5 EVIL Manipulation Tactics The Narcissist uses

[@obscurum6]

Them guilting you into feeling responsibility for them as a parent, as they take on a child role, thus making you feel like you are abandoning a child, and not the adult they really are, is so insightful.

[@melodysanquist4834]

This!!!

[@David-ci6rl]

All from trauma everything has a root, demon possession is sad to witness they don’t even see themselves ireal reality, grief and move on

[@brightstar4321]

1. Confusion: Gaslighting, Word Salad, Alternating Hero & Villain Dynamic 2. Control: Love Bombing, Breadcrumbing, Intermittent Reinforcement, Discarding 3. Deception: Lying, Denial 4. Blame Shifting: Projection, Deflection 5. Avoidance: Silent Treatment, Rage, Refusing Accountability

[@flemutter7211]

Why interact with this kind of human.

[@helenabaxt215]

Maya Angelou wrote when a person show you......

[@hurricaneaquatics]

​@@flemutter7211it's often not a conscious act. We meet romantic partners that are narcissist and neither person knows it. So you don't go in to the relationship knowing you're with a mentally ill person.

[@kimgordon3695]

@@robertruge2916 answer: the system was created by the 1st Narc Hassatan (in Eden) 🌴 Dan. 2 : 44

[@robbiegailh.2076]

@@flemutter7211 Exactly, but that is easy to say in hindsight. Because they scam you in...it's a psychological trick they pull, to get you in so they can mine you, drain you, drink your milkshake.

[@rileyhoffman6629]

Don't forget about withholding love as manipulative.

[@siyaindagulag.]

I don't reckon that it's Love , then.

[@victoriaolson8985]

yes, that’s what he means by leveraging love.

[@gigantopithecushominoidea8779]

Humility is the cure, to understand there are things outside ourselves we don't understand. Like sending donations to Ramas. That worked just fine.

[@danielborrowdale3903]

Normal people love people and use objects a narcissistic loves objects and uses people.

[@katydid594]

Especially in a parent/child relationship.

[@zx81qw]

"If you don't prioritise your life, someone else will." - Anon

[@kimgordon3695]

Welcome to corporate control

[@williamtiffee3799]

"You either ride life, or it rides you... Your mental attitude determines who is ‘rider...’ and who, is a ‘horse.’ ”You either control your mind... Or it, controls you!" "Without A doubt, the most common weakness of all human beings, is the habit of leaving their minds open to the negative influence, of other people..." And: "As a man thinketh, so is he..." : Napoleon Hill quotes.

[@heiker1351]

​@@williamtiffee3799You are a hero, no doubt. Imagine a child, being gaslighted, brainwashed and guilt tripped by the whole family after being drowned but somehow came back, without any chance than to forget what happened. Fear and resistance was punished with death, that was the lesson learned. They used that forgotten fear for decades to manipulate, creating a quite fearless being that turned into a silent, helpless statue in their presence. Never knowing why. Always fighting aginst smoke and mirrors. Do you think your wise quotes are any solution or help for that? Do you have any idea how wicked those people are? I don't think so. Nonetheless, quote on and have a nice day. Your superiority is undeniable, what an educated guess. Sorry to inform you that your quotes are way off the mark. Better late than never.

[@williamtiffee3799]

@ Heiker Actually, I WAS a self help/ PMA/ motivational reader... and Nightingale- Conant, et al cassette tape "junkie" from the latter 1980s- early 1990s, as well as a (near to far East) "spiritual student." The Napoleon Hill quotes, were merely that. BTW: My younger brother and I were raised by two covert 4 & 4.5+/6 'narcy' parents... who 'split' in '81, only to re- pair with two more (far worse- full- blown 5+/6 NPDers in my teens) so I can most definitely "relate..." and also still sport sufficient CPTSD to prove it... so am finally pushing full- on "No Contact," vs. "limited." And I fail to SEE how either their comment, or mine... are "irrelevant?" Or were you just trying to "trigger" me? LOL. ;-)

[@heiker1351]

@@williamtiffee3799 I find quotes like that hurtful and a subtle way to shift blame. It says that you are responsible for the life you live. But if someone or even everyone around you brainwashes you from the start and forcefully changes your perception and your understanding of the world and of yourself you have no real chance to "ride life". Those wisdoms might be motivational for people who live their own life. But for the ones who are forced to live a fantasy ... As long as you are not free from the fantasy you ride a fantasy, not life. The problem of a victim is that it does not control its mind and will not as long as it is still controlled by the abuser. Even when you escape you are not free, you have to deprogram yourself. If you don't, you will continue to believe what they told you to diminish and hurt you. For decades I tried very hard to ride, never really succeeding. I never understood what my family did to me, I did'nt know what covert narcissists are. The traumas were forgotten, wreaking havoc nonetheless. Years of therapy failed and cemented the belief that I have, I am the problem, something is wrong with me. Those wisdoms only further to damage your selfesteem if you believe that. Make you ride the fantasy harder, blame yourself when you still fail achieving what you work so hard to achieve. If you don't know that you live a fantasy you will always fail. You have to stop riding, change horses, and then the quotes makes sense. Everything else will very likely fail.

[@reverentalexanderchezeley-6367]

Arye, no NPD could handle whatsoever curling up in a ball on the floor wailing, crying and grieving, over the breakup of a romantic relationship, or death of a loved one, or pet etc. They cannot handle the pain of the finer and positive emotions of compassion, empathy, sympathy and love. As we all know love is the most powerful, joyful and glorious of feelings. Yet, when love breaks down through what i mentioned above, as we all know, love then becomes the most extremely painful emotion known to man. Only "the strong' can deal with that and go through that horrific emotional pain. NPD's can't do that, their not strong enough to deal with that emotional pain, it would finish them off. So be proud that you can experience those painful, but neccesary finer, positive emotions of love, that are connected to reality and not fantasy. Thanks our kid, great video.

[@flemutter7211]

This man is a national treasure and most be protected at all costs!

[@JamFlava1]

Okay sheep.

[@kimgordon3695]

Hes like Hugh Laurie with an American accent... 😃

[@taraarrington2285]

I think they also are afraid you will outgrow them or find someone who treats you better.

[@robbiegailh.2076]

Robotic repetition of the words, "I love you."😂😂😂😂😂

[@JC-mv7hf]

Shame and guilt are very different… i can deal with and face guilt but shame is different. I recommend standing up and facing the feelings expose them and control how others perceive us not letting the narcissist control how others see us… i do by making myself look even worse

[@MrAbsalomdavid]

I think the only word I would add, just to be helpful and point out one specific scenario, is the word, "pity." This is in the dynamic of dealing with a covert/fragile narcissist. Pity and victimhood is their biggest "supply line."

[@franco2b145]

Absolutely. Take note of how they’re always the victim in the sap stories they tell. All that is missing is the background violin playing..

[@susanstatesheale]

I’m 15 months post narc (he discarded me in the most horrifying way imaginable) and I’m just starting to feel free of his insanity. Reality tastes so sweet. It’s been a decade since I’ve had it.

[@sofiaisabella3317]

What a Good video. They should teach this everywhere. I’m I feel at the end of my journey, but man have I paid the price for not wanting to be abused. It’s insane it’s at this level in our society but I’m Very grateful for the internet, being isolated and all, this was my portal for understanding what is happening and that I’m not alone. Thank you

[@sofiaisabella3317]

Being raised in a family cult by my parents where I was the sort of Jesus figure, and wanted to work in medical science (also not an easy environment). So I had to break my family, health, cult, work gaslighting and leverages. I see now that that is not easy. I kept saying I feel so guilty, and seeing my parents fall into an abyss when I would leave. I also feel shame for losing myself, eventhough it started when I was 2. But everything was/is my fault, that’s no secret they tell everyone and me included. But still miss me and feel bad and my father now wants a relationship because he’s sick because of this situation and is dying. My sisters won’t talk to me. I’ve never done a thing. I even asked them what did I do, and they say now, you did nothing. Before I was ungrateful etc. I left 9 years ago, been trying no contact since 8 years, and I almost turn 40. I picked up a lot of my life in the last 2.5 years but I feel sad for the person at 29 as I was, knowing what I wanted and thought I need to get out, I lost a whole life of what I envisioned.

[@kimgordon3695]

He's a brilliant survivor & wonderful for sharing His insights!

[@dclarke1896]

This is one of the most accurate illustrations of what it's like being in a relationship with a narcissist! Watch, take notes, and apply this information because I know I am! Be safe everyone! 🙏

[@missdjamerica]

I did have guilt and shame because he said if I divorced him he would have to die. Then after he was gone I felt badly that he would become homeless without me and be one of the crack hoers on the street. Wow, thank you Richard. Thank you. You are helping so I don’t feel crazy.

[@7w7-2]

It’s kind of contradictory to say that a narcissist ex admitted that to gaslighting. One of the behavior patterns of a narcissist is that they won’t admit fault on their own, and that they use gaslighting to convince you that they were never at fault. I can tell you what behavior of my narcissist ex led me to believe that I was being gaslighted though. Gaslighting is a real insidious way of manipulation- to make you believe that there is something wrong with you, that the actions/words of your narcissist weren’t really what they seemed to be. It makes you question your judgement, leading to you ignoring your instincts and senses. I swallowed all of her gaslighting for years, mostly because I wanted the relationship to work- like most people who have been the partner of a narcissist. I started realizing that something was wrong 6 months before I was discarded. It was actually this revelation that I had that led to the discard- once I started seeing through the illusion that she presented, I started to see all of her actions for what they really were, and I started to question her on everything and stood my ground on issues that I previously gave in on. We had gotten into a really bad argument. Tensions between us had been building for a few months. We had to move from our rental and find a new place to live within 2 months, in a town that was going through a surge in prices for rental properties. It was difficult finding a place to live that was within our budget, and still live in the town that had come to be our community. Between that and all of the normal logistics in moving cause a lot of minor arguments and stress between us- more than what was normal with her narcissistic and selfish behavior. We found a place, moved in and was in the process of bringing the final things over from the old place to the new place and cleaning the old place when we had gotten into an argument about something minor. All of the pent up tensions and resentment came out. During the argument, she was dismissive to me and told me that everything was my fault and if I didn’t like it then I could pack my shit and leave. I was so frustrated that I knocked her external computer monitor down (so she would face me and not continue to argue with her back turned to me). She got up and in my face and told me that I probably wanted to hit her. I said that I didn’t, I just wanted to discuss the issues. She said that if I wasn’t man enough to hit her she would give herself a black eye and call the police on me. I turned and left the room, because I knew the argument was escalating to a place that I didn’t;t want it to go. As I turned to leave the room, she jumped on me and started punching me. I told her if she was going to hit me, I would call the police. She started punching me again, so I left the room, went to the master bathroom and called the police. They came, interviewed both of us and arrested her for spousal battery. Afterwards she only blamed me for the incident and never, never acknowledged that she hit me. A week or so later, she asked me to write a letter to the DA requesting that the charges be dropped. I said that I would write a letter but that she would have to acknowledge her actions and to apologize to me first. She said that she was sorry that I felt that way. I told her that I wouldn’t write anything to the DA, and she stormed off, giving me the silent treatment for a couple of days. I knew what happened, and have a very clear recollection of the events. I’ve been punched before with closed fists, and I know what it feels like- and it doesn’t feel like a “shove”, what she insisted was what she did (her story was that she shoved me only after I shoved her, which was nonsense). I got a copy of the police report, and one of several reasons that they arrested her is because they found her knuckles red and swollen. I tried to move through this, but she kept trying to change the narrative of what happened when I was very clear on what happened. I felt crazy, but knew that I wasn’t. This led me to question everything else that she told me. Once I started realizing that most things she told me (when it came to disagreements or things that I had an issue with) were lies, and I believed the illusion that she created to trick me. That’s what the narcissist does- they present an illusion to you. Just like looking at an optical illusion, once you see that it is a trick of the eyes, you can’t look at it again without seeing the trick. Once I started seeing through her illusions, the house of cards that she built started to fall down and I slowly started to realize the type of person that she was, even though I didn’t want to believe it. I started enforcing my boundaries and that drove her crazy and caused more fights and gaslighting, which is what I believe led to her finally discarding me 6 months after her arrest. She never admitted to gaslighting me though. Even after confronting her with things from years previous that I realized she changed to make me the one at fault, she stays with her story. Even with indisputable proof, she stays with her version of events and says everyone else is wrong. Don’t expect any type of satisfaction or closure from a narcissist, because you won’t get any. You have to believe your judgment and instinct, and not tie your self-worth and self-esteem to anything that they say to you. Additionally, If you ever suspect your partner is cheating on you give it a try and remotely access their phone. I had to follow my instincts and get in touch with this private investigator Metaspyhub@gmail. com who gave me unrestricted access my partner device.

[@justwatching1985]

The Love Bombing in the workplace works with fake promises and future faking. Have experienced it on my own body how my vision or my love for my future development was used to manipulate me. Fortunately, I found the red pill twice and beamed myself out of the matrix. It’s hard to spot but thanks to content like yours my consciousness is on high alert when entering new situations. Keep it up ❤️

[@nicholashudson1283]

16:26 Gotta love the spontaneous comedy at the end of the video 🤣

[@Keepswimming....123]

OMG!!! I do have fear that they will end up homeless!!! And that they won't survive without me.

[@targoltran]

I love Richard's accent. He has a beautiful personality and voice. The content regarding NPD is also very authentic, and not offensive. Blessings to Richard from America.

[@carolkristian1146]

At his job, he is one person, everyone likes him. He comes home, and he's psychotic. How can anyone live like that? Richard explains it perfectly.❤

[@intothemystic3374]

Asking "is the person using (your) love (for something) to gain leverage against you" is a pattern I think I need to be alert to involving a work situation. Thank you for explaining it.

[@almor2445]

3 years ago she said we couldn't have sex of any kind ever due to her health. It made no sense but I respected her boundaries. For 3 years I didn't pressure her and was 100% loyal. Just found out she's engaged and saw other men in that time. Feeling so used and humiliated. But she's still claiming to have done nothing wrong. I'm speechless. She's swinging now between begging for me to marry her, threatening to have me arrested, showing up at my house yelling for half an hour and sending cute pics amd messages of the good times. She lost all emotional regulation and strategy.

[@racebannon96]

Run. Avoid. Go No Contact. Block her on everything. She will destroy you and everything you have worked for. You can’t help these people. They never get better.

[@pmf026]

I'm at stage 5.... 3 years no contact now. It's exactly like Richard describes... feels like leaving a broken/wounded child 😞

[@nessauk2786]

Like abandoning a child exactly as it feels.

[@nessauk2786]

That's how it feels

[@illyay1337]

It’s crazy how accurate that is. I didn’t really know the true definition of trauma bond before but always felt like that’s what my love was.

[@colinpowell9454]

And if it's not them you feel like you're abandoning, it's your actual children because you'd rather it be you that gets the mood swings and NOT the kids so you become a buffer and suffer MORE guilt 😢

[@nessauk2786]

@@colinpowell9454 self abandonment the mirrage

[@SuperSausage777]

She would also ghost me for a couple of months then come back and the first thing she would say to me is HOW'S YOUR MENTAL HEALTH..instead of a straight forward hello...very strange...

[@cyndigooch1162]

That certainly is a strange thing to say and it seemed like she was wanting to hear that her behaviour caused issues rather than caring about your state of mind! 🙁

[@remyragnarson7891]

so true, guilting and shaming is powerful, just now learning to not fall for it after years of not seeing it

[@AS-iu8hr]

Brilliant video as usual! Just a little two cents I wanted to throw in, gaslighting can also involve changing things in the target's environment, like moving objects around so they question their sanity when they remember it being there. ...Applied to conversation, it can look like a random peppering of inconsistent statements. Amazing how such a simple tactic can wreak so much havoc on someone's mind, but it does!

[@wattsurfrigginproblem]

David Byrne said " I believe, one day, we will live in a world without love".

[@kulanifernandez3668]

Oh. And thank you to your other contributors who commented because I learned from their comments as well. Mahalo!

[@catherine87]

We know you did. Question is will you use that "learning" commentary attitude findings as a two edged sword?

[@motorclubofamerica8999]

After 17 years of being with my woman im just now catching on to this. I could never put my finger on it but i now see that she's a narcissistic.

[@Tiggy123]

Karpman triangle has definitely got to feature in this. Used so often by the Narcissist.

[@pqt112]

In creative ways as well

[@frankielyman8769]

Well done. I just started to understand the horrible effects of being grown up Jin a narcissist home. Always knew something was wrong . Healing is life long like learning. Chin up!

[@SuperSausage777]

My last relationship 3 year ago was a long distance relationship with a lady who turned out to be a covert narcissist who was very sociopathic towards me, when i caught her cheating on a dating app she said to me YOU DON'T LIKE IT WHEN YOU SEE ME ON A DATING APP, as if it's my fault she got caught cheating, more like she meant to say I DON'T LIKE IT WHEN YOU CATCH ME CHEATING ON A DATING APP more like...

[@kimgordon3695]

facts : LD is not a relationship. It's a situationship. It's mere fantasy. 😑

[@firsttbone]

You just described my 12 year relationship with my former fiance!!

[@frankielyman8769]

Thank you Richard. I'm a practitioner in healthcare and observe the destructive methods of psychotropic drugs along with this very nefarious world. Using your knowledge with the videos has healed my mind, the natural way. It took a while however I can attest to you and your information regarding validation.

[@palerider9167]

I have watched videos on KZbin and read articles in Internet in zillion numbers. You beat them all - they never gave me the point of view, the understanding and grasping your video gave me. Especially that thing with love and love bombing and hooking and loosing ourselves during these key stages. Never came across such a mindblowing explanation like yours. Amazing!

[@kanothe187]

The Director of the bar I work at acted offended of me accusing her of Gaslighting. She literally used to get me to go down to the cellar and turn the gas valves on and off to "test" the previous GM. Literally the most textbook example like it was even the plot of film.

[@violetalight-ourrealm3518]

Mannnnnn THANK YOU Narcissistic Possesion something I have seen and been in. Good luck to those who are in it hope they make it out alive

[@claudiasbarra1044]

Oh this film was brilliant Richard. I cried a lot. I decided that I don't go into an intimate relationship until I have learnt to love myself enough and completly destroyed the shared fantasy .Every time when I think I am in reality for good, they call me and I am back in .I wished I had the possibility of complete no contact.

[@neiloconnell8847]

You can do it ! takes a lot of courage but there's always a better way and always a way out. Good luck to you.

[@claudiasbarra1044]

@neiloconnell8847 thank you for your encouriging words. Reading this I became aware that I still lack courage to stand up for myself, like Richard explains there is guilt and shame.I saw that his new course is exactly for that. 👍 Good luck for you too.

[@neiloconnell8847]

@@claudiasbarra1044 Thanks I'm out of my short phase of experience with this, I got out early but I still think about it and sometimes hate myself for falling for it, but that's what these entities want! You are better than them and they want to pull you down. Deny them the power and you win and get your life back.

[@JD-xd4sy]

Something that was helpful for me, and maybe it isn't applicable in your case, was realizing that I maintained a narcissistic relationship out of fear of negative consequences of breaking up (I was worried about revenge). Kind of like "fawning" and pretending to keep safe. But then I just got fed up about my own tactics and felt that I'd rather face any negative outcomes head on, instead of hurting myself through staying with someone who obviously didn't have my best at heart. From there on, it was as if the person didn't have any power over me anymore and I was free! So, maybe find what it is they use are leverage for you to stay, and decide to sacrifice that in order to be truly free.

[@claudiasbarra1044]

@JD-xd4sy Thank you for sharing. I am not in the relationship with my narcisstic husband anymore but he is still making more problems for the divorce. I really have to be careful because he can become very dangerous. He threatened me to burn the house with me and my pets one night if I do not what he wants with the divorce.I know that he would be capable to do this. I really have to balance that he cannot take all my money, my house and my safety. It costed me so much of my health. With my narcisstic mother, she is still my mother and old and I am learning to set bounderies and to love myself more. Wish you a good healing journey. ✨️

[@gemmadubbydubz7786]

Oh you do always manage to make laugh out loud at somepoint. I always go into these videos feeling very serious.

[@itchyscratch3829]

16:28 😂👍

[@Psychicblonde67]

That last bit about the bridge gave me an instant visual of the last three. That brought me joy. Never said I was nice. They helped make me what I am. Physically beat me, mentally torment me. Steal from me. So, yeah. I'm pretty angry.

[@Arrtists]

Your videos have helped me. I watch them every day. I am also seeing a therapist. This is all so new right new to me and I have no idea what to do

[@donnadwarika6370]

The more i hear the better my understanding.Thank you Richard.

[@arunajovinbenitha3793]

Looking forward so much to it. I remember a video you made 3 years ago and you came up with a superior strategy of being calm cool and creating a space between the observed facts and our response and to abandon all sincere communication with the terminally insincere. Looking forward to more depth, more ways to efficiently handle them . Especially in situations when it's a family member like brother in law or mother in law who you see once in a while still they put you down so much that it gets on your nerves. Effing frustrated. Can't go no contact. Tried grey rock . Didn't work. Help us Richard.

[@sandylu2668]

I g n o r e ! @arunajovjnbenitha

[@karinajones1121]

Silence..

[@kimgordon3695]

Grayrock ✓

[@dolladollabillz]

They will say something to you then tell you they didn't. Pure evil.

[@WeirdDensity]

What a coinkidink! Your user name is almost identical to my narc! 🤔

[@symbolsandsystems]

to love is to witness beauty

[@marieclaudelatour8542]

very powerful teaching. Sumple concise and easy to remember. Thank you.

[@violetalight-ourrealm3518]

OMG this video is the BOMB I see what ur alluding to in 10mins. Genius 👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@UrsulaZA]

There were times where I would self reflect into an oblivion, but when I’ve found myself near a suspected narc and having more time spent with them, I’ve started reflecting on “seeing myself”. I couldn’t explain it but I had this feeling that I’m not seen. Since I’ve went no contact, for the past few months, I’ve come to realise I’m not feeling that dull, dark feeling anymore.

[@dianehenke2539]

Wow! You nailed it! 🥳🥳🥳 Shame and guilt for submission. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@timpinkstone6093]

Fair play to you Richard your extremely clever, i learn proper deep stuff from you, thanks for your work!

[@JD-xd4sy]

I don't know if it's a sign that I've recovered and matured, but the last narcissist I left behind was someone who was almost "clumsy" in his manipulations. Kind of like he started shaming and guilting me before he even established "the dream" properly to fall back in. A psychological defense I've had most of my life, that probably hurt more than helped, is that many people seem to perceive me as more naive than I truly am - but in this particular case it was probably helpful because the narcissist obviously misjudged how "hooked" I really was: not at all. Otherwise, "playing dumb" is probably what got me into these dynamics in the first place, in stead of just asking manipulators to kindly go to hell.

[@jewlej]

I love your videos. It is so true how we have this motherly instinct. I watched my ex be homeless but they do so many evil things that it’s not worth the torture to even try to help them. It’s 2023 so I’ve dealt with mine since 1998. They are vampires. My parents were narcissists too, and my sister. I didn’t think real empathy and humans with souls existed.

[@Normalizethis]

“We don’t negotiate with terrorists.”, Les Grossman.

[@Wisdomseeker5]

A little by little after four years healing, alone, trening and understanding still have pain, but less. I discovered that I'm not introvert. This pleasure to be me is new. Scary, but optmistic. Even in this shi** world 😊

[@stephenbaldwin7165]

Exceptional. So sad I am where I am but nail, head, hammer. Thank you for creating and sharing these fantastic insights and framework into their minds.

[@denisaadamcova3591]

Great explaining of the structure of this narcisistic abuse. Thank you.❤

[@Peace-m2r]

Target, that word will forever be cemented in my mind.

[@kjsfl386]

F A N T A S T I C!! Thank you, Richard

[@lisachesmore8442]

I have seen that also. Agreed. Horrifying experience. Thank you for putting words to that.

[@HEWholoves-w1d]

Yes, the last couple years I was married to him. I knew he was pulling away and was looking elsewhere for supply but now that I’ve been divorced from him for three years, I still miss him and I remind myself constantly of how miserable I was the last few years we were together and yet I still miss him it is so aggravating.

[@zannaadedigba3936]

Wat is this power they have over us

[@infinitepeace3223]

Thank you.. I do feel it was like being stuck in the past & that the present and future has a very different feel.. Everything was always made my fault, it feels beautiful to no longer have that in my life Appreciation for you & sharing your knowledge 🙏

[@JadeHeartLove]

“Handjobs under the bridge for small change and crack” was a bit specific Richard 🤣

[@ThedaVonGurkenbeet]

😆😅❤🙌 love it, plus his facial expressions 💝🤟

[@cyndigooch1162]

I said to Richard through my phone that I wasn't expecting that. Lol. It's appropriate for this subject though. 😳

[@JadeHeartLove]

@@cyndigooch1162 the level of detail was Extra 🤣

[@DivineOne-lt3wf]

Very eye opening and insightful. As I’ve been meditating and becoming more and more aware I’ve begun to distinguish his pull on my head. His invasion of my mind. I’m recognizing it more and more. Today I was so upset with him I was ready to never talk to him again. When I sat down to take a break I was hit with this feeling it was almost forceful and it said essentially you will get over you will take me back. The scary part was how I almost just let it take over. But I was like what the hell is this?!

[@edycrowley2878]

This was very well done. Thank you so much!

[@LisaSmith-yb2uz]

I love these analogies 🙂 they really make things much more comprehensible 😉👌

[@lighthouse1136]

You're wonderful Richard 👌✨

[@izawaniek2568]

Spot on. You have nailed it Richard. God bless you❤

[@gentianhill]

I would love to enter the course, at the moment I am sharing a house with narcissistic people, so I think it will not work for me now as I am experiencing abuse 24/7 . Yes they are dead people, why? My housemates are closing doors very laud, they start closing the doors quiet when I close the doors same way as they do. So it goes the smash the door then I don't, then when I don't they do and the circle goes on and on, this is only one example of abuse. I have no opportunity to move out at the moment. And yes shaming and quilting is next. And yes when you try to confront them they act like children,... I wouldn't do that is their response not responsibility! Thank you Richard ❤❤❤

[@davidsundberg2861]

In one of his books, Gabor Maté wrote: "If you are faced with the choice of feeling guilt or remorse, choose guilt every time.". The feeling of guilt is therefore something I have to learn to accept as just a feeling. My reaction to that feeling of guilt should be carefully considered, to avoid possible traps. 13:43

[@PosiesTosies]

You're a natural communicator 😍 thank you so much x

[@jackskyeluke]

Wow this was a great summary, thanks Richard

[@alethea6781]

Past focus/shared fantasy is interesting. I guess that’s why my intuition kept giving me fantasies of Tim Burton’s movies, humorous, but with dead characters. Death=stagnation. I knew somehow the fantasies would become darker and become a whole horror story. I didn’t exactly understand why yet, but I knew I needed to get out of the relationship. My intuition was presenting the delusional nature of the shared fantasy. Thank you 🙏

[@naturalist369]

Well described & explained ! Thank you so much for this & the course. I've always loved a challenge ... until the mask of the narcissist came off 😵‍💫 I broke two trauma bonds from family & moved 3 hours north to go from very little, to no contact, to rebuild myself & my life FOR ME ! It is necessary to make the SHIFT to SELF COMPASSIONATE CARE ❤️🎶🙏🏼😇🌠🕊️💫

[@Stapleton-]

I feel like you had a camera in the room with me during my 10 year marriage. Everything so scarily accurate, especially the last bit. She told me she would die if I left her. Well, I left. Hasn't died.

[@sage9836]

Julia Cameron in The Artist's Way has good perspective on the gatekeepers in the art world. (This book is for everyone.) Lucky I read this because when people tried to exploit my love for my art, I was onto it, and managed to get associated with positive situations instead.

[@Funfearlessfemale120]

Amazing video, wow! So well said and understandable. Thank you 🙏🏻 No contact since 7/2/23 😄

[@guyallison7209]

I am 22.02.23 also. Wishing you the best keep moving forward.

[@rsmallfield]

I’m learning a lot through your videos - thank you.

[@AXA747]

I relate it to being addicted to a drug (not that I ever have ) but I think it’s similar to that feeling of needing a fix

[@tamelashafer8852]

Yes You can end up with an addiction and wonder what the f&$&@ has actually been happening to you and how did you end up allowing this insidious hall of mirrors 🪞 to become your life… covert craziness marriage has been a catalyst for deep journeys of research and extensive education… Loving Thyself & knowing Thyself is imperative… Authenticity & Autonomy are your super powers

[@behindDoorsOfHomes]

I took years to escape, all of these 5 and more. She also outsourced the abuse. It was made so much more difficult as we have a daughter, which she used all of her strategies to gain absolute control of my daughter, the behaviours so out of control that she no longer bothered to hide her abuse of my daughter and was witnessed by the parents of my daughter best friend. They described it as horrifying. Next on the agenda was to isolate my daughter, cut her off from everyone. Total ownership, ensure that nothing could enter her reality. , remove all risk. Truly horrifying

[@leonab545]

Truly is horrifying. It’s awful watching a child going through that, not being able to just block them from having that sick parent.

[@behindDoorsOfHomes]

@leonab545 unfortunately my daughter was cut off from me also. Now 1.5 years . There is no way for her to feel she has a choice, her only reality is the delusional world of her mother.

[@irenebienek3864]

Thank you for sharing this information!

[@av2155]

I need out of this dream . I'm just having a hard time distinguishing who is doing this to me. And yes I feel like I have been in a coma😢

[@FulanitoDTal-Lugar]

Dude, I really appreciate your videos. You have a presentation that is different from the other major KZbinrs that cover narcissistic relationships. In particular, I like how you are straight forward about certain aspects and say it just like it is. There is no need for interpretation. It is what it is, and that helps me a lot with acceptance. Thank you very much for the work you do!

[@katthompson3852]

I absolutely love your analogies.... love your channel. Extremely helpful. Thank you from NZ

[@sarangnaini2774]

Now I can only remember myself as crying my lungs out all the time. The most important thing is he never used to use any abusive words, because he knew I would never tolerate that. Guilt-tripping was the most common manipulative technique he used to break all of my boundaries. I was young, one of the mistakes I did was I confused attention for love. It was over attention, unhealthy, he wanted to be the top most priority and would react in the most toxic way possible if he felt like he couldn't control me/my life/I was not keeping him at the top.

[@scottwwsi]

threatening suicide fu(ked me up & kept me in for awhile, but when IT told me IT was having dreams of me being chased down by a mob and killed in the street, that was all it took. these entities are NOT human. gtfo.!

[@mariellegreer2485]

Thank you for such a helpful explanation! This helps and I hope that one day soon I can share this knowledge with by precious son. Thanks! Marielle

[@mosaicowlstudios]

They are crouched atop the Dragon with a welding iron, feverishly welding those Golden Scales into place

[@saymans13]

Guilt, shame, and fear.

[@TruthandJustice-hz9nv]

This is tremendous Richard, Thank you so much for this, Keep exposing these manipulation tactics, Keep educating a Nation, Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All Glory to the most high :-)

[@sandylu2668]

Excellent exposition @RichardGrannon

[@annamillerart]

You are hilarious Richard. Love your vids!!

[@KarynCain]

Omg! 😂that voice @richardgranmon when you said this is like a video for the narcissist! Lol

[@WeirdDensity]

My narc has hijacked my algorithm so every ad I get is personally insulting. All of my Recommend For Yous are insulting. All across the Internet, I am constantly told I’m Old Fat Ugly and Worthless. I’ve absorbed this. This will go on forever. I don’t want to go on.

[@Siegefya]

They do so much damn mainframe damage it's disgusting. They absolutely psychologically tear a person's brain up.

[@lordzords5671]

If a narc knows you Love your job, they will try to abuse you to love them, and then discard you when you are miserable from the trauma bond.

[@TheHrandolph]

your analysis is right on point! iv experienced all these steps with about 4 people in my lifetime. thanks for sharing . very conformational .

[@heartwisdomlove]

Great video! I love the image of the master with the whip and the stick and I also love the awareness that getting stuck in the past is like being dead excellent teachings! thank you thank you

[@svetlanav1107]

This is so true!

[@amandabrowne9675]

"Giving hand jobs for small change.. and crack" 😅 Favourite line. Thankyou for bringing to light a lot of ways I've adopted mothering instincts. Your content is both highly informative and entertaining.

[@nicholes3781]

Why do we humans have to make life even more, bloody complicated? Thanks Richard, and appreciate your candid approach. ✌🏾

[@thegreatalyssa]

One of the narcissists I knew lives wherever he can. It could be in tents, under bridges, in a family member's car, etc. He is drug-addicted and does have sex with men and women for drugs, money, etc. He was in a drug-induced coma 10 or so years ago after getting jumped in the streets by five guys and suffering a head injury that I think has given him some sort of TBI. I can pull up his arrest record and it includes arrests for breaking into parked cars for money, etc. He is really messed up and was once very handsome but not anymore in his 40s. He was intelligent with a family that included doctors. I learned a lot from him.