SECONDARY LOSS AND GRIEF FOR WIDOWS // Why it is so much harder for us // One Happy Widow

Today we are talking about secondary loss and grief for widows and why it is so much harder for us than simply losing a person. Join me in this live session to participate int he chat, or watch the replay!
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[@OneHappyWidow]

Do you experience secondary loss and grief?

[@angelique2653]

My darling husband had incurable brain cancer. He lasted 10 months. It was a very bittersweet time. I grew more in love with him every day, due to his great courage and stoic acceptance. We had our wedding anniversary on the hospice. I am so grateful for those very loving but anguished 10 months. I was with him every single day until his last breath. An Angel visited him, I cannot explain how I knew this, I just knew it. He was my twin Flame. Thank you for your understanding, compassion. 💙💜❤

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching, and sharing your touching story! #widfam

[@phlyenskrole1263]

My husband died October 2021. Then October 2022 my two grandsons (6 and 8) who I was raising for five years were relocated to live their father (ex son-in-law) and his new wife. Wham! Bam! Alone for ten months….would truly appreciate a connection.

[@phlyenskrole1263]

You have my compassion, empathy and prayers. I do understand the comfort that our Father sends to to us. It’s a real presence that you can only know by experiencing it. I felt a companion for many months and I grew stronger and had more endurance. What a friend we have, huh? God bless

[@janahankins183]

It’s a club no one wants to be in, ever! Thank you for channel and videos. You help me feel like I’m not the only one who goes through all those feelings and emotions.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@steveparker2938]

And don't forget about the friends who'll start to drift away. I found out that most of the friends my husband had and brought into our marriage slowly drifted away from me. The number of them who didn't send Christmas cards when they had in the past was staggering. Made me feel as if I didn't even count. This is just another factor in learning to live as a single again.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Unfortunately this is all too common with the widowed. It does make us feel unimportant! #widfam

[@pamelabarsness9654]

Sad your friends move away. But I think this is normal. I guess you just find other true friends...

[@maryzajac1136]

Thanks for confirming this is the real deal as there have been days I swear I’m losing my mind ... keep up your amazing work - you have truly made a difference in so many lives! 🥰❤️

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@SailingBrickHouse-RVLife]

Thanks for making this video…it’s exactly where I am nearly 2 years in. I miss my husband but can deal with that part just fine..it’s part of life especially as he was 15 years older than me. But my life…that’s the struggle… who I am going forward, what I want my life to be now, and how to do my finances and what to do with my boat. Luckily I have no children or anyone else to consider, but it’s hard even just for me… I miss the life I had. But there is no going back.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Yes, it is such a struggle for us! #widfam

[@etonly2277]

No one has said what feel any better than this. Thanks Rebecca.

[@johnnygalt5867]

I never thought I would cry - let alone ugly cry over somebody else’s toenails. This heartache is so painful.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Right??? Grief is so weird lol. #widfam

[@danamiceli4948]

Yup - 19 years later and all of this has been or still is a part of my life. hugs to you in your journey

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching #widfam

[@myliverandme]

My husband has been gone nearly 3 years (in May) and I haven't dealt well with that well at all. Thesesecondary losses make so much sense and I appreciate your video. Income loss for me has been a constant struggle; my identity is also gone as we were married 30 years; dreams are gone. Iam living in a one-room Cottage Shed now at 52 y.o. instead of living out in the rurals where we had planned. I dont blame God because the Bible says He doesn't try people with anything, let alone something that would hurt us. I have my faith, but not my heart. ❤ I understand too about the changed dynamics of relationships. I was 50 when David died so a total misfit like you said. David was the one I told everything to. We did most things together. We married when I was 19 so he was my life. Yes, your analogy about the shook-up house is right on. Iam glad there's a name for these feelings and losses I deal with. Thank-you!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your story! #widfam

[@lynny5510]

I can relate to everything you said. We were 54 when my husband passed away and we were married 34 yrs. I lost our income, health insurance and had to sell our home. He died Nov 2021 and I am now living in my elderly parents attic because I cannot afford to live on my own. I keep thinking that I will wake up from this nightmare any minute and everything will go back to the way it was.

[@godsloveforthegrievingwido7688]

Thank you so much I completely agree with you. My husband transitioned August 1st 2021 unexpected death. It's most definitely something that you have to experience yourself to understand. Even though your children are going to grief as well. I believe for us widows it's to a greater measure of grief. They don't understand. I've told them that I have lost my dad so I know what that feels like to lose a dad. But they don't have any idea what it is to lose a spouse.

[@OneHappyWidow]

The loss is different, for sure. But grief is not a competition...we all just deal with it differently! #widfam

[@lindathompson9334]

Thank you for all you do. You have helped me so much. My husband died a year ago February 12. I made it thtough his November birthday, Thanksgiving, and Christmas and thought "Oh, this is good!" Then on January first it all built up on me, I guess, and I fell completely apart. Grief is a strange thing. I'm 73 and was married 52 years. My husband was my support. My best friend thinks I should just get on with it now. You made me understand better about secondary grief and the things that trigger me. God bless you.💖

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching, and for sharing your experience with us. #widfam

[@forreal245]

Linda, you don't have to "get on with it" or anything else you dn "feel". What all videos, messages FAIL to mention is simply not having "energy or motivation"! Death is very draining. Take your time & pace yourself. I'm in my 2nd year & not that much improvement. Bless you friend.

[@terrilynch5435]

Love you Leo- thanks for this talk. loss of identity and dreams is so much truth. I’m a Navy wife/widow and it was absolutely YOUR career together. I agree”We” made that military career work together. I truly struggle with who am I now and “Really God, what is my purpose for you now??” I’m also a woman of faith, I love your perspective that it’s painful, but our persons just died early. Oh Goodness- I have to come back & add- YES!!! The loss of support and someone to hold me and listen to me. That’s a huge secondary hurdle for me. I have so many agreements. ❤️

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@wendyeroche343]

I have been through all of this..but its been almost 5yrs and I'm doing fine and I have my own identity now..Love this group.

[@OneHappyWidow]

So glad to hear this! Thanks for watching #widfam

[@truelily7]

I am 69 and widowed going on six months. Was a caregiver for years. Took care of everything. Long story. Just a heads up that there are guys posing as military trying to connect with widows on FB. This has happened to me a couple of times. Not at all interested in dating. One even approached me before my husband died. Embarrassing to have to respond to this online with friends and relatives watching. Thanks for your insights.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Yes, fresh widows are often a target for scammers. Beware! #widfam

[@LaurieEarly]

When you talk about things turning your life upside down it really resonated with me because we have a VERY small apartment and in order for EMS to leave with room for their stretcher (as they moved my husband to an ambulance) they literally moved all our furniture and belongings putting most things (chairs, coffee table, etc) upside down on our bed. When I returned home that night a widow, it was a sight I will never forget-perfectly summed up the upheaval of my life at that moment. (My husbands best friend came over to move everything off the bed for me as I have a back injury-I don’t know what I would have done without his support that evening).

[@OneHappyWidow]

Oh what a concrete example of how your life had suddenly been upended! I’m sure that was jarring, and probably set your fresh grief in motion. I’m so sorry. #widfam

[@Lcubed100]

I’m at almost four years! The waves of emotion still happening. Everyone is scared t talk to Mrs I’m lonely

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! I had to choose a widower, so we could connect without that awkward hurdle #widfam

[@karenmartin842]

…my grief, my relationship with my kids, and my finances. So they decided that therapy is the answer, and have arranged for it, at no cost to me. I didn’t feel I could say no, especially since they employ me. But I never would have sought it, and even filling out the paperwork is stressing me out! I consider myself a strong person, and with God’s help, am working thru many of the issues you’re discussing. So why do I need someone else who is probably younger than me, and most likely is not a widow, to fix me? Thank you so much for your openness and honesty on this and so many other issues we widows face! And thank you for being real! I’ll be listening to this again. Perhaps I’ll be able to help my counselor understand a few things about grieving and widowhood.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Karen, have you considered Grief Share? It is Faith based, most of the time it is free, and it is for people who share our loss. I have been to several meetings here at my church, and find it much more helpful than one-on-one therapy. And maybe if you tell the people who are trying to help you that you are seeking this type of help, it will also satisfy them to know that you are getting help from somewhere. Best of luck in dealing with the well-meaning people! #widfam

[@yewyoshodi]

Thank you so much Leo for these videos. They have been helpful in understanding this unfamiliar journey I am on.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching, and for sharing your feedback! #widfam

[@debbiejohnson2789]

I'm sorry your darling Dewy has and will miss so much of the rest of your lives! You are a great lady and I'm sure he was a great man!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks so much…he was a great husband and the best dad ever! #widfam

[@glynnyschiavoni8896]

You are amazing in the help and support you are offering to hurting people. Thank you dredging up your own pain to help. Not a widow, but a retired nurse who has always had a deep love and empathy for those grieving. After almost 57 years married to the most wonderful man, I think often now about one of leaving the other behind, and how half of us will just be gone….. I think about being alone and someone coming to the door in the middle of the night. When my sweetheart heart was in the National Guard, and gone for drill weekends I needed the nightlight, just like your son. Stay up as late as possible, the go to bed and read, finally falling asleep with the light on. God bless you for what you are called to do. Glynny from upstate NY.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching, and for your feedback! #widfam

[@angelique2653]

Hi. Leo. So glad your daughter is OK enough to move to her own place. Im feeling in a better place since New Year. Just over 2 years since my darling Gerard passed. But Im feeling more independent, practising self care. Writing my memoir. And ive found a new purpose in life with my short stories. I hope to progress with them. I still miss my darling so much. I still get on the grief train, like on Valentines Day. But I feel he wants me to be happy. Thank you so much for your uplifting videos. 💚💙💜

[@OneHappyWidow]

I'm so glad you have found an outlet! We all need something for ourselves. #widfam

[@antonellatotino2794]

Thankyou for your honesty and personal examples, you are soo relateable. I have gone through and I still go through each and every one of these experiences. I had no idea that there was a label attached. Wifows are walking labels and billboards. Hurts alot. Thanks for clarifying. I am still trying to figure out who I am and what is next for me in this devastingly sad journey. I loved your analogy about our houses/lives being turned upside down. Noone understands the depth of loss. Primary and secondary. Interesting. Thankyou soo much.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching, and for sharing your feedback! #widfam

[@user-zg4sn9dw4x]

Thank you for articulating exactly what I am thinking. I am currently processing the secondary losses. The secondary losses continue to evolve as you grieve. You feel like you are in survival mode all the time. My husband died 8 months ago. Your videos give me a lot of comfort. You understand, thank you for understanding.❤

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thank you for watching and sharing your support #widfam

[@gbriezzy3403]

I just discovered your videos and I am 1yr and 4 months out from losing my husband. He was 34 yrs old when he died of brain cancer. We have 2 kids; they were ages 8 and 6 when he died. This is THE BEST thing I have seen/heard to describe and explain secondary losses!! Wish more people could genuinely understand it and how this is a huge part of why our journey as widows is that much more difficult. Thanks for this!

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so sorry you and your babies are dealing with this. Thank you for sharing your feedback, it does help me to know that my experiences are helping others #widfam

[@godsloveforthegrievingwido7688]

Thank you so much for sharing you were right on spot. I appreciate you. I believe you allowed God to use you and maybe don't know but I thank God for the information that you shared with me today. I've been trying to get it over to my children that it is a more hurting for me than it is for them. I have experience losing my dad. and what you said is exactly right. Thank you again

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching, and for your feedback! #widfam

[@mavishofer4508]

Hello You are an inspiration to many people @ Yes ihave lost Many loved ones Mom 2009 Dad 2010 Many relatives and cousins Fiance in 2017 E hubby in 201 I have found peace in knowing moved onesarent suffering anymore! Also find KLove radio has been very helpful daily in my life! Thank you for sharing your story and your insights about being Widow Yes some walk away after loved ones gone But I feel that bc have gon through much independant @stubborn woman Has helped me be who I am tday Am Christian woman Raised family But I Thank you for your insight o this subject MH

[@mavishofer4508]

Welcome😊

[@robingiglio3198]

This was literally THE BEST video I have listened to from you or anybody ever. "That's me" or "I've been there" went thru my mind the whole time. Thank you! ❤

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks so much for your feedback! #widfam

[@naomiferreira8255]

👋 Mr JP, nice to meet ya! Yes, she is a wonderful lady. This video 💯 touched my heart cause I didn’t know what secondary grief was. Thank you.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I just discovered this term recently myself…and it has truly hit home! #widfam

[@Jp18888]

This channel is so helpful and much needed in this world! ❤thank you for the heart you put into this

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for your support, it means a lot!

[@MaryEavey-dc3sk]

I just found your channel today. I am not a widow and I am trying not to say stupid things! I try to remember people weeks and months down the road. I am single. 65. I am divorced 4 years now and it was not a happy marriage. I know that being divorced is not EVEN the same so I am not comparing. Back in 2005 he had a severe head injury and was never the same again. So I am relating to the anticipatatory grief that was on a couple of other videos. It feels like he is already gone, tho he is not.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Sounds like you are still suffering some loss, especially the secondary ones. Thanks for watching.

[@user-eg2et6ub9b]

Yes the diagnosis day was the worst day of my life. Thank you for the Love.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I remember as well. Your whole world changes in a matter of seconds.

[@plasek6309]

Shock and disbelief.

[@gailberdahl2294]

Hi, just to let you know I personally don't care what the background looks like; I just enjoy what you have to say.Thanks for all you do,it's very helpfull.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Awww thanks! I’m so glad you enjoyed the message. #widfam

[@julial1450]

My husband was only 57 when he had a heart attack me only 51 it been very difficult glad i found this group

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so sorry…but I’m also glad you found us.

[@marilynjohnson8583]

New widow....husband died 2/14/22.....Valentines Day at that. Your videos are helping me. Thank you soooo much! God bless what you do for others!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching. Join our FB group if you haven’t already- www.Facebook.com/groups/onehappywidow

[@ericasmith5123]

Yes! I wonder if my memories of us will fade also...

[@OneHappyWidow]

A common fear, I think. Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@debbiejohnson2789]

Your new husband, JP is nice too! Good to see him!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Yep, I am so blessed to have him in my life! #widfam

[@kriskriskris32]

I tried to get my kids help through therapy. We had 2 different "grief counselors" turn us loose. They said we seemed fine to them. I think that's insane. My 15yo and 12yo boys lost their father. They are NOT fine. It's been 8 years and they're still not fine. I'm not fine. Nothing's fine. My in-laws boycotted my husband's memorial. They were upset that i had him cremated without consulting them and the memorial was outside by the river instead of in a church. Not only were these people my in-laws they're also my neighbors. We live on family land, his family land so all of his siblings also are neighbors. I was shocked when they stopped inviting me to family get togethers. I've been making broccoli casserole and potato salad for these events for 29 years! Recently, my sister in law requested a broccoli casserole. What is happening? I cranked out a broccoli casserole for her. Whatever

[@OneHappyWidow]

Glad you were the bigger person…I’m not sure I could do it.

[@christinaadams5682]

Thank you thank you so much!! It is so very helpful watching your videos and hearing you talk about things that I’m experiencing! It’s so comforting to know that I’m not the only one experiencing these things. I also appreciate you talking about the secondary losses. It’s helpful to put a term to these losses. Also, thank you for talking about the grief issues with your son on the spectrum. My son is 10 and also on the spectrum while grieving his dad. I am so very thankful I came across your channel!!

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so glad you found the channel helpful. Thank you so much for watching and sharing your feedback! #widfam

[@julial1450]

Unexpected death happened to my husband this year been very painful thank you for the video that you do i appreciate it glad i found this video

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your support -#widfam

[@user-eg2et6ub9b]

Thank you so much. I still feel that I wear a mask

[@OneHappyWidow]

It’s hard to get past that.

[@desnann]

Omg every word is true tough decisions have to be made at a time you are least able

[@OneHappyWidow]

This is true! #widfam

[@debbiejohnson2789]

I love your story about the toenails!

[@OneHappyWidow]

It’s funny how the little things stick out so much in our memories! #widfam

[@clairecooke6268]

Hiya Leo, I found this video really helpful - thank you! My husband died from cancer 12 months ago aged 48 and we’d been together for 25 years. The points I felt most applied to me was memories and support. What worries me about memories is that he would always be there to remind me of details I may have missed or forgotten, it’s that other person to remind you “hey remember that funny thing we did” that you may have forgotten. So now I only have myself to rely on, and he was by far the more observant of us. In terms of support, I had that one solid person who always had my back and understood me completely. Since he died, I’ve had to kind of beg, borrow and steal little bits of support here, there & everywhere, and you never want to overburden any one person. I love that you’re an algebra teacher - did not see that coming!!! But I was curious about all the fabrics behind in your other videos 😉 I live in Australia and I’m really into visible mending.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for sharing your feedback. Remembering is definitely bittersweet! As for the fabric, I used to own a fabric shop and that’s my leftover inventory. I don’t quilt, but I do sew and I love it! Thanks for watching #widfam

[@judynunez3488]

U hit the nail on the head

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching #widfam

[@ckushner510]

I just started watching

[@ninashelley5044]

I appreciate your truth. It's just hard some days.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Yes, we do have those tough days. Praying for you! #widfam

[@DianneYopp]

THANKS SO MUCH MY HUSBAND DIED ON 6/21 AND LIFE IS SO EMPTY.WE WERE MARRIED ALMOST 51 YEARS.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so sorry for your loss #widfam

[@Danceswithfishes]

I lost my husband 2 months ago. We were two years from being debt-free and retirement. So of course now all those plans are not going ahead.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so sorry! Now you work on making plans for yourself. Not something any of us wants to do! #widfam

[@Danceswithfishes]

@@OneHappyWidow I will keep watching your videos, and see what I can do 😊

[@anniemccoy3009]

New here, but have enjoyed listening to you. Relating to so much your sharing!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching, and for sharing your feedback #widfam

[@janejaurigui9480]

It’s true I end up saying all the wrong things then my husband has been gone 20 years and my sister was married 50 years it’s been 2 years for her and she doesn’t want to live and I just don’t know how to help her

[@OneHappyWidow]

If she is in that dark of a place, suggest that she seek professional help! Praying for you and your dear sister. #widfam

[@debbiescott6836]

My baby sister was married 30 years, her hubby passed. Four years passes, my mom 87, dies. Then, 3 years later, my hubby dies, 52 days before our 50th Anniversary. I barely get over loosing my mom, then I loose my hubby!! I have had a very rough year. This is the first time in my life living alone!! I seem to be stuck

[@carolhenstra1329]

You mentioned for me to go to Facebook. I prefer to be on my computer here. I want to listen to your experienced. I am at a start moving on . I do volunteer on the floor my husband passed on three years ago. . What gives me the peace onward at days when having grieving days. .

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching #widfam

[@karenmartin842]

Amen, Leo! I’m writing this as I’m listening, but can already tell I’m going to relate to so much of it, especially your first couple of points. I lost my precious husband, my partner in life, ministry, music…everything , last Mother’s Day. Yesterday was our 28th anniversary. I made it thru, and created new memories in the quaint small city where we began our honeymoon. But I was also dealing with my 22 year old son who had just returned from a month long “adventure”, something I knew he was not financially prepared to do. I’ve been trying to balance tough love with care and concern because he’s grieving, but have gotten a LOT of pushback, even from my other two children, but mostly my coworkers, the majority of them male. So thank you for pointing out that our kids are grieving, and it’s ok to support them, emotionally and otherwise. My problem is tied in with another thing you mentioned, therapy. I work in music ministry at my church, and those male coworkers want to “fix” me… my grief

[@OneHappyWidow]

You touched on so many things I have dealt with too! #widfam

[@melindabarefoot4612]

I know I haven't been on lately, but I have an update... My oldest son, who got married on Halloween, is buying a house!! He and I are talking again, and working on our relationship. I'm so happy and also excited for him!! I was able to get some pictures of my husband, from his Facebook page, and there was one particular one that brought everything back. It looked like him when we were together, and he wasn't so sick. I cried and cried. I wished i was back at that moment. I'm glad that I found that picture, and it may be the one chosen for his headstone for his grave. This past December 4th made 6 years. Death is hard, but suicide is much different...and no one knows what to say when it comes to that. I don't use the word suicide alot. I use the phrase "he took his life" which reminds me that I didn't make that choice. I carry the load of guilt like a backpack, and I'm trying to work on that. I think about him so much, and the hurt of not having that love that I had with him...and knowing there won't ever be another one even close to it. It feels like that was my one chance at Love. We were married 23 years. My husband was 47 years old. I was 45. My youngest is 17, and is still home with me. He will be a senior in high school next year. It's been me and my two boys for so long, and the idea of having an empty house really terrifies me. I'm so thankful to able to share here, to people who really get it. By the way, the analogy about shaking the house, setting it down, and trying to live in it....you hit the nail on the head!!

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so glad you have some positive updates to share! #widfam

[@lauranugent9039]

My husband died 4 weeks ago we were tog 30yrs he developed dementia & Parkinson’s I took care of him for 2yrs nonstop he died in hospice from pneumonia he was a wonderful man my rock I’m trying to move forward & get out w people hiding it from my kids I love & miss him so much the way he used to be but I was grieving him for 2 yrs people don’t understand that

[@OneHappyWidow]

You have been grieving long before you lost him. Don’t worry about hiding your emotions, just let yourself feel them when you need to. Feel free to join our group for more support: www.Facebook.com/groups/onehappywidow

[@ckushner510]

and our aniversary is May30th which is comming up

[@rachelwesterman1223]

The memory thing worries me so much. I was in another relationship before my late partner. I don't remember hardly anything of that. I'm terrified the same thing with happen again.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I would write down your memories in a journal So you will be able to keep those memories. Www.onehappywidow.com/journal

[@agiigisttv]

Yes I keep my memories alife too do sad

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@janbrown3298]

Listening…..Thanks

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and listening! #widfam

[@jenmidwest2432]

very eye-opening

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching #widfam

[@theresastirling2337]

Just get to the point. You're doing great.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Yeah, I’m a rambler….can’t help it! Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@craftfunforever8100]

Hi from Rhode island

[@OneHappyWidow]

Hello! #widfam

[@anitaarthur3411]

I'd like to hear from you I lost my husband 10 years ago it feels like yesterday

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching #widfam. Feel free to join our Facebook group at www.Facebook.com/groups/onehappywidow

[@ckushner510]

Hii! my name is CherylKushner I'm 59 but I lost my husband at 38 but he was only 43 then he died in 2001

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! -#widfam

[@godsloveforthegrievingwido7688]

Yes yes yes

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@craftfunforever8100]

Agree with so much you said

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@floare79]

My husband died a month ago due to cancer. Sad

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so sorry. Thank you for watching and sharing #widfam

[@bethr8756]

So what's the answer? This is so depressing

[@OneHappyWidow]

The answer to what? And yes, grieving the loss of a spouse can feel depressing for sure. Are you widowed as well?

[@ckushner510]

we didn't have kids

[@desnann]

Bless you I always feel stress when a camera is anywhere near me or microphone

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching #widfam

[@Legittoquit1]

Lol my husband is playing call of duty ! Lol

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@debbiescott6836]

That’s me, no life insurance, my life is upside down!

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so sorry! #widfam

[@nancyschaefer9748]

My life changed August 12,2022 when my loving husband Bill died from Alzheimer’s disease. I am trying to keep busy and then a song or a saying on tv hits me and I go through a messy cry. As much as he is missed I wish I could share time and Life questions with someone. Bill will always be in my heart and not sure what to do…..🫤

[@OneHappyWidow]

It is possible to grieve and love again. It’s hard to explain how it can happen until it just does. Find what makes you happy and go for it!