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Though we all know how important communication is for literally every relationship you have, very few have taken the time to learn how to do it well. When communication is not done well, relationships suffer, individuals suffer and the consequences can be high stakes.
If there’s any chance of your communication needing improvement, you’re in the right place. Grab and pen and paper, you’ll want to take notes and add this to your favorite playlist to listen to again. Evy Poumpouras is a former secret service agent and an Unstoppable Badass, here to lay out everything you need to know about communication alongside Unstoppable Badass, Lisa Bilyeu. Spoiler Alert! This is about you, and the tactics you can learn and practice to improve your communication skills to build rapport. It’s not about what the other person should do.
Unstoppable Women of Impact Tips:
Build rapport
Tell the other person exactly what you’re looking for
Evy’s Strategies for Building Rapport
Acceptance: recognize what is being said without trying to change or protest it.
Adaptability: able to adjust to new conditions or circumstances.
Autonomy: having the capacity to make informed and un coerced decisions.
Empathy: ability to see from the other person’s perspective
Unstoppable Communication Questions to Ask:
Who are you speaking to?
Who is that person?
How do I speak to this person?
What is your goal and what is the best way for you to achieve that goal?
Unstoppable Key Terms:
Rapport: The ability to understand and communicate with people
Mirroring: When one person imitates how the person across moves, talks or acts
Identify Based Motivation: Where perception of self motivates you to take action toward a goal
Instrumental Based Motivation: The end state is what’s motivating the person to take action
Relational Motivation: The way that two or more people are connected
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SHOW NOTES:
Build Rapport | Eva on why established rapport is a ping pong match for communication [0:45]
Strategies | 4 ways to build rapport and keep people talking and communicating [1:41]
Using Strategies | Example for using these strategies with close relationships & situations [8:07]
Building Blocks | How building rapport establishes connection, trust and faith [10:23]
Close Relationships | Handling rapport and these strategies with close family & friends [13:28]
Being Adaptable | Not being so rigid, allowing people the space y build rapport [16:15]
Lisa’s Rapport | Lisa shares behind the scenes ways that she builds rapport with guests [17:51]
Get In Synch | Identity motivation vs instrumental motivation & getting to cooperation [19:26]
Cooperative Zone | When you find a way to move the conversation forward together [26:53]
Motivation | Eva explains how to use base motivations to get in synch and adapt [33:20]
Identity Vs. Instrumental | Lisa and Eva showing you how it’s done [34:03]
Choose Your Words Thoughtfully | Define words that you use, comply vs. resist [35:40]
‘No’ | Improving ways that you say no with compassion and without being harsh [41:38]
‘Sorry’ | Ways that language diminishes you when you apologize for everything [43:13]
Word Play | How words land with people: powerful, shut people down, provoke reaction [46:25]
Word Challenge | Lisa & Eva share how different words make them feel [47:13]
QUOTES:
“When it comes to communication, rapport is king. When you have rapport you have trust. When you have trust you have cooperation.” Evy Poumpouras [0:48]
“I have someone who’s giving me no trust, and I want to move that relationship forward, I do it through rapport.” Evy Poumpouras [8:00]
“People don’t remember what you say to them, what people remember is how you make them feel.” Evy Poumpouras [26:23]
“Rather than me trying to change you, I’m going to adapt to you.” Evy Poumpouras [29:23]
“Language can also diminish you and there are some people who their language is littered with, ‘I’m sorry’ and I think when you use that language when it lands on that person, it lands in a negative way for you.” Evy Poumpouras [43:39]
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[@LisaBilyeu]

Drop in the comments who you would like to be able to communicate more effectively with. Also join Lisa and Evy in the LIVE chat during the premiere October 17th 9AM Pacific!

[@Hyderagean]

My mom. 🙄

[@lauramosneagu6177]

I would like to be able to communicate better with myself as I feel that I am not good at identifying my needs and this makes go into a vicious circle of binge eating and so on.

[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

Any advice on abusive family members that you are not in the financial or geographical or emotional position to cut off or fully grey rock yet? Thank-you for your time xxx

[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

Your advice has already helped me de-escalate several volatile situations, thank-you for giving the knowledge and skills to start protecting & validating myself. On the journey out. Any advice would be gratefully received. Especially if one is the family scapegoat/black sheep and has barriers to escape.

[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

I have sacrificed many years of my life for my siblings and pets to ensure their care and to keep the negative attention and focus on me as I am the oldest and I wish I had someone like me to turn to when I was younger, perhaps I wouldn't be so damaged. Still I have failed them. They also are damaged. I'm 28 and my youngest sibling has 2 years before she turns 18 and wants me to live my life. I am trying to move forwards and become the person I know I have the potential to be, albeit a little late.

[@zainabthedragon6528]

Evy and Lisa are an unstoppable duo

[@lisabilyeu8103]

Hahaha thanks!!!

[@SydMountaineer]

I agree! They are a great pair! I love the way Lisa is so very inspired by learning as much as she can - she is so very authentic, they both are.

[@user-qu2cx7cd3w]

They both completely opposite in personality, Evy is so incredibly confident and classy and Lisa is a bit punkish and and a great listener!❤

[@gabrielaradu2970]

This is how I've got hurt, when I didn't said NO at the right time, to the wrong people. Narcissists will feel like their ego was attacked no matter how gentle you are when you speak. They think that they're entitled to get anything they want.

[@ninjagirlnomeansno9403]

Absolutely tremendous, I understand what you are saying, Peace, love to you, Thank you 😀😀😀😀😀😀😁😁😁😁😁💞💞💞

[@connie10000]

Yes, I hear ya. Narcissist need to grow up😊

[@doriannemosich232]

Narcissists can be intentionally malicious vindictive destructive, they come with a pattern of a long failed track record, they refuse to learn & are criminals. They can't be trusted & they are only there to deplete your success and steal & make you like them a failure that doesn't make sense. They are envious of everyone that is contented and successful.

[@_pudu661]

Rapport Strategies: 15:08 1. Acceptance 2. Adaptability 3. Autonomy 4. Empathy 1. Beware of your ego. Remember that although you may not agree with someones POV, identity, their opinion, their decision, their feelings, etc, what will move you forward is accepting it. Not as your own pov, identity, opinion, decision, etc, but that THAT is their reality/experience. 2. Beware of the ego, its a conversation, a ping pong, not a checklist of saying what you need to say or getting info. Know what your goal is for the conversation but adapt to change in topic, let them take you on a ride, be considerate, then when the moment comes, you can bring it back to your intention. Rigidity will make you unhappy easily. Adapt to the waves, dont try and control the ocean. 3. Give others the dignity of decision 4. Seek first to understand, then be understood. Understand their point of view, their experience, feelings, motives.

[@prismonthethehorizon5793]

Cool, really good note taking, you covered something I missed....really really helpful seeing this. Hope it helps you alot, the book is cool too xxx

[@mehrinali4783]

Thank you!

[@dawnnj3235]

Thanks I added this to my notes on brilliance.💪😉

[@wolfgang7812]

I disagree with being taken for a ride! You don't want to be taken for a ride with another person especially if they are toxic!

[@LouisaWatt]

There’s some people where you intuitively know that they don’t receive some things very well, so I’ll attempt to deliver the softer version of a message, but… they’re also the same people who don’t listen properly or WANT to hear anything which isn’t aligning with what they want… so then I have to be blunt and at that point they explode in rage, or accuse me of hurting them and being a terrible person. There are some people who make it impossible to communicate with them.

[@hissyfitz7890]

Usually narcissists… if you don’t buy what they’re selling they explode. 💣💥💣💥💣💥💣💥💣💥

[@steveblobs4851]

It's always worth to try and move on without these people in your life. No people are indispensable. I know it can take time and effort, but is always worth it.

[@bereal6590]

Same here 😊

[@user-cl6uj5bn2f]

YES. Cluster B's 💯

[@hissyfitz7890]

@@user-cl6uj5bn2f - 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 - have removed the 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 from my life! 😆

[@katarinahinsey3931]

So what I'm getting from Evy is she doesn't give a crap about your long drawn out personal story, but as a rule she lets you get it out and halfway pretends to care so that you'll keep on doing whatever it is she needs you to do. This woman is a true genius.

[@user-ee4xu9lh4k]

5 mins in and Evy’s method of “softening” a no is the thing I abhor most. Being vague is manipulative and disrespectful. If someone can’t handle a no, and they take your honest truth personally and make that about their identity, that’s a boundary break and NOT your responsibility. People feel when you respect them even if declining the thing they want. I simply cannot understand why we would want to coddle and perpetuate this all too common selfish mindset that comes from a lack of healthy boundaries. Softening makes everything worse. It disrespects yourself and them. Pain is not a bad thing, it helps us learn and grow. If someone needs to experience enough hurt to get to the point they seek out and learn healthy interactions, wouldn’t that be ideal for them/you/society/their future generations? Time to evolve. With full compassion for all of us and the world we are currently creating for the generations after us, can we not harbor and thusly condone dysfunctional ways anymore please? This is genuinely a “survival of the fittest” issue. If a family line doesn’t learn and pass down healthy behaviors, the family line won’t continue for long. That’s how it’s supposed to be. This type of manipulation will leave others confused, feeling like there’s no ground to stand on with you, and they’ll lose respect and not want to interact with you. And when that gets passed down, it will work less and less so that it isolates to extinction. Just tell your truth, clearly, with kindness and respect.

[@KrystalSpears]

This is exactly what I was thinking. Being dishonest in that moment is being dishonest with yourself and the other person. I’m sure you can do both- soften your response and tell the person an honest NO. Tell the person the truth of why No is the answer in a gentle way.

[@wolfgang7812]

I think true rapport IS based on kindness and respect; as long a there are fluid boundaries (boundaries which push back when imposed upon on).

[@therealkoolaidandkale]

Thank you. I felt like I was the only one listening to that part going, "...but Evy, you're so succinct and direct in everything else..... what's wrong with respecting yourself enough to just say NO if that's what you really feel?? 🤔" I just had someone whom I consider an unofficial mentor reach out to me for help, but I would've had to sacrifice my values. While other people focused on who this person was and what the situation could POSSIBLY do for me, I could see that it wouldn't work out like I hoped and it was more important to me to preserve the relationship. So, I said: "I'm honored that you considered me, but because I'd like to maintaining the respect that I have for you and this relationship, I'm declining the role." She respected me for my honesty. Now she has a better idea that I'm confident enough to exercise strong boundaries no matter who's at the other end, and considering the other person as a whole is important in any relationship dynamic.

[@myacct8304]

I love this so much. This is why I have resistance to sayings like, "The truth hurts," and be "brutally honest." The truth doesn't have to be painful in order to land, and if one can't control whether or not they hurt someone with their words, then they haven't learned how to properly communicate.

[@bereal6590]

So true... I say this to people close to me, does ialter absolutely not as they aren't listening and only care if it's directed their way! 😊

[@BellaM_1011]

I think you can definitely control your words and I do agree that being "brutality honest" is a kind of excuse to say whatever you want to say without minding the person on the other side. There's a heart and a soul hearing your words and you have to be careful but taking accountability for another people's feelings is too much. You will never be able to please everybody. You can say something that will hurt somebody but the difference is: you can do this purposely or without intention. Some nice words can unfortunately still hurt if the subject is delicate. I believe the whole point is: I can take control and responsibility for what I say but I do not agree that "I can control how others feel about it."

[@kimgordon3695]

@@BellaM_1011 49:00 😂

[@manuelag2128]

Iam Not responsible for your Feelings✨

[@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64]

Those were the magic words right there, "No, thank you." You're firm, but kind.

[@maya.lingreen]

Absolutely LOVE these videos with Lisa and Evy - so freaking inspiring and applicable to so many situations! More please!!

[@bumblebee803]

I also love seeing them together, especially as a fellow Greek lady (in Australia).

[@velvetgardenia]

This will ABSOLUTELY be listened to more than once! Words, and their delivery are SO IMPORTANT, and I think few people stop to really think about the power of words- which is tremendous.

[@NathalieLazo]

Hey YOU, incredible person reading this...The truth is you are confident and good enough already with who you are, where you are at and what you have right now to have the success you want in life. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn that skill and go after it! I believe in you so much! Have an awesome day! - Love, Nat ❤️

[@elenafetter9690]

Language is the most important tool for empowering yourself and others. Thank you, Evy, for your terrific book!

[@wolfgang7812]

Just be careful you are not empowering psychopaths; sociopaths and narcopaths.

[@elenafetter9690]

@@wolfgang7812 I have noticed that those types of individuals are not really self reflective. They tend not to read empowering self help books. They dont think they need help. You are not in danger.

[@joannachimonides3644]

Saying 'NO' indirectly may cause the other person think that you actually say 'MAYBE' so it may give them hope that you may change your mind about something. Maybe it's better to politely say NO and then explain why? The worst truth is better than the best lie❤

[@steveblobs4851]

I guess it's a cultural thing. In my culture people indeed need a direct "no" or else they will take it wrong. In the US (or Spain or UK) it's different. As she said, adaptability is the key.

[@zin82e98]

I agree. Say no thank you because such and such, so that they understand it’s not them you’re rejecting

[@thegiftofguidance]

Varies depending on the situation. Some Nos should be very stern to protect yourself and your identity. But when someone lets themselves be vulnerable with you, say an acquaintance, usually shy asks you to brunch but they’re very negative and drains your energy, you can say no politely. Depends on who u are as a person too

[@sweetbabyem]

That's there problem, no is no, no is not maybe and if you can't grasp that you'll probably end up in jail lol

[@steveblobs4851]

@@hopeful9160 Nobody argues with that. But a person will want to know why. Don't you think it's rude to walk around cutting people off with your NOs,? "Shall we meet up after work?" "No". "Why not?" "No is a complete sentence. Sorry, have to go now".

[@SydMountaineer]

"Read the face" - Lisa is so authentic - her ambition /eagerness to learn & teach and how she goes about it makes her a SUPERHERO!

[@c.a.sword26]

I would love to be able to communicate more effectively with my 11 year old son. Speaking with your child in an understandable and effective way feels like it can change daily!

[@GB0915]

Yes! I was just thinking this about my 7 yr old daughter. It’s such a challenge at times, but, as Evy & Lisa would say, It’ll get better. We don’t communicate well enough YET. We WILL learn how to better respect each other through our communication & actions.

[@DaisyAruba]

Why doesn’t anyone talk about siblings ? It’s always a parent or a friend or romantic partner. It is SO RARE to hear “or a sibling” on any video that I watch for help.

[@rebeccacharles5758]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@lyn8490]

Same ! I have trouble with my siblings too ... ur not alone at all itz just not talked about much

[@taliagoodwomanmann]

Unfortunately, inhad to learn through experience about sibling betrayal. I am the youngest of five girls and all of my sisters betrayed me terribly.

[@CessLa2oya]

I would like that too✔️

[@hissyfitz7890]

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@eleen78]

I can't wait. I love Evy and Lisa.

[@evypoumpouras6537]

Thank you Eleen. Sending love back to you.

[@kimgordon3695]

💞

[@corses700]

I CANT wait to watch this, previous interviews were so worth to watch, you guys need to see more Evy interviews just type her name and there is plenty more

[@lisabilyeu8103]

Woooohooooo!

[@vegancatlady1017]

I already have ❤️ I am still reading her book

[@OceanOfLight]

Evy and Lisa...partners in Prime! Love you guys thank you for everything you do to share with us ...Im empowered more with every word ...

[@Penelope642]

I’m halfway through Becoming Bulletproof and this information really helps to cement the concepts of the book. Also, love the editing and the vignettes!

[@julianadolski1742]

I don’t comment too often, but this was HANDS DOWN one of the best episodes I’ve ever listened to. Thank you, Evy and Lisa ❤️!!

[@lisabilyeu8103]

wow thanks so much sweetie!!!

[@julianadolski1742]

@@lisabilyeu8103 you’re welcome!! much love to you both!!

[@yeswevalidate1590]

I have a friend who seems to trash me/insults me every chance I see her, but because she’s a “Jersey girl” all of us friends make excuses for her Lack of restraint. I don’t let that stuff in anymore but it affects others.

[@jasmineg9738]

Being from a certain area doesn’t excuse someones behavior. I am from Jersey. Anytime a person is excusing their behavior I look at it as a warning

[@ksl3240]

Agreed. I’m from Jersey too. The state you are from does not impact the integrity of your character or your ability to treat all people with dignity.

[@borednow]

that is not a friend

[@caseteamcouture8633]

I get that at the Greyhound aaalll the time! Them:“ I’m from New York!” Me:”Ummmm you are not there now” I don’t get why people use a location to justify their ridiculousness.

[@Zenonforward]

I’d love to hear the tales on detecting and communication non visually. As a legally blind woman being able to better read, adapt and move conversation would be a huge help.

[@yvonneparra3578]

I love that Lisa is such a good listener and so passionate about what she does and that she’s a ‘hugger’! Evy explains herself so well!! What a great team!

[@alcudiababe1]

It is very hard not to jump in because all you want to do is help this person when someone is sounding off especially when you love and care for them because you feel like you have to do something to make them feel better because it physically hurts you to shut up and listen. You feel it's on you to make them feel better. I remember my Mom sounding off in the car picking me up from school decades ago. I got in the car and I asked how she was as we pulled off the school grounds and she sounded off. I was shocked. I didn't expect a honest enough answer and I remember sitting there in my discomfort not knowing how on earth to help her but then at the end of our car journey she thanked me for listening. Weeks later I heard from my Mom "that Katie always asks me how I am." And she was appreciative because I did that but asking how she was after I got out of school was something so simple, and it carried so much meaning to my Mom, that, to her showed I cared

[@anjalijha5014]

I love Evy! Ever since i saw the first video on this channel. Thanks women of impact!

[@lianemichaud2631]

Lisa and Evy - Both of you are rôle models and empowering examples. THANK YOU ❤️

[@lozb1631]

As a lady listening from England I love your interview techniques. You ask all the right questions from a place of love and kindness. Keep up all the amazing work you do Lisa x

[@nataliecampos1732]

HERE'S WHAT I LOVE: That part about Rapore.... (fingers crossed I spelled that right 🤞😅).... You can LITERALLY see the difference in their rapore ever since the first video! It's actually amazing how if you pay attention you really can notice that stuff. I love how they highlighted it in the episode as well. That's powerful!

[@m.s9146]

This is very helpful. I’ve always been a good negotiator and now I understand what I’ve been doing right. You never want to take all of someone’s power away. As an attorney, I’ve gotten people to back away from law suits numerous times, but never take away all of their power. You’ve got to find people where they are, recognize it and let them lead with their story while you empathize.

[@karlif9013]

that Ponytail on POINT !! 😻🌟 these interviews with Evy Pompouras are so helpful. Many thanks Lisa Bilyeu & team

[@zazuzazz5419]

I love tuning into the wavelength of this Grecian Powerhouse! ⚡️ 🌊 ⚡️

[@thereallinnz9407]

Let me just say that you two are onto something together🤔! Something about both of you together really gets me pumped!!! I'm so ready for this

[@tamifayette]

I have been wanting to learn this for so long. Thank you thank you thank you for doing this, Evy and Lisa!

[@wintersongdeclan]

Evy's voice is so calming and soothing, I don't care what she's talking about. I Lay's feel better after I listen to her speak. ❤

[@samidolloff4624]

I am so excited 😆 I love these videos. You guys are amazing 💖

[@lisabilyeu8103]

Thanks so much!!!

[@AshleyEhSMR]

The word ‘SELFISH” makes me think of someone who’s inconsiderate. Someone who does what makes them feel best, not necessarily what’s right. Ex. Attacking a partner or friend with harsh words because it makes them feel better, regardless of how it made the other person feel. Mind you, I can understand it as positive, depending on the context and situation. Not that anyone asked me to play the game 😅

[@claudinediamond2555]

I love you guys. I needed this today. I work in criminal defense and have looked at countless phone records. I am with Ev on the hesitation to text. Lol

[@recoverywithlee2591]

Key tip everyone, start to notice the patterns in your opening of sentences when in a stressful situation, FOR EXAMPLE, "You always say..." I feel bad, but..." , these ladies are bang on. This was a key approach in my rehabilitation program and certainly helps those I guide. Best wishes and practices to all of us!

[@elenafetter9690]

Thank you Lisa for providing this platform for great discussions!

[@jannamartens8066]

It’s so important to feel heard and understood for who you are

[@SouthFloridaWoman]

You two together is gold!!! 🪙 Thank you ladies for the collaboration. Can't wait for what the future holds.

[@kalahnn]

Hello from a 24 yo woman living in France. Thanks a lot for what you do. You are so inspiring

[@bookwormswriter1078]

10:43-14:27) Confidence-empowering and remind me to be authentic. I love it so much. Gives me faith We need to talk- Is it serious? Is everything OK? Selfish-50/50- depends on the situation. Self care OK because it's self respect. Not caring for others though and ONLY just you then not so much OK. We all matter. No- I'm fine with that. If something is more important than what I need then I'll give "RESPECT" and let it go.

[@jeanettesimpkins7660]

Love these ladies! Ya'll have helped me in every relationship in my life but mostly enlightened my relationship with myself!😇thank you so!xoxo

[@yes7855]

Relational, identity, and instrumental. Such good classifications! Thanks for presenting this interview to us, you two are a joy ⚡️⚡️💫

[@EvosAndMakeup]

I ADORE these two women!! Such a great duo!! I can’t get enough of them ♥️ I’m reading Evy’s book right now and it’s AWESOME!! I watch everything I can on these two women. I really look up to them, and find them so freaking inspiring ♥️

[@jecellefetzer8716]

Dude I've been working on saying no and it feels so good. When I feel like I want to do something, then I'm actually fully mentally present. I love using "Thank you for your patience".

[@jennywho604]

I love all your conversations together & I’ve learned so much. I rewatch them too as I need reminders. Thank you, ladies, for sharing your wisdom!!!

[@lcd8326]

ITS ABOUT ACCEPTING WHAT SOMEONE IS SAYING AS THEIR TRUTH!! SO GOOD!! 👏

[@Anastasia-ps1lv]

Greetings from Greece❤ really appreciate both of you and the work you are putting out there thank you🙏

[@daisybrown6141]

Two amazing women! Unstoppable! Yes please! Thank you ladies for your guidance. God bless you both 💖

[@leighn.8670]

This whole thing about not being able to say no directly is something I disagree with. If I know right off the bat the answer is no, I'm going to share that. If I go into "let me get back to you" that's a maybe, and it strings people along. What's wrong with just being clear? We shouldn't have to adjust our language just to avoid poking at someone's insecurities. If someone tells me no, I don't get offended... honestly I respect them more for being honest and direct. No is a complete sentence. I think what's important, is that we are authentic and speaking from our hearts with kindness. We can say no and be kind about it.

[@divinebeginnings3741]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Love this!

[@shrutirasaily231]

Agreed. Knowing in your mind that it is going to be a no but saying maybe seems to be misleading to me. I'd rather have a friend say no beforehand so I can arrange something else or just know that that person isn't available. It's much more relaxed than to wait and then receive a no. It's a different thing if the person actually has to think about it.

[@christinakoshak11]

Completely agree

[@yuliya2201]

always looking forward and love these ladies' conversations! so empowering

[@dianakr.9981]

I´m so much with you Ladies! You make a lot of times my day. Thx...from Germany & when I can´t sort it out in my motherlanguage I switch to english, helps me handle things better.

[@Natalina_World]

You both are incredible! Thanks a lot for this video!!❤️

[@jpn_119]

Absolutely love Evy, she's always got amazing advice, I have her book and its great. I have learned soo much from her! Thank you Evy and thank you Lisa for having her on the show so much! Would love to meet both of you someday.

[@jecellefetzer8716]

Words don't have to be harsh to land on someone. That is excellent.

[@kimberlyowens3279]

Evy ALWAYS brings it! I hang on every word

[@kendallhopkins1009]

Love this Unstoppable video . I think you can always get better with communication.

[@musicmoviesandmediaworldsnt126]

when you say No you are also setting a boundary with white gloves Standing up for your self by saying No that you wont tolerate something....can hurt someone's identity..... understood and explained very well... you are so kind and a genius. i am reading your books!!!!!

[@wizzymel]

SO thankful I found this channel. These discussions are life changing. Your duo is amazing, please make more !

[@btrixlestrange6432]

I constantly use "i'm sorry" and hate myself for it. I'm gonna stop doing it unless I'm really sorry about something.

[@SA_Barbie]

Evy you should come to SA and help us to have healthy conversations about racism and the injustices of our past and how these affect us

[@dfhioke2296]

I'm learning a lot from Evy. Thanks for this very interactive interview.

[@LadySevereGenerator]

Lisa & Evy! Thoroughly enjoying the dynamic between you two. So powerful and you both are bad ass!! Thank you so much for these jewels of wisdom!

[@Dynamic_heart]

If you say it's not in my space right now or you say I need to think about that. When do you confirm that the favor is inconvenient, so you can't do it. My suggestion is to say I want to help you, but I have another obligation. I think confirmation is necessary and assertive.

[@stephaniegentryart]

Love the concept of this channel and the things you talk about! Most of this really resonated with me. I would love to hear some broken down thoughts on why you would look for a new friend if they are always complaining about things. And what the balance is here then. Because there is room for healthy back and forth. Being there for each other comforting each other. All those things. But like that was and wasn’t covered. I ask. Because I’ve just been through this. On both sides of the coin. I had a friend let go of me. Because they thought I was always talking about the problem and not growing. Granted they didn’t say that. They passive aggressively said that in a very cold hearted way. In the same way. I had to let go of a friend. Whom was always complaining about her problems and never finding a solution. But it took a while. Because I wanted to give her the chance to figure out what she needs or what would help her. It is not my job to do that for her. It is my job as a friend to be a listener. Maybe offer some advice if it’s asked for or ask them what they need. So my question is how much of this is considered okay before it becomes not okay. To the point of looking for a new friend. And would you talk to them about it first ? Would you give them the chance to correct it before moving on? I’m terrified to post this here because it’s something vulnerable that I’ve been processing through. But I wanted to share it because it’s something I’m noticing more and more in my life. And others. And I think it’s valuable to break this down more. Because every situation is different much respect to you ladies! Thank you for what your doing !!!!

[@sagewise1823]

She's my all time fav podcast guest ever!

[@workitrosi]

The clip at the end made me chuckle! Well done and many thanks! 🙏

[@enhue]

I love those skits/short clips inserted in between the video. I was having a rough day and this video showed up. It's not by accident, but it's a coincident. Thank you ladies

[@alinelovespink]

You two are SUCH a powerful combination 😍 I love love love to listen to you! I'll watch this episode definitely more than once, there is so much to learn and I am excited to do so. Thank you for being here and please go on with UNSTOPPABLE 💗

[@athulyasurendran7639]

I'm so grateful for the work you do... I'm leaning so much from you two ❤️

[@louisedeutzebeling6748]

I love this!!! This should be taught in schools!!! I wish I had been taught this earlier!!

[@bykatherina113]

Powerful 😍 thanks for doing this Evy & Lisa!

[@guytonphotography]

You two are my heroes. You have inspired, motivated and reminded me of who I am and what I'm worth. God bless you both! Thank you so much for sharing your strength, knowledge and inspiration with the world.

[@jasminjam8743]

Evy is such an amazing person. Lisa is amazing as always.

[@sole_to_soul]

Thank you for this awesome interview, and for the notes in the description (great for review)!

[@ashlynn2704]

I can totally relate with evy im the same way with texting

[@helenemoody3869]

Thanks ladies awesome refresher course! Have a great week everyone

[@mew-tt7wj]

I just started getting into watching Lisa and Evy talk in their videos with such relevant and fascinating topics, I LOVE IT. It's currently a daily motivational boost for me. I feel inspired every time, thank you so much for being outstanding role models.

[@kalimistakidou9103]

I’m watching this video on my phone and immediately acknowledged how you two ladies emit such powerful energy. Such powerful women. Efharisto poli x

[@clairegarlick]

Really loved this episode! Clear and actionable info! Thanks ladies!

[@sorcha0036]

How to deal with people who influence others against you?

[@saranox7319]

This ismy biggest problem.

[@SydMountaineer]

Thanks for doing the word comparison - Everyone appreciates the fact that both of you have the confidence & intelligence to be accessible (to be 'vulnerable') with us so that we can learn from you. *I think we need a new word for "vulnerable" as many people use and view it as a negative character trait, when it can actually be a positive trait.* When we open ourselves up and put ourselves in a position where others might try to take advantage of it in a negative way like criticizing us or being abusive, we're also opening up the chance for growth & opportunity. So, purposely being vulnerable when your mind is healthy and for the good of everyone is completely different than being "in need of special care/ protection" like the dictionary says, as the risk of being hurt depends on how emotionally healthy someone is.

[@SA_Barbie]

Eva has this no nonsense taking girl look...I love her look

[@AiriAnew]

Love the two of you. So many useful information. Thank you 🙏

[@pennyruth4447]

It is my no. one problem with most everyone. It has pushed many people away from me. So much so that it devastated me because I never saw myself as a hurtful person. So I am fully aware I have a problem but I have to say trauma in my life that was not given much compassion but instead I give compassion but then regret it because I want it so bad. So bitterness has grown instead of sweetness or politeness or kindness and I really desire to switch this bitterness so your show is great. Impossible that word has put me into a tizzy as if I am impossible. I am seriously considering the course bulletproof.

[@celticqueen1970]

It is extremely difficult to find another woman like this!! They are so very blessed to have found one another! I would get along with them so well! I am so tired of being alone when it comes to studying n understanding human communication n human behavior n truly wanting n caring to always come from love n understanding n kindness!! To want a positive rapport with each individual I care about! So many ppl are bitter miserable n jealous n r just about blame fault shoving their opinions down your throat etc.. I do not want to be around anybody like that!!

[@liztaylor85139]

The spoken word has cause people to die and wars to start. They've made poeple fall in love, make promises and inspire, motivate people. They've also hurt people beyond return and changed a childs life forever. For me communication is a foundation in life and can determine your sucess or failure in all aspects.

[@blisswkc3344]

Thank y'all so much dearest 🌹 Y'all such an inspiration 🥰 Appreciate y'all from the bottom of my heart 💖 Be Blissful Eternally 🙏👼🌈

[@rebeccacharles5758]

I pray for the day that I can pay to attend a retreat that Evy and Lisa will teach. I also need Evy to do a retreat on her own teaching facilitating on her own. These two things I will happily pay for.

[@tweetiepie1542]

Absolutely brilliant! Thank you ladies for all of us women and men out their who just need to break it down and build it back up softly and correctly. Xxxxx

[@ginahansen8428]

Thank you for the RAPPORT part of this training. I didn't think about the importance of laying out a starting point with the other person, before starting a conversation. Love the interaction between both of you, thank you!😜👢

[@mariehelene-sarda]

I love you 💕, what you share here is really reassuring for me because these last years I identified that with my partner we had communication troubles but he didn't recognize that and said that everything was fine. And little by little it strengthened so I became more and more mute when I was asked for justifications or I received negative comments supposed to be humour... My warnings and demands to find a solution, to take time to understand each other didn't succeed then I put all this to an end because it was too suffering and diminishing. I can say that I lost myself and confidence during that time and felt less and less valuable. I felt that something was wrong but had no one to talk with because of the pandemic situation. I would like to have friends like you to talk to from time to time, love you ❤ Again, thank you deeply, thanks to you I don't feel crazy anymore !! And I see that this can be solved with, of course, the participation of both sides.

[@geetalife3698]

God bless you both since I am watching you guys videos. I have different strength because I was really sad.People always bullied me and treated me bad.Thanks a lot

[@BelleOfAmherst]

@Women Of Impact A-MAZING! SO disappointed I missed livestream, but VERY grateful to have LIVE to watch, complete with all comments. @Lisa Bilyeu & @Evy Poumpouras are THE BEST together! BRILLIANT CHEMISTRY!THANKS to both for your TIME & WISDOM! Seeking as MUCH as I can get my mind wrapped round. Facing VERY DIFFICULT life challenges at moment. Your livestreams ALWAYS boost my self-confidence. MANY THANKS again, & all the best to you both. Peace. ✌🏼😇#GRATITUDE 🙏🏼⚖️🙌🏼💖👏🏼 p.s. iPhone CLEARLY needs a “camo”HEART! 💚🤎🖤🤍💛

[@verynice126]

I love you two together. Girl power!

[@cristinarusso5476]

Confidence is a challenging and empowering word for me. The more confident I became the less connected I felt with most people around me but being confident allowed me to feel safer, set boundaries, stay focused and make progress.

[@amandavil]

Yess the less connected I felt, I've been experiencing that and felt maybe selfish

[@cristinarusso5476]

@@amandavil We need to embrace our inner power without feeling guilty for it.The more empowered we become the more impactful we can be. 💫💖💫 Sending love!