Second Baby: 15 things I'll do the EXACT SAME with the second baby!

[@kyleedavis1709]

I need mom friends like you IRL. I literally don’t know ANYONE who’s a “crunchy mama” or does cloth diapering, BLW, co-sleeping, etc. I always feel so judged and not supported in my choices and it’s SO hard. I wish I had some similar minded mamas in my life but I’m so thankful I found your channel! It gives me more confidence knowing I’m not alone in my choices!

[@bakerbrewz]

Agreed! So many of the things Shayla talks about seems to be the few and far between mama’s out there! I love her content! Everyone’s journey in parenthood is different and everyone has to make choices that best fit their life and lifestyle. Sending you plenty of positive vibes in your parenting journey! It’s worth it to do your thing, your way, and raise your tiny humans how you desire.

[@kyleedavis1709]

@@bakerbrewz you’re the sweetest, thank you!

[@annarocha3254]

It really is true that pain can be caused by mental distress. I had bone cancer when I was 21 and I have scans every year to see if it has returned. Before each scan I experience AGONIZING pain in my left leg to the point I am unable to walk. As soon as I am told the scans are clear, the pain instantly goes away. All that to say, I found that educating myself and knowing what was happening at each stage of labor helped tremendously to manage my pain during birth. ❤

[@MrsAPeterson]

I had my first baby at home in December via natural birth and I highly recommend Ina May and the Miles Circuit. I also listened to the Bradley Method audiobook. I didn’t feel pain, by the time my midwife arrived I was 9.75cm and I pushed for 90 mins. Amazing birth experience, it is a mental game more than anything (aside from genuine complications)

[@alyssiachelsea]

I was just thinking that I wish there was a KZbinr I follow that was pregnant around the time I was. And here we are! So happy to have found your channel just a few days ago, I’m 15 weeks with my first baby and all I can say is your channel is beyond a blessing. Thank you💕

[@heyshayla]

Yay!!! Congratulations!!!

[@lindseys9986]

I'm 15 weeks with my first too! There are a ton of KZbinrs pregnant right now and due around the same time as us :) Megan Acuna and Milena Ciciotti are just 2 that I can think of now. Best wishes!

[@alyssiachelsea]

@@lindseys9986 thanks so much for that! I went and followed them both right away! Lol

[@sharayalee3376]

I’m glad you mentioned keeping her hands free, babies learn so much through sensory input and especially touch. I would also recommend a nail file/buffer for parents who are nervous about trimming baby’s nails

[@KW-um9ow]

Thank you Shayla! I love your content and used a lot of it in preparing for my now 6 month old. One thing to note about my L&D experience. My water broke before contractions even started, and that led to about 40 hours of labor. Honestly it was such an amazing experience though. I think what it’s important to know is to FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS. Stay calm, breathe, I was able to listen to my body. After 40 hours of labor and two hours of pushing, my instincts were telling me that she wasn’t going to come out. We went ahead and opted for a cesarean at that point. It was the absolute right call as she was sunny side up and had her umbilical cord wrapped around her feet at the top of my uterus three times. The doctor said there was no way she would’ve come out. I’m so glad I followed my gut. I can honestly say it was no horror story of any kind, the entire experience was incredible and I can’t wait to do it again!

[@bakerbrewz]

Wow, talk about Mom instincts! That is an amazing story and how incredible that you saw/see only positive from it! Your baby is already blessed with such a great Mama

[@k92wilding16]

Tip! I made a sidesleeper (never used it cause we ended up cosleeping lol). We bought a second hand crib and just left a side off, pressed it up to the bed, making sure the mattresses were the same hight and then secured it to the bed with buggie cords.

[@sarahjean4029]

We did this too! Worked so well and we didn’t have to worry about her outgrowing it the way she would a side sleeper

[@faceflace]

As a first time mom I had a tough time because of soooo many factors. But I surprisingly wasn’t able to really invest and get into breast feeding and a solid latch until about 2 months. So I was relying on pumping barely at all and formula. I’m so thankful I was able to breastfeed for this long, he is now about to be 13 months.

[@anoshs6352]

I love this video! First time mom here. We are doing Montessori, cloth diapering, hoping to do elimination communication, BLW etc…. pretty much everything you’re saying! Thank you!

[@csogon22]

Hey Shayla;) I literally took a pregnancy test and found out I was pregnant from watching your video "PREGNANT with Baby #2". On November 17th. So crazy. I have PCOS so I am irregular & often miss a period every few months so missing October's was no shocker. We weren't TTC but since getting married summer 2021, we started doing the ovulation/cycle tracking preventative method because I thought I knew my cycle and body and everything super well (I had been tracking for 6 years). BUT turns out I ovulated TWICE in October. Which is crazy for PCOS because ovulation isnt frequent. So after watching your video at 7pm Toronto time, you had mentioned you were 43 or something days into that cycle & decided to test. That was playing on my mind so I tested at 11pm and INSTANTLY got 2 lines. We are so happy with our upcoming July 2022 bebe! Thank you so much for your granola videos. I love them so much.

[@heyshayla]

Yay!!!!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

[@jessicanachowitz620]

Not sure if anyone’s mentioned this, but the IKEA sniglar crib is a great cosleeper option! I saw the “hack” and wish I’d set it up this way from day one. It’s just the crib in the toddler bed configuration, and we have it in the corner snuggly up against our mattress, so no attachment is required and it feels very secure ✨ We have our king mattress on the floor and the height aligns almost perfectly (12 in would be perfect, ours in 10)

[@annelisegiammaria6185]

I so appreciate your point of view! I did hypnobirthing, and I did have a long delivery, but it was so beautiful to be that in tune with my body and so empowering to be on the other side and see what I was able to do. Thank you for spreading the news on hypnobirthing!

[@eirdoula]

I love how real and relatable your videos are! We offer meal plans and/or prep for all of our full spectrum clients. It makes such a big difference!

[@heyshayla]

Omggggg what a dream!

[@KatieVernon09]

I adore BLW- however may I add a huge comfort piece for me in doing it, was taking an infant CPR class! I feel like everyone should be certified in CPR. I’m having my 14-year old take one later this year!

[@kimberleylibby1028]

I 100% regret the 'purple pushing'. Having a hospital birth I was instructed to do the 'purple push'. I was also told to push before I was ready because labour and delivery was full and I was fully dilated so the doctor wanted me to start pushing in order to get me out of there faster and make room for someone else. Pushing for hours caused a lot of swelling and I had a 3rd degree tear. I regret not having a doula or midwife to advocate for me in pushing at the hospital, I think it could have been a completely different experience.

[@allisonkemper5533]

Your comment on the hands and nails is exactly how we handle it. Our baby did scratch himself some, but didn't seem to care. And I really wanted them to be able to use his hands. Cutting his nails was never enough. Babies don't use their nails so they're sharp AF. So there I was, buffing my baby's nails after cutting them. The fun part is I talk to him like it's a spa day manicure and include a short hand and arm massage for his and my amusement. The awkward part is I was super nervous the pediatrician was going to judge us for letting our kid scratch his face in a few places prior to his checkups. But she has never said anything.

[@vickikurdziel7975]

Congratulations on the second baby.

[@megankoenig1627]

Loving and binging your videos lately shayla! Natural-ish kind of mom here too so love all of this!

[@abigailfertal2678]

You are 4 weeks ahead of me! 19 weeks here. Excited to see upcoming content. We are also kind of "crunchy". Cloth diapers, Montessori, and natural birth

[@amandachang3571]

I started watching you during my pregnancy because of elimination communication. I was so determined to do it from birth, now my son is 4 months old and I still have not started. 😅 It makes me feel better that you started at 6 months and it worked! I will give it a go at 6 months!

[@rabbit__]

Adjusting to a baby is hard, it's OK to wait for things like elimination communication. You can do this, and congratulations on your little one!

[@megandelli1]

I didn’t do EC and started potty training at about 13 months and my girl was fully potty trained including night at 16 months. Which is usually what EC accomplishes anyway. So even prolonging it longer it’s still possible 😀 I would’ve done EC but I kept procrastinating lol

[@amandachang3571]

@@rabbit__ oh yes! This is my first and I'm already thinking how did those with a toddler do it? And those with twins?? 🤣 thank you for your encouragement!

[@amandachang3571]

@@megandelli1 I'm the definition of procrastination before I even got pregnant haha 😅 I was being too optimistic thinking I could start EC from birth. Thanks for sharing your experience!

[@dawnforlife]

I had successes and failures and I started around end of 2nd week. Now at 16 months, my girl is starting to be more consistent in telling me. I catch mostly just poo because so tiring to carry every time. So I’d say no pressure! Can start a bit later. So much is changing in those early months and around month 4 she had growth spurt and 5 she stopped pooing every day! So it was confusing haha

[@TheSassyGirl57]

Hypnobaby was amazing! It helped so much with birthing, child classes and feeling empowered

[@heyshayla]

Yay!!!!!

[@bethanyshaun8030]

I have an 18m old and I’m 19weeks pregnant. I love that we are “pregnant together” again

[@heyshayla]

Yay!!!! That’s so fun!!

[@hannahkate2342]

That would be good for beach. My toddler can definitely climb in there tho

[@madisonjane9865]

I would love a video on circumcision if you have a boy with this second pregnancy and how you made your decision! We are pregnant with a little boy this time and that topic has been challenging even with pediatricians.

[@Weanus2]

As a first time mom and will be get pregnant again in a year, I aprove of this video. 🤣🤣 I saved it so I can return. Very good video 💓Elimination communication!! Yess!

[@user-xn4ov1th7k]

exactly the same place in my pregnancy (23 weeks when you uploaded) and have been watching and learning from you since I first found out I was expecting!! love love love your parenting practices while keeping so casual and relatable. planning to do all of the same things so I am grateful for your uploads and podcast!! thank you!!

[@MommaStroup]

Congratulations on the second pregnancy! Thanks for the video. Had no idea about the probiotics. I was GBS+ and didn’t have time for 2 rounds of antibiotics. I’ll definitely be doing probiotics for my second one!

[@bakerbrewz]

Ditto! I didn’t know about the probiotics either when I found out I was GBS+ with both of my pregnancies! I thought it just was what it was and there was nothing I could do about it. And you never know how labor and delivery is going to go, crazy how you didn’t have time for 2 rounds of antibiotics with your first baby!

[@MommaStroup]

@@bakerbrewz tell me about it. No one expects their first labor to go that fast. Just goes to show that you never know what will happen in labor!

[@novasmotion]

You’re 2 weeks ahead of me, and I’m excited to go through this pregnancy with you! (Currently 21 weeks with my 3rd little boy) 🤣

[@joseechartrand5842]

I did hypnobabies and ended in c-section. I can attest that it helps you stay cool calm and collected and able to roll with whatever needed to happen. When I was dilated at 9 cm and the contractions were so strong and I was waiting for them to get the c section ready, I was able to use visualization to get through the contractions and stay calm. Absolutely recommend! Found out about it on this channel!

[@heyshayla]

AMAZING!!!!!!! THANK YOU so much for sharing all of this!!

[@madisonjane9865]

Ordered the lovebug probiotics for myself for this pregnancy and my 15 month old!

[@heyshayla]

🙌

[@alibyebaby2064]

Idky people can’t understand that IN GENERAL your body does what it’s supposed to…of course some people do have issues. But usually they don’t.

[@ashleebrazel6525]

I have the exact same age gap with my girls... 18month gap. They are 4 and 5 now .... 2 under 2 is hard but u will thank yourself for it in the future.

[@amandad2062]

Yayy. Im 26 weeks friday. FINALLY a yt that im actually due at the same time as

[@rthomas986]

Those probiotics changed my life. Thank you so much!!

[@heyshayla]

OMG that makes me so happy!!

[@naughtiousmaximus7853]

I just gotta tell you that you didnt change a lot AT ALL since your "27 year old and single" video. You look great!

[@ameliaduden488]

This is super helpful I am 28wks pregnant with my first and am doing a home birth. Could you do a video or podcast on delayed cordclapping Anand leaving the vernix on and natural stuff like that?

[@heyshayla]

Yes to all of this! That’s a GREAT podcast idea!

[@gracemlinde]

I have the Micka Mickey side sleeper, I think off Amazon. Buckles into the bed and has that open side. You could put a snuggle me organic in it for the infant stage and then it should hold up to 6 month's growth.

[@heyshayla]

Amazing thank you!!

[@jamiemanning2245]

I’m 21 weeks today with my second! I love all of your videos and tell my husband how we could be best friends all the time. Low key obsessed 🤣 Hypnobabies is 10000% the way to go. It made me feel so empowered during my birthing time! And Lovevery toys! 🥰 ugh I love them so much. I’m a toy pusher and tell all my friends about them. Cloth diaper? We are all about them! We haven’t ventured into EC, but since we started baby led weaning the poops are 😳 I feel like someone should have warned me about that lol.

[@heyshayla]

Haha it sounds like we do so much the same!! Get on that ec! Poops after solids are gnarly

[@justathumb]

aw I'm 22 weeks and 1 day with my first today ☺️ we're almost lined up to the day! (but a week ahead) 😄

[@calliejay8246]

One thing I will say (not being judgy, I swear, I hate it when mamas discourage each other, and I'm a little granola myself) the thing that can be difficult with baby #2 and floor time/nonrestrictive movement is baby #1 😅😅😅 Keeping baby safe gets a little tricky with a toddler. More baby wearing, utilizing a pack n play for play time, etc. I have 2 under 3 and I'm expecting #3

[@heyshayla]

Omgggg I believe that!!!! Good point and thanks foe the baby wearing tip! Good golly mama, you’ve got this!

[@wonderbeauty10]

I loveeeeee Lovevery subscription!!

[@heyshayla]

Right?!!!! Me too

[@bakerbrewz]

This is a fantastic video! Full of great insight, tips and recommendations. 👍 thanks so much Shayla! I have two boys and definitely felt like the lone Mama doing cloth diapers, BLW, co-sleeping, and choosing natural labor & delivery- it is so refreshing to hear from another similar Mama! Definitely need a ‘cage’ to keep to toddler away from the baby at times LoL! They just have too much love sometimes haha I would ‘hide’ my second baby in a chair and sometimes end up putting him up on the counters to keep him from the prying toddlers hands!

[@rayssunkissedlife7879]

I did hypnobirthing with my first and didn't have any training or reading didn't know it was a thing 😳 I had to get induced early because I had a slow leak so I went to sleep and I woke up pushing naturally no meds and I felt her head outside my vagina I was talking to my midwife like she's coming and I'm not pushing she falling out 3 pushes and she was out

[@kennieloo6357]

People are gonna call this survivor’s bias... but reality there are statistics to back up my experience and that’s why I made the choice I did. I took the GBS test. I was positive, but I didn’t find out until after my baby was born. I had an unassisted home birth. I would’ve declined the antibiotics had there been a reason to transfer. My baby had no issues whatsoever and still hasn’t at 13 months old. It is statistically very rare for the baby to have any symptoms or complications associated with a positive GBS test in mom. It’s also possible for baby to contract it within the first 6 months outside the womb anyway, something that antibiotics at birth will have no bearing on. I think those two scenarios do not warrant destroying ours/our baby’s good bacteria for the off chance the bad bacteria is present. Bacteria in and on the mother’s body is absolutely crucial for kickstarting the baby’s microbiome and gut bacteria. The consequences of antibiotics are far greater than that of a positive GBS test. I will NOT be taking the GBS test this time. It also seems completely unreasonable to me that they would take it that seriously considering you could literally be negative one minute and positive the next, or vice versa. To me, this is not evidence based care. Many women are uneducated on this topic. I am so proud of you for diving into research on how to do what’s truly best for your body and your baby! Many many women dont, and I can’t necessarily fault them for that. We’re all sort of trained that our medical provider is gonna handle it all. I don’t trust doctors 😅 so I did tons and tons of research and continue to do so even through postpartum and now being pregnant with my second. THANK YOU for being a resource for women to realize there is a different and better way to prepare for motherhood. Not everything you or I do works for all moms and babies, but there is irrefutable evidence that supports the methods we use and how beneficial they are, and how others might not be. I’m a big advocate for getting back to our caveman roots - doing what is biologically normal for *animals* instead of thinking we’re so much more sophisticated as humans. A lot of the tips and tricks and systems and products these days are created to do what we can do with our bodies naturally for our baby. I would love to see more moms and babies experience that!! ❤️ this is a good starting place to make people rethink what they’re doing. Even if you didn’t do it all right the first time, there’s years and years (and maybe more babies) to work on improving those methods of parenting. Best of luck to you and all pregnant mamas here watching/reading this!

[@alexataggart5513]

Did you do the toddler My Little Eaters course? I did the infant one after your video on it and LOVED it, I was the same as you and TERRIFIED to start solids. My 13 month old is now an amazing eater so I haven't purchased the toddler one but want to hear about it from someone who did it!

[@mindyzuckerman936]

Would you recommend hypnobirthing even for someone considering an epidural?

[@heyshayla]

I would! If you have any fear or just want to feel calm and confident

[@mackenziemeyer1937]

I tried elimination communication and did the observation phase (I had baby not wear a diaper so I could see when he peed/pooed) and found he frequently urinated during breastfeeding... I'm not going to potty him while I feed him haha. Way too much work. I will start elimination communication when he starts eating solids.

[@heyshayla]

Totally! Whatever is right for you! And I agree mine did too! I just held the potty under her… for a while then I didn’t any more 😂

[@pinkdog67]

Can someone throw a link up to the co sleeper that she had her daughter in on the floor?

[@heyshayla]

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[@marthacapyk8567]

You are AWESOME!

[@jennaXhye818]

when should we start hypnobirthing? 🥰 at what week

[@heyshayla]

You can start at any time but they recommend practicing for at least 8 weeks! So latest 32 weeks. In my opinion you’d benefit even if you found out about it later

[@Maverick-zy7yu]

I will cloth diaper with my 2nd again until we establish a decent routine and get things settled🥲😴 I loved it but not once I stopped breastfeeding 😂😆 does anyone know how I can fix stretched out diapers?

[@laurenwinters]

I have a 9 day old who hates her bassinet! Can you give a couple tips for co sleeping and feeling safe while doing it?

[@heyshayla]

Yes! My video “how I get x hrs of sleep as a new mom” has all the co- sleeping tips!

[@jackiewilliams8033]

I do get nervous about the “adjusting” babies thing. There is not supported science to say that’s okay. Babies are made for birth! They don’t need adjusted :) but keep doing you, I do love your content and you’re very engaging to watch. Just sharing my point of view :)

[@heyshayla]

That’s a good point actually and fits along with my philosophy of trusting the body. Thanks for sharing!

[@felicityshotter3640]

While I dont disagree with you on another note we don't do what we used to do, more labour work right through pragnancy kept our mom bodies in place for how they needed to be for birthing and proper alignment for pushing baby and thus baby was in a better place to be birthed without getting stuck or cramped. Now adays not so much and I've done research into this and some babies really need it after birth . Others are fine. Go with your gut

[@danielleredman9527]

Can you get the main point of hypnobabies from the book or do you really need the classes

[@heyshayla]

You get a summary, My midwife recommended I read it to see if I was even still interested after reading the book. I was!! And I would highly recommend the course. It walks you through everything that can happen in labor and then it gives you the audio tracks to listen to to prepare you and then walk you through your actual labor when it’s happening

[@heyshayla]

Heyshayla.com/hypnobabiesyt is the one I did

[@Tpayne22]

I asked to retest and I got told no 3x :( ended up getting hooked onto antibiotics for 1.5 days after delivery

[@SimplyAnna]

Thank you for this video!! I am currently 39 weeks pregnant and there are SOOOO MANY things I would like to try (....elimination communication, no pacifiers, baby lead weaning...). But it can be so overwhelming!! Did you read up on everything before your first baby came, or did you do it step by step? I feel like the list of things to learn is endless 😅

[@heyshayla]

It’s all overwhelming. Try and read up on some (or watch videos!) before the baby and then go back to it when you feel rest for it. We didn’t start cloth for the first month and didn’t commit to ec until 6 months. There’s so much

[@SimplyAnna]

@@heyshayla Thank you! that helps :)

[@dolcepescas6153]

Your channel is amazing. I'm expecting my baby in like 15 months lol. My fiance and I have been together forever and finally getting married and ready to have a family.. Would you be willing to share your age? I'm starting to freak out just a little bit because I'm in my early 30s and want children but it hasn't happened yet, wondering how much more difficult it is as you get older, so many mommy channels are way younger than me. anyway, love learning from you and preparing as much as I can before hand

[@heyshayla]

Yes! I was 30 when I had my first and will be 32 with this one!

[@cmjaclarissa]

Could not remember to take my probiotic during my pregnancy since it was in the fridge... does this probiotic need kept in the fridge?

[@Sustainabledoula]

The probiotic thing for reading negative for GBS is likely not reliable. It did apply to me.

[@emilyrader-neely4757]

How are you finding time to do Hypnobabies with a toddler? It is a LOT of time listening to the audio every day, as well as the reading, and I don't have that much kid-free/work-free time!

[@heyshayla]

I have a friend who does it at night to fall asleep. When I did it the first time I’d always fall asleep and it was still so effective!

[@MissRikkiKat]

I just realised how much easier breastfeeding is when you take it for granted that you just gotta do it 😂 Where I live, women know they have to breastfeed their babies, they just... I don't know how to put it, consider it something normal, natural, and 95% of them have enough milk (or are able to boost their supply through nutrition) and if they don't get the latch immediately- big deal, they just figure it out in a few days- or have other, more experienced women help them out 😄👍🏻 The women who experience issues get medical advice and that's it. In contrast to the American society that shamed women who breastfeed (or at least it used to) we actually get shamed if we formula-feed our babies. That is, if a woman has enough milk and is able to breastfeed without any issues, but she just doesn't want to do it, it's like she's depriving her child of what it needs the most during the first few months of it's life on purpose. 😅

[@amandaking_fit]

I love breastfeeding! It’s so much better for than pumping and bottle feeding, I tried that and it wasn’t good for my mental health😅 breastfeeding does definitely have its challenges though!

[@kileymann1155]

Ina May’s covers a situation in which the baby died. I had started listening to it when I was pregnant with my first and was not prepared for that.

[@VelvetTears216]

Thanks for sharing that

[@user-ue1pq4yd3v]

Thank you for this

[@pienkunicorn]

I read the book like a month ago and I don't remember that. I literally finished the book the day I went into labor.

[@delilahmertoglu]

@@pienkunicorn yeah i read it when i was pregnant and i don’t remember that either

[@sibelb4152]

Currently reading it, not sure if this is the same story you're thinking of - but I just read the one where the mother suffered hyponatremia (low salt due to overconsumption of water) which resulted in severe seizures, resulting in the baby born with brain damage and passing away after 1 month. Ina mentions that they shared their story in the hopes of helping others and I am grateful for it. I had heard recommendations of how much water to drink (e.g. per hour) in labor and I will be taking those much more seriously. So used to drinking a gallon a day it seems like during pregnancy, it is good to know how important it is to be mindful of the amount during labor.

[@patriciacorreia7647]

Co sleeping is not recommended or safe

[@extern83]

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[@Rebecca.Daydream]

Please do a deep dive on Kim Anami (just spoke on Ellen Fisher’s podcast). She talks about sex and all kinds of liberating things and it’s freakin phenomenal, and just please look into “the well-f*cked woman” 🙏🏻😅 I’m serious. Do it.

[@Rebecca.Daydream]

^The reason I say this is because in the podcast episode, she talks about pregnancy and post partum sex ^ so it’s relevant 😆

[@heyshayla]

Amazing!

[@lindseydensmore393]

Hi, I thought that I watched a video from you not too long ago that was sponsored by Nativecos where you had a discount for the deodorant but I can't seem to find that video. I was wondering if you could tell me what the code is? I tried HEYSHAYLA but that didn't work. Thank you for any help you are able to give.

[@heyshayla]

Hey! I had to look it up, heyshayla is the code I always ask for to keep it easy but for native it’s just “SHAYLA”