Purpose, Moving Forward and Male Mental Health ft.

[@_mayankr]

"If something scares you but isn't dangerous, you have to do it" Insane quote. Thanks Charlie.

[@catsrule8844]

Fuck roller coasters, though!

[@franky6458]

Always do what you are afraid to do. Ralph Waldo Emerson

[@mercyveritas1125]

Timeline?

[@filip4767]

It's also empty as hell, not to mention dorky.

[@mailleweaver]

I really enjoyed this. It was somehow both inspiring and calming at the same time. And you both seemed very genuine. So many people on social media give me the feeling that they are just trying to say what they think is viewed as correct without really believing it and sharing it as a part of themselves. This conversation was a genuinely open flow of ideas in both directions.

[@Furiac.]

Charlie is very smart and self aware so the conversation was great

[@spikygreen]

45:59 - "To a certain degree, we are responsible for our partner's feelings and it's our job to help make them feel better. But it can quickly cross into toxicity if you become solely responsible for their feelings." Love Dr. K's perspective on codependency. So many other KZbinrs proclaim that you should never, ever be even the tiniest bit responsible for your partner's feelings, or else all hell will break loose.

[@Danishmastery]

It’s always good to be empathetic

[@salgadev]

Almost felt like I just came out of therapy after watching this. Amazing conversation. I commend Charlie on opening up like this. Just a couple legends talking.

[@Damesanglante]

@@JoeMama-gi1so That's not the goal. The goal is to sell courses and all these are sales pitch.

[@wildfire9280]

@@Damesanglante psychology isn’t real libtards

[@salgadev]

@@Damesanglante guess you didn't watch any of it and are just lashing out?

[@oponomo]

Sem dúvida

[@CapeSkill]

@@salgadev it looks like a conversation of two bots ngl.

[@timothymartin4759]

legendary collab

[@shadowfre4k]

Nuf said

[@mishasnyder9873]

Truly

[@njc9911]

One I never would have dreamed of. Love both of these men.

[@GrayShark09]

Legendary indeed!

[@resir9807]

Finally, Dr K can learn some charisma and how to pick up girls

[@RFingaz69]

The man is literally married

[@resir9807]

@@RFingaz69 my brother, if the comment is stupid enough, it's probably a joke

[@LOLHAXGUN]

@@RFingaz69 so figuratively he isnt?

[@cavemann_]

@@LOLHAXGUN LMAO

[@ashleybriggs1198]

hilarious 😂

[@brexcubo6766]

As an autistic high schooler, charisma on command videos were the best thing i ever found on youtube, and now healthy gamer gg is the thing that's helping me right now. Thank you both of you, despite the struggles my life is way better than what i was expecting it to be and became so well equipped in social interactions that I'm studying to became a therapist too.

[@gunsmokegaloreyt6840]

Wow, keep it up g

[@spiritwolf448]

Huge W

[@Bassynater2500]

Absolute unit

[@benjaminguyer7692]

Similar story but I'm also autistic and charisma on command really helped me back then and Dr K is helping me now as my latest special interest. I'm training to be a teacher instead though. I have a theory that charisma on command must help a lot of autistic people. I like to think of it as the empathy and compassion is there with autistic people, these youtube channels taught me better ways to show it.

[@rayshafi2855]

amazing bro keep it up fr

[@hidden_games7099]

Discussion starts 8:20

[@themissionary58]

Bless you

[@Nisowyd]

Love u bro

[@backpropagated]

Saint

[@snigelhund666]

Hope tou have a great day dude

[@aellefy]

Hope you smile today dude

[@tobypark2045]

He really made Charlie open right up. Dr. K's a real pro. Hats off to Charlie being so vulnerable. He's so much more relatable now than just watching him in his Charisma on Command videos. Guess you just never know what kind of pain people are just walking around with.

[@anthonypillarella]

I mean, no knock on Dr. K but Charlie just starts that open.

[@rorinotengo173]

Yeah I wouldn't put that on Dr. K. All props to to Charlie for opening up on his own.

[@Megaman8880]

It blows my mind how I have learned so much from listening to these two men just sitting and having a casual conversation. Amazing.

[@forcastfascistfuture]

I've been listening to Charlie's podcast for over 3 years and I can't recommend it enough. It's opened me up to so many ideas and ways of thinking and really helped me better understand myself and others. Everyone reading this should go check it out. It was awesome to see Charlie pop up in a Dr K video and see such a raw and vulnerable conversation like this. This is probably my favourite video I've seen from either of them.

[@AlexVinder]

On the topic of women facing those problems: hi 👋🏻 I felt like my life was just described back to me. I've been on a VERY similar journey, be it in my experiences, the family structure or the journey towards a better understanding and healing. This was so incredibly helpful and I felt so seen. Thank you both so much for this talk 💜

[@dobby2270]

@adventuretimedaily9335 bye

[@Bassynater2500]

It’s dope to find these videos and seeing which ones resonate super deeply with others and leave a profound effect. Hope you’re living your best life though 😄

[@nate19]

I don't intend for this to be an insult, so I'm going to start by saying that Charlie is a handsome guy. However, his stare and grin would really make for a great bad guy in the movies. One of those sinister types that is smarter than everyone and uses it to his advantage for nefarious purposes.

[@Zekaisa]

Well, he more or less said that he’s a man who learned to smile.

[@thraciandude]

the lighting makes it that way tbh

[@LeFouLutin]

Was thinking exactly that, there's something uncanny and almost scary about people who express themselves with that sort of confidence. A bit too clean, smart and charismatic for me to perceive genuineness.

[@manueljohn456]

I guess it's a primal psychopath radar going off... Edit: I admire his journey though. Not a psychopath at all, although he might have become one under different circumstances. Feels incredibily honest to me as it is.

[@youtubeuser6725]

Ooh thats an interesting image. Looking at him from that angle, he would remind me of Isabella from the promised neverland

[@greyscale1487]

Please please please can we do more long form interviews, this is what made me fall in love with the channel and its what keeps me coming back. ❤

[@gnatdagnat]

Same

[@horizonleor09]

Same

[@orodrigogama]

I've watched this conversation/interview a few times already and I just noticed, in maybe my 5th watch, how Charlie active listens very well. He reviews and repeats what he just heard, sometimes with his own input. It is something easy to see Dr K doing all the time, but it's my first time noticing the interviewee doing the same! Amazing talk!

[@KxNOxUTA]

This was a very lovely stream and it's so stuffed and rich with really good information. Loved it!

[@writtenbykevin5136]

Thank you Charlie for sharing your experience. I’m going through similar introspection and exploration, though from a different path. What Dr. K said is true, the specific details of your stories have incredible resonance, more than just reading psychological literature. I’m certain I’m not alone in that. Being in a place where you can share this live, recorded, with an audience…ultimate charisma.

[@salgadev]

Truly next level stuff and a dynamic between guys that we should see more often.

[@N1kk3l]

This has to be one of the most intelligent and insightful guests you've had. Nothing but respect for that guy.

[@Azendas]

Wow, it was so surprising seeing this in my feed. Being a follower of both Charlie and Dr. K for a few years, it's the crossover I've always wanted to see! Thank you!

[@coreysmith1176]

this is insane these two goats have helped me be myself more than any other influences in my life

[@narvini727]

¡Don't be yourself, create yourself ! Was Charlie' mantra at his 20's definetly is developmentary healthy , I'll try

[@guillermorelobalopez7553]

Don't try, don't strive. Be who you are, met yourself where you're at, be ok with that :) PD: If where you're at is too attached to trying to let go, then that's ok too.

[@bringerod5141]

I mean a big part of where he is now is accepting yourself, not creating or changing yourself. Sure it can put you in situations that you will discover yourself and that was why it was healthy for him in his 20's. Just make sure you do what feels right for you and don't look for pleasing your ego through external means. Or else you might find yourself somewhere you didn't want to end up (but it is never too late to take a different path).

[@Eminent_wolf]

I've never seen this side of Charlie. this side is so thoroughly deep and authentic and good to hear and experience. i guess this is the effect dr. k has on people

[@diamondgarcia9409]

He has a podcast full of this now. (Dropping in podcast)

[@BarKeegan]

That’s weird…😮 When Doctor K mentioned spinning around and then lying down outside to feel grounded… I used to do that all the time. Used to pretend I was feeling the rotation of the earth while my cerebellum was doing cartwheels

[@TheStarrySky-sb9df]

I’m surprised at how Charlie has become this self-aware

[@ZacharyDangerStewart]

So I legitimately developed charisma as a defense mechanism after high school. Had a super embarrassing and public humiliation in front of friends and family. Vowed never again and literally studied up on emotions, facial cues, the 2009 hit show Lie to Me. I transferred and moved halfway across the country to be someone else. Obvi I developed burnout quickly. Only recently found out I have OCD too. Weird.

[@ZacharyDangerStewart]

@@Dimitris_Half friends yes relationships no. In a much better headspace now though. Handling the OCD seems to help w everything else

[@CaptainTitforce]

​​@@ZacharyDangerStewart Glad to hear that you are figuring things out. good luck!

[@Nairozet]

People have always said that i'm great with words and explaining myself, but after listening to the first 45 minutes, i am in awe. Charlie has expressed himself in such a great way, that i felt like he was telling my story. So many things he experienced and struggled with were mine as well. It's really incredible when i hear people so young and have already achieved so much. Things sound so easy, but to actually work with AND on your issues and struggles is quite demanding.

[@lexmusiclab]

It's inspiring to see two articulate, compassionate men working together and showing each other brotherly love like this

[@kefsound]

Compassionate?! Charlie?!

[@Socsob]

I definitely resonate with the issue of viewing my journey for mindfulness through my the lens of my strive for productivity. Wish that was touched on more

[@bencrystalofficial]

I wish I could get alerts when conversations of this quality come through- thank you so much for making this available ❤

[@mozan33r71]

Years ago. You taught me how to get laid Charisma on command. Most of the tips you used for personality I used to enjoy life. The best dating advice out there.

[@IgonDrakeWarrior]

3:12 the Doctor shows up

[@nina-mill]

Lol I've gotta start referring to him as the Doctor now😂

[@RemotHuman]

The problem (maybe its not actually a problem though) with Ayurveda elemental personality group thingys, is that there are literally hundred of other breakdowns of personality groups that people find convincing or find to be true. For example horoscopes, intj, I even saw a website once that categorized you according to what card you are and they said stuff about your personality and your fate. Also DSM diagnoses. Assuming these systems are contradictory, and only one or a few of them can be right, this is strong evidence that humans just make these things up and they only seem real due to cognitive bias, but they are not actually real from an objective standpoint. So what makes you think you got it right of all groups? (This is the same problem with religion in general). Of course even if this stuff is not "true" it could possibly still be helpful, maybe it could be making use of strong form of the placebo effect to improve your life, but even in that case it would still be helpful. when religious sects claim they know the objective truth and all other religions are wrong, I laugh at them, because come on. But not all religion/spirituality says that. Anyway so idk what I'm saying. But why should I choose to follow ayerveda over all the other systems, including the default western one or what I already have. After all everything is beauty so why would I need to make a change? Maybe I just would at some point when I'm older

[@sobresobre7563]

The way I understood it, Ayurveda is not as strict as to what category you belong. The three doshas are supposed to broadly encompass all types of people, but even though you are primarily let's say Vata (60%), you can also be Pita (30%) and Kapha (10%). There is room for you to have other characteristics that do not match your primary type. In other systems you are just mostly give one answer - you are just a "Capricorn" you cannot be also partially pisces. You are just ISFJ and not also partially INFJ. But that's the advantage of ayurveda to me, it's not as rigid - ayurvedic practioneer should look directly at only your characteristics. The doshas are supposed to be only a tool to suit you, not to make you suit the doshas. that was my experience. At the end of the day, the Dharmic tradition does not ask for faith. If those do not work for you in any substantial way, you don't follow it. It's also very old so I think some parts can be outdated, but the most important lesson I took from it, is to work with yourself not try to mold yourself into something else. Don't try to fit yourself into one fits all model, because you may need a different strategy to succeed that other people. I always felt bad that (primary dosha being Vata) I was doing so many things at once. I though to succeed you need to have that laser focus on only one thing (more like Kapha or ever Pita). I was able to overcome this feeling and I'm happier now not trying to force myself to abandon all my hobbies anymore

[@tisaname8490]

@Trexula Which stream, the recent one with Destiny? I don't remember Dr. K saying Ayurveda was objective.

[@justpassingby953]

​@Sobre Sobre I'm not really here to debate what to believe or what not to believe. But if you know more about MBTIs or horoscopes. At the core of both of those systems is actually that you are all of the things. Each person has a unique astrology chart where each of their planets and houses and whatnot are in different zodiac signs which are each supposed to tell you of an aspect. MBTI is generally based off of cognitive functions from Carl Jung. The concept is that all people use their sensory organs and intuition to understand things and use reasoning and values to make devisions/form opinions. The question is just how you prioritise these and how they relate to your interactions with your internal or external. Qnd those arent unique either. Enneagram has system about "wings" where you are slightly more than one type at one time. Essentially all of these systems have sort of a failsafe "oh you are not like a capricorn in relationshipsm thats because youre a pisces venus". The reason i even know this much about these systems is becuase i amt have been interested in them. So dont take this a condemnation. But yeah a system having room for diversity is sort of just showing that people cant actually be classifird much at all. Though that being said: Im very glad ayureveda has helped you. I too have gotten a deeper understanding of peopke with my preferred personality grouping systems.

[@evelinepieternella8088]

What I'm wondering is why does it need to be either true or not true? Can't there be more nuance to the ideas these systems provide?

[@the-blackManic]

I have to be honest, the first ~2/3 of the video I was not connecting with this person. It really felt like Charlie was very performative and not really being open. this may have been a result of his anxiety and desire to be "valuable". I have never seen any of his streams or videos, but in the last 20 minutes or so, it really felt like the conversation became more real and connected. I appreciate the whole experience.

[@simonmagkekse4801]

I just started watching you a week ago and rn is csgo major- are you the one next to pimp? If so my mind is blown

[@zaka194]

01:55:25 I haaate hearing this "oh I wish you have financial success so you realise thats not the answer"😒

[@JamesonHuddle]

They aren't saying that you don't need food or rent money (in this economy lul) Everyone deserves that! It's the wild dreams, success of various kinds not just financial, that they are wishing for us to achieve both for our own enjoyment and for us to understand their limitations. Also I don't believe it is disingenuous, you might take it as "I'm so many levels above you my goals are incomprehensible to your puny brain" but I don't think it was at all related to bragging or trying to put people down.

[@BillyOnYouTube]

KZbin chat is toxic lmao

[@jeffreylong1478]

Agreed, I sense a lot of jealousy in a lot of these comments

[@SanthanamSridharan]

"Sorry if it feels like I've lost your question " "no you haven't The level of listening capacity and articulating capacity of these two and kindness and empathy towards each other is mind-boggling. 🙂❤️

[@muhammadjuhlan]

I wish i could listen but the volume disparity is too much maybe next time gain match the volume?

[@bringerod5141]

1:08:00 this is something I have come to realise recently. My partner for example always wants to do stuff and is really quick to make plans for us with friends or family or something. However what I need in my life is to have space to be impulsive or get the chance to start to want to do something. We have started to plan for having an empty schedule and that has helped some but it is hard, especially since I also want to please my partner by making plans.

[@salgadev]

It's always a balancing act, producing, being a good partner and having me time. But also you should be able to cancel plans or say stuff like "please go ahead without me this time" or just have a flexible time slot for whatever without it being an issue. I'm in a similar situation.

[@Lewdology]

Loving the podcasts you have been attending and hosting lately. Awesome stuff. My dream episode is Dr. K and Andrew Huberman.

[@dr.j3685]

No it will never happen

[@reallivebluescat]

@@dr.j3685 why?

[@Stryfe52]

@@reallivebluescatte they are enemies and compete in psychiatrist competition. Hubermanwdies not like Dr K he steal his audience and he bitter about loss of money and viewership joenrogan more likely than Hubbberman

[@tweed.k]

@@dr.j3685 not with that attitude

[@AndrewRMontoya]

I’m here for it! CC has helped me a TON in my life

[@TheNostalgiaJunkie]

Dont worry, you can abreviate it as CoC

[@MikeMurdok]

@@TheNostalgiaJunkie lmaoo

[@AndrewRMontoya]

@@TheNostalgiaJunkie 💀

[@Stryfe52]

@@TheNostalgiaJunkieclash of clans???

[@FightAgainstObesity]

Holy shit how did this video find me on my actual 30th birthday hahaha - this is just what I needed!

[@simpleman7203]

Happy birthday, bro! Apply something useful from that, and these changes might be your jubilee gift 😅

[@adiksaff]

Are streams automatically unlisted? I somehow can't see this video in the "HealthyGamerGG" youtube channel...

[@paperell]

all videos used to be in the "video" tab, but now the livestreams are saved in the "live" tab. This is done by youtube automatically on all channels.

[@samserious1337]

Always keep in mind that Chad-Experience is not Average-Guy Experience.

[@Rhinoch8]

Chad experience sucks

[@samserious1337]

@@Rhinoch8 yeah, poor chad :(

[@samserious1337]

​@@Dimitris_Half The whole point is that chad experience is not comparable to the average guy's experience. The terms aren't even subjective, they are measurable. You are saying that 5 = 9, good luck with that math bro.

[@samserious1337]

​@@Dimitris_Half Sure, but you wouldn't ask Henry Cavill for dating advice, because his experiences are not translateable to yours.

[@Rhinoch8]

@@samserious1337 doesn't matter. You can look confident, arrogant, smart and good-looking, breezing through life, whereas on the inside you feel like a paranoid insecure triggered piece of shit. Usually goes hand in hand, otherwise you wouldn't feel the need to be so "Chad"...

[@tristangriffith2957]

Can someone create timestamps?

[@KinnetMontana]

No u

[@theeternalgus9119]

What ​@@KinnetMontana said

[@testing123.]

Oh it's hard to, 0:00 Life

[@cleverman383]

I never knew if the advice from that channel was legit or not, so I'll definitely take it more seriously now that it has Dr. K's endorsement

[@j.67]

sadly, it's no longer worth watching. unless you go back to his first couple years. it's most clickbait-ish and at one point even politically oriented. as he said in the beginning he doesn't have much personal involvement in the channel these days. i guess that's why it went downhill. but good on him i guess for having a passive revenue stream.

[@Peayou...]

​@@j.67 Sad to hear. I really liked his videos

[@SnailHatan]

@@Peayou... his videos are fine. Why would one comment that doesn’t even provide a reasoned argument change your mind about something that you like? You must not have liked them very much.

[@Balloonbot]

@@j.67 I agree, I wouldnt recommend it either. Its very focused on performative action, and simply acting like an actor ON SCREEN - who's literally rehearsed their presence over and over along with a team of people making them more attractive. Its an impossible standard, and listening to what he has to say now is far more valuable than his channel.

[@Hemlocker]

What makes you think any of the particular videos from his channel have "Dr. K's endorsement"? This is just a conversation... Dr. K has talked to a self-admitted anti-semite before, I don't think that means he "endorses" anti-semitism.

[@sammarks9146]

The "Mindfulness can lead to better productivity!" thing- I've heard that referred to as McMindfulness :)

[@jjkthebest]

It always feels weird to me that so many people seem to have started D&D during the pandemic. Online D&D is so much less fun to me than in person.

[@ewak.1155]

I have sensory sensitivities due to ADHD and online d&d is so much more manageable for me. Admitedly I play with friends as our campaigns migrated online and not with random people which could influence my perception

[@eggzncookies]

2:20 "will it hurt if i get stabbed" that's such a twitch question

[@jamesadams7929]

Dr. K, what do you think about talking to Bernado Kastrup, Rupert Spira and Swami Sarvapriyananda as voices for spiritualism in the west. I feel you have a capacity for doing more spiritually advanced content. Thank you

[@jjkthebest]

No. If western science concludes that something works on most people then it says that it works on most people. What you're criticising is not western science but people making generalisations based on that science. You even acknowledge that we could do western science on eastern medicine! It always confuses me when you criticise "western science" because it seems like you understand how it works but in your criticism you don't take that into account.

[@zaidaliahmed7869]

charlie and drk talking about being in the "now", me with undiagnosed ADHD, yeah the "NOW" i know what that is xD

[@TheCUBARY]

I have been a listener of both Charlie’s podcast and Dr K for years now, so I can’t explain how happy this collab makes me🎉🎉🎉

[@maximr1113]

Same! I saw that they were collaborating and I couldn't believe my eyes, so exciting!

[@narvini727]

Same here, was a ecstatic moment

[@Azendas]

Same, I was so happy to see this finally happening!

[@N0Reaver]

So this, about the sensory humunculus, is the explanation why when i (start to) have headaches for example, i can visualize the areas, points or lines where i feel the pain and start to visualize them like flowing, draining them and i can also fixate my attention outside of them in a specific "spot" or area where i don't feel the pain at all and, if the pain is coming back i try again to "massage" and let my attention "flow" in another area or come back into it.

[@cudii5420]

Dr. Ks shirt is so luminously white, I wonder what laundry detergent he uses.

[@filoreykjavik]

Mrs. Kruti's secret

[@cudii5420]

@@filoreykjavik Gender stereotypes yay

[@filoreykjavik]

@@cudii5420 yay

[@ed-bo7jz]

this - and what shirt brand is he wearing!? we. need. answers!

[@cudii5420]

@@filoreykjavik not really

[@rugged04270]

What I appreciate about Charlie is that his awareness and experience is firmly rooted in established things. His reasoning is sound rather than delusional, which is rare amongst people who delve this deeply into themselves.

[@ChristianBrugger]

I feel grateful about this conversation. And I notice a huge relaxation in me. Seeing Charlie go to these stages and naming them brings so much acceptance for my own path. Looking back at my path I see many parallels. I have a lot of shame about the 'mistakes' I made, and watching this made me realize that those have beauty too. It's okay to figure things out. To not be perfect. That's what I take away.

[@torotomika1911]

I don't like this guy, but I'll give it a chance. Maybe it comes from an insecurity that I'm not as charismatic as I would like...

[@freddieclarke8751]

Ngl while Charisma on Command has great public speaking skills he has the charisma of a shoe so theres nothing to be insecure about

[@narvini727]

As dr K said later in this podcast, Charlie is very good with words, how he articulate things, that why in the beggining charisma on Command became so famous , that being said for dr K, I would advice you to give it a try, I learn many things from this podcast, was energetic.

[@Damesanglante]

Your shyster radar got tilted. 😁

[@Pighway]

I've watched both channels for years and also am growing to be less codependent. What a crossover!

[@janandreas231]

Does he have a video where he talks more about the dosha types (vata pitta etc)?

[@richerDiLefto]

He has like 3 or 4 of them. He gets pretty detailed.

[@SirEmrik]

It's kinda weird seeing this story of Charlie. Charlie has always had the biggest smiles I've ever seen. I watched his videos religously a couple of years ago, until I got to a point that I felt he was just just another dude reurgitating books he's read. It's not that he ever said or claimed something I knew to be false, but I just felt like I wasn't the right recipient I listened to this video, and I'm not done, but wow, this must be one of Dr. K's best videos. I feel more connected to charlie than ever, and I have more respect of him than I ever had. We all have our battles, some smaller, some greater. I'm sad for what charlie has experienced, no one should experience that. But the path Charlie has taken, deserves commends. Alexander Solshenitzyn spoke of how a group of people will split and behave increasingly different, after a traumatizing event. One group will be cynical bullys that want to "Push the pain forward", one group will be the non-cynical people who resolves the pain. Charlie in my book is a great dude. This video is like naruto vs Sasuke, or Son goku vs vegeta, the guest this time overshines the host, and if you are reading this Dr. K, I want to assure I mean this in the most possible way, Charlie is Vegeta, he just make you go "fuck, I understimated you, huh?"

[@hogandromgool2062]

It's interesting watching the chat replay. There were a couple guys back and forwarding the entire time about how this guys is rich and privileged and were telling everyone to disregard what he's saying because it doesn't apply to people that don't look like him. Think Dr.K needs to run a seminar on Jealously and how it drives everyone around you away.

[@ryanbarker3978]

Charlie is a beast and one of my favorite people in his space. Just a genuinely great dude.

[@syl59281]

That was amazing! And Charlie's way of describing things is really cool!

[@jesseskellington9427]

46:07 Wow look at Charles resting thinking face! 😅

[@larryl.ian.]

I'm never getting therapy in my old-traditional ass country, so going through all the Dr. K sessions is basically my therapy and I love it

[@starciacockett9912]

Holy crap I relate to him trying to make others comfortable so much. I never knew how to put it into words but have always felt like I try too hard to make other's happy. It's as if it stretches beyond compassion and into a feeling of responsibility. And the amount of discomfort he feels is exactly how I feel in those moments. I can't physically relax until they are relaxed.

[@sethmasters2147]

I AM SO HERE FOR THIS, AWESOME. Love u charlie. Hope ben is doing well too.

[@Thesteadfast]

The comments 30 minutes in on the chat replay are so annoying. Someone says they traveled and people just run with that to make a stream of assumptions about someone's privilege and how they don't really understand other people's struggles. It's so ignorant and really shows how many people think money and fulfillment are the same thing. A lot of it is people stuck in resentment and finding excuses for why they are struggling. Glad to see there was eventually some push back though.

[@KellboRose]

Such a great talk. Unfortunately I've never heard of Charlie before but he was really great at expressing relatable things. Seeing Dr K smile so much just shows how well he expressed everything :)

[@jjkthebest]

Something I've always noticed is that people say they want to be liked by girls. That always struck me as odd. I don't care if "girls" like me. I just want "a girl" to like me.

[@narvini727]

Nice way of saying it, have you been in a relationship before?

[@jjkthebest]

@Narvini I'm currently in my first relationship.

[@uhnah7652]

The people who want "girls" to like them actually want their peers to like them. It's never about the girls.

[@Chamelionroses]

One mental health thing is to stay away from cult like conformity to things that make people fall further through the cracks. To much true crime happens so sorry for losses.

[@jonathanallen2560]

"Navigating the Egos of Our Peers" (or Loved ones) would be an invaluable topic to me. Just my personal feedback. Not to insinuate I don't struggle with my Ego. But de-escalating or circumventing confrontations with the Egos of people around me is a skill I would like to better cultivate.

[@nunomoto1889]

Read how to win friends and influence people

[@matcha.always]

im so excited for this

[@SeiryuNanago]

Just one thing: the "no enlightened Brahman" thing is probably more a question of who is writing history. Putting the Avatar of Vishnu or the important features in the kingly caste appear to have been a cultural struggle early on in Indian history where there was a power struggle between the Brahman and the Kshatriya.

[@hdshjs]

I totally get the impression that Charlie is trying to flex how self reflective he is and show off his storytelling skills. He avoids Dr's K questions and this is plain rude. Making up a philosophy to cover that by Dr K is just some wierd rationalisation. And what's up with his camera position? Is this some kind of power move thing? When visually he is "higher" than Dr K? He is not using this frame in his own videos, so he must surely realize it's a wierd thing to do.

[@jeffreylong1478]

You seem like a very judgmental person

[@steggopotamus]

It feels good to hate and judge someone doesn't it? That way you don't have to think about anything negative about yourself. I'm glad you got your jollies without him seeing this comment. I hope you seriously try out other perspectives & thinking about people to see if any of those perspectives make any differences in your life in ways you might want want to keep.

[@sulffojus1227]

I think you're projecting a bit there mate... the only person I see trying to storytell is you trying to paint someone who is talking about their life story as somehow trying to show off

[@Katiewithdaffodils]

We are all a little reactive online, like people have an excessively angry reaction to an admittedly critical comment. People can have different reads on the same person, and you can't totally know who's right. This especially applys with someone you don't know in real life. We're all just doing our best.

[@Will-vz3yf]

Well said Katie!!

[@the_womb_raider4517]

This is it y’all: you can delete KZbin now, we found it.

[@wallace245ful]

Great work guys Hey doctor. Can you talk about your journey of wanting to be a monk and how you became a doctor I’ve heard Jesus Christ studied with monks and wholistic practitioners - any ideas on this

[@SammyxSweetheart.02]

It is solely ur responsibility for their happiness45:59

[@bhargavvasist]

Did not expect to come across such an insightful conversation. Guess i had my own pre conceptual judgements about Charlie based on his channel’s content but I’m glad i gave it a shot. Guess ive got more work to do on passing judgement before listening to perspectives

[@SnailHatan]

His channel’s content? You mean useful behavioral and psychological information?

[@Daniel-vw9wy]

Was this conversion released on a podcast? Is there any way to only listen to this?

[@najrenchelf2751]

Getting in touch with [your] feminine side, which is the most masculine thing you can do... ...cool! :D

[@wouterkok1318]

Lol chat acting petty with excuses for everything that this guy was rich or something, please be aware of yourself going that way. I think it is amazing what this guy has achieved and has definitely gone out of his comfort zone a multitude of times.

[@experimentalcyborg]

Why not both?

[@wouterkok1318]

@@Dimitris_Half could you please explain?

[@ana-mh4yt]

i have watched a few of his videos before and it's amazing to hear more of his personality and experiences. love how genuine and well spoken he is so pairing him w dr.k made it such a treat to listen! i'll be on the lookout for charlie's pod w dr.k :))

[@fierypickles4450]

Literally one of the channels that changed my life a lot. Charlie youre the best. Dr.k is up there too! Glad to see this

[@theeternalgus9119]

I probably should have actually taken his videos more seriously when I was in my 20s.

[@kayleighohler9999]

this young man could hold his own therapy session where dr k is the patient

[@Jediahgames]

This helped me so much AOE healing is real

[@TumblinWeeds]

This is eye opening. Tbh I’ve never engaged with Charisma on Demand, always thought he was one of those red pill pua guys. It’s interesting to see how he’s matured over the years and how self aware he is now. I find that often we think of an Internet personality as static and unchanging, either toxic or wholesome, but a lot of channels are run by real people living and improving themselves, trial and error, driven by their own dreams and demons.

[@Sethbeastalan]

That's good to hear! I remember being turned off way in the past because he posted examples of Tywin in Game of Thrones dominating and intimidating others as a good thing.

[@capt.keinskill313]

His Clickbaitey Titels and Thumbnails with like JP, Tate, Heisenberg, Peaky Blinders and such are just an army of red (pill) Flag to me. But after skimming through a couple of videos, the advice they give is oftentimes really solid and stuff that I already learned in other ways.

[@Rellikan]

He was never really red pill. All he talked about (atleast at the beginning) was how to behave interpersonally. He talked about it from male or female perspectives. Talked about dynamics in a group settings. How to stand out appropriately. Basically overcoming hurdles in conversation and overcoming the nerves.

[@Rellikan]

COC could be considered PUA. But redpill these days talk a lot about statistics and systemic things.

[@jo1681]

I just watched another podcast with Charlie in it and the host was sort of squirmy when it came to vulnerability, so it personally left a lot to be desired. This podcast honest and authenticity filled that gap!

[@mr.freeze2681]

Love both of these guys, amazing to see them together

[@RemotHuman]

If everything is valid then why bother changing?

[@efrahome]

Because You can only change something you are holding, rather than rejecting, for example me as a persona i'm ok, but what would be better phisically SO My body can improve and My organs function better? Maybe going to the gym

[@microArc]

everything may be valid, but not everything you do will make you happy and not everything you try will represent you in a way that you're comfortable with. the value of changing comes from the improvement of your experience as you reach for those things that improve your perception of yourself. sometimes change is uncomfortable but necessary, sometimes it's as simple as deciding to take action.

[@steggopotamus]

I finally found a way to describe this that makes sense, literally last week. If someone is bit by a dog as a kid and gets trauma, it makes sense for them to be scared of dogs as adults. Hence their emotions have valid reasons for being there that need to be respected. However, their fear is going to be a straight up wrong about how dangerous most dogs are, and will impede their ability to feel safe in the world with so many dogs in it. So the solution is to compassionately and respectfully give the person therapy, EMDR etc so they can stop being weighed down by past, valid trauma.

[@lkflover666]

This feels like some hitherto unheard of perfect alliance

[@disp3rsion]

this is the best video ive ever seen

[@Garmichael1]

This is one of the best videos I've watched in a long time. Thank you everyone involved

[@bringerod5141]

1:10:00 maybe they will say this but I interpret it as "staying on the path". Having a break or giving some space for new thoughts to arrive will not detour you off the path, you will tread it just the same as if you would be occupying yourself with productive tasks.

[@kylewkendall]

Around 2:18:00 attention to pain. Most of the time if i focus on what is happening, the pain is far less. I have adhd as well. I wonder how that works? Any ideas?

[@theamazingmarti812]

i'd really love to see more conversations with people that dont come from a place of privilege tbh

[@edwardchilikawei7962]

58:45 Point on emotions are just emotions, neither positive nor negative

[@Ms.Emerald]

Thank youuu for commenting the time line! This is my favorite part but I didn’t have a pen with me when I listened to it!

[@benkesallai]

I've been watching Charismaoncommand since Charlie only did the videos by himself and had like 100k subs. I've learned a lot from his and Ben's videos and ofc i learned a tremendous amount from Dr K too :) Thanks guys!