Session 9 | Katie | In Therapy with Alex Howard

[@jaynetelferdawson]

If only there were more therapists like you Alex. Love the work you do.

[@crissieroserose]

and ,, you are very handsome,

[@rachelclairethornton868]

Katie I’m so happy that things are going well for you. Soak up the amazing journey and how hard you have worked to were you are today!! You can see in your face that things are going well!! Keep going

[@colleenbarham6567]

Very Very Inspiring...... The Courage To Take The Step. All the best Katie on your healing journey.

[@andreabuntpercy]

There was so much connection for me in this episode. I moved away from my husband of 20+ years, 11 years ago. We met up once a week or so during that time.... mostly amicably, but sometimes just barely. During covid he developed some heavy-duty circulatory issues and I knew he needed my help so I moved back in. Fortunately I'd gone through some counselling and done my own research to improve myself during our time apart..... to stop being a total empath, to stop accepting the scapegoat position, to love myself enough to believe in myself and who I was in the world.... to assert my own needs, set boundaries...... pretty comprehensive, but I had some great help in my new community over the past four years. His health issues have made him a somewhat softer person so we were both starting at a new place. He actually needs a stronger person now, and bingo, that's me. It's not always a bed of roses. When I assert myself with him, it can be painful to wait a few days for him to absorb what I'm saying. But I've learned the self-talk that says I'm entitled to say my truth in relationship, and I sense he's come around to respecting that new part of me! Who knew? I so appreciate the affirmations for my situation that you offered here, Alex. I take affirmations wherever I can find them these days :) but I've grown to really respect everything you bring. I've learned so much from you over time. Thanks a million! I continue to tune in.

[@oliverh8446]

Thanks so much for being so open and for your kind words, Andrea. Glad you find our content useful! Lots more of Katie’s story to come.

[@pammasters9994]

You look better Katie, well done. Thanks Alex very helpful.

[@kateduggleby6161]

Wow, so thrilled for Katie, you can see in her eyes how well she’s doing, lovely to see....❤️ Great tip at the end too.....😊

[@marydesmond2102]

Katie's age is significant. ? Menopausal putting added stress on everything. ?Oestrogen lack but therapy is really helping her to sort out real issues and get her to self - care and better manage challenges. Excellent videos. Thank u.

[@mmmmlllljohn]

Kudos to Katie’s mom and also to her husband for the support she so needed. ❤️🇨🇦

[@lisadennys6045]

Well done, Katie! So great to hear and see the progress and also Alex’s reminders to stick with the self care habits / practices and ongoing therapy to consolidate it all.

[@elizaday6654]

Spot on. Well done Katie thank you for sharing what has happened to you and the paths/progress you are making. Alex i so wish both my husband and I had access to someone like you, so broken and lost have we become. You know your ‘stuff’ . You listen and understand and enable people to better manage themselves, life and relationships.

[@megbeet]

I would suggest you have a look at couples therapists in your area. If you're both on board to start to heal anything in your relationship, there will be a therapist that's a good fit for you. Good luck with it all. x

[@elizaday6654]

Thank you. Your reply is most appreciated. I will.

[@silverygrey465]

Very helpful tips Alex. Thanks very much.

[@Bibian1973]

Amazing lady Kate. Congratulations 👏🏾

[@Godisfirst21]

Katie is everything for me. I feel that Alex...being a man is missing a key element...perimenopause and menopause.

[@mmmmlllljohn]

How do you think Katie would receive a comment from a man - her therapist - that maybe her emotional state is partially due to hormones? That is a very slippery slope … Katie knows her body more than he and she is the one who has to manage that with her GP. It is not his purview! The work he has helped her with has been so beneficial and you make this comment?!

[@kileighwilliams1589]

No she definitely has trauma bless her. She’s doing amazing and the right thing by working through it with Alex ❤ well done x

[@Godisfirst21]

Simon was supportive because he wanted to move back in. Oye.

[@crissieroserose]

Men need to understand more what women go through ,

[@Godisfirst21]

@crissieroserose ...instead of using what we go through against us.

[@sarahholland2600]

Exactly. He's been in his parents spare room prior to this, witholding financial support & encouraging the kids in the "Mom's crazy" narrative when she asks them to pick up their mess. And gaslighted her for 20 years when she tried to put in discipline & boundaries etc .