r/BadMensAnatomy - ✨Sexism Bingo✨ is Back

[@Shuang_Shuang]

I'm happy to see that the internet doesn't understand how men work either! This is true equality 👏

[@db_524]

As am I.

[@Zachyshows]

Is r/NotHowEnbiesWork a thing? If not, we need more equality. Edit: just realised that's equity

[@Shuang_Shuang]

​@@Zachyshows If not, let's make it a thing! The internet should be equally wrong about everyone

[@spiritbx1337]

@@Zachyshows NB isn't a real physical thing, it's just a way people see themselves at best...

[@eeveeblazelol]

⁠​⁠@@spiritbx1337this is a r/nothowenbieswork moment

[@DieHardAnimeOtaku15]

I remember hearing a story where a guy, who was diagnosed with breast cancer, tried to join a support group for breast cancer. The group (all women) kicked him out because “men can’t get breast cancer”

[@pagionthevoiceless3682]

The number of people who don’t know that every human has a small amount of breast tissue makes me want to walk into the ocean and never return.

[@missnaomi613]

Holy sh!t, that's awful!

[@MissCaraMint]

Odious.

[@blueStarKitt7924]

That sucks so bad!!🤬

[@k.v.7681]

I knew a guy in his 50's that died of breast cancer due to late diagnosing. He felt a lump. Women over 50 in my country get a coupon every two years for a free screening (men get one for prostate cancer screenings). So he drove his wife to the place for her screening and asked at the reception if he could make an appointment at the same time while his wife was busy. He was laughed out. Six months later he goes to his gp. It was breast cancer.

[@kingofpenguins4157]

All those “men can’t be sexually assaulted” people seem like they are trying to justify something. Absolutely disgusting behaviour.

[@raerohan4241]

They might be, but most likely it's other men saying that. Ironically enough, it's the patriarchy which perpetuates that idea, because it teaches men are strong and women are weak, so there's absolutely no way a woman could overpower a man and force him into anything physical. Really wish society could understand that r*pe is r*pe, regardless of the genders involved.

[@Nostripe361]

This feels like these are people that learned about male sexuality from cheap pornos. Forgetting that those are made for people to masturbate to and not educate you about male or female biology

[@blueStarKitt7924]

​@user-qk7qc2yv1w Yes.😔

[@SmolTrailer]

I had a friend and we argued about this at least four times. He said men couldn't be.... I stood my ground and said they could. Well... after the fourth time he told me that he had been, but that his family told him it wasn't .... he was twelve and boys always want s**. Didn't matter that it was a thirty yo woman or that he had no idea what was happening. His family just gaslit and ignored him. Not everyone who says "men can't be ...." are bad people, some of them are just repeated what they've been told by family members or friends.

[@zio_beck]

I was.... though not sexually assaulted.....but i still feel it is really wierd. Today a guy if my own age (we're both 15) just stood too close to me in school at the time of assembly. I politely asked him to move away a bit and his response was to laugh at me for being a "soft girlie" and everyone near us also started making fun of me and then he continued to make me even more uncomfortable by continuasly touching me from behind through the whole assembly. I hate that because im a guy im just supposed to handle things like this. Disgusting

[@Kbs-kf4od]

the “men don’t have mental trauma” made my eyes go wide and my mouth gaping open with shock that anyone could think this wtf

[@GretchZ]

That’s something I have heard before, so it didn’t hit me as hard. Some people think men have no feelings, some think that of women. My latest reaction was someone claiming that only “American Bibles” have homophobia in them. Like, Americans added verses. They doubled down. There are so many layers of stupid madness there I don’t know how to break it down. It completely erases over 2000 years of widespread homophobia! They threw in some low-key antisemitism, too.

[@verahnaist9082]

I'm guessing you're either not male or haven't spent too much time on the Internet. It is an embarrassingly widespread idea.

[@bup3493]

It hurts me to think people think these things when I’m over here forced to live with my older abusive sister. My whole conscious life I’ve been abused by her and people will just straight up deny it.

[@verahnaist9082]

@@bup3493 I am so sorry you're going through that. I'm in a similar position with my mother

[@derstein3368]

​@@bup3493i know telling people where you live on the internet is a horrible idea. But if it werent i would ask you to tell me so i can personaly fight your sister

[@SewardWriter]

The woman who wrote the "skin like pressed olives" line explained it! Ancient Greek didn't have many colour names, and pressed olive oil is typically more bronze than green. She was writing from the perspective of a Greek person of either the Golden or Mykenean age.

[@feuerling]

The color in part depends on the olive variety you use. They come in a lot of colors that can also vary by ripeness. So even if you use a little hand-cranked table press you can make Shrek-juice if you choose your fruit right.

[@SewardWriter]

@@feuerling Very true. IIRC, the author visited Greece and got to see an oil pressing. Apparently, that particular oil was more brown than green. The stuff in the meme looks like freaking castelveltrano oil!

[@fin5887]

Yes but it is funny to imagine a green man

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

I’m grumpy because he didn’t bingo it!! It could have easily been put in the “women writing men” square. He missed a few others also.

[@thegoombaboishow]

aw i thought they were gonna date shrek 😭

[@babowasalwayshere]

Fun fact: Men can have a "biological response" to fear, among other things. So yes, actually, it's very possible to assault a man and no one man or woman has magical parts that turn off when you don't want it. He's not always having a response because he's attracted to you. The best policy is consent.

[@db_524]

Like honesty, consent is the best policy.

[@angelikaskoroszyn8495]

Anyone who even touched BDSM knows that fear might be arousing. The thing is that there's a difference between the fun fear you experience during a scene and horror of being abused in the most horrible manner possible Safe, sane, consensual. That's should be the basis of any sexual encounter

[@universal_stupidity]

also, peoples 'personal parts' specifically respond to stimulation no matter that the brain thinks, because it's protective and reduces possible damage (as in, lubrication reduces friction). A response has nothing to do with consent or actual pleasure.

[@Plexxis_SugarPom]

Whoa, never knew that, imma be sure to be understanding if that stuff happens in the future. Knowledge is powerful shit man.

[@pat9353]

Every man whos had unfortunate timing for middle school presentations would be able to tell you that control is an illusion 😂

[@reinaemiya]

It does prove that its not about men not knowing women, but a general lack of sex education on both sides of the aisle. And thats what is truly scary.

[@girl1213]

Tell me about it. I mean, when I was in college, my Japanese-born Woman's Studies professor admitted to us that Japanese schools don't teach even the basics of sex education. They have to learn from their parents. She was really shocked when she came to America to learn how to teach and found the subject could be taught in American schools. She wasn't even disgusted, she was relieved. As nice as she could put it, her parents really lacked what she needed/wanted to know. She had to find out either from trial and error or in books at the library under the medical section, and even then she had to wait until she was 18 because they were rated to be "18+." So even though she's learned over the years that the American school system *still* isn't all that great, the fact that we even have those classes to begin with is a step-up according to her.

[@reinaemiya]

@girl1213 Yeah, the word soaking alone proves why not educating children is dangerous.

[@zizzy1262]

We also just teach men/boys wrong things about themselves so they feel they have to be a certain way or feel wrong or out of place. Patriarchy isn't helping any gender; hence why we need to talk about this! It's not just women who get things about men wrong, but even men themselves (similar to women and girls as well). Everyone needs a better sex education, but also working toward tearing down harmful gender norms. Okay, that's my piece for today lol

[@The9thDoctor]

@zizzy1262 How does both-sex misinformation, shaming, and overall problems that apply to literally everyone have anything to do with "patriarchy"? You can't just blame everything on an elusive concept that people can't even agree on the definition of. Blaming things like a problem with education on patriarchy is counterproductive. That's like blaming things on the bogeyman. ​

[@Waskomsause]

@@zizzy1262 I've had a women tell me, that because I'm a man, I 100% have a risk of attacking someone by just not "controlling my urges" while also telling me it's the fault of the "Patriarchy" that did this. I've only ever had women put stereotypes on me like that.

[@ArtOfShannonLee]

I studied sex crimes in law school. Incredibly UNfun fact: all sexes of SA victims’ bodies can “respond” when attacked, and it’s common for the victim to feel their body had “betrayed them.” When a vulva gets “wet” or a penis becomes erect in response to sexual stimulation, it’s actually a neutral thing. It doesn’t mean that stimulation is wanted or enjoyed. Just like how, conversely, you can enjoy or want sex but find your body doesn’t respond. It happens to all genders and bodies btw, ED it’s not only a penis thing. This is an unpopular take but it’s evidence-based and honestly, people just need to suck it up: to be 100% sure, sometimes you need to COMMUNICATE with WORDS to find out if something is wanted. There have been studies about how different genders tend to communicate consent- and the results are concerning. Women generally expect consent be communicated verbally and men generally expect consent to be communicated with “body language.” The obvious issue here is that when men and women have sex with each other, they come into the interaction often with those very different expectations. It’s not uncommon, in this dynamic, for a man to essentially see what he wants to see in a woman’s body language, when she fully expects there to be a conversation; from there, a few things could happen. There could just an awkward interaction due to the miscommunication, which ends up ironed out and fine. Or, if she gets surprised by his next presumptuous move, she could freeze (a common response when someone crosses a boundary and really scares you), and it’s possible, if he’s seeing what he wants to see, it could lead to a traumatic encounter for her, that he didn’t even realise was problematic. This happens. A lot. This is still r*pe. Hear me out- I’ll give an example that effects men next. Merely “giving in” Is explicitly not consent, according to law where I live. But, in places where the law is lagging behind, it’s important to know that this is, in truth how consent works. It’s both parties’ responsibility to check in with each other and make sure they actually WANT to be there. It’s just unfortunate that traditionally this hasn’t been taken seriously… even though it is. There are rarely consequences for the inconsiderate person who doesn’t even know what they’ve done but there are always consequences for the other person. At least, mental health-wise. This is just one of many obviously dangerous ways people make assumptions and people can get hurt. It’s similar to the bs assumption that men “always want sex.” This one gets men assaulted in the same way- a woman assumes he’ll like something because man, makes an unexpected move, and he freezes. From there, she’s already jumped to conclusions. If he doesn’t freeze, he might say he’s not keen, to which, someone who thinks men always want sex will say “what kind of a man are you?” or something else humiliating. Shaming someone like that, or any effort to ware someone down until they “give in,” also ensures that if the person eventually agrees, that won’t amount to consent. Consent is FREE agreement. Free of any convincing and manipulation. Some of these tropes are known as “r*pe myths” and there are a LOT of them. They’re common misconceptions and issues which actually make r*pe more likely to take place.

[@JoshSweetvale]

Also men have butts. And women can use tools.

[@SingingSealRiana]

This, all of this, freezing IS Not consent, coerced consent IS Not consent, and I do Not get how people even want to continue Something their "Partner" needs to BE talked into . . .Like wtf?! Why would you enjoy the Encounter?! If you get anything less then enthusiastic consent, that should BE a Mayor Turn of and sign Something IS wrong!!!

[@Sab9rr]

Man I would’ve said a AINT readin a that but I did read all that

[@PASTEL._.763]

Yeah. Off topic, but yet zoos say body language is all the consent they need.

[@cypresswhite1398]

Tysm for ur response!! Like most ppl don’t take the time to read truth when it’s complicated but thank you for writing it, and Tysm replies for reading it all?! Like the discourse here made my day❤

[@elppidraws]

Man you should've put the "fat men are lazy" to the body shaming to make a bingoshe literally explained that men can't be fat shamed while fat shaming men 😂

[@__TK___]

Yeah he should’ve. Missed bingo. Edit: after watching the full video he definitely should have done it. He would’ve had the ultimate rare all bingo card

[@OnionThyme]

She likely hasn't seen power lifters or any of the people pushing weight lifting records.

[@O-bearer-mine]

​@@OnionThyme I find it hilarious how little knowledge anyone has about 'bulking' and how beneficial it is when done right, but it gets branded as 'you're just fat' despite how much stronger you get and how much more reserve energy you have.

[@ConstantChaos1]

Yeah like I'm 5'5.5" (166.4 cm) and about 161 lbs (11 and a half stone or 73kg) so a bit on the heavy side and I don't carry it well, in 66 hours I ran/walked 66 miles and that wasn't even with any dedicated workout. Just because I am and look fat doesn't mean I'm lazy, durring that time I dealt with medical emergencies, trained dogs, split wood, and did ecology work as well as quite a bit of art and school work and played with 3 American akitas for hours I'm active as hell i just dont lift or even really work out atm and I've been sick lol

[@GabrielleTollerson]

yeah the lack of self awareness in her was unreal!

[@ritsu305-u8g]

I have convinced myself that the person who said, "Are you a girl?" when a man told them his birthday is in spring/summer is talking about turtles (if turtle eggs incubate in colder temperatures, the hatchlings will be male. If they incubate in warmer temperature they will be female). Yes, it's gotta be about turtles.

[@dinodude7290]

You have a beautiful mind.

[@The_worst_alchamists]

I think it's with crocodiles or alligators, not turtles, but I could definitely be wrong tho

[@ritsu305-u8g]

@@The_worst_alchamists Crocodiles also have temperature dependent sex determination, but it’s kinda the opposite of turtles: crocodile eggs incubated in colder temperatures will be female and vice versa. There’s also a pattern where colder _and_ warmer temperature range will yield more female hatchlings while the intermediate range will get you more male hatchlings. Some turtles also exhibit this pattern. It’s really fascinating.

[@anklescooter]

For humans this happens too, but not incubation. Male Sperm tends to survive longer in colder temperatures but struggles in really hot temperatures, while female sperm is completely fine. (Sources: My mother had to study biology and anatomy for her job)

[@georgevoichev545]

If someone asks me that question imma respond "yeah I'm in the middle of transitioning"

[@misfits9294]

I always disliked the argument "men can't control themselves" when s/a happens. Like, bro, that is a human being. You are not only taking away their accountability for their own actions they 100% have control over, you are acting that an entire half of the populace is some weird uncontrollable animal. It's victim blaming, puts women in danger, and it has terrible implications for men. It isn't healthy for anyone.

[@MrLordFireDragon]

This absolutely true, and it also speaks to an unhealthy binary we have in our head about sex and libido. We have this idea that someone is either a predator languishing the chance to assault someone, or a 'good guy' with no self control. Hence, anybody who doesn't believe men are inherently predatory default to excusing their behaviour. The reality is that getting into arousing situations is like getting drunk - you can make terrible decisions while drunk that you would never make while sober, but that isn't an excuse - it means you need to learn how to preemptively put safety measures in place to keep you and your partner safe. So in the moment you might not have had self control, but you had control over how you entered that situation and that means you're still responsible. This, alongside most other sexual health issues, is an issue of education and culture. We need safe words, traffic lights, scenes, all sorts of tools used to safely navigate sexual scenarios to be taught and reinforced rigorously throughout schooling. We can't expect or demand sex to be safe if we don't teach people the tools they need to make it that way.

[@rickwrites2612]

Other men should be outraged about this myth. It is degrading and dehumanizing, like we are subhuman beasts. I realize an attacker might seem "like an animal" but it's way worse - in that he (occasionally she), is not an animal doing what its supposed to but a PERSON -like Lao Tzu, Leonardo da Vinci, Jane Austen or Harriet Tubman. A human distinguished and dignified by free will, empathy, abstract language and the ability to invent tools and narrative... and who CHOOSES to degrade himself and subjugate another AS IF he is an animal. Sure, that year in adolescence when puberty gets in full swing (or I suppose for trans men it'd be the 1st year they start T), there is a sense of being subject to powerful biological forces, the heightened impulse for anger to feel kinetic, for even innocent visual images to be powerfully sexually stimulating, to feel overwhelmed. But that's puberty! And even then, it's not like the imperative to eat, where if you hadn't eaten in 14 days you really might not be able to stop yourself from snatching a banana in the store and gobbling it before paying. And you learn, ( if you are lucky, with the help of more experienced men ie fathers, brothers, coaches, mentors, health teachers, clinicians, etc, )but even if alone you learn the tried and true ways of coping with a massive dose of new hormones. Sports, sparring or exercise like weightlifting or running, masturbation, meditation, healthy nutrition, learning non violent communication skills like boundary setting, mirroring and active listening...these all help you learn to ride the T Beast. This phase only last a short time, in 1-2 yrs you don't feel like that anymore. Because you're brain is no longer super sensitive to a dump of sudden new hormone, it's just part of your chemical make up now. Like how when someone takes new Rx for depression or ADHD, the first week or 2 they might feel totally drugged but then it just...goes away. And this "risk" period when heavy puberty is new, is not even when rapes are committed. Its a period where you are not near your full adult height and strength, and when boys are almost certainly spending most of their time supervised by authority ie living with parents, spending most days watched by teachers and coaches.

[@_nob0dy_297]

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[@jurgnobs1308]

I can't help finding somepne attractive and wanting to do stuff with them. but i ABSOLUTELY can keep myself from actually doing it to someone who doesn't want it. it's not that difficult

[@JennyferPepin]

''BUT BUT BUT...she was clearly asking for it'' 🙄

[@uzumya3151]

I'm so sick of anyone who says men don't get abused or whatever. I'm a man. I've been abused by my own mother. I exist, and I'm sick of getting invalidated. Thank you a lot for this beautiful video, Click.

[@SingingSealRiana]

Hope you are in a Safe place and have Support now, you deserves IT!

[@uzumya3151]

@@SingingSealRiana Thank youuuu

[@bruzzunathtuch]

Cough cough Johnny Depp's experience. Sadly, nobody is safe from abuse

[@wizardblue55]

I feel you, I had a similar experience, I hope you are doing better now

[@eighteen_06]

I hope you're okay now ❤ no fucking one deserves this, hope your mother is behind the bars 😢

[@jessc4344]

I feel like every bingo card needs a "God I hope they're trolling" entry 😂

[@inescaldeira6677]

For real

[@ethanrose9682]

I think that one would be completely illegible by the ten minute mark

[@AveragePufferfish_.]

agreed!! it would be pretty useful.

[@xiesie_xiesie]

Let's make it a petition XD

[@Lilian040210]

Half of these obviously are

[@DavionStar]

The whole "Men don't know how to do insert household chore" thing always gets under my skin cause I was raised as a man and my mother actually refused to teach me stuff like doing my own laundry or doing the dishes. I lived at home during college and wanted to do my own laundry but she absolutely refused. To this day, where I have been living with my wife for 15 years, she is still shocked that I do my own laundry.

[@Lilian040210]

Yeah that looks more like a fascist standard graphic which yes, fascists love to follow.

[@tuxxle8830]

Gonna raise my sons to be great homemakers alongside Eagle Scouts, which actually overlap. Way more important skills than you learn in high school, and I’m glad I and most of my male friends have them. I can’t say I know any guys who don’t know how to take care of themselves and their houses.

[@naolucillerandom5280]

My bf had to learn because his mom worked until late. So by the time we met he was used to caring for himself. At one point shortly after we started dating HE APOLOGIZED FOR BEING RAISED BY WOMEN AND KNOWING HOW TO COOK. I didn't get it but later I met his aunts and oh boy... 😭

[@wisteria3032]

My bf didn't have permission to use the kitchen. after moving in with me he started learning how to cook and I have never seen him more proud than when he manages to prepare something new. (he still doesn't have permission to use my washing machine though, since he refuses to read the instructions insisting that it's actually easy but also refuses to clean the filter or hand wash the dirtiest things. The machine is new and it needs to last)

[@cheri3571]

Some men don’t know how to do it because they were never taught. Not their fault in the slightest 😭. And theirs still a good amount of men who *do* know how to do chores and stuff

[@JAYZ-47465]

As a man, I say that no matter what gender you are, NO ONE in this world deserves to be treated like absolute shit.

[@The_Endless_Now]

Well what if someone's absolute shit tho?

[@lechatrelou6393]

​@@The_Endless_Nowdon't treat that someone

[@henryclark3147]

Depends what they did , if they shoplifted from Walmart , that’s barely shoplifting, if they SA’d a child, the other prisoners will “take care of him” them selfs

[@PersonstuckinMichigan]

@niggymonkey Can I get a source on that?

[@Scuggersleeper]

Yes so that means that we can’t be sexist to both genders but woman are genetically designed to be weaker so that’s why we have different sports versions and different running idk but we shouldn’t ignore that the different genders are different in their own ways and no matter what should we put one in the wrong because it’s not the female angler fishes fault that the males has to die by merging into the female to reproduce that’s just how they do things so that doesn’t mean we should put the female as like the villain because you would have to genetically modify their body’s to stop doing that

[@roundhouse2616]

Actually, it's a myth that the brain 'stops developing' at 25. That came from a study that did not involve a single 25 year old or older person. The brain actually continues to change and develop for a person's entire life, and childhood/puberty is when the most development happens.

[@GretchZ]

I believe it is generally referring to the total number of neurons topping out. I don’t know if that is actually a thing or not. I should double check when it’s not the middle of the night and I’m running on caffeine after weeks without coffee.

[@jenm1]

I think it's more that your prefrontal cortex is more stable at 25

[@roundhouse2616]

@@jenm1 The study didn’t actually find any stabilisation or topping out of neurons, they just ran out of funding when they got to 25 year old subjects. The age is 25 did not come from experimental data

[@cactuscat3262]

The general age is 26 now I think

[@Maxicraft.]

​@@GretchZyea and the brain is still not connected the cell number gets more stable but connections can be made. Otherwise you couldn't learn smth new

[@chelonianriot527]

TW: SA I know at least two men who have been raped by women. One was asleep, the other was tied up when his partner unilaterally decided they weren't going to use protection. I can also confirm firsthand that physiological response during SA doesn't always care whether you consented or not. It's like your own body betrays you on top of what someone else is putting you through.

[@girl1213]

From what I understand from listening to this topic, there's defiantly a lot of guilt when your body is telling you this should be a good thing, but your brain knows it isn't. Physiological our bodies are supposed to find intercourse pleasurable because it's beneficial to the survival of a species. And for humans, numbers is key to our survival. If it's not pleasurable, then we're won't to seek it out thus decreasing our numbers and we risk extinction because humans don't have any natural defenses against predators. But the thing is: we developed socially *after* this natural physiology did. Our brains are actually late to the evolutionary game. This why we can't force our bodies to stop feeling pleasure. But sadly socially we believe we should because we are rightfully taught that assault of all kinds is wrong. We taught that we are somehow just supposed to "automatically" turn off our physiology when we receive this information. And the fact that we can't thus leads to guilty feelings and unjust cruelty to victims, both male and female, from our peers. In the end, humans are taught to expect a lot of themselves, but our very biology, especially the sexual biology, is misunderstood and misrepresented, giving the wrong impressions. SA will always, *always* be a morally wrong thing to do, but we need to spend more time learning about how our bodies work and why it can't be control. Or as I like to call it "Learning to learn that it's *not* the victim's fault." If we can learn to help people understand that, perhaps there will be less pain and more help for victims. But I don't know, I'm just someone who has tried to understand the negativity around sex since she accidently stumbled into the subject trying to understand her own periods and felt she couldn't ask adults these questions, even more so when I learned about SA. Stigma hurts us all.

[@missrebel634]

It’s like someone tickling you and people using this as an argument that you found it funny because you laughed

[@girl1213]

@@missrebel634 Bingo.

[@hainleysimpson1507]

Body didn't betray him. His body has done what it evolved to do. Get stiff in response to stimulus.

[@girl1213]

@@hainleysimpson1507 Yup. That's natural. It's just society wants us to believe in betrayal.

[@TheRedneckRoman16]

I genuinely wonder what possesses people to think Men have no emotions and women cannot control theirs. Seriously at what point do someone come to this conclusion?

[@tomlxyz]

It's just something passed down from generations. Men who show emotions were deemed weak, women who spoke up often classified as being emotional/irrational even if they had a solid point

[@Framokamc]

At the same time is contradictory since people lose control when they get angry 👀

[@Framokamc]

​@@tomlxyzwell, for some reason someone said women have to be submissive and men dominant, and ignorant people believes that, and I say ignorant in the meaning of the person not having knowledge of what is happening, and for that they just follow the crew

[@pennyforyourthots]

Because that's basically the goal of more sexist gender roles. Men are supposed to be logical and dominant, which often means the only acceptable emotion is anger. Women are supposed to be submissive homemakers, so many times they step out of line they're seen as too emotional. The stereotype of men and women being like that comes from generations of people who were forced to fit into this mold and experienced the terrible consequences of it

[@Badartist888]

@@Framokamc Oh the 'men don't have emotions' crowd never seem to associate anger with emotions.

[@eeveelutiongaming69]

The male version of “her booba flap autisticly” is “his balls wobble autisticly”

[@isakandre]

True

[@lornetc]

“She breasted boobily down the stairs”

[@shinymainespoon]

Some dudes are not neurodiverse. They are neurotesticle

[@neuratlas]

“autistically” how the fuck 😭

[@psychoslick2354]

As an Autistic man, ball wobble is something I struggle with every day

[@Mx.muffin]

As a trans man who has experienced women issues and men issues It sucks. Everything sucks. Why can't we all be nice to each other

[@ericonion3561]

In my family it's bad for both as a kid until you leave. The boys do everything around the house and receive the no emotion treatment, and the girls are treated like they're stupid, emotional, and helpless without the adults. Im glad you werent raised here because the ridicule you would receive is unprecendented.

[@lolno3453]

some peoples just suck and the internet just make their voices louder

[@JoshSweetvale]

There's no profit in harmony. Here, let me sell you a bludgeon.

[@appletree13]

Focusing more on differences than similarities, because differences stand out.

[@frostflake8461]

I peeked in the replies, expecting transphobia, but all i found was logical points

[@JunariFB]

In defense of the 'freshly pressed olives' woman, she actually did a *ton* of research into the setting of her novel and was using impressions of colors in the same poetic way that the ancient Greek poems she took inspiration from did. In that same setting, the word for the color 'blue' didn't exist, and the sea would have been described as wine-dark because people wouldn't have distinguished between deep blue and deep red in writing. On top of which, she actually went in person to see olives being pressed using traditional methods, which produced a natural, light brown tone. Don't get me wrong, I agree a lot of the people here are being very very silly - to be kind - but Madeline Miller was not one of them. Also, I've never seen olive oil the color of Nickelodeon slime.

[@w.reidripley1968]

Can you get finely divided olive bits in the output of a centrifugal olive press? That there looks like if filtered, the filtrate (if filtrate is what passes through the filter rather than what remains in it) would have the pesto-color of extra Virginia olive oil.

[@GretchZ]

Hmm. Sounds like a… “self-pleasing” exercise? Is she writing for Ancient Greeks?

[@naolucillerandom5280]

​@@GretchZ not sure I understand, but it sounds like it. Just a bit of creative writing.

[@pretzelbomb6105]

@@GretchZ Sounds more like she's writing for students of classical literature who would be interested in reading a modern story told with perspective and stylings emulating those found in the works of the Ancient Greeks. While stories actually from that time are available to read, many are about the gods or heroes and so have a lot of baggage associated with how people think about them. A story which does away with these pre-existing characterizations while keeping as close to the underlying literary ideas as possible would be an interesting read for someone who focuses on the subject. Removing the larger and louder aspects of the time period's literature can also help to better understand the more subtle and minute details that would otherwise get overshadowed. Small details like how a culture described certain colors aren't the kinds of thing you tend to think about when studying, and yet they can tell you a lot about how people then and there saw the world around them. The first and hardest step of this is consciously noticing there's even a difference in thought.

[@Narangarath]

​@@GretchZIt's just like doing any art or craft in the style of another time. I don't really understand why there's anything weird about it.

[@alexisdominey6487]

Most stuff like this can be blamed on lack of proper sex ed.

[@Infernal_Edits]

true

[@ZachTheHuman]

"abstinence is the lord's way :)"

[@alexisdominey6487]

@ZachTheHuman Still good to know about diseases, how reproduction works aside from penis goes in vagina, the development of a fetus, how to tell if you have certain cancers, etc....

[@Superabound2]

Most of it can be blamed on TikTok, Twitter, and women's overwhelming hatred and dehumanization of men

[@ly_sho]

​@@Superabound2Or just lack of sexual ed considering a lot of these posts are also made by men... And the fact that the same happens to women..

[@Cosmosdestructor]

In reference to the one about men being unable to feel remorse: not only is that blatantly false, but if someone is incapable of feeling remorse or grief, like me, it’s the result of a mental disorder, not their sex or gender.

[@SalemsRising]

same pfp!

[@LilChuunosuke]

Yup! And there's a lot of negative stigma around people who cannot feel empathy. I used to be friends with a dude who openly admitted that he was unable to care about other people's feelings even if he tried, but he was honestly kinder and more respectful than everyone in else that group chat I met him in. It just meant he had to make a conscious effort to behave in the "correct" way, especially since he did not have the empathy to have that response organically. And as an autistic person, while I do feel empathy, I do have to go through a similar process to prevent people from calling me cold, selfish, and uncaring.

[@alltimeorphan]

@@LilChuunosuke its about the effort to relate, not the actual relating itself. props to you and friend

[@demetrioaguilar7434]

This is getting out of hand now there’s two of them- Nute Gunray

[@LilChuunosuke]

@knownevildoer thank you. It can get really exhausting having to perform emotions in a way that doesn't feel natural to me, but it's worth it to assure the people around me that I love and care about them.

[@WooooooDEPPRESION]

20:22 my science teacher gave a similar speech to boys in our class after they said that guys can't get breast cancer while my teacher tried to explain while I just yelled out from across the class "YOU STILL HAVE TITS JUST SMALLER AND STILL HAVE MEAT+CARTILAGE THERE, YOU CAN GET TITTY CANCER" which my teacher just looked at me for a second before turning back to them

[@Julia-lk8jn]

Yep. Auf einen groben Klotz gehört ein grober Keil. Broadly: On a rough log you use a rough wedge.

[@Kh-bs7mg]

Those people who say men cant be assaulted makes me think what point are they're trying to prove, as well as their intentions.

[@BloodrealmX]

Their point is to convince everyone "men are subhuman filth meant to be used and thrown away by women". That's how feminists work, unfortunately.

[@Kartoffelkamm]

Same. Everyone who tries to convince you that a crime cannot be committed against a certain group of people has, historically speaking, been awful.

[@chaoleo]

They just hate men. It's really that simple.

[@holdendewit7088]

Everyone i have ever known on a romantic level that expressed this take (usually so late that i dont immediately leave) ends up being sexually manipulative and abusive, but i dont know that everyone who ever thinks this is, but id say its a good indicator of someone who is willing to abuse men since they readily dismiss the abuse of men

[@Amanita._.Verosa._.]

Exactly. I start listing the names we know of. The enablers usually shut up.

[@idkwhattoputheretbhbuthere]

The fact that sexual harassment and assault against men is so normalized is sad. Most people, or at least a BIG chunk, just don't see women as creepy or weird, so women can basically just go touch men in public without their consent. If the man doesn't react in a good way he is "gay" or "insecure".

[@ScottBowles-j2c]

You can literally find so many videos of guys showing women touching them in clubs or grinding on them touching them whilst working and when they say no they get called gay or no fun or a panzy

[@glupipostar-u-zihi1358]

oh noooooo a hot woman is touching meee noooo so bad and disgusting noooo

[@yamsdev]

When I was 18, a mid-40s drunk woman about twice my size grinded against me despite my being clearly uncomfortable. The other women in the room laughed at the situation. I didn't even realise this was SA until years later. That's how normalised this shit is.

[@TheGamersfolly]

It's most. 😅

[@ferretqueen2908]

Yeah that's nasty. Tbh the posts I've seen on a girls only Facebook page are just as creepy and gross as anything I've heard from a man.

[@thembill8246]

As an AMAB ace person who was... Forced to do naughty things by a partner in college, erasure is real all around. Stimulation can create a reaction, regardless of attraction.

[@Xinderkan]

Yup, happened to me in highschool and It's even further compounded when it's seen as a good thing by your peers

[@asilnorahc8910]

If this truth was taught in middleschool/highschool, many girls wouldn't mistake that for consent... we need better sex ED in general, and victim erasure stopped.

[@BlueSkyBirdies]

I'm horribly sorry this happened to you, as a fellow ace I feel your pain. No one should ever be forced to experience anything sexual without their express consent.

[@AliceBunny05]

​@@XinderkanGenerally these things are so difficult to deal with because nobody is a "perfect victim". Because that doesn't exist, there is always a fault you can conjure within your mind even if it's absolutely not based in reality. Saying this as a girl who experienced COCSA involving another girl (an older female relative who's about 5 years my senior, I was probably 6) I'm so sorry you experienced that. Invalidating responses of any flavor are truly emotionally devastating, and its extremely difficult to fight the shame monster living in your own head, let alone deal with the afternath of the ammo external influences like people or stereotypes have fed to that monster.

[@GretchZ]

AMAB woman, here. All my SAs were before transitioning. Most of the harassment was after, but that’s just creepy and annoying.

[@kamo7293]

48:08 as the history researchers sometimes jokingly say "if you can't figure out the purpose of an armor/weapon... its ceremonial"

[@DestruoTheWithered]

Actually that is a pretty good assumption in terms for most stuff lol

[@AnDeledelewoop]

I assume that's just berdly

[@NyizGobi]

@AnDeledelewoop deltarune berdly?

[@AnDeledelewoop]

​@@NyizGobi "no final fantasy berdly"

[@leaderlamby]

I saw a meme with that "gay men have a worm in their butt" thing where someone sent it to their friend and their friend replied "oh yeah, mine died because I overfed it lol"

[@justaperson4656]

I'm wondering if she found her partner cheating with a man, and one had a tapeworm, and she's drawing conclusions where there never were any to excuse it

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

I LOVE 'I only have sex at night when the sperm are asleep,' that is immensely entertaining 😂it makes it sound like he's keeping them as pets or something.

[@Aaron.Thomas]

I just imagine the drowsy, sleeping sperm stumbling into the egg...

[@Wednesdaywoe1975]

But does he ever feed them after midnight?

[@choboibigly6565]

This is why you should wear condoms. If you wouldn't let your dog walk outside without a leash, why would you let your sperm? Always remember to bring them back inside so they can feed too.

[@ambercrombie46]

@@Wednesdaywoe1975 I love the Gremlins reference 😁

[@xman6574839]

As a man i can confirm that i keep my sperms as pets. they are cute and loving pets, and are so gentle with my significant others....

[@JaymeeT_]

As a trans man, I can confirm that as soon as Testosterone touched my body all my mental trauma went away! It’s nice living as a man, since we cannot experience mental trauma

[@squid0123]

we men also can’t experience emotions, so it’s quite easy to be a man. we are built for manual labor, making kids, and going to war.

[@poxie2637]

😂

[@jackriver8385]

Yes, I had all of my emotions surgically removed when I became one of the transgendereds™️

[@EvanNeedsTherapy]

As another trans man, I can also confirm this to be true. What are emotions?

[@squid0123]

@@EvanNeedsTherapy it’s something you need to be born a man to know, once you transition they wipe your mind of what emotions are, biological men know what they are. But they still can’t experience them

[@malcolmelproductions]

“Male eyes emit radiation” Hm I don’t like the look of your hair *Locks in*

[@malcolmelproductions]

The lightskin stare is truly the most dangerous weapon known to “man”

[@frosgare]

my bones are glowing

[@Ghostly3011]

We’ll see who’s laughing once I activate my *CANCER-VISION!*

[@stellar2926]

HOMEANDER

[@dysfallacyyt]

LMAO

[@Lemmondoodles]

6:25 "The mouth salivates when hungry, but also before vomiting" is something i heard once that I now constantly remind myself of, especially since I have ocd. Your body is just trying to prepare you, whether for protection or pleasure

[@BrickNewton]

If i feel like I am going to throw up Im ok if my mouth doesn't water, if it does its find the nearest receptical as its on its way up.

[@Lilian040210]

Also there's a difference between lubricating BEFORE because of desire and arousal and DURING because of the friction and pain

[@weatherman1504]

Wow, what a fucked up time to find this comment. Not even 12 hours ago I just had that latter experience. Our bodies do a lot of fucked up things without us meaning for them to, so to pretend we can always control them is also fucked up. Take it from very recent first hand experience.

[@kirstenwyatt9675]

Condom size is not a thing in the US. The "sizes" are like women's pants sizes. Lies that vary wildly from brand to brand. I was shocked , then "duh, makes sense" when I learned there were sizes that were measurable in other countries.

[@TheClick]

that sounds wild lol we got a lil ruler thing back in some sex-ed or something wayyy back in school, and has the name of the various sizes along the axis

[@johnnycovenant2286]

​@@TheClick holy crap dick rulers exist and they hand them out!? They need that and condom sizes in the us well that and sex education that isnt basically just abstinence and sti's...

[@denaemichele]

​@@TheClickThat is really interesting! I was so confused about the comments about measuring for size because we don't really have that in the US.

[@Othomqcpwr]

In Canada the diameter of the condom is written on the box so you can select the correct one, I would have assumed it's the same in the US because I'm pretty sure it's the same brands. However length is pretty much always the same no matter the ones you choose

[@denaemichele]

@Othomqcpwr I don't ever remember seeing that here, but to be fair, I also haven't bought condoms in several years. 🤷‍♀️

[@ianirwin9480]

"See this is why I f*** hate video games, they appeal to the male fantasy" Me mining diamonds for 6 hours straight:

[@luckyinky7849]

Me befriending some Pokemon and inviting them to a sandwich party : "damn, maybe I'm a man"

[@s.p.d.magentaranger1822]

​@@luckyinky7849Ah yes, fellow ScarVi player!

[@MythicMachina]

Me fighting monsters with an oversized magical key that can transform into guns wih the help of old cartoon characters

[@mommy2libras]

I'm currently 45 with an adult child and teen child. Several years back, my husband got me Fallout New Vegas and no one got a hot, homemade dinner for like a month.

[@kattkatt6961]

Me flying around in my massive mech while some banger opera music plays, blasting corporate dogs.

[@hollyward1838]

I’m so proud of that boy for getting over his anorexia! What an accomplishment!👏🏻

[@Gius_Valentine]

loved your positive thinking

[@Bilator929]

that falls into x makes you gay

[@randompasserbyer]

The "just-pressed olive oil" is actually misleading! The author herself explained her reasoning and the historical context of that line and it was actually really neat. The color is brown, btw. Brown with a very slight green tint, WHICH IS A NORMAL SKIN COLOR!! I have this skin tone during the summer! It was based off of TRADITIONAL olive presses, and the one in that photo is a modern, machine olive press.

[@DrachenGothik666]

The colour will also be different depending on the variety of the olives, too.

[@randompasserbyer]

@@DrachenGothik666 Exactly!! Brown olive will have a different color of olive oil than green olives!

[@Cookie0918]

Also, people commonly refer to the skin tone she's referring to as olive toned. I saw that line in the video and immediately looked to my left as I have a copy of the book next to me so that was pretty funny

[@GretchZ]

Yeah, I thought so, but honestly it’s a silly description. Especially in light of multi species and methods of pressing. Pressed, smashed, beaten, whatever machines do… I don’t know. It feels like someone searched up “things that are brown with a hint of green”.

[@randompasserbyer]

@@GretchZ She actually said how she was inspired after she saw traditional olive presses. In the historical and cultural context, this description isn't silly at all. It's not neon green, y'all are just mean. I frequently describe my skin tone as olive colored. I don't mean bright green and I don't mean pitch black. It's a real descriptor of skin color.

[@luniticarmor6843]

About men who say they're "too big" for protection, there's 3 responses 1. "That's too bad, then. It'd be too painful to do it at all" 2. "Ah, that's unfortunate. Protection is important to me, so i think we won't be a good fit." 3. (If AFAB) "I have some female condoms, then." Don't shame the man even if he's lying. Either double down so you're still protected, or don’t waste each others' time. If he just doesn’t like the way it feels, then perhaps you should reevaluate doing the deed with him. If you're AFAB with functioning reproductive organs, pregnancy is a risk. If you're *anybody,* then STDs are a massive risk that aren't worth the benefits. Stay safe!

[@Insertia_Nameia]

I keep male condoms on me when I know hook ups are a possibility. I keep a variety. If he has an issue, I don't leave with him.

[@k.v.7681]

A thing to consider is actual restrictions in the usage of condoms. As pointed out, condom sizes matter. So does material used. Some people are alergic to latex (the most common material used for condoms). There are alternatives, but they are awfully expensive and worst of all, very little known (female condoms being one of them, but that only helps the issue of size, not material or price...). Now that doesn't mean one should be at risk, protection is a necessity, safety a right. But the conversation needs to be a bit bigger than "you liar" or "boohoo you don't like how it feels". I don't wish anybody an alergic reaction around private parts, the boohoo would be pretty valid...

[@GretchZ]

The partner that will/May be penetrated during the naughties should keep condoms for their bodies as a backup. Maybe talk about which would be better with their partner?

[@rustyjones7908]

I have been told #1 was accurate for me. I generally assume they want to refuse sex without hurting my feelings.

[@luniticarmor6843]

@k.v.7681 very true. I will say, though, that I believe there should be more communication in that regard, even for a hookup. To simply say it wouldn't fit if you have an allergy, then it's a weird cop-out to choose imo. I'm not saying to shame regardless. It's merely a boundary that should be protected. If they're allergic to latex and you are very worried about any forms of protection, then it would be unfortunate for the both of you but also not negotiable unless there's an option you can compromise on.

[@Hail-the-hypnotoad]

As someone that works at a mental health facility it always blows my mind when people think men dont get trauma from being SAed by women or dont believe that men can be SAed at all i have to listen to a 50 year old man screaming in his sleep begging the woman that assaulted him to stop to get away from him to not touch him every night he literally has ptsd from years of SA by an older female family member it still effects him and it happened when he was a young kid

[@junrobin9335]

I lost a male friend to stuff like that cause the cops didn't even want to pick up the case he brought in. Pretty much pressured him into saying he was just too drunk to remember consenting but that he was into it. He wasn't into it. He withdrew from everyone and I watched him waste away cause I was too young to be of any help. I am so angry it was dismissed. Hell the woman that did it, never even got charged or anything and she's probably still hurting other people.

[@ferretqueen2908]

That's really sad. I was molested as a child but I can't imagine how much worse it would've been if no one took it seriously.

[@frankenfreakie]

39:13 the thing about brains ceasing development until 25 is actually outdated information, human brains continue to change and develop throughout the course of your entire life; growing continually as you age until eventually it begins to deteriorate - and it can deteriorate or have developmental issues for an extremely vast number of reasons!

[@Entropy_arts]

I was actually really scared because I have a lot of trauma and I worried if I didn’t get over it before then I’d be like this forever, thank you

[@AnonymousOnimous]

6:20 A helpful metaphor for this, "If you walk past a restaurant and smell the food, you're body might react. That doesn't make it okay for someone to come out and shove a hamburger down your throat." Similarly, if someone is forced or coerced to have sex, and their body responds, that never absolves the person who attacked them.

[@JoshSweetvale]

Anybody who wants to erode the definition of consent, on the books or in the head of their victim, is Evil. Nothing's Evil anymore these days. Another concept getting eroded.

[@kinorris1709]

Food really is the most effective way to explain concepts in a way that cannot be twisted by any reasonable person. I'll add to your comparison: even if they're hungry and actively looking for something to eat, that doesn't entitle you to force them to try your cooking.

[@GretchZ]

I keep kosher. Bacon smells delicious. If someone knew I kept kosher, heard me say “that smells tasty” then snuck it into my food I would be infuriated. “GREAT! Now I have to go to the mikveh and can’t take an aliah until the day after that! The mikveh is 3 hours away and I’ll need to find someone I can trust to observe and I can’t even afford it this month! Maybe not next! Do I just fast and make sure to say tachanun?!”

[@ryano.5149]

"Men don't experience emotions!" Bro, I cried on the train to work today because there was a particularly moving post about dogs in my Facebook feed!

[@justsomeguyinouterspace8623]

Smh you're clearly not a REAL man. A real man would have sat their with ZERO emotion on his face and shown no reaction to something as nonsensical as a Facebook post about dogs

[@rustyjones7908]

Men have three emotions: angry, horny, and poo.

[@lukeb1663]

They absolutely need to talk to anyone suffering from “shell shock” during/after WWI

[@lkx5257]

Idk if thats the first example u should come up with when the topic is mens emotions haha ​@@lukeb1663

[@enzoarayamorales7220]

Me who cried every time I listen to the dark side of the moon

[@eskarina1000]

I interpreted the STD testing comic as a comedic exaggeration of the real fact that men show external symptoms of STDs a lot more than women.

[@ryanbarclay7939]

Not always! Important fact, a certain percentage of the population can contract chlamydia without showing symptoms, but can still pass it to other people. You can also infect others with Herpes despite not having an obvious flare up.

[@kaylaHat]

I thought it was a "men aren't carful enough" joke

[@tomlxyz]

That means men are more likely to find positive positives but that doesn't mean that nothing being there means negative. And if someone doesn't know that the comic ends up misinforming

[@discordiacreates6669]

Any disease can and likely does have asymptomatic carriers though so that doesn't seem... All thaaat likely true. Though I have no clue what percent of people get tested for STDs outside of confirming when they're already showing obvious symptoms, but it wouldn't surprise me if one binary gender seems to skew one way based solely off of bias surrounding testing or admitting having such issues. Idk though, just my two cents of thought on the matter, but with my anxiety issues, doesn't matter what gender I am, if I even even slightly suspected or worried about that then I would get tested just to clear my mind and ik others probably don't have that opinion- I mean, some definitely don't, I was raised by a guy that believed hospitals are only for dying patients but most of my uncles luckily disagree with him

[@WL69420]

Same

[@robertcomtois2074]

Anorexia is actually quite common in males, Particularly those who participate in sports where there is a weigh in like boxing.

[@db_524]

5:24, 12:17, 19:39, 22:10, and 34:53 I’ve stressed this for years, men can be victims of abuse, fall for shady fitness scams, have body issues, and suffer from horrible things just like women can. As a woman and survivor of SH/SA myself, it a shame that male victims/survivors don’t get enough attention, support, and recognition as equally as female victims/survivors do. It needs to be less stigmatized and more accepting for men to show their vulnerability and strength of surviving adversity as it is for women to do the same.

[@sugoish9461]

This!! I (F) was abused by a female perpetrator. My dad was abused by my mom. These situations are never really talked about, and there is so much stigma surrounding it. Women and girls can be abusers! And their abuse is *just as serious* as a man or boy's. Men and boys can be victims of abuse. The abuse and impact it had on them is *_just_* as serious as on women and girls. To anyone who might have gone through something: You are NOT weak for being a victim. *_Someone else_* did that to you, it is *not* your personal failing. Experiencing trauma symptoms from it does not make you weak either. It is the natural human reaction to an "unnatural" event. You deserve support, you deserve care, and you deserve understanding.

[@N-Creator]

As a guy who has been SAed by multiple women, my personal point of view has always been "All people can be scary." It doesn't matter what gender anyone is, people have the ability to hurt others.

[@BlessAphrodite]

As another guy who has been SAed by a older woman, it's genuinely so upsetting seeing society go from not believing women's SA cases, to not believe *anyone's* SA cases, so fast. It hurts me knowing that practically no one gets the peace they deserve in this world.

[@limpfall13]

It’s this exactly. I have a comment someone made in a video that relates to this topic. (The video was about pointing out how a person brings up a issue like let’s say how men have higher sucidie rates and they bring it up only when it’s a topic about women’s suffering) Remember folks, Anyone who brings up legitimate issues like these in order to put down or shame someone for their legitimate issues, they do not actually care about what they are saying. Trauma and discrimination affects everyone, but you should NEVER use your own trauma to invalidate someone else's. (No I’m not saying anyone here is doing this I’m showing this to make people aware that everyone men women enbys trans people ect Can be victims of these issues. And also pointing out how it’s bad that some people try to use their own trauma or issues to push down someone else’s)

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

It's also worth noting that, as a man, you're far more likely to be the victim of SA than to be falsely accused of it. MRA types often fearmonger about false accusations, while overlooking the real problems men face. Yes, false accusations can happen, and are a terrible thing because they make it that much harder to prosecute actual cases. However, it doesn't help anyone to act like they're more common than and take precedence over men who are victims of abuse.

[@breegrimm7142]

Funny fact. I am a trans woman and currently, my T levels are so low they are within the margin of error of the test for not existing. So, by that one person's weird 'if you have testosterone you are male' determination, I am entirely a woman! Thanks for the affirmation you weird random accidental ally!

[@PippinFisherreed]

Eyy mine were too the last couple of blood tests! Not anymore though, but now I have blockers!

[@reptiqueen7275]

Welp I'm a cis woman who produces too much testosterone, so I guess I'm a man now.

[@crustydabbs]

And the best part is that… yes, testosterone IS a hormone. So this comment is cursed. 😂

[@AoKajii]

Lmao a win is a win 🙌

[@slimyboixd]

I'm afab and have never had hrt treatments and technically I don't know that I have high levels of testosterone but I build muscle mass faster than women I train alongside, I have to shave my face multiple times a week so I don't have a funky little stache (it is not very flattering on my face) and I constantly have acne regardless of how much I wash my face (though not nearly as bad as middle school thank goodness) So even going by the spirit of their argument, I am a man. Which is neat.

[@RabdoInternetGuy]

12:44 "Incapable of experiencing mental trauma" If that were true, PTSD Rates would be 3/4th less, and s*icide rates would be 2/3rd times less.

[@kattkatt6961]

Men are 12 times better at game ending themselves let's fucking gooooooo.

[@YourNightmarewashere]

@@kattkatt6961That’s not something to be fucking proud of

[@BarbieDreamDungeon]

​@@kattkatt6961This is not the time or place for that type of joke

[@pulvenberg1709]

That pissed me off so much.

[@Stonecold300]

​@@BarbieDreamDungeonit's sarcasm

[@matthewwriter9539]

Just because I am a guy, that doesn't mean I can't get excited when I don't want to. We have all heard the story of the high school freshman who is holdimg his text books or binder in front of his pants because his wizard just got his first immovable rod, and he doesn't know how to turn it off...

[@girl1213]

The person who put up "The Decline of White Masculinity" with the difference between the 1940s and 1980s and 2010s, has watched too many movies of modern men, who are paid actors, playing historical events. If you see the documentary films and photos of those time: those guys were *skinny* because of the Great Depression. Not all of them of course, but a good majority of them. Even if they gain muscle, it wasn't like they were buff enough to lift the front end of a truck, they were lean. Seriously, John Wayne would tell you that *he's* the odd one out when he went to visit returning WWII veterans, and that guy played a lot of WWII movie roles.

[@BagelEnjoyer]

As far as I recall, it was from a fetish story where white men slowly became more submissive and weak to stronger black men

[@thebadpoet]

I mean, the old Tarzan movies with Johnny Weissmuller (from the 1930s) are right there! He’s an excellent example of a super buff dude from that era. He was an Olympic swimmer who became an actor. He’s quite broad, and obviously strong and toned, but there’s none of the sort of glamour muscle definition we are used to seeing on modern actors!

[@DrachenGothik666]

And the well-fed ones in the movies back then were ever so slightly flabby with not much muscle definition & they were still held up as "buff". Take a look at William Shatner when he was in the original Star Trek: slight love handles & almost no real amount of muscle definition. Girls were still swooning over him. Same with Rock Hudson in any of his movies.

[@Mx.muffin]

Also, people back in the Great Depression were shorter since, well, malnourishment, so that guy was even more wrong.

[@alienmorality]

It's fetish art

[@Ariel_is_a_dreamer]

I was inspired by you and made a bingo for a family reunion. Stuff like "misgendering" "transphobia" "racism" "x fights with y", "I get jealous of x" I didn't get a bingo, it turned out to be pretty chill, I had more fun. Recommend to anyone with bad families.

[@missnaomi613]

Sounds good. I'm glad it went better than expected!

[@marcrecord3991]

Great recommendation just before Christmas, thanks!

[@RPWT_]

Its a shame I already told them im not spending christmas with them this year. But, ill do this for our next family dinner 😂

[@romyjane17]

If you have cool niblings, print a couple extra next time (but like real bingo shuffle the words around so you can battle who is the first to get a bingo)

[@Uraveragepotato25]

One of the times you don’t want to get a bingo

[@lizbarganz]

I love how Click is finally calling BS on sexism against men. Over time, I have grown to trust Click's ability to loquate why things are problematic, so when I saw this, I was like, "This is gonna be a nice change of pace." Once I started, I realized that I legit didn't know some of this, and that I held some uneducated sexist beliefs. It was uncomfortable to be called out, but Click still tried to laugh about it and explain why things were wrong, which eased the whole process. Thank you Click, for making this video. I'm a better person for having stayed.

[@MythicMachina]

You know, when people make videos like these, I always have the feeling that the people who really need to see them the most will never see them. But i'm glad to see that I'm wrong. Sure, a large majority of people who need to see it won't, but i'm glad to see that it managed to reach someone who did need it. What matters most is that we learn and grow from our experiences. I guarantee that a lot of us have had some pretty shitty views on things in one point in our lives. But we're human. We learn new things and we keep growing. So thanks for sticking around! Hopefully we can both keep learning things to help other people grow as well!

[@matthewdemarey4762]

And this right here is why I advocate so strongly for attempts to educate rather than shame those of us that hold these kinds of beliefs. It's much better to just sit down and talk than it is to shout insults across the aisle; literally no one benefits from that.

[@Valuepak]

Honestly W person

[@lizard3755]

That's awesome that you got to learn something new from this!

[@JamesNiteJK]

I was say actually a victim of sexual abuse as a child, started when I was about ten, went on for two years, my step sister would take advantage of my overly polite nature, as well as the fact that my father rarely listened to anything I said, and I could do anything, because I was a frightened and confused child,, all this after being born into a severely neglectful family of drug addicts, then going through five foster homes before being adopted by neglectful and physically abusive people, I'd sure like to think I've got some form of trauma.

[@K1kk1._]

Dude, are you ok now? That's horrifying

[@JamesNiteJK]

@@K1kk1._ oh yeah, im definitly doing better

[@K1kk1._]

@@JamesNiteJK ok glad to hear that

[@Redbeardian]

20:50 Translation : That lady's husband came home from working abroad for 6 months and she was 3 months pregnant ..... She panicked and said all that crazy swimming pool crap and never backed down.

[@naturebehindglass6512]

I was thinking (without knowing the background) that it might be a try to reduce honour killings by giving unmarried women and girls a logical explanation....

[@falleithani5411]

That is one of millions of plausible scenarios, so it has _at least_ a 0.0000001% chance of being true! I think it's more likely she just heard it from someone she sees as an authority figure, and because she trusted the source, she never tried to debunk it and just accepted it at face value. No drama required.

[@Zardox2]

This whole idea stems from WAY back in the old days... before indoor plumbing. The family would use 1 bathtub. Filled once, and maybe topped off after several uses... The Husband first, followed by Wife, then the children... 2 things from this point: First point - the soap is alkaline, and IS conducive to maintaining sperm if one of the male family members ejaculated in the bath water... making it a VERY SLIM possibility that a woman (who was at the EXACT right moment for conception) MIGHT be able to become pregnant if she bathed right after the male who ejaculated. "Possible", but not probable. Like, really not probable. Barely possible... but "technically" possible, nonetheless. Second point is: The term "don't throw the baby out with the bathwater". A phrase that meant the water would get so filthy that a small child could climb in, drown, and not be seen until the water was poured out. A saying that also reminded mothers to not leave small children in the bath unattended. So, anyway.... Small bits of trivia that I fully expect someone to use in a meme that is completely wrong, but will cite this comment as their scientific source. 😂

[@raerohan4241]

​@@falleithani5411 Yeah, it's _theoretically_ possible, but the odds are so low that it's practically impossible.

[@Wolfie54545]

Used to feel super mad when I watched r/badwomansanatomy. Watching this, I now understand people just don’t understand anatomy in general. The same people that think like bad women’s anatomy will most likely also think bad men’s anatomy.

[@Sonnenanbeterin1991]

But misogony also influenced badwomanatonomy too 😢

[@hmnhntr]

​@@Sonnenanbeterin1991And there was plenty of misandry in these posts

[@nobodythenobody9779]

@@hmnhntrget ready to be lectured on why it’s different and women have it worse

[@EvanNeedsTherapy]

@@nobodythenobody9779I mean, misandry exists and it’s bad don’t get me wrong, but misogyny is worse in the current world. There’s more structural oppression towards women and there’s data to support this. We should call out misogyny and misandry, but it should not make you feel bitter that misogyny is a more prominent issue at the moment.

[@nobodythenobody9779]

@@EvanNeedsTherapy what are you talking about ? Misandry is way worse because it’s accepted and in the laws, women have more rights and privileges than men

[@Just-Schizo]

About the sa post. I spent Years being ashamed and feeling disgusting that my body reacted in that way. I still struggle with it. It's an automatic physical response. It means Nothing if it reacted that way. It doesn't mean you liked it. It's natural and it's not proof of anything. Hearing you reinforce that is so so important. Thank you.

[@BlueSkyBirdies]

Thank you for sharing, you're very brave and I appreciate you. You're totally right too, people are more than just their bodies, and sometimes a person and their own body can be at odds with each other.

[@wisteria3032]

there are two kinds of people who insist on this kind of idiocy: 1) holier than thou preachers who have very obviously never been assaulted and think they could "resist" if it were to happen to them. (I would know, I used to think exactly like that. Then I finished middle school and I started using my brain.) While there are people who can actually "resist" thanks to a mix of asexuality and iron willpower they are so rare a case they are not even worth mentioning as an example. 2) (would be) rapists in need of a justification. It's like poking someone in the eye and then tell them it was ok because they closed their eyelid 😔

[@wintergray1221]

Just to clarify, asexuals still experience libido and those physiological reactions. We just don't feel attraction to people. My body responded to my CSA while my mind disassociated.@@wisteria3032

[@readyforlol]

Fun fact : EVEN IF men could control that (which they don’t), they eventually have what is called a ”maintenance erection” if they go long enough without any sexual stimuli. It’s thought it just happens as a way for the body to maintain the ”plumbing” down there in a functional state for the next time it’ll matter. So yes, men literally spring boners with literally no cause for excitement. It should never be used as a sign of consent. It can even happen when asleep and no, you can’t even use that to determine whether they’re having a wet dream because it’s literally completely random.

[@TRaWi]

Most sadly, a great number of perpetrators know how to extract a response from our bodies despite our will because using our own biology to humiliate us even further enhances their power trip. So, if our bodies react like that maybe it's not even only a mechanical reflex but actually yet another way in which we were subjected. Besides, even in not sexual contexts, some people can unwillingly climax simply because they are frightened out of their wits. Hush now, dear person, it was not your fault, you didn't want it, you didn't like it, you are not disgusting, you are brave and strong.

[@M1styGD]

Woman: men with skin are unsanitary Me: ok *rips of skin revealing muscular system*

[@JoshSweetvale]

~I don't wanna rock~DJ~

[@jetscorner]

The ideal man 😍😍

[@dungquoc8552]

Ah yes, the man of every woman's dream, the colossal titan

[@kitsunemusicisfire]

The Click intentionally traumatizing us so we'll buy his emotional support demon plush is a genius business maneuver.

[@MsMeffie]

To be fair, he's earned it, because before traumatising us, he's also intentionally traumatising himself. That's dedication.^^

[@MoonLilyStudios2]

The thing about the first condom thing. There are cases of men saying they can't use condoms, so they can just rawdog cause it's supposedly more pleasurable. Despite that being more dangerous for everyone involved (more on the woman cause of pregnancy). Yes find a condom that fits and use it. Don't use it as an excuse just to rawdog.

[@Listrynne]

Did you notice he spelled it "COMDOM FACTS"? 😂 But yes, I agree with you.

[@MoonLilyStudios2]

Oh, it is that's funny😂

[@emilyjohn2034]

Ya I think it took it to literally, and ignored that she was telling a guy who tried to convince her he simply couldn’t wear condoms that he needs to not make excuses. A lot of men try to guilt woman into not wearing a condom and it’s a real issue

[@pineapplefrostyfruits9225]

If the condoms you have do not fit comfortably/are tight and restrictive, that is an excuse to buy your own condoms and bring them. No one with a penis is so big that they will not fit in at least ONE size of condom comfortably, at least not if they should/can be having sex.

[@justaperson4656]

​@@ListrynneI think that's to avoid demonetisation tbh

[@sunshine-dz6xj]

I'm convinced that people who say "less than 25 cm is small" just never had sex

[@rustyjones7908]

Probably also think under 187cm is short and making less than 90.000 euros a year is poor.

[@BlooMonkiMan]

More like they watch too much pr0n

[@ines1084]

I never had, but just imagining putting something 25 cm or more in me makes me go ick. No thanks (i am aro ace so there is that)

[@mystupidlife123]

**Insert American math here** WTF that's like a foot

[@rustyjones7908]

@@mystupidlife123 it's a concept called "hoeflation". Basically, when an unattractive women takes advantage of a drunk high status man for a night she thinks that's what she's worth.

[@Schellynara]

I love that you cover both sides and sometimes minoritys. I feel like the internet slowly parts people because people only see what their algorithmen shows them. For a long time I mostly saw creepy and misogynistic stuff against woman and like really toxic tips for men who were really eating it up in the comments, fighting with woman about.. idk woman. But watching your videos I realized it is not only one sided, there are men out there with propably the same stuff recommended to them but against men. Instagram comments are full of this gender war shit and I think it would help to try and see the other side to understand each other. Everyone gets fired up and is so against each other and it is so sad. Thank you for your work, even tho it's supposed to entertain people I think it is also very educating.

[@midnightpebble4377]

The fact that I learned more about my own anatomy and others through a Click video and NOT a SCHOOL is crazy to me. Thank you click, for educating our youth

[@ruzi.the.spider]

Seriously? What country are you from if I might ask..

[@midnightpebble4377]

@ruzi.the.spider I'm mexican, but I moved to the US when I was 7.

[@hydriusp.2485]

​@@midnightpebble4377 I also have the American education never got sex education 😢

[@hydriusp.2485]

Lucked out by hating the physics teacher so much I hoped to physiology and Anatomy we didn't cover much, but it was a few words more than the rest of my grade

[@midnightpebble4377]

@hydriusp.2485 bro same here. When I was supposed to get Sex Ed. The pandemic hit💀

[@dudewhatthewhat8983]

19:47 I love how “becoming his own superhero” fits with the captain America T-shirt. Wish this dude all the happiness, in glad he is in a better place.

[@justaperson4656]

He really looks like a young cap too in that shirt

[@DBAWFUL]

I always am confused by guys who think sperm are just tiny babies and that the woman just is an incubation chamber

[@w.reidripley1968]

Was it da Vinci's drawing that looked like that? Uh, fellas, you _do_ know he flourished circa 1515, right...?

[@AJPemberton]

It is not an uncommon pre-scientific myth. There IS some logic to it: women can't get pregnant without a man. Everyone knows plants don't grow unless you plant a seed. So the leap of 'logic' follows: men are planting a seed into the 'fertile' ground of the woman's womb, and she incubates it into a baby. Or is your confusion more to do with how anyone in today's world can still be ignorant of such basic biology as to believe such outdated thoughts?

[@jasonrr9817]

Fun fact, that was a thing in ancient Greece, at least mythology. Athena came from zeus' head so mom not needed so mom and baby aren't related. Ergo matricide was not the more serious murder involving a relative.

[@Swaxol]

@@jasonrr9817Didn't Zeus eat Athenas Mom? After he turned her into a fly?

[@jasonrr9817]

@Swaxol I don't remember, I just remember that was the successful defense in a matricide case in another myth

[@imalittlerat]

as an American, "don't use freedom units" had me DYING

[@vanillakittie]

ca caww 🦅

[@kiterafrey]

Great example of the body responding: If someone tickles you, you will probably laugh even if you are not enjoying being tickled. --- so any part of the body can respond to touch, even unwanted touch.

[@kyze8284]

Oh man the condom one. There was a guy in class after the teacher did the condom demonstration with her arm “if he says he’s too big, run” and he just without looking up says “just because it CAN fit doesn’t mean it’s comfortable or healthy. Ever worn socks that are too small and too tight? That is the difference between getting poked on the arm and poked in the eye.”

[@norielgames4765]

Smart guy. Explained it in simple terms anyone could understand.

[@solarissv777]

And I found out in a hard way: I failed to perform with my first girl ever, and possibly got dumped because of that. For several months I was kinda anxious if I have an erection issues, and was even considering going to a doctor. Than, when I had my second one, she also noticed my problem, but suggested that it can be caused by the condom size, because everything was fine until I put it on. Indeed, after I started using the large size (had to order online) the problem was gone.

[@grenade8572]

@@solarissv777 My brother, who's very extraverted, told the family how his parts go down when he wears condoms in latex. So, he has to use latex-free ones. I don't know how he can tell something so intimate without dying... I could never.x)

[@solarissv777]

@@grenade8572 funny thing, the condoms I ended up ordering online (for some reason it is hard to find large size ones in my city) are also latex free.

[@thecolorjune]

Yeah. If they say “this condom is too small for me, we need to find a different one or an alternative form of protection, or we cannot have sexy time” that is totally valid. ✅ If you say “noooo all condoms are too small, let’s just have sexy time with no protection at all” then that’s the red flag. 🚩

[@catsandclassics]

"Men don't experience fatshaming!" **proceeds to fatshame men**

[@Xx_AutisticKid_xX]

"Men are incapable of experiencing mental trauma" Every heard of a little anime called "Berserk"?

[@SingingSealRiana]

Or even Just, ptsd IS treated Like a Vet only illness . . . .wtf IS ptsd supposed to BE If Not Trauma?! ITS the exact Same people WHO will argued a Woman cant have ptsd unless she was in war cause IT IS so throughfully Brandes AS and afriction for men coming Home from war

[@jokerofspades-xt3bs]

Oh boy I would love to see how that person reacts to Hunter X Hunter

[@valeriaromero1471]

Bro I was not expecting this comment but yes, I want to see the reaction

[@GretchZ]

Watching it will give mental trauma! At a certain point I forgot the pilot (somehow) and all the seemingly-random supernatural stuff was increasingly weird and then the eclipse happened and I had to lie down for days.

[@GretchZ]

…but that anime rules. I recommend it often, but for how amazing my experience was, I always recommend skipping episode one until after the rest.

[@Fruityflootloops]

19:56 thank you for not blurring or censoring Anorexia. As someone both in recovery and the advocacy area of the field it drives me nuts when people just ALWAYS censor it. It’s actually not good for those suffering or in recovery to treat it like a dirty word or for anyone to.

[@annokya5154]

To be fair if someone censors it, it’s usually not their fault. Platforms like KZbin and TikTok love demonetising and banning people for everything under the sun. If people have to censor swears or say ‘unalive’ instead of ‘kill’ to be seen on the platform and/or make money, they’re probably not gonna say ‘anorexia’ either.

[@aaaah540]

Maybe they only censor it because otherwise, KZbin will demonetize them.

[@thebuilder5271]

@@aaaah540damn true

[@TenkoshimuraAkashigaraki]

@@aaaah540 that's exactly right, youtube doesn't like the word-

[@bendingdemon6483]

KZbin often makes people censor otherwise perfectly fine words, like Anorexia, Corona (even when talking about the drink or even the bean, yes there is a corona bean), and lots more, especially if it's about health because they don't want people spreading misinformation so they make everyone censor it (some creators can get away with more depending on who they mark their audience as, Click is mostly older teens and young adults so he can get away with almost swearing and a lot of other stuff)

[@Starstruck_moon]

Even as a girl, I can say that I get way to many ads targeted at men saying “oh your not super buff like me? Well then your fat and should use this ice cube hack” I hate them and they are so harmful for any gender who happened to see it :(

[@extazy9944]

as a boy i get ads targeted at women

[@cryochick9044]

​@@extazy9944my ads are wild I assume it's a side effect of watching minecraft videos (scicraft and similar. Not stuff typically meant for kids by viture of being confusing. KZbin doesn't know that) then also watching lgbt content. People like click and many other random things

[@red_phoenix0570]

Honestly though most of us are just used to them. We know they intend to rile us up or prey on people's insecurities. It's usually not anything worse than what weve heard irl lol

[@AgentLadyHawkeye]

The funny thing about the "white masculinity is disappearing" one is that not only are people generally taller than in the past but it also seems to posit that women will be getting bigger and buffer. Like some kind of "only one gender can be big and strong!"

[@okeirany7652]

Oh no, the even funnier thing is that a lot of the people posting it unironically treat it like evidence for the Great Replacement Theory (White supremacist theory that immigration is secretly being done to have non-White people 'breed White people out of existence'), when the graphic is entirely fictional because it was made for (IIRC) a Tumblr fetish blog

[@KingOfFools784]

If I remember correctly from a community note on the bird website (screw that self-obsessed billionaire) that graphic is a fetish thing

[@jimmcneal5292]

That image is from some fetish group(probably cuck/feminization one, considering that r*сe is mentioned probably bbс cuck one). Ironically, recent study about grip strength showed that european men are averagely significantly stronger than men of other backgrounds

[@Claddaugh66]

Oh yeah i heard this from a professor in university too. She stated, that women where smaller back then, because they got fewer nutritious food than men and now it adjusts. Sadly she didn't specify or gave any source reference.

[@girl1213]

@@Claddaugh66 She's not necessarily wrong when you look at the google searches, but that requires further investigation. Still just on the basis of sex education and biology women tend to be smaller as they grow up on average. There's like a small window where they are on average taller than boys during this growing up stage, but the one thing that always stuck with me was the *"But not always"* reiterating statement. It really just means you can't expect things to be what you think they are all the time. Things are always in flux because humans, as a species, evolve. We're not stagnate. We change over time. And that's threatening to people with a lot of pride and who put self-importance in looks. And the poster of "white masculinity is disappearing" really is just a prideful person who is scared of losing what gives him pride: looks.

[@therealfriday13th]

...I've seen a lot of misandry on the internet, but I don't think I've seen anything on the level of "men can't suffer mental trauma just like they can't be generous".

[@PhantomGato-v-]

Some of them literally invoke the bible then forget Jesus existed lol

[@Niccy26]

Absolutely atrocious. I was absolutely aghast at that

[@blueStarKitt7924]

​@@PhantomGato-v-😂

[@blueStarKitt7924]

​@@Niccy26Yes, disgusting.🤮

[@marzipancutter8144]

Wouldn't that be cool. Just by being male you get full immunity to psychic damage in D&D.

[@sketchiscribblr8285]

So, this is anecdotal, but I remember when I was in highschool, a couple of my friends had brothers on the school wrestling team. I was taking a dietetics class and before we got into the unit about getting food prep certified, we had a unit on eating disorders and what some of them can look like. I remember having the realization in 10th grade that one of those brothers was purging frequently because he needed to be a certain weight for competition. It was really eye opening for me that he was going through that sort of thing, as the unit on eating disorders used mostly imagery of girls and women when it had any sort of stock photo or diagram.

[@susannairisastarte5192]

Good point

[@alexw.7097]

Oh yeah, the shit I've heard about how people have to eat in order to be in a particular weight class is *insane.* And yes, having such an inconsistent relationship with food under a LOT of pressure can absolutely give someone an eating disorder!

[@Insertia_Nameia]

It's unfortunately pretty common. They won't just purge but they'll intentionally dehydrate themselves. Not only does that eliminate a LOT of water weight, it's actually how you get that cut look. Even body builders using gear (that word is used because it's more than just roads being used,) don't get that look without seriously dehydrating themsleves and other unhealthy means. If it's done in a healthy way (or healthier, would be a better way to put it,) they're still jacked and big but don't have that cut qnd chisled look. You can really tell when you look at body builders (and professional athletes in gneral,) that actually are careful and consciousness about their health vs the ones that do many unhealthy things in order to meet certain weights or get a certain look.

[@raerohan4241]

​@@Insertia_Nameia Yeah, body builders will do an absolutely insane (and very unhealthy) type of fasting starting a few days before their competition in order to define those muscles. Male actors too, depending. Muscles are not normally so defined otherwise, and depending on how that person's body distributes body fat, an ignorant person may not realise the muscle is there at all

[@Insertia_Nameia]

@@raerohan4241 people think body builders are peak examples of "healthy" when they're not. Even if they do it in pretty healthy ways, their workouts tend to be hard on their joints and they are actually at an increased risk for several heart conditions that can lead to an increase chance of heart failure. (Such as an enlarged heart. I was born with this and while it pretty much went away on its own when I was two, over the last few yrs it's been coming back and has causes 2 heart attacks and chronic health issues and it's really not that bad compared to not only when I was born but compared to what body builders get, even without the use of gear. I can tell you it is no fun.)

[@haileywright04]

The dude who had anorexia tho! Literally mind blowing as fuck! Nothing but praise for that guy, way to fucking go!🎉

[@derpy6945]

My thoughts exactly!! Hope he's still doing well!

[@Cage-CatYT]

I'm so happy that his recovery is going well!! Wish nothing the best for him and anyone else with EDs on their path of recovery

[@SerialDesignation-L_heheh]

As a transguy I get to experience both bad womens anatomy AND bad mens anatomy! Best of both worlds lmao

[@neurodivergentlyblog8882]

Equality! Men and women can BOTH be sexist. So can enby people. Anyone can be sexist, *regardless* of gender!

[@BagelEnjoyer]

SEX

[@ferretqueen2908]

What's sad is that needs to be said in general

[@db_524]

@@ferretqueen2908 Yeah

[@Mx.muffin]

Hate is not stored in the gender

[@SilverAceOfSpades]

​@@Mx.muffin Some people's hate is stored in others' genders unfortunately.

[@myl8689]

as a trans woman, i am suddenly quite happy about being born in august.

[@EvanNeedsTherapy]

As a trans man, ditto but for December. Gender euphoria is so weird lmao

[@crypticlol]

you yeah, you you will never be a man and don't let anyone else say otherwise (is that how accidental allies do it?)

[@maxxie_the_queer]

same but as a trans man born in october lol

[@sylvanna2503]

Same girl

[@SQUELCH-zj7il]

I think August is the best time to have a birthday. Smack bang in the summer 🌞 with good weather. Lots of activities to do etc. vibes

[@daawesomeman2859]

I want an r/badanatomy. Not based on sex, just general anatomy that people get wrong

[@PhantomGato-v-]

R/badanatomy is just every artist starting out and then me who's been drawing for 8 years but still can't draw anatomy

[@Vexxy197]

@@PhantomGato-v-FUCKING HANDS AAAAAAA

[@tomlxyz]

People aren't that obsessed about general anatomy to create many strong opinion pieces. If you want strong non gender based bad anatomy you'll just get into other bad territories like racist opinions

[@sporkler]

@@Vexxy197 as someone who draws casually as a hobby, i can feel this in my soul

[@ajs787]

@@Vexxy197 At least you'll never be as bad at hands as AI today.

[@Jesus__]

38:25 Fun fact: The German Word for nut (as in the Things that go onto screws) is Mutter, wich seems to be the same in swedish. Mutter in German means Mother🙌

[@jwideuluisinaein]

yup, mutter in swedish

[@ferretqueen2908]

Men have...radiation from their eyes that can give women cancer? Man:*stares at hot pocket* Hot pocket:*cooked instantly* Yay

[@barrylangille3523]

Does it have to be a female hot pocket?

[@desirosethorne4429]

​@@barrylangille3523 I mean, all females are hot pockets technically. We got holes that are warm and you can stuff things inside them. :D

[@ferretqueen2908]

@@barrylangille3523 idk, does radiation have a gender preference?

[@barrylangille3523]

@@ferretqueen2908 this is the great question at the end of scientific research

[@JoshSweetvale]

Men are from Krypton.

[@ms.annthropic6341]

23:44 I was a makeup artist for years and I used to say essentially this exact thing to (mostly) women all the time. They’d come in comparing themselves to celebrities and influencers and feel so bad about themselves for not looking like them and I’d tell them “It’s literally this persons JOB to look beautiful! Imagine if all the time you spent working was spent making sure you look good? And that half the other stuff in your life was taken care of by other people, like cooking/running errands/etc, so you could spend that time focusing on looking good. I’d bet you’d look pretty amazing, right??” People really do need to keep that kind of thing in mind before they compare themselves to other people, we’re all coming from a different starting point and running down a different course with different hurdles and things, it makes total sense that you’re not neck-and-neck with everybody else, it doesn’t mean you’re just terrible by comparison.

[@mipsan]

as a cis woman, I'm happy too see the sexism bingo for men too. Click is so inclusive and wholesome. Also next we need this bingo for other genders too, I bet there's a whole lot of weird content there.

[@PhantomGato-v-]

I fear badnbanatomy

[@db_524]

I 100% agree with you, fellow cis woman.

[@nio804]

​@@PhantomGato-v-I read that as badbananatomy

[@trishapellis]

Not even genders, sexualities too. Did you know that if a woman has periods she can't be a lesbian

[@missnaomi613]

@@nio804 lots of banana shaming?

[@helianabanes4875]

The truth about the body responding whether willing or not, is so so so hard to deal with. For both men, women, AND just ANYBODY that has been through an assault. Can you imagine the shame, and confusion that causes?? It is already terrible, without people, like that woman with all the opinions, telling us it doesn't QUALIFY as assault if there is a natural bodily response. This literally makes me RAGE!!!

[@CircusFoxxo]

I love that one Captain America comic panel. It happened because Rob Liefeld traced a picture of a body builder having his torso turned like 3/4 towards the POV, then tried to draw Cap over it in profile. If you look at his torso it's twisted towards the POV but the rest of his body looks like it should be facing to the right.

[@HarukoHoshiko]

said body builder was Arnold himself, and yeah, Arnold was facing in profile, not turned to the side, the shield doesn't help the picture either. ~

[@awfuldynne]

Schwarzenegger (the body builder in question) was also flexing, which contributes to Cap looking weird in what is ostensibly a (relatively relaxed) standing pose.

[@HarukoHoshiko]

@@awfuldynne truth ~

[@Thorium_Th]

47:28 Hate to be the party pooper but there is an undeveloped uterus in men. It's called prostatic utricle: _"It is a normal anatomic variant representing the remnant of the fused caudal ends of the Müllerian ducts, and thus is the homolog of the female vagina and uterine cervix."_ It's the same with men having nipples or women having a clitoris. We're all the same blue print. Everyone of us has everyone else's organs even if they're tiny and undeveloped. So that anime girl was right ^^

[@reptiqueen7275]

Thank you for the information, but I hate this

[@DrachenGothik666]

@@reptiqueen7275 Why? It's just anatomy.

[@a-goblin]

pretty sure it's a porn comic & she's only incidentally somewhat correct as the utricle is from the same mullerian duct tissue that becomes parts of the uterus, but it's not an undeveloped uterus or undeveloped at all.

[@JoshSweetvale]

Oh it's even better than that. We're all the *female* blueprint. Every male vertebrate and insect is a mutant. Guess we're a useful mutation 'cuz two-gender reproduction is older than fish.

[@jwideuluisinaein]

biology is so interesting

[@ez6826]

Click: "You smell absolutely astounding today and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise" Me, 40 mins into leg day sweating literal buckets killing all living beings in a 20km radius, knocking bugs out of the air, wilting the plants on my windows: aw

[@parsawhatdoyoucare5138]

I laughed out loud when i read your Comment and My cousin Looked at me like i was a Schizophrenic💀

[@papads-chan5119]

7:00 this is so funny, some people REALLY skipped biology classes in school, BUT fun fact (i'm not saying it is common, and men pls don't do this) my Ex did EXACTLY THAT. I asked him if he had anything, he said he'd check, and told me he was negative. After the fluffy wuffy he said something on the lines of "oh well, its nice i didn't have to do any medical exams". I never got so confused but suddenly realising and being so scared in my life. Thankfully he indeed had nothing, but damm that really pissed me off lmfao

[@rydermcallister5952]

The really bad thing about the "women can't controll their body weight but men can just choose to loose it" is that it is not only invalidating men's experiences but also justifying them.

[@cleoldbagtraallsorts3380]

Weight loss is possible for both men and women, but women store fat more efficiently, find it harder to lose, will die at 4% body fat ( men can survive until they hit 2% body fat ) so there are differences. There are also racial differences in fat storage, Europeans and Africans store fat more efficiently than Asians. Transwomen usually find they gain weight on oestrogen and often find they cannot lose it, Blaire White and others have spoken about this. But lots of people of both sexes that are overweight are often depressed or suffering from health issues or disabilities that contribute to weight gain or medications that cause weight gain.

[@JoshSweetvale]

Men are robots. We never rest, never falter. We can run *forever.*

[@Comfortabledoug611]

8:56 IM NOT EVEN A BIOLOGICAL GUY AND I STILL FELT THIS PAIN IN MY NONEXISTENT BALLS HELP

[@Aldurtz]

As someone who is studying to be certified as a sex educator these videos always make me pause for a second to scream at a pillow

[@Tog_the_Kind]

You have my condolences for what awaits you once you become certified 😔

[@BlueTressym]

Keep going; you're needed desperately!

[@missnaomi613]

Thank you! We need more competent educators for this topic!

[@hopelessgeek3776]

First, thank you for doing this very important career path. Second, I had to giggle a little when you wrote that you are screaming at a pillow😂 I just imagined you not even bothering to muffle your voice and scream Click-style at a pillow; wonderful mental image.

[@samtheultimateinformant537]

With all the misinformation going around about anatomy you are practically an essential worker, I wish you a lot of patience for the people you will be educating

[@aicesnow3070]

32:30 that's called girl inches, its a side effect of measurements being totally arbitrary and so you can't measure stuff with your eyes, and because none of these people listened in math class long enough to know how to read a ruler, that's their frame of reference

[@christinedeshano2872]

I love that you did this one. Men have absolutely no control over what their member chooses to do any more than women do.

[@erdnuzz8368]

When the most non-woke person says "Stay woke" - you know where the bad reputation for the word "woke" comes from...

[@augustuslunasol10thapostle]

It comes from conservatives

[@sebastiant4597]

Didn't that women actually just admit that her vegan boyfriend pees in/on her or did she just miss out his vasectomy?

[@Lilian040210]

At that point it couldn't be any more obviously sarcasm. Yes, coming from a fash, but sarcasm. Either that or a really pathetic attempt at posing

[@andpeg]

@@augustuslunasol10thapostleNo, it doesn’t lol.

[@captain_khaos]

@@andpegi mean i have never seen any progressive person use the word woke unironically since like 2015 lmfao

[@Chocobo0Scribe]

“His skin was the color of just pressed olives” omg that made me burst out laughing

[@UrbanAmazon83]

Click's suggestion that he would be ill made me laugh, but not as much as the voice in my head saying "Shrek. He'd be Shrek"

[@Chocobo0Scribe]

Or the grinch

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

Or Slimer

[@risktaker1300]

Or Kif (from Futurama)

[@Wind_116]

He’s obviously Shrek‘s brother

[@DoodledDinos]

"In centimeters, please, don't use freedom units." OMFG I AM DYING

[@charminharlan9081]

As a pansexual trans man, I always love watching your videos because they feel so comfy and safe :) knowing you’re so supportive of the lgbtq+ community makes it 10x better. Just wanted to let you know that you’re appreciated!

[@shinymainespoon]

Out of curiosity, what is your masculine name, if you have one? I think you could do a power move with Peter Pan(sexual)

[@lethfuil]

​@@shinymainespoon Are you asking a stranger on the internet for their real name? AND assume that trans people all have some sort of glamour pun name, instead of just a name like everyone else?

[@PhnxKap]

🤓​@@lethfuil

[@jamielee7404]

@@shinymainespoon wtf is wrong with you? Trans people are not exotic dancers and lose that condescending tone. Trans people don't have a masculine name. They have A name. The name they got assigned at birth is called a dead name for a reason. "Hi, I'm here for a job interview, my name is Peter Pan" 🤣wtf

[@ox_why]

​@@lethfuilmy dude... We love puns Yea sure a *normal* name is great and all but why would you do that when you can pick something fun *The amount of I know that named themselves after random ass nouns*

[@MphoenixE]

I met a wife who abused her husband and said he didn't have emotions so she can abuse him. She was surprised when he contradicted her

[@3llevate]

As a metoo person.. I can say that I've had my body "respond" to being "touched" by a stranger in a passive situation (non violent but threatening) and it still gives me nausea every time i think about it.. my brain can't reconcile these two different feelings happening at the same time but it does happen.. it's traumatic on a whole other level.

[@Valuepak]

Had a similar experience, the parasympathetic nervous system increases heart rate and relaxes blood vessels, making a flight or fight "reaction" down there possible

[@3llevate]

@@Valuepak It's a crazy phenomenon, it's like wires get crossed

[@GretchZ]

As a woman with a pp, I can say that fear 🧱 ups are a thing regardless of cause of fear. It’s always uncomfortable, and clearly causes problems. HRT has reduced that, but…

[@Sean.Tid23art]

HEY, CLICK! My mom says "What does that have to do with the price of tea in China?" Instead of "what does that have to do with anything?"

[@Ares_V]

49:49 I'm not confused. I AM GAY but I identify with this SO HARD. I used to think I was bi, no matter what I wear (which shouldn't matter) I'm perceived as straight. People say I walk or talk "too straight", I don't have the "gay voice" etc. I started doing drag, I sometimes wear makeup, 2/3 of my jewelry are from the women's section. I shop clothes both at men's and women's sections. I am open about my sexuality. Damn it I switched from wearing nothing but black to fun colors. I am a man, not questioning gender, I'm not saying that stuff is stereotypically gay. I wear what I want when I want but I admit I've felt pressured to "look gayer". The problem is that if I say I'm gay people often don't believe me, if I say I'm bi then everyone accepts it as a fact. The worst part is that I'm a bottom, I attract gay men but they are usually disappointed because I won't top them. Thank God for Grindr where you don't need to guess much but still

[@Lastofthesigilites]

How you considered getting a shirt that says "Bottom"?

[@Ares_V]

@@Lastofthesigilites I've considered a tattoo but I'm too broke for that 😅

[@margaretconnor5623]

@@Ares_V Oooh maybe like a bracelet with beads that spells bottom? Something like that? Cheaper but still useful and visible. As a bi woman I've considered wearing obviously gay things because flirting with girls AS A GIRL is fucking hard. When we flirt, they just take it as a compliment between girls cause it girl culture for straight girls to say things like 'you're really pretty' or 'you're so cute' without it being gay so when I say it trying to flirt they're just like 'oh thanks! You too!' and then they move on and I'm like 'no, I'm trying to be gay....damn it'. The struggle is real out here. I should just wear the bi flag as a cape at all times, maybe then it'll be obvious enough lol

[@CalebTheOwlBoy]

Yeah man there's nothing wrong with you. People are just stupid. I relate to people wanting to force and project bisexuality on you. Some folks I've met do that. I think it's casual homophobia; they'd like to erase us and our gayness and pretend it doesn't exist Imagining that we're half-heterosexual (bi) is more digestible for those dumb fuck Keep being you, man.

[@kyokoyumi]

Bro I feel you lmao