’s her wedding and it’s her day and she has a right to want things the way she wants them, but that right ends the second it makes someone else uncomfortable. and I don’t get why calling her nephew by his real name (real name meaning NOT his deadname) actually affects anything about the day as a whole. I may not know this woman, but I hate her.

[@Eric-md3mp]

I am 100% certain that they only made it a gender specific dress code as an attack on the one Trans relative they knew was coming

[@SnoFitzroy]

Honestly, as a dude-adjacent with a right leaning sister, I can easily see myself being in this situation and just going straight for a left hook instead of calling her a bigot (well. Maybe actually both!)

[@nutella7162]

Yeah it's one thing not wanting someone to come dressed all in black (if you weren't having like a non-traditional goth wedding or smth), in a swimsuit, also in a wedding dress etc. but those are extreme examples. My aunt was bitching about my mom coming in a dress which was in a colour she didn't like (and it wasn't white, black, in a weird pattern or similar, it was just a normal elegant dress). Now that is on par with lunacy like not wanting your trans relative to come dressed in something they're comfy in

[@Sly-Moose]

I hate her too. I will visit her in Heck

[@taylorbaldwin2095]

I get having a dress code (like casual, formal, or semi-formal) but unless someone is in the wedding party then they shouldn’t be told what to wear.

[@sunflowerspirited4974]

Laughing at children with cancer is just supervillain shit straight up??? Like what the fuck??? And from her own father and family??? I hope her mom was able to get out of that relationship because omg

[@bluebird1914]

Everyone apart from the mom and daughter just sounds like a Dhar Mann villain.

[@juli5945]

We had almost the exact same thought, I was going to comment that it was "cartoonishly evil", because WOW who does that in real life.

[@tylerisntasheep6854]

@@bluebird1914 rly I have to believe it's fake because who on earth is that evil, let alone a whole family?? I hope it is fake at least.

[@allisoncastle]

@@bluebird1914 omg right that is the perfect comparison

[@lemonmeat]

@@tylerisntasheep6854 a lot of even eviler people exist, its really sad but not a surprise. this story seems 99.99% real (only not fully putting 100 because honestly anyone could fake a story, but theres many true stories like this, and because this does seem like a legit story. dunno why someone would lie about a story when theyre asking a question though but yeah). i wish it was fake because that would be so horrible for the girl though.

[@midnight_blue_moon]

I really appreciate the supportive parents in these stories, especially the ones with LGBTQ+ kids who are standing up for those kids

[@Wonderoddity]

For real! Makes me cry from feel-good emotions 🥹

[@soshea5655]

I’m a proud mama of a trans daughter it kills me to see all the horrible people that don’t love and support their children. Shame on them!

[@TheAres1999]

With the first story, it's worth noting that the boyfriend was allegedly too high to stand up for OP, but sober enough to interject after she stood up for herself. He and his friends were fine with OP being talked down about, but the moment she fired back, they treated her like the bad guy. In general don't make fun of people, but if you can't take the heat, stay out of the kitchen

[@s0up_1223]

Exactly! Like if you are embarrassed that your art net earns more then you just don’t date someone who earns more, also shouldn’t he be proud his girlfriend is earning more

[@EmyN]

Exactly, it was an excuse, and he’s probably misogynistic too, having friends like that… I bet he especially didn’t like that she revealed she makes more than him to his buddies

[@w00rmz]

My fave aita posts have to be "aita for punishing my autistic child for this autistic trait". As an autistic person, unmasking is difficult as it is because I'm called weird and I'm bullied for it or I'm punished for it even though I literally can't control it. Autism parents confuse me so much.

[@fishainsley]

ugh i see those all the time, it’s just sad. i’m starting to think that sub’s some sort of psy-op to counter neurodivergent acceptance or something, because so many posts are either “my autistic child/sibling/whatever is autistic and i hate them, AITA?” or some shit like “some guy ate my hamster and i got mad at him, AITA? btw he’s autistic”. As an autistic person myself, the normalization of autistic people as a group to be alienated and despised really bothers me and that sub is one of the epicenters of such content.

[@Yoma_all]

Most autism parents make the fact that their kids is autistic all about them and how THEY strugle with it (*coff coff autism speaks) so im not Surprised that they dont care about actualy learning about autism and autistic traits and how to raise an autistic kid

[@Hollieanaaa]

Bro...like what?? YES YOU'RE THE A*SHOLE??

[@justaperson4656]

As an autistic person, huge agree here. Before we figured out I was autistic, I got punished for "being too loud" (I struggle with volume control, accentuated by the fact my mother is deaf). Luckily, my mother is supportive and got my hearing tested, came back fine, few years later we figured out why

[@ErutaniaRose]

I'm in the middle of getting a few diagnoses, one of which is most likely Autism--and for the other neurodivergent traits I exhibit (mostly ADHD, inattentive, and (GAD) Anxiety--which I have been diagnosed with) I've been bullied and yelled at for them. I have a feeling if/when I get diagnosed with Autism it will just be more of the same, but harsher since there is far more active stigma (hate crime stuff) on Autism than ADHD in terms of public opinion or knowledge.

[@tutsbrasilio]

I can't believe that husband/dad was enabling all of that bullying towards the wig girl..? JESUS CHRIST SHE IS 16 AND HAD TO DEAL WITH CANCER she doesn't need that kind of constant humiliation from the hair loss! I am disgusted in so many levels like what the FUCK. dump that guy and protect your daughter, op!!!! you're the best parent and that man cannot relate wtf

[@hawkeyescoffee6399]

I was thinking switching the men's shampoo for hair remover. (Among other things...maybe a good dose of laxatives in some cake when they have to go somewhere important like work or school), I'm not usually one for revenge actions but I feel like they deserve a dose of their own medicine. And then divorce.

[@caitlyntelford4010]

@@hawkeyescoffee6399 problem with that is they could use OP’s post for reparations in the divorce court.

[@indigotrails353]

@@hawkeyescoffee6399 maybe some of that cake before an event, have them get a taste of that public humiliation too, absolutely ridiculous.

[@taylorbaldwin2095]

Pulling off someone’s wig (no matter the context) isn’t friendly teasing or a way to bond. It’s harassment and assault. I really hope that mom and daughter are able to get out of the situation.

[@girlwithtehface5880]

Absolutely. I put it on the same level as pulling someone's clothes off. It's humiliating, it's not funny, it's just plain wrong.

[@justaperson4656]

I only do wigs for cosplay and other costumes, but huge agree

[@callumfinlayson-palmer8393]

I imagine in the right context it's fine but 99% of the time yeah agree.

[@justaperson4656]

@@callumfinlayson-palmer8393 the right context is having permission imo

[@lemonmeat]

@@justaperson4656 yeah and actual friends doing a light hearted joke and both parties find it funny, honestly the only time thats ok

[@biggestastiest]

on a lighter note, the young dad continuing the tradition of his kids resting their heads on his chest while they watch tv is the sweetest fucking thing in the world and its making me tear up

[@commandercorl1544]

Honestly, though.

[@shadow_shine3578]

It's so sweet man that's some fanfiction fluff level stuff oh my gosh I hope my husband is as loving

[@cyber9915]

We got one of the worlds best dads and one of the worlds worst dads in the same video.

[@DianeAarts]

IT'S SO PURE

[@RagDollCookie]

"Just boys being boys" is a terrible and overused phrase, which was also used for my stepbrother and his friends when they did things like unlock the bathroom door and watch me, destroy my things etc. Just boys teasing, and having fun. Why is their fun ranked over the emotions of girls? Often young girls

[@roseinskyrim]

Exactly!

[@hawkeyescoffee6399]

My gauge is usually...if a stranger on the street doing it to a you would be unacceptable/inappropriate then someone who is part of your family or a friend doing it is unacceptable (caveat unless your friendship has established boundaries that are OK with certain stuff). So if a stranger doing it would be an assault, then step-brother doing it is an assault! I grew up with a bully for an older brother. He's in his 50s now and I still think to this day he thinks it was "harmless teasing".

[@bluebird1914]

Yes it's messed up. Plus if those same people got bullied by a girl, and got told that "Girls will be girls" I'm like 90% sure that they'd call that idea sexist. And just have zero self-awareness to the previous phrase.

[@XX-le1wn]

"boys being boys" or "harmless teasing" or "just boys teasing and having fun", are euphemisms for macho/predatory/abusive behavior, to downplay and minimize their abuse instead of calling it for what it is so they won't take accountability for it, or no one makes them accountable. Since their "fun" goes above girl's emotions/dignity is just another way of saying "STFU and take it."

[@ErutaniaRose]

Yeah....If/when I have kids that shit is NEVER going to fly in my house. If they got friends and the parents say that shit I'm going off on the parents. Just like, "So you decided to cop out of actually parenting your child to be responsible and are contributing to the ways in which women and girls are put into physical and sexual danger by doing so. You really wanna make that choice and see your son become a monster?" Like....ugh. I am so FUCKING DONE with that phrase and those people.

[@Sophia-vk5bq]

“She can be a guy any other day of the week.” He deserves to be able to express himself as a man EVERY day of the week.

[@lemonmeat]

thats such a weird sentence too, "she can be a guy ANY OTHER DAY... BUT ON MYYYY WEDDING YOU HAVE TO SUCK UP TO ME AND CHANGE YOUR WHOLE LIFE FOR ME1!" it comes off as lol

[@Sophia-vk5bq]

@@lemonmeat that's what I thought too. lol Like how oblivious to other people do you need to be to think that way?

[@Resilient_Sage88]

I'd heard the 19 year old's story before; come to find out Wife left their daughter alone at home with the door unlocked while she went down the street to shop. Bear in mind the daughter is like a toddler.

[@Hana_H]

Gosh, I’m not surprised he’s divorcing her

[@hawkeyescoffee6399]

Unfortunately not surprised. My first thought was "if she'd do that with a drugged up post-surgery 19yo what would she do with her toddler" but still jfc, you never like to be right either.

[@thecraziestcrayon]

OMG. Glad he's divorcing her. He better get the kid. I was just thinking "I wouldn't trust her with a toddler"

[@zazalean1981]

@@hawkeyescoffee6399 yeah, she sounds very selfish and inconsiderate

[@allisoncastle]

She was 2!! 😡 I remember seeing this on RSlash’s KZbin channel

[@annataymond9529]

“It’s their way of bonding as step siblings” It would be, if she was laughing, and insulting back. But she’s not, she runs away sobbing. There’s no bonding happening there. I just. A grown adult thinking it’s funny to make fun of a child with cancer? Really?

[@aralornwolf3140]

Yes. It's bonding. All she needs to do is for the daughter to destroy her step-brother's things... and then have the mother say "This is how they are bonding. It's so sweet."

[@_rottingfish]

The only problem I had with the transphobic aunt is that OP made his son’s deadname public, although I hope it’s a fake name. I don’t think the father is bigoted in any way, just isn’t aware how dangerous it could be to expose that info online /nm

[@littleinfinities]

I remember reading this one myself, there was a lot of questioning about the dad using the son’s deadname, so I believe he posted an update to say he’d used all fake names. Without that context it does come across badly, but I think he was just using names for ease of storytelling!

[@Beanz-on-Toast]

People on AITA usually always use fake names for some kind of anonymity. It's unlikely OP actually exposed any deadname

[@adam8290]

Yes that made me uncomfy

[@basementdwellercosplay]

Most people on AITA use fake names but from what I've seen the dad did use fake names for the story

[@orangegradient4309]

You know a lot of people are named Nia right?

[@Em-bq3gs]

That last one gives off such "boys will be boys" vibes when adults try to excuse men's behavior when they harass and mistreat women.

[@Fionacle]

That dad who kisses his sons’ foreheads is so cute I love this man give him everything wholesome dad

[@Fionacle]

AND THE DAD WITH THE TRANS SON WHO IS SO SUPPORTIVE YES I WANT THESE DADS I LOVE THESE DADS

[@fwoofydoesart]

I don't understand how anyone could think the dental one was the asshole. She had just had surgery and was recovering from medicine, and was clearly struggling. There's no way she'd even know that it would go badly, and either way, Bri should've taken her home. Not the asshole at all.

[@elenafriese891]

Also, there was _clearly_ more going on between Bri and her brother than the op actually knew about, so I wouldn't be surprised if that story was more last straw than the Big Reason that was the only thing that could've killed the marriage. Though I wouldn't be surprised if op was too emotionally close to see that super clearly. Self blame can be a heck of a thing.

[@Minecat101]

genuinely after major surgery in that heat, she even mentioned passing out on the ride home, if she passed out at the pool and people assumed she was napping she could have died. even if this was the only problem (which i doubt) id say almost killing your sister through negligence is divorce worthy.

[@llynxfyremusic]

She was also drugged out there was very little for her to do to help herself.

[@kylawatts4427]

Man I recently got my wisdom teeth taken out and had the same kind of medication done that OP had. That shit had me feeling so nauseous and the fact that it was done in the middle of july while really hot made it to where even the short drive home was unbearable. I could barely stand and the heat made me even more nauseous. If something like that happened to meni would have raised hell

[@SkwithOv]

that dad with the twins sounds like he has such a good relationship with his kids

[@Hana_H]

Literally best dad

[@hawkeyescoffee6399]

Right? It's an incredibly precious connection to have, and especially after they had such a difficult start. She should be glad he's a great father to his kids, and not afraid of showing affection or emotions. The step mother sounded jealous at first but then if she's fine with him cuddling the apparently straight son but not the gay one then it's deeper than that. Is she going to be like that about him cuddling his daughter too? As someone who was a daddy's girl that makes me sad. Sadly, I worry the daughter may be caught up in things in the process of him standing up for his son(s) and his relation with them.

[@bluebird1914]

True. Like kudos to his, especially since by the sounds of it, up until they moved he didn't really like his kids all that much. Dude really turned it around which should be viewed as a good thing, not as weird by his wife.

[@carolinaherrera69420]

dude it literally made me tear up hearing this story. i dont really know my dad, so hearing him has such a good and close bond with his sons made me yearn for something like that. i cant believe his wife cant see its not wrong.

[@commandercorl1544]

I'm replying so I can be reminded of that precious story whenever someone replies to this comment.

[@willowwhisps1339]

You know, bullying kids with cancer is something that even the most open and loud bigots don't do in front of other people. So the fact that this man, his son, and their family straight up did it with no shame in front of God and everyone sure says A LOT about them.

[@GarryDumblowski]

I remember once finding an AITA about a man finding his gf's period blood in the toilet, not specifying how much, and then coming in to tell his girlfriend she left it in the toilet. He asked if he was the asshole because he didnt feel like he was being unreasonable. Many people in the comments said YTA, not because of the period blood, but because of the way he handled the situation; it was the middle of the night and she probably just forgot to flush, while he came straight in yelling. It was overall the consensus, at least from what I saw. He later edited the post to say "after seeing that most women are saying YTA, ive decided that i'm gay now, i've broken up with my gf and i'm going to live for myself" (abbv.) and I remember a lot of people celebrating him because of his discovery. It kind of left a bad taste in my mouth, because the way he phrased it seemed like he was going to get away from women and live without them in his life, as if women in general are hurting him. By forgetting to flush the toilet.

[@angygremlin4423]

If you get into a relationship with a woman, you're probably going to have to see period blood unless they're trans or there's something else going on. Seems pretty easy to understand. Straight guys who say they're turning gay at the mere sight of their partner's period blood or their used tampon in the trashcan are taking it waaayyyyyyy too far and TBH I'm not sure they were entirely straight in the first place if that's all it took to make them explore other options.

[@GarryDumblowski]

@@angygremlin4423 Exactly! And like, I appreciate discovering your sexuality but being gay doesn't give you an excuse to act like women are disgusting. By that same logic, straight men could act like men are disgusting, yet straight men hang out with other men all the time!

[@yasminthespiritsinger7704]

Yeahhhhh…

[@commandercorl1544]

The wording is a bit odd, especially if their reasoning is "these women say I'm an a**hole for being an a**hole."

[@16poetisa]

It's still misogynistic if you're gay 🤷🏼‍♀

[@lisyaorancrazed]

15:36 it's one thing to be transphobic. I's another level to take it personally and make a scene about it. She didn't have to like it, I guess, but she didn't have to publicize that at her own wedding.

[@hawkeyescoffee6399]

Right? She tried playing games and had to deal with the consequences. Clearly she didn't expect her brother to defend his son so vehemently. I'm incredibly pleased and impressed that he did, so many don't want to rock the family boat. Being a trans teen is hard enough and I bet the boys all looked great in their suits. Did she really expect him to force his son into a dress, did she want to make a laughing stock of him at the wedding? I kinda can't help imagining people's faces when a teen boy turns up in a dress though, I think that would have backfired on her even more horribly. Idk whether she thinks he can just turn it on and off, has she just been assuming all this time it's a phase he'll grow out of? Of all the times to try and push your stance...if you choose to do that at your wedding, prepare to have your day effed up. And really she f*d it up for herself not the nephew or his father. And her new hubbie being OK with it shows he must be a transphobe too. Honestly, she deserved everything she got. I love my nibblings and I can't for a second imagine doing that to any of them. Kids need room to explore things like their gender identity and gender expression, and a safe place & trusted people who will both accept and support them, and let them find who they are for themselves...whoever that may be.

[@swoosh3217]

AITA always leaves me absolutely appalled at how awful some people in the world are. I hope all of these people are doing well, Jesus Christ Anyway hope you're doing well!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

I want to be “Atleast they know I’m a rich b***h.” level of iconic 🔥

[@bell_knight]

Fr that’s such a flex! I still don’t even know how/why they can claim shes a “bitch” for responding to their blatant insults with how much she makes. She could’ve DRAGGED them for their hobbies or misogynistic behavior. It was incredibly respectful if anything to leave it at her own buisness while they’re being rude, disrespectful, &?out of pocket Many would have and could have been much more petty. I think this was classy to say the least. Her bf can’t handle being less successful than her and it shows.

[@awfuldynne]

"I don't understand why it's a problem if your girlfriend earns more than you". The reasons I can think of are all patriarchal bullshit: it _was_ a problem if you couldn't earn more than your wife _who was barred from the workforce,_ and if you buy into the patriarchal gender role where "a Man's job is to provide for his wife and children", it's almost automatic that if your girlfriend/wife earns more than you, _you're not doing your job as a Man._ (The way I'm using capital M "Man" is like "Real Man™" in masculinity gatekeeping posts) I don't know if I'm off-base here, but I feel like the sort of person who ties their identity to their employment probably hasn't examined their biases enough to be aware of how bullshit patriarchy is, or overcome enough capitalist brainwashing to separate their value as a person from their -value as an employee- wage.

[@adam8290]

Yeah, I understand why but I don’t really understand. Like if I had a wife who was rich I’d be proud of her and her accomplishments not embarrassed

[@b1rthfl0w3r]

@@adam8290 ig it would the way you would have been brought up to look at society??

[@anavijaiswal]

You don't need to demean your bf to put some drunk idiots in their place.. they weren't even close friends.. I would've said people who earn 100k+ a year aren't gold diggers. If someone is so sensitive about their job or salary they should've been cleared when everyone was talking shop... Not tried to seem like they don't earn to make a living. Either you don't care what people think or you stand up for yourself. You don't need to say you earn twice of what he earns or there isn't any gold to dig there. Why demean your own bf like that? Just coz his friends are assholes???

[@aralornwolf3140]

@@anavijaiswal, Why let your wife get demeaned like that? Then get angry when she tells your friends she's not a gold digger... after they constantly insulted her... by saying she made more then you?

[@elenachristian9860]

He was fine with his friends demeaning her. Methinks he enjoyed it. So whatever his feelings about the patriarchy are, fuck him.

[@MaxityWaxity]

The AITA Reddit is something else…. This should be entertaining

[@Abbie-hz9hx]

I mean, I was in so much emotional pain for these people that I wasn't bored...not bored = entertaining, right?

[@kuro8658]

Jesus Christ that last one got me really angry. I can’t even imagine how mortifying it would’ve been to have your wig ripped off in front of your entire extended family, and to have them laugh at you. I hope that op and their daughter get out of that situation

[@allisoncastle]

And right after surviving cancer and being terrified to go anywhere in public…

[@Joe-ou1iw]

dude if i was the mom i straight up would have looked at every person in the room who laughed and said "i hope you get cancer"

[@saltypancakes3241]

1. Your hair looks great 2. Your shirt is really nice 3. AITA stories are so entertaining. I never get bored

[@AJ-hm5qe]

I had all 4 of my really badly impacted wisdom teeth removed and also had to go fully under with an IV and stuff. I can't imagine having being taken to a pool after that, I felt horrible and nauseous and was in so much pain, the sister in law was definitely the problem. I was still taking pain medication weeks after the operation

[@hawkeyescoffee6399]

It'd be pretty miserable after a straightforward extraction, but I can't imagine it after having been knocked out and still having a hurting mouth. We've all seen the vids of people loopy after having their wisdom teeth out, there was the girl who was convinced they'd stolen her tongue, legs and hands..even while she was gesturing with that hand. It was kinda funny but I cannot imagine leaving someone in that condition unattended in the heat; seems a recipe for a low blood pressure fainting. It's just wild, what the hell was she thinking?! (I mean obviously not thinking a tall). And clearly her friends must be as selfish as her to have not had an issue with it. Imagine if she'd passed out by the pool instead of in the car!

[@Pa5an1]

A friend got all 4 removed when we were like 17 or 18. She decided to get them all out at once and she regretted that so much. She “only” got laughing gas but she was so out of it and felt horrible afterwards. And she’s a super tough person

[@theeemadimargarita]

I have had surgeries and operations all my life, I even had extra teeth pulled when I was younger, and recovery was quick and easy. When I got my wisdom teeth out, I was miserable. I couldn't walk and nearly fell on my face when we got home, my dad and brother had to catch me and help me inside. It took me about a week plus or minus of recovery to get on my feet again, and even then I was still on recovery. Why, oh why, the sister in law would ever think that was a good idea in any way is beyond me. Like, really?? Why?? Like, does the sister in law not realize that having wisdom teeth removed is a whole surgery? Not like a surgery, IS a surgery. Me encabrona 😖

[@WillowyMilk]

I've heard the one about the sister dead-naming her nephew before, but your reaction was pretty much the same as mine haha. I'm just like, it's not hard to not be transphobic. Like she did not have to do any of that. Like it took extra energy to be a bigot. She deserved what she got and more. I wish someone had ruined her wedding cake as well as her dress. Just as a reminder of how I sane it is to behave the way she did.

[@fluffystuff500]

That last one is quite literally evil. Laughing at a child with cancer, especially when she was so upset by how it affected her appearance already, is something a villain in a tv show does to prove that they're evil enough to be a valid threat. The fact that actual humans could think that it was okay to do that....

[@esmeraldaloschuetz9120]

Usually, the "it's just harmless fun, bro"-crowd very abruptly changes their stance on this when they and their egos are the target. I'd argue that "it's just fun" when the made-fun-of-person truly can laugh along. When they cry and feel humiliated, it's not fun, it's bullying. Plus, for the "it's their way to bond"-argument to work, there has to be some actual bonding there as a result, on both sides. When one party just feels bullied and tortured, that's not fucking bonding. Again: bullying. Disgusting, vile people. I always wonder how such lack of empathy in partners could go unnoticed long enough to marry them.

[@lfilm3]

I'm a cancer survivor. I was somewhat older than "Megan" when I had it, but still in very late adolescence. I had a wig, and hated it. My first foray without it was a family wedding, and my hair was just growing back- it looked like the shortest pixie cut imaginable. The photographer at the wedding told me I looked good, and thought I had actually cut it that way on purpose. I cannot express how happy that made me. The husband, his son, and anyone who was laughing at that situation? Complete trash. Get in the bin. Cancer is one of the only things not subject to a cognitive bias called "just world theory", in which people blame others for their own misfortunes. (This can have a protective effect on their own psyches in a few different ways.) That means cancer patients are almost universally viewed as deserving of help and sensitivity. The familial lack of empathy points to some serious problems, both within the individuals and within the family system. Unless the OP can get the husband, (and ideally, the son as well), into some kind of therapy, she needs to take her daughter and run. There must be a thousand other terrible things they've done that she didn't mention, because no one does something this awful out of nowhere. Edit: ftr, there was plenty of dark humor related to cancer around my house when I had it, (which is common), particularly with my brother, who was 20 at the time. The difference is, I was in on the joke. My brother referred to me as "Katie Cancer", and I responded, condescendingly, "Obviously, it should be Lizzie Lymphoma." We both laughed. Which would be the key as to whether or not the teasing is ok.

[@Sly-Moose]

For everyone who laughed at the cancer patient at that wedding, I am personally going to see that family in Heck.

[@brendawalton2518]

Teasing each other can be ok IF (and only if) it goes both ways and they have an otherwise healthy relationship.

[@Nortarachanges]

Yeah. I wouldn’t entertain that excuse for a second, but I wonder how that guy would react if she’d asked “how has daughter ever teased son back, or is it all him hurting her?”

[@Pa5an1]

Yes, but the second someone asks the other person to stop doing a certain thing, they stop the thing cause that’s not teasing anymore

[@queen_strawberries]

I'm surprised you didn't cover this already, this has so much potential for the channel 💀

[@TheQueerKiwi]

i know 😭 i just struggle with reading out loud sometimes. i had to cut out so many takes of me just trying to read without fumbling. my brain and mouth work at different speeds :(

[@queen_strawberries]

@@TheQueerKiwi ok but same lmao

[@jellykittens2126]

@@TheQueerKiwi I’m dyslexic so reading out loud is hard for me, and I usually just… don’t take in the info I’m reading when reading out loud. But I hope you do more of these though if editing isn’t too much for you lol

[@Itri_Vega]

@@TheQueerKiwi Neurodivergent brain: Gotta go fast

[@blitzogene]

My mom told me my stepdad was kinda angry and embarrassed that she made more than him, and said that all guys are like that and they feel less masculine. So on Reddit once I asked why men feel like that and mostly everyone told me that’s just an insecurity thing. It’s kinda sad how some men are so insecure about their masculinity that they get embarrassed their gf makes more.

[@pinkmoonrabbit2072]

its not just an insecurity thing. Its definitely rooted in misogyny. If you feel embarrassed and insecure that specifically a woman makes more money than you as a man, what does that say about what men implicitly believe about women??

[@ryuko_wolf5874]

@@pinkmoonrabbit2072 their just the most insecure weak emotional people anything can break their fragile masculinity

[@basementdwellercosplay]

As someone who had the IV medicine for my wisdom tooth removal(I had huge anxiety over it as well) I wasn't awake enough to be left alone for a while, much less at a pool. My mom took me home and I fell asleep on the couch. Didn't know doing a bare minimum when caring for someone would be such high stakes for this sister in law

[@muffin7931]

i feel bad for Megan. i hate when parents think their kids are innocent just because they're kids

[@bluebird1914]

Same. Like I get that as a parent, you wouldn't want to think that your kid is capable of being terrible, but if you don't hold them accountable for stuff, you're literally just creating a douchebag that's probably going to spend the rest of their lives alone and unhappy.

[@16poetisa]

It's one thing if it's out of ignorance. But by this point he *knows* it makes her feel bad and he enjoys it.

[@kaibaiarrio1299]

And in this case the step brother is literally legally an adult, that man should know by now that this shit is unacceptable I would understand more if the stepbrother was much younger, but he is literally 18 years old

[@PokhrajRoy.]

10:28 The dad is adorable. More dads like this.

[@kimarna]

12:15 parenting is a job, your adult relationship with them is the performance review. Everyone deserves a dad like OP 100%

[@cryingwatercolours8127]

That father son relationship is adorable and I genuinely couldn’t stop smiling imaging a dad and his two sons watching movies all cosy 🥺

[@Phantom95179]

I'm a chronic reddit listener, and I'm like "AH YES, this bitch, I cannot wait to hear your opinion on their sins." Reddit videos are prime material to listen to while drawing n stuff.

[@oceanspace7671]

the second story, she did put an update where her brother told her what was happening in the marriage and Bri essentially put their daughter in danger multiple times. What Bri did to OP was just the last straw for OP's brother.

[@rottengirl38]

These people have no self awareness I swear. Ur makeup is stunning today btw

[@badlighting]

For the first story: A lot of men who work in STEM fields (particularly tech) tend to be pretty sexist

[@frozenyogurth]

TRUE

[@PokhrajRoy.]

The thing about AITA is that yes, it should’ve been a mainstay on the channel but there’s so much energy expended on reading and understanding that it feels Written Comprehension in School rather dissecting an aspect of culture. Although I must say, it’s a good way to check yourself in terms of subconscious biases.

[@bluebird1914]

You know it's kind of ironic that you mention written comprehension, since like 90% of AITA consists of people not using such a basic ability when giving their judgements. Like I can guarantee you that all of the ones mentioned in this video, have a concerning amount of commenters saying that op is an asshole.

[@user-xs7rs1pc9q]

i really appreciate how you went from "ppl who have empathy vs ppl who dont have empathy" to "selfish ppl vs selfless ppl" because as someone who doesnt experience empathy for mental health reasons but still tries their best to be a nice person, its rlly upsetting when ppl equate empathy with being a good person and no empathy with being an asshole, when ppl with empathy can be just as much or more of an ass than ppl without. it was a small thing but made me feel heard!

[@robynthebank_]

The one with the kids putting their heads on the dads chest when they watch tv: I didn't finish the story yet but MY HEART IS EXPLODING ITS SO FUCKING WHOLESOME I NEVER CRY ABT HAPPY THINGS AND I ALMOST CRIED OVER THIS ITS SO SWEET OML

[@04279]

That Megan story is especially strange since the dad said that they were "teasing each other". How did Megan tease anyone? From the sound of it she sounds like a quiet person who wants to be alone after her treatment and obviously was uncomfortable before this happened. It is wonderful that her mom is so protective to her, unlike her horrible father.

[@matthewdryden4456]

I remember my dad was talking to a few mates and one said his wife earns and he stays at home with this 1&3 yo kids as when they had kids she was earning nearly 3x as much as him so it was the obvious choice and one of the others started laughing saying he’s a bad husband and dad cause he made his wife work but she loves her job and didn’t want to leave it and he was sick of his work and is an amazing dad and actually said he enjoys all the luxuries a housewife would get like his wife buying him beers and cake and donuts from the bakery and stuff and they had a joint account which was mainly so she could put money in and he could spend it but he mostly got the kids stuff and fixed/ changed the house

[@ThatDollLoopie]

Just want to say, love the attention put into the sub titles. I don't really have any issues with my hearing but, being on the autistic spectrum, my brain struggles to filter between speech and background noise. Having sub titles helps me interpret what I'm hearing a lot easier especially when there's other things happening in the background. I find that far too many content creators put no effort into their subtitles and just rely on the auto generated ones so it's very refreshing to see such attention to detail. Love the content, love the inclusivety, keep up the amazing work ❤️

[@aldenpartridge4773]

Plus, while it's a lot of work I've heard that the KZbin algorithm actually looks through the script subtitles as a form of SEO. Not sure if I explained that clearly.

[@lerenard3834]

The supportive parents in the trans story at the wedding warmed my heart. It also made me emotional because as an FTM myself, I know that my parents would have stayed at that wedding. They are encouraging a "smile and take silently, then deal with the emotional damage later" from me as to not upset the family. They would've blamed me for causing a scene or told me that people have more trouble adapting and that I can't get angry at that (speaking from similar experiences). They have trouble adapting themselves, and sometimes deadnaming me and misgendering me without correcting themselves, I often have to correct them, they use the wrong name and pronouns every single day. My grandmother was visiting the other day and almost accidently deadnamed me. She had a very appropriate reaction, like "omg I'm so sorry" and covering her mouth, correcting herself immediately right in the middle of my dead name. And then to make her feel better, my mom was like "oh don't worry, we make mistakes too. It's fine!", when in fact my parents were the one telling me to suppress the mental torment it causes me. All around very frustrating stuff basically. If you read that far, thank you, I hope you have an amazing rest of your day

[@jadziajan]

Hey, I'm a bit late to this, but I understand your situation! I have name dysphoria and a deadname, despite being cis. My family refuses to acknowledge my name change. One of the only ones to make an effort is my mom, but it took a long time and I often had to stand up for myself because she would refuse to listen, or find excuses, putting her wants before my needs. It was and still is a draining experience, because I don't *want* to fight. It makes me sad. Still, it's going well now, and she's learning. I was even very happy one time when she corrected someone else about my name when I didn't feel the strength to. I hope it goes a similar way, or even better for you!

[@lerenard3834]

@@jadziajan Wow, that also sounds quite frustrating for you, damn. I hope she continues to learn and improve like that, and that other people in your family can learn from her and improve themselves. As for my mom, little update; Since my original comment very little changed and I've had to repeat myself about the issue several times. I think I'll have to wait for HRT for her to improve in any significant way. I think that's unfortunately the only thing that will really help her see me as who I am.

[@spookyspice596]

Bri from the second story sounds like a real piece of work. Imagine abandoning someone who had just had surgery to go to the pool.

[@raeisdora]

THE MAKEUP LOOKS SO GOOD LET ME DROP DEAD

[@MistressMillie]

SAME HERE

[@FIRXFLY]

i wanna point out what you said at 8:37. Having low empathy doesn't make someone a bad person. It stigmatizes aspd to say that low empathy makes someone a bad or selfish person. People can have low empathy and still be compassionate and caring. And hey, this is coming from someone who has way too much empathy so would this part of me that i can't change instantly make me a good person? nope. It's better to use the word compassion instead of empathy in the instance you were talking about. Empathy is just your ability to feel others feelings as if your own while compassion is actually caring for others feelings.

[@alyssahansen1400]

That's a good point. Just because you have a hard time picking up on other people's feelings or understanding them doesn't mean you don't care about them.

[@jagp135]

Honestly, ASPD and NPD are just such heavily stigmatized and misunderstood disorders that pretty much all mentions of them are immediately associated with selfishness and villainy, it's such a shame.

[@lemonmeat]

my school did a whole thing about empathy and i hated it so bad (as a nd person) and then one of the kids said something about how no one in the class cares (meant to say "minds") if we do a thing to help people, so the teacher GOT UP AND GOT ONE OF THE OTHER TEACHERS TO START LECTURING US AND ACTED LIKE WE WERE DISGUSITNG??? wtf did we do?? the class is super small, (the school i go to is weird from other schools, super small, only like 5 teachers etc) and most kids there are ND. so we were just confused on why we were being yelled at for being rude low empathetic kids??? when we didnt even,,, do anything??? ive always hated the word empathy, its like poison to me

[@NiGHTSIntoMemes]

Very happy to see a comment mentioning this.

[@pinkpincol]

The one about the deadnaming reminded me of a story line in a show I’ve watched recently (dead end: paranormal park) one of the story lines for the main character is that his grandma keeps deadnaming him and treating him like a girl and his parents let it happen to not cause drama and it causes tension between him and his parents (good show, recommend watch)

[@nigelbottom496]

Omg yes I love that show sm!!

[@lindenshepherd6085]

Such a good show. I really liked that they didn't absolve Barney's parents of guilt and that it ended with them realizing they needed to be more supportive. It hit so hard to hear that supporting their son's gender was the bare minimum that parents should do, it feels like queer people are always having to compromise who they are in order to get any kind of acceptance.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

The Queer Kiwi looks very 1960s Flower Power which I love! Also, shoutout to the earrings!

[@ohanameansfamily3434]

the hair loss story made me feel sick, i have a hairloss condition which ive always been super insecure about and if anyone touched my wig? teased me about it? ur losing ur hand. but also.. that poor girl has been through SO MUCH. ben and the dad are some of the worst kind of people im pretty sure step sibling bonding is not humiliating your siblings?? anyways im appalled

[@princeereia]

Still, these ally dads are awsome Need more of them in this world qwq

[@sineadcarty7256]

The meghan one makes me FURIOUS. As someone who isn't even proud of their hair, losing my hair to cancer was DEEPLY traumatising. That was going way too far.

[@yourmom2189]

The story about the SIL taking the post op person to the pool had follow up. Apparently, the reason the guy (brother) was divorcing his wife (SIL) was because she had left their infant child home alone on a few occasions and the husband didn’t feel comfortable with her caring for their child. I think she was just a really stupid and careless person, not malicious. But he couldn’t handle not being able to trust her with their child’s welfare.

[@duanewilkinson9739]

Savannah loving the earrings and dress, but especially loving the video…. The sarcasm is awesome as ever and you calling people out is always hilarious ….

[@cecil_with_seasalt]

Yet another pair of cute and bold earrings for another new video! No matter what she uploads, she warms my pansexual heart💖💛💙

[@going-to-superhell]

The last story reminds me of something my school did. Late 2018 my best friend got cancer and lost her hair during chemo, she is got so much of her confidence and self worth from her hair and one of our friends at the time who also felt the same about her hair shaved it all off so she wouldn't have to deal with the loss of her hair alone. She got in massive trouble with my school for her hair being "not feminine enough" and the next year it was printed in the school rules that no one was allowed a shaved head and is enforced to this day. Also if you were wondering about my friend she made a recovery but the leukemia came back last month, the doctors say she should be fine with another bone marrow transplant and should hopefully get better soon.

[@16poetisa]

Wtf is wrong with the adults at that school????

[@going-to-superhell]

@@16poetisa I have no clue

[@inerciasart]

That's not teasing, that's literally bullying-

[@joutatheegg]

The one about the wedding, its just aw its just warms my heart that the dad is so supportive of his son’s identity and stuff just awwwww🥺 it’s really nice seeing other kids being treated the way they deserve to be: accepted and loved regardless of their identity

[@pyritethefool4637]

I genuinely don't understand why it's so hard for people to call someone by their chosen name. To me, it's no different from calling someone by their preferred nickname. I can understand really liking a dead name of a person. But maybe just name a kid or a character of yours that name. Don't continue to force it on someone who doesn’t want it. I had a friend that came out as non binary in high school and they changed their name. But until it was legally changed, many people refused to use their new name. I'll admit, I did prefer their dead name, it was a gender neutral name, but I understood that wasn’t up to me. I decided to be respectful and use their new name. My friend was more important to me then my opinion on the sounds that come out of my mouth when referring to them.

[@fangirl4ever1]

the wisdom teeth one really fucks me up cuz I was in charge of driving my best friend after her wisdom teeth were removed and she wanted to go food shopping while clearly out of it but I talked her out of it and just got her home to rest. The idea of taking her to a POOL where she might have accidentally fallen in??? I could never.

[@salemk176]

Hi I didn't see anyone comment this yet but 90+ degrees Fahrenheit is about equal to 32+ degrees Celsius

[@catpoke9557]

I hate it when people use "It's a way of bonding" as an excuse for actions that PUSH PEOPLE FURTHER APART. Clearly it ISN'T for bonding, then!!

[@ratboy2]

oml, that last one was awful. just. no, throw the whole man out. his son is a cruel bastard and his father is enabling him. im guessing he would have pulled similar shit as a kid. what horrible people. there’s a big difference between sibling bonding via harmless ribbing and taking advantage of their insecurities for a laugh, especially when it’s due to cancer??? wtf. i feel for that poor girl, and am glad her parent is at least standing up for her :/

[@luvrkanii]

yayy!! the flower dress is back and as beautiful as ever :D

[@RNS_Aurelius]

The stigma around men showing affection is so sad and it destroys so many men. A lot of them don't even realise it.

[@ryuko_wolf5874]

They oppress themselves and deny their oppressed

[@jennahalcarz891]

I agree with all your takes! It baffles me how some people just don’t get it and/or lack any empathy towards others (or maybe they do and just don’t care because they’re a glutton for power). not sure which is worse. BUT SIDE NOTE!!!! you always look stunning duh but that shade of lipstick looks sooooo good on you! I feel like that color creates such a nice contrast with your wardrobe & hair

[@toering1998]

Good lord, no wonder that last girls self esteem was shot if that’s how she’s being treated at home all the time. I seriously hope they get out of that household.

[@GarryDumblowski]

The reason it's so embarrassing to tell people your salary is because it lays bare the extreme inequality in the world. I don't know if it's like a deliberate tactic by rich people to keep people from demanding better salaries, but it's definitely a tactic that _works._

[@girlwithtehface5880]

Oh, 100% yes. Making it a social taboo to discuss your salary, especially men's salaries, is definitely a move by the rich to keep the poor from discussing important inequality issues with each other.

[@frozenyogurth]

@@girlwithtehface5880 Why do you thin companies want to stop you from talking about your salary to your coworkers? Because that way they can pay someone else less despite having the same or higher qualifications.

[@Kajaks00n]

Every AITA person in this video was not an a/hole and was manipulated into thinking that

[@paigemosher8697]

Especially that last OP. Their husband was blatantly gaslighting them into thinking that their evil waste of sperm did nothing wrong when he publicly humiliated a cancer patient. Un-fucking-believable.

[@quementine_ells]

The last story broke my heart, I have cancer and my bother and his friends often tease me about my hair loss to the point I feel the need to wear a wig all day, even when at home. I loved my hair more than anything else about myself and loosing it shattered my very small self confidence. my brother has reveled my head in public before but never somewhere as crowded as a wedding, my heart goes out to that poor girl

[@Unchained_Alice]

Wow, that last one left me in tears. That poor girl being put through that by a bunch of (bad word). I just hope she and her mother can escape from those (even worse word). How the F can someone do that to a fellow human, let alone a family member? The others were terrible but wow, that is one of the worst I have seen on these videos.

[@pommedeter7407]

Yeah same, the absolute cruelty of these (horrible insult) wrecked me emotionally

[@lilangelhime]

She's step-family, so they don't view her as REAL family. Add in having cancer, even being related, people will view those kinds of complex illnesses/disabilities as moral failings, so even if you do share blood, you get written off. I was adopted via maternal grandparents, and still horribly abused for being a disabled child. My grandparents and other family members saw it as a moral failing, some sort of result of sin, so that meant I had everything coming. They'd always try to play everything off as 'just teasing' when people would see what was happening and call them out.

[@hawkeyescoffee6399]

@@lilangelhime I'm so sorry you've been treated like that, people like that infuriate me, they're awful. I'm disabled too, but it developed over time due to genetic disorder, so it hasn't always been outwardly noticeable. I once had the door-to-door god squad giving me the bullshit one day and while they were talking I was flipping through the leaflet they'd given me (I like arming myself with knowledge to fight against the particular flavour of bible pusher) and read that same kind of stuff that they believe kids born with disabilities are being punished for since in a previous life. At the time I was a light christian (I believed in a god who loved everyone and no one was wrong or sinful for their sexuality, alternative religion, etc etc unless they were bigots and hateful), and I had a step-nephew who was born with severe learning disabilities and had lost a cousin as a baby due to a heart defect. I'm not ashamed to say that I went off on them. Oddly enough we were never bothered by them again. I just don't understand that mindset. I consider myself atheist now, I'm not sure how well I'd be able to argue the bible side of things now that I'm more familiar with the shitty things that are said in it, but I still get so angry at that implication, because even if you assume it correct it makes no fucking sense, what logic would there be in punishing someone for something they have no memory of and never will and that was done in a whole other life that they're unaware of. But also, how fucking dare they call disability a punishment! 😡 😤 I hadn't even got to the homosexuality is a sin bullshit, probably just as well, I might have burst a blood vessel.

[@Unchained_Alice]

@@lilangelhime I'm sorry you went through that. I'm also disabled but my experiences weren't quite so horrible. Humans can be so horrible to each other.

[@SnoFitzroy]

Absolutely LOVING the hair! It's so bright and vivid :)

[@TRexRAWWR1]

I've had people take my wigs at school and it's actually so humiliating and hurtful. I can't imagine having it done to me in this context though. Seriously what is wrong with them for them to torment her like that?

[@anotherone8941]

"don't you dare making a scene in MY WEDDING" *proceeds to make a scene in her own wedding*

[@tikimillie]

We need more work at home husbands. Im a woman dating another woman though, but i guess we could adopt a man???

[@bluebird1914]

That sounds like a sitcom in the making, where the adopted man just gets into wacky situations while trying to do housework and hide the wacky hijinks from y'all.

[@DianeAarts]

I have SO many feelings about that last one, having just lost a friend to cancer. Me and my friends helped her buy a ton of beautiful wigs and just tried to make her feel special and loved, I hope those two can get out and just immediately start living a better life with each other.

[@saltypork101]

I'm glad Connor's dad is a baseline decent person. Many kids aren't so lucky. Shame about the aunt though.

[@finn5340]

ur outfit/makeup/wholeass vibe in this video is giving me picking flowers for ur gf vibes

[@brigittegill808]

I've read that one about the wisdom teeth and I applaud OP. I got all four of my wisdom teeth out at the same time and they also had me put under with IV medication. I was so out of it when I came to that my mom (who drove me there and back) said I was laughing and then crying at random license plates on the way home. I cant imagine being near a body of water like a pool when so out of it, OP could have wandered off and drowned.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

16:40 You’re not wrong. There’s a lot of content about weddings.

[@pommedeter7407]

It’s because they’ve been so idealised by traditions that some people will throw a tantrum for *the mildest stuff*

[@altermayart]

If I were the wife in the cancer story it would be an immediate divorce. Seriously what the fuck omg thats awful

[@finnascrem4088]

Okay but the dad of the twins sounds like a good dad. His son's love him a lot 😭😭 It's so cute. It's never bad for a father to be affectionate and loving with his kids!! It's a good thing! Love and affection are human, and humans need to give and recieve love and care and affection!

[@ConstantChaos1]

I mean I'm gay and I get why people are uncomfortable with how I interact with THEIR fathers Jkjk, but actually not I slept with my highschool bullies fathers as a power move (which was only made even more of a power move when I found out he actually had a thing for his dad 🤢)

[@chris-zt6co]

👁👄👁

[@claratalbot7613]

I'm happy to see the parents standing up for their kids. Sure it's the sister's wedding but she could have at least had the curtsy to call her nephew by his name rather than being the one to cause a scene at her wedding by using his deadname. Also the last one is infuriating. There's teasing & then their is bulling someone. People tease each other all the time but they stop &/or don't cross the line to make fun of someone. The family knew & did not care which is messed up. I hope the person divorced their husband because they don't need abusive people like that in their lives

[@beagotm9318]

The father with a gay son is exactly how a parent should act with their adult children, respect their decisions and continue to support them despite what they may think, they are grown adults! live and let live

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Quote of the Day: “Do you mind? I’m doing some important s**t here.”

[@Dog-ru1rz]

11:40 pansexual here, i can be sexually attracted to all genders that exist, especially women. I hug my mom all the time, sometimes i lay my head on her lap while she plays with my hair and we watch TV. I am a grown ass woman but when it happens, i feel like a little kid that is protected and taken care of by her mom. I have never felt anything remotely sexual (fucking duh) because she literally is my mom and i see her as a protector, an authority over me, and a wise woman to take advice from when i need. If someone i had a crush on laid my head on their lap and started caressing and playing with my hair, i would probably be aroused, lovestruck and unable to stay reactionless. Why? Because i may want to take things further, or be very excited thinking they have the same feelings for me. When my mom does that, i can randomly fall asleep, walk away to answer the phone or go to the bathroom, the maximum feelings i will get are thankfullness and fear of her not having long years left. In my humble opinion that mother is 1) Unfit 2) Disgusting 3) Sick, possibly a pedophile 4) A Karen, or about to become one 5) Watching too much porn 6) Invasive I resent her for making me feel like i even need to explain this. She needs therapy, re-education, and time to mentally grow. I would like to tell her that she is forbidden to show anyone that has a possibility to love women any affection incliding her children, step children, sons and daughters in law, nieces and nephews etc. and see her reaction.

[@luciacastille]

For those of you who grew up with metric, a quick guide to imperial temperature. for reference the pool situation in the second one would have been quite hot.

[@pommedeter7407]

The last one was so bad it actually made me cry

[@jordynensor2081]

this is totally unrelated to this video but you look so good i’m obsessed with the pastel top and dark makeup combo