Porn: What's Its Purpose? You'll be shocked by the answer! w/ Dr. Trish Leigh

[@allen2879]

Feeling strong so far, going for 90 day brain reset after 15 years of addiction! Stay strong!

[@anthonylynch4737]

Try over 30 years of addiction.

[@kingtiger836]

It's not a contest men. Just be thankful we can rise out of this hole together.

[@anthonylynch4737]

@@kingtiger836 There is another side to this. I liked the goofy storylines and acting of the 70's and 80's eras that inspired the boogie nights film.

[@allen2879]

@@anthonylynch4737 no thanks

[@anthonylynch4737]

@@allen2879 What Ever..

[@PejoACMHSV]

"When a man can't find a meaning, he numbes himself with pleasure." - Viktor Frankl

[@swoyaman4969]

Man's search for meaning huh I loved that book

[@frankkomba7443]

P

[@frankkomba7443]

@@swoyaman4969 p

[@orangewarm1]

Sometimes. There are many men who have meaning AND porn.

[@MrMuaythai84]

Shut up 🤫

[@alexandermyrthong3563]

Whenever you feel like giving up, just take some time to remind yourself why you started. There is a reason that we are on this journey. Hope you guys are doing great 👍.

[@taiwohassan7113]

❤️

[@jasonwoodbury3717]

Yes to allow God to heal our soul minds and hearts

[@mthokomasondo109]

You've been right this whole time, the brain fog is going away, I can think better, my imagination is back on point, I want more now, and I feel like I can do it. I've been on purpose and working steadily towards the future I want for myself. Also, the level of anxiety is decreased dramatically, it's like God has given me a cure. Thank you so much Doc, I'm never touching porn again.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

I'm so proud of you! Keep up the great work.

[@bigal98761]

Hold your seed to brother quitting porn is just the first step semen retention is the key to a better life

[@vailorgnosis6692]

Always remember to thank Israel after you recover

[@michalrusin6503]

Brain fog has nothing to do with porn.

[@OUrNit03]

@@michalrusin6503 It does actually. After you've done porn for so long and finally wing yourself off of it, you can definitely tell a difference with mental clarity.

[@aadiadam]

"Control your brain or it'll control you!" 🙏 Wow, what better conclusion than this statement.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Precisely! 🙏🏻🙅‍♀️

[@hatebreeder999]

Tame your mind or else your mind will Tame you - ancient hindu quote from bhagvad gita

[@michalrusin6503]

Control your brain ? Who can control it ? The brain itself. You split the brain into two and create a battlefield. The right hand is fighting against the left. Madness.

[@Analwreckage]

People spend entire life times just mastering the art of getting thier brain to shut up

[@soepil]

"Get a purpose on your life" is, to me, the main message here. Thank you.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

You’re welcome. There is a video coming up on how to do that. 🙌🏻

[@soepil]

@@DrTrishLeigh Thanks, I will look forward to that.

[@pedrojosebr1]

My problem is that I can't find a purpose in my life that motivates me enough to get rid of all this crap! I lost my wife 4 years ago and I was dumped by my 3 years partner in January this year and I'm still in pain. Thank God I don't need to work for money cause my anxiety level is so high I would not handle any responsability.. It's a pain even when I need to go to the market.. I've been avoiding porn a couple of weeks now, but I think I just replaced it. Now I navegate the internet all day without purpose. But I like your videos a lot. It keeps me far from porn at least.

[@z0mb079]

@@pedrojosebr1 wow ur telling me ur so on edge cause u gave all ur power to a female who crushed u. Bro even when we are at our lowest and the bitch just ripped ur heart out held it in front of u then stomped on it DONT EVER just sit there and feel sorry for yourself or use anxiety as to the reason u can't do anything. Same thing happened to me instead of getting over it I turned to dope I spent the next 5 years addicted to meth now that I'm clean I regret it all. Even if u gotta force ur self to get up and get the fuck up and out the house u do it

[@ktkt1825]

​@@pedrojosebr1 In the short term, try being of help to another at any opportunity, even with small acts. Pain comes from within the self, and developing a new habit of looking outward lessens that internal focus- it has always helped me.

[@mistique142]

I relapsed yesterday and felt like I needed to hit the easy button tonight, but I looked up help instead. Thanks for your channel, and for this video. It is really helpful. What you said about connecting with a person being something that lights you up in life - for the first time, a relationship with someone is attractive to me. I want to be clean and able to connect with healthy people. I want to BE healthy. Going to mark my calendar in the morning for 90 days out, and I'm going to commit.

[@inspektorsx683]

The only reason why I think is hard for us men to quit porn is because of this total epidemy of male sexlessness we live on currently. Modern women because of their hypergamy boosted by social media refuse to have sex and a relationship with the majority of "average" men. That leave us completely sexless and porn is the only easy outlet to supply that need.

[@Incog80]

Facts man nobody be talking about this. Self improving our physique and social communication skills is the only way but even during them periods the need for sex starts to show

[@sonnenshiro6045]

It's a cope or rope world boyos Take the blackpill

[@inspektorsx683]

@@sonnenshiro6045 Each day I'm becoming more and more blackpilled, even though I don't agree with everything the blackpillers say. I consider myself Redpill + Blackpill.

[@robnelson6545]

Do you think you’ll have a better chance if you are using porn or not using porn?

[@TheSjconlon]

It’s a fact 80% of women go for the top 20% of men. If you’re not tall,dark ,handsome and rich, then you’re a schmuck. My advice….drink heavily.

[@evilchaperone]

18 days. First time since I was a teenager that I obstained. I feel so much healthier mentally and physically. One less habit. "Living a life of dignity and integrity". This, exactly.

[@unknown_suspect1245]

It literally dismantles the soul and makes us so animalistic… it’s the single greatest attack on mankind in the history of the world

[@DannyTruthMagnified]

Bingo.

[@fredferd2649]

we are animals!

[@unknown_suspect1245]

@@fredferd2649 no we're spirits

[@mikeylazovich3262]

@@unknown_suspect1245 we literally evolved from apes. We are not souls or spirits.

[@unknown_suspect1245]

@@mikeylazovich3262 Im gonna have to side with Nikola tesla and Albert einstein over a random sheep on youtube sorry... You are literally a prime example of a bot in the matrix

[@christiantackett829]

When a man is in a sexless, affectionless marriage where he's constantly on edge, gaslit, deals with constant drama,, and is ignored, the temptation is very real to turn to porn. Divorce would be messy and the annulment process would be lengthy, adding more stress to an already stressful situation. While l love the outdoors and am devoted to my strength training, that only does so much. As they say, "The struggle is real."

[@Pequeawsome]

Hey christian i hear you i don't see dr. Trish reply to your comment. Also you can say the same thing about women see their soup opera, comparing those men to real men. I think she made the video, so woman can't be compared to those lady in the video.

[@kevinkillian8230]

Porn won't cure the problem. In fact, it will only make it worse, 100%. As she mentioned, stop the porn, and you'll have the capacity to work on the marriage or pursue a better relationship. Staying stuck into porn is staying stuck into pain and reliving trauma

[@kmike7833]

This is good advice ma! Thanks in advance!

[@supersonnyd7369]

Thank you for the video. Getting on purpose with our lives will eradicate the need for Porn. The visual aspect of Porn is pleasurable. Using it to de-stress is it's main purpose for some of us. It may reduce the anxiety, depression and sexual frustration at first but it creates more of this in the long run. Porn played a huge roll in causing these problems in the first place. Build the habit of being on purpose in our lives. Make this a priority and be disciplined to it. The PMO cycle gives huge amounts of dopamine at the top and equally more amounts of shame, regret, pain and low self-esteem at the bottom. PMO has taken so much from us, we owe it to ourselves to be PMO free. Porn relives the anger and frustration of not living the life we want because of our PMO use. Love and Peace from the UK!

[@DrTrishLeigh]

I love this. Thank you for the comment.

[@hihaters2004]

It’s designed to extract your soul

[@DannyTruthMagnified]

👆🏾

[@davidxx8836]

😂😂

[@davidxx8836]

Shut up

[@STEALTH1USA]

@@davidxx8836 You're basic af 😂

[@davidxx8836]

@@STEALTH1USA Real sex is dangerous 😒

[@defenderofdharma983]

I just escaped from relapse. Pray for me. Day 19

[@CreeperJ44]

One day at a time

[@nomadictree5795]

You got this

[@Fakestockguru]

Fight brother. Dont give up. When the urges come go lift weights or go for a run.

[@Ash-of1yl]

Day 12 same here nearly relapsed after thinking about old disgusting shit

[@caymanwarrior6359]

@@Ash-of1yl Be strong in the Lord. Seek first the Kingdom of God. Blessings to you.

[@NitishKumar-jm7ec]

Brain fog, difficulty thinking was my wake up call.never really took it for an addiction now i realize it was one of the many tricks my brain pulled on me to feed it's addiction. it freaked the hell out of me .13 days in. I'm gonna beat this dangerous addiction more determined than ever

[@Trendleader863]

If you want maximum benefit don't just quit porn. Do semen retention at the same time and cut out processed foods

[@kaneszulc3012]

Love your videos and dedication in this area. Have always thought porn was not right,but had no idea of how destructive it really is.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Thanks. I hope the information helps.

[@alexandermyrthong3563]

Do something today so that your future self will thank you for.

[@rdurl5086]

What a great and timely wisdom you're providing Dr Leigh, the way you articulate what's happening rings true every time. Thank you. Understanding the dynamics of what's happening within yourself with this stuff, is a big part of understanding how to stop the self esteem lowering behavior this brings..

[@millennialmike575]

You've made so many videos but you always seem so genuine like you really want to help and care. I really appreciate that.

[@ronosborne6855]

As a recovered porn addict, I agree with a lot what you've said. I've been mostly clean for over decade with only light slips, and I like the difference between how I walk through the world now than how it was when I was in a full-blown. As an unmarried religious person, I do not currently have a sex partner, but I find that even non-sexual interactions can bring me a lot more pleasure than it used to. Frankly, I with there had been more information and sights available to me when the addiction began. I hope you keep up the good work of providing information to others, and I hope some will come across what you say before and addiction even begins.

[@lisalisa13green]

My husband is a porn addict. What would you consider to be light slips, so I can prepare myself, Thank you!

[@ja9pwnw119]

​@@lisalisa13green slip= anything that would give you a dopamine rush snd stop your brain from rewiring. Even looking at women in different outfits.

[@maxsparks5183]

Thank you for your effort BUT I use porn in place of “real sex” because that is not an option for me and has not been an option for me for the past 17 years as my wife unilaterally decided that she no longer has any interest in physical relationships (no hand holding, no kissing, no cuddling, no sex, no touching in bed, etc.). And no, divorce is not an option as it is precluded by my religious beliefs. So are you telling me that you believe my life would be better if I lived a totally sexless life? And I have no hobbies that I enjoy. None. I don’t fish or hunt, I hate watching sports, etc. I did in fact very much enjoy sex before my wife took that away from me. So where do I go from here? Just forget having pleasure of any type? I regularly work out and stay healthy but that is no substitute for pleasure. It’s just sweat, work and pain.

[@z0mb079]

Sounds to me like your a Jehovah's witness and if you are that's the biggest problem u got there. And don't listen to this video u do what ever it is that u need to as long as u ain't hurting anybody

[@juanl.rodriguez5722]

Go find a a female friend

[@uncledan2u]

Be a Muslim. Please consider that option.

[@Denison935]

@@z0mb079 👍

[@bolancarpenterjr8753]

Free your soul complettely from religions

[@rednab2001]

Now lets look at this from a man's perspective and a historic perspective. Men biologically have large amounts of the chemical testosterone. This chemical dictates a man's sex drive. One of the main reasons porn has boomed so much in modern history is two-fold. First is the easy access, but the second and most important one is that men no longer have an outlet for their sex drive. Western cultures have become gynocentric, and have put all their effort into controlling men. Women and the gynocracy are always attempting to control men's sex drive. Porn makes it so that men have an outlet and no longer need women to fulfill that need. For most societies since the beginning of time, men had authority over their wives, and wives me the sex drive need. Most societies also had open prostitution to meet the needs of men who were not married or who's wives could not meet that need. Some may not believe this line of thinking. If so, then tell me why women's groups protested and went to their legislatures to shut down sex doll brothels? There were no women involved....just men and their sex drive....and it made women angry that they could not control that. Western nations have done everything they can to remove male authority from families and society. At the end of the day, I see porn as a benefit for men. It frees them from the need for women. It frees married men from the sexless marriages. Women now use sex as a weapon against men, because they know it is a males biological need.

[@ezkempinkemp3467]

Rednab2001 Well stated.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Hi friend. Unfortunately science shows that porn damages your brain and negatively impacts your mental and physical health. Now sex with a partner… Very good for your brain. Having sex with yourself all the time doesn’t make sense from an evolutionary perspective… Plus most people want a partner. It’s better to stay out of the screen and find yourself a healthy partner to have lots of sex with.

[@rednab2001]

@@DrTrishLeigh I agree completely with you on this topic….IF…..we were not in the current age we are in. Currently, for men, sexual relationships with women come with far more risk than porn. I have never seen men go to prison, pay decades of child/spousal support, or commit suicide over porn. It would be great if men could just go Monk, but that goes against human nature. Your a doctor….what would you prescribe to the 80% of men who have no access to a sexual partner?

[@bilbobaggins5408]

I agree. She is babbling on about some extreme pathological cases, but clearly she does not understand normal men.

[@zoeymckeown3194]

There isn't the science to demonstrate that porn is harmful because it's not. It helps keep relationships intact, is pleasurable and a form of safe-sex. The Christian conservatives who tell us sex is only about reproduction are the same ones who condemn porn. They really are a nature-denying joyless lot and never mention the sexual assault rates that go down wherever access to porn increases (National Crime Victim Survey US).

[@triplem6448]

Grateful that this youtube Chanel exist🙏🏽

[@Caporeal87]

Such a big help. I’ve officially quit porn and getting my life on track…a lot more ppl need to come across her videos cause ik this a big problem for alot of ppl.

[@user-ir9ip3zz1j]

So happy for you man❤

[@glywnniswells9480]

There is a natural need for sex and woman hypergamy is the biggest problem.Sexlessness and even above average men have this problem.

[@savannahplayer7733]

We appreciate you Doc. Keep up the great work !! You are changing lives!!!

[@prosanjitdas853]

He'll noo iam having very stressed and full. Of anxiety my mind is.having a headache and bowing to people

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Time to get rid of that anxiety and start rocking out your best life.

[@eeethhh2153]

I'm starting my day watching your videos every morning (Day 3) I can feel the better version of myself 🔥 I can face the situations better than before (no guilty or depression anymore).

[@usamanizami4935]

I was on purpose on the start of the 2022 but suddenly I faced the minor injury in my right ankle and my ankle was fractured and i was stuck on 2 month rest because of that my cycle was broken and the old brain pattern arose. Because i had to rest on the bed and could not walk or do an exercise because of that Porn triggers me and i could not stop myself for watching it and now i have gone in the dark world anxiety. the hardest battle to fight it when you are on the bed and you can not do any physical activity.

[@NasirKhan-cm1it]

Being a medical doctor i really appreciate your work.

[@ainalrami]

I don’t think these applies a seaman who is working on board 4 to 6 months and doesn’t want to cheat on her wife or gf.

[@oceansoflorewi]

She must be an incredible mom. Perfect guiding healing energy.

[@avalanche9142]

Between porn and one-night stands or sex with someone who you may necessarily not want to be in a serious relationship with, then porn can be considered the better option; also zero chance of STD, false accusations, pregnancy, etc ..

[@edwardwicks304]

Nothing like falling in love. Marrying the love of your life. Growing older together. Falling deeper in love. And being free of porn. Yes, I am a big advocate for marriage.

[@avalanche9142]

@@edwardwicks304 more than 50% of marriages end up in divorce and women are mainly the imitators of divorces. Many men have lots half of their life earnings as a result of that; alimony.... That is not the solution (anymore).

[@avalanche9142]

@Umair Tallat and lose half of your life when she divorces you while you have to keep paying her alimony

[@jerrypeukert5732]

Facts

[@jerrypeukert5732]

@Umair Tallat 😬

[@seifamgad9568]

You just prevented a relapse. Thank you.

[@TheLawyerDrummer]

You got this my brother.

[@seifamgad9568]

@@TheLawyerDrummer thank you. It’s tough out here.

[@jeremiahsmarketing]

I love your videos mhen...I'm back again!

[@nujaz]

I wish I had this information 30 yrs ago… My 1st Wife had a porn collection and addiction. She was into this for sometime before we married. It made her unable to maintain a relationship, and caused mood swings and personality quirks. It took me a while to understand the issue but in the end, I had no choice but to divorce her. It has taken me years to recover. Most of these porn videos seem to be addressed to, and about Men. This is not a Mens issue, it is a human issue.

[@kerripendragon4888]

Wow. Your case is unique. Hardly heard of female porn addicts. I guess female addicts just hide better.

[@Clint-nq1lg]

She’s speaking facts, I agree 100 percent

[@ackerman8511]

You are doing a great service to mankind.

[@Sunny-s1de]

Anytime around 10 days I relapse and give in. Usually something negative happened. And I feel some recovery so feel some excitement for pleasure. What can I do to keep myself strong and not give in every time again? I feel so weak. And I usually end up very late at night, few sleep and feel a backset. Any advice?

[@Astro-mn2sx]

Another excellent, excellent video! This could be the starter video for someone new to your channel. Let me ask you to address another hidden problem with porn use. That is the obsessive and compulsive behavioral contribution to seeking porn. Sadly and ashamedly, I have consumed soft porn for years downloading videos and pictures, and drawn back to it by the need to label and categorize my collection , group it, file it, classify it and every other "stamp collecting" compulsive behavior. Even when not seeking the images, I get drawn into this crazy organizing and filing behavior that results in me watching it. Any thoughts? would medication used for OCD help?

[@soepil]

I've been there too, but I deleted it all.

[@robertr6675]

The only requirement for peace of your soul is to STOP using porn. Takes one to know one. Sex addict.

[@ja9pwnw119]

Your are so right dr. It only takes a look at a pretty women. Or a bit stressed or bored and thats it. Relapse. But thankfully i fighg myself to not do it and everyday im growing stronger with your help.

[@mukaburu_simon]

Overcoming the addiction bit by bit. Thanks for your uploads

[@couchbookingwrestling4356]

I'm on day 4 I'm feeling the urge more and more right now since mecand my wife separated. I'm hoping to be able to kick this habit this time. When I've done months without it something happens and I get sucked back in.

[@RoosterMclaren]

I’m glad I found you. It started with reading something about testosterone going up after abstaining for a week. I searched KZbin and I found you. It’s only been a week or so since you know what but I’m determined to beat this addiction. The first thing I have done is to not look at my phone while I’m in the bathroom.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

I'm so glad you found me! I'm even happier to hear you've already implemented an action step as well. Not looking at your phone while in the bathroom is a great start. I have faith in you my friend!

[@Snap_back_jack386]

Hope you sticking with it.. also it's best to put a blocker on your phone and stay away from social media.. remember there was a time we kept In contact wit family and friends before it, so don't let that be an excuse to keep it.

[@ccar1332]

Of course Trish is mostly correct.... however.... at 7:47 Trish mentions that I would "feel guilty and filled with shame ... and I wish I didn't do that"... NOT true. No guilt, no shame. Masturbation is a normal biological function. All Primates do it. The only issue is the watching of Porn while masturbating. The brain gets accustomed to needing constant changing imagery and videos for stimulation, RATHER than creating your own in your brain. Creating your own fantasies in your brain, WITHOUT porn is the way to get out of watching porn. Trish has a psychological block, a reluctance, to saying the word Masturbation.... she calls it 'watching porn'. Well there are more than 2 options, as she implies. Trish only gives 2: watching porn (and masturbating) and sex with a partner.... but what about just masturbating? Studies show that masturbation is normal AND healthy..... no guilt, no erectile difficulties, brain fog or friendship problems. In fact, it makes you stay younger for longer with more testosterone coursing through your body. I agree, get rid of porn.... but keep masturbating if you are not able to get regular sex. Yes, sex with a partner re-enforces the connection.... but NO SHAME in masturbating without porn, when intercourse is not available.

[@MUHAMMADZUBAIR-hn8qd]

I appreciate your efforts. You are doing a great work in these times when people are losing clarity in their lives. I am sure that your services will pay off in both worlds.

[@tapeweight]

So we don’t get divorced

[@bilalsajid1792]

09:50 the best aspect is that you are not alone after the sex you have a person and a partner of your privacy and you don't feel alone just like you feel alone after porn

[@leserbeacerbe6910]

Sex with a girl will be always a million times better than your fuckin hand

[@handansen777]

Love it when modern science and ancient Christianity (moral values) get into perfect alignment; there may be hope that modern world may realize they can actually reinforce one another. Great video, fantastic information.

[@ronaldbobeck1026]

Which flavor of Christianity we r talking about? The Catechism of the RCC says that abortion and artificial birth control are mortal sins. I would say that for 1,500 yrs before the Reformation there was a unified front in the church. Luther comes and changes the rules , for the next 500 yrs the church in the west has accepted divorce, abortion, artificial contraception and now the LGBTQ lifestyle. Most mainline Prostantant sects are not concerned about these issues . Now the Evangelical/ Bible only Fundelmentists. Still follow the RCC teaching on these issues. With most of them allowing for divorce and Birth control. It is not a religious issue , but, rather one of social control.

[@handansen777]

@@ronaldbobeck1026 ok.

[@edward3105]

Does fasting helpes with porn addiction?

[@dreamwriter7079]

Beautiful, GOD bless you!

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Thanks!

[@dreamwriter7079]

@@DrTrishLeigh Hey Trish, is it bad for sex with your partner to last long? And if not how long is it healthy to have sex with your partner?

[@kamalpreetsingh1686]

I am unemployed young man with no girlfriend or wife and don't have money for going to prostitue ......what can I do ?? It's modern life's circumstances that male are addicted to porn.....

[@David-sq6ep]

Great video Dr. The reason Im winning is because of you. I'm so happy and grateful for that 🤗

[@sokomoko6423]

GOD gifted our Dr Trish liegh....may she live long .....for 10000000000000000000000000000000000 infinite ... years

[@pratapsinghrana28]

David you're a king in this matter

[@David-sq6ep]

@@pratapsinghrana28 Thank you man. I'm still a pupil of our Dr. *I respect Dr. Trish Leigh*

[@pratapsinghrana28]

@@David-sq6ep Same we all respect dr Trish

[@David-sq6ep]

@@pratapsinghrana28 Yes sr.

[@DanielMix-cy8ei]

I believe i was using it to fill a void after getting out of a toxic relationship but im getting to old for it now its like you said not serving a purpose anymore.

[@thim8009]

What happens when you don't want a relationship? Women are a bigger pain than any gain they give.

[@bluskytoo]

my thoughts as well

[@kashifshuja7433]

The pplz who are addicted in porns the 🧠 brain front size shrink what is the most important for motivate in biology we call prefrontal cartex am I right dr?

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Absolutely. That is exactly right.

[@kashifshuja7433]

The wrok what you're doing seriously it's a big good deed 👌 thanks alot

[@wesbaumguardner8829]

This lady is obviously not in the dating market.

[@mikeg1483]

Very true..like an escape...alcohol...drugs...tv...movies etc

[@dingerjunkie]

...and what is the option for those in unhealthy relationships? Long-term sexless marriage with an uninterested partner? For those who will never divorce and will never cheat, what is the healthy option?

[@rabbi619]

Divorce

[@jasonsager6535]

I believe that when your spouse withholds sex from their partner it is a form of abandonment which can be grounds for divorce. Check it out first, but I believe it is very true.

[@lisaMay1966]

How do I get my husband to agree to a program or counseling? I don't feel he truly wants freedom from this. He's still bursting with constant anger. He's gained so much weight and plays video games A LOT. He's lost interest in bathing and doesn't like to have sex with me. He says he seriously wants to quit but I don't think he's serious. I think I should move on....I don't know anymore. He blames me for everything. He's tearing me apart

[@jackpinesavage1628]

This sounds like the marriage my friends had. She was a battle axe that drove her children away after they became old enough to do so. Bossy, always with the mean comment to friends, her husband and her children. It's been ten years since she has spoken or seen her own son. The health of both of them became worse as they aged. He had heart trouble and diabetes, eventually preventing him from driving a car to escape the non-stop hen pecking. She began to fall several time a day. By then, he was so depressed he quit wearing clothing in the house. He sat in his recliner chair naked. One Sunday afternoon he had enough. When she returned home from church with his girl cousin, he started to cuss and yell at the both of them. As he started to walk out the door, his wife asked him "where are you going?" He replied "out!". He stepped out the front door, put a gun to his head and killed himself. I'm surprised he didn't take her with him. If you're had enough, then leave. If you want him to take a shower more often , or quit his "hobby", or pay more attention to you, let God work on his heart. Perhaps he may change to suit your liking. If he wants to sit around the house stinky, playing video games and ignoring you, remember thing could turn out like what happened to my friends. Her daughter had compassion for her mother. She returned to help her. The State investigated the terrible living conditions in the house (rats / mice). The State told her the house was no longer fit to live in and being disabled, she was in danger if she remained there.

[@gabyd5662]

He is addicted, he needs a 12 steps program

[@fredferd2649]

Shock! It's purpose is to educate!

[@DrTrishLeigh]

No!

[@firecode3495]

Excellent video, one think to add , is you focus on final side of the thread , the begining of all factors are modern society, we focus on the end but no the cause and effect of this reasons. Modern life society, do demands competition, stressful time jobs, low paid jobs , no jobs , no money ,etc, so this derive on this problems(anxiety depression,smoke cigars, alcohol dependencies, brain scape porn .... etc). Modern life is not healthy .

[@brandonhoffmaster6199]

Wondering how many misdiagnosed mental illnesses porn overuse or addiction causes? So insidious and easy to minimalize where u cant put your finger on 'whats wrong'. keep up the good work.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Many I am sure. That’s exactly right. I will keep trying to help people. 🙅‍♀️🙏🏻

[@clarencehammer3556]

Even though I do not watch porn my real life is very painful. For me there is no such thing as real sex. Yes, I am married but I live alone. I am lucky if I get to spend a few minutes at lunch with my wife in a restaurant once a week.

[@CheekSmackerFrom63rd]

Wait what…? Lmao

[@thomascollins4325]

Clarence you are not in an authentic marriage. Being married without cohabitating defeats the purpose of two people becoming one flesh and living a good life together. Good luck as you try to solve this problem.

[@umang835]

How can I avoid peeking at it? I haven't watched it for more than 2 months but still peek and somehow control and leave.

[@jayadams35]

You are on the right track dude. Remember you managed to control yourself from watching porn for two months, but now all you do is peek but not watching. I could say you are better than someone who is still watching. Applaud yourself for your effort. Remember we are all not 100% effective. Now the next task for you is to prevent yourself from peeking. Try it brother.

[@umang835]

@@jayadams35 Thank you. I'm a bit influenced by your words. Now I'll definitely try to avoid peeking.🙂

[@hannanhub1717]

Porn is escape...don't run away from your goal and responsibilities just face them...I don't mean to say porn is evil but uncontrollable porn viewing will definitely wreak havoc in your life...

[@bigal98761]

It is evil actually and quitting is just the first step semen retention is the key to a better life

[@oliverkent7158]

The assumption is people have a 'honey'. Many people don't for a variety of reasons.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

The hypothesis is that people want a honey… Not that they have one. Most people want connection… Put the energy into building intimacy with the real human beings to find that honey.

[@oliverkent7158]

@@DrTrishLeigh what about people reluctantly single for a variety of reasons and unwanted celibacy

[@oliverkent7158]

@@DrTrishLeigh PS are you coming at this from a spiritual/Christian perspective or purely as a brain scientist ? Thanks.

[@dalesco4205]

Actually, here's a question: how come porn is such a massive industry when the vast majority of customers get the product for free? I've looked it up before but I was never satisfied with the answers.

[@DannyTruthMagnified]

Seems like the currency they are receiving from you watching would be something more valuable then your money, right?

[@nathandrums3486]

Did you see the McAfee founder talk about it in a video? He explained that it was because the free porn sites let foreign countries collect your data essentially by installing malware and virus software on your device as soon as you enter a porn site. It supposedly only takes a second of two

[@dalesco4205]

@@nathandrums3486 The guy who got locked up and said he wasn't going to kill himself but was found dead shortly after? No, I missed that. I'll have to look it up.

[@dalesco4205]

@@DannyTruthMagnified "When you're given something for free, you are the product"

[@nathandrums3486]

@@dalesco4205 honest question. No need to be snarky. I was just trying to help

[@chadalleyne2317]

I understand what she is saying but the reason for the rise of porn addiction is because a lot of guys do find it difficult to even get women these days it's not easy it's way easier for a woman to get sex than it is for a man to get it that's fact if sex was easy for guys to obtain they wouldn't do many guys wouldn't be addicted not saying that's always the case but majority of the time the guy finds it hard to get women

[@pratapsinghrana28]

Dr trish what do you say on this FOR EXAMPLE - what if the dad was too addicted in this P, then cassettes were easily accessible in 70s 80s 90s (No money issues then), can it be genetically passed to the child (ME)? i mean the reason easy exposure during childhood (age 10) as then those materials were present in HUGE quantities 🤦...... just found Me and My Dad enjoy same SCENARIO CATEGORIES (Accessed his phone) 😁😐😐😐😐😐😐😐 i know it's weird to say, WEIRD AND WEIRDEST COMMENT YET I KNOW 🙄

[@danboltmaker5705]

Do some research on epigenetics. It seems like stuff like addictions can be passed down

[@pratapsinghrana28]

@@danboltmaker5705 yeah i have had read somewhere before months but i lost the link.... the addiction is damn serious and affecting my life

[@omaraguedacenteno7723]

Great video, to be honest, this is a hardcore vice, hard to get rid off.

[@farkinarkin5099]

Who would choose a substitute over an actual intimate relationship with a partner? Dignity and integrity is elusive for those that are marginalized (especially if the marginalization is due to something that is neither their own doing or something they can change). It is probably more useful to stop agendas that promote the Pareto principle in the dating world.

[@jerrypeukert5732]

Less aggravation in life, just fap occasionally 😉

[@wilde.coyote6618]

Perhaps we could make the same argument about alcohol?.

[@victorsvoice7978]

Porn fills a need in society, because of loneliness and rejection. One day there will be companion robots and there will be no need for porn.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Alternatively… You could just get a human partner instead of a robot. Yes it’s more work, but more fulfilling too.

[@dn1697]

@@DrTrishLeigh ... it has some educational utility ... and can impact rape crime reduction rates ... unfortunately you're really talking about a cultural problem on integrating sex ... and it depends what you mean by sex ... ... ... ... most men need to masturbate ... that isn't exactly any secret ... sex drive desire is a different problem ... I got shamed for masturbating as a kid ... but this doesn't resolve the problem of integrating sex into cultures ... what happened before condoms and the female pill ??? ... it must have been easier to find a partner ... now it feels like nobody cares ... in favour of short term gratification ... have you tested dating social media sites? ... they are worse than porn films ...

[@dn1697]

@@DrTrishLeigh ... you should try relocating by yourself ... and to a foreign country ... and meet nobody with any intimacy skills or indeed mutual attraction ... then see what happens ...

[@cricketlaunch2405]

Yeh it makes me embracing coz I don’t have that big n I can’t last more than 3 mins

[@theodoregarcia8830]

I dont use porn for any of these reasons, i dont have a girlfriend , im not gonna get one anytime soon , im broke and have no time , relationships require time. Porn allows me to release my semen in the morning and get to work , now most of my fantasies are with previous sexual relations , but that sux cause that aint gonna happen again , so porn allows me to disconnect emotionally and resolve the natural flow if the casual body our physical bodies. Yes there is a teaching in tao , the tao of sex , but im not able to deny my erection . Porn sux but it also helps a guy in my situation, porn might stop the amount of rapes too.

[@jasonwoodbury3717]

Um no porn is the fuel for rapes

[@Djmoegimmemoe]

I desperately need your help

[@Machi74005]

I appreciate the info shared by Dr. Leigh; however, their seems to be a direct inference in some of the videos for those turning to "the screen" due to loneliness/no partner that they simply must find a partner. That simply is not an option for many people for a potentially unexhaustive list of reasons.

[@chady025]

Get on purpose, and the partner will come eventually. Get your dopamine hits from life until then (and even after then)

[@Machi74005]

@@chady025 I am in my early 50's with the romance experience of a 13 year old. There are underlying issues that are going to prevent finding a partner simply not addressed here. There are people who live celebate lives for more healthy reasons. It should be doable and needs to be doable for some of us.

[@suzyrokits3993]

Dr Leigh is right. How many guys don’ t even attempt to talk to new women for fear of getting rejected. One needs to bring up one’ s game, overcome that fear and go for it!

[@Machi74005]

@@suzyrokits3993 That is just more doubling down on the unrealistic and ignoring peculiar circumstances.

[@6WoodForest]

So what if I just dislike social interaction and my hobby is video game which is another "bad" habit.

[@glenncornwall4331]

What you have been saying is so very true. I have been aware of what you have been communicating in your podcast. What I have been doing my entire life has been denying my connection to my worthiness of being connected to others. And I realize that there’s a very strong spiritual component to all of this as I have been Meditating. I can hardly believe that I have been fooling myself that porn is innocent. That is not to say that I am not innocent,Our very nature is innocence . Thank you!

[@michaelpiwcewicz1412]

TO FILL IN IF SHE RUNS OUT OF MONEY TO PAY ME I'M NOT CHEAP

[@Soviet_BulleT]

Hello Dr. Leigh, it's been awhile since I have commented and watched your videos, great as always. Wanted to share my success story for others to see and I would like also to thank you, your videos really sky-rocketed to curing my addiction, It's really been awhile since I even peeked at those dirty dirty websites. I have returned to praying regularly and working out, shredding the guitar and studying, hard. Everyday is now full of purpose because I found my significant other and I have urge/need to the screen every time anymore. I feel like was reborn, and living life truly and maxing out every day like it's the last day on this earth. Thank you from the bottom of my heart Doctor, you are a blessing for this Over-Sexualied world. God's Grace and Blessing, Alex.

[@ronlivaudais6523]

Identity determines perspective!

[@p.o.p.presents]

Everything you're saying is 100% accurate. Porn could never replace the real thing. It's not a good life being addicted to it. Sometimes if you're a past dweller you will try to simulate the person you had the best physical experience with. That's even more addictive because you're adding an emotional attachment. Porn is empty and vacant. There's nothing in this world better than a genuine relationship with a human being that you can touch. Thank you for this useful information. It's so helpful.

[@forgedman3567]

"geniune relationships" are too expensive. I'm agree they are good, but the price is too high - lies, betrayals, irrational money spendings, infections, depressions and unwanted children. Cover such expenses means to be very rich person, but who has such money?

[@alexb.california3933]

It’s a tough one but I must be stopped. All this woman in dating apps have drained me as well. I don’t want a hook up and that’s what it has been.

[@reyreyes6126]

how about if the partner is non-cooperative? you're sexually active but the partner is not?

[@thespiritofhegel3487]

I must watch some one day, just to see how it makes me feel.

[@bigal98761]

The purpose for the industry is to make money off it

[@gabrielalmeida6085]

Dr. can I touch myself only thinking about the feelings of my touch and nothing else? is that okay or still harmful?

[@pratapsinghrana28]

seems same effect, i think dr trish talked about in one of the vids

[@gabrielalmeida6085]

@@pratapsinghrana28 it's hard to know because there are many videos

[@j3ffn4v4rr0]

This sounds like what Dr Robert Glover recommends in his book No More Mr Nice Guy.......and it's a good technique for coming back to healthy sexual response ONLY AFTER detaching from addiction. Also, you have to be careful, that you're not using it as an excuse to keep one foot in "addiction land" by tricking yourself that you're doing it "the right way".

[@pratapsinghrana28]

@@gabrielalmeida6085 i think dr trish may share the video link

[@gabrielalmeida6085]

@@j3ffn4v4rr0 ooooooh yeeees, I've read this book once, gonna listen to the audiobook, he does talk about it on the book

[@bainbridgeomega]

You honestly need to create a video for those like me who practice no fap but don't have a girlfriend. There are people who are suffering right now without a girlfriend and they feel disgusted whether or not they use porn. What do you say to those single males out there who are in the struggle of finding love?

[@sanyo8440]

Sometimes we just gotta sit there and burn. Thats all a man can do when he has no where else to go.

[@robnelson6545]

The answer is to be on purpose or to let yourself be uncomfortable to the point you are willing to do whatever it takes to be on purpose.

[@Marta1Buck]

come on, come on... let's hit that 100k before new year!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@medgolly7342]

Sounds like women telling men how to think to serve women’s purpose when compliments of feminism women believe they can do better with out men as feminism states anything men can do women can do better !

[@Frankiarmz]

Women can’t model a jockstrap better 😝. I think porn is great !

[@noxnyc23]

Life is short, balance is the key .. when you abuse porn then yeah you need to take a moment and analyze what the real issue is ..

[@jasonscala5834]

Porn has NEVER made me feel bad. I have been getting 30 percent hike every 1-2 years. I'm making 200K a year. BTW, the greatest of philosophers have said there really is NO purpose in life. I will totally recommend porn, you'll need females less and less. It will help you concentrate on your work and friends. It's a great substitute to modern feminists. This video is pure propaganda. They want men to start chasing women again so they can get access to our wallets. Just like everything in life DO NOT GET ADDICTED. Also ensure you don't cut yourself off from society, you still need your guy friends, your family and the occasional roll in the hay (optional IMHO).

[@RandomPerson28337]

Facts

[@OnyieOnyeabor007]

Haha yeah they get to our wallets through relationships, not only fans premium memberships and the rent free ad space in our minds…

[@jasonscala5834]

@@OnyieOnyeabor007 If a guy is paying for pron then I really don't know what to say. Adverts.. they are everywhere... can't do much.

[@nobodyisprfct]

11:50 is where I am at in this clip. Crap! My brain has this self defeating attitude. Part of me is miserable and wants to get extremely troublesome painful issue fixed. The other part of me says it will take to long and you will fail. There is also this thought of not wanting to have to suffer through another painful experience. I would really like to overcome this stubborn pain in the ass part of me that constantly gives up. I am so tired of being alone and i am also fearful of engaging in a relationship. So frustrating ! How much more rock bottom do I need to get before my desire to change overcomes the stubborn painful side.. I can seem to get past the 4th step.

[@WVMothman]

Mother Angelica said in one of her classic sermons even the saints struggled with the temptations of this world, self doubt is one of the key elements. Once that is overcome you are free of it.

[@rollinontwentytwos]

I was doing so well.. 15 days.. Then go hacked everything got hacked.. And it caused so much stress.. Smh.. Weak!!

[@grinchtv529]

Help! I been clean of porn for 2 days and Im struggling a little. I keep thinking about it, reminding myself of images I shouldn't. To cope I play with my kids, or play music. If there isn't those two around what should I do? I'm also working on NOT smoking Marijuana so I also want to smoke. I have been clean of both since Halloween. Please help me stay clean, what do I do? P.S. I wrote this without watching the video first lol. Any MORE ideas?

[@CornbreadJenkins34]

Anything and everything else!! Gym, go for runs, spend time with your kids..... I know that compulsive feeling sucks ,the intrusive thoughts can be torture, but what I do is pray , I know God has given me the ability to choose when I didn't think I could control myself... And that has been crucial to my recovery! Meditation helps a lot too as well as flooding our mind with positive messages.... One day at a time and eventually we will overcome this and no longer be afraid of it

[@ItsJust_Sins]

Basically what the other person said but with the addition of cold showers and just doing something productive in general whenever you get an urge.

[@jsmith469]

Just give in to it ......watch it with your wife.

[@cxa011500]

All those negative consequences sound like EXCESSIVE porn use. Excessive use of anything can create they situation: food, alcohol, shopping, entertainment, etc. I stopped using porn for a while. It didn't seem to help getting a girlfriend or give me anything but blueballs.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

There’s more to it than just not watching. When you unravel the root of why you go back to porn then your life can really change in the direction you’re looking for.

[@bnesselroad70]

@@DrTrishLeigh --you can't guarantee that he will attract a relationship partner if he stops using porn

[@richardshreedhar3812]

I still don't understand why such a big industry has been built to give us pain. Thanks for a very logical presentation 👍.