Real vs Fake Friends | How to Differentiate a Genuine Friendship From an Unhealthy One

Differentiating a real and fake friendship comes down to how you can perceive the friends you have in your life. Many of us don't want to think that our friends are using us or being disingenuous, but it does happen and ways of recognizing it comes down to if there is dependency, excuses being made, or if one feels taken for granted. It's not always easy admitting that someone you thought was close is like this, but you must always do what is healthy for you.
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[@Axess-sv8nq]

I'm nearly 50 years old. You think I would learn by now. But, I still get fooled. I really thought a "close friend" was genuine and it turned out I was just being used AGAIN. I'm so tired of being a RESOURCE for people. I'm a human being. I have the right to be treated with respect when I give respect. I have the right to be treated fairly when I treat others fair. And, at the VERY LEAST, I have the right to be appreciated when I got out of my way for someone. I'm done being used by people.

[@mominairfan2104]

I think u r a good person!

[@angelaq3046]

You have soft heart that’s why people fooled you

[@mominairfan2104]

@@angelaq3046 love your heart and soul

[@gabbynorris7953]

Yes, I had a friend she used me even when she saw me at costco to use my card, after that she never even said thank you and I heard from her anymore. I realized she was so fake.

[@vernaharris4700]

Yes, it can be very tough. I've had to learn to lower my expectations of others. I hope you find some trustworthy friends soon.❤

[@SupremeDreamss]

Love this video. I made one similar to this on my channel, but yours is a lot more professional.lol. I love these types of videos because they are so genuine. Keep it up 😁

[@phyllisgallant555]

very good , I have had friends and cancel or moved on in a casual way it's never been a problem.

[@asifmuniruniverse7732]

As above I said every one has opinion I'm not forcing them

[@opheliachemicallymodified7318]

Thank you for this!

[@jessmoon6750]

Love you Autumn.

[@DepressionOfMyCat]

Hi Iris i love you!!!

[@asapikus1765]

If you have to question your friend... then he or she is not worth it. :(

[@Cookies1009]

I have social anxiety so its hard for me to make friends and im at the point if i am not sure if i am ready to. My family whom i was really close to have used me time after time but were never truly there for me. I discovered this when i got depressed and contemplated suicide. I was in so much pain mentally and physically, no one not even my family had time for me. My own sister whom i looked up to, who was a mother to me had no time for me. Needless to say i got through that on my own and i am damn proud of myself, i have grown to love me like no one else ever has. I am my own best friend, If anyone wants to be my friend fine, if not so be it . I will not compete for anyone's affection or time. Blessed are those who have these cherished friends, i pray someday i will have the same but for right now im okay with just me and my books..

[@TheLobsterparty]

You go girl! Take care of yourself :)

[@jessmoon6750]

+Lori Faulkner I am so proud of you Lori. I'm recovering from social anxiety and getting better everyday. It is possible my dear, take your time. A lot of love and good health to you.

[@mariemmattoussi1461]

i am feeling like a thrid wheel, i am also feeling like not good enough, even though i know i'm awesome, but i have this thing where since am too nice people get *on* their high horses, i've had amazing best friends but i felt absolutely neglected by them and they became best friends without me. I keep telling myself to stop trying to *win them over* or *bring them back to me* and that i am worth way more than this, in fact, many good people passed in my life have told me that i'm quite talented, unique, in so many ways.. but i get jealous (not in a bad way, a natural way) and depressed, :( and i keep wanting or feeling like people *need* to accept me................... i shall soon stop hopefully, i needed this comment.

[@lovemetoknowme1115]

Lori Faulkner I understand 🙄

[@sabraha9]

I thought i was the only one,...... You are not alone. Most of us are highly sensitive, empathic, intellectual people.

[@cascadestars]

I really appreciate how organized and precise your videos are with your information. So informative and easy to understand, and a pleasure to listen to as well. I love how you cover topics that may seem obvious to some other people, I REALLY love and appreciate it because as an over thinker, I can definitely get in my own head and feel confused about the simplest things. These types of videos are a great reminder for me when I'm struggling with things in my personal life. I also love your videos because I know that even though you speak objectively to explain something, I know you're very empathetic and understanding because you've gone through a lot of these situations/issues yourself. Thank you for always putting so much work into your videos!!

[@lovettdeleted]

my best friend only asks about herself, she's always negative and never cares about my well being. but i found out all her problems were made up and that she's been lying and purposely making stories up for attention. i don't know what to do. i've been her best friend for years, i can't just stop talking to her.

[@FrkVildkat]

+Le Lo Tell your friend how you feel and if she freaks out, then she is not your friend at all.

[@lovettdeleted]

@Meighan Lough it's been 4 years since I posted that comment - I've already killed her

[@fromtheinsidex]

My boyfriend doesn't understand what my issue is with the words "I will never leave", but it happened to me what exactly you described. Every single friend I had who said they would never leave, left after a short period of time. I find it extremely difficult to trust people due to my past experiences that I can't no longer see what's a lie and what's not. Thank you for another great video :)

[@AutumnAsphodel]

Thank you for sharing!

[@fromtheinsidex]

Thank you :)

[@katiesmith4663]

I know this is irrelevant but I love your picture haha

[@fromtheinsidex]

Finally someone who gets it

[@ryanmitchell9382]

I will never leave you.

[@fghjklSammy]

Friendships are like relationships in so many ways. You need to have communication, you need to be honest, and you have to take those people as they are, flaws and all. Some people can't handle flaws, so friends will come and go throughout life. But at the same time, you do find those rare gems who stay close friends with you for a number of years if not forever. I've had dozens, of friends throughout my life. And I can honestly say that out of all of the friends I've had, I only have like 5 really, good ones that I can count on, but who knows maybe it won't last forever. But it's always worth taking that chance to finding that friend who will be in your life forever. I've watched a nice few of your videos for the last little while now. I saw your personality disorder video last week actually. And I just wanted to let you know that if you ever feel alone and you need someone to talk to feel free to message me anytime. :) if I could cheer someone up it would make my whole year :3

[@Crims0ny]

+samey starshine You're cute ^w^

[@siergelynsaldana5857]

samey starshine hi can we be friends :)

[@nkapila6]

My friend just ignores me a lot :/

[@SuperYtc1]

@@siergelynsaldana5857 notice how it’s 3 years and she still ignored you. OP is a prime example of actions speak louder than words. All her comment is is talk. But she doesn’t back it up.

[@corinnemuir1542]

First person on yourtube in a long time to show themselves.....with their mask taken off, good job Autumn Asphodel! Props for not overpolishing, reshooting.______^-^___________

[@wolfieoren4299]

i had a friend who treated me like rubbish. i stopped being friends with her almost a year ago and since then my life has improved so much. My anxiety disorder got so much better, and rather than being stuck in this bubble with her (we had been best friends for years and she didn't really like hanging out with others so it was always just us) i now how have a good group of about 7 close friends, as well as a wider circle. Even though she knew i have a fairly severe social anxiety disorder (again, since starting uni this has gotten a lot better) she would always push me to do stuff for her, be like "oh i don't feel like talking to Mr P, can you do it for me?". She'd always beg me to do stuff for her, or put disrupt my own life to go and hang out with her, or do stuff for her, or let her copy my work or whatever. She was totally reliant on me. Then if i asked even the smallest thing of her, like when i started a class that my abusive ex was in (i was absolutely terrified of being in the same room as him) she'd say something like "oh i don't really feel like it." it sounds bad, but i was literally always there for her and she hardly ever was for me. For every new boyfriend she had (she had a lot, she couldn't keep them because she was very naive and didn't really know exactly how to behave with them) she would forgot my existence, i wouldn't hear from her for days, she'd deliberately avoid me constantly. She'd cancel on me last minute. It shouldn't have annoyed me so much but it did. When i told her that i'd had enough of her behaviour, she sent a picture to me and her boyfriend at the time of herself with a knife captioned "not even kidding. cant stop crying". What made this threat of self harm even worse was that she KNEW that many of my other friends had suffered with this, as well as myself. She knew that i was programmed to look after people who were suffering. She deliberately attempted to manipulate me, and that really was the point of no return. she tried to turn people against me, spread lies, and went about telling people they "shouldn't" talk to me. thank god they didn't listen. my life is honestly so much better now, and i'm not going to let myself fall into that kind of friendship again. ever.

[@finonstyle1004]

You are so true like me

[@finonstyle1004]

I have avoiding frends they are using me

[@starsstripes2393]

Totally get the anxiety thing,I was feeling the same until I made some distance between that person.

[@AmyLovesYou]

I recently abandoned a friend whom initially told me I would leave her just like everyone else. I told her that I would never leave her, and I meant what I said; however, as time progressed, she began taking more, and giving less to our relationship and increasingly took advantage of me. Within a couple of months my disappointment turned to anger, and then my anger turned to rage. I left her, told her to never contact me again, and I personally will never restore what we had. All I wanted was for her to be there for me as much as I was there for her. Initially, she was there for me very much and in that blessing I truly wouldn't have left her, but when our friendship became one sided, I indeed left her. Just as she had predicted. Her prediction was a reflection of her cumulatively transpiring neglect. She may experience sadness, depression, and loneliness as a result, but I have decided that I am more important to me than her.

[@everydaypanda3553]

wow so I dont have any real friends.... I knew it. :/ hahahah hah ha ummm... :(

[@anonymoussinger9849]

EverydayPanda its okay im your friend😊...even if I'm a stranger~ly from maldives

[@sumiyyahlalgee4318]

Me too😞

[@spicedlemons]

really needed to see this! my own two cents: when you start seeing these signs of bad friendship, and it keeps getting worse, put yourself first. Distance yourself from them, and find new ones who really care. even if you're afraid to be alone, being alone is better than having bad, toxic friends

[@kluafoz]

your voice it's hypnotic. I love it! with it's subtle perfect imperfections!

[@amandasligar9269]

Looking back throughout my life almost every friend I've ever had is toxic. Didn't matter if I knew them for 15-20 years they would screw me over the minute they could get a chance.

[@mowvision]

Sometimes the excuses happen because other external factors they're too embarrassed to talk about (like a controlling boyfriend).

[@taliahkite7778]

You always add videos at a point in life when I need it most, this helped me a lot...thank you :)

[@cascadestars]

+Taliah Kite So true! Her videos are so comforting

[@realcheshirewags1965]

I thought I finally had a good group of friends in my late twenties finally... I was wrong! Some of my friends seem to use when when it’s convenient for them and when I want help or support they are never there. I have learnt that you can’t force a friendship however hard you try. I’ve learnt early on friends can come and go in life. It’s hard when you invest so much time in a friendship but sometimes you have to let go

[@babybluehashyo]

I had a best friend who lied, put me down, would never understand why I could not make time for her 24/7, made fun of me for grieving dead pets, made me out to be a racist, made me feel stupid, mooched money, did drugs and lied about quitting, tried to control who I spoke to and eventually who I dated, telling me not to date my current boyfriend of two years yet never saying anything when I made the mistake of dating a pedophile beforehand. When someone truly does not care about you they need to go. I never realized until after I dated my boyfriend and realized how a real, healthy relationship actually feels. I was afraid I would be lonely, as she pitted the rest of my friends against me when I broke it off with her. However, two years later, I find that my family, my boyfriend, my boyfriend's friends, the people I work with, and my online friend give me more than enough social interaction and I am not lonely at all. I have no idea how to make more friends, or even if I am ever going to be ready to put my trust in other people (other than those listed) again, but let me tell anyone who is scared about the abandonment... it's so worth it. Do it. Cut them out of your life. One genuine friend, even if it's just your mom or brother or child, is worth 99999999999999999999999999999999999999 fake friends. You will feel so much lighter. So much happier.

[@andysparks1069]

This video felt like I'm not alone.

[@sydneyslate5180]

4 years ago I met my once best friend. She was all I wanted in a friend, yet had so many negatives that I was blinded to see. I always felt responsible for the way she felt, and felt I had to be the person to help her. With that, I no longer think about my feelings rather than everyone else's, which has put me down academically and mentally. Since October she's made me cry severely times. I always kept going back to her, always feeling like I could've been making a mistake. 5 weeks of regained friendship for the next week me becoming heartbroken and depressed. I've hurt myself, beat myself up mentally, etc over this girl. Two weeks ago when I thought it was getting better she hurt me again. I missed 3 classes because I had to go to the councilors office after going many times before because of her. I always seen this friend as my best friend who understood me and say myself living with in the future, always planning things to do with her. I got home after that day once again in tears.

[@sydneyslate5180]

I decided I couldn't do it anymore, I couldn't handle it. My mother was also done supporting the toxic friendship, so if I wanted to go back to her I wouldn't be allowed to anyways. Ever since cutting the ties I've felt more at peace. It is very difficult still to see her at school, but it is getting better. I am very proud of myself for finally letting go. I told her I hoped one day she would be happier and healthier, and that was the end. I don't have many friends at all, just one I can actually rely on slightly. I hope one day to meet more people, but having social anxiety outs that for now. I am getting my grades up and getting the help I need with my mentality. She drew me crazy, all I did was think about her and just her. I still continue to worry about others rather than myself, but as said I am getting the help to learn skills to get better. I failed to find my own happiness and found and felt responsible for hers. I just hope it will get easier, and I'm pretty sure it will.

[@Soleil.m]

I've got this one "friend" I feel kind of stuck with. I think the only reason we're sticking with each other is because we attend the same school. And since last week, I've avoided going on skype because there's two other people there that I can genuinly have fun talking with, but really, I can't be honest with these people without them making me feel like an outsider, an idiot and whatnot. I find that the "treat others the way you want to be treated" technique doesn't work on these people. Not saying I'm the good person though, I kind of couldn't care less if any of those three were to die. I am the one who decided to cut off these shitty relationships, because they make me feel like crap, I make them feel like crap, it's just negativity all over! Right now, my only true friends are my family members. I'm going to do my best at just moving away from these people, and try to be happy on my own, before I trust anybody else to be my friend. So far it's going well, but I'll admit, sometimes when I'm bored I can't help but to think about the many friendships I've lost over the years, and now, I've got none.

[@noellabezzle3044]

There are few people I can listen to on KZbin. I get too sensitive to noise and sometimes creators who are unpredictably loud, or just too high energy. I enjoy your content because it is easy listening to my ears. Calm, consistent... keep being you

[@departedheart8508]

I have people who care about me as a good friend because im am there for them and support them but i feel guilty for not feeling the same connection to them Leaving me to feel distant from people in addition to a anyone i wanted to be good friends with ended up hurting me or not feeling the same way. What am i supposed to do in this situation?

[@eurekal1903]

You can withdraw yourself from a relationship you consider unhealthy but you can't say it's not genuine as long you respect their boundaries.

[@violetselene244]

This video is very informative and helpful. You are well spoken and get your points across in a straightforward manner instead of rambling or making the video longer than it needs to be. For that I definitely will be subscribing. This video has confirmed that my decision to let go of a friend that I have know for 11 years (since the fourth grade) is right.She always prioritizes everyone else but me yet I'm the one always there for her when she needs me unlike her other friends and she always makes excuses to not hang out yet if a new friend comes into her life she'll be at they're beck and call. I'm happy I've finally seen the friendship for what it is and will stop making excuses for her or giving her anymore second chances.

[@diamond291]

Thank you sooo much!!!! I really needed to see this because it's shown me that nearly all my friends are fake...😞...and it's so hard for me to make friends that I do anything to keep the ones I have which are almost always online because it's so hard for me to make friends in person...I'm a good friend to others, but don't get the same in return 😢💔

[@dmhq-administration]

99% of the people that I meet are not "genuine friends" anyway EVEN THOUGH "I" WANT/WOULD LIKE to be THEIR friend...So My twisted logic is...why NOT "use" them to get what YOU need/want? 🤔

[@sabrinardv6599]

oh god i love your voice, its so calming and really lovely to listen to, i hope youre fine Autumn! 💜

[@sebastianviuf]

You just illustrated everything i go through right now.. Respect Autumn i really enjoy watching your videoes.

[@marshal1808]

No more fake, half-baked friends 😡. If you choose to pay attention to fake friends or people, you disrespect yourself. Everyone has had real friends and real people in their lives, and we can tell the difference. ⚠️😡 most humans that you may call your friends or people aren't real friends or people. Peripherals humans, that you choose to bestow a kind title on.

[@gonzaloquan9649]

My friend...only calls me if she can't talk to my other friend....i'm being used....🙃 *Fake Smiles*

[@metrolooker]

Also I have discovered that the people who tend to get used in the wrong way do so because we are EMPATHS who attract NARCISSISTS towards us!

[@metrolooker]

It was helpful and I resonated with your conclusions of what constitutes a true friendship. Also you are open and honest and warm-hearted. Thank you.

[@tessa0803]

That was some great advice, thank you so SO much. I really needed this. I watched this video twice to really get everything in my mind.

[@pennylane248]

It shocks me to know how many people have social anxiety. I like this video. I guess after you get to be a senior citizen you stop wanting friends. It's too much trouble.

[@frannyfran7157]

Autumn thank you. You're a blessing. I needed to hear this.

[@phyllisgallant555]

I suppose there may have been a problem for the other person but i think connections work them selves out eventually Don't you agree?.

[@cheriweber1900]

Autumn your videos are really great. Thanks for the advice. I really like your name and you have a very gothic like beauty about you .

[@barrychapman6249]

You have got a very valled pont point here, I am a loner and don't need human friends this is why I prefer dogs to people a dog never does the dirty on you never turns against you and he's always there when you need them most and I don't want money as a reward yes I've had enough of you and friends alone one person who I thought was my friend£650 to buy a car you promised him pay me all back up within 3 months I should have had all the money back by December 2013 is never paid me a penny of it back is more of a faith and a crook and a liar than a friend I then have a day off any more money no one and I'm quite happy to date my own company I wouldn't like to live totally alone because even my neighbour friend for comforter and that's why I have dogs I have two dogs at the moment a miniature poodle and a Staffordshire Bull Terrier cross the best friends I can ever have you speak the truth in what you say and I listened with great interest thank you for putting this message out.

[@deannesmigay5550]

I had to learn that the hard way. So many times in the past. Whats a real friend and whats a fake friend.

[@YasmineSantanafashionista]

i am going through this right now...a "best friend" of 9 years that i was always there for thick and thin and i thought she did the same for me...recently met new friends and distanced herself when i try bringing it up she said i was her best friend still and just needed space and blah blah..yet i seen her tagged in all her "new friends" pics of them partying..long story short..i recently went thru a lot of tramatic events and had a nervous breakdown and when i reached out to her she went off at me for no reason...saying i needed to stop having a pitty party and move on..she has never behaved this way..and i was at one of my lowest points..she then ignored all my texts and its been a week..i know this is a dumb question..but do you think this is normal and is she a fake friend?? it makes me sad...but clearly ignoring someone is so disrespectful..some friend she is..

[@ohsnap4890]

Yasmin Santana i advise u stop thinking abt her. She is only bringing NEGATIVE ENERGY to your life

[@SuperYtc1]

Would you do to her what she did to you? Also, what’s the update on this friendship?

[@tayatrisha11]

hey, this was my first time watchibg your video .i am truly glad i found your channel.you are a blessing. tysm ..thankyou ... you spoke what i wanted to hear..you gave me all my answers. i wish i can find someone like you in my life.. all love ..gbu ❤🥀

[@AbigailLarrison]

Thank you. You are clear in your understanding of self and other and explain it with examples and also look beautiful and healthy. Your experiences give great hope for healing our fractured co-dependent personalities.

[@karterwood9474]

would you ever consider making a video about fictional introjects (basically alters based on fictional characters)? you explain things really well and i've learned a lot from your channel!

[@misslanna8023]

Thank you! your video validated some things my gut was telling about a friend who I feel makes me feel bad about myself. I just need to walk away from this friend. Thanks!!

[@TheLobsterparty]

I really wish I would have seen this sooner, sadly my supposivly best friend turned to a fake friend. Seven years too,

[@anglefan2002]

Great video! I have had friends for years that I thought would be my friends for life. Life happens and people come and go, however I am a person who believes that things happen for a reason and if its meant to be its meant to be. Besides, its not the quantity of friends one has that's important, its the quality of the friends that matter. Thanks for the video :)

[@purplecrayons96]

This is the most comprehensive explanation of codependency I have heard. Thank you so much. I have some work toward independence to do. :)

[@myloghassomethingtotellyou8859]

Great video, I really needed this. Thank you Autumn :)

[@SimpleTipsAnwesha]

i love u

[@EnderWolfFTW]

Gods, I love your voice. So calming. Thank you for the video. I have difficulties understanding friendships and relationships, for some reason. I don't know why you would want one. But despite that I still have "friends." To be honest, I sound a like what you use to be like around your friends. I'm a bit concerned now. Nevertheless, I will take this video to heart. Thank you.

[@flxrcita]

Thank you so much for talking about this topic! I've been thinking about it lately so I really needed to hear this

[@laconja1]

I Love Your Video I Deserve Honesty & Attention From My Friends & I Give the Same To Those I Consider Friends. 👍

[@cliffcarr3632]

To be fair, I had lots of decent friends, and I noticed as I got more and more advanced in my job, careers, hobbies, and especially finances, I lost most of my friends.

[@ladyoftheveil8342]

I quit school at age 14 because of bullies and no friends. I was different first off I was taller than any of my class mates. I've had many now say I look trans, because my body is shrinking . It's Thyroid issues, I finally got on thyroid hormones. My body still hasn't changed much.

[@loretohidalgo3533]

Im here because of the excuses. My friend doesnt text me unless I text them first. And everytime they have an excuse. The excuses are very plausible but after that excuses they are partying with other people. It hurts to know that Im their last priority

[@sweaters_and_harmony9525]

These days I choose to view good friendships like dessert: They make life a little sweeter, but one can have a full and fabulous life without them too. Just one woman's opinion.....

[@WhatTheHeckTV]

Who needs friends when you have the lord God my friend. Don't. Call who cares see ya busy pants I got the lord God

[@chrismcevoy2503]

My ex-friend Becky Keena was only using me as a sounding board to hear her problems, but didn’t want me to help her and seek my advice.

[@danjackson7758]

how much importance do you think its appropriate to place on reciprocity.....specifically in relation initiating & engaging in social contact? in order of importance to me are: 1: visiting 2: phoning 3: letters 4: emailing i see it this way: with letters and emails, you are both on your home turf when the connection is made. next up is phoning; you (the caller) are in the supplicant position seeking their attention, even though you are both on home turf during the connection. lastly, in visiting, you are (in a way) paying respect/homage to them by taking yourself out of your home turf, and going to the time expense and effort of transporting yourself bodily to visit them in their domain. i dont fret too much about a disparity in emails sent. i do get annoyed if there is a lack of balance in phone calls. however, i simply cant engage in a friendship (for long) if there is a significant imbalance of visits. to me, visiting is the supreme way for people to demonstrate that they value and return my friendship. there is nothing equivalent to someone physically coming to your home. so, are you the same, or are you able to visit people often who almost never visit you, and do you have any friendships where you hardly ever visit them, but are happy for them to visit you regularly? just to clarify and make things crystal clear: i dont care about the total number of visits, its the relative ratio that matters. so i would be equally as happy with a 3-3 as a 12-12 balance of visits over a year, but if i visited them many times and they visited me hardly at all, then i would end the friendship, or at least sever the connection and see if they valued my friendship enough to take up the slack and repair the connection . it sounds petty when you convert it into mathematical terms, but the fundemental fact is that i experience a significant disparity in visits as a deep lack of respect for, or undervalueing of my friendship. maybe some people can sustain themselves on a frothy candyfloss of many trivial and ever-shifting superficial acquaintances, but i need something more substantial, and if i give my friendship to someone, i expect the other person to value and return it. you may have an interesting take on the following, having been both male & female. whenever the disparity mentioned above arises, i feel unable to bring up the subject with a male friend as i perceive the mere doing of that would be an instant and catastrophic 'loss of face'. i would have made myself look weak and needy in his eyes. i never encounter this issue with women, and if i did, i would have no qualms about broaching the subject. with my male friends, it's all to do with the perceived power balance in the friendship. when i'm at the wrong end of it, i withdraw, hoping they will take up the slack. can you relate to any of this from your time as a male? are your friendships qualitatively different as a female? did/do you have any issues with the power balance in friendships either as a male or a female?

[@JNYC212]

Girl... u in my head! I can't stand that. I text, call adn u never respond 😒 So immature

[@Estefisosa84]

you have all the right with this video! thank yooooouuuuu! xoxo

[@giom1085]

Damn this is all true u speak truth .. THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO it helped me alot

[@DarknessIsThePath]

Isn't that a paradox though? You say that you abandoned your fake friends to be happy with yourself but still you rely on your new friends for being "happier", isn't that more or less the same thing? And no I wouldn't call it abandoning them, they abandoned you by not being true friends.

[@Snooty-Pookie]

I really enjoy your videos, it really let's me see things more logically.

[@anikatommerup2676]

I have kinda lost or "loosent up" my friendships the past few months. I don't have a best friend right now, but some friends which is okay:) I am trying to "clean up" in my friend circkel because some people are not just good for me. Very helpfull video:))

[@stevoplex]

She tells him she thinks she needs to be free He tells her he doesn't understand. She takes his hand, tells him nothing is working out the way they planned. She's so many women He can't find the one who was his friend So he's hanging on to half her heart He can't have the restless part So he tells her to hasten down the wind. Then he agrees and thinks she needs to be free But then she says she'd rather be with him. But it's just a whim By which she hopes to keep him on a limb. She's so many women He can't find the one who was his friend. He's hanging on to half a heart He can't have the restless part So he tells her to hasten down the wind. (Warren Zevon)

[@countbopula7513]

I think I fall under the obsession/dependency category you describe under the unhealthy/fake friends category. It's to the point where I feel like they're a part of my identity and I don't have my own. We make time and support each other, but yet, I sometimes turn cold because I think they secretly hate me or want to leave. I pre-emptively distance myself then, for scenarios that don't yet exist. I know this gets tiring to deal with, and any advice to mitigate these feelings would be greatly appreciated. Nobody deserves this.

[@vernaharris4700]

Your voice is very calming.😊❤ And I love your honesty.

[@kylewambot2664]

Ive got a lot of questions if not just a hand full to form about this video discussion here. I hope you may be able to answer them. But first I must form them

[@MGBlast666]

Thanks, Autumn! I appreciate this video !

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I think my ex-friend Becky Keena is a fake friend because she makes it all about her.

[@susieh.1071]

your video really opened my eyes- thank you!

[@ihatewhatyoumademe4905]

I don't care if she was born as a male, she's fucking gorgeous!!!!

[@itsvox4398]

I said to my online friend will you abandon me ? And she said don't worry that's not how a true friend act but she rarely reply to me

[@glennprestidge8054]

Have a friend that I class as family and she has been there for me and helped me out alot but now she has a boyfriend she does not talk at al and makes lies up to avoid me, it upsets me and I have been down this road alot of the time. I was a gentleman to her and I have told her that I'm here for her and I'm not sure what to do and I'm scared that if I say something I will loose her can I get some advice please autumn.

[@unapologeticella4540]

I really hate that when I'm going through s hard time they cant be there for me when I've always been there for them.they simply said they are too busy trying to survive.

[@hollyharte7831]

Thank you Lord your articulated tone and encouragement

[@richardyamato]

thank you

[@lindseyhebert5568]

I had a friend that said they are here for life, excuses I get from them sometimes I feel like those friends hate me I have fear if I get betrayed I try to be sweet and kind to everyone

[@ijustrealllylikecats]

Wow. This look is the BEST on you!!! You look beautiful with your hair swept back and to the side. 💙

[@sean-fw7zi]

what if you go out of your way all the time to meet your mates but they never come down to see you?

[@jeepsishumate2021]

nothing genuine here...all read from a book

[@underrated_c]

My friend doesn't want to take to me but she will talk to my friend i'm starting to think that's she's jealous of the time i spend with my other friend. However, my other friend is in my class so our relationship is very close i only see my other friend outside of school at gym and in art i'm starting to think she's a fake friend because i asked her what's wrong and she didn't respond but she responded to my other friend. So, does this mean she needs some space...

[@MduCele.]

Great video, thank you. 👏👏💯

[@chrismcevoy2503]

My former friend Becky Keena had a dependency on me.

[@audreypistor4610]

what about when it is your own daughter?

[@tulip5210]

i feel better watching this... because me and my friend stopped being friends, watching this no it was not an unhealthy or fake friendship. My friend was very depressed and I tend to overthink, so when someone else thinks somethng negative because i'm looking at things objectively rather then how they rae from inside me. Like, measuring whether outwardly it is care or love. Alot of time has passed, and i've figured out what was going on inside me and watching this video, none of these where actually present. But, that care wasn't seen from my side, and I couldn't say I cared about her when she asked me because how could I say that when I hurt her so badly? I couldn't, I felt guilty, and I didn't want to be forgiven.

[@tulip5210]

However, the current friendships I am in I don't feel I am healthy in them because I do depend on them.

[@asphynxiate]

i love your necklace !!

[@gravy3907]

this helped thanks mate

[@Hijabisontop_12]

you are like my therapist lol

[@RoxyBlues]

You are beautiful. I like your makeup lighter yet still dark, like this. You're stunning either way, but in this particular video- there's a light to your darkness, and unhidden behind 'store-bought beauty'- your usual "hellish sexiness" translates here as "angelic controlled chaos" and is purely captivating, to say the least.

[@evygil]

You lokk Great with minimal make up too :) Your eyes are interesting ti watch. What astrological sign are you? And thank you for this video. Yea...actions speak louder the words. I would be friends with you. You seem really nice and honest.

[@fionacoralie3203]

You're completly right. Furthermore I still experience that if you've experienced abuse (especially in childhood) you unfortunatley not always see what other people are "permitted" to do with you, you can't really see your border. It's very hard to sort yourself then out of it, even if they'r (just) friendships. PS: sorry, if there are any mistakes my english isn't that well, I'm from german