Reparenting Myself

[@TerriMaresCrochet]

LOL!! I love you and miss you. I was definitely a feral kid too, but we had no food. So, . . . I was a hungry kid, and now I just suffer from food insecurity all the time. I think I've told you before, I eat ALL the food. If I make a salad, I eat ALL the salad. But if I make a lasagne, I eat ALL the lasagne. Anyways, . . . Now we have to parent ourselves. I love that concept.

[@kippytx]

My late husband grew up hungry as a kid. He never completely overcame food insecurity

[@suzanneseaberg5075]

If we all had that kind, loving, encouraging support, there is nothing we couldn’t do.

[@rp3343]

You are such a beautiful soul. Almost not of this world. Yeah. I grew up in a loving but still crazy family. You right, it is what it is.

[@lindaw2652]

Heather, sweetie, you are doing a good job. I love you and I'm so proud of you. I think I will now start to parent myself the same way. I like this idea. Thank you.

[@adoeroftheword]

Congrats, Heather for the awesome weight loss! 136! that's amazing!!! You go girl! I too was a latch key kid (feral, lol ;-) ) and have the skill to break in my own home too. Watched all those classic shows plus Andy Griffith, lol! Like you, at age 10, I babysat neighbor's kids, age 5, 3 and 2 months old. Crazy, I know!! I don't know how anyone trusted me but I had really enjoyed babysitting so that I can grab some hard-earned quarters to run up to the dime and nickels store for gums and candies. My brother and I were always doing dishes, cleaning house, laundry and cook meals too, lol! It's amazing that we still have great teeth for not brushing our teeth as we should! Thank you for taking me down the nostalgia road and see that re-parenting that I'd need to refocus more on self care and be kind to myself. Love you so very much, God bless you!

[@cindystrother7710]

Please don't put your self down Heather be proud of your self you are a AWESOME INSPIRATION and PERSON

[@pattypop52]

another great, video hon. next wk, u will be in the 200's, 👍I really enjoy ur perspective on things. I have thought recently, about being rewarded with food treats, when children, ours parents did it, theirs did it, & we did it. AND, i always remembered having a night lunch, from childhood, to age 66. It has only been these last 3 yrs., since following Chef AJ, & you & others, that i figured out, i don't HAVE to eat 3 meals & 2-3 snacks a day, it is ok, i will not die of hunger. It's ok, to not eat as soon as i get up !! As long as, i eat the right amount of whole starches to satiate me thru, i IF, from 5-6 p.m., to 12-1 p.m.. I am lucky, since i detoxed from animals & processed foods, i don't crave any more. & when i binge, it's on fruit. I prob told u this b4, i will be 69 Jun5th., lost 98 of my 100 lb goal, 5'1", was 3x ,now 10 bottom & small top, was 44BMI, not 27. tried to hide my size in baggy clothes, but, i think that just defeated the purpose. NOW, i actually LIKE what i see, in the mirror & camera, when editing our videos. Our channel is small, 400 subs. self care, yes, we need to do it, for our selves. I have never been so confident , either.no longer a yes person/pple pleasure, just to make every one else happy. I love love love being smaller, PLUS, i was nearly bed/home bound, by lot food/drink related illnesses. I healed them, got off 5 meds, no more CFS or fibro pain 24/7, no more cane. I am now back working side by side with my very supportive hubby. He is 8 yrs younger, so, it is my miracle , he will be 61, me 69. But, i feel 30ish, not 80ish. He even lost 40 lbs, not even trying, eating what i cook, 10-30 days a month. Ok, sorry so long, i just want to shout it from the roof tops. i know, u know xo💖💪🙏 💪 PLANT STRONG 🥦🍠🌽🥬🍅🥒🧄🥕 L❤️VE 💋 there is magic in them there veggies & fruit !! hehe but it's true !! ❣️❌⭕️

[@MrsPlantinTexas]

I'm so sorry, Heather. I know you had a very hard upbringing. I am grateful you have the most loving Father now. ✝️ Love you!! p.s. Those shows were CLASSIC!!! 😂

[@violethendrickson6080]

Thank you so much for sharing, what an insightful, practical understanding of what needs to be done!

[@gingershaffer2547]

Heather, you look radiant! Your face is glowing and it made me smile when I saw your sweet face! So happy for your success!!!!!! The Lord bless and keep you on your trip. I was an only child and always alone. My Mom was a single mom and life was not easy. There is a saying ......."childhood is something we spend our whole life trying to get over" lol Food was my friend, inspiration and comfort......so, once again I'm starting over with my weightloss ! Sooooo, we press on! We will only eat to live, not live to eat! You are in my prayers. Thank you for your video. XO

[@cindystrother7710]

Please don't give up Heather you can do it. you are awesome and you are a AWESOME INSPIRATION THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING

[@yentavegan8823]

I love you so much too. You keep me honest and compliant.

[@barrbuff]

This makes so much sense, I believe you're on the right track. Keep up the good vibes!

[@123Annie]

Hi Heather--you have such an amazing connection with all of us and such a wonderful insight that I haven't thought of! I was just like you--a latch key kid in upper elementary & middle school years. I never thought of how that has affected me and what I deal with today tho until you put it into words. I think a lot of my security is wrapped-up in all those processed foods wrappers and those same afternoon sitcom tv shows! I loved the Partridge Family and Bewitched, and even Green Acres, PettyCoat Junction & the Beverly Hillbillies along with the ones you mentioned. I do think the tv shows were good for a young child alone to watch tv but the food I would consume has left me struggling at in my old age now. Thank-you so much Heather for sharing your heart with us--you are so strong, so inspiring, yes 136# is incredible in itself but you'll soon be in the 200s and you really are so pretty too! Thank-you for this message--I'm so grateful you love & accept yourself--and just say that everyday when you look at yourself--cause we all love you too!

[@DianneRawGirl]

Howdy Heather. Your doing fine. I envy you for your weekly videos. Honest and a real deal.

[@johnlambert7041]

Still inspiring people! Thank you for all your videos!

[@JimmyCricket61258]

You look beautiful :) Heather you can upgrade to a business class seat at the front of the plane if the flight is not sold out. I did that and it cost about 70.00 more, but the seats are much wider and more leg room, which I enjoyed since I am 6' 2". It was so worth it.

[@ziggy33399]

I’m praying for you. 🙏🏽 using the power of prayer...(for us both). Here’s the thing. I just finished reading “Can’t Hurt Me” by David Goggins. Well, I listened to it on audible. Like you, I was left as my parents worked . We didn’t have words like “latch key kid” back then. I was 5 & was told to tell anyone who might find out that my mother was working so we could have a nicer vacation. I was afraid alone. I spent time figuring out hiding places if someone wanted to break in, Rob, etc. We didn’t have food to snack on. I was to start dinner in the frying pan before she got home (meat ). I had everything...but I was told I needed more love than any of my older (and absent) brothers & sisters. I was just “needier”. My older brothers & sisters didn’t like me much. They had their own lives. Portion control was easy. If there was cookies 🍪 we could have ONE ☝🏼 ~ two on special occasions. I was hungry a lot. I was underweight. So for me, eating potato chips was heaven, French fries were absolutely heaven...now I’m 5’2” and over 200 lbs. I’m 72 years old, gained about 80 lbs. I’d WAY too hard to walk...impossible to stand still (3 back surgeries) and other things sinusitis, etc. Taking showers 🧼 is difficult, cleaning myself is difficult. I got a bidet and solved the privates cleaning part. But showers and even soaking in a tub is scary now. The shame is awful. My husband doesn’t know what to do with me...eat in front of me or shame me more. This is MY journey..MY path & No ones going to save me. I am in this with ME. I’ll use this pain to remind me that I’m in school to learn to remember that I’m precious and precious things need to be treated as such so they don’t break...and last. Thanks for your talk.

[@debward3712]

Sending you lots of love as you continue on your journey xx

[@ziggy33399]

@@debward3712 thanks, Deb. It’s good to know my opponent is actually me. Dive deep.

[@kimconry8382]

Oh Heather. So proud of you. Very Happy for you moving to your goal as you are. I have the same exact severe anxiety of flying because of the same reason. I thought I was alone in that anxiety. My friends and family think I'm bonkers. Also I think you and I grew up in a similar house with the exception I was an only child. Thanks so much for sharing. I don't feel so alone and ashamed of myself now. And love how your self parenting.

[@catdancerskaleidoscopeofbo8496]

Hi Heather. Those weren't garbage TV shows; if only we had those kinds of shows now. I was home watching Divorce Court and Oprah after school at that age. 😹🤗

[@mtkids3558]

My Dad drove truck and most of the time my Mom rode with him. I spent years with baby sitters. First grade, I walk home, cook mt dinner, make my bed if it didn't get made in the morning. Sit and wait to hear the truck pull in late at night, get tucked into bed. Pretty much my life till 5th grade, they bought a truck stop cafe. Then I went to work ofter school waiting tables, washing dishes, peeling potatoes for french fries, don't ask me if I Like peeling potatoes.... Graduated from jigh school, no plan, no self-esteem, feeling lost and alone. Now 69, married 49 years, still feel lost and alone, hubby has Parkinson's so retirements plans are down the drain for travel. Sold the big 5th wheel and pick up, he can't handle it. Got little popup that I pull with little Toyota pickup. Don't go far from home. Wasn't my dream at all.

[@jenmollins1941]

Parenting myself, what a wonderful eureka that this is how I need to be.

[@detourtorechah7075]

Hi Heather, I enjoyed this video. Self parenting...yes we all need a littleof that. My childhood was similar. Raised by grandparents who did not speak English, I was pretty much my own boss growing up. Heather you have so much to offer utube viewers, as you have been in the trenches of food addiction like so many of us. I sure hope you come back one day...we all have so much to learn from each other as we go forward. You are genuine and have a sweet gentle spirit. Be blessed. ❣

[@NutmegNotebook]

Your life experiences shaped you into the loving, caring adult you are today! You continue to inspire me and I am sending you love and hugs!

[@drjackiesteel]

Wow - congratulations! 299.9 is right around the corner. 💕 Be your beautiful smiley self & your airplane seat neighbor definitely won’t be “bothered” by you. Good job on parenting yourself - I’m working on that too. 😄

[@Masterclassonlife]

Heather, thanks for speaking about this because it is helpful for the latch kid key in me.

[@patwhite8741]

So glad to see and hear you!

[@Boxerr54]

Happy St Patrick's Day! I see you wore green, but I didn't hear you mention being Irish for a day as I seem to recall you saying in past years. Love onward, be good, and be well. I look forward to hearing you make it to the 200s next week!

[@rebeccaofpollywogflatts8976]

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

[@anneh7217]

First time watching your channel. You have had a real struggle in your life. I know that you will once again meet the healthy weight that you desire. Darn food anyway, there is so much unhealthy sneaky foods out there to mess up a persons goal of health. Keep focused and you will reach your goal. You are a very sweet soul. Blessings your way.

[@aakashasjourney557]

Just found your channel and it is so helpful I identify on so many levels thank you

[@casey111]

“Loving limits” I love this. Great tool for my tool box.

[@ruthbiafora5443]

You are a beautiful person, inside and out ❤️

[@cherylrundle1320]

My gosh just seen one of the latest clips you have come some far and are an inspiration

[@shellycote1452]

Heather, your experience is so similar to mine. Thank you for sharing this deeply personal history. It has certainly helped me. 💙

[@belinda2221]

Heather, I love this video. What a great way to handle this issue!

[@billieread2116]

You look radiant. You skin is glowing and green is such a pretty color on you. Good tips on the self talk. Congratulations on the continued weight loss!!!!!!

[@pamdoherty723]

I can relate to all you said in this post. Our backgrounds are different but some results are the same. I just found you. I'll be looking out for you 🌷!

[@loriledner6528]

Great job Heather- keep it up. It sounds like you have a a lot of people that really love you.

[@lindabalestrieri4140]

Thank you, Heather, for sharing your journey with us. ❤️

[@listeningatwork8719]

I’ve got KZbin playing while I get ready for my day. Just as I was exiting the shower, I heard you talk about taking a shower. Yes, I’m feeling proud of myself today. 😉👍

[@cemetarymama]

You are so inspirational to me. I really identify with having to reparent myself.

[@MrsPlantinTexas]

pps. I got OVER-parented. 😭

[@kippytx]

Love your channel. I live Near Eugene Oregon

[@marilynboykins3577]

Wonderful your doing great I'm going to keep trying I weighed in today at 330 I hope to be at 299 by May I know I can do it

[@soli4838]

great accomplishment so far!

[@ellenwhidbey]

Awesome thoughts today, Heather. Can relate to much of it. Times were different back then for many of us.looking forward to follow you back into wonderland!

[@threasacoleman7133]

Woot woot...high 5....you've got this

[@johnphillips4033]

You are awesome! 😎

[@Susan.M.]

Ya Mel Robbins says we have to learn to parent ourselves cuz at 18 we are on our own....it makes so much since...shame the internet wasn't around in the 80s I get agrevated I'm learning so much at 50+...it's like I have to mourn a loss

[@wildaboutcooking2594]

I loved Gilligan’s Island and the Brady Bunch 😉

[@amycaruthers7858]

Thank you for sharing this. Mine was weird in a different way. I was forced to eat as much as I could hold down because my parents thought that was loving since they had both been so poor in their childhoods. I would eat until I was sick. They’d keep insisting to “ have more”. As a result I have struggled with never feeling full.

[@l.j.2043]

Sorry you had such a difficult upbringing. Remember..YOU are in control of your life now and you are doing a great job. Yay for losing...and being sooo close to being in the 200's. I am in the 200's too and had lost 20 lbs about 1 year and half ago an gained it back and am redoing it all and sticking to it better this time around. I am also enjoying the food better this time around. Maybe that is because I know more what to do this time than before and know some recipes that I like or can mix and match some foods and love it. I feel confident that it is going to work for me this time. Feeling better too. I have no doubt that you will be in the 200's the next time you are on here. Take care.

[@adventureswithjulani]

I’m so glad I Pune your channel. I am getting started with my lifestyle change but the right way this time. I had the gastric bypass and regained everything. Your channel inspire me and right now I’m at 300 pds and I wanted to know how long did it take to lose the 137 before? Tia for your time. Stay encouraged.

[@barbarafeeney1195]

❤️❤️❤️

[@MrsAloha1959]

💜💜💜💜💜

[@billtozier9081]

You really pretty.

[@awakekate3064]

My childhood was so much like yours. I stayed home alone starting around age 9. My parents weren’t really loving though. Great insight!

[@rocketfaith1494]

Celebrate your progress. Explore why you didn't sustain your former weight loss. Get some help if you need to. Congratulations 👋👍👋 on your continued tenacity. Much❤️ and success. You can do this.🙏😇🤗🎉🎉🎉

[@judyosborne]

I love your outlook on life dear. Congratulations on your weight loss. You are going to succeed in your weight loss goals. You are an inspiration to many of us. Keep it up dear. We love you ❤️

[@MINDRESET4SURVIVORS]

you are doing great.

[@Moniinthemorning]

People do not get the being emotionally neglected has such adverse affect in our growth

[@joanowens7941]

You're a very intelligent woman and your journey is so helpful to me. Thank you, Heather.

[@veganangel68]

I loved Emergency! I had a huge crush on John

[@donnaeichenlaub8180]

Yay!!

[@marciad9138]

Thanks for all you share. do you follow a daily program like Dr McDougal or Chef A?J?

[@alalunaa]

❤

[@lothrop53]

I think you look good it’s really hard I wish I could make it better

[@InesGalicMusic]

your skin is amazing and just eat more like starch solution rather then eat to live program and you will do great

[@katrinahameed4543]

Please come back.

[@cindystrother7710]

I don't put the like button with sadness or diseases or anything like that it is just so sad 😭

[@venuscruz6075]

Do you think after you lost so much weight, that your body finds it super easy to gain it back.

[@angelarose6602]

You might find vegan Keto would work for you xx