r/AITA UPDATE Told Dad He Was SELFISH For Wanting To Raise Employee's Salary

[@hyperplaguerat]

Adoption story: that last commenter was way off. They completely ignored how the daughter already threw away her relationship with her adoptive parents and then made her love conditional on them giving her the brothers college fund. Don't give her a dime after that behavior. That's manipulative and selfish.

[@robertx8020]

That's reddit for you! All those 'holier than thou ' idiot make me sick! "well it doesn't matter how many time they slap you in the face they are still your kidsssssss" Maybe but you own them NOTHING! Why should you give money to someone who is not family (acc to the daughter) or a friend? Would you give money to a stranger? No! Next!

[@DerekScottBland]

The daughter didn't throw it away, the OP did. The OP got jealous because they suddenly weren't the center of the world any more. The daughter said some assholish stuff, but at best this is an ESH situation. It never would have happened if the OP wasn't jealous of the time the bio family was getting.

[@robertx8020]

@@DerekScottBland Nice assumption Based on what exactly? The daughter fully ghosted OP..but maybe you would do the same? What did op erver to for the daughter? OH WAIT ..She took care of her most of her life But I bet you feel that OP should be gratefull that her daughter let her do that?>

[@DerekScottBland]

@@robertx8020 - assumption? So you didn't listen to the entire story then? This clearly started out when adoptive mom got jealous that they weren't seeing OP as often and started stalking her social media and then confronted her. Good gods, she just met her blood family, you have to expect that she would feel like she has to make up for lost time for a bit. As for your petty accusation / assumption, thank you for telling me you know I'm right and it made you so mad you had to say something so stupid.

[@tylerpatrick3511]

@@robertx8020 she didnt ghost. She had a kid. Sure she spent time to build bridges with the bio family but that coinsided her having a kid. Not really much time for much else. The parents jealousy got the better of them. This is coming from someone who is adopted and splits time between bio and adoptive family. Should the daughter have said what she did? No. However OP isnt saying what she said during these arguments you dont say something like that unprompted. OP even said that the daughter was spending more time with bio family not that she wouldnt spend time with them.

[@CharlesGriswold]

Story 3: The restaurant pulled a bait-and-switch. They're the assholes, not OP.

[@inked_page8234]

Tbh, I would have grabbed the final roll ate it and demanded they re-do my check

[@wascawywabbit0987]

Technically, he DID eat all he could eat. I would love to see a judge's take on this.

[@jeffreyrhoades3878]

I can understand if they charged for the uneaten roll as it takes time to make sushi and it can be a costly loss if it happens a lot. It’s a terrible restaurant and I’d never go back and I’d create a throw away account and leave a review, people should be warned that they will potentially be cheated

[@BNezzy]

i would have gone scorched earth. Id of lawyer up, gone to the press, posters, protesting, everything.

[@Frazzled_Chameleon]

Sounds like they saw how big the guy was and how much he ate, and tried to recuperate their losses by trying to switch the rules of the game up on him.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: NTA that sounds like a fun scam. He TRIED to work it out and they refused to listen. It sounds like a bait ant switch. This was way too much.

[@SIXPACFISH]

"Bait" and switch! I see what you did there. Good One!

[@sammieh9695]

They were pissy at the food cost of 7 rolls cutting into their overhead on the all you can eat and they wanted to cover the loss. I knew a guy who got kicked out of an all you can eat restaurant because he was "eating too much" he was a lawyer and sent them a demand letter for the price of his families meal. They paid up because of the illegal practice since there isn't a disclaimer limiting the number of plates anywhere in their business. They closed down a couple years later since they posted a disclaimer that limits it to 5 plates and people didn't like their business practices

[@johnneal7832]

The first one is lovely, a group of people who obviously care about the young girl. Yeh a few mistakes in communication but people aren't perfect are they, no nastiness. Sounds like it's going to end well for everybody

[@Tammohawk1]

3. NTA I wouldn't want to pay for something I didn't order and would argue about it, possibly walk out also. When your order "all you can eat", you pay one price, not item by item. I think they were on drugs. I don't eat sushi, and my son has worked as a sushi chef! 4. NTA "A Karen is calling the cops on us!" No, sounds like the Karen is the teenage girl.

[@geraldgrenier8132]

Sushi story: They were breaking the "bait and switch" consumer protection laws

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Gerald Grenier, Did you just say "BAIT and switch" ?? Bait? As in fishing? *GRRROOOOOAAAAN!!!*

[@geraldgrenier8132]

@@alicewilloughby4318 yes bait as in fishing. It the illegal practice of luring you into an deal though an advertise price but make you pay a different prince once they you have taken the bait and are on the hook

[@VesnaVK]

@@geraldgrenier8132 whooooooosh.

[@VesnaVK]

@@NotAFanOfHandles and yet someone didn't get it, apparently.

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. I've been to all you can eat places. They might include a charge for disposing of any food you don't eat, but that charge would *not* put a $27 order over *$100!* They voided the order and re-entered it as ordering each roll *individually* because he didn't finish *one roll?* That's *way* beyond shady. He should have refused to pay at all and call the cops.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

Story 1.) The “Father is older & wiser” comment is an oblivious standpoint. There are many elements of grief, fear, and mislead decision in hopes to keep the girl around coming from the Dad alone. OP is absolutely right to be concerned on the girls behalf.

[@atinyevil1383]

Agree. Lots of people who are “older” are not wiser and especially not about being a young adult in current times. People also have different experiences and could actually be wiser than the older person.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

@@atinyevil1383 Exactly

[@rutyqutykandi1361]

OP should just tell her of the issue her self and then let the girl decide.

[@brigidtheirish]

Did you listen to the entire comment? The "older and wiser" bit is perception that he's *using* to manipulate her. *That* was the point the commenter was getting at.

[@funwithcoding2818]

@@brigidtheirish yeah, the reading comprehension here is not the best

[@marymcclaren6584]

On story 3, he mentions he goes there often and is a big guy that can eat A LOT, I wonder if the restaurant decided to do this to get him to stop coming.

[@cv8167]

Story 3: Like the roll or not, I would've stared the manager right in the eye, and ate the damn roll, shoved the bill towards him, and said "Fix it."

[@Mewse1203]

Story 4: NTA if someone begs you to not call the police, you ALWAYS call. If dude loses his license, he SHOULD because they did something incredibly dangerous.. Them calling her a Karen is ridiculous. THEY caused an accident and repairs were needed. If OP had let them "pay her off" any issues she discovered later, like the burning smell, would have been missed. Not only that, but there wasn't any guarantee they would be able to "pay her off". Add in the fact they could have changed the narrative had OP not called and this becomes a huge problem if OP doesn't call.

[@gcra-luma2145]

Yes, I could just see the teens telling a different tale, one that spins OP in a most negative light.

[@brigidtheirish]

And *any* accident involving more than one car *has* to be reported to the police. I ended up T-boning a minivan once because the road was more icy than I anticipated and so I slid right through the stop sign. Police showed up and offered to take me home even though this happened less than two blocks away.

[@JayeEllis]

Story 4: NTA - You did exactly the right thing. There was an accident, and regardless of how everyone is feeling at the time, there could very well be injuries related to the accident. How do you recover your costs if you can't prove the accident? Same for your insurance. Better to get authorities on scene, lest it turn into a he said, she said situation where HE has someone on his side (passenger), but you are alone.

[@badkitty4922]

Story 3, OP's NTA, the restaurant IS!

[@suzanneholmes8612]

In my early thirties I was rear ended by a p plater (first year driver ). He begged not to report and swore he would pay. I was broke but swallowed his story. He lied ,avoided called etc. Always go through insurance to cover your ass. NTA

[@someoneelse4710]

Lol at the last, with them calling the lady a "karen." Calling someone a karen does not make them a karen. A "karen" is someone who throws a fit and appeals to authority to try to get their way, or have the rules bent in their favor. Op was following the law and the teens faced just consequences for their actions--they could have killed someone. Next time they'll be more careful.

[@bunnyslippers191]

It sounds as if this happened in the US (dialing 911) and in every state in the US it's absolutely illegal *not* to notify the police when you are involved in an auto accident that results in any sort of injury to any occupant of any car involved or damage over (exact amount of value of damage varies from state to state). In my own state that amount of property damage is $500, and it doesn't take all that much damage to total $500. OP wasn't a Karen. The kids were the ones demanding she not obey the law, so they were the Karens and at least one Chad/Kevin.

[@caitofga]

Agreed. Tears one your part don’t necessarily require an apology on mine.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@bunnyslippers191 *Exactly.* They even offered a *bribe!*

[@elizabethrhone5516]

Funny enough I had to explain exactly this to a younger cousin who stayed with me over the summer. He had to do summer school, lied about it for 2 weeks so he had to do all work in the kitchen where he could be supervised… and no devices until that day’s work is done (whether he took 2 hrs or all day due to pouting) Thought calling me a Karen to my face, and then calling his grandma to tell her, would mean anything to me. Made him give me a 5 minute oral report about the Karen moniker and how it is and isn’t applied correctly..calling me a Karen in my house😂.. little boy that does nothing.

[@pirateadam3686]

Story 3: You can tell OP is American as even after all that he still left a tip 😆

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

ADOPTED DAUGHTER STORY: The daughter is being a damn hypocrite! She said that her bio families love is more natural/valid/important. The entire rant she had about not getting money it’s completely hypocritical considering how she treated the family that adopted and loved her for years. This reminds me of that one story where OP was struggling with her teenagers signed that “reunited“ with his bio mother over the Internet and how he tried selling her house in order to get the money for his bio mom. And I put real knighted in quotation marks because it’s probably some person trying to scam the kid. The adopt a boy was with the family since he was a baby. He was loved and treated like that couples own child but as soon as his bio mom/S scammer became more important he tried selling OP’s house underneath her. I get that adopted kids aren’t supposed to be obligated to be grateful to their absolutely loving and wonderful adoptive parents that did nothing but treat them like their own flesh and blood, but come on. It is true that love is conditional, it’s only unconditional when a child is a baby, but when that kid grows up and they’re a horrible person it’s hard to love someone that’s nothing but horrible to you.

[@tylerpatrick3511]

We arent getting what the mother said in this story during the argument which is quite important. They where jealous plain and simple. The daughter would of course spend more time with the bio family while she gets to know them. I am adopted and spend time with both families. The OP pushed this issue several times and the daughter asked for space. They should respect that. If my adopted folks acted like this I would be absolutely crushed and defensive.

[@iceheap9422]

@@tylerpatrick3511 she said her bio families love was more and better than her adoptive families. In your comment, you said you spend time with both. Daughter didn't do this, she just stopped spending time with her adoptive family all toghether. I bet you and your adoptive family had a long and important discussion about you meeting your bio family, or you guys just had the unspoken known agreement that reaching out was okay and that they would always be there for you, as long as you didn't abandon them. Daughter abandoned them. Plain and simple.

[@tylerpatrick3511]

@@iceheap9422 she spent time with both. It was stated that she was spending more time with bio family. Not that she wasnt spending time with adoptive family. She didnt abandon them OP pushed her away from constant jealousy and not respecting boundries over it.

[@tylerpatrick3511]

@@iceheap9422 she said that as well in response to an argument that OP wont state what she said. The argument being over OP's jealousy. Even though the daughter asked for space OP would start arguments over the same things over and over again. Just the fear in the back of my head that my adoptive folks would be jealous or think I was replacing killed me on the inside. Imagining how it would be if my adoptive folks acted jealous and wouldnt respect my boundries during that time absolutely sickens me. Then imagine having to deal with a new born on top of that. OP needs to get over themselves. Starting arguments constantly over your jealousy. Refusing to accept boundries of your adult child during a difficult part of their life. People tell others to go low or no contact for these things. OP instead of just explaining it isnt hers to give chose to be spiteful. Plain and simple

[@littleolmee]

S1: Glad they worked things out. S2: NTA. It sounds like the sister is only coming around for money. S3: NTA. Never heard of these kinds of terms for an all-you-can-eat option, sounds like a scam especially when there is nothing written about this on the menu or at the table. S4: NTA. The kids driving caused an accident, you got to cover your butt so the insurance fixes the vehicles. Literally, this is what you are taught to do when you get into an accident.

[@hello93617]

She's coming around in desperation because she doesn't want her husband to die... People on the internet can be so fucking cold. Can you imagine the panic she's in right now? Any parent should care way more than this woman does.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA reading the title, you're thinking "How could it possibly be selfish to give someone a raise?" Turns out a bunch of people just care about a girl and are arguing about what's best for her. How sweet and wholesome Edit after comments: I actually see where the YTA comments are coming from. She should be making the decision. Edit after update: absolutely fantastic update. This is 1just a bunch of people who love each other who had a hard time thinking about one of their loved ones l parting ways.

[@ynmonroe]

No. Why not try to prevent the dad from manipulating a girl that has dreamed of going to college, but might be encouraged to bypass it out of fear by someone she trusts who doesn't have her best interests at heart. Really? How could OP be TA?

[@gcra-luma2145]

I agree with the YTA Poster at 4:33 only in that OP should also voice her concerns to Jane as well. OP didn't do a thing wrong telling her dad how manipulative/ selfish he was being. Especially if what OP said is true and that the business is only being kept afloat in large part due to old-timers with nothing better to do and that in a few years he'll retire. I doubt he would have mentioned that info to Jane with her pay increase if he could have afforded it. I sure love the update, so full of mutual love and concern, glad it all worked out. NAHs after all!

[@alenasenie6928]

First story: well, that went in a totally different direction, the good way to go about this would be for him to offer for her to return after she has ended her studies, no assholes since she is thinking about the future of her, so is the dad, this is a wholesome story, specially after the update, it is rare for adults to find a new family.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: NTA she doesn't want them in her life except as a piggy bank. It was HER love that was conditional. That condition? Blood relations. She was given up by these "greater and more natural loving" bio parents and OP and her husband CHOSE and raised her out of choice. She shat on that. She doesn't get to demand that their son get nothing just because her husband is sick. She only wants the money of the people who raised her but doesn't actually want them. As somebody who's gone through a lot of medical issues in my family in the last little bit, I know what it's like to struggle paying your bills due to that. The last thing we wanted to do is ask family for help with money even though we needed it. We did everything we could to not ask for help from our family or even put out a Go Fund Me(we did think about it though) so that we could pay our bills. I cannot even fathom the thought of demanding that anyone sell a gigantic piece piece of property simply so that I could pay for my bills. So far we'll be OK, life moves forward and you just gotta put one foot in front of the other.

[@brigidtheirish]

Finally! Someone here who isn't going after OP for being 'jealous.' Yeah, she probably is a bit. Understandably, given how the daughter's been blowing her and the rest of the family off.

[@vanivee3931]

Story 4: The father of the girl is what’s wrong with this world. Why is he upset with OP? The teen driver was in the wrong and he should be scolding the teen driver. It’s normal to be upset but his anger is directed at the wrong person. Also, what normal teen has $3,000 to give to someone? And the $3,000 is only for OP’s car, and she stated the damage on the teens car was worse.

[@buffysheffield1328]

You can love someone and still cut them off when they abuse you. Using someone is abusing them.

[@ellicerslavic]

The sushi place isn't a competitive eatery, why would they need to finish every bite to get the offer??

[@JUMALATION1]

Story 4: It's always the right thing to do to get an accident on official record. The only situation where it can be hard is if you bump into a parked car (been there, done that). I tried leaving my contact info but never heard back.

[@ilbercgross4736]

Very true. Is some places (like where I live) the police ask if anyone is hurt, are the cars blocking traffic, can the cars move under their own power. If no one is hurt and the cars can move on their own, the police tell you that it will be 2-3 hours before they can get there and if you want a report you need to file on online or go to the station. OP should have notified to officer that showed up that she no feels threatened by how the girl's father keeps looking at her in anger.

[@someoneelse4710]

PSA: there's tons of sushi that doesn't have any raw fish! It will be clearly listed on the menu. I can't do raw fish cause of texture issues but there's always plenty of stuff to eat that is either cooked or has no meat at all (it's also cheaper lol). Personal faves are cali rolls (with plenty of wasabi and ginger), inari, tomago, crab salad, and a fancy lemon caterpillar roll w avocado and lemon sauce. Damn, now I'm hungry :(

[@jeancarbonneau6966]

I've been to all you can eat buffets in Chinese restaurants many times. I was a kid and teen whenever we went and my parents would pay for it. Not once have we been overcharged for a meal with the regular price of leftovers. My sister never ate everything in her plate sometimes and not once were they ever charged extra. I would fill up my plate and eat what I had completely. Sushi restaurants sound different then normal buffet restaurants. In story 3, this restaurant, would it charge you full price for a plate if you left crumbs? The way it is going, that's what I'm thinking. OP isn't the asshole here because the fact that it's an all you can eat and youve eaten all the food in your plate but one piece, you shouldn't be charged 3 times what you're supposed to pay.

[@tamsel814]

Where I'm from it's extremely common for all you can eat restaurants to charge you for what you do not eat, usually in set amounts per non finished plate. Of course crumbs do not count as leftovers. I think I have only been charged when we left like 50% of a meat dish at a tapas place

[@davidponseigo8811]

I am adopted and was at birth and my parents are my parents. I don't think of them as adopted parents, they raised me so they are my parents. I have no desire to try and find bio-parents, they gave me up and that's that.

[@OutsideGalaxy]

It's so important to call authorities after an accident! Last year I got into a bad car accident, some kid wasn't paying attention and drifted into the wrong lane going way too fast and hit me head on. Driver to driver impact. But, the way he hit my van, even though his car was smaller, both cars ended up actually flipping around on the road and so while I was originally in the right lane my car actually ended up facing completely the opposite direction in the left lane. If no one had witnessed it and no authorities had been called he probably could have said I was the one who hit him. But between the witness, happened literally right outside my neighborhood so I was actually familiar with the people who saw it, and the police report remarking on the conditions of the vehicles and the way the tire marks were they couldn't even try to argue that I was at fault.

[@CooperGal24]

The “All You Can Eat” Story kinda reminded me of one episode of CatDog. You enjoy an AYCE meal, but are suddenly hit with a bill that’s ten times the asking price, with the manager explaining that he wants the expensive amount of money to pay off the price of the building and such! THAT’S shady here in this story, whether the owner of the eatery is right or wrong! Get the police involved, because those people ARE pulling something! Unless you ordered something that equals that amount, then they have to honor the price you owed for the AYCE meal, not just make you pay a higher price for a stupid reason. Take the manager to a small claims court and see what a judge says. They’ll more than agree with OP’s argument, because it DOES sound like the owner’s trying to pull something here. CatDog showed one of the best episodes that showed about the “Bait and Switch” scam. Rancid displayed the price of the food in a TEENY TINY note, and no other signs of the prices of the AYCE buffet. He also broke the health code by leaving a clogged toilet left uncleared, and broke another law by forcing the patrons to “work off their debts” in unsafe conditions: CatDog about to work on unclogging the toilet without any kid of decent cleaning supplies or even some kind of protective gear, not counting the plunger and such. If anyone gets into a situation like the Sushi Story, know your laws and get a lawyer.

[@sadtitties222]

HOLY MOLY, I REMEMBER THAT EPISODE HAHA! Glad to see more CatDog fans. :)

[@ginathecookie]

Oh God, that show takes me back and I'm still young 😂

[@seleneyue]

Adoptive daughter story: damn, I've never even asked my bio parents I grew up with for any money since I turned adult. They paid for some things like car, plane tickets to/from college, part of down payment for house, but I've never asked and never taken it for granted. The audacity of this grown ass woman to ask for her brother's college money is insane.

[@VesnaVK]

OP said he didn't like that roll, and that's why he could only eat one bite. I wonder whether this place purposely makes a roll that people won't like in order to pull this scam.

[@iwantsifegold]

NTA If you ate everything else you have to pay full price for the stuff you basically left on touch

[@jimdob6528]

Story 3 it seems like they have eaten there often so this sounds like the rule they dealt with before so I’m going with NTA.

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

I LOVE sushi. LOVE LOVE LOVE IT. That said, for a while (about 10+ years ago) where I live, a Bait And Switch AYCE Sushi scam popped up. They had rules that sound normal on the surface, but are ridiculous when you see them in practice. For example, one rule was that you had to order nigiri sushi in 8 pairs. Nigiri usually comes as a 2 piece thing, so 8 pairs, you're getting 16 pieces of the same nigiri (A piece of fish over shari - sushi rice). The catch, they don't just charge you for the pieces you didn't eat, they charge you for all 16. Another rule - leaving the sushi rice behind counts as "not eating the sushi". Again, sounds normal in practice, because you don't want people wasting food. The catch? They LOADED everything with rice. the aforementioned nigiri? 4oz of rice to a paper thin slice of fish. A California roll? Basically all rice, a hunk of cucumber, and a thin smear of the imitation crab/mayo mix. Don't share with other people. The catch? this also included your fellow companions with AYCE. Also, they had a little blurb in fine print on an ad, not the menu, that they could revoke your AYCE status at any time, for any reason, and you would be responsible for the whole cost of the regular priced items without warning. They got called out pretty quick (It's a chain) and I stopped going after the first $65 bill for a $21 AYCE lunch, but somehow they have managed to stay open. The weirdest part is, I tried to look up one of the news articles/aired stories to link for, but I'll be damned if they weren't scrubbed somehow. It was big news for a minute, because it was when sushi was really booming and becoming affordably mainstream here, and their "cheaper AYCE ended up being more expensive than ala carte places)

[@ivy4104]

Fantastic, hope everyone had a wonderful day, have a good whatever as always

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

You too m8🤗🤗💜💜

[@Mscrimsondragon]

If the kid in the u-turn story was dumb enough to try this move, he deserves to lose his license. You should ALWAYS report an accident. If the other driver tries to persuade you otherwise, that opens you up to some shady sh$t.

[@clairebear-96]

Lol the all you can eat one sounds almost like a scam from the restaurant, do they pull this on everyone who orders all you can eat, but doesn’t finish it? what a ripoff lmfao

[@davidponseigo8811]

Love sushi. I always remember this rule, never eat sushi in a town with less than 25,000 people.

[@flamelily2086]

Story 2 The adopted daughter pushed her adoptive family aside in favour of her bio family. She slapped them in their faces and she has only come back to them to get money. If her bio family is so wonderful why don't they give her the money she needs, after all they have paid nothing towards her support when she was growing up. They could make up for that by giving her the money she needs.

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 2 - 8:44 - I'm not sure if pushing her adoptive parents aside for her bio-parents counts as conditional love or what it counts as, but it seems close enough that for her to say "I can't believe how conditional your love is!" seems pretty ironic and hypocritical. 11:32 - Now that someone has come right out and called the daughter a con artist, it's got me wondering; do OP and Hubs have any real evidence that their Son-In-Law is in such dire straits or are they taking their daughter's word for it? Story 3 - I don't know if OP was right or wrong to leave half the amount charged, but I hope he realizes that, either way, he can never go back to that restaurant!

[@micahpatchen1538]

Story 1: BRAVO! lovely story! tears and cheers for everyone

[@gcra-luma2145]

3rd story NTA. This reminds me of a story a former co-worker told me about his experience at an all you could eat buffet-style restaurant. Back when he was a high school football player- he and his team would dine at this restaurant. Well as you can imagine, a big group of athletic almost fully grown youths can eat a huge pile. The restaurant managers/ owners tried telling them that they could not eat as much as they did, So they asked wherein the rules was there a limit? The restaurant owners tried charging them more than the initial fee despite cleaning their plates, again where did it say that after a certain limit did they have to pay more? The restaurant owners then banned them from the buffet-style restaurant. This didn't go so well for the restaurant owners as this was a smallish town and the football team was well-loved. So Co-worker and his football teammates boycotted the buffet-style restaurant and called upon others to do likewise, thus forcing the restaurant out of business. I always felt bad for the owners when hearing this story, it honestly sounded to me as if this business was going to go under one way or the other -let the team keep eating there and they close down, don't let them and no one comes to dine. But the owners should have thought of worst-case scenarios such as people eating more than they could keep up with and tailored rules to keep the business afloat. Still, what a harsh lesson.

[@Hellion912]

Love is usually not conditional, but commitment is. You can love someone and not let them use you.

[@OhHeyItIsNano]

Before continuing onto the Update on Story 1: I'd have to go with NAH. I don't believe anyone here is wrong. Edit: Very wholesome Update. I'm glad things worked out for them.

[@somerandoonyt9553]

Story 4. NTA for all the reasons stated, but I didn't hear any comments about the boy knowing he'd lose his license if the cops were called. I don't know what the laws are where OP lives, but where I am, unless there is illegal substances, stolen car, etc, one accident won't revoke your license. Sounds to me like the teen driver has been in other incidents while driving already.

[@zerobolt9506]

Story 1: Mark you got to stop making me cry man 😭😭😭 so wholesome

[@LoveableNiki]

Story 3: NTA. Our all-you-can-eat eateries are not like this. There has to be an extreme case of food waste for them to charge an extra fee. OP did eat a piece of the sushi roll along with all the entirety of the other rolls. Seems OP should have just had a fee for the one roll he didn't completely eat.

[@laurenmentink7401]

Story 3 = American here and I have worked in all you can eat buffet restaurants. This is new to me. Both restaurants never charged like this, ever. You pay for the buffet and then you eat what you can eat. I don't believe that this restaurant is in the US. This is bait and switch tactics. NTA. I would get a business lawyer just to get the legalities and not necessarily to sue the restaurant.

[@cynicalrabbit915]

Why would bio family's love be more natural. I've heard of adopted children turn into money grubbing AH completely steamrollering the adoptive parent's feelings? I understand that some people adopt solely for the social value it adds to their image, but those are I hope far and few between.

[@kbf9644]

Awwww, story 1 really ended on a warm fuzzy. That’s awesome.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@badkitty4922]

(HUGS)😘😘💖💖😍😍!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@badkitty4922 🤗🤗💜💜

[@KittenUndercover]

If your sushi tastes fishy it’s not good sushi. It means they’re using old fish.

[@sirinkaslana3709]

I will keep that in mind. Thanks for the tip!

[@kimsmith1746]

Story2...I don't agree with the last post. The daughter is a user and will dump OP again. I have a half sister, who was adopted and raised by my father (literally signed the marriage license and adoption papers on the same day). She didn't know differently until 17yo. She used the idea of a different father to be grateful that she really wasn't part of the family. She is 61yo. She's been a financial drain on my parents her entire adult life...to their own financial detriment, having to receive help from their other children. She literally lives a better lifestyle than the rest of us, although the rest of us have retirement savings. Her retirement plan is her mother. She first used threats of suicide, then she used her own children as pawns, to manipulate our parents for money. She is the ugliest human being I know...first on the inside, now she is obese grey-haired and toothless so outsides match her insides. The smartest thing OP can do is protect her son from the evil that is the daughter. If my mother had done that, instead of making my sister the golden child, I wouldn't have gone NC to protect myself.

[@itjustmemanning8441]

I'm sure you read a lot of stories before finding one's to read. Thank you for all your hard work ❤

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Mark, I also don't like fishy fish, but I LOVE sushi. This is because the fish used in sushi is very clean, and not fishy at all. Try a California roll, then a yum yum roll, then get a spicy tuna roll, then get adventurous with a dragon roll. You might actually love it as well.

[@gcra-luma2145]

Story 2: "Her bio family's love is greater and more natural". EXCUSE ME!!!! Does she mean the people who for whatever reason gave her up like hot garbage? The family who likely never tried to find/ contact her before she no longer needed looking after? Awfully convenient is that In fact if she only started meeting them when she was 23 then that likely means she sought them out first, so she was never even worth bothering with until she showed up. If I were OP, I'd have responded to that by telling her this and adding that We -her father and I chose her, That that has got to be more special than two people who had an oopsy baby or a situation they didn't want to see through and still keep her. That we raised her/ loved her, fed and clothed her, were there for all her ups and downs. Gave her her education and extra financial support when she needed it. That we are as real as it gets when it comes to family and more specifically "real family/ real parents". "She stayed gone for months" then she came back because she needed something- that something is for her brother's future educational benefits, not hers to touch. Sounds like she discarded them already, OP is spot on that she only keeps them around for money. Time to mourn the loss of the daughter/ sibling that OP, her husband, and Son thought they had. NTA.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: NAH and honestly, I see him giving her a raise as a good thing cause then she's getting more money to save for college, granted that's assuming he can afford to do so. Story 2: "I can't believe how CoNdItIoNaL your LoVe for me is!!!1!!" Says the child who threw her family off to the side because her "real family loves her more" and is literally only coming back and claiming they're family because they have something she wants. Story 4: "Daddyyyy a Karen is making us face consequences for our reckless behaviorrrrr!!!1!!!!"

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 4: NTA at all Driving is a Privilege not a right. And most places wont let two teens be alone in car there needs to be an adult Family member with them if they are new drivers. Simply for this vary reason to stop dumb fuckery like what the driver pulled He's lucky he hit a sturdier newer car with the shit he pulled.

[@unknown-ql1fk]

i live in east USA but "paying for what you dont eat" is INSANE, ive never heard of this before

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@badkitty4922]

😘😘👍👍😍😍💖💖

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 much love 🤗🤗💜💜

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@badkitty4922

[@justine8387]

When I saw you weren't the top comment I was a bit worried about you, broken! Glad you are here :)

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark.. loved all the stories. Stay safe please.. Peace

[@runethfc]

Story 1: NAH Story 2: NTA Story 3: NTA, dumb rule Story 4: NTA

[@karinlumm5123]

Hi Mark. Really enjoyed tonight's stories,especially the first one (I think) where they had a female employee and we're going to legally adopt her even though she was an adult.Hope you and Poppy are well.much love x

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

Oh hi Mark! Hope you're well! I'm taking my dog to the park. Much love!

[@tazkol]

story 3: NTA and they should report that place to whatever standards authority exists in the area it's likely an illegal use of the policy. ether way it's a incredibly predatory policy and they need to be reported.

[@cynicalminion]

2: "we're going to support you, but not at the expense of your brother." end of conversation. unconditional love means you have a place to go when you get out of jail after robbing a bank. you may not have any LESS of a claim on your parents just because you've chosen to put your bio-family before your adoptive one, but you'll never have anything more than an EQUAL claim compared to your siblings...

[@bethanntay]

You get charged extra but not full price. They tries to pull a fast one.

[@ForTheHopefulSorrow]

Hey Mark I'm listening to you on my break from work. Thanks for being here on KZbin you do make people's lives better. 🖤

[@vernell2601]

Great way to start the weekend

[@Mewse1203]

May the syrup of Good fortune flow easily over your life. Be safe, take care, and much love.

[@bellesmith8925]

I was told to always called the cops so you have an official report. That way the other driver can’t change their mind and say you were at fault or they were never there. Also, get a photo of their Driver’s License.

[@lyragwen1895]

We have several places where I live that have all you can eat. Not of one of them charge you for any food you leave on the table. Sounds crazy.

[@andreavanhoof6047]

Story 3: NTA, you tried to negotiate but they would not budge! That was theft on the restaurant's part since this is All You Can Eat! It sounds like that they were being wishy-washy and shady!

[@Cassandra765]

Story 2: NTA. The only person whose love is conditional is the daughter's. She threw away her family like garbage and flat out TOLD them that no amount of love they gave would ever compare to her bio family's love. She burned this bridge. It's not on the parents to repair it, especially considering there's no evidence that helping her would actually repair anything. Daughter seems solely fixed on getting money.

[@caseyjude5472]

All they have to do is put something bitter-tasting in one of the items & they’ll make out like bandits.

[@cynicalrabbit915]

IF the All You Can Eat restaurant doesn't listthe terms and conditions this is truly being a case of the customer being right. What this amount to is bait and switch which is illegal. I'm fairly certaìn that if the resaurant would try to take them to court, but without terms and conditions being spelled out that they would lose. NTA

[@badkitty4922]

OMG!! Story 2: that adopted daughter isn't only TA but, a Grade A entitled BISH!! Jmo, of course but, still, I stand by it.

[@Flotton]

Much much love!!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

[@tashabeck4121]

Such a wholesome update I was really hoping they would adopt her they already basically did

[@jackspring7709]

Story 1: Very hard to make out what OP is trying to say: if her Dad's business is so 'shitty' how is he able to afford to retire and keep a roof over everyone's head? OP is making no sense here.

[@TiffWaffles]

I think that the issue is that OP wants the employee (who is a young woman herself) to have a future for herself and if she is given a raise by her father at what seems to be a failing business, that she'd make a decision that would ultimately put all of her hopes, dreams and future on hold. She seems like she wants to get into a competitive programme, which means that if she were to stay at her father's business that she'd lose both her place and chances to get back in if she decides that she wants to do it again. I think that is what OP is saying here, not complaining about her own quality of life... At least that is what I gather from this post.

[@johnodotca]

It's pretty typical in 'dying industries'. People who owned Blockbuster Video franchises were making bank in the 90's, if they invested and bought a home, it's not hard to imagine them in a similar situation in the mid-2000s. There are tons of examples of businesses that could have supported a fairly lavish lifestyle a decade or two ago that are being shuttered today.

[@telinhajp]

I loved *MrBunny's drawing* so much! It's too cute! 😍

[@ratoim]

Accident OP: Wow, so the other driver performs a swoop and squat, and the passenger is on the phone telling lies to a parent? If OP had not insisted on a report, it's an absolute guarantee they'd have thrown him under the bus. Hopefully that boy gets some driving lessons before he causes another accident!

[@oougahersharr]

All you can eat overcharge: You should have told the restaurant "okay, give me back the unfinished roll and charge me the all I can eat price. The food won't be unfinished because I want it back." Really, splitting it into 8 individual charges instead of the all you can eat plus one charge is ridiculous.

[@clairebear-96]

Awww I’m so glad they went for the adult adoption thing, that’s so sweet and such a good ending!

[@greytala]

S2: I raised my kids bio and bonus/foster kids that we”as a family” chose our bonus kids/siblings, their bio family did not. They all grew up knowing they are loved(even now they are all adults). My kids also know they were chosen, because I refused to abort them even though my cancer was back. I was never to have children after my cervix and uterus were fried from cancer treatments. The doctors wanted me to abort both babies because even though I was in remission at conception, my cancer came back. I waited until both were born to restart my treatments.

[@GMAMEC]

Always call the police when there is an accident. Someone hit the back of my car. There was no visible damage until I tried to open my trunk.

[@sirinkaslana3709]

Story 3: OP probably won't be allowed back... unleeeeess he brings the cops with him. Like an undercover/off-duty cop or something

[@daveo1808]

Story #1 Father was good enough to raise a family and help his daughter's friend, but still not good enough in the eyes of his daughter, truly shameful.

[@moimeself1088]

Supposed to be sleeping.... but that can wait 🤭

[@scarlettg.5772]

The buffet/all you can eat baffles me. Never have I ever seen or heard of this till this and one other story. Every one I’ve been to was one set price regardless of how much you ate. I’m in the US if that helps.

[@sarily626]

Apart from that previous story, I've never heard of "all you can eat" or buffets charging people like that. They don't do that anywhere where I live (at least not that I know of), and it seems pretty scammy. They should have a set price for the food you order. Not surprise you with an outrageous bill after you've finished. I also don't get what difference it makes it you don't finish your food? Maybe next time you're in a restaurant like that, just wrap up the leftovers in a napkin, or chew it up some lol it makes no sense to charge you for what you didn't finish. ESPECIALLY if you're not even allowed to take it home!!

[@lewischase]

Good evening Mark Hi everyone

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Heyo

[@listenquitely2888]

Story 2: she only considers them family when it benefits her. How sad. What a crappy kid.

[@bearnaff9387]

Story one: Holy burying the lede, Batman.

[@andreasrechtenwald1863]

In Germany it is normal that when you go to a all you can eat -restaurant and do a lot of things on your plate and do not eat it ,than you have pay a fee. Because of the waste of food. So i do think it was not only ONE piece he did´nt eat . I think he left out a lot of the story here. For me he is a "Ken"

[@chulutheimposter5415]

FINALLY IT LOADED!!! Hope you're still doing well Mark and I wish you a great night!! Downloading a 177 mb file right now, which is why my hotspot is so slow- Hopefully today is the last day of this hotspot!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Oof yeah I hope that it gets better soon and have a great night

[@katiesmith2031]

Mark thanks for the video hope you and poppy are having a wonderful evening goodnight and sweet dreams

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Sleep well m8🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 thank you broken hope you are having a wonderful evening goodnight and sweet dreams

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 thanks m8 much love

[@vidhead85]

Stroy 1: I say NTA. Dad is being selfish and trying to keep her in the nest. It's not good for her

[@jeanied8701]

I'm with you Mark. I'm not a fan of anything that tastes too fishy but would love to be able to eat sushi too as it fascinates me and looks great.

[@fhuber7507]

1... YTA. WTF? How can he be selfish in wanting to pay his employee more?

[@fhuber7507]

3... ESH. The customer doesn't get to decide the rules. The restaurant needed to be more clear about how the rules worked, before dropping a bill like that on the customer. The restaurant can file criminal charges.

[@fhuber7507]

4... NTA. You ALWAYS want the police involved in an auto accident. 100% of the time.

[@Cell287]

Story 1: NAH. They found a better solution. Story 2: NTA. He made her love conditional first. Story 3: NTA, I would’ve done the same and warned people about their shady practice. Story 4: NTA, you followed the law. Op did good