8 Simple Self Improvement Principles

[@ThePitBokser]

1. Drink more water 2. Eat whole foods 3. Practice daily gratitude 4. Pick up a book 5. Listen to a TED Talk 6. Forgive someone 7. Join a group of supportive individuals 8. Congratulate yourself for this growth For those who are in the rush of changing their lives :-)

[@khuzemasaifee4087]

Nice caption at the end :D

[@AndreiDante]

They're in the description aswell but thanks

[@MotiveVideoBook]

Haha , thank you so much!

[@AlexxieSanchez]

Thanks

[@Amira-eq2gc]

Thank u

[@MentorMyLife]

Self improvement is a journey. You will grow 0.001% everyday. Push through any mental road blocks because when you feel as if you aren't growing is when you are growing the most. These tips a great. Thank you - Kushtrim

[@aridroutsas3786]

That means that I will be 100 percent improved in 273 years

[@androidgameearner6490]

I agree.by the time that you are already thinking of change that only means that you are changing

[@wisdom_of_everything]

Wise answer! Thanks!

[@ciro4063]

Wrong. It depends how much you're willing to deal with all your issues and committment to growth. It took me 3 years. I have some videos on my chanel explaining the steps

[@sunitaroy9505]

@@aridroutsas3786 why you want to change yourself completely? You have to improve yourself don't change it 100% dude

[@lailaalfaddil7389]

Thanks for this amazing information !! If you don't find a means of multiplying money, you will wake up one day to realize that the money you thought you had, has finished. Investment is key, I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life

[@lailaalfaddil7389]

It took me 3 years to stop trying to predict what's about to happen in the market based on charts studying because you never know. Please, i need the help of your Investment advisor.

[@Badr_tazi]

Waking up early is something that changes my life and can change yours too.. Try it !

[@AyeZo]

Facts! 💯

[@aishakuenkiir302]

At what time??? maybe it will help me

[@michaelstarr1900]

330 am at 8 am you feel great not dragging your ass. And you get to work on yourself before work

[@curioysgorge2829]

Instructions unclear :: i dont sleep no more helpp

[@Vijaykumar-et1oo]

actually night owl is better for me i am sleeping at around 3:00 AM clock everyday and wakes up st 9:00 AM

[@KirikomiMoon]

I really appreciate this list. I have a habit of being such a down, secluded bump on the road. My head would be filled with self-defeating thoughts. I really needed something to push me out of my depressed minefield and fill that hole with good thoughts, good feelings, and good will. Thank you!

[@ciro4063]

This list won't help you. You gotta do some self-reflection

[@Marking_The_Way]

Love this! BONUS TIP💡Give yourself an INSTANT, separate reward once you accomplished your task. Often the reward is delayed, so you can hack your brain by giving it a reward now 😃

[@jepoyplayz797]

I am 22 years old student, and past two years I was really struggling. A year ago I started using Forwago, and their personalized plans helped me a lot. I eat healthier, even started to workout, it helped me build my self-confidence, and maybe the best thing I started my small online business. It is nothing special, but it is nice to earn some money. And I am still making the progress. Take care of yourself and start building the life of your dreams. Everybody is capable of achieving their dreams.

[@irfanshafqat5167]

This actually works. I have been using it for a while now.

[@positiveandhealthy2728]

Self improvement is a journey. Be grateful for what you have, then you will always have enough. Keep thinking about what you don't have, and you will never have enough.

[@positiveandhealthy2728]

This is needed every time you feel like giving up!

[@beit4333]

My tip is to value the time that you/we have. BROWSING using your phone every single can give you laziness. And I learned that using phone is just like dreaming without REALITY.... I advised the younger generation to minimize using phone, because it can't help them to improve their personalitya and skills.

[@onepercentruleeveryday]

so true.. following small right steps in the right direction.. CONSISTENTLY - is crucial to developing yourself over time!:)

[@raffypragat8033]

Same here. This program is a gem.

[@DarbyDraws]

WARNING! WARNING! Although 8 glasses of water a day is the recommendation, it is NOT nessisary!! Water is nessisary, but OVER-HYDRATION is more of a problem than dehydration! You should drink water when you're thirsty, don't force yourself to drink 8 cups a day! If you fear you aren't getting enough water, just replace your normal drinks with water, and remember Things like tea are MOSTLY water, but shouldn't be used to replace a normal drink of water! Things like tea wont be processed in your body like water. You might get some water out of it, but a cup or bottle of water should be your way of getting your daily water needs!

[@xanderking3749]

Tea does have it's own properties that are useful so on top of water a cup of tea or two would be beneficial

[@DarbyDraws]

@@xanderking3749 yep! I love making tea, but even if tea is good for you it cannot replace water

[@TR-lz3kh]

100% agree, had some issues from drinking to much water, was told by a doctor to only drink when Thirsty!

[@ashwaq6098]

you have to drink a LOT of water to over hydrate. you should be fine.

[@ciro4063]

All this talk about water and not about self-reflection, the only true way to have self-improvement

[@positiveandhealthy2728]

That's life changing and most of us neglect it.

[@selfhelp2021]

I have always loved psychology and I really like your content .

[@jaygreen2628]

Awesome video Theodore! That fact about Meetup really caught my attention, definitely plan on checking that out! Love your channel as always and can’t wait for the next video!!

[@ryanmarrow9819]

Did you ever end up making the psychology series? I just stumbled upon this video, so I assume you have. Either way great video! It is crazy, I was writing a list of 26 2-min habits and I was on the last 3 and was semi-stuck so I clicked open this video and Wallah! Synchronicity is not a coincidence!

[@stopsign420]

imma jus write down my stuff here don’t run away from my problems don’t lie (evan doe ion fw dat) don’t trust anybody remeber NAS 👎🏿 don’t say anything i wouldn’t want my friends or family to here or do anything admit to my mistakes n move on jus do better cuz i can’t change the past at all .

[@Johnsson25]

My real rules of self-improvement. 1. Go to the psychoanalyst and work with your self-esteem. 2. Find your aim and begin to achieve it. 3. Sleep enough, eat what you want, but not too much, go in for sports, chat with friend and love smb. Watch your health. That's all

[@maarten4090]

Kind of missed the little tune on the background , was quite looking forward to it when i pressed on the vid :(

[@beyourself4996]

Thank you, this was helpful.

[@emmanuelelegah162]

I like this video it has shown me self improve principle

[@theNUFDpodcast]

I would listen to your new psychology personaility series, doing one like it on this channel aswell!

[@michlegaspi730]

thank you for sharing this video

[@betterthannormal1425]

Thanks for sharing these insights..

[@michaelwong8529]

Thank you

[@KS-wb7ym]

Damn I thought Tom Holland was speaking in the video

[@DeepakKumar-iu8de]

😂😂😂

[@b14z3g3]

😂😂😂

[@theodoros_mpousoulas]

Basically, it's not 8 glasses of water. For every person is different. The perfect is 30ml of water for every kg you have!

[@mrattraction6776]

Great Video!

[@morningskylark]

Self improvement can be hard work. No, let’s rephrase that. It is hard work. It can take a year or a lifetime, which is why we tend to give up on ourselves.

[@TheInfiniteX]

Which software did your use them make this illustrations?

[@motivemystic]

Wow, such an inspiring video on self improvement principles! While I agree with most of the points discussed, one principle that really transformed my life is the power of daily affirmations. Speaking positivity into my life every day has truly helped me stay focused and motivated. Dear friends, have you tried incorporating daily affirmations into your routine? Let me know in the comments below! Keep striving for greatness, you've got this! 💪🌟 #SelfImprovementJourney

[@HOLYGAMERPH]

We all knew what we must do

[@lhanglhanggahuman2852]

Half year ago I started using Forwago and I was so impressed that I recommended it to 2 of my best friends. I really enjoy how the personalized plans help me not just to reach my goals, but instead to enjoy while moving forward to my goals.

[@gionagrace3343]

Oh yes, 2 things I forgot to mention. I do a peppermint face mask every morning. Totally rejuvenating! Wide awake then LOL and use a diffuser with lavender essential oil. Calms your soul.

[@ciro4063]

That won't fix your issues😂

[@novice2875]

Can you make some videos about courtship?

[@lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385]

The key to seal development is to stop listening to the devil and fallow your dreams.

[@bettyblue7441]

I think the most difficult one is forgiving someone. I can't forgive someone who hurt me by her\his willing.

[@ciro4063]

You need to learn how to be more understanding. Realize this person was brought up wrong, or maybe they were hurt, ultimately treating you like crap. It becomes less forgiving them but more you having pity for them. Focus on yourself with self-reflection by being your own self-therapist, and be honest with yourself. When you truly grow, you'll end up holding no grudges

[@ahditah8102]

We are not dehydrated relax most of the body’s water is taken through eating

[@zacjac99]

Is he using a software to draw the words and images?

[@everreddviii]

Double like

[@funnygamingpakistaniplayer4220]

Same here

[@pete123]

you totally missed getting 7 to 8 hours of sleep. that's life changing and most of us neglet it. But great video! your channel is awesome! Thank you for your content.

[@Brand00d]

7-9 hours ...but who’s counting

[@mrs.potatohead8471]

Actually, it's 8-10hours 😊❤

[@NenaLavonne]

E L totally agree! My life changed 100% when I started actually sleeping 😌

[@DiorskiePrepossessing]

I get 9-10 hours of sleep

[@joseabraham3750]

Nope less hours➡️more time➡️more productive

[@TheLifeFormulaa]

Exercising has been crucial to my personal growth!

[@borriblood7036]

True

[@jaymeeliz]

Me too. It was the first step i made.

[@soniamuhurihafner7216]

THE KNOWLEDAGEABLE I WILL DEFINETLY RECIEVE THE GOOD MANNERD BLESSING IMPROVEMENT LANGUAGE AND MATH

[@soniamuhurihafner7216]

FOR I

[@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265]

It has changed me too

[@lmw_x7633]

Im gonna say it again... i absolutely love that speaking speed and instant jumping into the topic! That is literally the only channel i know that is not about stupid clickbait and timewasting

[@kidseglencetv5043]

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[@monicapep2474]

Thanks for sharing awesome tips. I started my path to reinventing myself a year ago, I'm now living healthier,confident, stronger, making 6 figures, having leisure to enjoy family and Friends, I feel happier and living my life for myself. This is to encourage someone "you can start anytime to have a reset it's worth it! I'm striving to continue growing cus its s journey

[@labeebasonia3781]

Congratulations jenna thanks for encouraging others with your story, I will love to get tips from you too

[@monicapep2474]

@@labeebasonia3781 Change your mindset, read self-help books ,expand knowledge, budget and don't spend on impulse, save,take your finances seriously, eat healthy, exercise your body, meditate; the list goes on.... I hope it is useful to you

[@kajetanmike4816]

@@monicapep2474 how did you grow to 6 figure?I'm honestly trying to work on my personal finance this year

[@johnramos830]

Congratulations to you monica, keep it going👍

[@monicapep2474]

@@kajetanmike4816 I learnt to be frugal,minimal on spending, saving and paying myself first through investing, made plans,growing passive income ,Read a lot of books on finance and followed my plan consistently

[@WalkinChristum]

For me: 1. reading 2.Meditation 3.Working on stuff that I love 4.Working out If I'm doing all of those things I'm at my 100% capabilities, if not something is off

[@mainulhussain5968]

How much time u do meditation

[@IzzaldinSamir]

@@mainulhussain5968 I recommend 20 minutes a day at least if you can't then 10 the point is to be consistent and once you get good increase the time.

[@legokid918]

Top stuff for me 1. Journal 2. Read 3. Exercise 6 days a week 4. Get out of comfort zone 5. Personal development videos, podcasts and books

[@natashaivanchenko7017]

Awesome list

[@jamesmeustache7740]

6 days a week, damn i'm already proud to do 3 times a week :p

[@lupemoya9841]

Thanks

[@IvaikinInsights]

Great list!

[@ellona3645]

Journal is a must!

[@CharlesWalker-jb1yl]

I wasn't financial free until my 40’s and I’m still in my 40’s, bought my third house already, earn on a monthly through passive income, and got 4 out of 5 goals, just hope it encourages someone's that it doesn’t matter if you don’t have any of them right now, you can start TODAY regardless your age INVEST and change your future! Investing in the financial market is a grand choice I made.

[@Dukaamoses]

wanted to trade, but I got discouraged with the market price fluctuations

[@Dukaamoses]

Can you recommend a guide for me?

[@Karagoldberg7]

The best thing I can do now is to invest in bitcoin, which has many better advantages over other cryptocurrencies. Although I haven't fully understood it yet, but l've been able to earn 500$ everyday since I started trading with CHRISSY BARYMOER , which I couldn't imagine before

[@LeeWalton6]

Search him by His name "Chrissy Barymoer”

[@LeeWalton6]

“ On F acebook “

Screw glasses. Get a big ass bottle. I get 5-6 litres down without knowing it.

[@DarbyDraws]

There are about 4 litters in a gallon, and your stomach can only hold about a gallon of water before you start throwing up, and if you keep going your stomach will burst

@@DarbyDraws ever heard of a toilet?

[@DarbyDraws]

@ yeah but you make it sound like you down a gallon in a short amount of time, you can get Hyponatremia from over-hydration because your salt level will be too low, all that water dilutes your sodium level

@@DarbyDraws Alright, but not if consuming a bottle of 1.5 litres 4 times split out through the day

[@DarbyDraws]

@ it's still not the smartest thing to do, you can drink way less water and still be perfectly healthy

[@galacticlavalamp6338]

Mistakes I’ve made in trying to improve: Trying to fix everything I don’t like about myself Giving up every time I stop doing stuff for a couple of days Beating myself up whenever I don’t meet the standards I’ve set Not loving myself enough as I am and thinking I need to improve to be good enough

[@angurishudesu]

Shit that's so me lol

[@AKIForLeni18]

You just freaking described me

[@ciro4063]

That last sentence bothers me. So you'll just throw hands in the air and say, oh I'm done growing. No you need to be honest with yourself and give yourself constructive criticism if you ever want to improve

[@andresbriones8054]

@@ciro4063 You have to learn how to love yourself even if want to improve. Because if you don't, this will never happen or will never last long because there is always something to improve.

[@ciro4063]

@@andresbriones8054 Take it from a guy who has truly got over their past. You get over your issues then you accept certain truths. That's it. There is no more improving aside from being more understanding of others because there are 7billion people in the world to understand, but aside that, no there really isn't much to "improve" yourself to be at peace. You can try to love yourself before you care for others but growing happened much better when I wanted to grow to help others. So my end goal was once I had enough knowledge that I would help them. See, loving yourself to be is selfish. Selfishness will only take you so far. You grow to ultimately help others because there is no way a *human* would be at peace after moving on from past trauma and not wanting to help others. It's that selflessness that helps you grow, to be more understanding of others and yourself

[@thehealership8956]

3 necessary skills for personal development: 1. GROWTH mindset - get away from the "fixed mindset" where you are afraid of getting out of your comfort zone. 2. STAY CALM - learn how to de-stress yourself and de-escalate a tense situation 3. RESILIENCE - learn to bounce right back: learn from your mistake and try again.

[@ninjalizzim428]

Who else got a glass of water after watching this?😅

[@artzhyunjin]

me..

[@yankwong2348]

Dinking instant powdered chocolate water

[@strawberrymilk2303]

More like while

[@GalaxxVA]

I’ve already been drinking a gallon of water everyday for almost a month now! 😁

[@richcampbell6808]

I threw up

[@osse1n]

*My top 6 principles:* *Good night sleep* *Eating mostly plant based diet* *Doing physical exercises* *Pursuing passion* *Learning something* *Living a mindful life*

[@MiekaFastingWeightLoss]

Smart list 👌

[@SNinjaQK]

You should eat a completely plant-based diet

[@osse1n]

@@SNinjaQK I already do

[@NaomiBuskila]

Recognize that it's a process, ups and downs. Break down the big goals to minor ones. Great practical and easily skipped over advice. Thanks!!

[@privateequityguy]

4 things to quit for all people: 1. Caring about what others think 2. Not believing in yourself 3. Not prioritizing your health 4. Wasting your precious time Bonus: If you ever bite your nails, consider stopping nail-biting as it affects all areas of your life: from relationships -> career/business/income...And it affects it A LOT! (Trust me, I've been there, and done that. Now after 15 years I was able to stop for good!) Teaching how I did it on my KZbin channel.

[@jersonatilo9190]

"Eat whole food." "Okay, a cow per person! A Cow per Person!"

[@moonchild5794]

LMAO😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@daltons6411]

This caught me off guard.

[@gionagrace3343]

LMAO

[@adnanalam2006]

My ones: 1. Meditation and gratitude 2. Read 3. Exercise 4. Cold Shower 5. Healthy consumptions 6. Quality sleep

[@petsstory-89]

Good

[@vermundsterkvilhaug5690]

I am in a really negative and dark phase of my live right now, i will start with this tomorrow, I really belive this could work! Thank you!

[@mallikarjun9060]

Did you come out of the phase??

[@shrroomshadyy4187]

💙

[@korinarodriguez7670]

i hope everything is going better 💜

[@vermundsterkvilhaug5690]

@@mallikarjun9060 yes :)

[@hinini3987]

I hope you will, i believe in you.

[@LifesGuideToExcellence]

I've noticed drinking water consistently throughout the day helps me stay energised. This has been a real game changer.

[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

We owe it to ourselves to improve who we are every single day 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@WilliamJonesChess]

1. Drink more water. Or, eat a lot of grapes. I suggest red, green, vitoria grapes. 2. Eat Whole Foods. Fruits = grapes, blackberries, strawberries. Vegetables = Broccoli, Onions. 3. Practise Gratitude. Be grateful for what you have, then you will always have enough. Keep thinking about what you don't have, and you will never have enough. 4. Read a book. Top books I recommend are the subtle art by mark manson, and how to win friends and influence people. 5. Listen to a TED talk. So many topics! 6. Forgive someone. This is good for yourself. You let go of the stress, the anxiety. 7. Join a group of supportive individuals. You are the people you surround yourself with. You are what u pay attention to. 8. Congratulate yourself for your growth. Positive reinforcement lets u keep going. You are getting better every day. Well Done!

[@soniamuhurihafner7216]

HEALING THE BLESSING FEMININ IN I FROM JESUS , WITH MOHAMED AND OSIRIS AMEN

[@AyeZo]

William Jones Chess Show #3 Gratitude 💯💯 Great tips man. I also post Self improvement vids if you’d like to check it out I’d appreciate it

[@rondaguest]

I've been doing the first two things (water + whole foods) for a long time now and my health has never been so great. Lately I'm getting into gratitude too, it makes me feel good so it must be good. Great video, thanks!

[@DailyStoic]

“Think of the life you have lived until now as over and, as a dead man, see what’s left as a bonus and live it according to Nature. Love the hand that fate deals you and play it as your own, for what could be more fitting?” - Marcus Aurelius

[@PracticalInspiration]

Daily gratitude is a game changer. Practicing it at the start of each day sets your state to be a peak performer

[@ciro4063]

That doesn't work. That's just faking it till you make it

[@2ndbatchidmvs746]

Exercise(Daily) Prayers(Daily) Work: Responsible, Discipline, Hard Work, Timelines (Daily) Read(Gain Knowledge/Experience)-All 7 Staffs in a stiff manner Mix with Individuals (Always) Experience Matters

[@ciro4063]

None of that wil give you peace and help you get rid of your issues, TRUE self improvement

[@ther7782]

Yes they will

[@HumansOfVR]

*If you trying to change your life, then work harder on yourself everyday then you do on your job*

[@FlamingBasketballClub]

Life Progress - Health, Wealth, & Happiness what's your channel about?

[@ArturoCabello]

Start with self reflection! Best way to move forward!

[@NenaLavonne]

Arturo Cabello yes!

[@ciro4063]

Yep I agree💯

[@MindNow]

*I think you forgot one principle bro which is getting enough sleep :) but nice one* Winny out... _for now_ 😉

[@titlespree]

Being mindful is also a great habit, probably life changing! And it also helps with productivity. Meditating is a great way to start developing this skill... 💪

[@DesmondTweneboah-x5w]

Sure ☺️

[@Leviticus-ks1dj]

"Self-improvement is masturbation. Now self-destruction is the answer"-Tyler Durden

[@DepressionTalks1]

Thanks for sharing these principles with us!

[@uzisanchez6982]

No way I just clicked on a KZbin to be told to drink like a dog fuqoutta here

[@positiveandhealthy2728]

The one thing that has changed my life is having a daily schedule. I have a mental illness, so it's nice to have a routine to go by.

[@yayoonthetable]

this nigga reading books for a youtube video i subbed what an absolute fucking god staying on his grind he really be doing the shit hes talking about

[@Anudarlingkk]

Thanks for this video .. I am going to improve myself from today onwards..

[@MichelReacts]

Nice video! keep up the good work.!!

[@AlexKashie]

9. Exercising 🏃‍♂️

[@shagyy7449]

1. Go KZbin searchbar 2. Type Linkin Park- Breaking the habit 3. Listen to it, motivate urself and change ur life!!!

[@Ashlyn_Wither07]

The only person I have to forgive is myself and my mother because I've been such a disappointment but it's ok we have a some communications and that's not bad at least

[@TheInfoRevealer1]

Good thinking ... 👍👍

[@kye15yt86]

What book do you recommend for psychology? Because i have a temper problem. Sorry for my wrong grammar.

[@lionblackifications]

1.- Not drinking too much 2.- Regular exercise at the gym, three days a week 3.- Getting on better with your associate employee contemporaries 4.- Eating well, no more microwave dinners and saturated fats 5.- A patient, better driver 6.- A safer car, baby smiling in back seat 7.- Sleeping well, no bad dreams

[@SHDANK]

Some people look at the glass half full And some people look at the glass half empty

[@MAGICALFORTRESS]

This video was super interesting! I’ve been practicing a 7-second brain trick that’s backed by NASA research, and it’s really effective. I mentioned it on my profile if anyone’s curious.

[@clarissaramirez9965]

4.Pick a book Are wattpad books okay to learn new stuff?

[@crypticcoding9680]

If you pick self help genre, then Yes it does help.

[@erinescobar9167]

See I knew this was bullshit when he said “drink eight glasses of water”

[@samfdsd2134]

i usually "listen" to your videos while brushing my teeth!

[@johnfemaledeer9477]

Personality psychology is my favorite branch. It has become part of my relationship strategy to predict a girl's result on a quiz and why I think so. It allows me to not only know them so much better, but also it shows them that they have flaws that make them who they are. I show them how acceptable those are to me. I would love to see this become a team building activity.

[@agentorangecb1]

On the developmental side, I've got to be honest and say that that voice is a bit frenetic and jarring for my own taste. The whole recording sounds rushed to me, which doesn't seem conducive with digestion, reflection, absorption or self-development! On the plus side, i really respect the content. IMO the advice is really simple, pragmatic, digestible and applicable. Well done for spreading something positive and all the best

[@betterself5935]

Here are some great tips - kzbin.info/www/bejne/rZmpZn5vhdCJeZI

[@arianaryals2275]

All I drink is water just because I like it. ♥️ I'm not that great at eating good though. 😁 I also could be better at having an " attitude of gratitude". I don't read too often from books but I do homeschooling. I would like to expand my vocabulary words though, and have a better understanding of what I read. For me watching someone do good inspired me to do good. ❤️ When it comes to forgiving someone, I honestly don't even know where I stand. I don't have friends. 😅

[@thatssovert]

Guys, I started making self-improvement videos.. Wish I could get some tips on how they could be better.. Feel free to check them if you feel like it!

[@living.next.development]

This is great advice! How do y'all stay consistent with these habits during tough times?"

[@tahirisaid2693]

I am retiring next yr at 55 with 3 houses paid off worth 4.5 million . One is my place of residence the other 2 properties will give me $80,000per/yr rent . I will have an income stream of $20,000 per yr through my super which gives me total $100,000 a yr to live comfortably . I have no debts ... Stay Motivated!!!!!!

[@CandyLemon36]

The narrative of this content is a guiding star. A book with akin material provided direction in my life. "Rising From Within: Unlocking Your Innate Power to Conquer Adversity" by Vincent Starling

[@brimccrory1326]

Dude this video is pointless. Just saying. I came here to learn something LIKE A TED TALK not to be told to watch one. Do better and become better. For yourself :)

[@isahjoshua5132]

Thank you for this self improvement video, I was watching the KZbin channel Explore your dream life and this video was recommended to me I just liked and subscribed to your channel

[@samfdsd2134]

great!! you had gone through the subtitles !! i find no mistakes this time!

[@Stoicisim_EFD]

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Your recommendations for self-development are clear, practical and incredibly motivating

[@elektra121]

I think that point 6 is inherently wrong. Forgiving something (and I think we don't talk about minor or day-to-day issues that may be a bit annoying) is very likely the greatest thing ever. Maybe this is lost in translation? In my language it is literally "to make someone free from all guilt/fault/wrongdoing". If someone really has make me a victim, hurt me, traumatized me... whatever - I not only don't benefit from saying: "well, everything is okay now"... I literally am not able to speak this person free of guilt. The harm is done and "forgiving" would be lieing about it not being harm or not the other person's fault or not of any importance. And all of that is not the case. Wrongdoings don't become right just because time has passed or the victims were able to go on with their lives and come to terms. The fact that someone chose to abuse their power remains. To tell a victim to simply forgive a terrible action is not only belittling them in taking the only power they have (the power to not forgive) over the wrongdoer from them, it also doesn't allow or make it harder for the wrongdoer to change their ways and better them. Because why would they be? Their wrongdoing is forgiven, is'nt it? So they are free to go on - and the victim is'nt even allowed to have that small power. Really understanding that you don't have to forgive, that it can be incredibly healing and wholesome to not forgive- is extremely empowering. Feeling pressed to 'forgive' is not beneficial at all, it is toxic. Forgiving can be a totally good thing - if the time is right and you yourself really feel it. It is the greatest and most noble thing ever! (Not a 'small gesture'.) But it is not something you can choose to do (because,it will come but itself or it will not) nor anything that anyone can decide for you.