QAC 78 - 1yr+ on T: Japan vs America | Planned Parenthood | Intermusc vs SubQ || The T Files

[@AnnaRusson]

seeing your smile when talking about the nurse using the correct pronouns warmed my heart

[@duttfisch]

I originally came here just for the comparison between Japan and America, but ended up staying through the entire video ^-^ Your way of talking about all of that stuff and about the "gender-fuckery" with people adressing you honestly resonates so much with me, and as a fellow Maverique person I felt really seen. So thank you for that 💙

[@QueerAsCat]

aww... thank you so much for the kind words and for watching. i'm glad that you found this video helpful / relatable and appreciate you taking the time to watch it all the way through and comment.

[@legitboring]

I am entirely elated to hear about your experience at Planned Parenthood!!! Like wow!! I could never imagine!! It's wonderful to see things are going smoothly and going with the flow seems to be comfortably working out. As always wishing you the best of luck and thanks for keeping us updated. P.S: I think a podcast is a superb idea!! I have no earthly clue what all that entails but I love the concept especially cuz you're such a great speaker whose style I feel lends well to podcasting.

[@QueerAsCat]

thanks! means a lot coming from you, fin.

[@LazyIRanch]

Is there a podcast? I sure would love to hear that!

[@legitboring]

👀👀

[@te1730]

I wonder if they have changed about the laws in Japan around self-injecting recently. My room mate (a trans guy) gets his T mailed to him from a clinic in Tokyo and injects them by himself, and the clinic is apparently fine with doing that/allowed to do that.

[@VioletEmerald]

Thank you for sharing all this! It's really great information to know. I love listening to your videos almost just like they're a podcast anyway! You would do awesome.

[@eloraroot2604]

Vesper!!! You were how I heard about asexuality and led to my eventual discovery of the nonbinary community. I was just working on a project and came to your channel to cite you (I mention your video about they/them pronouns being already singular use) and saw that you cut your hair and are on T! I remember when you were really struggling with your hair and questioning if HRT was right for you...so lovely to see the updates in your life. Thank you for all you've unknowingly done for me.

[@PostOfficeGlobal]

I’m so happy to see an update video, Vesper! That’s super interesting to hear about the differences between societal and medical norms in Japan and America. Just recently in Australia, I had a mind-blowing experience of having a GP appointment with not my regular family GP but a replacement one as my regular GP was on holidays for three weeks. The replacement GP was so kind to me, respectful about the whole trans and hormones thing and filled my script without any argument, made me realise how much BS I had been dealing with the family GP for years. His open communication, compassion and understanding made that the first ever appointment with a GP that had a positive and profound impact on me, much like your experience with Planned Parenthood. I had to see the replacement GP about getting scripts for my 6 month semester exchange in Kobe, Japan! I know right?! You’ve just settled back in America and here I am, will be shuttling off to Japan in two weeks! I had previously navigated the Japanese onsen on the male side in a previous trip, that went okay. I am worried about doing shared bathrooms in a dormitory setting though, I wonder if you have any advice? I didn’t get my first preference for dormitory housing which toilet and shower/bath included in the dorm room, I got stuck with the second preference which was only toilet in the room and shared showers. Egads, it’s gonna be a learning experience! Hopefully you’re able to get onto that insurance sooner than later! Best of luck to us both!

[@QueerAsCat]

thanks for the comment and best wishes in Kobe! Kobe's a lovely city with lots to see and do. hopefully you'll have a chance to visit other nearby cities like Osaka and Kyoto while you're there. :) also, thanks for sharing your experiences with your substitute GP. it really is amazing what we will settle for when we've never experienced better, eh? i hope that when you return home, you'll be able to find a GP that treats you like that again. in the meantime, i hope you have a safe and healthy time in Japan, so you won't have to deal with doctors there much if at all... ^^; as for dormitory shower rooms, that's tough... are the dorms themselves segregated by gender, or...? if they are, you may just have to 空気を読む and use the shower room(s) based on how the majority of people perceive you...? i'm thinking that since you'll be in a dorm settings, that there won't be a communal changing area like there is at onsen, but i've never actually been in a dorm setting in Japan, so... if there is a communal changing room, you'll probably have to juggle showers around everyone else's schedule.... but either way, you'll be stuck navigating very gendered spaces and i know that that sucks. :( despite all that, i hope you can enjoy your time in Japan!

[@88shootingstars]

A new video! Clicked straight away when I saw this in my subscriptions.

[@felixxferd]

(Not that it's for me to decide, but) Yes yes yes, do the podcast (if you want)! I've really enjoyed hearing your thoughts on a variety of topics over the last years and I could imagine you really well in a podcast format.

[@maiynnai]

Wow that's incredible about the planned parenthood clinic you were at! I wish it was more widely accessible for trans and gender non conforming folks to have safer and more affirming care. Your T journey has been so helpful to follow. Thanks so much,glad to hear an update and you look very well!

[@QueerAsCat]

thank you for following along and commenting. i really, really appreciate it.

[@crwmy]

I, as non-binary, can so much relate to that joy of other's in the awkward position of not being able to correct aka gender-fuckery. Your "because I didn't" with the way you said it, gestures and facial expression is so extremely enjoyable that it'll stay as cherished thought for a possibly long time!

[@maiaautumne2167]

Yay you’re back ❤️ and yes to podcast 👍

[@persnrandm5533]

Yay! Another video! :)

[@sillycone4716]

So glad to see a new video from you! I hope life back in the states is treating you well. I'd listen to your podcast. It's amazing how different Planned Parenthoods can be. My local PP (in the south) did NOT use my pronouns, name, or gender info, even though they asked on the intake form. It was very disappointing. There were no protesters outside, though.

[@QueerAsCat]

thanks for watching and commenting! i'm sorry to hear about your disappointing experience with your local PP. that is beyond unfortunate.... i wish there was more standardization / uniformity across PPs and am kind of baffled at the fact that there is not. it really makes it hard to endorse PP as a whole... :/

[@deadboy5678]

Ooh a podcast would be fun!!

[@charlycheer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@dragonflysagatiaej4833]

Planned Parenthood saved my sisters life from cancer.

[@jacquelineshuler1591]

Love the hair!!

[@LazyIRanch]

It looks really good! I was thinking that I loved the dreadlocks, but this is even better

[@pipsplace9072]

Ughhhhhh health insurance here is such a mess, I feel you. Hope you can get that stuff sorted 👍

[@wilkobye9533]

Please do make a podcast! Also please make a patreon! You could make it based on how often u publish a video or whatever if you feel bad about irregular upload schedule. But yes! Please do that.

[@LazyIRanch]

Your experiences are so fascinating to me. Even though I'm much older and not purposely boosting my testosterone, it's happening naturally because of menopause. The hair on top of my head is falling out, while I seem to have sprouted a peach-fuzzy beard (I shave now). The acne I didn't have as a teen has come to stay, but my skin is so dry and itchy I don't use acne treatments. It's okay, I just got a short spiky haircut, and I'm feeling pretty cute these days anyhow. I sure as hell don't miss periods, and PMS! I've been on my own, not dating for 6 years now, so when I say I don't deal with "PMS", I really mean I don't deal with Putting up with Men's SHIT! LOL I didn't have much libido, so I haven't noticed much difference there. What I like most is the change in my voice. I love to sing bluegrass and folk, and I love how my lower range sounds rich and effortless now. I'm not a great singer, but one doesn't need to have a perfect pitch to sing folk music (Bob Dylan? hello?). I adore John Prine, and now I'm right in his range! I'm so glad you had a good experience with Planned Parenthood. I donate to them (in Mike Pences name, of course!). In 1995, I had a terrible uterine infection and a high fever, and needed a D&C immediately. (Dilation and curettage (D&C) is a procedure to remove tissue from inside the uterus.)I couldn't afford to go to the hospital, no insurance, so I went to Planned Parenthood for the procedure. Even though my pregnancy test was negative, I had been pregnant and didn't know, and the fetus had died and was rotting inside me. I could have died without their help!It was upsetting, and I was very sick, but I wasn't prepared for what waited in the parking lot. As my friend helped me to his car, we were set upon by a gang of rabid "christians" carrying huge posters with gory pictures of gawd knows what, but it sure didn't resemble anything I experienced in that medical office that just saved my life. They threw rocks and screamed expletives at us as we drove away, damaging my friend's vehicle. It was terrifying. I have ZERO respect for evangelicals, and my own family is filled with these hateful bigots. I'm dead to them, and I'm fine with that. They have nothing I want, and I refuse to ever be bullied by those assholes again.I hope you are doing well now! I really appreciate your video about older Aces, it's the ONLY one I've found so far. I'm about to turn 60, and am just now learning there was never anything wrong with my dislike of sex, and the fact that I rarely ever think about it. I'm HOME!I really grinned when I saw the colors of ace for the first time. My entire wardrobe palette is black, purple, and silver (I don't like gold), and those have been my colors since I was a teen in the 1970s. I still own the floor-length hooded cape I made when I was 16, it's black wool, fully lined in purple satin! I've made my clothes since I was 12, and love being different. I know what I'm bringing out for next Halloween!

[@cofeejoe2882]

Jokes on you Vesper, my attention spawn is terrible, but I stayed because you are entertaining

[@rubypufferfish5372]

Whoever made the 223rd like 🥊🥊 it was almost perfect

[@Danari7]

I love your content and I love podcasts so I would love to hear yours. I was glad to hear about your experience with Planned Parenthood. And a question (of course if it’s too personal don’t answer it): what would be the best scenario for you in an environment such as a workplace upon meeting a new person? How would you like to be addressed? Thanks for this video (-:

[@QueerAsCat]

thanks for watching and commenting. :) to answer your questions, i think that (for me) the best case scenario would be if the person just referred to me by my first name rather than fumbling around with binary titles and my last name. in terms of pronouns, it'd be nice if i was asked what pronouns i use rather than assuming and getting it wrong. even more ideal would be me having a business card to give said person with all of that information (appropriate title, pronouns, etc) on it from the start and them honoring / respecting that.

[@almetas_grandbaby]

Do a podcast :)

[@anne.chris.youtube]

omg yes start a podcast

[@viviisthebest100]

Id love a podcast from you! would be great to listen to while im making art! :D

[@QueerAsCat]

*honored*

[@LazyIRanch]

Inspiring!

[@Himewna]

omgggg when/if you ever find a surgeon who will perform a hysterectomy for nonbinary folks, please share. that's the dream & the goal Right There.

[@sunmarsh]

For what it’s worth, it seems to me that your neck seems wider and shoulders broader, but maybe that’s been a thing and it’s just taken me this long to notice. 🤷🏻‍♂️ Also your voice suits you better now, but I don’t know if I’m just getting used to it or if it’s changed in some subtle way?

[@QueerAsCat]

thanks for sharing. i'm always curious about others perception of things. :)

[@anne.chris.youtube]

You're handsomely beautiful

[@OtakuGunsoNY]

Are you going to get that organ removed??? Since you are over 30 they won't hassle you so much then if you were younger so that's good (:

[@QueerAsCat]

hopefully one day? i suspect that even at my age, i will still get shit over my decision, but you're right. it would be less than a 20something making the same decision. probably.

[@OtakuGunsoNY]

@@QueerAsCat You're not alone, I got completely slammed by my family from even suggesting sterilization for myself. Of course in their minds such things only add up to a free pass for sex o_O

[@OtakuGunsoNY]

@AceOfHearts big facts honestly, the fact that most uterus owners are waiting longer to reproduce makes it difficult for others to even suggest sterilization because it used to be when you were 30 then you can make that decision and be done with it ):

[@crwmy]

I, as non-binary, can so much relate to that joy of other's in the awkward position of not being able to correct aka gender-fuckery. Your "because I didn't" with the way you said it, gestures and facial expression is so extremely enjoyable that it'll stay as cherished thought for a possibly long time!