WOMEN'S greatest ENEMY: overcoming pride

[@psychacks]

The one thing that most prevents women from having the relationships they want with the men they want to have them with is pride. In this episode, I discuss three ways in which this pride tends to manifest in the game of mating and dating: in misappraising their value, in disparaging male attraction, and in deprecating the domestic. For women, humility is the pathway to more satisfying relationships with men. Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jaO7c62HZ613e7M Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: kzbin.info/door/SduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #women #relationship

[@croissants1280]

Bro, you're becoming black pilled. Sure, women have problems but modern men are feminised and weak. How about some balance? You need to get urself a chick and get laid more often, Orion.

[@cosmictreason2242]

I find your language at the end very interesting since 1) I'm an INTJ and it's how i talk 2) the Bible doesn't shy away from "use" language, eg in Romans 1 it calls gayness "abandoning the natural use of the woman," and whereas sex is clearly the face value meaning, i think it goes beyond that. Everybody is either used, abused, or refused. All that "use" means is someone does something to you or requires you to do something for them that is a benefit for them. That's it. That covers such things as giving surprise gifts all the way to slavery. When it's abuse is when something is done that is exploitative (harms or gives no commensurate benefit to the person being used). That's why radfems react to masculine and feminine relationships as abusive because they've equated all use with abuse, probably because of the sincere realization that the same exact action can be use and abuse, but failing to realize that it's the context that determines it and not what the action itself is.

[@michaeljeffery7466]

Imo women's second greatest enemy is vanity. They're never aware of their own flaws or accepting of criticism because they can't see it & nobody ever tells them so they assume nothing's wrong. Vanity & *Ego* .

[@cosmictreason2242]

@@michaeljeffery7466as defined, that's actually pride. Vanity is "meaninglessness," So when the third commandment says "thou shalt not take the Lord's name in vain," it actually means it's a sin to treat God as if he doesn't matter, and that means the scope of the command is WAY broader than people realize. When Nancy Pelosi pretends to be catholic, she's violating this command (even despite the fact that the RCC is apostate). Anyway, hope this was useful. It can never hurt for us to try to be more precise with language. Now there's a word "vainglory," which basically means glorifying yourself vainly (treating yourself as if something good is true of you when it is not), and that fits what you were saying i think. So you can call them vainglorious or puffed up or self important. Pride is thinking more highly of yourself than you ought. There's therefore always a sense in which vanity, the original definition, is attached to pride, but the emphasis is still pride. Someone could be very seemingly humble but still vain, and a great example of this might be Dave Rubin

[@gregorylatta8159]

You are simply killing it, Doc!!! 😆

[@danspencer4235]

I have a strong suspicion that the people who NEED to hear this will not listen... due to Pride.

[@Sir_Viver]

@lkcheat is a perfect example here in the comments.

[@tonybernard4444]

Yep, women are at least as capable as men of braving the elements to build a home and put food on the table, and after spending their prime years proving that fact, Prince Charming will treat her like the fresh young virgin she can't remember being, and give her the golden parachute she deserves. Any notion of submitting to and serving some hairy Neanderthal is dismissed as misogynistic patriarchal oppression.

[@madjunir]

Prideful women match well with a handful of Cats

[@enl8ghtenmenttv476]

​@@madjunirand bottles of wine...usually cheap :D

[@danspencer4235]

@@enl8ghtenmenttv476 Or boxwine...

[@gogo-bi9qh]

They constantly tell each other how strong & awesome they are. Every failed relationship is the man's fault.

[@mbg9650]

"I'm strong & independent..." from men!

[@AdoMedium-nm1je]

You just described my mom! I keep asking myself everyday how she landed my dad! This video is timely!

[@RodrigoTechador]

⁠@@Zxcvbueisn444Women brag about and praise each other for having the traits and accomplishments they themselves are seeking in men. You see all the time on social media and dating profiles. It never occurs to them that men couldn’t care less about any of these (very masculine) traits - because men in general _aren’t attracted to men,_ even very cute little men with boobs.

[@sammyb1651]

@@Zxcvbueisn444 🤣🤣🤣That is BEYOND tragic! (Not you...the bit about her emailing you a load of solicited "endorsements" from people who've never experienced the realities of dating her).

[@masterTigress96]

I wouldn't worry about that too much. Women have 2 types of friendships/relationships. They can (rarely) have real friends, who, just like your friends, call you out on your BS when you say something stupid, but don't hate you. Then there is what you just described. Those are female support groups. The purpose of those groups is not to make each other better, but to make each other FEEL better. And there is a stark difference between the two. Sometimes the truth hurts, but the truth will set you free. Free from living a lie that is. Most women dabble with one or more female support groups without realizing it. I have seen very few situations where women have actual, real friends that don't try and compete with them, or put them down. The female support group engages not only in emotional support activities, but also to keep women down. For example, if you ever notice it in real life (you will after reading this), women cheer the loudest and the hardest for the obese and ugly women calling themselves empowered. The reason they do this, is to keep those women down, preventing them from becoming competition. If those cheering women were to keep it real, and give those fat and ugly women the truth, they could become more pretty and amazing then themselves and take mr. Handsome away from them. The reason women engage in this behavior is [1] women have evolved to manipulate (not men!), and [2] they compete with other women. There are two ways you can compete: one is by being better then your competition by being smarter, more attractive, more attentive to mens needs and desires... And then there is option two, lowering everybody else around you, making you look like the better deal. And the latter is the reason women clap and cheer the loudest for the fat and ugly/stupid chicks. That is why you observe the behavior you described (and also emotional support, because feelings are more important then facts for them). Don't feel sorry for women, feel sorry for yourself putting up with this nonsense and improve yourself so that you don't have to deal with them and get better. Also, happy new year and take care.

[@sunfireThu]

As someone in academia, I have seen first-hand how destructive women's pride has been. It is a rarity to find a happily-married female academic. Most of them are either divorced, single-mums, or single with the feminist chip on their shoulders or all of the above.

[@MitsurugiR]

Just the consequences of industrialization. Any woman that focuses that much on her career is bound to end up in the same place all of them end up in.

[@capmidnite]

​@@MitsurugiR 99.9% of human history was in a pre-industrial agricultural state and now we have the modern world. Many societies such as Japan and South Korea have entered a post-industrial phase where the birthrate is so low the population isn't sustainable. American society is headed in that direction except that mass uncontrolled immigration disguises this demographic decline.

[@Doberman_6773]

@@capmidnite "mass uncontrolled immigration" - there is a ⏲💣hidden within this 'solution' - and when the timer runs out...

[@keylanoslokj1806]

​@@MitsurugiRbasically they should never have gotten voting rights

[@gregorylatta8159]

Shocker!!!

[@themick6586]

I was red pilled in 1977, before red pill was a thing, my first wife ruined our relationship for a one night stand, (he got her pregnant and didn't want anything to do with her) . I realized that I didn't want to fall into that trap again, and changed the way I looked at women. After dating multiple women for a year, I met one that had no trouble admitting that I was the prize and I vetted her for 2 years . To make sure I understood her motives. Now married over 44 years, and it's been a smooth ride. My ex is 65 years old and alone after her 3rd husband divorced her. I like to think it's KARMA !

[@sammyb1651]

That, Sir, is a win!

[@mbg9650]

"Vengeance is a meal best served cold."

[@syedtayyab5142]

How much did you have to pay your first wife after divorce?

[@bolt-dbtfg]

he got her pregnant? more accurate to say she got herself pregnant. she chose to have sex, she chose to not be on HBC, she chose to not insist he wore a condom,

[@thegorn]

Good work brother

[@punammajhi6892]

I'm a woman who considers herself fairly intelligent, and I confirm that what he said in this video is true. He echoed what my mum always says, and though it's hard to remember sometimes, I think every woman eventually lets go of her ego when she realizes she is with someone she can't afford to lose. Well, maybe it's not true for everyone, but in my case, love always wins over pride.

[@CarsonBoyd]

It's nice to know you're out there.

[@redpilllense7125]

Was married fifteen years to a very difficult and prideful woman. Not once did I ever receive an apology for any of the problems she caused. No accountability. Thank God she's no longer my problem.

[@croissants1280]

it takes 2 to tango.

[@MrRockus]

​@croissants1280 Alot of men are now just waking up to the societal conditioning they are being put through. Social media is starting to level the playing field.

[@croissants1280]

No. Social media + feminism is making things worse. If a man is not in the top 10% or cannot find a woman in a church he's f*cked. @@MrRockus

[@redpilllense7125]

@@croissants1280 🤡

[@nickelsworth7097]

It's never the women's fault.

[@JLMcFarlin]

The problem of pride invades committed relationships, so men do not be confused it isn’t just the pre-marital sexual marketplace. You can be pulling down four times the median income, enable a stay at home mother lifestyle, have a successful career, and STILL expect that your wife will one, be repulsed by your sexual interest, seeing it as childish and petty, two, feel abused if you are not doing half the housework and childcare in addition to paying for everything, and three, feel like she is superior to you for her deigning to descend to being married to you. I would love to share this content with my wife but I would have to be fully prepared for the consequences if I did. Why? Pride.

[@harveypolanski755]

Sorry you got married before taking the red pill. I’ve been there with a woman that tried to trap me; who I was objectively better than on every SMV/DMV metric. Men can afford to get married or have children in the west anymore. The consequences are to grave. If you want marriage or children you have to earn it. By getting a remote job and moving to a country where the government leaves consenting adults alone when it comes to their romantic and reproductive choices.

[@mbg9650]

"Frame is everything." ― Rollo Tomassi Iron Rule #1

[@sonofthesOUth77]

Spot on

[@elduderino1635]

Get a divorce! It was a major mistake to get married, in the first place. If you still have hope, to save your "marriage", you might consider to read "Passionate Marriage: Sex, Love & Intimacy in emotionally committed relationships" from David Schnarch. If this does not help you, get a divorce. Good luck to you. Being single, I am lonely as fuck, myself. But at least I don't have to share the bedroom with a woman who does not care for me, anymore.

[@warrens1757]

Do you do half the grass cutting and oil changing?@@EC-yl7xk

[@josephoduor2358]

Dr Orion should replace most of the female dating coaches who are afraid to tell women these cold hard truths.

[@Anonymous-yh4ol]

I would love to watch an 8 hours podcast with Dr. Orion Taraban and Dr. Sadia Khan share & debate.

[@jackdeniston59]

No money in telling women truth

[@keylanoslokj1806]

Wow, He even literally admitted the biggest blackpill women have to face 😂. That without their vajay-jay, men wouldn't waste a millisecond even turning their heads to women's direction... .😊

[@edheldude]

​@@jackdeniston59And ain't that the truth. Which also tells me there could be a market-based solution.

[@keylanoslokj1806]

@TheIgnorance yeah if you are a millionaire you got more temptations

[@supremereader7614]

"You're either a decoration or you're useful." Brilliant. Thank O'Ryan.

[@fuzzy3440]

"Expecting the relationship you want is just going to fall into your lap, is as arrogant as expecting your dream job is just going to materialize into your life". Truer words have never been spoken. Unless you're a Nepo kid.

[@jejunamja]

I sent one of your videos to friend who happens to be a girl and she had a full on meltdown. She is a intelligent person but her pride got it the way of the truth ,

[@fotografiasromero]

What she say? lol

[@brownsnob]

Same happened to me. She got pissed and called Doc a misogynist.😂

[@FranG1214]

Which video? lol

[@elchucapablas]

What video did you send her?

[@elduderino1635]

If they are relatively intelligent, they are almost always pridefull.

[@PKent]

When dating women that demonstrate excessive pride, theres never a 2nd date. Aint nobody got time for that.

[@mbg9650]

Feminine humility is view as anathema for modern women.

[@agentm83]

yup, gotta watch for red flags early.

[@detroitvcw]

Hell, not even a 1st date. When a women is prideful it bleeds all through her persona...more specifically, in the way she talks, adjectives she use for her social media titles, the way she dresses, etc...Generally men are repulsed by prideful behavior in women... its a automatic turn-off!

[@melenico4512]

It essentially comes out quickly in their attitude.

[@sole__doubt]

Im 45 and I would love to know where the ones that don't "demonstrate excessive pride" are. Is it a secret island or something? Ive spent time on 3 different continents and women are basically the same no matter where they live.

[@dekev7503]

Any time a woman says she wants men to be attracted to her because of her mind/ambition etc, she really means that she wants men to channel the same undeserved attention/validation that she gets for her body/looks towards her mind/achievements. Unfortunately, unlike beauty, where all you need to do is exist and men would flock, when it comes to recognition of one’s competence, you quite literally have to earn your accolades .

[@manifest2203]

Believe it or not, a lot of women achieve a lot in work. That is one of the reasons that many m3n are crying everyday about independent women.

[@Straga_Severa_]

@@manifest2203Believe it or not, a lot of men do not care about these achievements. We care about them if we are recruiting a worker, not when we are looking for wife.

[@DrSkrungle]

@@manifest2203 HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[@Chop_69]

​@@manifest2203they achieve alot of shit that makes them less conducive to a successful relationship

[@josealexi5141]

@dekev is correct. @manifest: tell me you're a clown living in a delusional world without using any of those words. GREAT JOB!!

[@mattnelson9987]

I was dropped by a woman who was 40 and desperately wanted children. As she told me off, her stated reasons were that she believed she had 'plenty of time' to have children and that she loathed the idea of cooking for me. I never even requested in any form or fashion a cook. God save us all.

[@BlueFish-kq9fh]

Just be thankful that she revealed her toxic nature to you *before* marrying you.

[@shmariona]

@@BlueFish-kq9fh Praise the lord that she revealed her toxicity early enough.

[@hidum5779]

@@BlueFish-kq9fh Yeah man. It may have hurt temporarily but he actually got saved.

[@BjtheLawyer_]

Crazy part is that if she is alone she still has to cook for herself.

[@stephenkrus]

Mother-nature... really does not give a fuck about our beliefs... especially women's beliefs! She's literally deleting herself from existence with batshit insane wonky beliefs.

[@fusion310]

In my humble opinion, 'the prize' is the happy and cordial relationship that two have built.

[@paulbuckle8459]

Exactly but unfortunately. .. 😮😢😊

[@bobcharles7933]

I have never understood this idea that women think they are the prize (or any men as well). You are not the prize, the prize is being in a successful relationship.

[@0000FFz]

Spoken like a low value man.

[@VoiceOvaGuy]

@@brow1920 I know I can't be the only one that thinks I'd rather be alone than with a woman that will leave me at the slightest sign of waves on the waters surface. If she thinks of you as a job, and things in your life start to get tougher, a few things go wrong, she's just going to leave. You're not wrong in your psychological understanding, but it's also part of why women don't deserve their own freedom. That's NOT how a relationship works, never has been, never will be. The world was better off when women's fathers chose their husband, as women are incapable of doing it themselves on a functioning metric. Relationships don't survive, and aren't meaningful if they're based solely on "what can I get out of you". That's closer to sociopathy / psychopathy.

[@Damesanglante]

Prime example of capitalism alienation.

[@Tgogators]

That is why people often get defensive over things, it's a blow to their pride. A lot of personality conflicts can be avoided if it wasn't for pride. Approaching a mindset & (not or) humility can be beneficial.

[@SPACEDOUT19]

People take themselves too seriously

[@cedarbay3994]

“People.” He’s not talking about people.

[@Tgogators]

I know, but his theory applies to everyone overall.That's my point.@@cedarbay3994

[@jamescheaye927]

@@cedarbay3994lmao, correct. In particular he’s talking about women but of course, we as people do take ourselves seriously at times and should know when to concede weak positions to gain a better position

[@Originalman144]

It’s not pride, it’s a level up from that. Many women today are self-worshippers. They worship themselves. That’s why you see their profile filled with selfies and nothing about the beautiful world around them. They think they are more special than nature around them.

[@glevando]

This is good stuff! I like how he points out that women have no trouble taking orders/requests from a male boss but it's oppression if the man she supposedly loves dares to ask for a favor or act of kindness. Oh no, that's slavery and oppression. The nonsense. Today's women are lost.

[@allenlin7333]

and you know what's even more ironic? women would even tell you that they prefer a male boss over a female one

[@glevando]

@@allenlin7333 EXCELLENT point!! I have had countless females tell me that very thing. They know women and how women are constantly trying to make each other look bad or are stabbing them in the back. Women led organizations are total clusterf*cks.

[@keylanoslokj1806]

​@@allenlin7333a perverse form of hypergamy. Plus they know how bitchy other women with power can be

[@jamescheaye927]

@@allenlin7333 oh the humanity😂🤦🏿‍♂️

[@AUSTIN-ss2zd]

Never ask, request then you aren't a simp

[@tomclancy8281]

FEMINISM is simply another word for PRIDE and you described it perfectly in this video. This is the root of what destroyed both of my marriages.

[@croissants1280]

Maybe you contributed to your marriage failures. Easy to blame others.

[@jordansjul]

@@croissants1280right? There’s a lot of men on here with pride issues, too!

[@OUigot]

FEMINISM is more than Pride, it's down right ARROGANCE

[@terraflow__bryanburdo4547]

​@@jordansjul🤣😭😆

[@tomclancy8281]

Sorry, I left no stone unturned to make both marriages a success. As I learned much too late, they were both BIPOLAR NARCISSISTS. And I fulfilled my responsibility to both by raising all 6 sons from both marriages and not abandoning them to be destroyed in a single mother household.@@croissants1280

[@noname-7992]

As a happily married woman, those advices are extremely true. Make yourself useful because that’s how you build each other in relationship.

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

Relationships require sacrifice. If one of the parties thinks they are above sacrifice and only wants the benefits, either that party will never get into a relationship because they are delusional, or any relationship they get into will be short term as they will end up highly dissatisfied. Relationships are not for everyone.

[@mumenraider]

Righty said .. The my ex was exactly like that.. She expected or should I say entitled for the favors for her . And when she had to do even basic things in the relationship suddenly it was oppression for her

[@22448824]

@@mumenraider Same. My ex didn’t even want to care for the children that she wanted least of all do anything for me. The children are boys and are now old enough to see right through her. Not because I influenced them. I did my best to paint her in a good light as I wanted them to be involved with her.

[@jojochara6352]

Finally a comment with sense.

[@asdfdc1946]

my mother brainwashed me into thinking men had bigger egos when I was a kid. that is FAR from the case. women being showered with compliments & attention from the opposite sex from birth swells most women's ego's to a much bigger size than the average man. the average man doesn't think he's better than anyone. almost every average woman nowadays thinks she's a 10 & she assumes she's better than you upon meeting you until you show her other wise with money, status, fame, etc.

[@Willie_Wahzoo]

This. Imagine being coddled from birth and told your a princess and yet still being dvmb enough to consider yourself "oppressed."

[@asdfdc1946]

@@Willie_Wahzoo ikr

[@22448824]

And if they happen to get a well paid job they really think that they are something special. Even worse , they want everyone else to know it.

[@BC-wj8fx]

Terrible when parents push their gender agenda on children. Like trying to brainwash boys that girl's feelings are infinitely more important, and everything affects them more. Meanwhile male suicide rates...

[@jasona5806]

I see women at the age of 50 think they deserve everything

[@why-mope]

is that what they mean by 50 is the new 20?

[@mbg9650]

She'll realise she's invisible to the kind of man she want.

[@yerushalom87]

😂

[@aknightofcamelot]

@@mbg9650 You'd like to think that

[@Spaceman_7]

Can’t imagine the countless creampies from different men throughout the years 🤮

[@christianlorenz843]

Man, you nailed it with this one. This is a "must listen" for western women.

[@keylanoslokj1806]

Their solipsism and pride would never, accept and internalise this message

[@22448824]

@@keylanoslokj1806 Yep. That describes my ex perfectly. I gave up subtly pointing out her failings. Just fell on deaf ears.

[@steveg2277]

Sent it straight to my woman haha. She’s gonna learn.

[@andyconcepcion5883]

Ive been listening for a while, I enjoy listening to your logical reasoning. This is my first donation on youtube😁.

[@Tim23522]

I love this guy ! He hits the nail on the head. Every time I listen to him, he provides insightful explanation what happened in my past relationships. And what I need to do on any future relationship, if I get one. Don't have now and really not looking too hard. Also, loved him on Whatever! I the ones I watched, I think he was the best. Had me listening to the end. Usually cut it short. those women are little too much for a extended time, most of the time. Thanks Doc, appreciate your work.

[@londonbowcat1]

Pride is very cold company; it will not keep you warm at night ...[yet] your pride tells you that you are the prize

[@YourManifoldWorld]

My girlfriend and I when we started out was amazing but we both had an ego. When conflict occurs neither of us backed down. We would stop talking for a bit. In the end, over time we discussed what we were doing, why we say or react the way we do etc. Eventually, we discovered we wanted to be with each other and we dropped the ego. We now lower our egos when there is any disagreement. She is asian and she understands what is needed for a successful relationship. Western women, they don't understand something as simple as this. They got social media and movies to keep their underachieving but over inflated ego extremely high.

[@nanayawberko3212]

This recent series has been some of the most cathartic stuff I've seen on KZbin Thanks Orion I now know in detail what's been wrong with all my previous relationships with women

[@croissants1280]

Maybe your value is too low. It's easy to always blame others

[@nanayawberko3212]

@@croissants1280 boi relax let me have this one

[@imaginativename]

@@croissants1280 Weird take. Understanding what's been wrong is not the same as blaming others. Orion encourages self improvement and provides context as to why, sounds like nanay is benefiting from that.

[@peekaboots01]

I'll bet you're choosing feminists and/or women with zero to no moral values.

[@davnoble8472]

@@croissants1280right. If all your relationships went wrong he’s equally at fault

[@qui3795]

As a woman, I have to say thank you! Definitely not denying that pride is our greatest enemy. Most women think men podcast are to tear women down but if you just actually listen you will find many useful tips.

[@PhilipX2030]

This lesson is definitely for TikTok & Instagram generation girls getting older. Thanks Orion for speaking truth to reSet a culture that's slipping off into ludicrous vanity.. replace with sanity. Be respectful and useful, not just decorative

[@tonystegmann6128]

Danke!

[@RoronoaEmi]

I met my husband in college at a swing dance club. We were 18 and 19 years old. We both immediately went through the marriage checklist. We pursued one another, inviting each other to lunches after class or group activities. We’re almost 13 years together with two young sons. I look at my girlfriends in their 30s and think…yikes. You’re past your sell by date by a decade. Girls, don’t waste your time, your looks, or your best reproductive years. You can get an education, have a career, AND be a wife. The only thing I’d say is once kids come along, you put your career on hold and focus on them as much as you and your husband can afford financially. I’m very fortunate that we can afford for me to be a stay at home mom. That means my job is caring for kids and household. And that means doing everything I can to put in equal effort at my job as my husband puts into his. The worst thing we can push into our marriages is resentment. Strive always to be his equal (not his superior or his responsibility) and he will treat you like an equal.

[@CarsonBoyd]

Beautifully put.

[@ophelia-l3t]

You are lucky he doesn’t cheat on you. As he becomes high achiever. More women will throw at successful men.

[@nezra3514]

Women like you are VERY RARE these days. or they throw stupid fcking comment like this Ophelia chick above me.

[@michaelbradburn7892]

Spoken so well I’m thinking that a man wrote this comment.

[@Z8terfix]

@@michaelbradburn7892 gosh you guys! You can’t grant the woman anything can you even her own text you have to say a man wrote it get over yourselves act humbly

[@chrispon7004]

Pride? Your body? Being useful, obedient, and an employee and not decorative? My my, the good Dr is coming out swinging with his cumulative findings. And he's in San Francisco too. Happy New Year, and here's to changing dating in 2024!

[@dirtycompass3957]

This 1000x - we all thought this...but never has this been put into words so eloquently. Nailed it.

[@BodyByBenSLC]

This guy is hitting nail on the head. My ex-wife a top heavy red head, men broke their necks when she walked in the room, I did. We got married and I stupidly though she would stop get attention from other men, boy was I wrong. I would tell her these guys are not your friends, they want to hit it. She would say "they are all not like you." "they really listen to me.". We divorced and those guys got their turn and never called her again. She is 42 bitter alcoholic now, I told her after divorce she should get sober a find a guy to have kids with but nope there was always some dope around the corner to help her. Well her looks are going and she has very few if any options.

[@jasontandy3357]

Karma

[@allseeingotto2912]

It’s sad how they do this to themselves, but I suppose they are just children.

[@VoiceOvaGuy]

@@allseeingotto2912 Internally, yes. There's not much different goes on in the mind of most western women, and an average 9-12 year old child. It's one of the biggest turn offs in my opinion.

[@allseeingotto2912]

@@VoiceOvaGuy Absolutely, I dream to meet a women who is attractive, mentally stable , loyal and can hold a deep topical conversation.

[@keylanoslokj1806]

​@@allseeingotto2912a unicorn basically

[@vink1547]

Hes absolutely right, if it wasn’t for $3x, I honestly wouldn’t need them in my life.

[@harveypolanski755]

This is why women and politicians fight so hard against legalized and lightly regulated prostitution. They’re afraid if men can pay for fast easy sex with a beautiful pleasant woman we’ll stop being their workhorses. Why bother breaking our backs to pay for the fancy car, nice house, expensive dates, and tailored suits?! None of that would make sense when you could sleep with a 10/10 woman that treats us nicely for what we get paid for one hour (or less) of labor.

[@jackdeniston59]

Dont you miss the depths of their souls....... sarcasm doesn't convey in comments

[@allseeingotto2912]

I’ve never met a women with any depth.

[@keylanoslokj1806]

​@@allseeingotto2912they are not designed for depth. They are baby breeding and raising machines

[@jaytee5820]

When I got my desire for sex under control, women lost their power. Unexpectedly, they lost nearly all of their value as well, especially when I considered all of the issues they bring with them.

[@richien8472]

Sadly the only women this message would resonate with are the women who don't really need this message, the women who are past their prime and therefore the message is not very useful to them because it is already too late to apply the lessons. 9 out of 10 times, the young women who could utilize this message won't heed it. It won't register. They will remain hard hearted and hard headed till it is late for them. Women are cursed with rebellion and pride even when it is to their detriment.

[@luluxxx3994]

Late for what?

[@0000FFz]

@@luluxxx3994a man of high value, marriage, family etc

[@allenlin7333]

you have to admit though, when literally all women suffer from this curse, they collectively are cured from it. When ALL women are dillusional, some beta males will eventually submit, hence why we still see women getting married in their 30s or 40s.....LOL

[@keylanoslokj1806]

​@@luluxxx3994for successful family formation

[@touchtone101]

Your right. The best way to learn something is the hardway. Thats just how we as humans operate.

[@David-uk7sm]

This clip is GOLD! .Covers Everything Every women needs to hear but no normal man can ever have time and/or patience to explain to them.

[@kamilszczęsny-m9d]

now do men

[@Damesanglante]

He did. You deflect because your ego can't take criticism like a toddler.

[@joekarnitis3962]

Thanks!

[@user-uc7qb1su4e]

Orion, please make a video on how to psychologically overcome the fact that any given woman you’re potentially seeing has access to such a bizarre amount of options. I struggle with it and I’ve seen that a lot of other men do too. Seeing her inbox full with dozens of men validating her or 30 missed calls from men on her phone is highly disconcerting.

[@hdhellion4128]

I'll 2nd this. Women have WAY more options. I just had a discussion with my gf about this. She thinks I have women constantly in my dms/inbox trying to flirt with me. That's happened in my 42.5 years of my life, maybe 5 times. She calls me naive. I told her I'm flattered that she thinks that. I've never had that luck. Facts: not the greatest looking, tallest, or muscular guy. So I have some tough cards dealt. She on the other hand can post a picture of her feet and they'll be 10 guys that are ready to pay to suck her toes...

[@mbg9650]

Abundance mindset is a big thing, e.g. men who are crushing hit are dating like a hot chick in her early 20's!

[@AM-ko4pi]

You don’t date her exclusively. If/when she asks for exclusivity, you tell her she has to block every guy from this group of orbiters. You never bring up exclusivity. That’s her job. She needs to chase the relationship or it’ll never work. She needs to enter your frame.

[@user-uc7qb1su4e]

@@mbg9650thing is I already know that I have options but every single woman these days is like that, just makes it feel less special I guess

[@user-uc7qb1su4e]

⁠@@AM-ko4pithanks man

[@willemvanriet7160]

Wow thanks! You are keeping the content coming over the holidays

[@NeverSarcasticMan]

This guy is fantastic…wish he was my therapist

[@Willie_Wahzoo]

The guy that works at Pizza Hut could tell you this stuff. It's common sense. Our society is just so far down the drain that it sounds novel.

[@keithqueen352]

​@Willie_Wahzoo true story. It's amazing how people are willing to pay for low hanging fruit. That said, I think these types of conversations are fruitless. Most men know the reality of their situations and have adjusted accordingly. Women, on the other hand, well, you already know...

[@hungwahcheung]

Thanks

[@effinjeffin1811]

Female pride has killed 8 of my relationships with women this year. It's taken me watching Orion's videos for me to get a clue and stop blaming myself. I don't think that the ones who need to hear this will listen (women). But men like me will listen and learn. Thanks Orion! And happy new year 🎉

[@Captain-Palsy]

Amen and I at one point wanted a family of my òwn since I live in a small town that's pretty much unless you met them in HS. Good luck, and the law, don't me started.

[@TheRoadrunz]

C’mon you’re blaming all 8 women !

[@cosmictreason2242]

You must be hot cause wow you had 8 chances

[@cliffthecoolcat]

I ask nothing of a woman accept companionship and sex. All of them have failed because the minimum ante for a relationship with me is friendship. They have treated me in ways far below a friendship. They say things that I would never say to a friend.

[@TheRoadrunz]

@@cliffthecoolcat well then change the standards upon which you choose them … give trust only as much as it was earned… but also make sure you communicate your boundaries and expectations clearly

[@timothyrday1390]

Lol, my ex's pride and ego were off the charts. It left my head spinning. Humility is truly like gold.

[@philaman1972]

Brilliant. The frustration in the good doctor's voice is palpable. The difference between now and then is that social media, ability to stand solo financially, feminism, and pop culture have drilled into women's minds that *they* are the prize and they won't budge; as long as a woman retains her beauty, this stance will not deviate because a woman will *never, ever* swallow her pride in pursuit of what she wants (even if she *knows* deep down inside that she'll likely never find it). Of course this egomaniacal game ends when a woman hits the proverbial "wall". And that's how this game works, ladies and gentlemen. I don't see a ring on the good doctor's finger so I guess he is also single like me (52m never married) and developed the topic of this episode as a way to "backhand" women for their egomaniacal nature. LOL. Well done, doc!

[@_bigwilliestyle_]

Dr Orion nails it. He says something along the lines of “most women price themselves out of the sexual market place”. Couldnt have been better said. Thanks for the stellar content!

[@EugenethePhilostopher]

I remember your older videos and I like that now you are much more assertive and intense. It may not be the best way to deliver the message, because people may get defensive (women especially), but it's certainly much more fun to watch.

[@Z8terfix]

assertive and intense? Are you kidding me? The guys is positively shouting down at women! who wants to listen to such a preachy condescending, angry tone when they can just read a book! change your delivery method Orion.. You may get more female audience. lol

[@Heaven-717]

This really triggered me at first, not gonna lie... so much programming coming undone.... Basically, it all comes down to WANTING to do things that make life sweeter and easier for the ones you love, because they do that for you. 🙏😘

[@Guildofarcanelore]

There are people I could send this to, but they might NOT like it..!

[@georgerodriguez2987]

Time doesn’t guarantee anything time is not guaranteed

[@nordrlond]

My favorite psychology channel on youtube. All the best from Russia. Thank you.

[@orlandos8323]

Sharp content, Dr. Taraban and as a former actor, brilliantly conveyed. A treat 🎉

[@howiesfunware]

I'd add a forth item to the list which is "don't disrespect your man" especially in public.

[@cosmictreason2242]

That's like the one command given in Ephesians 5. Repeated twice for emphasis.

[@boulderbodymind]

Hi Orion. I am still and always so impressed with your bold work. I have to say as a 41-year-old single mother, who lives in Chicago that I’m really surprised about the women that you describe hating domesticity. It also sounds a lot like these women Don’t enjoy the process of labor at all… I was once a stay at home mother who outsourced all of the domestic responsibilities, and I am now divorced (apparently I was lazy - true then- and not hot enough) Anyway, thank you so much for your wonderful content. I am just saddened to hear these women seem … placid.

[@MegaSkijumper]

Orion this was your best ever! You were in a zone. Loved it.

[@ian_ford]

Women over 30 need to accept this: you NEED to *align your standards to present day reality, and not past expectations.* So many women are like Lot's wife in the Bible, looking back at what they used to have access to and still having a longing for it. It cost Lot's wife her life. And it willl cost a lot of modern women their chances of finding true, realistic relationships.

[@steveos5112]

The truth is they still will not listen to wisdom or logic. Females are only loyal to their feelings.

[@gmghh457htr87]

Excellent! So true and no bull, straight to the point! You bring logic back into our life, thank you!

[@KXXNG5]

This guy’s perspectives are wild and wise. Bravo I’m impressed

[@TheirIAre]

You're a legend, Orion. ❤. Keep up the good work and beautiful honesty. These western women are the most entitled and airbrushed disasters.

[@PoombaJaggaYo]

My man dropping bars!! This one is gonna hit hard on sum folks. Starting the year strong. Lez go 🥂🔥

[@meronogbe7155]

Hey man, are you a wizard or something?!! I hate how you always make sense and break down the thought process of men/women dating choices. Much respect ✊🏿 and I gotta start paying you man. You are a gem 💎

[@cosmictreason2242]

Pay him for a session then

[@damiansokratis6928]

I'm so happy I made productive decisions about my finances that changed my life forever,hoping to retire next year... Investment should always be on any creative man's heart for success in life..Thanks to Fergus waylen

[@dorathystephanie7702]

YES!!! That's exactly his name (Fergus Waylen) so many people have recommended highly about him and am just starting with him from Brisbane Australia

[@Ricgibs]

Wow. I'm a bit perplexed seeing him been mentioned here also Didn't know he has been good to so many people too this is wonderful, i'm in my fifth trade with him and it has been super.

[@findingpath8362]

Same my friend, No doubt many people from around the world also trade with him!!!

[@charles2395]

My brother and I also joined his strategy and we made massive gains at the moment while under training. I am forever grateful to Mr Fergus Waylen

[@adamdouglas9888]

Though I started with as low as $15,000 actually because it was my first time and it was successful, he's is a great personality in the state

[@cedriccloud8445]

Thanks!

[@swayp5715]

Your hardest hitting yet doctor and well done. Just the prescription we need. But are they smart enough to even hear or understand ? Probably not. Their pride will prevent it!

[@flynnkinkade2612]

Orion for President, 2024

[@RLDrums7]

Wow. Best video yet. Brutal truth

[@DerrickABrooks]

Love all your videos. Right on!

[@healingypsy]

I’m a woman, an independent one who has met a an amazing man. I am so grateful to have come across this. Yes I can see how pride has come in the way in the past. I now know better. I am so grateful for the advice of being useful, meeting his ❤ needs and being respectful. It really works, with a good man. I wish I understood these things before but I’m glad it has come now at the right time for the right man.

[@Alexxx492]

Thanks to Dr. O for yet another enlightening video! I've diligently applied Dr. O's three principles on getting any man, following them to the letter. My new boyfriend confessed his love recently, and it's the quickest he's ever fallen for someone. He's shared his feelings with friends and family, and now we're planning our future together. Dr. O's advice truly works when executed precisely.

[@joshduncan6100]

Standing by to see the dozens of reaction videos to this...........Protect this man at all costs.

[@RodrigoTechador]

Good job pointing out that throughout history, humans have been primarily homosocial. Our ancestors would find it extremely peculiar, if not downright deviant, how much time men are expected to spend interacting with women in general and their women in particular these days. They would regard it as a sign of male weakness and poor moral fiber. And you’re absolutely right about women historically doing the pursuing. That’s why women were actively taught how to flirt and sent to finishing schools to learn the fine art of being graceful. Even in movies from the ‘80s like _Footloose,_ which was inspired by events from early 1980, you see girls going to great lengths to lock down men, who are dragged kicking and screaming into relationships, and they’re using their sexual allure as bait. In regard to your final point, not only do decorations do nothing, but they get put in storage when the season changes - or thrown out with shifts in fashion and taste.

[@TheCantoneseInvestor]

Isn’t it intriguing how that’s nearly completely gone now and young women see the notion of it being the 'men's job' to get them whilst they they themselves shouldn’t have to do anything to make things happen as 'just how it’s always been and always should be'.

[@zvcno]

@@TheCantoneseInvestor they still do that, but they do it not for all these men that they seem are below them they do it for the guys they actually wanna have

[@christianlorenz843]

Western women are next to impossible at this point. Too much trouble.

[@mbg9650]

Broken beyond repair.

[@SD-mi2vc]

​@@mbg9650even the warranty cant cover it

[@ShunguRocks]

It’s not just western women, African women have been infected by the same mentality.

[@rejectwokeness1314]

You mean modern women worldwide

[@ShunguRocks]

@@rejectwokeness1314 Thank you. People think it’s just western women but forget social media is world wide and its reach is just as far and wide. Modern Women Worldwide

[@benclark3457]

Last few uploads have been gold. This one was a long time coming. Great time to put it out too. Thanks.

[@Mike-xq7ib]

I'm glad we have Dr. T to say what needs saying, in the way it needs to be said, on a platform that affords him, perhaps, the attention of the many viewers who most need to see this. I'm 46 now, but since my 20's, I have seen the problem for what it is, clear as day. Pride is a good way to put it. It's true. Women need to focus on what works, for men, and make themselves indispensable and/or most valuable in those realms. That will truly be a turning point for humanity, back to better days, I think.

[@russ9921]

@@EC-yl7xkFacts often hurt. He’s saying what many modern women need to hear.

[@Jun-zq3bn]

i dont usually comment on videos, but i find dr orion's videos to be very valuable especially as a young man in his early 20s. it all seems like advice i should have learnt growing up but never had the environment or awareness to. i hope you keep up the good work, you have a bigger positive impact than you know

[@cosmictreason2242]

Search for Dear Dawson and get even more good teaching

[@mbg9650]

RPA will never go mainstream, let alone be taught in school.

[@Jun-zq3bn]

@@mbg9650 rpa = red pill awareness?

[@giuliomattioli2886]

Cheers from Italy, thanks for your videos.

[@sa.sa3917]

Dr. Taraban brings those inconvenient truths that are hard to swallow. I'm glad I found this content. It was certainly a watershed moment. I told a friend about this channel with the intention of helping her and she was very angry with me. There are still women who deny reality. At the very least, it is very enriching to hear the perspective from the male point of view.

[@BlueFish-kq9fh]

Most western women deny reality.

[@ZonaStudio]

Thanks!

[@dwightbrown]

I probably have 5-6 male friends who would warch this andd truly understand what is being said. Maybe 1 woman. And that's out of 450 FB friends. Funny how little cold truths are spoken in society.

[@Doberman_6773]

People prefer comforting lies and virtue-signaling.

[@Anonymous-yh4ol]

And even so so so much much less of those truths are understood.

[@dgphi]

Mothers ought to be telling their daughters this stuff.

[@Alexxx492]

I have listened to exactly what Dr.O has said in past video aimed at women and they work!!! ❤

[@fkhairalla]

This episode is a master piece.

[@Claus1234]

One of your best!!!

[@X-7-JAMES]

Orion, you have certainly found your niche audience. Love seeing the channel grow. Thanks for all the insights and wisdom.

[@mymusicmymoney]

That was A+ data and delivery Dr. !!!

[@ArcaneAltair]

Humility is key

[@FlowerlyF.]

THIS!!

[@wayneharmon1580]

Absolutely brilliant video!

[@ka9202]

This is my issue of when they say "All men do this or do that (insert complaint here)..." they've only met the men who have had the nuts to walk up to them and ask them out! They haven't met the guys who are just more preoccupied with what they've going on or more self-entertained to ask them out. I'm not saying the girl should be the one to ask the guy out just get better at sending choosing signals and indicating interest.

[@keylanoslokj1806]

Women's judgements, positive or negative, usually hold no merit. Either they happen on the spot, or in retrospect, they all have their own biases and fragility.

[@cosmictreason2242]

Indeed. Given me no reason to approach, so you only get the impression of what guys who don't have a reason for chaging you act life k

[@konvicteddestruction6183]

So insightful series of videos... Pls keep making such videos

[@karelp5358]

Many of the people most offended by this type of observation DO NOT realize that what Orion Taraban does is describe reality. You are not inventing any new theory, simply observing the world around you and describing it in statistical terms.

[@TylerAnderson-xl6hb]

They don't live in reality man. It's easier for them to live in delusion, because it makes them feel validated in their decision making. Most women don't like self evaluation or accountability.

[@brandonbiehl9855]

There is nothing so dangerous to the delusional as the truth, so an undeniable description of reality becomes most people's greatest fear.

[@emancebo13]

Thank you Taraban. I would make dinner, clean the bathroom or do the laundry any day for my girlfriend or wife, given we work as a team, but it seems men have to do everything in this day and age even before starting a relationship. Add to that we don't socialize like we did 20 years ago, so not only do I have to work on my social skills, but compensate for the lack of thereof on the few women I pursue nowadays. And that's only Millenial women I'm talking about...

[@erickmurillo6925]

Totally, all of us have to deal with lack of something we are not perfect, could be lack of social skills, money o atractiveness, that is the problem of delusion of women these days

[@countslawfirm]

Brilliance.

[@srinavin]

Happy new year Orion, Have a great year

[@semperoccultus1969]

I had to stop my wife of 23 years from doing my laundry because she was so incompetent with it. But my current girlfriend just started doing my laundry unprompted because i mumbled to myself one day that I gotta do laundry, among other chores that weekend. Suddenly, she’s folding my shirts later that day and has done it automatically for me ever since. Even when I’m about to go get the basket and start on my own laundry… she’s like, “it’s already done”. Lol. I lucked out with her. In between her and my ex wife, I had a millennial girlfriend in New Zealand who did my laundry when I visited her there…. as soon as I was off the plane, she was already organizing my socks lol. My point is that if a woman loves you, she wants to serve you. If she doesn’t love you, she either won’t do it, or mess it up on purpose.

[@csmith9699]

Sounds like she's OCD:) There can be bonuses with that My husband had this thing about cooking and his meals are delicious! We share other chores

[@semperoccultus1969]

@@csmith9699 I have the same “thing” about cooking. So i cook dinner for her every single night religiously. Yes, on the OCD or type A personality thing lol.

[@SPACEDOUT19]

Narcissism, vanity, pride, delusion, talking too much, wanting attention all the time... only a few "enemies", should i go on?

[@erikreuterskiold5996]

They all sit around in a circle with Ego in the middle.

[@TylerAnderson-xl6hb]

Lack of accountability, duty, morality etc.. lol

[@keylanoslokj1806]

That's why the only model that works is benevolent patriarchy. Men leading the morals and frame of society

[@csmith9699]

So relieved men don't do those things 😂

[@SPACEDOUT19]

@@csmith9699 we do dont worry, just not as much

[@mcjake5100]

Setting your pride aside will help you immensly in all situations in life and take away the resistence to good and also self sabotage. When your surrender things will start moving and you'll live a more joyful and fruitful life than ever before. I'm an 18 year old girl and these videos really help me gain control over my life. I've never been in a relaitionship, mostly due to pride, now i recognize my luck is accually in my own hands. Thank you dr. Taraban!

[@Mecharocca]

Another banger. It is...beyond tiring that they do not get this. I talk to one friend and she is pride-ridden. It's a real shame. Hopefully sitting her down Clockwork Orange style to watch this will work. Great vid!

[@theron8315]

PsychHacks is on a tear right now. This is an instant classic. It’s sad that a life full of pride for these women has them miserable dying alone and bitter. So sad… my family is full of them.

[@cd4playa1245]

I love these types of videos that aren’t demonizing or putting women down but rather telling them the exact truths that they need to hear. If women fail at finding love then that means that us men fail at finding love too. I would love it if all the beautiful women actually starting finding husbands so then those guys would be taken off the market and stop having casual sex with the girls in my league. People need to stay in their lanes.

[@cheekymonkeygirl3378]

We are deaf to these bullshits! It is entirely patriarchy!

[@k.b.3683]

That’s an interesting take from a man that is not often discussed

[@Tigre77777]

Tell 'em Orion! 🔥