Reacting to the Most Toxic Dating Tips on Tiktok | The Thirsty Sisters #51

[@TheThirstySisters]

Do men actually want to pay on the first date?! Should we leave our wallets at home??

[@kieronfooz_]

OMG I FOUND IT IMMA LISTEN RN ISTG

[@yexinxin5588]

Beautiful Sylvia Chan, as a gentleman, you should always pay for your first and every date when going out with your girlfriend and never leave your wallets at home.

[@gilchong9083]

depends on who ask who..if the guy ask the girl out for a date..then he should pay..& if the girl ask the guy for a date then she pay. Easy. :)

[@sissyfart]

I got a friend who never brings her wallet if we have at least one guy in the group when we go out as friends. Cos she young and chio. Pretty privilege 😂 But ye i would split so as not to owe the guy anything. Those who insist to pay for dinner would then suggest a 2nd place for coffee or dessert then i pay for that.

[@TheThirstySisters]

@@sissyfart young and chio always has its benefits but its okay we split the bill too 😉🙆‍♀️

[@NatashaLuvsMusic]

I love the ending notes about finding someone who vibes with you, rather than taking all these toxic tips so you can get someone you want 😅 Much love to you Sylvia and Nina ❤ Honestly the jie jie's I love to listen to 🥰

[@TheThirstySisters]

Thanks for the support sister 🥰🥰

[@horriblynarcissistic]

As a female, I only go out with the guy if he agrees to split the bill or go dutch. Because I don't want to owe him anything, and it gives me the chance to not hang out again HAHA Sure, I'll let him pay first if he offers, but I will always transfer him money back.

[@TheThirstySisters]

Same as Nina! Don't owe the guy anything, no strings attached 😛💗

[@ngeyre]

Totally agree 👍

[@jqxx2538]

loved this episode! believe it or not, there are really people who find these advices to be somewhat true or useful to some extent. and i always wondered if i’m just weird because people seem to really resonate with them. but hearing your words made me realise how scary these kind of advices can be. i really loved hearing your perspectives as usual:)

[@TheThirstySisters]

Don't fall for the toxicity sister, stay positive and healthy 💓🥰

[@12345Qi]

I love how Sylvia concluded the podcast with reminding how lovable we are 🥰🥰🥰

[@TheThirstySisters]

We always love yall babe 💖💖

[@Hippocampic]

As a guy, I would like to pay because it's just how I was brought up in my family. However, it would seriously impress me, if my date insisted on paying and asked me to cover the drinks after dinner/ desserts/ our next meal etc.

[@redwings1974]

Paying for the bill is a mutual thing. If in old times, most feels the guys should pay. However, times change. At times for a guy to pay is not because of a symbol or something. Is just being a gentleman since is the guy whom ask the girl out. Sometimes splitting the bill is ok too. Times have changed. Going dutch is ok.

[@TheThirstySisters]

We love hearing the guys perspective 🙆‍♀️💞

[@redwings1974]

@@TheThirstySisters And if the girl want to pay, is ok too. Just respect her and the guy can pay the next round. Nothing wrong with who pays. As long both enjoys each others company.

[@MashPotatoDoubleDula]

I’m a singaporean based in Sydney, and because of Ms. rona, I’ve been away from home for almost two years now. Just want to say that Nina and Sylvia have been my weekly dose of sg energy for the last however many months now and I’m so appreciative of them and this podcast

[@TheThirstySisters]

So happy we can be your little source of SG content 💗

[@Cyrusw2690]

My pov is that there's like a culture difference between asia and us. For what i acknowledge is that US has more of "guys must pay first" to show they are gentlemen etc. But they do rant too like " omgad i just wasted $30 on a useless date" when they dint actually have a great time with them etc. While Asia is like" i dont want to owe anybody anything" / "ok,make a good impression of themselves cause i like he/her". It dont matter who pays. As long as both party are having a good time, whoever pays is fine. Ex: Lets say me and my gf goes out, we having a good time, and im willing to pay for the bill it dont matter cause as long as we are having a good time its all good. Emotion and vibe is important. Whoever pays in the first date is just a plus point.

[@cashmerehazel21]

Besides the 1st one, the rest of the TikTok videos are just beginner level of toxicity. *I have came across TRASH who are worse. Tell me who is the MOST TRASHY one?* 1. Playing hard to get and only replying text once every 2-3 days and meet up once every 3 weeks and asking me how much I liked him blatantly - turned out he already has a girlfriend and his girlfriend knew about me but he told her it was "for business reasons". One day his girlfriend insisted to meet me with him, so he brought another guy along just to pretend it's a double date. I only knew of the girlfriend that day. 2. Pretending to be 9 years younger than his actual age and asked me to be his girlfriend. When I found out about his true age later, he said he was just taking a bet with his friends and wanted to hang out with my female friends (I was in college back in those days, he was 32 but pretended to be 23 and no one could tell!) 3. Trying to be a gentleman and acting like he is very rich by placing his BMW car keys on the dining table in restaurants, taking off his jacket and tie and folding the label outwards to make sure I see them before he casually walks to the washroom - turned out he was smoking every time he goes to the washroom because I told him I prefer guys who don't smoke and 2 out of 3 times he asked for the bill and shove it to me asking "Do you want to split the bill or do you want to foot the whole bill?" in a dead serious tone and facial expression. I had a glass of iced lemon tea, he had a big English breakfast set, a dessert and a drink. Not to mention I wasn't interested in his branded goods in the first place. 4. A guy told me how much he likes me, being all genuine and kind, treating my family and friends with respect and then a few months later told me "I like how you look, but only from your nose up, the rest needs to go" (while pointing to my mouth, jaw, chest area, hips area). He then stopped texting me and I did not text him too. Later, he got the audacity to ask "So have you given it a thought? I will date you again if you can change those parts I mentioned." On a brighter note, I am now happily married to the 'other guy friend' from the double date in Scenario #1 above! :D

[@TheThirstySisters]

Crazy turn of events but glad you're happily married now babe 🥰💕

[@rachelshuxin]

Glad it all turned out well for you eventually.

[@jaynetan3672]

Omg 😱

[@mamakryz]

One of my fav eps! Interesting to see different perspectives.

[@jo-hl3yw]

as a fulfilled-ish adult with a career...omg, who have time to play these games.

[@kieronfooz_]

HAHA "ee-tood house" Nina GG

[@leesiyin]

Personally, I will pay for the date for the 1st two dates but here is how I tell if the girl is genuine. If the girl wants to pay or split on the 1st date, I know she is genuine but I will insist in paying. If she expect me to pay, she is either a gold-digger or a princess. Being princess when we are dating is fine BUT not during the 1st date when I barely know the girl.

[@TheThirstySisters]

Interesting perspective, it's like a little test for the girls 👀🤭

[@carrielula4377]

First date, guy should pay as a sign of interest. Girl should insist on paying if she is not interested. Subsequent dates, should take turns. If the guy is always paying, something is wrong. Going Dutch for every single date is just too tedious and 计较.

[@TheThirstySisters]

Agreed! Going dutch seems too friend-like sometimes 🤷‍♀️💞

[@ctan4070]

Great epi as always!! ❤️ Just curious, what’s the fine line between “protecting your heart” and being toxic? 🤔

[@cutec5731]

Press in str8 away when the notification pop out! Had been looking forward for every episode 🇲🇾😍

[@TheThirstySisters]

🥰🥰

[@teyyiyun6664]

same

[@esteewong4864]

We need more episodes of the thirsty sisters !!!

[@TheThirstySisters]

🙌💗

[@eszeezee6967]

About paying the bills, can us ladies just be upfront and ask the guy, "are we splitting the bills", with cash or card in our hand?

[@Iemarc998]

I do think for the third advice is like the basic purpose of attractions, based on the push and pull rules. like for the sake of how to give people percieve you as. Like when you go to the some new place and seeing someone new...., would you more attrated to the people that are more available or the subtle kind unavailable type???

[@TheThirstySisters]

It is true but its toxic when some plans to do it like some kinda dating strategy 👀👄

[@Iemarc998]

@@TheThirstySisters Agree, mostly people when they know how to roll with this scene at the end becomes a player instead of remembering why they do this in the first place to attract each other for the sake of their own relationship story...., this goes for story sharing with your listeners. that sound fun.....

[@kieronfooz_]

HIHI I'VE BEEN WAITING FOR TOO LONG WELCOME BACK

[@TheThirstySisters]

Hey Kieron 😉💗

[@kieronfooz_]

OMG HEYY

[@lizzieloveschoc]

Those tiktok vids are really toxic. If you really like someone, why would you put them through all that? Cheat on them, don't give them attention on purpose etc. All these are really the opposite of love. For me, if you love someone, treat them well, communicate well, respect one another, be in a healthy relationship.

[@NathanNoon]

Going Dutch doesn't progress towards a second date in my experience. Guys covering the bill usually plays into attraction and chemistry.

[@kuehmerlion]

As a guy, I would always offer to cover the entire bill on first dates - because of traditional societal expectations. Interestingly enough though, from my own experience, the ladies who insisted to split/go dutch after my offer, ended up being the ones most willing to meet me for second and subsequent outings. And I still remembered candidly that one of them even joked about not going out with me again if I didn't let her pay her share - we actually went on five more dates after. 😂 Whereas the ones who simply took up my offer, would shortly go radio-silent on me or drops hints that they weren't interested to meet again. =/

[@superjonathanomg]

Luv the vid HAAHA. It would be nice to do an ep on mental health as we seen a few recent suicide case and also world mental health day is around the corner!

[@lydiasia3369]

I cant believe that I'm here early for the first time!😊😆

[@TheThirstySisters]

🙆‍♀️💕

[@findmemc89]

World is so bad, add on all the "toxic advice" lagi la make our life more difficult haha. So choose wisely what we wanna input into our mind because it will turn how it is. Whoever pay the bill first actually doesn't matter, matter is if this person is treating you good. No point if he/she pay but they don't treat you happy/good. Btw Slyvia laughter really very powerful Hahahaha. Happy sial

[@TheThirstySisters]

Sending love your way babe 💖💖

[@peackpr9]

For the paying on the dates, if I was the one who asked the woman out for a date then I would pay. When I was asked out then she would pay or we split the bill. If we actually start a relationship, then we would take turns. But, that is just me.

[@TheThirstySisters]

I think that is the case for most relationships these days! Men want to be pampered too 💕🙆‍♀️

[@haylenq]

It's a good thing that i don't have tik tok, i never like the contents in that app anyways.

[@xMajinMira]

The first one she said three words... "cheat just in case". That's 4...

[@jen5138]

Is this the Gen Z mindset now? SCARY!

[@christabel2701]

Love u!!

[@christopherwilliams8343]

What your seeing on tik tok is why I always felt like dating in America is ass backwards... I have often felt like dating in America is very blind of nurturing care. That's another reason I want to leave America.... the dating game here... is in a word from my past experience... **Toxic**

[@TheThirstySisters]

Hope you'll find your person soon 💕🙆‍♀️

[@windsorus]

For me, a guy pays because we want to portray a symbol of gentleman, and not a picture of being stingy. I can imagine how would a woman thinks if they picture a man as stingy, and normally I do not think the relationship will step further than that date. Of course if the woman insisted, I would pretty fine. But a man shouldn't starts with a date to demand a split of bill or asking the other to pay for it.

[@liuziqi6200]

22:31 bro do you want me or not 👁👄👁 要就好好追，不要你就滚😂

[@strawberryberry9914]

HAHAHAH damn funny my fav podcast nowadays

[@TheThirstySisters]

🤩💓

[@EdwinChitokai]

I pay to find out whether my date would be my future wife XD

[@hudarosli187]

Currently I think I'm getting the treatment of give and pulling away by a guy. Sigh

[@yexinxin5588]

My Hot Favourite Cute And Beautiful Sylvia Chan, you are always on my mind everyday. You are cute like a Hello Kitty. You are classy like a princess from palace. You are sweet like a bar of chocolate. You are hot and sexy like the fire from volcano. You are beautiful like an angel from heaven. You are very special like a diamond. 3 precious and special magical words just for you Sylvia Chan only and that is " I love you ".

[@davidhoo9093]

Umm.. I find de views shared by tik tok USA ladies may not necessarily be helpful here, probably there are differences in culture or expectation as compared to local. For me, paying for first date is no big deal for guy, we shd do it. Dutch pay if we go out makan as colleagues.

[@helloimhes]

sugges for new vid: how was ur very first date w the opposite gender? (romantic but BAD DATES ONLY, horror themed HAHA) omg mine was DISGUSTING

[@yrrehs0076]

Im sorry for being intrusive but nw im curious😂

[@helloimhes]

@@yrrehs0076 HAHA sister i gotchu alls good ok lemme try to summarise - guy turns up as an entirely diff person, lied abt who he is, his age, his height- shorter than me but lied he was at least 10cm taller(i mean personal pref, but cause i had many younger cousins/siblings growing up, i natutally have my mother instincts kick in and it doesnt feel like a normal rs would be possible at least for me), split movie tix price w me to the very cent e.g. so he said he would pay first but imagine smth w 5cents, he insisted i had to pay the exact even when i said i would round it up...what a freak, so i had to offer him my 4cents first and cause i "owed" him 1 cent i eventually paid for smth else instead, super nice online but super rude and insensitive offline, a bIGASS creep and pervert who tried to touch me inappropriately the entire time(my back along my bra and my tummy etc. which i firmly told him to stop it and the fucker dared to say "u wan me to touch ur boobs instead?" LOL i stg idk why i didnt go report him then....maybe scared of judgements like ppl saying i asked for it since i met smone off the net etc. stereotypes ye there was that fear ah.., ok and AN ULTIMATE STINGE who didnt eat w me cause he had coupons to go eat smth else n asked me to sit there w him without offering a drink etc. I MEAN I CAN GET IT MYSELF(WHICH I DID) BUT ykno courtesy cause thats how he portrayed himself, tried to dabao me despite me refusing to and eventually telling him im meeting my other friends early, complaining when he had to wait for me to get bbt when i told him im leaving after so he could go first, back then idk if u rmbr got this mouse gold coin hunt nationwide and he FKING MADE ME WAIT FOR HIM TO GO SEARCH A FIELD- i- tried to leave so many times and finally couldnt take it la and insisted to go..... even at the mrt station... he die die wanna leave w me "gentleman manners" and when my card couldnt work he tapped out WHEN I TOLD HIM TO GO, then saw his card got 70cents deducted so he tried fighting w the passenger counter to get back his 70cents im telling u gIRL- this is just still ykno a summary so HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH there u have it

[@yrrehs0076]

@@helloimhes Ok when he got touchy i would be damn angry alrdy😤Haiz what a guy🙁

[@helloimhes]

@@yrrehs0076 right not lucky i alrdy had dinner plans w my friends beforehand so i just insisted i had to leave after like 4hrs ofw him cause i couldnt take it :"))) and he just kept going on about how i caused him to lose his 70cents....

[@helloimhes]

@@yrrehs0076 wbu tho, any horrible date gone wrong too

[@yexinxin5588]

可爱的 Sylvia Chan, I love to drink starbucks latte too. 我很想你啦。I love you always.

[@chainzss]

Simi symbol? Dafaq?

[@3123626]

Always early cos #notificationsquad

[@TheThirstySisters]

🙆‍♀️💖

[@SolarBurn]

Imo, these ang mo "dating advice" only applies to their toxic dating scene. If local girls want to emulate, they're free to do so, but guys better stand far far away from them. It is better to be practical in SG. All dates start with honeymoon period confirm. It would be good for the couple to set their expectations the sooner the better if they want to get serious in the relationship lor.

[@TheThirstySisters]

We see alot of SG folks on Tiktok so we wanted to address the topic 💞💞

[@tlcroger]

UNLIKE, DON'T SHARE & UNSUBSCRIBE

[@poodicat3163]

From A Guy: id rather split the bill as it symbolises teamwork in partnership.

[@daniellee6052]

This is the most Disgusting video I have ever seen.

[@eswhh]

EARLY EHH

[@TheThirstySisters]

💞💞