Autism and Marriage (&ADHD)

[@Lady_Tism]

My wife and I love watching videos like this - where one person is neurodivergent and the other isn't...just like us! It has MASSIVELY helped our communication and honestly it's just so damn nice to see another couple that we can relate to. It's like a breath of fresh air. Thank you for the videos. 💜

[@electron2601]

It blows me away how articulative you are. There's never any pauses, no "ums", and you just say things right off the cuff and everything always sounds perfect and crystal clear. For me, it usually takes a lot of work and several takes in order to sound that way.

[@Jas-zzz]

😉True she is. Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses but you can always improve with practice.

[@marisa5359]

Yes, indeed. I just found this channel and noticed this too. I wish I was more articulate in speech myself. I have to generally write out my thoughts, especially when I have something important to communicate.

[@mnelson9057]

Agree 💯, they’re both so articulate and no fluff-straight to the heart of the matter.

[@lezbhonest6592]

Thank you so much! I’m currently in couples therapy as an autistic person because of communication issues. It’s great to hear an honest conversation about it outside of freakin I statements which feels impossible due to not identifying feelings well.

[@ellie_5276]

I love the videos with you and Mr Purple. You compliment eachother so well and are so respectful and compassionate towards eachother. Breath of fresh air!

[@nanimalgirlEssie]

Yes, very useful video! Thank you! Any chance you could do a video on emotional dysregulation and parenting while disregulated? It can be hard to role model the right behaviour for your kids. Especially without medication. Thanks for all your videos!!! Thanks to Mr. P as well for sharing.

[@elijah6151]

Yes, I would like to see more videos like this. I found this and the previous one very insightful. Thank you for all your content, I have been following you for several years now and your videos have been an important part of my journey to self discovery.

[@stephknee1707]

I’m so happy I found your channel. I have ADHD and autism and feel so alone sometimes. your videos help soo much

[@brainwithani5693]

Your videos are hilarious btw

[@stephknee1707]

@@brainwithani5693 thank you so much that means a lot 😆

[@Shecravesrevenge]

This is exactly what I’ve been searching for, an autistic WIFE this time and openly explaining both of your experiences. Thank you so much for this

[@Name-sv5qh]

Thanks for talking about adult Neurodivergent people❤️

[@zenlife1200]

Lol my poor husband finds my quick subject changes mid conversation hard to keep up with. My brain just remembers something else I meant to tell him and off I go in that direction and then I quickly pivot back to the original topic. Hubby thinks it's cos I'm a Gemini, his boss is a Gemini and she does the exact same thing to him at work 😂 My kids are diagnosed autistic, with OCD and anxiety disorders and I self diagnosed as autistic at 51 after they were diagnosed. My daughter's psychiatrist suggested it came from me but I don't see the point of getting diagnosed at my age. I never really knew what autism was and so thought that what my kids were going through was just normal because that's what happened to me growing up 🤷‍♀ No one has ever brought up ADHD to us but as I find out more about it I do wonder if I have traits in that direction that my kids don't have.

[@lululovescatsverymuch]

Thank you so much for your sincerity, openness and vulnerability! Sharing your experiences makes me feel less lonesome in this world

[@laurabolham5764]

Please keep sharing, this is super helpful. Thankyou so much!!

[@sandralantau7395]

Thank you, Mr Purple, for continuing to do these types of videos with Ella!

[@cazridley5822]

This is so helpful thank you both, communication issues nearly destroyed my marriage and I am still very scared about what the impact of a positive diagnosis will be when my assessment is finally done. I have an AQ of 48 so I’m fairly certain it will be positive and I really struggle with emotional disregulation which I mostly internalise , I have no middle ground and it’s really hard holding that in all the time so I don’t affect my husband or those around me, so it’s good seeing that there are husbands out there who understand and are supportive

[@jimwilliams3816]

The last part about having some fun, not just doing the hard stuff, I really needed to hear. Figuring out my mental health issues has been my obsessive special interest for a while now, plus I can talk anyone (including myself) into exhaustion. Anhedonia has been making going out and having fun hard. (COVID hasn't helped either.) I get Mr. Purple not knowing what he'll wake up too or where it'll go, I wish I knew that about myself on any given day. "I'm really irritable this morning, and I don't know why" -- yep! Dysregulation is a big fat pain.

[@DenGirl12]

I love the two of you together. I have an official ADHD diagnosis but I suspect I might be autistic as well. I sent this to my husband and said, “It’s almost like watching ourselves with an accent”. I can relate to this so much and I think my husband will as well. You both have the same temperaments as us and my husband is so similar to Mr. Purple. I have no idea where to go from here but I think this almost assures me that I have autism. (Of course, after doing a LOT of research.) I was also been diagnosed with bipolar 20 years ago. I refused that diagnosis. I’ll be 44 on December 12th and now see that just because I had a SA didn’t mean I was automatically bipolar. Anyway, thank you to both of you. Mr. Purple, I hope you make more appearances. Thank you, Ella!

[@whitneymason406]

Both videos were great, thank you both!

[@PedroCarlosAlves1]

Amazing videos! Talking lightly about serious adult stuff for the benefice of others! You're lovely! I love guys! Thanks!

[@bunnioa]

This was so helpful!!! In many ways I feel like Mr. Purple, and I feel like watching this video will help me in my primary relationship!

[@WilliamFontaineJr]

Supreme, sometimes the traits you describe in your relationship are the same but in opposite people in mine. Your descriptions help validate and confirm the worth of concerted effort by both. I learn and discover new and proven help every time I watch your work. Mr. Purple is a joy and an inspiration as are you. Thank you again for the confirming validating education videos.

[@jordinja]

Thank you, can't tell you how many pieces of the jigsaw fell into place whilst watching this video and the previous one 🙏 Clinical Partners recommended your channel, our family is finding your videos very helpful

[@ebihearts]

This was so great for my husband and I! The sarcasm stuff, meltdowns, thunderstorms, which I’ve also turned to my hubby and said “it’s hard for me too” - and the adhd talking about everything and how he wants to fix it and then realizes he needs to listen and help me sift or just be there. Wow! I showed my husband this video and he nodded and it has been so very helpful. Thank you so much Mrs & Mr Purple!!💜

[@TheINFP_Diary]

Could you cover a topic of advice for people like your husband but at a younger age? Like how they can be more consistent with communicating while still going out and having fun with friends? (I'm 20 and my partner is 22) We both are very mature in some areas and not so much in others. Advice on balancing and recognizing when the maturity level is decreasing during a sensitive situation will be immensely appreciated!

[@ab-jx7qx]

Dear Purple Ella and Mr. Purple, Thank you again for a lovely discussion! Ever so helpful! Thank you!

[@Roseberry711]

It's like looking In a mirror. I've been with my boyfriend, now fiancé, for 6 years. My diagnosis came 3 weeks ago, we have a lot to learn together as a couple, thank-you for sharing your story 💚

[@stevie_M]

I’ve just found your channel and been so inspired by you and Mr Purple,so well done guys ❤

[@Jaseyrae213]

I so apppreciate you breaking down these topics. Both of you. Thank you for putting these videos out ❤️

[@sauronwasright]

Thank you so much for both parts of this video series. Its really difficult to find information coming from first hand experience of Autistic/ADHD folks and romantic relationships. This is exceptionally helpful.

[@Roseberry711]

Thanks Ella! And of course Mr Purple! These videos are super duper helpful 💚 I've been watching your videos for the last 3 years and they're incredibly informative and useful. We've got this 🥰

[@christinahall9258]

Mr. Purple kinda looks like David Byrne!

[@blondy89]

Psycho Killer!

[@taylor.made_home]

Thank you so much for creating these 2 videos. It’s been so helpful and encouraging for me as someone who has just been diagnosed with ADHD and Autism at the age of 27.. It’s great to hear how together, you have found your own way of starting to process all of these difficult moments! 👏🏽 ❤

[@svs987]

Thank you so much for your honesty and openness. You are both very inspiring

[@marisa5359]

Thank you so much for these great insights. I so appreciate how you both relate and provide a supportive, welcoming atmosphere. Hoping to sit and listen to these again with my husband when I can find him in a receptive mood.

[@freakofnurture40]

You guys are adorable, thank you!! Deeper and deeper joy and blessings to you ❤️

[@linam.9675]

yes! more please ! .. and of course a big thank you. the net needs more of this .

[@Yoet-d5e]

This video is just what i was looking for. thank you very much!

[@chickosoup]

you guys are so amazing for making this series!!!

[@abnermazariegos2919]

This video that I found was also useful to me.Thanks for the advice.👍

[@AlexLouiseWest]

Thank you, this is useful and inspiring.

[@Prudenthermit]

Thank you

[@MesoCarib]

Thanks!

[@jordanbarrett4790]

Purple Ella is beautiful

[@artisticafflair408]

Mr purple seems very patient, just like my fiancé. X ☺️

[@hfenring]

That was excellent. Also, I need that Totoro cat-bus t-shirt. Where can I get one? Also, I've been listening to some chill-step recently and I found this wonderful song that was inspired by Totoro: kzbin.info/www/bejne/f4mTioV4npZgmJI

[@theresapizza]

Catbus shirt rules!

[@theosmum1]

What about PDA….

[@jordanbarrett4790]

Soo where are the real woman that I would be able to be with.

[@daisyjanelycan]

This whole conversation is so familiar. Life is such a whirlwind lol thrive within the chaos, amirite?! 🫶✨😹😻🥰