Re-Parenting - Part 18 - Resilience

*****
GET STARTED With a FREE Preview to our 12 Basic Needs Course: bit.ly/3UQcWeq
Website: bit.ly/3ybk8Jf
Do You Have Complex Trauma? Take the QUIZ: bit.ly/3QGbzMV
*****
Children are naturally resilient; it is something that must be taught to them. Children from Complex Trauma learn to survive, but are not resilient. Complex Trauma creates a sense of helplessness and hopelessness. Re-parenting involves learning resilience today. Learn how that is done.
Try a FREE Preview of One of Our Online Courses: bit.ly/3UQcWeq
*****
Become a Member!
Access ALL our Courses, Webinars, 1:1 Coaching, Group Coaching & Online Communities: bit.ly/3QIpDWf
Understand the Development of Complex Trauma in Your Life
Online Course: 12 Basic Needs
bit.ly/3UQcWeq
Discover how Addictions are Formed and Find Healthy Ways to Cope
Online Course: Addictions + Complex Trauma
bit.ly/4bbUYsL
Learn How to Parent Yourself and a Child with Complex Trauma
Online Course: Parent Bootcamp
bit.ly/44RpLJ7
Are You Ready to Begin YOUR Healing Journey? Inquire TODAY: bit.ly/3wE68at
Ready to Dig Deep and Learn Tools to Recover From the Negative Effects of Complex Trauma?
Online Course: LIFT Online Learning
bit.ly/4bwZ26I

[@KatWoodland]

This is soooo good. Thank you. At 60 I am healing from THREE relationships in which I was abused by a pathological narcissist. Root cause? A pathologically narcissistic mother. Yes. I am 60 and beginning my life anew. It can be done! I am healing. And it’s true. What doesn’t destroy you does make you stronger . . . with the help of these videos and by the grace of God I am healing!!!!

[@daceschlentz4956]

I can't thank you enough Tim - this series has changed my life.

[@dnk4559]

This series is helping me be more patient with myself and the healing process. I feel much more able to acknowledge the needs of my inner child. Thank you Tim!

[@sarahlowe5387]

This is what I did wrong I was persevering and enduring instead of resilience. Thank God for you, thank you for sharing the light.

[@tearthangel373]

Without Trust there is No Intimacy

[@jessicamorales2555]

this education is so important. It is a shame we did not get it when we were children, but even now, still extremely useful. Thank you!!!!

[@lovelyrainflowerfarm]

‘A child does not learn resilience unless they have at least 1 positive adult support.’ THIS is what I’ve been sayingggggggg. Sometimes therapists try to convince you that you can develop resilience without connection to another human being. Not possible. I wish I could talk to somebody like Tim who really knows what they’re talking about when it comes to trauma. Because some of the things I’ve intuited and observed, do not make sense to other people.

[@Augfordpdoggie]

I love your channel. this is my biggest struggle. even at 50 i still get frustrated by small things

[@veronsin7194]

Thanks Tim. You are changing the world one video view at a time - the unpacking and affirmation you give in your every talk has helped me tonnes.

[@lovelyrainflowerfarm]

THANK YOU!!! That’s what I’ve been saying for the longest time. Just because I lived through horrific things doesn’t make me resilient. I survive, but it’s not because I want to. I haven’t been taught resilience.

[@susanbaker4145]

Thank you so much for this reparenting series Tim.

[@nishanacht]

Excellent breakdown. Ty 💖✨

[@tearthangel373]

Hurt people hurt people

[@temmellese6730]

Another home run of a video. Such good content. God bless you.

[@tearthangel373]

I like your purple shirt Tim

[@behnooshazizi926]

Thank you for your wisdom , teaching

[@kgt9925]

That was amazing!

[@peggywereta3074]

Thank you so much .

[@exuberanttarot]

Thanks 😊

[@meb3153]

Thanks!

[@aprilthomas1489]

A lot of this sounds great except for the assumption that adults have support. How do we build resilience as adults if we don't have support?

[@scottgrace]

Reach out and get support. Period. You may want to start with a 12 step group. They are free, and often meet on Zoom.

[@cynthiacoutu3782]

What kind of support do you need ? Because if you are joinning a thérapie group you will find that. If you get a coach you will find support. You can get support with friends, family, people at work. But most of all, you need to be your first support, be your best friend is supporting your ownself ! ❤

[@tonytor9612]

Great question

[@KatWoodland]

That’s the challenge my friend.

[@soundimpact4633]

Sometimes that support is not just mental emotional support... At later stages in life there is a certain requirement or need for physical support, as in just being a helping hand and that is difficult unless you're hiring everything done.

[@tearthangel373]

Happy Resurrection Sunday Tim and Thank you

[@catherinewilson1079]

The only time I have been able to use a new tool to deal with a challenging situation was after I had been doing daily meditation for a couple of months.

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

Are parts 15, 16 and 17 going to be uploaded as well? LE: it may be that they're already uploaded but missing from the Re-Parenting playlist.

[@tearthangel373]

Until you walk in someone’s shoes you don’t judge

[@Exodus26.13Pi]

I knew better and was able to judge and fix each person's problem like math. The good Lord wanted me to have real compassion so guess what? God taught me compassion. I was given the choice to do it the easy way or the hard way. Of course I chose the most difficult path to learn compassion. Still learning

[@tearthangel373]

@@Exodus26.13Pi Codependency

[@Ikr2025]

Some of these can be influenced by personality, health or genetic neurological factors (eg if someone had adhd) as well as cptsd. Often people with neurological conditions or who are highly sensitive did experience trauma as children so its sometimes hard to determine the primary cause & therefore how best to treat it.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Very true. Some of us never had a chance. Life is not fair and there is no solution aside from death. God made certain of that when he chose to bless some and not others. Weird how people still think of god as a good thing when he is clearly evil. Intentionally hurting defenseless children is not exactly a “loving” decision. Nor is starving children, maiming them, butchering them, creating disabilities for them, creating them with deformities, or abusing them in countless ways.

[@collegien1]

there’s an interesting video by patrick teahan on overlap between adhd and cptsd. there’s more and more evidence that all of these problems can be solved through cptsd approaches like reparenting. it is really tragic though, that all the innocent children had to go through this pain

[@basiabarbara3365]

💓

[@tearthangel373]

I can choose whom is safe

[@lindsay5305]

Good talk in first 34 mins

[@awakenedreflections]

Finally understand why my mind 100% always goes to worst case scenario

[@astronaut6542]

I just had a nervous breakdown today, because I realized how much trauma my body is caring, it's discouriging. I don't feel resilient enough to deal with all these loses and traumas, but I must deal with it because life is not worth living otherwise. Don't know what to do...

[@catherinewilson1079]

Don’t think about it; just persevere! And continue with the program.

[@KatWoodland]

Do you like music? I find dancing really helps me.

[@astronaut6542]

I got better now, trust in process

[@sallyann985]

Tim I wish you could re-parent me 👀

[@SarahDale111]

I don't even have the resilience to listen to this talk without being knocked down into a depressed state. Ugh.

[@AnPTsRoom7]

:(

[@rcmarson5889]

I’m 65. I just came across these videos and I sent them to my sisters. My wife died 10 years ago and in that time I have been doing this kind of work on me as I my family was incredibly dysfunctional. When you feel like you can’t keep going, just put it in your mind to Keep Going. There is healing but it takes time and all you can do is Keep Going. Just Keep Going

[@SarahDale111]

@@rcmarson5889 Apparently it's been a year since I commented, and I have to say, I'm feeling much better now. It does take time to untangle from the old stories and programming. Thanks for checking in. 🙃🙂

[@rcmarson5889]

So good to hear! Be well

[@tearthangel373]

Ester did not go through Betrayal Trauma

[@olgakim4848]

Betrayal Trauma. Boy, that’s triggering.

[@tearthangel373]

@@olgakim4848 Not to mention the financial betrayal of a Hugh loan hidden from me for two years and legal paperwork withheld from me! I feel Spent

[@olgakim4848]

@@tearthangel373 Yikes.

[@nancyantram3219]

She did.

[@Exodus26.13Pi]

He looks 15 years younger! Did he lose weight or haircut?

[@berlinetta____2680]

Thanks!