Emotional Awareness and Jealousy

[@rideandseek10]

My boyfriend has insomnia. While I'm listening to your podcasts, he said your voices are so relaxing. Then few minutes later, he is already asleep, phone still on his hand 😂💙

[@kmonkey8874]

Fellow insomniac here, i have also fallen asleep to this podcast a few times!!

[@krystlemac6855]

Right off the bat, dense with wisdom. I can tell I’ll need to listen to this again to absorb it all. Ty, ty. 🙏🏼

[@jojobobocake]

Suddenly very uncomfortable with the knowledge that we kiss because it's a reminiscent of suckling 👀

[@evahomolova7940]

that took quite a turn from "i dont do anything about that" into a perfect example of a mini-therapy session, great job both of you. Kirk for holding the space and Bob for being open, vulnerable and very insightful. An if at all possible, just give her the chance to take care of you, I imagine she would do it gladly (heck, I am almost half your age, half around the globe and know you only through a couple of podcast episodes, but wanted to "reassure the crap out of you" :D ), you deserve it, you really really really do :)

[@esmondkim1357]

Lol at the GI Joe discussion. Knowing is half the battle. Going to therapy is the other half.

[@MoonWomanStudios]

I can distinctly remember when I was 22 and realized I didn't know what emotions I felt

[@ElevenBird]

I am 41 and STILL learning to listen to my body because my reactions are normally noticably physical first

[@MoonWomanStudios]

I'm 41 now too, still learning as well! I'm now trying to accept that some of my health problems are due to trauma. It doesn't seem fair that being abused as a child has predisposed me to a number of diagnoses.

[@lorraineweinstein1597]

Bob, you ARE the best! Latman doesn't stand a chance.

[@DrLC.]

I love Bob n Kirk videos!!

[@ElevenBird]

I grew to like Humberto a lot (also I'm new here) I was listening to an episode where Dr Kirk literally called him a narcissist and they briefly discussed it rationally... Like What?!? Lol

[@thebushempress]

What a beautiful friendship

[@cosmicfoxglove1047]

If a therapist said to me at the end of the session "Would you like to make an appointment or would you like to think about it?", I would go home crying.

[@dedu98]

why

[@cosmicfoxglove1047]

@@dedu98 I would read between the lines and think that "would you like to think about it?" is a subtle way for the therapist to convey he wants me to say "no thank you" and decline, but is trying to be nice about it.

[@rodlineclervil927]

I never know what emotion I feel. I always have to ask myself what emotion I should be feeling according to the situation and act that way. But it's never genuine. Actually the only emotion I recognize is anger 😂😂😂. Even more so, when looking at those drawing of different emotions, I can never really identify them. But the funny thing is I'm usually very affected by the emotions of people around me. I will often feel "disturbed" without knowing why, until the person express their emotions. I'm weird.

[@megapiglatin2574]

I am curious: do you find that you cannot identify the emotion(s) at all, or that you are conflicted in your emotions? I ask because your description is very similar to my partner's description of himself, although instead of "disturbed" he usually describes it as "anxious". He usually explains the feeling as having too many conflicting emotions: like in a conflict he might have his feelings but also begin to empathize to the point of "feeling" the other person's emotions as well which causes him to become unsure of what he truly feels, or he might feel one way and then think about another aspect and feel a completely different way and then so on and so forth. My emotions also GREATLY affect him, which can make him more attuned to how I am feeling but is also emotionally exhausting for me as the partner because it puts all of the pressure of how "we" feel on me.

[@rodlineclervil927]

@@megapiglatin2574in my case I would I say that I can't really pin point my emotions it. At least on the spot. I guess anxious is a better way to describe how I feel. Cuz I feel overwhelmed by the other person's feeling, and I don't necessarily know what to do with it or how to react. But I know it's expected of me to do something so... I think I "perform" emotions alot because in those situations, I tend to ask myself how I should react and just act like that. But it's not "natural". And also, sometimes the other person's feeling or reaction can be so much that I would revert to being angry cus it's the only feeling that's natural to me. But often time I would just "perform" cuz I nobody likes angry people 😂😂😂. I also tend to empathize alot with people and choose to see their point of view instead of mine. and will validate theirs over mine... but I stopped doing that now. I will stick to my point till the end. But majority of the time I'm just not attuned own feelings cuz of the way I grew up. As I child I didn't have a voice to alot of the things that happened to me and I remember clearly that sentence: why are you crying? Let me give you something to cry about 😂😂😂😂 Lawd!

[@rodlineclervil927]

@@megapiglatin2574 I don't know about you boyfriend, but what works with me is to give me time and space when I shut down. I go in my corner and reflect on what happened with the other person and inside of me. Usually after that period of reflection I can express what I felt and what made me feel that way. And if he's sensitive, rest assure that if he takes time to open up to you, it's cuz he cares about you. Otherwise he won't open at all. Well if he's like me ☺️

[@vanessaambriz8525]

Thank you for this helpful and insightful podcast! (: I’m so glad that I discovered this gem!

[@haleigh8406]

Wow. This upload came at a very relevant time for me.

[@LilPotatoz]

Bob: ‘what’s a top bun?’ ‘He’s sweaty but ...handsome.’ This was a great podcast with incredibly soulful and serious content, but those two moments were also magical and made me giggle

[@searranolan1010]

The second email happened to me! First, the front desk told me they would have someone in touch with me and it never happened so I had to call and ask about it (made me uncomfortable) then the EMDR therapist cancelled the first session! BUT I gave her a second chance even though I felt really betrayed and she has been absolutely amazing for me!!

[@cameron389]

Love your videos!

[@fornever42]

If we need to have secure/safe/healthy relationships to be safe, secure and healthy what if we don't have anyone like that in our life... I can't afford a therapist.

[@uncertaintysign443]

Latman. The hero Bob's wife deserves. Bob. The hero she needs.

[@MB-lw7uo]

Noooo, he's the hero who's great but also doesn't even stand a chance against Bob! 😁

[@Isinita]

Oh Bob ❣️❣️❣️

[@Indigo00eyez]

I’m sorry but the description of Colleen’s virtual other man, resting HR of 12 😂😂

[@melissavillicana1169]

🥺🥺🥺 so wholesome

[@Mel-oe3dw]

Bobbert!!!

[@dedu98]

47:30

[@dedu98]

39:00 this

[@meaganpucksuzy]

Screw Latman! Bob's the best!

[@karenc9786]

Love